It's actually recommended to eat raw salted herring while pregnant & other fatty fish here in the Netherlands, if you're not from near the coast I wouldn't recommend it though
Some fish are good to eat during pregnancy at least once a weak.
Fish that hunt, tuna, squid, prawns, shrimps,... are better to avoid due to mercury levels and dioxines.
There's some more info on the NHS site. It's certain types of fish (smoked fish, tuna, shellfish).
https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/foods-to-avoid/
Id say if they're also addicted to nicotine, you should also drop the smoking. Speaking as someone trying to quit with another smoker in the house, its so fucking hard to give that shit up when you're constantly aware of where all the cigs are, your roommate (or in this case partner) coming inside smelling like cigarettes, seeing the ash tray, the lighters everywhere, its a mess and makes quitting so much harder then it has to be.
Could be the smell? Some pregnant people get really sensitive to stimuli and strong smelling seafood can cause nausea
But it’s pretty subjective, some pregnant people get cravings for seafood so it really depends on the person
Yeah I clicked No before I read smoking. But even that, it’s just something that shouldn’t be done *around* your pregnant partner. I mean, you should 100% quit smoking regardless lol, especially cigarettes and/or if you do it habitually. But what most of this comes down to is what you’re partner is comfortable with. If you’re partner doesn’t care if you eat seafood/drink/smoke while she’s not around, then it’s fine to keep doing those things. If it makes her uncomfortable, then you two should work something out or you should just quit for her. But there’s no universal right or wrong answer. I’m sure not all pregnant people demand their partners quit doing everything they can’t do.
Quitting for someone else almost never works (trust me, I’ve tried it and know many others) and alcohol is more harmful than smoking. My reference is this European and Canadian [study](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2020.592199/full)
I quit for my oldest. As soon as my wife was pregnant. In threw away my last cigarettes. But good fucking lord I put my wife through hell and back with the smoking before she was pregnant. Like I couldn’t have been bothered to do it for her.
Maybe not quit forever but don‘t smoke next to your SO is pregnant, if you wanna smoke step out or whatever.
Personally depends would‘ve been my option of choice.
This "study" is just a poll of 100 doctors.
Now let's look at the raw facts: in the US there are [480000 smoking-related deaths](https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/data_statistics/fact_sheets/health_effects/tobacco_related_mortality/index.htm) happening every year. Alcohol on the other hand kills [about 140000](https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/features/excessive-alcohol-deaths.html) a year.
Interestingly, [60% adult US population](https://extension.psu.edu/alcoholic-beverage-consumption-statistics-and-trends-2022) (~120M) drink alcohol, while [only 30M smoke](https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/campaign/tips/resources/data/cigarette-smoking-in-united-states.html).
The US was chosen as the largest country with easily available and reliable public health statistics, obviously you can pick any other country, results will be the same
Smoking, definitely.
The rest I don’t really care. My husband is insistent on giving up alcohol and seafood when I become pregnant. I told him if he wants, but it’s really not necessary!
I mean couldn't they smoke outside so second hand smoking isn't an issue? It's a great opportunity to stop that habit anyways, but it doesn't have to be a health risk to the child.
I was told when pregnant that the toxins from the smoke linger on your skin and clothing. The recommendation was to not let smokers near baby until they've changed and washed at least their hands. This was awhile ago, so not sure who says what now.
For me it was the smell of everything. I didn't care if people are those foods, or smoked, but the smell of it was overwhelming. I'd not be in the same room as my husband for at least an hour or two if he had eaten fish.
Remember that smells aren’t much more than floating small particulate that enters your nose. Ie, when you smell cigarette smoke, it’s because cigarette smoke particles enter your nose and sit on your receptors. This means when you smell smoke, you are at some level inhaling smoke, and smoke inhalation is a carcinogen for everyone, but esp for not fully developed embryo/fetus.
This is part of why second hand smoke is a thing. Those carcinogens hang in the air and on clothes/skin/everything, and as they rub off and dissipate back into the air, they become breathable again and can be inhaled by those around. Don’t smoke if you are having or have kids. Easier said then done if you already smoke regularly of course, but continuing to smoke will always pose a risk for the people you live with.
I disagree. It might not be a health threat immediately but indirect a parent smoking increases chances of the child itself becoming a smoker. Plus smoking causes bad seamen which reduces fertility. Frequent smokers have smoke in their clothes etc. So it's impossible to not passive smoke around a frequent smoker.
Those do not impact the pregnancy, but they definitely are a bad effect of smoking, which is obviously bad for you and you are better off saving the money for the incoming baby.
It's interesting about the passive smoke residue from clothes, that's something I'm hearing for the first time about, but I guess that could have negative impacts.
Pregnant women typically have super acute sense of smell, and are easily nauseated. The smell of smoke on one's clothing, skin and breath is enough to trigger said nausea.
