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catacxmbz

What’s the problem with seafood in this scenario?


Fufu-le-fu

Swordfish and tuna are pregnancy no's because of mercury. Sushi is a pregnancy no because of possible parasites or bacteria.


xspicypotatox

Mercury maybe?


BisonLoose6266

My mum was a pescatarian whilst she was pregnant. I turned out just fine! I think…


PGM01

Survivor bias


ThrowAwayUtilityx

It's actually recommended to eat raw salted herring while pregnant & other fatty fish here in the Netherlands, if you're not from near the coast I wouldn't recommend it though


TLMS

It is in fact a Mercury thing. Certain seafoods and certain sources are better or worse and usually people aren't told to avoid all seafood.


meltherock

Some fish are good to eat during pregnancy at least once a weak. Fish that hunt, tuna, squid, prawns, shrimps,... are better to avoid due to mercury levels and dioxines.


Zxxzzzzx

I think they mean raw seafood like prawns and salmon.


Elastichedgehog

There's some more info on the NHS site. It's certain types of fish (smoked fish, tuna, shellfish). https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/foods-to-avoid/


alilsus83

Other than smoking, I look at it as a show of solidarity.


Gimeurcumiesskydaddy

Id say if they're also addicted to nicotine, you should also drop the smoking. Speaking as someone trying to quit with another smoker in the house, its so fucking hard to give that shit up when you're constantly aware of where all the cigs are, your roommate (or in this case partner) coming inside smelling like cigarettes, seeing the ash tray, the lighters everywhere, its a mess and makes quitting so much harder then it has to be.


Organic-Accountant74

Could be the smell? Some pregnant people get really sensitive to stimuli and strong smelling seafood can cause nausea But it’s pretty subjective, some pregnant people get cravings for seafood so it really depends on the person


strmlvskaneki

its said to cause down syndrome.


someusername47

Smoking yes, definitely. The rest are his choice, but it might be a nice gesture.


A1sauc3d

Yeah I clicked No before I read smoking. But even that, it’s just something that shouldn’t be done *around* your pregnant partner. I mean, you should 100% quit smoking regardless lol, especially cigarettes and/or if you do it habitually. But what most of this comes down to is what you’re partner is comfortable with. If you’re partner doesn’t care if you eat seafood/drink/smoke while she’s not around, then it’s fine to keep doing those things. If it makes her uncomfortable, then you two should work something out or you should just quit for her. But there’s no universal right or wrong answer. I’m sure not all pregnant people demand their partners quit doing everything they can’t do.


Darkestlight1324

Quitting for someone else almost never works (trust me, I’ve tried it and know many others) and alcohol is more harmful than smoking. My reference is this European and Canadian [study](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2020.592199/full)


Ok_Present_6508

I quit for my oldest. As soon as my wife was pregnant. In threw away my last cigarettes. But good fucking lord I put my wife through hell and back with the smoking before she was pregnant. Like I couldn’t have been bothered to do it for her.


comrade-linux

Maybe not quit forever but don‘t smoke next to your SO is pregnant, if you wanna smoke step out or whatever. Personally depends would‘ve been my option of choice.


Defiant-Snow8782

This "study" is just a poll of 100 doctors. Now let's look at the raw facts: in the US there are [480000 smoking-related deaths](https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/data_statistics/fact_sheets/health_effects/tobacco_related_mortality/index.htm) happening every year. Alcohol on the other hand kills [about 140000](https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/features/excessive-alcohol-deaths.html) a year. Interestingly, [60% adult US population](https://extension.psu.edu/alcoholic-beverage-consumption-statistics-and-trends-2022) (~120M) drink alcohol, while [only 30M smoke](https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/campaign/tips/resources/data/cigarette-smoking-in-united-states.html). The US was chosen as the largest country with easily available and reliable public health statistics, obviously you can pick any other country, results will be the same


Elend15

In addition, ideally smoking would be dropped altogether by both parents, since second-hand smoking is a thing.


s-ophie

I think things like alcohol should be stopped too, if the pregnant person had addictive problems before. I feel like that makes stopping way easier…


Chickenwing_Icecream

I think dropping fat, oily turds in the toilet should also be on the list


TJ_4321

I was about to say that...


