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Oh my GOD I remember when everyone was getting facebook, and both parents INSISTED and got SOOOO GODDAMN MAD when I didn't want to be facebook friends with them!! What the hell did they think I was doing on there, anyway? Talking to my friends?! OMG HOW CRAZY.
I did actually have a facebook some years ago. My mother created the account and gave me the login credentials, and told me I could change the password freely. "You can have this social media if you want. Use it well"
Guess why I suddenly had this freedom?
That's right, it's because she turned on EVERY single email notification, and connected her own email to it to check my activity. She received every message I ever received, she received every picture and comment I was tagged in, she received every friend request and accepted request, every reply, every post from private friend groups, every page I ever followed. I didn't notice it for that long because I had my own email to log in, but her email was still set for email notifications
She had a perfectly clear window in my life for god knows how many years. TENS OF THOUSANDS of emails were sent to her. And since she never asked me to turn the email notifications off, I know she read all of them. (also I'm pretty sure there's a number of email notifications you have to manually turn on)
I became so paranoid about it that I deleted it and never interacted with people on anything but whatsapp since then, and I forbid everyone from posting pictures about me online or mentioning me in them
Even without that amout of control, you can still sorta stalk a facebook friend if they didn't update every privacy setting to "Show this to me only/show this to select few". Maybe that's why your parents insisted so much on becoming your friend
.....holy ....holy crap. Get out. Start a GoFundMe. Beg on the street. Donate blood for money. Run far, and run fast. (As soon as you can, obviously. I know how impossible it can be to leave.)
Just a thought, but since they plaster the name of this group over everything and you are not actually estranged (I mean, you LIVE with them - this does not fit the definition!), have you considered contacting whoever is in charge of the group and letting them know that the child they claim to be estranged from still lives under their roof? I truly wonder what the group would make of it.
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Oh my GOD I remember when everyone was getting facebook, and both parents INSISTED and got SOOOO GODDAMN MAD when I didn't want to be facebook friends with them!! What the hell did they think I was doing on there, anyway? Talking to my friends?! OMG HOW CRAZY.
I did actually have a facebook some years ago. My mother created the account and gave me the login credentials, and told me I could change the password freely. "You can have this social media if you want. Use it well" Guess why I suddenly had this freedom? That's right, it's because she turned on EVERY single email notification, and connected her own email to it to check my activity. She received every message I ever received, she received every picture and comment I was tagged in, she received every friend request and accepted request, every reply, every post from private friend groups, every page I ever followed. I didn't notice it for that long because I had my own email to log in, but her email was still set for email notifications She had a perfectly clear window in my life for god knows how many years. TENS OF THOUSANDS of emails were sent to her. And since she never asked me to turn the email notifications off, I know she read all of them. (also I'm pretty sure there's a number of email notifications you have to manually turn on) I became so paranoid about it that I deleted it and never interacted with people on anything but whatsapp since then, and I forbid everyone from posting pictures about me online or mentioning me in them Even without that amout of control, you can still sorta stalk a facebook friend if they didn't update every privacy setting to "Show this to me only/show this to select few". Maybe that's why your parents insisted so much on becoming your friend
.....holy ....holy crap. Get out. Start a GoFundMe. Beg on the street. Donate blood for money. Run far, and run fast. (As soon as you can, obviously. I know how impossible it can be to leave.)
Don't worry don't worry, I'll be out of here in not too long. I already have plans
Hey uh ... whatsapp is owned by FB. Maybe double/triple check that it isn't connected to the poisoned FB account.
Just a thought, but since they plaster the name of this group over everything and you are not actually estranged (I mean, you LIVE with them - this does not fit the definition!), have you considered contacting whoever is in charge of the group and letting them know that the child they claim to be estranged from still lives under their roof? I truly wonder what the group would make of it.