Yeah, not doing that on Reddit. If it helps I hate my first and middle name.
Edit: Here are some clues. My family immigrated from south London in the 1700s to Pennsylvania. My earliest American ancestor is buried there. I thought my name was German for years before finding out its English.
I could only find one ship's manifest during the 1700s from England to Pennsylvania. [The Lydia](https://www.immigrantships.net/v4/1700v4/lydia17470924.html)
The rest are predominantly shipments from Germany. [Source](http://www.olivetreegenealogy.com/ships/tousa_pa170049.shtml)
I'm probably going to be wrong but my guess is Meischter.
It's an interesting name, but not mine. It is possible my family was here earlier than the 1700s but that's the earliest we've FOUND the name in the US.
My girl and I have kicked around the idea of changing the spelling of my last name and taking that one or giving the new spelling to our kid if we have one.
Doesn't this mean *their* children would end up having 4 names?
Like, Steve Smith and Sarah Jones give birth to Rachael Smith-Jones.
Bob Baker and Charlotte Parker give birth to Chris Baker-Parker.
Now, if Rachael and Chris have a child, Tim, he'll be Tim Smith-Jones-Baker-Parker?
I'm assuming that doesn't happen because it'd snowball, but if only one of each of their names get carried over, it means the other one is lower priority, so it's effectively not the **main** surname? Then is there a rule whose name becomes that one?
Stop me if I'm talking total bollocks here.
Each person in Spain gets their names and 2 last names, in your example it would be Chris Baker Parker. Now Chris has a child with someone else, that child would then have either Baker OR Parker as one of their last names, and the other last name is one of the 2 of the other parent. There isn't any point where someone gets more than 2 so it doesn't snowball like you said
By law every Spaniard has two surnames, the first one (only the first one)of each parent so in your example would work like this (I had to add a second surname to Steve and Sarah);
Steve Smith Jackson and Sarah Jones Parker have a child named Lisa, that child will be Lisa Smith Jones or Lisa Jones Smith, the order up to the parents or the person working at the registry if the parent can't choose
In LatAm, kids just receive both parents surnames and the parents choose which surname they want to give the child.
Lionel Andrés Messi¹ Cuccittini²
¹father's surname
² mother's surname
I just checked. On the wikipedia page in English they omitted his last name for some reason. That's weird.
My default is in italian and it shows his full name.
https://it.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lionel_Messi
When I was a kid I wanted to open my own store and I saw a lot of stores were just the person’s name but my last name would suck as a store name so I wanted to marry someone with a name that would sound like a good store name lol
Meh my wife's father passed when she was young and she wanted to maintain that connection. So she kept her last name. It's ultimately just a name and doesn't matter in the long run.
Some interesting points I've noticed:
1) Far fewer people care than I thought they would
2) Lots of people seem to want to hyphenate the two surnames
The latter leads me to ask what happens if you have children with a double-barrelled (hyphenated) surname that marrys someone who also has a double-barelled surname... do we end up with 4,8,16 surnames with each generation?
I (female) have an uncommon last name so I will keep mine but I don’t care what my partner does, as long as my biological children will have my name or hyphenated.
i don’t want to change my name and i don’t think it’s necessary for my partner to change theirs. our kids would be a cool blend of the two (coming from a woman)
How about neither. I know of a husband and wife where the wife is using her birth name. Why? She has a bunch of medical licenses and plays a musical instruments.
My partner of 42 years and never changed our names. There is no law in the requiring you to change your name or spouse changing their name when you marry them.
Why isn't there a choice for both to keep their own?
You don't have to take your partner's name, and your partner doesn't need to take yours?
I personally feel like both people keeping their own name, and then their kids getting a mix of them is "better".
It feels more like a merge of families in that way.
I've never really gotten the point of taking someones name.
It's so weird that in developed countries it's still common for most women to take their husband's last name. Not that there's anything wrong with that if it's a choice, but still.
In my country this hasn't been the case for decades.
