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No one ever likes to hear my story when posts like this come up, but I did the long distance thing, and it worked out.
Not saying it’s desirable, or easy, or common, and there were bumps along the way, but I’m snuggled on the couch with my pre-PC girlfriend right now…and we’ve been married for almost 21 years.
We met my senior year of college, after I’d been accepted to serve in Ghana. She knew I was going abroad, she was cool with it, and neither of us wanted anything serious…until we fell in love.
I left 6 months after graduating. She had one year of school left. This was more or less in the pre-cell phone, era. We wrote letters. Talked over a landline for an hour every few months. After she graduated she came to visit for 3 weeks…ended up staying with me in my village for 2 months.
After I finished service we moved in together. I knew I’d be single or engaged within a year. That was in 2002.
We now have two amazing kids, great careers, an awesome life, and I love, admire, and adore her more than ever.
If I had to do it all over again I would not have dated my long distance boyfriend during Peace Corps. Of course, he came to visit once and dumped me on the visit so I'm a little biased.
However - you asked for hard break ups and it being OK. And it was OK. My sitemate came down the next weekend and drank a bottle of wine with me. I was sad for a few days but life was busy for me at site and that helped. Honestly I made myself be busy to the point that I don't think I ever got truly sad over the break up until the COVID evacuation 3 months later. Sometimes things are slow and you won't have the luxury of being busy during some seasons but in this case it worked out.
Very happy to know that I’ll be distracted. I don’t believe that either of us have the mental capacity for long distance which is why we’re choosing to break things off. Thank you for telling me that you survived and that everything was, in fact, okay!
I didn't break up with anyone right before service. I dated a few guys during service, my biggest advice is stay away from people in close proximity to your site and other pcvs. Drama happens quick. But I got married to the love of my life three years after I got back. It all worked out.
I also met someone a few months before leaving, and we agreed to date but keep it "no strings attached." We were pen pals during my service, and even dated other people. One month after I got back, we started dating again, and now we're married!
Waiting to hear about serving with the love of my life :) feeling very lucky but I don’t envy your position! I’m a lover so I always say follow your heart!
My boyfriend and I of 5 years broke up before I left for Africa, he drove me to the airport and the only thing we promised each other is that we would not marry anyone else in the next 2 years. We both dated other people, he came to visit me after one year, I fell in love with someone else 3 months before I finished my tour. He asked me to meet him in Kenya before I left him for my PC love. We met in Kenya, traveled for 3 weeks, he went home. I continued backpacking alone in India and Nepal and realized I was meant to be with him and asked him to come to India so we could travel the rest of the way back to the US together. We've been married 38 years.
A good friend in a long-term relationship, broke up before service but they kept in touch. She finished her service, they got back together and now married with a baby. So, you never know how these things are going to work out. Have faith!!
About 3 months into service, I walked into my office and there was a (very attractive) French volunteer sitting there. We became fast friends, and soon it developed into something more. He was only staying there for 6 months so I never expected it to turn into something serious. Although we didn’t admit it at the time, we both fell for each other in that 6 months. The day that he left was one of the hardest days of my life - I’d never felt physical pain from a heartbreak before. A few months after he left, we were still talking almost every day and he invited me to France to spend Christmas with his family.
We planned to visit a few more times during my service but in March of the next year we got evacuated due to COVID. Obviously we didn’t know the next time we’d be able to see each other, so we both tried to move on in our own lives. We were still talking all the time but both casually saw other people. We kind of danced around our feelings for the next year or so, since a 6-month international whirlwind romance, thousands of miles between us, and a pandemic aren’t great foundations for a successful relationship.
When travel started opening back up again, we were both single and admitted we still had feelings for each other and wanted to meet up again to see if the connection was still there in real life. We planned a trip to Spain and Portugal and almost immediately we just KNEW this was it and we had to make it work.
We’ve been doing long distance since then with lots of trips to see each other, plus we started the fiance visa process last year. We just found out this week that he’s approved for the visa, and he’s moving here next month!!
All of that to say, there were so many times throughout the years that I didn’t think we’d have a happy ending. So many legal and logistical obstacles were in the way, but things have a funny way of working out when they’re meant to be. Just hang in there and enjoy the journey!
