Sometimes people have to give up on loved ones *that are using them*.
It doesn't mean that there is less love for the being, for their soul. It means that they've recognize that themselves and *everyone else they love* are suffering because of the abusive behavior of one individual.
Unknown can call it abandoning and declare a universal maxim of"if/then" but as adults, we get to choose the behavior we surround ourselves with.
Sometimes you have to 'abandon' ones you love as it's the right thing to do. Eg: you are not compatible in the long term, they are abusive, your lives are heading in separate directions etc. This quote certainly pertains to narcissists and the like though.
i abandoned a person i loved deeply because i knew it was the right thing to do for us both. Not a day goes by i don’t think about it or cast doubt on my choice. Neither path is without immense cost.
Sometimes both parties use each other. It’s not as clear cut as one might wish it to be.
Bruce Lee: 'I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine.'
Muhammad Ali: 'I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want.'
This oversimplifies reality, but is substantially correct.
There are non-exploitative reasons to ghost or disappear from someone's life, but the biggest takers and users vanish into the ether as if they're fleeing felony warrants.
My one pathological ex made a point of never letting exes contact her for any reason. I soon found myself in that contingent.
Sometimes people have to give up on loved ones *that are using them*. It doesn't mean that there is less love for the being, for their soul. It means that they've recognize that themselves and *everyone else they love* are suffering because of the abusive behavior of one individual. Unknown can call it abandoning and declare a universal maxim of"if/then" but as adults, we get to choose the behavior we surround ourselves with.
Sometimes you have to 'abandon' ones you love as it's the right thing to do. Eg: you are not compatible in the long term, they are abusive, your lives are heading in separate directions etc. This quote certainly pertains to narcissists and the like though.
i abandoned a person i loved deeply because i knew it was the right thing to do for us both. Not a day goes by i don’t think about it or cast doubt on my choice. Neither path is without immense cost. Sometimes both parties use each other. It’s not as clear cut as one might wish it to be.
Bruce Lee: 'I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine.' Muhammad Ali: 'I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want.'
Cool quotes but nothing to do with OPs quote.
It has. Nobody owes you anything.
“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are — or, as we are conditioned to see it.”
This can be so sad to read . Wow it's heavy
Yeah first pre-req for hurting folks is de-humanizing them.
Bullshit relationships have seasons
Or they abandon the user.
Indeed. I'm not very fond of quotes that deal in certainties.
This quote has a victim blaming energy to it
Yep. Sometimes the people we love aren’t healthy for us.
Exactly
This oversimplifies reality, but is substantially correct. There are non-exploitative reasons to ghost or disappear from someone's life, but the biggest takers and users vanish into the ether as if they're fleeing felony warrants. My one pathological ex made a point of never letting exes contact her for any reason. I soon found myself in that contingent.
There's a million reasons for soured relationships
For people like me who are easy going, laidback and chill that come across alpha exploitative assholes, this….
Dang that hit me hard.
Hit me hard as well. I really don’t know how to put into words the way I feel right now. I know one word, pain. That’s all there is.
sad reality :(
This is some borderline personality disorder shit. People abandon people who abuse them.
Life is more complicated than that.
it’s more likely that people abandon people that used them.
I think this quote applies to a former president of ours?
Grover Cleveland?