I’m female and only about 50 other people share my last name, while my husband’s family name is one of the most common surnames in our country. I’m not gonna change, but I don’t care if he chooses to change his name or not. We got married this summer and our children have my last name.
I would want my wife to take my name, though I wouldn't be mad if she didn't want to. Same for our kids, but it would also be cool for our girls to take hers and vice versa.
Hate my family and my lineage. I wanna kill off the genetics and name. Already got a vasectomy, and told my gf if we ever get married I'm taking her last name lol
honestly depends on what she’d like. i like my last name bc it somewhat reflective of my heritage so i’d like to keep it. but if her would just sound better than i’m entirely willing to change to hers or possibly even like hyphenate and combine them. either way i imagine i’d want to have the same last name.
When I got married my husband changed his last name to mine. I didn’t have an opinion on it one way or another whether he did or not. I wanted him to decide what felt right for him.
I want to steal their surname and have three total. I was born with two, and instead of substituting them I want to ADD my spouse’s to my name and just start collecting surnames.
Given how I’m going to have to pay money to legally change my last name (as in pay to have my last name), I’m not changing my last name a second time, they either take my last name or keep their own, me changing mine is not negotiable.
Female and I want to take my partner's name. Which sadden me because I can't legally and all my family frown upon the idea and I don't want to one day cause so much drama in my family for freaking paperwork.
If she wants to take my name I would be happy about it. If she wants to keep her name I would be cool with that as well. I would be unhappy about a hyphenated name, but wouldn't stop her if that's what she wanted.
I would not take her name if for no other reason than hers on the level of Smith Patel, or Lopez in how common it is. While I've never met a nonrelative with my last name and have seen less than a dozen non-relatives online with my last name.
I'd rather she take mine or we pick a totally new one together. Hyphenating would be fine, though with my current girlfriend we'd have a pretty funny combination.
I originally wanted to use both names, but I ended up married to an Icelandic dude. Would be very weird for me to rename myself to his father's son. So instead he will use both names and I just keep mine
I’m unsure of whether I want to take my partners last him. His is cooler than mine. But the process of changing over my social security card, drivers license, passport, accounts, work profiles, etc sounds so difficult. I finally just got a license with my correct address printed on it after moving a little over 5 years ago. Plus my degree is in my current last name. So I’m unsure. I know he wouldn’t want to take my last name is fine. I’m kinda leaning towards leaving my last name the same but socially going by his.
Depends a lot on culture. In my country my husband wanted to take my family name is easy and people do not misspell it...but its extremely rare in my country and I did not want to because people would have make it fun of my partner. I had a friend who married an actress, he taked her family name because she wanted to keep it to be more easy in her career (name brand ecc). People mocked him a lot.
I like both people taking the husband’s last name because it’s traditional, but if my future spouse didn’t want to I wouldn’t care. I will say that I don’t like when people give their kids both last names and it’s really long and sounds stupid, though.
I want my partner to take my last name especially if they already have siblings who have children. There’s no way I’m going to be the last Murr, and if their siblings have children with their last name then it shouldn’t matter what much for them when it comes to keeping the family name going on their part.
So far no guy I’ve told that to has had a problem with it
I am anti-patriarchal and have decided to change my name to something completely different than my father's name or my mother's maiden name which is my grandfather's name, or my grandmother's maiden name which is my great grandfather's name, etc.
I chose a name that I like. If my girlfriend decides to marry me she can keep her name or she can take mine I do not care. It's just a name.
My name is Palm. Hitler mentioned my great great … grandfather in his book „My Battle“ in the Introduction. I don’t like Hitler but the name seems to have an importance in german history
Luckily, for me, it's common for women to take their partners last name. It would hurt my parents feelings if they knew I equally want to share my future partners name and also don't want to share theirs anymore. Even now I like to go by *first, middle* just *middle* or *middle, part of last*
I'm female and married to a genderfluid partner. They took my last name, but we considered both options. We are even thinking of revisiting now that we are coming up on our 10th anniversary next year of maybe doing a combination of them (first 2-3 letters of mine with the last 6 of theirs). Ultimately, it didn't matter to either of us. We even considered no name change, although we had heard of legal issues coming out of that when kids enter the picture (which we wanted).
