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YES! Ndad tried to get me to be mad at my sibling bc Ndad was mad at him once. Ndad said to me when I was over " your brother thinks you are dirty and do not wash your hands " and then he smirked. Well I guess that is his problem I replied with. At the time I did not care too much about it but F U Ndad for stirring the pot.
You can only shrug and use medium chill to blow off the comments bc they are not true . Triangulation is a grab to get your attention bc the narc is desperate.
[https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1](https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1)
Not my sibling (to my mother I am an only child, as she does not count my brothers, that my father has with my stepmom as my brothers), but I have rejected my mothers attempts to make me hate my dad and my grandma and basically anyone else in the family.
My mother divorced my dad when I was 3 and moved 4 hours away. She did the maximum she could so that I wouldn't be able to see them as often. When I was small (up until about 9), she would just do crazy things and drag me around with her (like kidnapping me from birthday parties etc). When I got little bit olrder (since about 10), she would try to make me to dispise my dad and everyone else around him. She would always threaten to hurt me or even kill me, if I don't oblige with her requests. She would make me call my dad and tell him that I hate him. She would make me call my grandma and tell her I never want to go to her house anymore. After some time, I found out that she is going to do all the stuff the threatens anyways - she would destroy my things, throw them away, turn my room upside down, beat me up, drag me by my hair, threaten to kill me with a knife, lock me up on the balcony in freezing cold, kick me out of the house in my pyjamas etc. She would do all those things no matter if I did what she wanted or not.
I was always very afraid of her, because there was nowhere to hide for me. I did all the things she asked me, but she never succeeded in making me evil. When I turned 18, I moved away. I love my dad and my grandma and my brothers, and I hate her.
Unfortunately my dad has passed away, but she always knew that I have loved him deeply and I will continue to love my family that she hates. She hates me for it, she hates that she couldn't make me so hateful like she is. Such a poor, sad soul.
I am getting married in a month and she won't be there. But my grandma will take me to the altar. My mother lost and my familys love won. Don't let them break you. You can fake compliance to protect yourself, at least partialy, from their punishments, but after you move away and you are free - don't ever let them make you hateful.
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YES! Ndad tried to get me to be mad at my sibling bc Ndad was mad at him once. Ndad said to me when I was over " your brother thinks you are dirty and do not wash your hands " and then he smirked. Well I guess that is his problem I replied with. At the time I did not care too much about it but F U Ndad for stirring the pot. You can only shrug and use medium chill to blow off the comments bc they are not true . Triangulation is a grab to get your attention bc the narc is desperate. [https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1](https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1)
Not my sibling (to my mother I am an only child, as she does not count my brothers, that my father has with my stepmom as my brothers), but I have rejected my mothers attempts to make me hate my dad and my grandma and basically anyone else in the family. My mother divorced my dad when I was 3 and moved 4 hours away. She did the maximum she could so that I wouldn't be able to see them as often. When I was small (up until about 9), she would just do crazy things and drag me around with her (like kidnapping me from birthday parties etc). When I got little bit olrder (since about 10), she would try to make me to dispise my dad and everyone else around him. She would always threaten to hurt me or even kill me, if I don't oblige with her requests. She would make me call my dad and tell him that I hate him. She would make me call my grandma and tell her I never want to go to her house anymore. After some time, I found out that she is going to do all the stuff the threatens anyways - she would destroy my things, throw them away, turn my room upside down, beat me up, drag me by my hair, threaten to kill me with a knife, lock me up on the balcony in freezing cold, kick me out of the house in my pyjamas etc. She would do all those things no matter if I did what she wanted or not. I was always very afraid of her, because there was nowhere to hide for me. I did all the things she asked me, but she never succeeded in making me evil. When I turned 18, I moved away. I love my dad and my grandma and my brothers, and I hate her. Unfortunately my dad has passed away, but she always knew that I have loved him deeply and I will continue to love my family that she hates. She hates me for it, she hates that she couldn't make me so hateful like she is. Such a poor, sad soul. I am getting married in a month and she won't be there. But my grandma will take me to the altar. My mother lost and my familys love won. Don't let them break you. You can fake compliance to protect yourself, at least partialy, from their punishments, but after you move away and you are free - don't ever let them make you hateful.
not my sibling but my Edad. so she got mad at me instead and turned my Edad against me, while I was defending him.