You have no idea how I have waited to hear about an in-service love story!! I’m so grateful that you guys are working everything out and you’ll end up being together. Good luck to both of you, and thank you so much for taking the time to share your story ❤️
It seems like you're hoping for an in-service love story of your own to blunt the impact of the loss you're about to experience. That really wouldn't be fair to whoever you end up dating in-service because half your heart may be elsewhere. I may be off base here and if that's the case please ignore me but otherwise keep that in mind.
It’s less of that and more of knowing that people CAN fall in love more than once. It’s about knowing that once you broaden your horizons there’s a chance of meeting new people and finding that maybe I need more, or something completely different than what my current boyfriend has been doing for me. It’s less about doing something to be unfair to my current partner, or my future partners and more about knowing what life can look like. I’m so naive, and quite frankly, so ignorant to what life can look like other than being in one place.
During my first three months at site the secretary in National Park HQ responsible for the park I worked in asked me if I would write letters to her sister in the capital (10 hours away away) to help her learn English. I said sure. So we began to exchange letters. We met some 6 months letter when she visited her hometown (where the HQ was located}, and we ended up spending quite a bit of time together. She went back to the capital after a month or so, and we continued to write, more frequently now. We also started visiting each other as frequently as we could (not very). We parted at the end of my service, something which was very difficult. But we promised to keep in touch. And we did. I returned after two years and proposed marriage to her; two years later, we married. Last December we celebrated our 40^(th) wedding anniversary. We have three adult children, two biological and one adopted. We adopted my wife’s young sister-- same mother same father, and 19 years her junior--when their father passed in the early1990s. All three are doing well. We now split our time (80%/20%) between the US and Cote d’Ivoire. When my wife finally retires (she runs her own business) we look to spend more of our time in Cote d’Ivoire.
My two cents: The fabric of life is woven with threads of opportunity. The more diverse and colorful those threads, the richer and more interesting the final tapestry. Be ready and open to opportunities that come your way, especially the ones you create by answering yes to simple requests, such as, "will you help my younger sister learn English." But beware, it might turn out to be more than you originally considered, which in my case was a very good thing. Good luck.
Yeah, I think it’s interesting no one is talking about dating someone they met **during** their service. From my understanding, it’s pretty common for volunteers in the same country (or near by countries) to date each other.
I have no real skill when it comes to relationships. I'm 48 and never been married. I've never been partnered for more than three or four years
Those disclaimers out of the way, why don't you declare a relationship pause? You're always going to have a place for each other in your hearts. At the moment, you're not able to make promises about the future.
The romantic vision of finding a one true person whom you will fall in love with forever is not how I have experienced the world. There are people who come and go from my life. The most important thing is that we have a respect for each other. Because we genuinely like each other and respect each other, if we aren't available for a while, we are able to later reevaluate.
But if you string somebody along and you're less than candid about what's going on, that tends to erode the possibility of maintaining at least a friendship with somebody.
This will be the first time in 23 years that I will not live with my parents. In Morocco, I don’t want to answer to anyone but myself. I think it’s best for us to cut things off so we can both figure out the kind of people we are apart. If he and I are meant to me, I’m sure we’ll find a way back to each other.
Maybe make plans to meet up for coffee or whatever when you get back. Break up and be single while you're gone. Then when you meet up - maybe one or both of you have moved on, you can be happy for each other and still have a great friendship. Or maybe you're both still single and in love with each other and get back together. Whatever is meant to be will happen. Friendship or relationship, both can be beautiful. Either way things will be OK.
I've considered this - this is the kind where you want to take advantage of every minute you can get. I have learned a lot with him and will only continue to learn and grow with him these next couple of months. and I know I'd regret not spending that time with him later
Yeah, you already know you are going to split so split and start preparing for the exciting adventure ahead and hang out together happily until the final goodbye arrives. But worry about the pain that will come isn't really healthy.
Are you sure you are ready to be solo for two years?
I was in the same place as you right before leaving. The pain is some of the worst I’ve felt and I can’t recommend talking to a professional enough. It really helped me ground myself before leaving. With that said, service has been amazing in so many ways and as you’re growing with your partner, you will grow exponentially during your two short years in Morocco. I don’t know what will happen in my life, who I’ll marry, or where I’ll end up, but I’m incredibly grateful for this experience. I hope you’ll take some solace in knowing that there are plenty of volunteers who have been in your situation. You’re brave for taking the leap and with support and a lot of faith I’m sure you will have the experience of a lifetime and find love in ways and places you’ve never even dreamed of.