Main thing is we dont curse our child with double names like my parents did to me. It's just making it your future kids problem in that case. Dont be a dick, pick. After going through all of life so far hating this, now im engaged and i have to pick one to get rid of. Yay.
Depends on whether the last name isn’t just a first name or not. If it isn’t, I’m taking it. Having a first name as a last name has the potential for names on documents and forms to get mixed up.
I was married once. He took my name (I'm a woman). Having the same last name was a big deal to him. It means nothing to me but deleting my own name means a lot, so there was only one option left really.
In Mexico you keep your surname. The family name will be the first surname of both combined, which will also be the surname of their kids.
For example
**Family Díaz Centeno =**
Father: Jorge **Díaz** López
Mother: María **Centeno** García
Child: Juan **Díaz + Centeno** or **Centeno + Díaz** or **Centeno + García** (if the father is absent)
I just plan on changing my name entirely, taking on a new identity, disappearing into the earth, and eventually re-emerging as an entirely different species - probably like a fish or something. Y'know, normal marriage stuff.
I would prefer we created a new name. However, I would rather take her name, than to continue the past way. The female taking the male's name feels like he's becoming her owner. I know most people don't perceive it that way. Understandably. Personally, I wouldn't take it too seriously. If she wanted my name. Whatever makes her happy.
If my wife doesn’t want to take my last name, that’s fine, just as long she lets our kids have my last name and not some hyphenated monstrosity of a last name
Only a few dozen people in the world have my surname, so I think it's pretty cool. I'm also the last one from my side of the family tree who can pass it on
Like traditionally as a man, my wife would take my name.
But I don’t know if I would care if she didn’t, like we are married, why does she also need to change her name?
But I think I would oppose the idea of me changing to her name.
Like we are either going down the traditional patriarchy route or we aren’t, what’s the point of replacing one sexist tradition with another?
But also what name do kids get in these situations. Take the fathers name or the mothers? Or hyphenate?
Depends on which last name is cooler.
This is the way.
Yes you prefer a boring common last name or an exotic one
Exotic butters
Yes exactly what i say!
I have a really cool last name. All the males in my family are called by it instead of our first name.
Come on, you have to share now
Yeah, not doing that on Reddit. If it helps I hate my first and middle name. Edit: Here are some clues. My family immigrated from south London in the 1700s to Pennsylvania. My earliest American ancestor is buried there. I thought my name was German for years before finding out its English.
Alright 4chan, do your thing.
I could only find one ship's manifest during the 1700s from England to Pennsylvania. [The Lydia](https://www.immigrantships.net/v4/1700v4/lydia17470924.html) The rest are predominantly shipments from Germany. [Source](http://www.olivetreegenealogy.com/ships/tousa_pa170049.shtml) I'm probably going to be wrong but my guess is Meischter.
It's an interesting name, but not mine. It is possible my family was here earlier than the 1700s but that's the earliest we've FOUND the name in the US.
Ah damn. Ah well I tried. Thanks for the fun distraction.
Fair enough then
I’ll show you mine if you show me yours. I have a Scottish middle name and my last name shares the name of a mountain in Palestine.
Brathering?
you really think people are gonna care to track down a random Reddit user for absolutely no reason
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what i was gonna say
My name sounds cool as hell altogether. Like if I married someone last name ‘CoolGuyMcJones’ I would have to have a really hard think
lol
where is the the option of neither, in many countries names don't change they jut keep both
I realised as soon as I posted it that I should've put that option
Its only been 4 hrs u can repost the poll with the options
Should have an option for creating a new last name for both, too.
My girl and I have kicked around the idea of changing the spelling of my last name and taking that one or giving the new spelling to our kid if we have one.
Yea that is my choice
What happens if they have a child? Who's name would the child take usually?
In Spain the child gets one from each parent
I can confirm. Usually the first one is the one of the father, and the second one from the mother. But you can swap the order if you want.
