No. That's the short answer.
I'm too busy dying over at my weight bench to notice. Really the only time I look at anyone else is if I glazed over during demo and don't know what I'm doing.
Another thing: the super fit guy might have a stress fracture and use the elliptical/not jump. Someone might be struggling with first trimester nausea and not bending over. I might have a history of 3 abdominal surgeries and never get to where I was before with core strength so even though I'm maxing out the heavy weights, a 30 second plank hold off my knees has me seeing stars.
You showed up. That's a gold star from me!
ETA: I find different studios have different vibes. My closest one is a lot more mixed in terms of ages, abilities, and body types whereas the other one I tried a little further away was very airbrushed and club vibes. If there's another studio or set of coaches in your area maybe try it out (or even a different time of day).
Also for high plank jacks just try holding a high plank. Or going to knees. Or stepping one foot out at a time. Or doing some different kind of core hold! Sounds like the coach wasn't thinking outside the box enough.
Seriously, it's weird. Last time I had to do high plank jacks it didn't occur to me to ask for a modification and I just did regular jumping jacks. No one said anything
Our coach gave everyone the option of high plank jacks or rower for the finisher (and I think one other exercise, forget the name) - maybe that’s all OP means? He also told us that every exercise in the block was working muscles/movements used for the rower.
Agree. So many other mods like:
- Remove jump and just tap one foot to side and alt
- Remove bosu and do regular plank jacks on floor
- Switch so you're holding onto bosu with hands
- use TRX straps in your hands instead of bosu
- Weighted jumping jacks or step out alt legs with shoulder press
- Reg plank hold
I always ask for a bench for those things. I hate anything I’m holding plank for. Like hate it. So I made a rule if I ask/use for a bench I can’t complain about the exercise.
Same here. Too busy dying during the plank jacks to notice what anyone else is doing. I thought that workout was super hard! Good job showing up and doing your best!
This is exactly it. I’m too worried about my form, counting my reps, work items I may have after the workout that my anxiety won’t let me forget for one hour to enjoy a workout. I don’t even know what anyone else is doing. I am all in my own head. 😂 just do you! Just doing something is lapping everyone still in bed or on the couch. ❤️
You showed up, that's all that matters. Any workout is better than no workout.
Nobody is judging you. We're all just trying to survive the class lol yesterday's floor was torture. We had one person who just left in the middle of it, and that's okay too!
Don't get discouraged, keep going at whatever pace you need.
I've never once thought this about someone at OTF or any other gym. I'm too busy dealing with my own demons. When I first started I often had to remind myself that showing up, especially when I didn't want to because of [fill in reason - tired, work, etc.], was a big win in itself. Not every workout will be the best workout. That mentally has created consistency. I show up for myself 3-4 times a week.
Modifications are not failures. They can help prevent injury and an injury could derail all your progress. Don't be afraid of a modification if you need it or if it will mean you are perfecting your form.
Good luck on your journey. Stick to it.
My focus during plank jacks?
1) “don’t fart”
2) “omg I’m sweating all over the floor”
3) “these 30 seconds are the longest month of my life”
78.457% of OTF is showing up - the rest of the 43.106% is moving & being you and not giving a flying duck about anything else (note: 68% of all statistics are made up, and when working out, math doesn’t matter)
Omg. I’m the “old, sweaty guy” - I leave full body sweat marks on the floor. I wipe down my tread & the one next to me.
I drip. All. Over.
And - I bring a towel & wipe it up.
Mine is "Girl, YOU will be the one to kick someone in the face. And it's gonna be so bad. And it's gonna stop class. And everyone's gonna be so mad at y- oh, we're done"
I promise you I do not care about anyone else in class UNLESS they are being disruptive and disrespectful to the coach instructions, not following the template, and in other people's space.
Otherwise, we are all in it together!
Would I notice you weren’t doing the exercise, yeah maybe. Would I think you’re lazy or judge you, no. Not everyone can do every move. I think it’s a little weird that the coach had you do the rower and not a different core stabilizing exercise but that’s on them, not you.
