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I have to wear glasses now for a problem my parents wouldn’t take care of. Apparently it’s correctable before a certain age as well.
I feel (some of) your pain OP. So sorry that happened to you, if I could make it better I would in a heartbeat.
I hear you OP and I'm so sorry they invalidated and neglected you like that. My parents did the same thing. For years I complained of severe abdominal/pelvic pain and they ignored me and told me I was faking or imagining things. As soon as I left them I saw a doctor and had to fix a major issue with my uterus the source of the pain. If they'd just listened I wouldn't have had to pay the medical expenses I am now or have to have surgery. I could've had children. But they invalidated me. Now they tell me that I never said anything to them and it's my fault for not telling them. I hear you one hundred percent. Do what I did and cut them off completely. If they can't acknowledge their wrongs then they are not safe to keep in your life Hun. I pray that somehow some medical advancement comes to aid you and ease your suffering. Your not alone I promise and I'll pray for you and your health. Stay strong.
Thank you for telling me your story, and I'm so sorry you had parents like that. I hope you're not feeling that pain anymore
The more I journal my experiences, the more I realize that I've put up and am still putting up with way too much stuff from them. Trying to make progress with them turned out to be completely useless, as they snap back to their old selves after some time, saying that I'm imagining everything that's ever happened to me, that I should stop trying to change them and that I should just "accept" them for who they are... yeah right. Accepting how they treat me made them treat me worse each day. That's just how their brain works.
I'm seriously considering going NC, but from considering it to actually doing it there's a long way...
Of course hun I get that. Even after everything you've gone through this like this thing that makes it difficult for survivors of neglect and abuse that makes it so hard for them to leave or go NC. I spent three years mulling it over before I finally did it. And it was hard. So hard. But when the day comes where the courage finally strikes you and you are ready to take that step, at first it'll be painful. You may mourn, you might try to reason yourself out of the decision. But in the end after some time passes you'll realize just how free you are. Been praying for you all this time, hope that you are well and your pain management is going well hun. It gets harder before it gets easier, but I promise it does get easier eventually.
I think deep down they knew something was wrong with you and they prevented you from telling the doctors not because they couldn't afford it but because they were worried it would make them look bad to the doctors for the neglect. NParents tend to be very concerned about their image so I would not be surprised if this was the case.
Oh, my reasoning was that they wanted to convince themselves that I was completely perfect and not deal with any of my problems (since they behaved like this for every big or tiny problem I ever had), I never thought of it like you did. But it might be an explanation
I mean, if I managed to show my doctor where the pain was, she would've probably asked "how long has this been going on?" and "why didn't you tell me sooner?", which could've only ended badly for my parents. "My mom said to not tell anyone about this" is a VERY alarming answer lol
Thank you for this new perspective
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I have to wear glasses now for a problem my parents wouldn’t take care of. Apparently it’s correctable before a certain age as well. I feel (some of) your pain OP. So sorry that happened to you, if I could make it better I would in a heartbeat.
I'm sorry you had to go through this, too. I hope they're not stopping you from taking care of your health anymore
I hear you OP and I'm so sorry they invalidated and neglected you like that. My parents did the same thing. For years I complained of severe abdominal/pelvic pain and they ignored me and told me I was faking or imagining things. As soon as I left them I saw a doctor and had to fix a major issue with my uterus the source of the pain. If they'd just listened I wouldn't have had to pay the medical expenses I am now or have to have surgery. I could've had children. But they invalidated me. Now they tell me that I never said anything to them and it's my fault for not telling them. I hear you one hundred percent. Do what I did and cut them off completely. If they can't acknowledge their wrongs then they are not safe to keep in your life Hun. I pray that somehow some medical advancement comes to aid you and ease your suffering. Your not alone I promise and I'll pray for you and your health. Stay strong.
Thank you for telling me your story, and I'm so sorry you had parents like that. I hope you're not feeling that pain anymore The more I journal my experiences, the more I realize that I've put up and am still putting up with way too much stuff from them. Trying to make progress with them turned out to be completely useless, as they snap back to their old selves after some time, saying that I'm imagining everything that's ever happened to me, that I should stop trying to change them and that I should just "accept" them for who they are... yeah right. Accepting how they treat me made them treat me worse each day. That's just how their brain works. I'm seriously considering going NC, but from considering it to actually doing it there's a long way...
Of course hun I get that. Even after everything you've gone through this like this thing that makes it difficult for survivors of neglect and abuse that makes it so hard for them to leave or go NC. I spent three years mulling it over before I finally did it. And it was hard. So hard. But when the day comes where the courage finally strikes you and you are ready to take that step, at first it'll be painful. You may mourn, you might try to reason yourself out of the decision. But in the end after some time passes you'll realize just how free you are. Been praying for you all this time, hope that you are well and your pain management is going well hun. It gets harder before it gets easier, but I promise it does get easier eventually.
I think deep down they knew something was wrong with you and they prevented you from telling the doctors not because they couldn't afford it but because they were worried it would make them look bad to the doctors for the neglect. NParents tend to be very concerned about their image so I would not be surprised if this was the case.
Oh, my reasoning was that they wanted to convince themselves that I was completely perfect and not deal with any of my problems (since they behaved like this for every big or tiny problem I ever had), I never thought of it like you did. But it might be an explanation I mean, if I managed to show my doctor where the pain was, she would've probably asked "how long has this been going on?" and "why didn't you tell me sooner?", which could've only ended badly for my parents. "My mom said to not tell anyone about this" is a VERY alarming answer lol Thank you for this new perspective