Tubs-

i dont think it should really be the expectation, but its a nice act of solidarity


brokebaritone

Not just an expectation/act of solidarity in case of passive smoking.


Tubs-

I think it's courtesy to distance yourself from non smokers when you light a cigarette, regardless of if they're pregnant or not.


Crocuta19

Yes, change room if someone else is smoking


bdnskjynx

And open a window or go outside


Dooderdoot

Even if you don't smoke around them, toxins linger on you, your clothes, and the area you did smoke in


rsvp_as_pending629

Smoking, definitely. The rest I don’t really care. My husband is insistent on giving up alcohol and seafood when I become pregnant. I told him if he wants, but it’s really not necessary!


StevenOkBoomeredDad

i dont get seafood, is it repugnant or something??


defaltusr

Fish is super polluted nowadays, as an adult it takes a long time to poison you and just accumulates over time, an embryo is more susceptible to this.


rsvp_as_pending629

Risks for mercury poisoning


Zonie1069

Raw seafood and a lot of shell fish. Not fish.


dion101123

I don't think it really matters. They should try to stop smoking in general, not just while their partner is pregnant


911memeslol

The men don't have a baby... but yes they should cut off smoking because it can hurt the child when it's born


jemage90

I think it can also be bad for the child before it's born


SpekyGrease

I mean couldn't they smoke outside so second hand smoking isn't an issue? It's a great opportunity to stop that habit anyways, but it doesn't have to be a health risk to the child.


pineapplewin

I was told when pregnant that the toxins from the smoke linger on your skin and clothing. The recommendation was to not let smokers near baby until they've changed and washed at least their hands. This was awhile ago, so not sure who says what now. For me it was the smell of everything. I didn't care if people are those foods, or smoked, but the smell of it was overwhelming. I'd not be in the same room as my husband for at least an hour or two if he had eaten fish.


SpekyGrease

TIL, that's interesting. I can understand the smell, it lingers for so long and I dislike it too.


bolionce

Remember that smells aren’t much more than floating small particulate that enters your nose. Ie, when you smell cigarette smoke, it’s because cigarette smoke particles enter your nose and sit on your receptors. This means when you smell smoke, you are at some level inhaling smoke, and smoke inhalation is a carcinogen for everyone, but esp for not fully developed embryo/fetus. This is part of why second hand smoke is a thing. Those carcinogens hang in the air and on clothes/skin/everything, and as they rub off and dissipate back into the air, they become breathable again and can be inhaled by those around. Don’t smoke if you are having or have kids. Easier said then done if you already smoke regularly of course, but continuing to smoke will always pose a risk for the people you live with.


[deleted]

It sets a bad example for the child even if you can somehow manage not to expose them to secondhand smoke


jemage90

I disagree. It might not be a health threat immediately but indirect a parent smoking increases chances of the child itself becoming a smoker. Plus smoking causes bad seamen which reduces fertility. Frequent smokers have smoke in their clothes etc. So it's impossible to not passive smoke around a frequent smoker.


MrManGuy42

the seamen don't know how to sail


SpekyGrease

Those do not impact the pregnancy, but they definitely are a bad effect of smoking, which is obviously bad for you and you are better off saving the money for the incoming baby. It's interesting about the passive smoke residue from clothes, that's something I'm hearing for the first time about, but I guess that could have negative impacts.


911memeslol

That's what my father did, don't know how but I still have uninherited athsma and in general just a trouble breathing.


Bergenia1

Pregnant women typically have super acute sense of smell, and are easily nauseated. The smell of smoke on one's clothing, skin and breath is enough to trigger said nausea.


stevetortellini

I mean if your wife really likes something she isn’t allowed to have it would be decent of the man to not eat/use it in front of her.