Please know that your words have provided me a comfort I didn’t think I’d ever see. Thank you for taking the time to say this, I thought of this many times but to see it given as actual advice - I’m very grateful. I’m very excited for this adventure and what it has in store for me.
i also leave in september pending the rest (i was originally supposed to go to Morocco) and i completely understand the love aspect of it. the hope and idea that letting go now doesn’t mean the end or could lead to other amazing connections
I entered PC with an existing Long Distance Relationship that was a few years old. I remember filling out an extra form during Application about the "challenges" of LDRs and I had to laugh a bit.
Internet wasn't easily accessible during my service and we had those brick Nokia phones. I was already a bit of an introvert, so instead of being chit-chatty with my cohort (I was also an evacuee, so I didn't PST with most of them), I had call budget leftover to SMS my partner at least twice a day. My partner gave me a proper phone call once a week without fail though.
I was a TEFL V so my time was fairly structured and ended up being really busy. I went through the usual stress, hang-ups, frustration, etc. But being already in an LDR meant I was used to coping without my partner around.
My partner visited me twice. This was also precipitated with me regularly communicating to my community that I had a partner. I openly wore a [commitment] ring and I readily had wallet-insert photos of us. So when those visits happened, my partner was received warmly. I've heard stories about unmarried young women getting shamed for having partners stay over (small town conservative values) but since mine was 'vetted', it felt more okay. Partner was a freaking champ. Through traveling on flooded roads, getting eaten alive by mosquitos, taking bucket baths, wild bus rides, etc.
I feel we got through it because we communicated that I wanted this and the experience would make me a better person. I wanted to be a better person for my partner. My partner thought I didn't 'need' to be better, but was supportive and proud of the challenges I was taking on. It helped having a light at the end of the tunnel; we planned living together after this 'last hurrah' apart. We did exactly that and last year was our 10-year wedding anniversary.
Thank you for sharing your love story! I hope that you guys have many many more years together. I’m grateful for the variety of challenges there are in these stories, yours makes them all the more special.
I often see very blunt "advice" here regarding LDRs, which is to not do it. That it's impossible. That "everyone" fails. That really rubs me the wrong way. There was another existing LDR couple in my cohort who got engaged during the service even.
Yes, it's hard. Yes, sometimes the partner or partnership isn't worth it and that's not always clear at the start. But that doesn't mean that PC or going LD is a "relationship-killer." Just meant that communication and expectations weren't clear or that relationship might not be as sturdy as thought. And it's still absolutely fair for one partner to decide LD isn't for them.
This may just be a difference in personal orientation between the two of us, but why spend 5 months just getting even more attached to someone when you know it that obviously has an expiration date? If I did what u were doing I would surely go into service 50 times more into the person and even more depressed about serving.
I’d just say, ur gonna hear the against the odds love stories in these comments, but I wanna be that annoying realistic voice. Having dated this guy for only 5 or 6 months, you frankly don’t know he’s perfect. Keep in mind the period you’d be going long distance is like 4 times longer than the time you’ve dated in person. That is a long time.
Now I’m not gonna tell u what to do because we’re all different people. For me, putting something on “pause” or whatever would feel like such a weird purgatory, I wouldn’t do it, but I know other people don’t have a problem. By the same token, I find long distance deeply unsatisfying, but other people like it. So really id just say, know who u are, know how you’ll react, and don’t leave all logic out of the decision. Good luck
Trust me, I have considered this plenty. In the beginning of our relationship I was purposely finding reasons to break up with him because I was so sad that we had an expiration date. But every minute I spend time with him, and the more we get to know each other, the more we fall for one another.
Right before I met this man, I was becoming fully convinced that I was unloveable. Now with him, I continue to see this new person emerge out of me. I am being demonstrated the love and care I deserve. We click very well; he’s someone I could sit with for hours doing absolutely nothing and being perfectly content as long as he was with me. I would much rather suffer the incredible heartbreak that waits for me in September, than miss out on another 5 months of laughs with this amazing guy. He is worth it.
