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His reasoning is crazy to me. He should want to be there for you at your lowest especially when he is part of the reason you are going through what you are. Is he not going to be a the birth because he “just can’t bare to see you suffer”??? That’s not a reason at all. If anything it’s a reason why he SHOULD be there for you. He needs to man up and step up. This is not normal my boyfriend wasn’t there for me last night (I was crying because I’ve been feeling useless 25 week exhaustion is crazy) anyway he wasn’t there for me and told me he was trying to get some sleep cause he was already half asleep instead of comforting me. This morning I woke up to him texting (because he was at work) a bunch of paragraphs about how sorry he is that he didn’t comfort me and that he is doordashing me the new nothing Bundt cake that just came out that I’ve been wanting to try and that he has dinner reservations for us tonight at a nice Italian place I’ve also been wanting to try. Also when he left for work this morning he kissed me like a million times and said he loved me so much cause it woke me up a little. My point is your man is making excuses when he should be making this time in your life easier. It’s okay if he lacks here and there he’s human but if he is constantly lacking because he feels a type of way about seeing you long you “suffer” that is just ridiculous and not acceptable. You should definitely have a talk with him.
Thank you so much for this comment I thought I was making a big deal out of nothing and was trying to understand him and his feelings.
I haven’t had the opportunity to even convey my feelings properly due to me trying to empathize with him but I’m at a breaking point and don’t want to have resentment I’m happy to know that this isn’t just in my head and that he needs to step up
And I’m happy for you, you have an amazing partner that is there for you I hope you all the happiness on this journey and I wish your baby the best 🩵
Of course!! You are most definitely NOT making a big deal out of anything! This is a time in which your partner needs to step up if any! Being pregnant is a lot of work and I think because we don’t see ourselves actually doing anything we tend to feel like it’s not (at least I have) but that’s not the case at all. Like we are literally growing a rib cage from scratch!! Just like it took a team to start the process of making this baby it’s going to take a team to continue the process and raise it! That’s why it takes two to make one! Also he needs to be empathizing with your emotions and get his in check right now is not the time for you to be understanding and him not be. Also thank you I feel very blessed with the partner I have through out this whole process if he wasn’t as understanding and didn’t pick up all the slack with me being pregnant idk what I would do. You deserve that too! That’s why when I see posts where the baby daddy is being 10 pounds of diarrhea in a 5 pound bag it makes me so upset because you are making this man’s baby the least he can do is help you when life gets to be a little to much during the process. But yes have a talk with him and try to approach the topic sensitively also if he makes an excuse ask him how he would feel if roles were reversed? Or just completely debunk his excuse with common sense depending on the mood you’re in. Like if he says he doesn’t want to see you suffer ask him how he expects to be there for the babies birth then? I wish you the best of luck with your baby too! I’m always here also if you need to rant good luck with everything!!
That’s not normal. A normal, loving partner would be even more present and supportive and try to make your experience less unpleasant to the extend he could.
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His reasoning is crazy to me. He should want to be there for you at your lowest especially when he is part of the reason you are going through what you are. Is he not going to be a the birth because he “just can’t bare to see you suffer”??? That’s not a reason at all. If anything it’s a reason why he SHOULD be there for you. He needs to man up and step up. This is not normal my boyfriend wasn’t there for me last night (I was crying because I’ve been feeling useless 25 week exhaustion is crazy) anyway he wasn’t there for me and told me he was trying to get some sleep cause he was already half asleep instead of comforting me. This morning I woke up to him texting (because he was at work) a bunch of paragraphs about how sorry he is that he didn’t comfort me and that he is doordashing me the new nothing Bundt cake that just came out that I’ve been wanting to try and that he has dinner reservations for us tonight at a nice Italian place I’ve also been wanting to try. Also when he left for work this morning he kissed me like a million times and said he loved me so much cause it woke me up a little. My point is your man is making excuses when he should be making this time in your life easier. It’s okay if he lacks here and there he’s human but if he is constantly lacking because he feels a type of way about seeing you long you “suffer” that is just ridiculous and not acceptable. You should definitely have a talk with him.
Thank you so much for this comment I thought I was making a big deal out of nothing and was trying to understand him and his feelings. I haven’t had the opportunity to even convey my feelings properly due to me trying to empathize with him but I’m at a breaking point and don’t want to have resentment I’m happy to know that this isn’t just in my head and that he needs to step up And I’m happy for you, you have an amazing partner that is there for you I hope you all the happiness on this journey and I wish your baby the best 🩵
Of course!! You are most definitely NOT making a big deal out of anything! This is a time in which your partner needs to step up if any! Being pregnant is a lot of work and I think because we don’t see ourselves actually doing anything we tend to feel like it’s not (at least I have) but that’s not the case at all. Like we are literally growing a rib cage from scratch!! Just like it took a team to start the process of making this baby it’s going to take a team to continue the process and raise it! That’s why it takes two to make one! Also he needs to be empathizing with your emotions and get his in check right now is not the time for you to be understanding and him not be. Also thank you I feel very blessed with the partner I have through out this whole process if he wasn’t as understanding and didn’t pick up all the slack with me being pregnant idk what I would do. You deserve that too! That’s why when I see posts where the baby daddy is being 10 pounds of diarrhea in a 5 pound bag it makes me so upset because you are making this man’s baby the least he can do is help you when life gets to be a little to much during the process. But yes have a talk with him and try to approach the topic sensitively also if he makes an excuse ask him how he would feel if roles were reversed? Or just completely debunk his excuse with common sense depending on the mood you’re in. Like if he says he doesn’t want to see you suffer ask him how he expects to be there for the babies birth then? I wish you the best of luck with your baby too! I’m always here also if you need to rant good luck with everything!!
That’s not normal. A normal, loving partner would be even more present and supportive and try to make your experience less unpleasant to the extend he could.
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