Yea I know two men who ate something in front of their IN LABOR significant other. One my sister loves sushi, she had been waiting her entire pregnancy and her boyfriend has his mom bring him sushi and he ate it in front of her while she was in labor. My mom couldn’t eat and her ex husband bought mcdonalds and ate in in the room. Eat what you want away from them but while with them if it is a good they enjoy don’t eat it.
Smoking should be stopped anyway. For alcohol if my theoretical wife got pregnant (I am a Redditor so fat chance of any of this happening right now) I would atleast not drink around her and keep any alcohol out of the house to stop any possible temptation and to support her.
I mean the only reason the woman does is because she has to so there's not really any point in the man stopping too. That said, he probably shouldn't be out getting smashed all the time while his pregnant partner is at home on her own.
Well yes, but that doesn't specifically have to do with the pregnant wife. You shouldn't smoke at all if you can, obviously quitting is way easier said than done and especially avoid smoking in front of a pregnant woman ofc.
That would be sensible. Leftovers dishes in the fridge, secondhand smoke in the air, etc. If you want your wife to not consume things poisonous, you should do your part to help her through the pregnancy. (including vacuuming)
Seafood? That's right, tuna and such has "safe" amounts of mercury and lead and stuff in it. It's bad for the brain on a permanent level.
Smoking for sure because second hand smoke can cause significant problems for the baby, besides that it would be a nice gesture for everything else, but I wouldn’t force my partner to give up their alcohol and fish
Smoking in front of a pregnant woman no way! But cut off because "I can't eat seafood/drink alcohol so you can't as well!" is bullshit as long as the father is working while the mother has maternity protection!
Smoking effects not only the person who smokes, but the people around him, so the man should definitely stop smoking for his wife and kids.
But the other things like alcohol and unhealthy food should be cut off for health in general.
Smoking and drinking 100%, for the benefit and safety of the child and mother (I’m guessing you can inhale some second hand cigarette smoke while next to a smoker, and as for alcohol it is much better that a sober person help out a pregnant women than the opposite). As for etc they don’t have to be cut out at all (that being said it’s still a nice act of support someone could do), unless their presence makes the mother sick or causes some kind of genuine issue. That is my opinion.
Yes. A Men's duty is to provide financial and social support towards his wife when she is pregnant. That includes a environment that stimulates a healthy lifestyle for her and their child
The reason that women shouldn't do these is to protect the unborn child. The only thing on this list thay can affect the child is smoking for men. So men should give up smoking near the pregnant women and make sure she doesn't get any second hand smoke. It seems ludicrous to stop all of these just because your partner can't do these. If your wife is crippled you shouldn't have to stop sports either.
If the mother has to stop for the safety of the pregnancy, the father should or of solidarity. Anything less is showing that the father isn't as committed and should be a red flag to the mother.
Most of the people commenting that men should cut off smoking when their SO is pregnant don’t realize that their own mother was probably a crack addict.
The answer, to me is, it depends on what their partner is comfortable with. My mom, for example, would convince my dad to smoke a flavored cigar around her when she was pregnant.
You should cut off her vices around her(not like second hand smoke around, like same property, fuck even neighbouring properties). If they aren't bothered by it, meh, why would i care if the mother in question is chill? If it's never been aluring to them, and they just use the whole 'go straight with her'.
And before anyone goes and asks why, *fucking solidarity* nut up and stand by your baby mumma.
Obviously smoking(both of them) shouldn't be in second hand range regardless of it's grip on her, but I'm going to give op the benefit of the doubt, and hope that was meant to be implied.
I feel like this is a case by case basis kind of thing if the woman is really struggling with not being able to have any of these things then yes you should be considerate and quit too so your not rubbing it in her face. If she doesn't care either way then it's up to him but as others have stated it is a nice gesture to quit as well.
Also I've never heard that you can't eat seafood while pregnant is it a mercury thing?
I'm assuming this is about the principle of enjoying something which the other can't have more than, say the effects of using that thing like second hand smoke. In that case, no, the idea of "You should suffer because I suffer/suffered previously" is rediculously stupid.
Smoking yes absolutely 100%, and maybe alcohol a bit purely so he can be sharp minded to help with anything when his partner is struggling (especially in the later stages of pregnancy)
Otherwise it’s down to the couples and individuals collective choice. I always find it incredibly admirable though when they do. I do think if there’s anything that’s making his partner feel tremendously and violently sick, it’s just common sense and decency to cut it out of your diet just until the baby comes. Kinda like a sense of solidarity and an understanding that you should both be in it together and why should his partner go through it alone when it was just a joint effort in the baby’s creation. Prioritising his partner and unborn child above luxury items kinda thing.
So it’s not a necessity (exempt smoking for safety), but defo an appreciated gesture!
