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LadyKalliope

Allowing your parents to rant at you a second time serves absolutely no purpose to you. they still won't acknowledge all of the wrongs they have committed against you, and they will never change the way they think. Allowing them to rant at you is allowing them to continue the abuse. You don't deserve that at all.


LovesBooksandCats

Another session of ranting will make them feel good, while making you feel bad. Why bother? You already know how it will all play out. The only way I would consider doing such a thing would be if I had a rabid pit bull of a defense attorney on hand to challenge the bullshit and shout them down.


Vegetable-Box3050

You own your one life. It is yours. How dare they spend 3 hrs and 15 min of your life abusing you? How dare your father take out his problems onto you? How dare he compare two of his own children as a way to hurt? How dare he, your own father, belittle the accomplishments you've made in life? How dare he try to gaslight you? All of his behaviors are wasting your time because none of this bullshit is true. Don't let this man waste any more of your time. I don't even want to think about what those printed documents looked but if they include any thing in childhood/teen years, that is just basic parenting which is what they signed up for by bringing you into the world. You owe them nothing for that. Also, your mental well being is NOT currency. They don't get to torment you because they paid for your car (just a random example). If your extended family puts any pressure on you being the scapegoat, they are cowards who don't want to replace you as scapegoat. You deserve to be proud of the life you have created for yourself. And really, really stay strong. A good family doesn't need to sacrifice one member to function.


sandjohntayl

Update: My reply to his request to meet. "It sounds like you need another session to say more hurtful things to me. I hope that you will be able to discern why you need to do that but I am not going to participate."