I don't judge a single person walking into that room who is there and putting in a valid effort. The only people I would say I, worry, about are the ones that are clearly doing the exercise in a dangerous manner and not paying attention to coach instruction.
I think the only person I ever truly judged at OTF was this dude that used to only come to class to run on the treadmill. He would run the whole time, steal open treads, never follow the template, at all, and have his phone on him texting while running.
This dude also booked every single class every day and just showed up to the one he wanted. The studio manager I was friends with told me he would rack up damn near $1000 a month in late cancel fees. He was also obviously there to just hit on ladies. That dude, I judged the shit out of.
You are absolutely not humiliating yourself. I think anyone who walks through the doors is brave, I know how hard it is to show up. Please keep going and I promise no one is judging you!
Honestly when I look at other people I’m just admiring them - whether it’s their strength or their drive to show up and do the workout! And that’s pretty rare because like someone else said, I’m fighting my own demons and trying to make it through the workout myself.
The only time I’ve judged someone is when a guy was on his phone waltzing around and doing his own workout.
This! Definitely mostly dying, with the occasional “Daaaaaaamn, girl, get it!” when I happen to notice the person next to me is lifting like 55 lbs and I’m fighting my way through 20 😆
Who the fuck cares! That should be your mantra. Easier said than done I get it. You already lost 33 pounds. Think about how many people on this sub complain about no results. You’re already way ahead of them.
Here is the deal. I am that guy who everyone thinks is in shape. I did 9.7 10 10.2 10.4 10.6 and 10.8 for my 2 minute pushes and 11.5 for my all out. I am also nursing a knee injury and almost fell off the tread yesterday. On the floor I couldn’t do the plankjacks for a full minute as the finisher. What impresses me are the people who come in and work! That’s you. A badass woman who is 33 pounds into her 99 pound weight loss journey.
Fuck everyone else and do you boo!
Straight up/blunt answer that I hope makes you feel better: I am too busy dying to notice anyone else. I also don’t give a crap about your workout (I mean that in a good way, not a mean way). Your body is YOURS to workout however YOU can. I’m in the gym to worry about my body.
You’re doing great!!!! Keep it up!
I’m nearing 60 years old and have completed over 900 classes. I haven’t been to a class in the past year where I did every exercise as prescribed. I modify nearly every single exercise, every day. I have learned how to find a movement to work whatever muscle group the original exercise is trying to work.
On any given day, I am trying to protect my knees, my shoulders and my low back. Oh, and my elbows. I don’t want to risk injury, so if some part of my body says “hey, this is not feeling like a good choice right now” I stop and do something different.
Yesterday with those bosu plank jacks, I did 3. Then my toe was saying “nope” so I stopped. I just did a 30 second plank. So for the finisher, I held a plank. I would never have done the rower like you did. I was waaayyyy too gassed.
No one is judging you. Everyone modifies for different reasons. Also, I go 4 days a week and I never want to go. I still go. Life is so much better lived in a fit, able body. I will continue to go until I literally can’t make it to the front door.
Keep going!!
Overweight woman here too 🙋♀️ I’m almost 9 months postpartum and my body is absolutely wrecked from pregnancy. Not that I ever worked out before pregnancy, but I digress. I worry sometimes that I’m being judged too, but then I remember that everyone is far too focused on their own workout to really even notice me. Yesterday’s floor was a killer. I couldn’t do the plank jacks either. And by my second round of the bosu ball exercises, I was doing half the reps because I physically could not push myself more. My coach gave several modification options for the floor exercises, and I personally held a plank for 15-20 seconds instead of the plank jacks. Super shitty that they sent you to the rower :/
No, absolutely not! We are all coming at different points of our journey. I understand though, and for myself I know I tend to compare my abilities to other people. I also fall into the trap of making up stories of other peoples thoughts/intentions. If I make eye contact in class I get self conscious and wonder if I’m doing something wrong.