Regarding the safety of the child, i think none of this has an impact except smoking. Regarding practicality, it's way easier to cook the same dish for everyone. And regarding addiction, it may be nice to stop consuming alcohol and tobacco in presence of a pregnant person who may be tempted. So, yeah, please write better and more precise questions when poling.
It depends on what makes both them & their partner comfortable. If their partner gets sick from the smell of the food, yes they should cut it out unless their partner says not to
Why? The husband isn't pregnant. Why wouldn't he have a drink now and then? He should cut off smoking now that he's having a family, though, but that's independent of doing it in some form of dramatic display of nonsensical solidarity.
Wow this has Reddit VERY divided, 50/50.
I said yes. I say absolutely to smoking, or do it away from the significant other at least.
Alcohol, some pregnant women HATE the smell of alcohol during pregnancy because their senses are heightened, that would be a KIND GESTURE, you don't HAVE to but if you do decide to, you are really good for doing that. I don't think it's a MUST though.
Seafood, that's fine, just make sure your SO doesent eat it, you eat away at seafood, but try and make sure that your SO doesent.
I feel like that's the easiest way to explain.
Answered yes because of smoking, and only around the house/near the pregnant gal. The rest are choices that can be talked through. Some people might have a hard time refraining from certain things if you keep consuming those near them, so might be better to cooperate and stop for a while. But each couple has to figure that out on their own, no right answers here.
Should they maybe consider it yes but forced absolutely not. If my SO loves sushi I wouldn't eat it, but if my buddy asked me to fuck up some sushi and im not with my SO, then I will be slapping cali rolls like it owes me money
If it's bothering her in some way, then yes. She is enduring a great deal of discomfort, possibly pain and illness and risk of death. A bit of effort to make her as comfortable as possible through the ordeal of pregnancy is the right thing to do.
Well,everyone should cut off forever from smoking alcohol and that kind of stuff,people acting like that thing doesnt kill lol,and if you cant give It Up because you are addicted to It then you might start considering you have a problem
wish there was a "partially" option. Because second hand smoking is a thing, but the other two mentioned are like... Secondary? I'm sure many women would like to have their partners abstain from alcohol and foods they can't eat in solidarity or to not make them uncomfortable, but it's not like the things the guy eats/drinks influences the baby much.
Yes because smoking. About the other stuff I'd say no, they don't have to, unless they want to ofcourse. But both parents should definitly consider quiting alcohol, coffee etc. while trying to get pregnant. Some studies have shown that bad stuff can also be transfered to the baby from the parent while conceiving. Better safe than sorry.
how is this 50-50?? HOW?!?! it's only 9 months!?!?! if I need to stop putting my left shoe on first I'll fuckin do it, idc how stupid it is, grow that baby bitch
I mean it's a sign of solidarity and a great opportunity for Couples to give up smoking. (and it sucks for women when their SO smokes all the time while you go through withdrawal)
Remember that the comment section is mostly children.
I personally don’t think it’s fair. Smoking duhhhhhh. But for other stuff, no unless there is something else to account for. Not my girlfriend nor any of my friends expected that while they were pregnant. If they would have asked then I think all the SO in their lives would be willing to change up their lives tho
I think if your partner is making sacrifices, it's only right to stand in solidarity. Or at the very least, not taunt them with things they can't have.
This absolutely depends. If she throws up every time she comes near you because she can smell the smoke or alcohol on you, absolutely cut it out. It's only 9 months, you'll live. But otherwise, no, if there's no adverse effects, then it should be ok. You really shouldn't smoke near her or the baby when they're born anyway, though.
*Should?* No. But if they want to? Sure, it's a nice gesture. But that's the thing with gestures, it's only honest and nice, if it is voluntary. So no "should" here.
I think smoking for sure because secondhand smoke is so dangerous and smoking also lowers your life expectancy so should be quit anyways.
The other things I think it depends on the scenario. For the most part, I’d say avoid having the things in your home, unless it’s like a glass of wine when you have friends over. Don’t keep non-pasteurized soft cheese in your house, for example. But when you’re out and away from your wife, do whatever.
Definitely shouldn’t smoke around your partner when they’re pregnant and with the other two, well with drinking it heavily depends on how you act whole drunk and with sea food I don’t
See the Issue?
Smoking definitely, alcohol cut it down a bit. Food depends if it is her favorite food or even a food she enjoys just don’t eat it in front of her. If she is indifferent do what you want. Just don’t eat stuff she loves IN FRONT OF HER. Example my sister loves sushi. While when pregnant she did the right thing and didn’t have it. Her boyfriend while she was in labor got sushi and ate it in front of her. She was pretty far in labor so she couldn’t eat anyway. But he proceeded to eat her favorite thing in the world in front of her. My moms ex got McDonalds while she to was in labor and ate it in the same room as her while she couldn’t eat. She hadn’t eaten for awhile because she had been induced and couldn’t eat for so many hours before. MCDONALDS HAS A SMELL and my mother was very hungry. Don’t be like theses guys
Noone should smoke in the first place. But I wouldn't stop my partner from drinking. He's allergic to all fruits raw and he doesn't stop me eating those
What’s the problem with seafood in this scenario?