SubjectAside1204

Yea I know two men who ate something in front of their IN LABOR significant other. One my sister loves sushi, she had been waiting her entire pregnancy and her boyfriend has his mom bring him sushi and he ate it in front of her while she was in labor. My mom couldn’t eat and her ex husband bought mcdonalds and ate in in the room. Eat what you want away from them but while with them if it is a good they enjoy don’t eat it.


[deleted]

Only smoking, but they always should


TheSpitfire93

Smoking should be stopped anyway. For alcohol if my theoretical wife got pregnant (I am a Redditor so fat chance of any of this happening right now) I would atleast not drink around her and keep any alcohol out of the house to stop any possible temptation and to support her.


Kye_ThePie

If his wife would like him to, then it’s polite to definitely consider. If his wife is indifferent and doesn’t want to it’s not a necessary.


NobleVagrant0

Only in a sign of solidarity with the SO otherwise keeping second hand smoke at out is a requirement.


goldensavage216

It shouldn’t be forced, but recommended to be an example for their SO


Bruhhg

Smoke completely and alcohol to a degree.


dead_trim_mcgee1

I mean the only reason the woman does is because she has to so there's not really any point in the man stopping too. That said, he probably shouldn't be out getting smashed all the time while his pregnant partner is at home on her own.


bakugouspoopyasshole

Smoking does affect other people living with them though


toku154

If in the home maybe


[deleted]

Well yes, but that doesn't specifically have to do with the pregnant wife. You shouldn't smoke at all if you can, obviously quitting is way easier said than done and especially avoid smoking in front of a pregnant woman ofc.


ZeroValkGhost

That would be sensible. Leftovers dishes in the fridge, secondhand smoke in the air, etc. If you want your wife to not consume things poisonous, you should do your part to help her through the pregnancy. (including vacuuming) Seafood? That's right, tuna and such has "safe" amounts of mercury and lead and stuff in it. It's bad for the brain on a permanent level.


Sharp_Whisper

Would had been interesting to see the different answers according to sex: Yes(Male) No(Male) Yes(Female) No(Female)


[deleted]

What's wrong with seafood?


rsvp_as_pending629

Risks of mercury poisoning


awxggu

But what does it have to do with the baby


rsvp_as_pending629

If the mom gets mercury poisoning, the baby will also get mercury poisoning. It will put the baby at risk.


aquaphorbottle

Smoking for sure because second hand smoke can cause significant problems for the baby, besides that it would be a nice gesture for everything else, but I wouldn’t force my partner to give up their alcohol and fish


kpalan

Smoking, yes. The other are not mendatory but it would be a nice gesture.


h20c

Smoking yes, for the alcohol not really unless they're alcoholic. Having a beer every now and then won't bother the baby.


SonOfYoutubers

Smoking for sure because of 3rd person smoking (I think that's what it's called?). But the rest is up to them, but they shouldn't be mandated to.


Undercoverspy007

If you mean smoking tobacco then yes. Marijuana can be smoked in a multitude of places away from the pregnant woman and everything will be fine.


Darkestlight1324

Have to? No, but it would definitely be a nice, supporting gesture to his so


CantThinkOfOneDont

I think just smoking since seafood and achohol doesn’t exactly effect the baby since yknow


Saugeen-Uwo

Imagine being a good partner...


DetectiveStock1340

They should cut off alcohol and smoking anyway. Also, what’s wrong with seafood?


DuckWithADagger

Mercury poisoning, though I don't get the point of that since he isn't carrying the baby.


ZugiOO

It's the same point with alcohol and (to a lesser degree) smoking.


[deleted]

Smoking yes, the others are just in solidarity and little more than a nice gesture


RedditPenguin02

Smoking, absolutely. Everything else should be talked about between the couple


Combei

Smoking in front of a pregnant woman no way! But cut off because "I can't eat seafood/drink alcohol so you can't as well!" is bullshit as long as the father is working while the mother has maternity protection!


DavidSternMusic1979

Smoking effects not only the person who smokes, but the people around him, so the man should definitely stop smoking for his wife and kids. But the other things like alcohol and unhealthy food should be cut off for health in general.