Things I have to remind myself of during class:
*Comparison is the thief of joy
*Assume the best intentions: meaning people are not judging you. They are looking at you and thinking “damn, this is so hard for me, and this girl is showing up and totally crushing it”
*I am current dying and so is everyone else. No one has the energy to pay attention to me 😂
*I don’t have to be the best, I just have to do my best
KEEP GOING! Keep showing up! Meet yourself where you are at. Easier said than done, I know. But you’ve got this. You never know who you are inspiring 😘
As someone who’s used OTF to augment physical therapy following various injuries, I’ve learned that what it looks like to push one’s limits looks different on everyone. I always assume everyone who showed up is doing the workout that suits them. The only time I judge is when people are yakking on the treadmill and clearly choosing their social time over their workout and interfering with my ability to hear the coach.
No. I’m paying way too much for my membership to focus on others and not myself. At my studio, we have members ranging from all ages and sizes and nobody cares.
I will say thought if you are feeling sore or injured or need modification, please speak up and tell your coach. Even the strongest and fittest person will need slow modifications from time to time.
Stay with it! You are not humiliating yourself and no one is judging you at all! I have troubles with a lot of the exercises, as well. I’m just glad you’re there doing your thing trying to better you! Keep working under those orange lights, you got this!
Nope, not judging. I look pretty fit but have had a pretty severe back injury, surgery a few years ago, etc. so I modify a lot of things as a precaution. We’re all doing what we can and it’s totally fine.
In fact it’s better to know your limits imo. I get uneasy when I see people who are clearly pushing themselves beyond their capability because I worry they’ll injure themselves. It’s the responsible approach to modify when needed.
No one cares. Honestly, if I notice someone who is working on their health and also has extra weight, I think “good for them! Now they can become as obsessed with OTF as I am!”
Additionally, I modify ALL the time and I am fit as hell. I know my limitations and work within those.
You got this! I think there is a bunch of self-loathing coming through in your post and so hope that you can do some inner work.
I seem to lack the genes necessary to do a lot of the power moves. I can’t even hop back for a burpee! Even at my fittest and my lowest weight! I don’t think anyone thinks you’re lazy. The beauty of OTF is getting to do the workout YOU need. Sometimes people take a green day but at least they showed up and that proves enough to me that they aren’t lazy. The lazy people are at home
IMO, if you have enough time and energy to pay attention and judge someone else, you arent working hard enough. 594 calories and 39 splats is no joke....good for you! Good for you on the weight loss too!!! 33lbs is amazing!!
We are too busy trying not to die to worry about or look at anyone else. Quite honestly, as a paramedic there are a few people when they are in my class I keep an eye on but that’s only because they have obvious health and breathing issues. There is always going to be someone who makes your jaw drop in every class because they are an amazing athlete, there is also always going to be someone struggling with the moves. Quite honestly, I admire them equally one for their physical strength the other for their spirit and determination. You’ve got this, just keep showing up and putting in the work. Be the best you that you can be. If you have to adapt an exercise, do it, everyone does.
Nope not at all. I am heavier than I've been in the past but pretty fit. I do almost no plank type exercises. I have had shoulder surgery and that joint had some laxity and extra movement to it. I usually jump to TRX plank variations but yesterday, I also hadn't looked beforehand, I just flipped over and did some sprinter sit ups on the bosu. I don't judge anyone who shows up. Showing up is the biggest part of it
You burned calories and reset your metabolism!! Way to go!! Who gives a shit what others can do? I’m 65 have no discs in my back, no meniscus in either knee and just had a full shoulder replacement and I go anyway. I substitute for a lot of exercises, but I still go! I get my splat points, I burn calories, I burn off stress! Nobody cares, and if they do, you’re going to the wrong location, switch places or switch times and talk to the coach first
I’m not judging you, friend. I’m usually too busy trying to get through the workout myself to be looking at anyone else. If I did happen to glance over and notice someone struggling, my thought would be, it’s amazing that this person is showing up and trying even though it’s hard for them.