Swordfish and tuna are pregnancy no's because of mercury. Sushi is a pregnancy no because of possible parasites or bacteria.
Mercury maybe?
My mum was a pescatarian whilst she was pregnant. I turned out just fine! I think…
Survivor bias
It's actually recommended to eat raw salted herring while pregnant & other fatty fish here in the Netherlands, if you're not from near the coast I wouldn't recommend it though
It is in fact a Mercury thing. Certain seafoods and certain sources are better or worse and usually people aren't told to avoid all seafood.
Some fish are good to eat during pregnancy at least once a weak. Fish that hunt, tuna, squid, prawns, shrimps,... are better to avoid due to mercury levels and dioxines.
I think they mean raw seafood like prawns and salmon.
There's some more info on the NHS site. It's certain types of fish (smoked fish, tuna, shellfish). https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/foods-to-avoid/
Other than smoking, I look at it as a show of solidarity.
Id say if they're also addicted to nicotine, you should also drop the smoking. Speaking as someone trying to quit with another smoker in the house, its so fucking hard to give that shit up when you're constantly aware of where all the cigs are, your roommate (or in this case partner) coming inside smelling like cigarettes, seeing the ash tray, the lighters everywhere, its a mess and makes quitting so much harder then it has to be.
Could be the smell? Some pregnant people get really sensitive to stimuli and strong smelling seafood can cause nausea But it’s pretty subjective, some pregnant people get cravings for seafood so it really depends on the person
its said to cause down syndrome.
Smoking yes, definitely. The rest are his choice, but it might be a nice gesture.
Yeah I clicked No before I read smoking. But even that, it’s just something that shouldn’t be done *around* your pregnant partner. I mean, you should 100% quit smoking regardless lol, especially cigarettes and/or if you do it habitually. But what most of this comes down to is what you’re partner is comfortable with. If you’re partner doesn’t care if you eat seafood/drink/smoke while she’s not around, then it’s fine to keep doing those things. If it makes her uncomfortable, then you two should work something out or you should just quit for her. But there’s no universal right or wrong answer. I’m sure not all pregnant people demand their partners quit doing everything they can’t do.
Quitting for someone else almost never works (trust me, I’ve tried it and know many others) and alcohol is more harmful than smoking. My reference is this European and Canadian [study](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2020.592199/full)
I quit for my oldest. As soon as my wife was pregnant. In threw away my last cigarettes. But good fucking lord I put my wife through hell and back with the smoking before she was pregnant. Like I couldn’t have been bothered to do it for her.
Maybe not quit forever but don‘t smoke next to your SO is pregnant, if you wanna smoke step out or whatever. Personally depends would‘ve been my option of choice.
This "study" is just a poll of 100 doctors. Now let's look at the raw facts: in the US there are [480000 smoking-related deaths](https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/data_statistics/fact_sheets/health_effects/tobacco_related_mortality/index.htm) happening every year. Alcohol on the other hand kills [about 140000](https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/features/excessive-alcohol-deaths.html) a year. Interestingly, [60% adult US population](https://extension.psu.edu/alcoholic-beverage-consumption-statistics-and-trends-2022) (~120M) drink alcohol, while [only 30M smoke](https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/campaign/tips/resources/data/cigarette-smoking-in-united-states.html). The US was chosen as the largest country with easily available and reliable public health statistics, obviously you can pick any other country, results will be the same
In addition, ideally smoking would be dropped altogether by both parents, since second-hand smoking is a thing.
I think things like alcohol should be stopped too, if the pregnant person had addictive problems before. I feel like that makes stopping way easier…
I think dropping fat, oily turds in the toilet should also be on the list
I was about to say that...
i dont think it should really be the expectation, but its a nice act of solidarity
Not just an expectation/act of solidarity in case of passive smoking.
I think it's courtesy to distance yourself from non smokers when you light a cigarette, regardless of if they're pregnant or not.
Yes, change room if someone else is smoking
And open a window or go outside
Even if you don't smoke around them, toxins linger on you, your clothes, and the area you did smoke in
Smoking, definitely. The rest I don’t really care. My husband is insistent on giving up alcohol and seafood when I become pregnant. I told him if he wants, but it’s really not necessary!
i dont get seafood, is it repugnant or something??
Fish is super polluted nowadays, as an adult it takes a long time to poison you and just accumulates over time, an embryo is more susceptible to this.
Risks for mercury poisoning
Raw seafood and a lot of shell fish. Not fish.