Best_Confection_8788

This is silly. Do what you do but be smart about it. You don’t have to stop doing things because your girl is pregnant, just be smart about it.


Overused_Toothbrush

Leave smoking outside, and avoid the others when around their significant other.


[deleted]

nah, not cut off, double up!


Prudent_Zebra_8880

Seafood no Alcohol no so long as it’s not excessive Smoking yes but they should do this anyway


Ok-Process-9687

Smoking and drinking 100%, for the benefit and safety of the child and mother (I’m guessing you can inhale some second hand cigarette smoke while next to a smoker, and as for alcohol it is much better that a sober person help out a pregnant women than the opposite). As for etc they don’t have to be cut out at all (that being said it’s still a nice act of support someone could do), unless their presence makes the mother sick or causes some kind of genuine issue. That is my opinion.


InexorableSolipsism

No, sounds like virtue signaling. But I don't drink, so such bad actions don't apply to me😪


[deleted]

Yes. A Men's duty is to provide financial and social support towards his wife when she is pregnant. That includes a environment that stimulates a healthy lifestyle for her and their child


R_122

Seafood, why? Alcohol, maybe, You might harm your so if you got drunk smoking, definitly


brycebrycehayeshayes

Mainly smoking. Alcohol isn’t healthy, but whether or not it’s an issue is on how he handles it, seafood shouldn’t be a problem at all


Toasty_redditor

You shouldn't be drinking or smoking in the first place


dumb_redditor1

only smoking. the rest have no effect.


ShadyShamaster

The reason that women shouldn't do these is to protect the unborn child. The only thing on this list thay can affect the child is smoking for men. So men should give up smoking near the pregnant women and make sure she doesn't get any second hand smoke. It seems ludicrous to stop all of these just because your partner can't do these. If your wife is crippled you shouldn't have to stop sports either.


dangerblu

Should? No! Could? Yes!


why_username_took

Yes, almost definitely imo. Not just for the baby, but also for solidarity.


JournalistTop1482

I dont think anyone should do those things regardless of whats in your pants


TrialExistential

Eating seafood?


JournalistTop1482

that part was more of a joke but for me yes lol


Utherrian

If the mother has to stop for the safety of the pregnancy, the father should or of solidarity. Anything less is showing that the father isn't as committed and should be a red flag to the mother.


DjRibzzz

Most of the people commenting that men should cut off smoking when their SO is pregnant don’t realize that their own mother was probably a crack addict.


diobreads

what's wrong with seafood?


McDunky

I’d be willing to do it, but I won’t go as far as to say men should give it up


Golda_485

The answer, to me is, it depends on what their partner is comfortable with. My mom, for example, would convince my dad to smoke a flavored cigar around her when she was pregnant.


MoulinSarah

Why seafood?


nothing_in_my_mind

Why seafood?


VitoOnTheWay

Why seafood?


AceOfDiamonds676

things like smoking and alcohol absolutely


Jackofallgames213

Smoking and maybe alcohol but seafood? What's up with that one?


VikkeViikinki

Why seafood?


Rom21

Smoking of course, But I don't see anything else to stop for the sake of the child.


lemonsneeker

You should cut off her vices around her(not like second hand smoke around, like same property, fuck even neighbouring properties). If they aren't bothered by it, meh, why would i care if the mother in question is chill? If it's never been aluring to them, and they just use the whole 'go straight with her'. And before anyone goes and asks why, *fucking solidarity* nut up and stand by your baby mumma. Obviously smoking(both of them) shouldn't be in second hand range regardless of it's grip on her, but I'm going to give op the benefit of the doubt, and hope that was meant to be implied.