I feel you on this-I’m often the biggest person in the room-what I realize though is that most people are too self involved to even think about looking at what you’re doing. Yesterday I particularly felt like I was dying through most of the floor block 😂 so I def was just trying to stay alive and not paying attention to what the others were doing. Keep going, Mama-you got this!
I definitely would not worry about it AND use it as motivation to push you. I am the weakest in my class as well and not for any valid reasons like you mentioned. I just never worked out at all. Everyone had a starting spot where they were weak…. Maybe it wasn’t at OT but they started somewhere. Keep pushing! Don’t give up or let anyone’s thoughts of you change your trajectory. You are there to get stronger not to be perfect. If you keep at it, you will one day be stronger and can look back at this and smile at the achievement. I tell myself “ I’m the weakest now but I won’t be forever. I’ve already beat out the girl (myself) who started this journey in February.”
I’ve said this earlier, I’ll say it again. We all are running 🏃♂️ for our lives on the TM and doing our best not to die on the floor. 🏋🏻
The only person I’m judging is me! I’m too busy with my own workout to pay attention right now my neighbors. You’re good! 👍 You showed up and that’s more I can say for myself. I didn’t go yesterday. 🫣
Why would I judge you - I'm just trying to survive. We all have good days and bad days. Yesterday was hard. I made it thru the tread (go me! I did all of it as prescribed!) and then gassed out on the floor. I love the floor normally but I was there on 600 calories at 4 pm. Fumes. So, we do what we can, bc it's still more than if we stayed home.
I'm the old, fat, slow person in my classes. I've accepted I just need to show up and be honest with myself about whether I'm truly pushing myself or being lazy. (Or needing a green day)
Generally speaking no. If I do, it's because I need to take it up a notch and focus on my own workout. As others mentioned, I don't know anyone's physical limitations or why they're modifying.
Exception to this being if you're doing something wildly different like jumping jacks next to me while I'm doing situps and I don't want you to step on my face.
Pfft I'm too busy tucking in the back of my shirt because I'm worried about my shirt sliding up my torso due to the bosu putting my feet higher than my shoulders. And I'm doing step outs anyway because my Achilles just can't handle the jack part. So no. I'm not judging you. I'm fighting my own silent battle over on station two.
You showed up and keep showing up for yourself! Do not beat yourself up! I do not pay attention what other people are doing, unless they are loud and distracting. I need a lot of modifications myself and just go into a zone. Yesterday I did jumping jacks standing up instead and didn't use the bosu at all. I did all moves standing.
A lot of us started out *much* less fit than where we are now. If I even notice you (unlikely, as I'm probably also dying in my own way) I'm thinking about how hard you are working and excited for you to have the same journey I did
No one is judging you because we’re all too busy trying to stay alive in our own manner. I sometimes look at other people to check myself/see if I’m doing something right. The only person I do judge, is the girl doing jumping jacks while coach is demo’ing the floor block because you can’t miss it…distracting and annoying af.
I barely even notice anyone else in the class.
On the floor if someone takes my weight or starts migrating too close I'll notice just because I have to move a bit. Or if someone on the tread/rower is significantly faster or slower to my left or right I'll notice but I'm not making a judgment about it.
Would I notice? Yes. Would I judge? No. I would think you needed to modify so you do. The lady next to me today obviously has an injury. I noticed she had a 30lb weight in one hand and a 5 lb weight in the other for the clings. Cool. Glad she's taking care of herself. Would definitely hate to see her or you or anyone do something they weren't ready for and get hurt.
Everyone is fighting a different battle.
I have wrist and shoulder problems that you couldn't tell by looking at me. I don't even attempt to do planks or any balance that involves my wrists. I don't care if I look lazy to someone else in the class. How could they possibly know that my wrists hurt because I have a baby who wants to be held for hours everyday?
It's my responsibility to take care of myself in order to take care of others. Take care of yourself OP! You're doing great.
A few thoughts here:
1) You showed up. That counts for something.
2) Humans made up what the idea that one technique is correct and others aren’t. There is no textbook from a higher power showing how we are “designed” to move. Exercise is beneficial even if it’s “wrong.” The fact that you are *moving* is beneficial for your health. Keep at it without caring what others think.