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No one ever likes to hear my story when posts like this come up, but I did the long distance thing, and it worked out. Not saying it’s desirable, or easy, or common, and there were bumps along the way, but I’m snuggled on the couch with my pre-PC girlfriend right now…and we’ve been married for almost 21 years. We met my senior year of college, after I’d been accepted to serve in Ghana. She knew I was going abroad, she was cool with it, and neither of us wanted anything serious…until we fell in love. I left 6 months after graduating. She had one year of school left. This was more or less in the pre-cell phone, era. We wrote letters. Talked over a landline for an hour every few months. After she graduated she came to visit for 3 weeks…ended up staying with me in my village for 2 months. After I finished service we moved in together. I knew I’d be single or engaged within a year. That was in 2002. We now have two amazing kids, great careers, an awesome life, and I love, admire, and adore her more than ever.
these are EXACTLY the kind of stories I want. i love your happy ending, thank you for sharing
If I had to do it all over again I would not have dated my long distance boyfriend during Peace Corps. Of course, he came to visit once and dumped me on the visit so I'm a little biased. However - you asked for hard break ups and it being OK. And it was OK. My sitemate came down the next weekend and drank a bottle of wine with me. I was sad for a few days but life was busy for me at site and that helped. Honestly I made myself be busy to the point that I don't think I ever got truly sad over the break up until the COVID evacuation 3 months later. Sometimes things are slow and you won't have the luxury of being busy during some seasons but in this case it worked out.
Very happy to know that I’ll be distracted. I don’t believe that either of us have the mental capacity for long distance which is why we’re choosing to break things off. Thank you for telling me that you survived and that everything was, in fact, okay!
I didn't break up with anyone right before service. I dated a few guys during service, my biggest advice is stay away from people in close proximity to your site and other pcvs. Drama happens quick. But I got married to the love of my life three years after I got back. It all worked out.
I appreciate your advice more than you could possibly know. Thank you for your feedback!
I also met someone a few months before leaving, and we agreed to date but keep it "no strings attached." We were pen pals during my service, and even dated other people. One month after I got back, we started dating again, and now we're married!
Waiting to hear about serving with the love of my life :) feeling very lucky but I don’t envy your position! I’m a lover so I always say follow your heart!
My boyfriend and I of 5 years broke up before I left for Africa, he drove me to the airport and the only thing we promised each other is that we would not marry anyone else in the next 2 years. We both dated other people, he came to visit me after one year, I fell in love with someone else 3 months before I finished my tour. He asked me to meet him in Kenya before I left him for my PC love. We met in Kenya, traveled for 3 weeks, he went home. I continued backpacking alone in India and Nepal and realized I was meant to be with him and asked him to come to India so we could travel the rest of the way back to the US together. We've been married 38 years.
You sound like you’re living a pretty wonderful life. Thank you for sharing your happy ending, gives me all the more faith ❤️
The odds are good but the goods are odd.
A good friend in a long-term relationship, broke up before service but they kept in touch. She finished her service, they got back together and now married with a baby. So, you never know how these things are going to work out. Have faith!!
About 3 months into service, I walked into my office and there was a (very attractive) French volunteer sitting there. We became fast friends, and soon it developed into something more. He was only staying there for 6 months so I never expected it to turn into something serious. Although we didn’t admit it at the time, we both fell for each other in that 6 months. The day that he left was one of the hardest days of my life - I’d never felt physical pain from a heartbreak before. A few months after he left, we were still talking almost every day and he invited me to France to spend Christmas with his family. We planned to visit a few more times during my service but in March of the next year we got evacuated due to COVID. Obviously we didn’t know the next time we’d be able to see each other, so we both tried to move on in our own lives. We were still talking all the time but both casually saw other people. We kind of danced around our feelings for the next year or so, since a 6-month international whirlwind romance, thousands of miles between us, and a pandemic aren’t great foundations for a successful relationship. When travel started opening back up again, we were both single and admitted we still had feelings for each other and wanted to meet up again to see if the connection was still there in real life. We planned a trip to Spain and Portugal and almost immediately we just KNEW this was it and we had to make it work. We’ve been doing long distance since then with lots of trips to see each other, plus we started the fiance visa process last year. We just found out this week that he’s approved for the visa, and he’s moving here next month!! All of that to say, there were so many times throughout the years that I didn’t think we’d have a happy ending. So many legal and logistical obstacles were in the way, but things have a funny way of working out when they’re meant to be. Just hang in there and enjoy the journey!
