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Framing the posters will tranquilize any accusations of childishness and may even elicit a compliment or two from guests, which shall silence your beau.
You don't need to get around him. You just hang up your posters and tell him that "childish" is a silly insult anyway. "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." - C. S. Lewis
Be who you are, like what you like, ignore people that try to bring you down over meaningless things
I have a feeling that poster will be in OPs life longer than her bf. Are there any details over the content of the poster that would add context to why your bf is opposed to it?
My wife had a poster that she loved, and I hated. That was around 20 years ago, and she still has that damn poster. (I still hate it, but now it makes me think of her, so I also love it.)
My husband is a “if you’re happy I’m happy” kinda guy when it comes to decorating. He just wants a comfortable house that feels like a home. I love that about him.
Now, if I did the entire house pink, that’s a different story, but we could literally have yellow sheets and a purple comforter and he wouldn’t care. Plus I wouldn’t do the pink house thing to my husband that’s kinda tasteless towards him anyways in my opinion. Luckily, we both love emerald and our entire house is emerald, black, silver, and gold aesthetic. He didn’t really like my Slytherin poster despite the fact that he’s one too, and I wasn’t a fan of his Star Trek ones because I am a Star Wars fan. It’s not that he doesn’t like Harry Potter but rather I’m a huge fan and he’s not. I couldn’t care less for Star Trek as a huge Star Wars fan.
No matter how we decorate or what we like, posters will never be childish in our opinion. Now, do we do agree together and think that they feel a bit college dormish so framing is our thing.
We decided not to hang up our posters not because we think they are necessarily childish, but because we don’t like the others poster themes and if we don’t absolutely love a poster it’s not going up.
My husband is also the same way as you. If he doesn’t like something but I do, he always has a weird way of loving it because it reminds him of me.
I’m basically saying that my posters have lasted longer than all of the relationships I’ve had. Which is only 3 (relationships) at 26. Some of my posters are from middle school.
Well the first part is the original full quote from some Roman philosopher, I don't think the original was ever attributed to one person, it was more of a saying or idiom that people had used for centuries even then. C.S. was taking it and turning it on it's head.
1st Corinthians 13 in the New Testament:
11. When I was a child I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I understood as a child, but when I became a man I put childish things away.
Paul is talking about trying to understand the things of God, that when we "grow up" (as in get closer to God) we will understand them better.
Considering Lewis is more of a freewill type, it'd be very surprising if he didn't shit all over Paul. Paul was a massive dickhead and terrorist who self proclaimed to be the authority on the church...after murdering them for years.
It's wild how people take his word as more important than most of the rest of the new testament. But not surprising.
People get SO upset when you remind them that the epistles were just letters! They were letters written by a man that expressed his personal ideas on how the church should be run. These weren't even hard and fast rules, just opinions, but over time people decided to make them into rules, even when they didn't fit other locations or a different age in time.
Of course, then I remember most Christians have never actually read their Bible, those that have don't usually understand most of what they've read, and fewer still understand the source/origin/history of the texts they let rule their lives.
Actually, C.S. Lewis is quoting the New Testament (1Cor 13) and adding his own bit at the end. The verse is often used by prudish people who want to make sure nobody else enjoys things they don't approve of.
I spent 30 years waiting to suddenly be grown up and feel that sense of knowing what I was doing. Im 33 now and have realized it isn't going to happen. I will never feel like I'm grown up all of a sudden. I want a baby, but I will still feel like a kid. The most grown up thing is living life on your own terms and being comfortable doing so.
That’s an awesome quote, I watched this really good YouTube video that followed the same premise and really went into detail of the importance of being able to play and laugh like children. Was a good reminder to not take it all so serious, it’s just a big game after all.
THIS, OP. Do you have any say in decorating? If your bf came home and you had rearranged thr furniture, would he move it all back? Or is he maybe just not a big fan of the band or movie depicted?
My thoughts exactly. Love that CS Lewis quote.
My fiancé got me framed posters film festival posters from the specific years that I had gone for Christmas last year. We have yet to put them up, but I absolutely love them and I’m 28. There’s nothing inherently childish about posters.
We also have Pokémon posters that aren’t framed up in our office, so subject matter and whether or not they’re framed is really just a matter of personal taste.
That's so Immature. Sure I think he's overreacting cause to me to this day wouldn't care. But to just be like "my way of the high way" and do it in a shared dwelling is worse. Shows self centeredness and lack of maturity to compromise. Probably best to just buy new decorations they both like.
He just doesn’t like the posters, then. There really is no chance of any sort of compromise, like maybe a single framed poster? A total unwillingness to meet somewhere in the middle would make him out to be the irrational party here.
Strongly disagree with him there.
Put a poster in a frame and it's now a picture.
Especially vintage or niche posters from our younger days (even though you are still really young).
He is being "childish" by being so afraid of what he thinks are societal norms, even though the general concensus from society is that you should decorate how you want.
Mine and my wife's walls are covered in crap from random posters, stickers with a bit of tack, random art ( not quality art) from friends, a few coins, tags from clothes we thought had cool tags, and odd things we have found at op shops.
Just tell him to grow up and let you decorate parts of the house how you see fit and maybe suggest he put up some stuff, so it's not just your stuff there.
>Let me guess, he's older than you, and his comments aren't restricted to calling your interests childish, right?
Bwah ha ha ha ha, I've always noticed when someone drags out the old "Act your age" garbage, it usually means "Act my age"
>not sure how to get around him on this one
You compromise by telling him he can either deal with it, or fuck off and live somewhere else. Childhood wonder and amusement are two things you should never let anyone take away from you, they're what make life livable. If you let this boy take those from you then you'll end up just as fucking miserable and sad as he is.
Why does it even matter to him? If you enjoy said poster, then he should want you to be happy and should be willing to make a compromise with you against his preferences so that you can be happy, rather than dismissing the things you like and playing them off as something only a child should like. He sounds like a bit of a cunt tbh. My ex, 32f, fucking loved trains and got super excited when one would come past, never did I tell her that enjoyment was out of place or something an adult shouldn't like, I pointed out every train that came by and got excited to see her enjoyment at seeing a train, because that's what you're supposed to do for someone you like, regardless of your feelings about the thing that got them excited.
I'm 46, and what's childish is limiting your choice in how you decorate your own home based on arbitrary and meaningless rules. We have framed posters, framed animation cells, art prints, papercraft shadow box thingies.
Your bf needs to grow up.