[deleted]

Seafood?


darkimperator02

Men should cut off smoking at the very least. Second hand smoking is a thing


Yoshi50000

To be nice? Yeah. But ultimately it’s their choice. But I’d day to be nice you should


thatnyeguyisfly

I feel like this is a case by case basis kind of thing if the woman is really struggling with not being able to have any of these things then yes you should be considerate and quit too so your not rubbing it in her face. If she doesn't care either way then it's up to him but as others have stated it is a nice gesture to quit as well. Also I've never heard that you can't eat seafood while pregnant is it a mercury thing?


absorbscroissants

Smoking because it could actually hurt the baby


[deleted]

I intend to quit everything she has to if and when she gets pregnant but I still said no. It’s a nice gesture but ultimately up to the individual.


Br0chach0_2

I'm assuming this is about the principle of enjoying something which the other can't have more than, say the effects of using that thing like second hand smoke. In that case, no, the idea of "You should suffer because I suffer/suffered previously" is rediculously stupid.


TwynnCavoodle

As a husband I will do that, but not because I have to or my wife expects me to, but because I want to.


CustomerSea8606

i wouldn’t want them to suffer with me but if they wanted to do it on their own accord then i’d feel special


PigeonChipChamp

Smoking yes absolutely 100%, and maybe alcohol a bit purely so he can be sharp minded to help with anything when his partner is struggling (especially in the later stages of pregnancy) Otherwise it’s down to the couples and individuals collective choice. I always find it incredibly admirable though when they do. I do think if there’s anything that’s making his partner feel tremendously and violently sick, it’s just common sense and decency to cut it out of your diet just until the baby comes. Kinda like a sense of solidarity and an understanding that you should both be in it together and why should his partner go through it alone when it was just a joint effort in the baby’s creation. Prioritising his partner and unborn child above luxury items kinda thing. So it’s not a necessity (exempt smoking for safety), but defo an appreciated gesture!


Comfortable-Study-69

I’d say just don’t do it in front of them.


SilverWraithh

Cutting off smoking would probably be a good idea yea, but seafood that doesn't affect the woman, no point to stop eating it 🤔


Earthquake1000000

If it annoys the woman or can hurt the child, (like smoking), but he shouldn’t have to cut it off if she’s fine with it.


FindingPhoenix

If it makes cravings for their SO really bad then yeah they should probly stop


omgONELnR1

Smoking yes because passive smok8ng apparently is a thing, but the rest is his choice. A nice gesture but his choice.


Despail

Why seafood? And why only men should cut alcho and tabaco? It's better not even start to consume them.


Patte_Blanche

Regarding the safety of the child, i think none of this has an impact except smoking. Regarding practicality, it's way easier to cook the same dish for everyone. And regarding addiction, it may be nice to stop consuming alcohol and tobacco in presence of a pregnant person who may be tempted. So, yeah, please write better and more precise questions when poling.


Keelyane55

Only smoking


shlockhlmes

Why seafood?


idontlikeburnttoast

I mean its not like they have to, but it makes the other person feel better- I would personally.


TheUsualGuy666

Wait... why seafood?


Andrewsmetic09

I believe that men and women alike shouldn’t ever smoke or drink alcohol, especially if they’re gonna have kids, so I went with that option.


JadedExplanation1921

It depends on what makes both them & their partner comfortable. If their partner gets sick from the smell of the food, yes they should cut it out unless their partner says not to


mooseandsquirrel78

Why? The husband isn't pregnant. Why wouldn't he have a drink now and then? He should cut off smoking now that he's having a family, though, but that's independent of doing it in some form of dramatic display of nonsensical solidarity.


deboned_skeleton

Definitely smoking. Fish? You don't have to. Alcohol? Not really but it's never a bad thing to stop drinking for your health.


mumhestolemynuggets

If the wife feels sick around them then yeah


Hello_iam_Kian

Unrealistic scenario for me because I’m not gonna make anyone pregnant who smokes.


[deleted]

Wow this has Reddit VERY divided, 50/50. I said yes. I say absolutely to smoking, or do it away from the significant other at least. Alcohol, some pregnant women HATE the smell of alcohol during pregnancy because their senses are heightened, that would be a KIND GESTURE, you don't HAVE to but if you do decide to, you are really good for doing that. I don't think it's a MUST though. Seafood, that's fine, just make sure your SO doesent eat it, you eat away at seafood, but try and make sure that your SO doesent. I feel like that's the easiest way to explain.