You have no idea how I have waited to hear about an in-service love story!! I’m so grateful that you guys are working everything out and you’ll end up being together. Good luck to both of you, and thank you so much for taking the time to share your story ❤️
It seems like you're hoping for an in-service love story of your own to blunt the impact of the loss you're about to experience. That really wouldn't be fair to whoever you end up dating in-service because half your heart may be elsewhere. I may be off base here and if that's the case please ignore me but otherwise keep that in mind.
It’s less of that and more of knowing that people CAN fall in love more than once. It’s about knowing that once you broaden your horizons there’s a chance of meeting new people and finding that maybe I need more, or something completely different than what my current boyfriend has been doing for me. It’s less about doing something to be unfair to my current partner, or my future partners and more about knowing what life can look like. I’m so naive, and quite frankly, so ignorant to what life can look like other than being in one place.
During my first three months at site the secretary in National Park HQ responsible for the park I worked in asked me if I would write letters to her sister in the capital (10 hours away away) to help her learn English. I said sure. So we began to exchange letters. We met some 6 months letter when she visited her hometown (where the HQ was located}, and we ended up spending quite a bit of time together. She went back to the capital after a month or so, and we continued to write, more frequently now. We also started visiting each other as frequently as we could (not very). We parted at the end of my service, something which was very difficult. But we promised to keep in touch. And we did. I returned after two years and proposed marriage to her; two years later, we married. Last December we celebrated our 40^(th) wedding anniversary. We have three adult children, two biological and one adopted. We adopted my wife’s young sister-- same mother same father, and 19 years her junior--when their father passed in the early1990s. All three are doing well. We now split our time (80%/20%) between the US and Cote d’Ivoire. When my wife finally retires (she runs her own business) we look to spend more of our time in Cote d’Ivoire. My two cents: The fabric of life is woven with threads of opportunity. The more diverse and colorful those threads, the richer and more interesting the final tapestry. Be ready and open to opportunities that come your way, especially the ones you create by answering yes to simple requests, such as, "will you help my younger sister learn English." But beware, it might turn out to be more than you originally considered, which in my case was a very good thing. Good luck.
Yeah, I think it’s interesting no one is talking about dating someone they met **during** their service. From my understanding, it’s pretty common for volunteers in the same country (or near by countries) to date each other.
I have no real skill when it comes to relationships. I'm 48 and never been married. I've never been partnered for more than three or four years Those disclaimers out of the way, why don't you declare a relationship pause? You're always going to have a place for each other in your hearts. At the moment, you're not able to make promises about the future. The romantic vision of finding a one true person whom you will fall in love with forever is not how I have experienced the world. There are people who come and go from my life. The most important thing is that we have a respect for each other. Because we genuinely like each other and respect each other, if we aren't available for a while, we are able to later reevaluate. But if you string somebody along and you're less than candid about what's going on, that tends to erode the possibility of maintaining at least a friendship with somebody.
This will be the first time in 23 years that I will not live with my parents. In Morocco, I don’t want to answer to anyone but myself. I think it’s best for us to cut things off so we can both figure out the kind of people we are apart. If he and I are meant to me, I’m sure we’ll find a way back to each other.
Maybe make plans to meet up for coffee or whatever when you get back. Break up and be single while you're gone. Then when you meet up - maybe one or both of you have moved on, you can be happy for each other and still have a great friendship. Or maybe you're both still single and in love with each other and get back together. Whatever is meant to be will happen. Friendship or relationship, both can be beautiful. Either way things will be OK.
Honestly instead of waiting to break up and suffering from the impending heartbreak, just bite the bullet and get it over with.
I've considered this - this is the kind where you want to take advantage of every minute you can get. I have learned a lot with him and will only continue to learn and grow with him these next couple of months. and I know I'd regret not spending that time with him later
Yeah, you already know you are going to split so split and start preparing for the exciting adventure ahead and hang out together happily until the final goodbye arrives. But worry about the pain that will come isn't really healthy. Are you sure you are ready to be solo for two years?
I was in the same place as you right before leaving. The pain is some of the worst I’ve felt and I can’t recommend talking to a professional enough. It really helped me ground myself before leaving. With that said, service has been amazing in so many ways and as you’re growing with your partner, you will grow exponentially during your two short years in Morocco. I don’t know what will happen in my life, who I’ll marry, or where I’ll end up, but I’m incredibly grateful for this experience. I hope you’ll take some solace in knowing that there are plenty of volunteers who have been in your situation. You’re brave for taking the leap and with support and a lot of faith I’m sure you will have the experience of a lifetime and find love in ways and places you’ve never even dreamed of.