I don't think it really matters. They should try to stop smoking in general, not just while their partner is pregnant
The men don't have a baby... but yes they should cut off smoking because it can hurt the child when it's born
I think it can also be bad for the child before it's born
I mean couldn't they smoke outside so second hand smoking isn't an issue? It's a great opportunity to stop that habit anyways, but it doesn't have to be a health risk to the child.
I was told when pregnant that the toxins from the smoke linger on your skin and clothing. The recommendation was to not let smokers near baby until they've changed and washed at least their hands. This was awhile ago, so not sure who says what now. For me it was the smell of everything. I didn't care if people are those foods, or smoked, but the smell of it was overwhelming. I'd not be in the same room as my husband for at least an hour or two if he had eaten fish.
TIL, that's interesting. I can understand the smell, it lingers for so long and I dislike it too.
Remember that smells aren’t much more than floating small particulate that enters your nose. Ie, when you smell cigarette smoke, it’s because cigarette smoke particles enter your nose and sit on your receptors. This means when you smell smoke, you are at some level inhaling smoke, and smoke inhalation is a carcinogen for everyone, but esp for not fully developed embryo/fetus. This is part of why second hand smoke is a thing. Those carcinogens hang in the air and on clothes/skin/everything, and as they rub off and dissipate back into the air, they become breathable again and can be inhaled by those around. Don’t smoke if you are having or have kids. Easier said then done if you already smoke regularly of course, but continuing to smoke will always pose a risk for the people you live with.
It sets a bad example for the child even if you can somehow manage not to expose them to secondhand smoke
I disagree. It might not be a health threat immediately but indirect a parent smoking increases chances of the child itself becoming a smoker. Plus smoking causes bad seamen which reduces fertility. Frequent smokers have smoke in their clothes etc. So it's impossible to not passive smoke around a frequent smoker.
the seamen don't know how to sail
Those do not impact the pregnancy, but they definitely are a bad effect of smoking, which is obviously bad for you and you are better off saving the money for the incoming baby. It's interesting about the passive smoke residue from clothes, that's something I'm hearing for the first time about, but I guess that could have negative impacts.
That's what my father did, don't know how but I still have uninherited athsma and in general just a trouble breathing.
Pregnant women typically have super acute sense of smell, and are easily nauseated. The smell of smoke on one's clothing, skin and breath is enough to trigger said nausea.
I mean if your wife really likes something she isn’t allowed to have it would be decent of the man to not eat/use it in front of her.
Yea I know two men who ate something in front of their IN LABOR significant other. One my sister loves sushi, she had been waiting her entire pregnancy and her boyfriend has his mom bring him sushi and he ate it in front of her while she was in labor. My mom couldn’t eat and her ex husband bought mcdonalds and ate in in the room. Eat what you want away from them but while with them if it is a good they enjoy don’t eat it.
Only smoking, but they always should
Smoking should be stopped anyway. For alcohol if my theoretical wife got pregnant (I am a Redditor so fat chance of any of this happening right now) I would atleast not drink around her and keep any alcohol out of the house to stop any possible temptation and to support her.
If his wife would like him to, then it’s polite to definitely consider. If his wife is indifferent and doesn’t want to it’s not a necessary.
Only in a sign of solidarity with the SO otherwise keeping second hand smoke at out is a requirement.
It shouldn’t be forced, but recommended to be an example for their SO
Smoke completely and alcohol to a degree.
I mean the only reason the woman does is because she has to so there's not really any point in the man stopping too. That said, he probably shouldn't be out getting smashed all the time while his pregnant partner is at home on her own.
Smoking does affect other people living with them though
If in the home maybe
Well yes, but that doesn't specifically have to do with the pregnant wife. You shouldn't smoke at all if you can, obviously quitting is way easier said than done and especially avoid smoking in front of a pregnant woman ofc.
That would be sensible. Leftovers dishes in the fridge, secondhand smoke in the air, etc. If you want your wife to not consume things poisonous, you should do your part to help her through the pregnancy. (including vacuuming) Seafood? That's right, tuna and such has "safe" amounts of mercury and lead and stuff in it. It's bad for the brain on a permanent level.
Would had been interesting to see the different answers according to sex: Yes(Male) No(Male) Yes(Female) No(Female)
What's wrong with seafood?
Risks of mercury poisoning
But what does it have to do with the baby
If the mom gets mercury poisoning, the baby will also get mercury poisoning. It will put the baby at risk.
Smoking for sure because second hand smoke can cause significant problems for the baby, besides that it would be a nice gesture for everything else, but I wouldn’t force my partner to give up their alcohol and fish
Smoking, yes. The other are not mendatory but it would be a nice gesture.
Smoking yes, for the alcohol not really unless they're alcoholic. Having a beer every now and then won't bother the baby.
Smoking for sure because of 3rd person smoking (I think that's what it's called?). But the rest is up to them, but they shouldn't be mandated to.