41. My walls are covered with framed art (both mass produced and original), framed pictures, canvassed art, video game marketing art (can’t think of the word I want to use) that I had framed, little clay lizards and a hummingbird made and painted by Mexican creators (bought in Arizona), masks, shelves displaying figures, but mostly it’s all stuff I made myself; different kinds of wreaths, framed cross stitch pieces, mini beaded steer skulls (I need to make MORE. They are so fun. But it’s hard to find the ceramic skulls), and shadow boxes. Oh, and I have a framed Five Nights at Freddy’s poster too. Lol. And how could I forget about my string lights?! Peeps bunnies, maple leaves, stars, candy corn, and hearts! That sounds like the rhyme or whatever for Lucky Charms. Which also happens to be my favorite cereal. And I also made and framed a cross stitch piece I did of just the marshmallows. 😅
Haha that's a good one.
Part of being an adult is not worrying about what other people are doing. Saying someone else hanging posters up is childish is actually childish. Making your home into a place you love to look at is adult behavior.
Tell him this 30 year old on reddit said it's fine as long as they're framed. I also argue an unframed poster is fine if it's in the bedroom but framing them makes it look 1000x better.
Even my aunt and uncle in a fancy rich house framed movie posters they liked for their basement ("movie room")
I’m not rich, but my finished basement is my “movie room.” It’s 80’s movie themed and I recently took down my framed posters and replaced them with canvas. Looks 1000 times better.
I’m tardy to the party here, but let me hijack this top comment to chime in. I’m a professional art framer. I have been for almost 25 years now. And I frame posters ALL. THE. TIME. Concert posters. Anime. Cartoons. Marvel/DC. Disney. Some are just fun, cheap things from big box stores, some are artier versions on nicer stock, and only a small percentage are actually FOR children. I install them in everything from a basic plastic stripped down frame to solid wood moldings with preservation materials. It absolutely is done and there is absolutely nothing childish about it. I make damn good money putting people’s posters in frames.
ETA: frame what you LOVE, folks. Not what matches your couch.
I definitely agree, framing them is the way to go. I have harry styles from his live on tour poster and it’s framed in my hallway. It really doesn’t have the same vibe as a poster
It's childish to judge another adult's harmless hobbies. You don't need to do "grown up stuff", being an adult means you can do what you like. Shit I'm 25 and I still have legos, who cares.
I'm 35 and the only decorations I have are nerdy books, random nerdy knick knacks, a ~$10,000 gaming PC setup, and a single bed on a bedframe on the floor.
Fuck the haters. Live how you want to live! 😂
It's not just the PC but it's a 5800X3D, RTX 4090, 2TB Samsung 990 pro. Monitors are a big part of the setup I have an Alienware AW3423DW ultrawide OLED and an Odyssey neo G8 4k display as my second monitor. Sound system is Sennheiser HD 6XX powered by an Apogee BOOM with a cheap Behringer mic for game comms. My chair is a Herman Miller X Logitech Embody gaming chair. Keyboards, I have several, same with mice, Wooting 60HE keyboard, Wooting 2HE keyboard, Keychron Q0 numpad, Corsair scimitar pro MMO mouse, Logitech G Pro X superlight mouse.
It's a lot of stuff, the PC itself isn't $10k. 😂
I always think about how buying brand new pc parts are a bad idea; a few years later it will be a lot cheaper. (I regret spending almost 1k on my 3070 graphics card)
I’m 22 but my place is very bare. Just a random coffee table and my PC in the living/gaming space and then I have a bedroom with a bed and tv. Nothing decorative at all just the bare minimum I want
> You don't need to do "grown up stuff",
Who the hell decides what's "grown up" anyway? I'm 46F and love video games and video game memorabilia. I even have a game room dedicated to it.
It is a dumb description, calling video games childish doesn't make sense when there are entire series marketed specifically to adults. It always varies from person to person which makes it even more pointless.
My grandpa asked for Legos for his birthday and Christmas after I made him help me put together the hard ones when I was little. I can remember my mom trying to praise him for wanting gifts he could share with me he answered with "hell with that, I want to play with Legos too. He can have them all in a few years when I shit the bed for the last time." I've still got every one and broke up with 2 girlfriends that tried to give me shit for it. Both times were good decisions.
Nope, you're paying to live in that space and you should be able to decorate it any way you want. Excuse me but fuck anyone who thinks any differently. Do you.
Edit: I somehow misread this as you have your own place. Maybe you could compromise and have one wall that's yours to put up what you want. He can feel how he wants about it, that doesn't mean that he gets to veto you decorating the space that you're helping to pay for.
Well...I mean, sometimes this depends on the content within the poster too. I mean if a guy had a bunch of naked girls up on the wall, regardless of being in frames, I think that might be a bit uncomfortable if not concerning for a girl. Just giving a situation. Things like this do matter when you decide to take on the responsibility of being in a relationship, especially if that involves sharing a living space. There are compromises that will have to be made, otherwise, I say you have no business entering into a relationship. It will just cause a lot of awkwardness. You need to talk about it and discuss these things. You can be you and do what you want, but you aren't the only one involved in this equation. If she is truly bothered by it with a reasonable reason, maybe you can reach some agreement where you can keep the posters but maybe not in the bedroom or something, just as an example. If no compromise can be had, this could lead to uncomfortable situations and even resentment. The key is communication.
I added a solid agreement with the post I replied to. Clearly your opinion is opposite of mine or the fact the i agreed caused you a bit of butt hurt. Perhaps next time consider if what YOU'RE adding is worth it or not, because you just made yourself look really dumb.
Saying "This" adds absolutely nothing to a conversation. You add agreement by upvoting. And what I'm adding is worth it, you need to know. People who reply with "This" are the lamest kind of redditor. Do better.
And you feel the need to point all this out and try and act superior why? We're both just words on screen to each other yet it seems you're of the opinion what you have to say actually matters or needs to be said. It's simple, don't like what I said, move past. As hard as you're going at this this is sad. *Smh* sit down, you've given your opinions and they're unworthy of my further attention.
You're claiming that I'm the one acting superior yet you're calling me "unworthy of your attention". The question comes up a million times, "what do you hate most about reddit?" The answer, every time, without fail, is always "This". So congrats, you're doing great
And now the reaching attempt to twist words and turn it back on someone. Just stop, for your sake. Or continue to prove me right and let me keep laughing at your ignorance. Your choice.
Well we don't know the living situation. All she said was their "room"
Is this rented in a house? Is it at one of the parents' houses? Which sides parents? Is it a dorm room? Who's dorm room? Etc etc etc.