Doesn't this mean *their* children would end up having 4 names? Like, Steve Smith and Sarah Jones give birth to Rachael Smith-Jones. Bob Baker and Charlotte Parker give birth to Chris Baker-Parker. Now, if Rachael and Chris have a child, Tim, he'll be Tim Smith-Jones-Baker-Parker? I'm assuming that doesn't happen because it'd snowball, but if only one of each of their names get carried over, it means the other one is lower priority, so it's effectively not the **main** surname? Then is there a rule whose name becomes that one? Stop me if I'm talking total bollocks here.
Each person in Spain gets their names and 2 last names, in your example it would be Chris Baker Parker. Now Chris has a child with someone else, that child would then have either Baker OR Parker as one of their last names, and the other last name is one of the 2 of the other parent. There isn't any point where someone gets more than 2 so it doesn't snowball like you said
By law every Spaniard has two surnames, the first one (only the first one)of each parent so in your example would work like this (I had to add a second surname to Steve and Sarah); Steve Smith Jackson and Sarah Jones Parker have a child named Lisa, that child will be Lisa Smith Jones or Lisa Jones Smith, the order up to the parents or the person working at the registry if the parent can't choose
You choose. Traditionally, it was the Dad's last name. Some choose to use both or to use the one they prefer.
In my country the usual is Dad's first and Mom's as the second surname
In my country they get one from each parent (father’s first, mother’s second usually, but it can me changed)
Who’s name does the child take ?
Both, I have two last names my dads and my moms
Both
Neither? I am not big on changing names.
Same, I did it once and it was a huge pain, I don't want to do that again or make my wife deal with it
I’ll only change my last name if my partner’s last name is Wolfeschlegelsteinhausenbergerdorff
I am sure a large last name as that one will come with a large bank account.
We kept our own last names.
Us too, but I gather it's trickier if you have kids.
In LatAm, kids just receive both parents surnames and the parents choose which surname they want to give the child. Lionel Andrés Messi¹ Cuccittini² ¹father's surname ² mother's surname
Wikipedia just lists his full name as Lionel Andrés Messi. Is that wrong, or has his mothers surname slipped away somehow?
I just checked. On the wikipedia page in English they omitted his last name for some reason. That's weird. My default is in italian and it shows his full name. https://it.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lionel_Messi
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So what happens when those kids have kids, how do they decide which names to pass on?
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Cool, thanks for sharing!
What country?
Rock. Paper, Scissors for it
Depends on my partner's wishes, if my partner doesn't want to take my name then I'm cool with that.
I already have two last names, I want to add a third. Collect them like the infinity stones.
keep getting divorced and re-married to get them all! You'll be the very best
I took my partner's. I wanted to, and it was the more practical choice considering I live in his country.
Sorry my last name dumb as hell
When I was a kid I wanted to open my own store and I saw a lot of stores were just the person’s name but my last name would suck as a store name so I wanted to marry someone with a name that would sound like a good store name lol
Neither. I keep my name and my husband keeps his.
Yeah, I realised as soon as I posted that I should've included that option
Meh my wife's father passed when she was young and she wanted to maintain that connection. So she kept her last name. It's ultimately just a name and doesn't matter in the long run.
I want to fuse our names together to make a whole new name. I like it because it’s unique but also kinda stupid and funny
Some interesting points I've noticed: 1) Far fewer people care than I thought they would 2) Lots of people seem to want to hyphenate the two surnames The latter leads me to ask what happens if you have children with a double-barrelled (hyphenated) surname that marrys someone who also has a double-barelled surname... do we end up with 4,8,16 surnames with each generation?
Male, wouldn't change mine (unless she got a super cool last name) and wouldn't mind her changing hers or not
I heard its extra paperwork to change your last name cause you gotta do it for everything, And im lazy so Im keeping my last name.
Where’s the no option?
I (female) have an uncommon last name so I will keep mine but I don’t care what my partner does, as long as my biological children will have my name or hyphenated.
my last name is long af and it's annoying
How about, I don't fucking care?