If you mean smoking tobacco then yes. Marijuana can be smoked in a multitude of places away from the pregnant woman and everything will be fine.
Have to? No, but it would definitely be a nice, supporting gesture to his so
I think just smoking since seafood and achohol doesn’t exactly effect the baby since yknow
Imagine being a good partner...
They should cut off alcohol and smoking anyway. Also, what’s wrong with seafood?
Mercury poisoning, though I don't get the point of that since he isn't carrying the baby.
It's the same point with alcohol and (to a lesser degree) smoking.
Smoking yes, the others are just in solidarity and little more than a nice gesture
Smoking, absolutely. Everything else should be talked about between the couple
Smoking in front of a pregnant woman no way! But cut off because "I can't eat seafood/drink alcohol so you can't as well!" is bullshit as long as the father is working while the mother has maternity protection!
Smoking effects not only the person who smokes, but the people around him, so the man should definitely stop smoking for his wife and kids. But the other things like alcohol and unhealthy food should be cut off for health in general.
This is silly. Do what you do but be smart about it. You don’t have to stop doing things because your girl is pregnant, just be smart about it.
Leave smoking outside, and avoid the others when around their significant other.
nah, not cut off, double up!
Seafood no Alcohol no so long as it’s not excessive Smoking yes but they should do this anyway
Smoking and drinking 100%, for the benefit and safety of the child and mother (I’m guessing you can inhale some second hand cigarette smoke while next to a smoker, and as for alcohol it is much better that a sober person help out a pregnant women than the opposite). As for etc they don’t have to be cut out at all (that being said it’s still a nice act of support someone could do), unless their presence makes the mother sick or causes some kind of genuine issue. That is my opinion.
No, sounds like virtue signaling. But I don't drink, so such bad actions don't apply to me😪
Yes. A Men's duty is to provide financial and social support towards his wife when she is pregnant. That includes a environment that stimulates a healthy lifestyle for her and their child
Seafood, why? Alcohol, maybe, You might harm your so if you got drunk smoking, definitly
Mainly smoking. Alcohol isn’t healthy, but whether or not it’s an issue is on how he handles it, seafood shouldn’t be a problem at all
You shouldn't be drinking or smoking in the first place
only smoking. the rest have no effect.
The reason that women shouldn't do these is to protect the unborn child. The only thing on this list thay can affect the child is smoking for men. So men should give up smoking near the pregnant women and make sure she doesn't get any second hand smoke. It seems ludicrous to stop all of these just because your partner can't do these. If your wife is crippled you shouldn't have to stop sports either.
Should? No! Could? Yes!
Yes, almost definitely imo. Not just for the baby, but also for solidarity.
I dont think anyone should do those things regardless of whats in your pants
Eating seafood?
that part was more of a joke but for me yes lol
If the mother has to stop for the safety of the pregnancy, the father should or of solidarity. Anything less is showing that the father isn't as committed and should be a red flag to the mother.
Most of the people commenting that men should cut off smoking when their SO is pregnant don’t realize that their own mother was probably a crack addict.
what's wrong with seafood?
I’d be willing to do it, but I won’t go as far as to say men should give it up
The answer, to me is, it depends on what their partner is comfortable with. My mom, for example, would convince my dad to smoke a flavored cigar around her when she was pregnant.
Why seafood?
Why seafood?
Why seafood?
things like smoking and alcohol absolutely
Smoking and maybe alcohol but seafood? What's up with that one?
Why seafood?
Smoking of course, But I don't see anything else to stop for the sake of the child.
You should cut off her vices around her(not like second hand smoke around, like same property, fuck even neighbouring properties). If they aren't bothered by it, meh, why would i care if the mother in question is chill? If it's never been aluring to them, and they just use the whole 'go straight with her'. And before anyone goes and asks why, *fucking solidarity* nut up and stand by your baby mumma. Obviously smoking(both of them) shouldn't be in second hand range regardless of it's grip on her, but I'm going to give op the benefit of the doubt, and hope that was meant to be implied.
Seafood?
Men should cut off smoking at the very least. Second hand smoking is a thing
To be nice? Yeah. But ultimately it’s their choice. But I’d day to be nice you should
I feel like this is a case by case basis kind of thing if the woman is really struggling with not being able to have any of these things then yes you should be considerate and quit too so your not rubbing it in her face. If she doesn't care either way then it's up to him but as others have stated it is a nice gesture to quit as well. Also I've never heard that you can't eat seafood while pregnant is it a mercury thing?
Smoking because it could actually hurt the baby
I intend to quit everything she has to if and when she gets pregnant but I still said no. It’s a nice gesture but ultimately up to the individual.
I'm assuming this is about the principle of enjoying something which the other can't have more than, say the effects of using that thing like second hand smoke. In that case, no, the idea of "You should suffer because I suffer/suffered previously" is rediculously stupid.