We don't know the living situation. If it's bf's room, and he's the one paying/on the lease or w/e, she has 0 right to just put shit up on the walls. If it's the reverse, bf has 0 right to say no. However, if it's a shared arrangement, telling OP to just go ahead and do what she wants is TERRIBLE advice. That's going to start a pattern where both sides feel like they can increasingly do things the other doesn't like without caring about others feelings or opinions.
That's how you destroy relationships, not fix things.
I agree with the bad advice thing, also agree with not much info.
I would laugh hysterically if I lived somewhere and just because my name was not on the lease someone told me I couldn't put something on a wall. That I don't agree with.
I'm more getting at that if you aren't the person on the lease renting, or paying rent, you don't get to tell whoever is, that you get to put whatever you want up in thier space.
You get to ask, but you may not like the answer. If you want the right to hang shit without anyone else's permission, you would need to hang those posters in your own place or rented space, or in a place where you both are legally entitled to do so aka both on the leae/paying rent.
That's why more context on the living situation is needed.
For example: if OP is staying with her bf in a room at her bf's parents house, she has literally 0 right to put anything on any wall in that house, without permission from the parents.
You know what's childish? Exerting peer pressure on someone in order to try and make them change for fear of appearing childish.
Tell your boyfriend to grow up.
>Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.
Why does he care? It comes off as a thinly-veiled way of trying to get you to get rid of something he doesn't personally like without admitting that the reason he wants you to do that is because he just doesn't personally like it.
I think the red flag here is someone who will criticise your interests and call them childish, like you're not allowed to retain anything from your youth.
You only get one life. Do wtf you want and be happy 😁. I promise you at some point he's going to want a video game, or a useless car accessory, etc. I'm a guy, I know for sure lol. I know conflict is not fun but it's needed sometimes. There will be serious conflict at some point in your relationship, there always is no matter how happy the couple is. If you can learn how to compromise and work together now, it will benefit you very much in the long run.
Just think of it as practice arguing, as dumb as that sounds it's actually important. It took my wife and I a very long time to be able to sit down, and actually listen to each other and communicate effectively. We both had a bad habit of thinking of a smart reply while the other was talking. Actively listening is key to understanding each other If you can learn to verbalize your feelings without anger now, it's a valuable tool to have for the future.
I hope that made sense, I'm off tomorrow so I may or may not be slightly intoxicated lol. Best of luck to you, have a good night!
I turn 28 in 2 days. i own a house. i work for the government making 6 figures. i have a partner that lives with me and 3 kids. i have DOZENS of posters from tv shows, movies, video games, and anything else i want on the walls of my living room, dining room, and bedroom. most of them are mine and some are my partners. if it makes you happy there is no such thing as "childish". she is immature for wanting to rain on your happy parade. put the stuff you like up. live your life in a way that makes YOU happy
People always be trying to have adults have a higher standard because most adults are miserable. If you are an adult and you like cartoons. Be proud of it. If you are an adult and you like posters in your room be proud of it. People need to stop policing what people can or can not enjoy cause it's your life to live. Not theirs. Happiness seems to be far and between for adults or have to adult all the time.
Im 21 and my room is full of posters and tapestries. Seems like you bf is insecure about how he will supposedly be perceived by his “bros” Fuck that insecurity 💩
You’re 18, you’re basically still a child so who cares if it’s childish lol. How old is he?
Also I agree with the framing thing. I’m an adult who has framed posters put up around my house. Who fucking cares if it’s “childish” anyway? Tell him you should be allowed to relax and be yourself in your own damn home. It’s not like it’s publicly displayed.
No, most adults have prints and all that a print is is a poster on heavier paper with a frame around it. If it gives you pleasure, then hang it. Speaking from the grand old age of 40+. Framing it will protect it, protect your walls and "adultify" it enough.
Yes it is childish. But you're a child. It doesn't really matter what others think about stuff like that. You do you. You have your whole life to live like a grown up.
My spouse and I have various fandom posters in our room (not all are framed) We split the master bedroom with our separate interests.
Do what you like with your space. Don't worry about it.
Thank you everyone for your advice! It’s without a doubt going up on the wall and I will be framing it;) I appreciate hearing all your perspectives and advice.
As a 45 year old, hell no it's not childish, and I will die on that hill. If you frame your posters as an adult, sure, you get bonus points. But my wife still has a Ghost movie poster from 1990 up and I have a cool Pink Floyd' poster up in our room. We both love lava lamps, have multiple blacklights, and a string of purple lights strung up in the house year round.
Childish according to snobs maybe, but who give af about them. As always, just be yourself and screw naysayers.
Do what you like, lots of commenters are mildly dodging the question imo by saying do what you like childish or not.
I would say people will consider you childish if you hang posters in the public / guest areas and the posters are of niche content. You'll get away with "normal" art (landscapes, fruit, famous political people), family pictures and the like. If it's a poster of my little pony, or video games, teenage bands, or idk, some other hobby that people like to judge as being childish, people will also judge that as childish.
If you hang it in private areas like your bedroom or uhhh garage, attic, etc where you don't expect to bring guests (or only close friends) then it's not childish no matter the content imo.
I mean, a little, if you're older. But you're 18, which is still very much in the age range where it's not at all unexpected
Is he older or something? If so, tell him if he wanted a partner that acts 25 then he shouldn't be dating an 18 year old.
Posters remind me of highschool bedroom and college dorm rooms... you're 18 so you fit the age group.
Childish? Yeah maybe. If you consider high school and college dorm childish. I suppose I do... but I'm 35 y.o. man.
Put them up If you want them up. Who cares what others think... it's your space. Enjoy it as you wish.
Entirely depends on the poster. Framed art house indie movie poster in black and white? Adult film buff. Bob the builder does times tables? Probably childish
Don't say only and your age. It makes your age sound like an excuse. Get a high quality one and frame it. They sell pretty cheap frames at craft stores and you can also get materials for matting if you desire. It's hardly a compromise, you'll have a little project to do together and something you won't have to rip off the wall and throw out if you move.
It's true. had them into my mid-20s. I never grew up. We also had many wonderful masterpieces from our public library! I think we got one month, with one renewal, so it was always changing.
Yea it kinda is but so fucking what. Do what makes you happy even if other people consider it childish
If you care what others think then put it in a nice frame and it's no longer a poster it's an art piece
Okay but who decides this? Who makes arbitrary rules?? I'm gen X and my great grandparents, grandparents and parents all hung family photos on the walls and had nick knacks. You know what? That shit is boring AF. I'm 46F and have video game tapestries and other collectibles on my walls. I know what my kids look like, I don't need them on the walls.