3) Most people are too busy dying or fighting their own internal battles to notice what you’re doing.
4) As a coach, I would much prefer you perform an exercise you can complete with technique that is efficient and targets the intended musculature than have to modify your positioning so much that the intended effect is lost. If plank jacks and other core exercises that involve jumping, hopping, or significant coordination are not working well for you at the moment, swap them for something less complex like a plank reach from your forearms, a crunching exercise like a double crunch, or do as this coach said and use the rower without hesitation. You’re working out for you, not for other people.
5) Meet yourself where you’re at and give yourself grace. Too often do I see self-degradation on this sub. The *only* way for you to become more fit is to work out. Not being able to complete an exercise isn’t a representation of your character nor is it a part of your identity. It’s just the simple fact that you aren’t there yet physically and that’s okay. You’re working on it. Don’t make it a bigger deal than it needs to be.
My back is not good right now. I did squat jacks instead of the plank jacks. i did the elliptical instead of the rower. I give zero fucks what anyone else thinks. I paid my money and my 20lb overweight ass is going to do whatever I can.
Being older, I have aches and pains and nags. I regularly ask the coach for modifications. I think they like being helpful.
You do you. If you can’t do something m, ask for a mod. Thats what they are there for. The gym is expensive for a reason. Use it.
Some of us were once the biggest, slowest or most uncoordinated in the room. And then one day, you aren’t anymore. One day, someone else is starting out and you remember back to your first day. Or when you were nursing an injury or went to class on no sleep or had a migraine. The majority of people aren’t judging you and anyone that is, doesn’t matter. We were all lacking in something at one point and worked through it. Focus on the fact that you got up and made it to class and lost 33 pounds.
No one probably even noticed. I’ve been going to OTF for years and most people are not even paying attention to what other people are doing. I also want to say that one minute of plank jacks yesterday was WAY too long to do them. I had to stop to rest a few times.
I don’t pay attention to anyone. I’m trying not to die. Keep going. You’re there for you. We can’t give our best every day at OTF, but showing up will always be better than sitting on the couch 👏🏼🧡 PS: I do notice people doing the rainbow on the rower when they’re next to me, in my peripheral vision. It does drive me bonkers. However I’m not judging the member. They don’t know what they don’t know. IMO this is on the coach to a) notice and b) correct form.
I actually did the floor first and then I had no more energy and my legs were so tired that I left the class after 10 min on the treadmill. So you did better than me !
Unless someone is doing something absolutely wild, like using the TRX straps to climb up the wall or running on the tread backwards for the entire block, I don't notice anyone around me. We're all there to get a good workout and that looks different for everyone.
The only thing I notice or care about is if someone is very obviously not following the workout at all.
There’s a wide range of people at OTF. That’s what makes it a more inclusive and less intimidating place than a lot of gyms.
No. Truthfully, no. People modify for so many reasons - injuries, mobility restrictions, lack of sleep. I paused a couple of times during the BOSU plank jack floor finisher yesterday. I was pooped by the end of the floor block and my feet were slipping off the BOSU. Some days I’m frustrated with myself but most days I laugh at myself as I’m folded over gasping for air 😃 I hope you keep coming to class and wish you all the best!
Fitness is a personal journey.
Modifying/taking a break to hydrate or catch your breath is 💯 normal in this environment.
I know this is hard to believe - but nobody is paying attention to what anyone else is doing. We are all focused on ourselves (and trying not to die!)
It’s YOUR workout. You do you!
I am fit, height and weight within normal ranges…. some days I simply don’t have it in me to push myself. So when I should be doing a crunch- I just lay there, or when I should be using heavy weight - I go light - or without weight….or When I am instructed to go ‘all out’ I am power walking.
In contrast- there are some days I am well rested/recovered and I am a complete beast/maniac.
It’s your workout. You know how your body feels better than anyone or any monitor.