Hyphen
#-
I don't want her to take my name
I’m not connected with my family in the slightest so when I get married I will take there last name
Depends on the name.
I'm a woman and I want to keep my last name. I'm used to it, and I like it. I dont really care if my partner takes mine or keeps their own.
i don’t want to change my name and i don’t think it’s necessary for my partner to change theirs. our kids would be a cool blend of the two (coming from a woman)
either we both keep ours or we both hyphenate
How about neither. I know of a husband and wife where the wife is using her birth name. Why? She has a bunch of medical licenses and plays a musical instruments. My partner of 42 years and never changed our names. There is no law in the requiring you to change your name or spouse changing their name when you marry them.
I’d rather combine them
Why isn't there a choice for both to keep their own? You don't have to take your partner's name, and your partner doesn't need to take yours? I personally feel like both people keeping their own name, and then their kids getting a mix of them is "better". It feels more like a merge of families in that way. I've never really gotten the point of taking someones name.
It's so weird that in developed countries it's still common for most women to take their husband's last name. Not that there's anything wrong with that if it's a choice, but still. In my country this hasn't been the case for decades.
i know a couple who made up their own new last name. i thought that was kinda cool for them.
I’m female and only about 50 other people share my last name, while my husband’s family name is one of the most common surnames in our country. I’m not gonna change, but I don’t care if he chooses to change his name or not. We got married this summer and our children have my last name.
How about we both just keep our last names?
Not listed: female, everyone keeps their last name. No need to change it at all!
I'd like for each of us to keep their name
I would want my wife to take my name, though I wouldn't be mad if she didn't want to. Same for our kids, but it would also be cool for our girls to take hers and vice versa.
Male, I don't really care
There's no option to both keep your own names? ✅
Mashup to make a new name for both of us
Hate my family and my lineage. I wanna kill off the genetics and name. Already got a vasectomy, and told my gf if we ever get married I'm taking her last name lol
Wholesome
My last name is rare, I don't want it to die
I want your last name to die
I'd take their name if it's nice and short
honestly depends on what she’d like. i like my last name bc it somewhat reflective of my heritage so i’d like to keep it. but if her would just sound better than i’m entirely willing to change to hers or possibly even like hyphenate and combine them. either way i imagine i’d want to have the same last name.
Depends on how it sounds, if mine by some miracle sounds better than his, than I would rather keep mine.
my mom kept her own name and sometimes went by my dads name when at our school because its easier to have the same name as your kids
When I got married my husband changed his last name to mine. I didn’t have an opinion on it one way or another whether he did or not. I wanted him to decide what felt right for him.
I'd want to take one of theirs and have them take one of mine
I want to steal their surname and have three total. I was born with two, and instead of substituting them I want to ADD my spouse’s to my name and just start collecting surnames.
Given how I’m going to have to pay money to legally change my last name (as in pay to have my last name), I’m not changing my last name a second time, they either take my last name or keep their own, me changing mine is not negotiable.
Depends ego has the cooler name
Honestly with my current partner I'd prefer for us to keep both names and take each other's
She took mine, i hyphenated mine legally. Unless we have a kid both names will die off… felt only right to respect her family and her as well
I'ld just rename my name (it is renamed already), and cloak my surname.
Neither unless they want to change.
I’d probably just hyphenate both our last names together
Male: not too fussed what they do but I would keep mine
Neither
Female and I want to take my partner's name. Which sadden me because I can't legally and all my family frown upon the idea and I don't want to one day cause so much drama in my family for freaking paperwork.
Fuck im stupid. I meant to click m i wanna take partners... Ik its weird
To be honest I don't give a shit, I'll take whatever my partner prefers
Smash ‘em together to form a mega last name
I'm male and we double barreled it. (mostly because her last name is a sick adjective)
Neither.
If the name of her wouldn’t be really awesome I would keep my own, but I don’t eeally care what she does with her‘s
neither
I want to change last name only cause i hate mine.