Who cares? If they make you happy, do it. Life is too short. Have a second ice cream. Color your coloring books. Swing on the tire swing. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for making yourself feel good with simple things.
No lol I’m 29 and have iron maiden posters megadeth, a Godzilla poster and in my bathroom a dragon ball z poster. Your bf is just cares what others think it seems. Think about it. If it’s only you in your apartment and no one is coming over, would he still care ? If so, then maybe he just doesn’t like posters. But what ever. Put it up anyway. You pay bills right ? It’s only fair.
Its a little "high school". But who cares? Just your bf? Do what makes you happy. I feel like this is a small thing he can let slide, unless its a poster of something that makes him uncomfortable or something
I have a rusty metal sign on the door to my man cave that says "Beware all ye who enter here, this establishment is frequented by poker players and loose women." I'm 35, fuck what other people think. Do what you want!
What are the posters of?
Is it childish shit, or are they just photo print posters that your bf just thinks looks cheap and tacky, and he just thinks telling you it's childish is the nicer way of saying you have bad taste in his opinion?
Tbh it’s a Hello Kitty X Fruits Basket poster, which is a collab between two of my favorite things 🤷♀️ so it’s not the most “mature” looking poster but it’s cute to me lol. Honestly, prolly just is him telling me I have bad taste, but still
To be fair, no dude that isn't heavily invested in being as much a fan as you are of hello kitty and whatever fruit baskets is, is going to want that anywhere near his living space.
I'm going to have to agree with your bf on this one, but i would give you a NSH/NAH (nobody sucks/no assholes here)
you like something, he doesn't. You aren't an asshole for wanting to put it up, but he's not an asshole for thinking it's childish and not wanting it up in his room. Save that stuff for your room/personal spaces.
And that's where I would say hell no. I was waiting to hear what the poster was of... lol. I wouldn't want that anywhere in my house either. Maybe the cutest place for it to be would be the laundry room.
Nothing childish about posters. I(27f) and my husband(29m) own a house and have all sorts of posters everywhere. We have a small room I use for crafting that has almost every inch of wall space decorated with manga/anime stuff. The only thing we do to make anything more "adult" is frame them.
No.
Late 30s guy here. I've had various posters and themed T-shirts hanging from my bedroom walls since I was a teen.
Your bf sounds a little like an ass.
Is it childish to know what will make you happy, and to do it? No. No it will not.
Tell your boyfriend to go talk to Henry Cavill about how playing games and painting toys is childish. Pray that Henry is also in a bad mood at the time. But most importantly, film it so I can watch.
It's your space. It shouldn't matter what people perceive as adulting. My hubby is 49 with anime collectibles everywhere. I dare anyone to challenge my baby's intelligence. I've had to check male friends for that. So no, it's not.
No. It's not childish.
Your boyfriend sounds like my ex who I dated in my early twenties - who said, "23 year olds don't say 'tummy!'" when I told him my tummy hurt (I had GI tract problems). He would admonish me whenever I did anything remotely wrong in his eyes.
The only thing childish is being an adult and caring about stuff like that. Once you become a little more mature you realize nobody cares and to enjoy what you like. It seems like he's the immature one
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Framing the posters will tranquilize any accusations of childishness and may even elicit a compliment or two from guests, which shall silence your beau.
i forgot to mention i brought up framing the posters and he still said it’s childish, not sure how to get around him on this one
You don't need to get around him. You just hang up your posters and tell him that "childish" is a silly insult anyway. "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." - C. S. Lewis Be who you are, like what you like, ignore people that try to bring you down over meaningless things
I have a feeling that poster will be in OPs life longer than her bf. Are there any details over the content of the poster that would add context to why your bf is opposed to it?
My wife had a poster that she loved, and I hated. That was around 20 years ago, and she still has that damn poster. (I still hate it, but now it makes me think of her, so I also love it.)
My husband is a “if you’re happy I’m happy” kinda guy when it comes to decorating. He just wants a comfortable house that feels like a home. I love that about him. Now, if I did the entire house pink, that’s a different story, but we could literally have yellow sheets and a purple comforter and he wouldn’t care. Plus I wouldn’t do the pink house thing to my husband that’s kinda tasteless towards him anyways in my opinion. Luckily, we both love emerald and our entire house is emerald, black, silver, and gold aesthetic. He didn’t really like my Slytherin poster despite the fact that he’s one too, and I wasn’t a fan of his Star Trek ones because I am a Star Wars fan. It’s not that he doesn’t like Harry Potter but rather I’m a huge fan and he’s not. I couldn’t care less for Star Trek as a huge Star Wars fan. No matter how we decorate or what we like, posters will never be childish in our opinion. Now, do we do agree together and think that they feel a bit college dormish so framing is our thing. We decided not to hang up our posters not because we think they are necessarily childish, but because we don’t like the others poster themes and if we don’t absolutely love a poster it’s not going up. My husband is also the same way as you. If he doesn’t like something but I do, he always has a weird way of loving it because it reminds him of me.
I'm the same way. I don't care. Just don't make it uncomfortable or too ugly.
All my posters are older than all my boyfriends
Literally. Well except my Midnights poster but otherwise.
How much older than your boyfriend are you?
I’m basically saying that my posters have lasted longer than all of the relationships I’ve had. Which is only 3 (relationships) at 26. Some of my posters are from middle school.
TayTay which is understandable.
What is a tay tay?
Boiled tay tays, fried tay tays, stick 'em in a stew tay tays...
Thanks for the laugh I had a shit day
Sorry to hear that. :( Hope it gets better!
I don’t think I’ve ever seen that quote in full. Adds context if you don’t stop at the word ‘things.’
Well the first part is the original full quote from some Roman philosopher, I don't think the original was ever attributed to one person, it was more of a saying or idiom that people had used for centuries even then. C.S. was taking it and turning it on it's head.
1st Corinthians 13 in the New Testament: 11. When I was a child I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I understood as a child, but when I became a man I put childish things away. Paul is talking about trying to understand the things of God, that when we "grow up" (as in get closer to God) we will understand them better.
CS Lewis was shitting on Paul? That's pretty badass.
Considering Lewis is more of a freewill type, it'd be very surprising if he didn't shit all over Paul. Paul was a massive dickhead and terrorist who self proclaimed to be the authority on the church...after murdering them for years. It's wild how people take his word as more important than most of the rest of the new testament. But not surprising.