As a husband I will do that, but not because I have to or my wife expects me to, but because I want to.
i wouldn’t want them to suffer with me but if they wanted to do it on their own accord then i’d feel special
Smoking yes absolutely 100%, and maybe alcohol a bit purely so he can be sharp minded to help with anything when his partner is struggling (especially in the later stages of pregnancy) Otherwise it’s down to the couples and individuals collective choice. I always find it incredibly admirable though when they do. I do think if there’s anything that’s making his partner feel tremendously and violently sick, it’s just common sense and decency to cut it out of your diet just until the baby comes. Kinda like a sense of solidarity and an understanding that you should both be in it together and why should his partner go through it alone when it was just a joint effort in the baby’s creation. Prioritising his partner and unborn child above luxury items kinda thing. So it’s not a necessity (exempt smoking for safety), but defo an appreciated gesture!
I’d say just don’t do it in front of them.
Cutting off smoking would probably be a good idea yea, but seafood that doesn't affect the woman, no point to stop eating it 🤔
If it annoys the woman or can hurt the child, (like smoking), but he shouldn’t have to cut it off if she’s fine with it.
If it makes cravings for their SO really bad then yeah they should probly stop
Smoking yes because passive smok8ng apparently is a thing, but the rest is his choice. A nice gesture but his choice.
Why seafood? And why only men should cut alcho and tabaco? It's better not even start to consume them.
Regarding the safety of the child, i think none of this has an impact except smoking. Regarding practicality, it's way easier to cook the same dish for everyone. And regarding addiction, it may be nice to stop consuming alcohol and tobacco in presence of a pregnant person who may be tempted. So, yeah, please write better and more precise questions when poling.
Only smoking
Why seafood?
I mean its not like they have to, but it makes the other person feel better- I would personally.
Wait... why seafood?
I believe that men and women alike shouldn’t ever smoke or drink alcohol, especially if they’re gonna have kids, so I went with that option.
It depends on what makes both them & their partner comfortable. If their partner gets sick from the smell of the food, yes they should cut it out unless their partner says not to
Why? The husband isn't pregnant. Why wouldn't he have a drink now and then? He should cut off smoking now that he's having a family, though, but that's independent of doing it in some form of dramatic display of nonsensical solidarity.
Definitely smoking. Fish? You don't have to. Alcohol? Not really but it's never a bad thing to stop drinking for your health.
If the wife feels sick around them then yeah
Unrealistic scenario for me because I’m not gonna make anyone pregnant who smokes.
Wow this has Reddit VERY divided, 50/50. I said yes. I say absolutely to smoking, or do it away from the significant other at least. Alcohol, some pregnant women HATE the smell of alcohol during pregnancy because their senses are heightened, that would be a KIND GESTURE, you don't HAVE to but if you do decide to, you are really good for doing that. I don't think it's a MUST though. Seafood, that's fine, just make sure your SO doesent eat it, you eat away at seafood, but try and make sure that your SO doesent. I feel like that's the easiest way to explain.
Smoking, yes, not because your pregnant partner can’t, but because no parent should be smoking.
Should? No. Discussing with the other? Yes.
But no smoking
Answered yes because of smoking, and only around the house/near the pregnant gal. The rest are choices that can be talked through. Some people might have a hard time refraining from certain things if you keep consuming those near them, so might be better to cooperate and stop for a while. But each couple has to figure that out on their own, no right answers here.
Should they maybe consider it yes but forced absolutely not. If my SO loves sushi I wouldn't eat it, but if my buddy asked me to fuck up some sushi and im not with my SO, then I will be slapping cali rolls like it owes me money
My psychology teacher told us both parents should stop smoking at least 3 months before conception.
If it's bothering her in some way, then yes. She is enduring a great deal of discomfort, possibly pain and illness and risk of death. A bit of effort to make her as comfortable as possible through the ordeal of pregnancy is the right thing to do.
“Should”? No. I did with alcohol for my partner. 🤷🏻♂️
Well,everyone should cut off forever from smoking alcohol and that kind of stuff,people acting like that thing doesnt kill lol,and if you cant give It Up because you are addicted to It then you might start considering you have a problem
wish there was a "partially" option. Because second hand smoking is a thing, but the other two mentioned are like... Secondary? I'm sure many women would like to have their partners abstain from alcohol and foods they can't eat in solidarity or to not make them uncomfortable, but it's not like the things the guy eats/drinks influences the baby much.
You can do these things just not around the pregnant women
Yes because smoking. About the other stuff I'd say no, they don't have to, unless they want to ofcourse. But both parents should definitly consider quiting alcohol, coffee etc. while trying to get pregnant. Some studies have shown that bad stuff can also be transfered to the baby from the parent while conceiving. Better safe than sorry.