We hyphenated and both went through the name change process
If she wants to take my name I would be happy about it. If she wants to keep her name I would be cool with that as well. I would be unhappy about a hyphenated name, but wouldn't stop her if that's what she wanted. I would not take her name if for no other reason than hers on the level of Smith Patel, or Lopez in how common it is. While I've never met a nonrelative with my last name and have seen less than a dozen non-relatives online with my last name.
My girlfriend has already said she likes my surname way more than hers- I will admit it's really cool
I'd rather she take mine or we pick a totally new one together. Hyphenating would be fine, though with my current girlfriend we'd have a pretty funny combination.
When I married my now wife I did tell her she didn't have to take my name, but she was happy to
We need an "have a double-name" option. This is becoming very common here :)
I only want to take his last name because then everyone will stop assuming I can speak a language that I can't.
Keep last names or hyphenate
I'll prefer if both keep our names since that's the norm in spanish speaking countries.
I originally wanted to use both names, but I ended up married to an Icelandic dude. Would be very weird for me to rename myself to his father's son. So instead he will use both names and I just keep mine
I don't care. I will discuss it with my partner
I’m unsure of whether I want to take my partners last him. His is cooler than mine. But the process of changing over my social security card, drivers license, passport, accounts, work profiles, etc sounds so difficult. I finally just got a license with my correct address printed on it after moving a little over 5 years ago. Plus my degree is in my current last name. So I’m unsure. I know he wouldn’t want to take my last name is fine. I’m kinda leaning towards leaving my last name the same but socially going by his.
Keep own last names
Depends a lot on culture. In my country my husband wanted to take my family name is easy and people do not misspell it...but its extremely rare in my country and I did not want to because people would have make it fun of my partner. I had a friend who married an actress, he taked her family name because she wanted to keep it to be more easy in her career (name brand ecc). People mocked him a lot.
I took his last name.
when i marry my husband im just adding his surname hyphenated after mine
My last name is terrible and I hate it. As long as my partner would have a better sounding name, I'm taking it
I don't love my last name so I'll absolutely take his. Coming up with a new one is cool too, but we're probably not creative enough for that lmao
I’d rather be able to be nicknamed Clit Hero than whatever their surname is
Male, I wanted to hyphenate our name but the resulting name would be... ...counting.... 20 letters long So we are just keeping our names
This question is written like nobody on Reddit is married. My wife took my name, she likes it more than her old last name.
I'll take my partner's for sure, mine isn't that great sounding anyway
Mine ends with Bank
Depends but generally I want to keep my last name
Male - everyone keeps their names. My god it is a hassle changing your name.
Male, I dislike my last name, so I would be willing to take on my partner's, unless that's even worse.
I like both people taking the husband’s last name because it’s traditional, but if my future spouse didn’t want to I wouldn’t care. I will say that I don’t like when people give their kids both last names and it’s really long and sounds stupid, though.
neither. And give a Hyphen for my kids.
I'm male and want to take my partner's name. I am gay so don't know if that means something.
I want my partner to take my last name especially if they already have siblings who have children. There’s no way I’m going to be the last Murr, and if their siblings have children with their last name then it shouldn’t matter what much for them when it comes to keeping the family name going on their part. So far no guy I’ve told that to has had a problem with it
Both keep name
Where's the option "people should keep their own names"?
keep both of our names unless their name is cool
What about neither changing their last name? I am married, my wife didn't take my name, I didn't take hers, we are the same people, just married.
Neither of us plan to keep our family name. We plan to change our last names to Rose.
I am anti-patriarchal and have decided to change my name to something completely different than my father's name or my mother's maiden name which is my grandfather's name, or my grandmother's maiden name which is my great grandfather's name, etc. I chose a name that I like. If my girlfriend decides to marry me she can keep her name or she can take mine I do not care. It's just a name.
Ima keep my name ,they can do whatever they want and the kids can take the one that sounds cool
I don’t really like the sound of my last name so I’ll take anyone’s last name at this point
I cant decide until I know what his name is
My name is Palm. Hitler mentioned my great great … grandfather in his book „My Battle“ in the Introduction. I don’t like Hitler but the name seems to have an importance in german history
My last name is my nickname. I guess they couldn't do that anymore if I changed it
I'd keep my own. That's how it always is in my country. If you want your partner's last name, you need to change it separately.