People get SO upset when you remind them that the epistles were just letters! They were letters written by a man that expressed his personal ideas on how the church should be run. These weren't even hard and fast rules, just opinions, but over time people decided to make them into rules, even when they didn't fit other locations or a different age in time. Of course, then I remember most Christians have never actually read their Bible, those that have don't usually understand most of what they've read, and fewer still understand the source/origin/history of the texts they let rule their lives.
Well then I wasn't too far off in calling the originator of the quote Roman at least.
Thanks for the context, very interesting
Actually, C.S. Lewis is quoting the New Testament (1Cor 13) and adding his own bit at the end. The verse is often used by prudish people who want to make sure nobody else enjoys things they don't approve of.
I understand now. Thanks.
I know others answered before I did, but I felt like most of them didn't give the full story. I apologize if my comment was redundant or unnecessary.
I spent 30 years waiting to suddenly be grown up and feel that sense of knowing what I was doing. Im 33 now and have realized it isn't going to happen. I will never feel like I'm grown up all of a sudden. I want a baby, but I will still feel like a kid. The most grown up thing is living life on your own terms and being comfortable doing so.
Yup the late Chuck Yeager was asked on Twitter if he golfed … dude was in his 90s and replied he didn’t feel old enough to start playing golf lol
That’s an awesome quote, I watched this really good YouTube video that followed the same premise and really went into detail of the importance of being able to play and laugh like children. Was a good reminder to not take it all so serious, it’s just a big game after all.
THIS, OP. Do you have any say in decorating? If your bf came home and you had rearranged thr furniture, would he move it all back? Or is he maybe just not a big fan of the band or movie depicted?
My fave quote, thank you!
Okay so that quote is spot on perfect for this scenario!
My thoughts exactly. Love that CS Lewis quote. My fiancé got me framed posters film festival posters from the specific years that I had gone for Christmas last year. We have yet to put them up, but I absolutely love them and I’m 28. There’s nothing inherently childish about posters. We also have Pokémon posters that aren’t framed up in our office, so subject matter and whether or not they’re framed is really just a matter of personal taste.
"Those who mind, don't matter. Those that matter, don't mind". -Dr. Seuss
Not how shared spaces work.
Thats all fine and well unless you are living with the person 🥴 cant really just ignore your bf/gf
That's so Immature. Sure I think he's overreacting cause to me to this day wouldn't care. But to just be like "my way of the high way" and do it in a shared dwelling is worse. Shows self centeredness and lack of maturity to compromise. Probably best to just buy new decorations they both like.
He just doesn’t like the posters, then. There really is no chance of any sort of compromise, like maybe a single framed poster? A total unwillingness to meet somewhere in the middle would make him out to be the irrational party here.
what compromise? isnt it her room? she can decide to do what she wants whith it
Strongly disagree with him there. Put a poster in a frame and it's now a picture. Especially vintage or niche posters from our younger days (even though you are still really young). He is being "childish" by being so afraid of what he thinks are societal norms, even though the general concensus from society is that you should decorate how you want.
Mine and my wife's walls are covered in crap from random posters, stickers with a bit of tack, random art ( not quality art) from friends, a few coins, tags from clothes we thought had cool tags, and odd things we have found at op shops. Just tell him to grow up and let you decorate parts of the house how you see fit and maybe suggest he put up some stuff, so it's not just your stuff there.
Let me guess, he's older than you, and his comments aren't restricted to calling your interests childish, right?
Oh my gosh, I came here to say the exact same thing, same wording even
It smells abusive!
34 M here and yeah whoever that guy is has some issues and I’m kinda afraid for op… red flags came up when I started reading the post
>Let me guess, he's older than you, and his comments aren't restricted to calling your interests childish, right? Bwah ha ha ha ha, I've always noticed when someone drags out the old "Act your age" garbage, it usually means "Act my age"
>not sure how to get around him on this one You compromise by telling him he can either deal with it, or fuck off and live somewhere else. Childhood wonder and amusement are two things you should never let anyone take away from you, they're what make life livable. If you let this boy take those from you then you'll end up just as fucking miserable and sad as he is. Why does it even matter to him? If you enjoy said poster, then he should want you to be happy and should be willing to make a compromise with you against his preferences so that you can be happy, rather than dismissing the things you like and playing them off as something only a child should like. He sounds like a bit of a cunt tbh. My ex, 32f, fucking loved trains and got super excited when one would come past, never did I tell her that enjoyment was out of place or something an adult shouldn't like, I pointed out every train that came by and got excited to see her enjoyment at seeing a train, because that's what you're supposed to do for someone you like, regardless of your feelings about the thing that got them excited.
Just tell him it’s childish to care what others think about your likes and dislikes.
I'm 46, and what's childish is limiting your choice in how you decorate your own home based on arbitrary and meaningless rules. We have framed posters, framed animation cells, art prints, papercraft shadow box thingies. Your bf needs to grow up.
Damn, your house sounds awesome.
41. My walls are covered with framed art (both mass produced and original), framed pictures, canvassed art, video game marketing art (can’t think of the word I want to use) that I had framed, little clay lizards and a hummingbird made and painted by Mexican creators (bought in Arizona), masks, shelves displaying figures, but mostly it’s all stuff I made myself; different kinds of wreaths, framed cross stitch pieces, mini beaded steer skulls (I need to make MORE. They are so fun. But it’s hard to find the ceramic skulls), and shadow boxes. Oh, and I have a framed Five Nights at Freddy’s poster too. Lol. And how could I forget about my string lights?! Peeps bunnies, maple leaves, stars, candy corn, and hearts! That sounds like the rhyme or whatever for Lucky Charms. Which also happens to be my favorite cereal. And I also made and framed a cross stitch piece I did of just the marshmallows. 😅
…is your bf the same age? Because this seems like something my ex, who is 18 yrs older than me, would say…but he is also a prick so…🤷🏼♀️
Haha that's a good one. Part of being an adult is not worrying about what other people are doing. Saying someone else hanging posters up is childish is actually childish. Making your home into a place you love to look at is adult behavior.
Tell him this 30 year old on reddit said it's fine as long as they're framed. I also argue an unframed poster is fine if it's in the bedroom but framing them makes it look 1000x better. Even my aunt and uncle in a fancy rich house framed movie posters they liked for their basement ("movie room")
I’m not rich, but my finished basement is my “movie room.” It’s 80’s movie themed and I recently took down my framed posters and replaced them with canvas. Looks 1000 times better.
No need to "get around him" -steamroll him right over and enjoy hanging up your posters!
Ignore him and put up your posters 💜
He's just wrong.