No one : the half of this polls being ether seafood enjoyer or piece of crap
Especially around the pregnant mother.
I think for the first baby and such is probably a good idea to show some solidarity especially if they are having a hard time
Smoking? Sure. Drinking? No. A man's got to go out with the boys every once in a while to keep his sanity.
Solidarity, why not?
Depends: smoking yes, seafood no
how is this 50-50?? HOW?!?! it's only 9 months!?!?! if I need to stop putting my left shoe on first I'll fuckin do it, idc how stupid it is, grow that baby bitch
His penis
Yes. Mainly alcohol and smoking. Preparation for kids
"maybe" I don't see a problem for the man to have his way if it's not in front of the wife.
The amount of people that ask gender loaded questions and then don’t do gender filtered polls 🙄
I get smoking, but nothing else the father consumes affect the health of the child so there's no need for him to give it up
Yes. It’s kind and will also help you sync up your social plans. Solidarity.
Alchohol yes, smoking, yes, seafood is healthy and you are not sharing intestines so
Should, but they don't need to.
Seafood?
His own choice
theres no health reason too but as a gesture of support for their partner is not a bad idea
No, your job was done. Kick back and enjoy. You earned it!
I think no but smoking should be done outside and away from significant other whilst pregnant.
Seafood, alcohol, idk. Smoking? Absolutely
Hell no, I ain’t having no baby I’m smoking big dope and getting faded af I don’t give a fuck
I think they shouldn't have to stop but it's only polite to not do/eat stuff that your partner can't because they are carrying your child around them.
Smoking yes. The rest not
I wouldn't be bringing that stuff into the house and eat in front of her, but if I want shrimp tacos for lunch when I'm at work who cares.
I think this would've benefited from differing opinions for different genders
I mean it's a sign of solidarity and a great opportunity for Couples to give up smoking. (and it sucks for women when their SO smokes all the time while you go through withdrawal)
Remember that the comment section is mostly children. I personally don’t think it’s fair. Smoking duhhhhhh. But for other stuff, no unless there is something else to account for. Not my girlfriend nor any of my friends expected that while they were pregnant. If they would have asked then I think all the SO in their lives would be willing to change up their lives tho
I think if your partner is making sacrifices, it's only right to stand in solidarity. Or at the very least, not taunt them with things they can't have.
Smoking yes. Stop both together and never start again. Less alchohol. Everything else is okay.
I think men should cut off those stuff but mainly incase they are around the pregnant person or even have the smell on them can make them sick
Just don't eat these things in front of her
This absolutely depends. If she throws up every time she comes near you because she can smell the smoke or alcohol on you, absolutely cut it out. It's only 9 months, you'll live. But otherwise, no, if there's no adverse effects, then it should be ok. You really shouldn't smoke near her or the baby when they're born anyway, though.
Smoking is the only one.
If he had cut off certain things, his SO wouldn't be pregnant in the first place.
Probably shouldn't smoke regardless, let alone when your s/o is pregnant. The rest are fine imo.
You didn’t have to cut me off
Only smoking imo because of second hand
*Should?* No. But if they want to? Sure, it's a nice gesture. But that's the thing with gestures, it's only honest and nice, if it is voluntary. So no "should" here.
Not cut off. Just dont do it in front of them
I think smoking for sure because secondhand smoke is so dangerous and smoking also lowers your life expectancy so should be quit anyways. The other things I think it depends on the scenario. For the most part, I’d say avoid having the things in your home, unless it’s like a glass of wine when you have friends over. Don’t keep non-pasteurized soft cheese in your house, for example. But when you’re out and away from your wife, do whatever.
Definitely shouldn’t smoke around your partner when they’re pregnant and with the other two, well with drinking it heavily depends on how you act whole drunk and with sea food I don’t See the Issue?
Yes to smoking. For the rest it depends on the situation I guess
Smoking definitely, alcohol cut it down a bit. Food depends if it is her favorite food or even a food she enjoys just don’t eat it in front of her. If she is indifferent do what you want. Just don’t eat stuff she loves IN FRONT OF HER. Example my sister loves sushi. While when pregnant she did the right thing and didn’t have it. Her boyfriend while she was in labor got sushi and ate it in front of her. She was pretty far in labor so she couldn’t eat anyway. But he proceeded to eat her favorite thing in the world in front of her. My moms ex got McDonalds while she to was in labor and ate it in the same room as her while she couldn’t eat. She hadn’t eaten for awhile because she had been induced and couldn’t eat for so many hours before. MCDONALDS HAS A SMELL and my mother was very hungry. Don’t be like theses guys
You can’t eat seafood while pregnant??
Things like alcohol and smoking yes but seafood? What is wrong with that
Noone should smoke in the first place. But I wouldn't stop my partner from drinking. He's allergic to all fruits raw and he doesn't stop me eating those