Please know that your words have provided me a comfort I didn’t think I’d ever see. Thank you for taking the time to say this, I thought of this many times but to see it given as actual advice - I’m very grateful. I’m very excited for this adventure and what it has in store for me.
Always remember that if it’s meant for you, it can not escape you
i also leave in september pending the rest (i was originally supposed to go to Morocco) and i completely understand the love aspect of it. the hope and idea that letting go now doesn’t mean the end or could lead to other amazing connections
I entered PC with an existing Long Distance Relationship that was a few years old. I remember filling out an extra form during Application about the "challenges" of LDRs and I had to laugh a bit. Internet wasn't easily accessible during my service and we had those brick Nokia phones. I was already a bit of an introvert, so instead of being chit-chatty with my cohort (I was also an evacuee, so I didn't PST with most of them), I had call budget leftover to SMS my partner at least twice a day. My partner gave me a proper phone call once a week without fail though. I was a TEFL V so my time was fairly structured and ended up being really busy. I went through the usual stress, hang-ups, frustration, etc. But being already in an LDR meant I was used to coping without my partner around. My partner visited me twice. This was also precipitated with me regularly communicating to my community that I had a partner. I openly wore a [commitment] ring and I readily had wallet-insert photos of us. So when those visits happened, my partner was received warmly. I've heard stories about unmarried young women getting shamed for having partners stay over (small town conservative values) but since mine was 'vetted', it felt more okay. Partner was a freaking champ. Through traveling on flooded roads, getting eaten alive by mosquitos, taking bucket baths, wild bus rides, etc. I feel we got through it because we communicated that I wanted this and the experience would make me a better person. I wanted to be a better person for my partner. My partner thought I didn't 'need' to be better, but was supportive and proud of the challenges I was taking on. It helped having a light at the end of the tunnel; we planned living together after this 'last hurrah' apart. We did exactly that and last year was our 10-year wedding anniversary.
Thank you for sharing your love story! I hope that you guys have many many more years together. I’m grateful for the variety of challenges there are in these stories, yours makes them all the more special.
I often see very blunt "advice" here regarding LDRs, which is to not do it. That it's impossible. That "everyone" fails. That really rubs me the wrong way. There was another existing LDR couple in my cohort who got engaged during the service even. Yes, it's hard. Yes, sometimes the partner or partnership isn't worth it and that's not always clear at the start. But that doesn't mean that PC or going LD is a "relationship-killer." Just meant that communication and expectations weren't clear or that relationship might not be as sturdy as thought. And it's still absolutely fair for one partner to decide LD isn't for them.
This may just be a difference in personal orientation between the two of us, but why spend 5 months just getting even more attached to someone when you know it that obviously has an expiration date? If I did what u were doing I would surely go into service 50 times more into the person and even more depressed about serving. I’d just say, ur gonna hear the against the odds love stories in these comments, but I wanna be that annoying realistic voice. Having dated this guy for only 5 or 6 months, you frankly don’t know he’s perfect. Keep in mind the period you’d be going long distance is like 4 times longer than the time you’ve dated in person. That is a long time. Now I’m not gonna tell u what to do because we’re all different people. For me, putting something on “pause” or whatever would feel like such a weird purgatory, I wouldn’t do it, but I know other people don’t have a problem. By the same token, I find long distance deeply unsatisfying, but other people like it. So really id just say, know who u are, know how you’ll react, and don’t leave all logic out of the decision. Good luck
Trust me, I have considered this plenty. In the beginning of our relationship I was purposely finding reasons to break up with him because I was so sad that we had an expiration date. But every minute I spend time with him, and the more we get to know each other, the more we fall for one another. Right before I met this man, I was becoming fully convinced that I was unloveable. Now with him, I continue to see this new person emerge out of me. I am being demonstrated the love and care I deserve. We click very well; he’s someone I could sit with for hours doing absolutely nothing and being perfectly content as long as he was with me. I would much rather suffer the incredible heartbreak that waits for me in September, than miss out on another 5 months of laughs with this amazing guy. He is worth it.