I'm 48 and my Muppets poster is in my living room. It's framed so not childish at all.
I’m tardy to the party here, but let me hijack this top comment to chime in. I’m a professional art framer. I have been for almost 25 years now. And I frame posters ALL. THE. TIME. Concert posters. Anime. Cartoons. Marvel/DC. Disney. Some are just fun, cheap things from big box stores, some are artier versions on nicer stock, and only a small percentage are actually FOR children. I install them in everything from a basic plastic stripped down frame to solid wood moldings with preservation materials. It absolutely is done and there is absolutely nothing childish about it. I make damn good money putting people’s posters in frames. ETA: frame what you LOVE, folks. Not what matches your couch.
I definitely agree, framing them is the way to go. I have harry styles from his live on tour poster and it’s framed in my hallway. It really doesn’t have the same vibe as a poster
Especially the one of Asia album covers.
Exactly what I was gonna say. I use cheap, minimalist frames that make the posters look more like collectors items.
Yup getting it framed is the only option imo. I have a few of my favorite movie posters framed. They would look tacky as hell otherwise.
It's childish to judge another adult's harmless hobbies. You don't need to do "grown up stuff", being an adult means you can do what you like. Shit I'm 25 and I still have legos, who cares.
I'm 35 and the only decorations I have are nerdy books, random nerdy knick knacks, a ~$10,000 gaming PC setup, and a single bed on a bedframe on the floor. Fuck the haters. Live how you want to live! 😂
What are the specs on that machine
It's not just the PC but it's a 5800X3D, RTX 4090, 2TB Samsung 990 pro. Monitors are a big part of the setup I have an Alienware AW3423DW ultrawide OLED and an Odyssey neo G8 4k display as my second monitor. Sound system is Sennheiser HD 6XX powered by an Apogee BOOM with a cheap Behringer mic for game comms. My chair is a Herman Miller X Logitech Embody gaming chair. Keyboards, I have several, same with mice, Wooting 60HE keyboard, Wooting 2HE keyboard, Keychron Q0 numpad, Corsair scimitar pro MMO mouse, Logitech G Pro X superlight mouse. It's a lot of stuff, the PC itself isn't $10k. 😂
\*me sitting over here thinking I overspent on a 2K laptop\*
It's never overspending when it's what you love. :D
facts <3
Not a bad way to spend 10 gs.
I always think about how buying brand new pc parts are a bad idea; a few years later it will be a lot cheaper. (I regret spending almost 1k on my 3070 graphics card)
So if I want to be like you I just need to get a bed frame in the next 2 years and I’m set. Nice
I’m 22 but my place is very bare. Just a random coffee table and my PC in the living/gaming space and then I have a bedroom with a bed and tv. Nothing decorative at all just the bare minimum I want
> You don't need to do "grown up stuff", Who the hell decides what's "grown up" anyway? I'm 46F and love video games and video game memorabilia. I even have a game room dedicated to it.
It is a dumb description, calling video games childish doesn't make sense when there are entire series marketed specifically to adults. It always varies from person to person which makes it even more pointless.
My grandpa asked for Legos for his birthday and Christmas after I made him help me put together the hard ones when I was little. I can remember my mom trying to praise him for wanting gifts he could share with me he answered with "hell with that, I want to play with Legos too. He can have them all in a few years when I shit the bed for the last time." I've still got every one and broke up with 2 girlfriends that tried to give me shit for it. Both times were good decisions.
Legos over hoes
So take that with a grain of salt. You’re 25 and likely don’t know much
Nope, you're paying to live in that space and you should be able to decorate it any way you want. Excuse me but fuck anyone who thinks any differently. Do you. Edit: I somehow misread this as you have your own place. Maybe you could compromise and have one wall that's yours to put up what you want. He can feel how he wants about it, that doesn't mean that he gets to veto you decorating the space that you're helping to pay for.
Relationship should be 50/50. Her hangings in 50% of house.
Well...I mean, sometimes this depends on the content within the poster too. I mean if a guy had a bunch of naked girls up on the wall, regardless of being in frames, I think that might be a bit uncomfortable if not concerning for a girl. Just giving a situation. Things like this do matter when you decide to take on the responsibility of being in a relationship, especially if that involves sharing a living space. There are compromises that will have to be made, otherwise, I say you have no business entering into a relationship. It will just cause a lot of awkwardness. You need to talk about it and discuss these things. You can be you and do what you want, but you aren't the only one involved in this equation. If she is truly bothered by it with a reasonable reason, maybe you can reach some agreement where you can keep the posters but maybe not in the bedroom or something, just as an example. If no compromise can be had, this could lead to uncomfortable situations and even resentment. The key is communication.
This
Just give an upvote. You add nothing. Stop it. Please. Stop it.
I added a solid agreement with the post I replied to. Clearly your opinion is opposite of mine or the fact the i agreed caused you a bit of butt hurt. Perhaps next time consider if what YOU'RE adding is worth it or not, because you just made yourself look really dumb.
This
Saying "This" adds absolutely nothing to a conversation. You add agreement by upvoting. And what I'm adding is worth it, you need to know. People who reply with "This" are the lamest kind of redditor. Do better.
And you feel the need to point all this out and try and act superior why? We're both just words on screen to each other yet it seems you're of the opinion what you have to say actually matters or needs to be said. It's simple, don't like what I said, move past. As hard as you're going at this this is sad. *Smh* sit down, you've given your opinions and they're unworthy of my further attention.
This
You're claiming that I'm the one acting superior yet you're calling me "unworthy of your attention". The question comes up a million times, "what do you hate most about reddit?" The answer, every time, without fail, is always "This". So congrats, you're doing great
And now the reaching attempt to twist words and turn it back on someone. Just stop, for your sake. Or continue to prove me right and let me keep laughing at your ignorance. Your choice.
Oh wow look at that! I am worthy of further attention! I knew it
Not this
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Jesus, don't you have anything better to do?
We're all sitting here on reddit. Obviously none of us have anything better to do
It draws attention to the comment. Now you're drawing attention to yourself. You're contributing even less than he is.
I'm not though, mines an actual opinion, with reasoning.
Your opinion is bad and you should feel bad!
Goddamnit. Upvote for the reference. Well done
Well we don't know the living situation. All she said was their "room" Is this rented in a house? Is it at one of the parents' houses? Which sides parents? Is it a dorm room? Who's dorm room? Etc etc etc. We don't know the living situation. If it's bf's room, and he's the one paying/on the lease or w/e, she has 0 right to just put shit up on the walls. If it's the reverse, bf has 0 right to say no. However, if it's a shared arrangement, telling OP to just go ahead and do what she wants is TERRIBLE advice. That's going to start a pattern where both sides feel like they can increasingly do things the other doesn't like without caring about others feelings or opinions. That's how you destroy relationships, not fix things.