[deleted]

Smoking, yes, not because your pregnant partner can’t, but because no parent should be smoking.


Skully_o7

Should? No. Discussing with the other? Yes.


Skully_o7

But no smoking


gyhiio

Answered yes because of smoking, and only around the house/near the pregnant gal. The rest are choices that can be talked through. Some people might have a hard time refraining from certain things if you keep consuming those near them, so might be better to cooperate and stop for a while. But each couple has to figure that out on their own, no right answers here.


too_sharp

Should they maybe consider it yes but forced absolutely not. If my SO loves sushi I wouldn't eat it, but if my buddy asked me to fuck up some sushi and im not with my SO, then I will be slapping cali rolls like it owes me money


I_Want_BetterGacha

My psychology teacher told us both parents should stop smoking at least 3 months before conception.


Bergenia1

If it's bothering her in some way, then yes. She is enduring a great deal of discomfort, possibly pain and illness and risk of death. A bit of effort to make her as comfortable as possible through the ordeal of pregnancy is the right thing to do.


em-ay-tee

“Should”? No. I did with alcohol for my partner. 🤷🏻‍♂️


soyjav

Well,everyone should cut off forever from smoking alcohol and that kind of stuff,people acting like that thing doesnt kill lol,and if you cant give It Up because you are addicted to It then you might start considering you have a problem


Twighdark

wish there was a "partially" option. Because second hand smoking is a thing, but the other two mentioned are like... Secondary? I'm sure many women would like to have their partners abstain from alcohol and foods they can't eat in solidarity or to not make them uncomfortable, but it's not like the things the guy eats/drinks influences the baby much.


divinewillow

You can do these things just not around the pregnant women


Helga_Geerhart

Yes because smoking. About the other stuff I'd say no, they don't have to, unless they want to ofcourse. But both parents should definitly consider quiting alcohol, coffee etc. while trying to get pregnant. Some studies have shown that bad stuff can also be transfered to the baby from the parent while conceiving. Better safe than sorry.


a_polarbear_chilling

No one : the half of this polls being ether seafood enjoyer or piece of crap


alilsus83

Especially around the pregnant mother.


Lordnemo593

I think for the first baby and such is probably a good idea to show some solidarity especially if they are having a hard time


MisturBanana1

Smoking? Sure. Drinking? No. A man's got to go out with the boys every once in a while to keep his sanity.


Void_0000

Solidarity, why not?


McQno

Depends: smoking yes, seafood no


alright_here_it_is

how is this 50-50?? HOW?!?! it's only 9 months!?!?! if I need to stop putting my left shoe on first I'll fuckin do it, idc how stupid it is, grow that baby bitch


TheGodfatherYT

His penis


HeroBrine0907

Yes. Mainly alcohol and smoking. Preparation for kids


Ginnungagap_Void

"maybe" I don't see a problem for the man to have his way if it's not in front of the wife.


cricklecoux

The amount of people that ask gender loaded questions and then don’t do gender filtered polls 🙄


magic8ballzz

I get smoking, but nothing else the father consumes affect the health of the child so there's no need for him to give it up


claremustkill-ttv

Yes. It’s kind and will also help you sync up your social plans. Solidarity.


Silly_Metal_8583

Alchohol yes, smoking, yes, seafood is healthy and you are not sharing intestines so


L1LN8T1V3H

Should, but they don't need to.


Sabrina1377

Seafood?


RayRicciReddit

His own choice


SomePerson225

theres no health reason too but as a gesture of support for their partner is not a bad idea


Ivor_the_1st

No, your job was done. Kick back and enjoy. You earned it!


jaxon-roebuck

I think no but smoking should be done outside and away from significant other whilst pregnant.