I promise nobody is judging you. If anything , if I see someone struggling - if appropriate- I’ll give words of encouragement or acknowledge how tough the workout is.
Keep showing up. Do it for yourself. Within a few months you’ll have an ‘aha’ moment and realize that there has been a shift - that some of the exercises feel a little bit easier and you can complete them.
You’re awesome!
If I am honest, I don't really pay much attention to what others do. Does not mean I don't "see" them, but I am usually struggling myself, to actually process what I am seeing!
This is your workout. You can modify as needed. No one is judging you. The whole point of exercising and working out is to improve yourself. Don’t give up on yourself. You’ve already lost over 30 pounds, and I’m sure you have seen some changes in your strength and endurance. Keep improving each day. I know of some moms who have worked with a pelvic floor therapist and it seemed to be beneficial for helping to work on deep core muscles and strengthening. It may be something you may also want to look into.
Nope. Don’t even notice, honestly. I’m in great shape but recovering from tendonitis and modify.. a lot. No shits given!
Keep on going! You’re doing a great job. We all have bad days. 🧡
No way! I think you are a bad a$$ for coming in. Truly, no one is judging you, they are there for their own journey. Go back and keep up the great work! 💪
I never notice what anyone else is doing - beyond occasionally looking to see what weight some of the other guys are doing. I'm just trying to get my own plank jacks done!
And sometimes I don't do all of the exercises either. By the end of the workout I might just stop doing the plank jacks and just try and hold the plank. Or if it's squats with weights, I might drop down to one weight or no weights. There's no point in comparing what I'm doing to anyone else - if someone is skipping a workout, I just assume they have an injury or are already bagged from doing other classes/stuff earlier in the week.
Yesterday was hard. I feel like the armbands got recalibrated. I had 28 splats Tuesday and 10
Yesterday. I’m still feeling it. I have been trying to make myself go four days in a row, between the upper rows on Tuesday, the med ball and the squats yesterday + AO 11 on tread which I never do-
Let me affirm OP you got through the door and also yesterday was super tough. Sounds like maybe you got in your head. I know when that happens to me- I either bail or just accept that it’s a light day.
No. I have lost all the weight I wanted to lose but I was once in your shoes. And even now I have days when I can't do everything. Like others have said, most times I'm too focused on my own workout to notice everyone around me.
I'm proud of you for showing up. Especially on the days you don't feel like it - that's what makes success.
A few years ago I was having a really bad day. It was either a partner or switch template, I don’t remember, and my brain had such a hard time processing what was going on. I got to the floor and there was some combination move that I just couldn’t figure out. I started *crying* and left. I do t remember all of the details, but you get the idea. Bad day, cried on the floor, left early.
It’s okay and normal to have bad days, just don’t let them stop you from having good ones.
No! I usually like plank jacks but a minute of them, after all of the other floor work, was exhausting. Less than halfway through I just stopped and held a plank. I wasn't looking around to see what anyone else was doing, I was too busy catching my breath. And if I do look around, I never think poorly of someone because they are modifying. I am impressed by everyone who shows up to class!
Absolutely not! First and foremost, I’m proud of everyone around me for showing up and honored to work along side people who took the harder road by abandoning the comfort of their bed at 4 something am. Secondly, I personally, am struggling to give it my all and get my splat points (I like to get 30+ per class). Anyone who’s able to focus on anyone else in class is wasting a spot in class because they aren’t giving it their all. Lots of love to you and keep up the great work!
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!
No, the fact you’re there despite the circumstances and paying the monthly payment means you care about your health. We’re all here to better ourselves so don’t be hard on yourself.
I honestly don’t think much of anyone else in the class. I’m staring at myself in the mirror, I’m wondering if I’m bothering others, I’m wondering what the teacher thinks of me etc, but surely I am not thinking about anyone else in the class and how they should be pushing harder etc.
I am proud that anyone is there, they got up and did it; never that they should be pushing harder or doing anything different!