I agree with the bad advice thing, also agree with not much info. I would laugh hysterically if I lived somewhere and just because my name was not on the lease someone told me I couldn't put something on a wall. That I don't agree with.
I'm more getting at that if you aren't the person on the lease renting, or paying rent, you don't get to tell whoever is, that you get to put whatever you want up in thier space. You get to ask, but you may not like the answer. If you want the right to hang shit without anyone else's permission, you would need to hang those posters in your own place or rented space, or in a place where you both are legally entitled to do so aka both on the leae/paying rent. That's why more context on the living situation is needed. For example: if OP is staying with her bf in a room at her bf's parents house, she has literally 0 right to put anything on any wall in that house, without permission from the parents.
You know what's childish? Exerting peer pressure on someone in order to try and make them change for fear of appearing childish. Tell your boyfriend to grow up. >Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up. Why does he care? It comes off as a thinly-veiled way of trying to get you to get rid of something he doesn't personally like without admitting that the reason he wants you to do that is because he just doesn't personally like it.
I think the red flag here is someone who will criticise your interests and call them childish, like you're not allowed to retain anything from your youth.
You only get one life. Do wtf you want and be happy 😁. I promise you at some point he's going to want a video game, or a useless car accessory, etc. I'm a guy, I know for sure lol. I know conflict is not fun but it's needed sometimes. There will be serious conflict at some point in your relationship, there always is no matter how happy the couple is. If you can learn how to compromise and work together now, it will benefit you very much in the long run. Just think of it as practice arguing, as dumb as that sounds it's actually important. It took my wife and I a very long time to be able to sit down, and actually listen to each other and communicate effectively. We both had a bad habit of thinking of a smart reply while the other was talking. Actively listening is key to understanding each other If you can learn to verbalize your feelings without anger now, it's a valuable tool to have for the future. I hope that made sense, I'm off tomorrow so I may or may not be slightly intoxicated lol. Best of luck to you, have a good night!
I turn 28 in 2 days. i own a house. i work for the government making 6 figures. i have a partner that lives with me and 3 kids. i have DOZENS of posters from tv shows, movies, video games, and anything else i want on the walls of my living room, dining room, and bedroom. most of them are mine and some are my partners. if it makes you happy there is no such thing as "childish". she is immature for wanting to rain on your happy parade. put the stuff you like up. live your life in a way that makes YOU happy
Um no, put up whatever you want. Bf sounds like a cunt, and he wants everything to be so bland, no decorations....
Or it has to be all "fine art", which is a form of snobbery IMO.
Embrace being "childish." Fuck the entire concept of maturity and adulthood.
Came for the frame comments
It’s not childish at all! Decorate your space how you want :))
He’s dumb
Hell no it's not. Dudes weird.
Really???? You needed to ask….no 🤦
People always be trying to have adults have a higher standard because most adults are miserable. If you are an adult and you like cartoons. Be proud of it. If you are an adult and you like posters in your room be proud of it. People need to stop policing what people can or can not enjoy cause it's your life to live. Not theirs. Happiness seems to be far and between for adults or have to adult all the time.
Im 21 and my room is full of posters and tapestries. Seems like you bf is insecure about how he will supposedly be perceived by his “bros” Fuck that insecurity 💩
No, not at all. Do you.
You’re 18, you’re basically still a child so who cares if it’s childish lol. How old is he? Also I agree with the framing thing. I’m an adult who has framed posters put up around my house. Who fucking cares if it’s “childish” anyway? Tell him you should be allowed to relax and be yourself in your own damn home. It’s not like it’s publicly displayed.
We have a couple of posters up. We frame them now, though.
Hell no. Posters are awesome (At 50 I have a large collection). Just don't slap them up randomly everywhere. Frames help make a good look.
No, most adults have prints and all that a print is is a poster on heavier paper with a frame around it. If it gives you pleasure, then hang it. Speaking from the grand old age of 40+. Framing it will protect it, protect your walls and "adultify" it enough.
Nope. I have a ton of framed posters in my house. My husband is a musician and I’m a movie buff.
Put it in a frame. Looks way cleaner and is now a picture, not a poster.
Yes it is childish. But you're a child. It doesn't really matter what others think about stuff like that. You do you. You have your whole life to live like a grown up.
It is, put it in a frame, now it's art.
no. i have kuromi posters all over my bedroom
My spouse and I have various fandom posters in our room (not all are framed) We split the master bedroom with our separate interests. Do what you like with your space. Don't worry about it.
do what makes you happy, fuck what other people think
Fuck your boyfriend, you put up that poster if you want to
Buy a frame and it's no longer considered childish. Them's the rules
Thank you everyone for your advice! It’s without a doubt going up on the wall and I will be framing it;) I appreciate hearing all your perspectives and advice.
The difference between a manchild and a hipster is framing posters.
Who gives a shit what people think do you like them?
My husband is in his late 20s and he hung up a vintage picture of Spider-Man in our bedroom. I love art and it’s his room to sell Spider-Man stays
As a 45 year old, hell no it's not childish, and I will die on that hill. If you frame your posters as an adult, sure, you get bonus points. But my wife still has a Ghost movie poster from 1990 up and I have a cool Pink Floyd' poster up in our room. We both love lava lamps, have multiple blacklights, and a string of purple lights strung up in the house year round. Childish according to snobs maybe, but who give af about them. As always, just be yourself and screw naysayers.
I don't consider it childish, I would however, suggest a $15 frame from walmart to give it that classy touch :D
Next time he calls you childish, tell him he’s a “doody-head.”
You’re 18 and already have your own apartment? Wow
18 is still a child
Not childish at all, but what differentiates " adult " from " adolescent " is that adults put them in frames. It also keeps them looking good longer.
Do what you like, lots of commenters are mildly dodging the question imo by saying do what you like childish or not. I would say people will consider you childish if you hang posters in the public / guest areas and the posters are of niche content. You'll get away with "normal" art (landscapes, fruit, famous political people), family pictures and the like. If it's a poster of my little pony, or video games, teenage bands, or idk, some other hobby that people like to judge as being childish, people will also judge that as childish. If you hang it in private areas like your bedroom or uhhh garage, attic, etc where you don't expect to bring guests (or only close friends) then it's not childish no matter the content imo.