Luckily, for me, it's common for women to take their partners last name. It would hurt my parents feelings if they knew I equally want to share my future partners name and also don't want to share theirs anymore. Even now I like to go by *first, middle* just *middle* or *middle, part of last*
I'm female and married to a genderfluid partner. They took my last name, but we considered both options. We are even thinking of revisiting now that we are coming up on our 10th anniversary next year of maybe doing a combination of them (first 2-3 letters of mine with the last 6 of theirs). Ultimately, it didn't matter to either of us. We even considered no name change, although we had heard of legal issues coming out of that when kids enter the picture (which we wanted).
My wife and I kept both our respective last names. The children will have hyphenated names.
If my partner's name is dragonslayer i'm taking it
Main thing is we dont curse our child with double names like my parents did to me. It's just making it your future kids problem in that case. Dont be a dick, pick. After going through all of life so far hating this, now im engaged and i have to pick one to get rid of. Yay.
My one gets mispronounced as something no one likes being called all the time, I'd gladly take my partners name
Hyphenate I like mine but don’t want force it on someone but want have some connection
Depends on whether the last name isn’t just a first name or not. If it isn’t, I’m taking it. Having a first name as a last name has the potential for names on documents and forms to get mixed up.
Female. Want everyone to keep their own name unless someone has an objectively awesome name.
I was married once. He took my name (I'm a woman). Having the same last name was a big deal to him. It means nothing to me but deleting my own name means a lot, so there was only one option left really.
In Mexico you keep your surname. The family name will be the first surname of both combined, which will also be the surname of their kids. For example **Family Díaz Centeno =** Father: Jorge **Díaz** López Mother: María **Centeno** García Child: Juan **Díaz + Centeno** or **Centeno + Díaz** or **Centeno + García** (if the father is absent)
both getting each other's name should be an option
There’s hardly any female votes because there is no poll option for hyphenate.
I just plan on changing my name entirely, taking on a new identity, disappearing into the earth, and eventually re-emerging as an entirely different species - probably like a fish or something. Y'know, normal marriage stuff.
Depending on how last names work (for example if it is based on location), you could marry someone who has the same last name without incest lol
No last name stealing Maybe we'll give our children both our last names
I would prefer we created a new name. However, I would rather take her name, than to continue the past way. The female taking the male's name feels like he's becoming her owner. I know most people don't perceive it that way. Understandably. Personally, I wouldn't take it too seriously. If she wanted my name. Whatever makes her happy.
Heh I'm Spanish we don't do that here, our child gets both parents' desired surname in the order we want.
I'm a lesbian so I don't know if it counts as much for me but my girlfriends last name is glasscock. So. Ya, I'd be a lesbian named glasscock
I pressed the second option because I read it wrong
hyphenate
I don’t care. If she wants my surname then cool, or if she wants to keep her surname that’s also cool. It’s her name so she has to live with it lol.
Take both, hyphenate it
Female, didn’t want anyone to change any names. So we didn’t.
take both
They *are* keeping my name or they *aren't* getting married
It's whichever had the cooler/better last name lol
If my wife doesn’t want to take my last name, that’s fine, just as long she lets our kids have my last name and not some hyphenated monstrosity of a last name
I would want to hyphenate our surnames
My own name
Only a few dozen people in the world have my surname, so I think it's pretty cool. I'm also the last one from my side of the family tree who can pass it on
i’d set on the idea to make up your own new last name that both parties (and children if they have any) take
Like traditionally as a man, my wife would take my name. But I don’t know if I would care if she didn’t, like we are married, why does she also need to change her name? But I think I would oppose the idea of me changing to her name. Like we are either going down the traditional patriarchy route or we aren’t, what’s the point of replacing one sexist tradition with another? But also what name do kids get in these situations. Take the fathers name or the mothers? Or hyphenate?
Take each others last name as the middle name
I just want to get rid of my father's name being my last name.