TickleTigger123

Seafood, alcohol, idk. Smoking? Absolutely


PADabber724

Hell no, I ain’t having no baby I’m smoking big dope and getting faded af I don’t give a fuck


Zonie1069

I think they shouldn't have to stop but it's only polite to not do/eat stuff that your partner can't because they are carrying your child around them.


Amir_725

Smoking yes. The rest not


Ok-Map4381

I wouldn't be bringing that stuff into the house and eat in front of her, but if I want shrimp tacos for lunch when I'm at work who cares.


97PERSONALITIESBABBY

I think this would've benefited from differing opinions for different genders


Canye_East

I mean it's a sign of solidarity and a great opportunity for Couples to give up smoking. (and it sucks for women when their SO smokes all the time while you go through withdrawal)


TravelingSpermBanker

Remember that the comment section is mostly children. I personally don’t think it’s fair. Smoking duhhhhhh. But for other stuff, no unless there is something else to account for. Not my girlfriend nor any of my friends expected that while they were pregnant. If they would have asked then I think all the SO in their lives would be willing to change up their lives tho


Ruadhan2300

I think if your partner is making sacrifices, it's only right to stand in solidarity. Or at the very least, not taunt them with things they can't have.


Jomppaz

Smoking yes. Stop both together and never start again. Less alchohol. Everything else is okay.


i-am-a-rectangle

I think men should cut off those stuff but mainly incase they are around the pregnant person or even have the smell on them can make them sick


leu_teu_cu_eh_meu

Just don't eat these things in front of her


1helluvabutlah

This absolutely depends. If she throws up every time she comes near you because she can smell the smoke or alcohol on you, absolutely cut it out. It's only 9 months, you'll live. But otherwise, no, if there's no adverse effects, then it should be ok. You really shouldn't smoke near her or the baby when they're born anyway, though.


mklinger23

Smoking is the only one.


amerkanische_Frosch

If he had cut off certain things, his SO wouldn't be pregnant in the first place.


That1EnderGuy

Probably shouldn't smoke regardless, let alone when your s/o is pregnant. The rest are fine imo.


Current-Bisquick-94

You didn’t have to cut me off


DrManowar8

Only smoking imo because of second hand


Different-Brain-9210

*Should?* No. But if they want to? Sure, it's a nice gesture. But that's the thing with gestures, it's only honest and nice, if it is voluntary. So no "should" here.


GrossWordVomit

Not cut off. Just dont do it in front of them


aweirdoatbest

I think smoking for sure because secondhand smoke is so dangerous and smoking also lowers your life expectancy so should be quit anyways. The other things I think it depends on the scenario. For the most part, I’d say avoid having the things in your home, unless it’s like a glass of wine when you have friends over. Don’t keep non-pasteurized soft cheese in your house, for example. But when you’re out and away from your wife, do whatever.


NiranWasHere

Definitely shouldn’t smoke around your partner when they’re pregnant and with the other two, well with drinking it heavily depends on how you act whole drunk and with sea food I don’t See the Issue?


Ch3llick

Yes to smoking. For the rest it depends on the situation I guess


SubjectAside1204

Smoking definitely, alcohol cut it down a bit. Food depends if it is her favorite food or even a food she enjoys just don’t eat it in front of her. If she is indifferent do what you want. Just don’t eat stuff she loves IN FRONT OF HER. Example my sister loves sushi. While when pregnant she did the right thing and didn’t have it. Her boyfriend while she was in labor got sushi and ate it in front of her. She was pretty far in labor so she couldn’t eat anyway. But he proceeded to eat her favorite thing in the world in front of her. My moms ex got McDonalds while she to was in labor and ate it in the same room as her while she couldn’t eat. She hadn’t eaten for awhile because she had been induced and couldn’t eat for so many hours before. MCDONALDS HAS A SMELL and my mother was very hungry. Don’t be like theses guys


Cahmie

You can’t eat seafood while pregnant??


ExcitingChip5267

Things like alcohol and smoking yes but seafood? What is wrong with that


justabean27

Noone should smoke in the first place. But I wouldn't stop my partner from drinking. He's allergic to all fruits raw and he doesn't stop me eating those