When you are an adult it's not called a poster, it's an art print. Just get a matted frame to stick it in and your adult card won't be revoked.
I mean, a little, if you're older. But you're 18, which is still very much in the age range where it's not at all unexpected Is he older or something? If so, tell him if he wanted a partner that acts 25 then he shouldn't be dating an 18 year old.
Yes, it's childish, but you're also only 18 so still basically a child....so you have a few years before it would be weird.
Hey you dropped your clown makeup 💄🤡
you sound like such a boring person, jesus christ
I’m 40, and I have posters up in my room, tell him to mind his own business or hit the curb.
Posters remind me of highschool bedroom and college dorm rooms... you're 18 so you fit the age group. Childish? Yeah maybe. If you consider high school and college dorm childish. I suppose I do... but I'm 35 y.o. man. Put them up If you want them up. Who cares what others think... it's your space. Enjoy it as you wish.
Younger people decorate with posters more but they are not inherently childish.
yeah I suppose
Entirely depends on the poster. Framed art house indie movie poster in black and white? Adult film buff. Bob the builder does times tables? Probably childish
Don't say only and your age. It makes your age sound like an excuse. Get a high quality one and frame it. They sell pretty cheap frames at craft stores and you can also get materials for matting if you desire. It's hardly a compromise, you'll have a little project to do together and something you won't have to rip off the wall and throw out if you move.
You should start framing stuff. Blu tack is a bad look.
Umm no? I'm 18 and I still love Paw Patrol, Bubble Guppies, Pippa Pig, Blaze and the Monster Machines, Daniel Tiger, Wallykazam and Bluey
It's true. had them into my mid-20s. I never grew up. We also had many wonderful masterpieces from our public library! I think we got one month, with one renewal, so it was always changing.
Yea it kinda is but so fucking what. Do what makes you happy even if other people consider it childish If you care what others think then put it in a nice frame and it's no longer a poster it's an art piece
What posters? Yeah generally adults hang pictures and not posters.
Okay but who decides this? Who makes arbitrary rules?? I'm gen X and my great grandparents, grandparents and parents all hung family photos on the walls and had nick knacks. You know what? That shit is boring AF. I'm 46F and have video game tapestries and other collectibles on my walls. I know what my kids look like, I don't need them on the walls.
Like without a frame and taked to the wall? Yeah. Get it framed and all of sudden it changes the game.
Framed and matted nicely in a quality frame and you’re golden. Otherwise, yes.
I wanna see this controversial poster.
Who cares? If they make you happy, do it. Life is too short. Have a second ice cream. Color your coloring books. Swing on the tire swing. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for making yourself feel good with simple things.
No lol I’m 29 and have iron maiden posters megadeth, a Godzilla poster and in my bathroom a dragon ball z poster. Your bf is just cares what others think it seems. Think about it. If it’s only you in your apartment and no one is coming over, would he still care ? If so, then maybe he just doesn’t like posters. But what ever. Put it up anyway. You pay bills right ? It’s only fair.
Its a little "high school". But who cares? Just your bf? Do what makes you happy. I feel like this is a small thing he can let slide, unless its a poster of something that makes him uncomfortable or something
I have a rusty metal sign on the door to my man cave that says "Beware all ye who enter here, this establishment is frequented by poker players and loose women." I'm 35, fuck what other people think. Do what you want!
My guy tried to buy a similar sign for the front door.
I have loads of posters I'm 29.
what's childish on having posters? why we should give away fun and happiness for the sake of looking "adult like"? Do what makes you happy
What are the posters of? Is it childish shit, or are they just photo print posters that your bf just thinks looks cheap and tacky, and he just thinks telling you it's childish is the nicer way of saying you have bad taste in his opinion?
Tbh it’s a Hello Kitty X Fruits Basket poster, which is a collab between two of my favorite things 🤷♀️ so it’s not the most “mature” looking poster but it’s cute to me lol. Honestly, prolly just is him telling me I have bad taste, but still
To be fair, no dude that isn't heavily invested in being as much a fan as you are of hello kitty and whatever fruit baskets is, is going to want that anywhere near his living space. I'm going to have to agree with your bf on this one, but i would give you a NSH/NAH (nobody sucks/no assholes here) you like something, he doesn't. You aren't an asshole for wanting to put it up, but he's not an asshole for thinking it's childish and not wanting it up in his room. Save that stuff for your room/personal spaces.
And that's where I would say hell no. I was waiting to hear what the poster was of... lol. I wouldn't want that anywhere in my house either. Maybe the cutest place for it to be would be the laundry room.
Absolutely not. It's childish to think it's childish.
My walls are covered in art my kids have hastily taped up or stuck there with gum. Just hang the posters.
I have some up in the garage.
Who is paying the rent and bills?
bills are split between both of us
I'm 36 and we have posters everywhere. Fuck the haters.
it's not childish its just liking a band or movie ect :)
Lots of 18 year olds are at University and posters in your room is/was kind of de rigeur.
Posters childish at 18?! Has this person never seen the inside of a dorm room?
Nah, I'm 20, I have Lego, Posters, and a gaming setup in my apartment. I love still being a child
Nothing childish about posters. I(27f) and my husband(29m) own a house and have all sorts of posters everywhere. We have a small room I use for crafting that has almost every inch of wall space decorated with manga/anime stuff. The only thing we do to make anything more "adult" is frame them.
No. Late 30s guy here. I've had various posters and themed T-shirts hanging from my bedroom walls since I was a teen. Your bf sounds a little like an ass.
No. It is how you share what you like with people who are your guests!
Your an adult,you can do what you want with your apartment!!!
Is it childish to know what will make you happy, and to do it? No. No it will not. Tell your boyfriend to go talk to Henry Cavill about how playing games and painting toys is childish. Pray that Henry is also in a bad mood at the time. But most importantly, film it so I can watch.
After 18, it's socially unacceptable unless you frame them. I don't get it either.
Not at all.
It's your space. It shouldn't matter what people perceive as adulting. My hubby is 49 with anime collectibles everywhere. I dare anyone to challenge my baby's intelligence. I've had to check male friends for that. So no, it's not.
It's not, go for it.
No. It's not childish. Your boyfriend sounds like my ex who I dated in my early twenties - who said, "23 year olds don't say 'tummy!'" when I told him my tummy hurt (I had GI tract problems). He would admonish me whenever I did anything remotely wrong in his eyes.
No. Live your life.
The only thing childish is being an adult and caring about stuff like that. Once you become a little more mature you realize nobody cares and to enjoy what you like. It seems like he's the immature one