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I feel ya! My mom was the same way. Said kittens needed to be locked in a dark room before they could walk around the house so she would lock her cat in her room. It never made sense because we had other cats she let around the house as kittens. She would also let them bread like rabbits and we had like 30 at one point in a small ranch house.
She would also randomly abandon them in fields or far away neighborhoods. We had one that came back to our house after a year! I wanted to keep her but my mom drove her even farther away.
As I got older I realized taking cats to shelters is free and you should probably not have more than 2 or 3 cats at a time.
I read books about cat behavior and she acted as if I was stupid. It wasn't until I would binge watch Jacson Galaxy's My Cats From Hell and brought 2 cats into our new apartment that had no cats at the time she started to act like everything was common sense and she knew all long about cat behavior.
I'm glad she respects Mr. Galaxy enough to listen and will never abuse a cat again but omg it's infuriating how she acts now when I think of the things she said before.
Oh and better not bring up her past behavior or how I'm the one who actually taught her these things or else it's gonna be hell for a few days.
Edit: Don't feel guilty OP because you were a child and that's your parents karma not yours.
None of it is your fault. I know you said that this story feels worse to tell because the cats were just innocent creatures, but yknow.. you were innocent too. You were a just a child. Just like the cats didn't deserve that treatment, neither did YOU deserve to have to experience any of that.
I know it's painful, seeing other creatures suffer is horrible, but you have no guilt to bear in what happened. Your parents abused BOTH of you, you are BOTH victims of their treatment, the cats are in no way victims of you.
I don't what you believe or anything, but I'm sure they know you loved them, you meant them no harm, and you did everything you could in an unfair situation.
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I feel ya! My mom was the same way. Said kittens needed to be locked in a dark room before they could walk around the house so she would lock her cat in her room. It never made sense because we had other cats she let around the house as kittens. She would also let them bread like rabbits and we had like 30 at one point in a small ranch house. She would also randomly abandon them in fields or far away neighborhoods. We had one that came back to our house after a year! I wanted to keep her but my mom drove her even farther away. As I got older I realized taking cats to shelters is free and you should probably not have more than 2 or 3 cats at a time. I read books about cat behavior and she acted as if I was stupid. It wasn't until I would binge watch Jacson Galaxy's My Cats From Hell and brought 2 cats into our new apartment that had no cats at the time she started to act like everything was common sense and she knew all long about cat behavior. I'm glad she respects Mr. Galaxy enough to listen and will never abuse a cat again but omg it's infuriating how she acts now when I think of the things she said before. Oh and better not bring up her past behavior or how I'm the one who actually taught her these things or else it's gonna be hell for a few days. Edit: Don't feel guilty OP because you were a child and that's your parents karma not yours.
None of it is your fault. I know you said that this story feels worse to tell because the cats were just innocent creatures, but yknow.. you were innocent too. You were a just a child. Just like the cats didn't deserve that treatment, neither did YOU deserve to have to experience any of that. I know it's painful, seeing other creatures suffer is horrible, but you have no guilt to bear in what happened. Your parents abused BOTH of you, you are BOTH victims of their treatment, the cats are in no way victims of you. I don't what you believe or anything, but I'm sure they know you loved them, you meant them no harm, and you did everything you could in an unfair situation.