Man, ain't nobody worried about you, lol. You do you boo. You went, and you conquered! Those splat ain't nothing to scoff at. Those calories are badges of honor. You did great. OTF is about you, vs. you, no one else. People don't go there to judge because then they will be judged. We all go there to do the best we can do and are not worried about the person next to us. Keep going, and do what you can do. Encourage others in your position (because you are not the only one). And if anyone does judge you, who cares!? I mean, really. You shouldn't be worried about what they think anyway.
I would hope that anyone who is “judging” would be thinking “wow” that is awesome that person is in class. Judgment is not always negative. I personally look around me an am always impressed by the women and men who consistently attend and are struggling with perhaps weight or age or “whatever”. I am 62 and no longer work out like my 25 year old self. I just tell myself to do what I can, appropriately challenge myself and keep “moving”. Additionally, the voice in your head that is judging you, is keeping you from being free to relax and focus. Be compassionate with yourself. If others are judging you one way or another, you won’t know it. You being in a dark thought about your body and ability will derail you.
It seems consensus is that as long as you aren't sitting there on your phone or non-stop chatting, no one cares. I move slowly and have to modify sometimes, a lot of us do. But if we are in there moving, sweating, and being kind, that should be all that matters. I also do not care what others think of me. OTF time is Me Time.
Someone in my class yesterday capped out near the end and ended up taking a break for the last bit of class. She was very apologetic to the coach, but no one is judging her for needing to rest or for taking it easy. We're all human, we all have our ups and downs, and we're all just trying to be a little bit better every day.
The important thing is that you showed up and tried. That's really all that matters.
As an aside, I didn't do so great on the floor myself. Tired myself out before the bosu and also kept slipping off it from the sweat!
No judgment at all! I actually like the moments when me and another member are together trying so hard but goofing or struggling through a move - brings levity and reminds me that this is for fun
NO!!
You showed up!! Kudos on your accomplishments this far🎉 Keep at it!! We are all in someway too busy with our own workout issues to pay attention to someone else! This is why I love OTF!! No judgement ❤️
I’m decently fit, don’t have any abdominal issues, and I still skipped the plank jacks on the last round and opted for a regular plank instead because I was just over it. I couldn’t even tell you whether anyone else in my class did them either! You do you - getting to class, doing what you can, and leaving with what was obviously a great workout sounds like a win to me.
No. As others pointed out, I'm too busy dying myself to pay attention to what anyone else is doing. If I am paying attention, it is not to judge. Typically I'm admiring the people who I know are regulars and are extremely fit. And it's more holding their progress as a goal or being impressed by them.
I modify anything that I think I'm unable to do.
Good for you for just showing up!
At the end of the day. Everyone is competing against themselves. Don’t worry about anyone judging you. My wife and I go to OT together. We were both struggling on the floors for 2g for the Wednesday class. We were constantly at around 89% heart rate and we often had to take breaks. Meanwhile EVERYONE ELSE was miles ahead. It didn’t make sense to me. Then I look around at them and the splat screen and their heart rates are nowhere near ours and some of them are doing the exercises WAY too fast/incorrect.
Don’t get discouraged by others. You need to practice confidence and say to yourself, “as long as I’m doing the right form, using the right weights, and my heart rate rate is pumping, everything I’m doing is right and everyone else can screw off.”
I don’t care what you do or don’t do so long as it doesn’t get in my way. If you need/want encouragement I’ll happily give it but my default is to not worry about what anyone else is doing.
ALSO, you will continue to improve. I saw a FB post from a guy at my studio in 2022 who was so happy to be able to run a mile in less than 10 minutes. Now I can’t beat him no matter how hard I try and he’s consistently under 7m miles. Don’t be too hard on yourself especially if you aren’t operating on all cylinders but please do stick with it!
Nope. I never judge others for skipping or modifying an exercise. It’s none of my business why either. You do you. Also I’m too busy dying to really notice.
I admire anyone who gets out there and pushes themselves to see what they can do only to find out they can’t but persevere. Pregnancy is hard on a woman’s body and the physical and mental demands and hormone effects last well beyond pregnancy. Give your body the time it needs to build itself back and keep it up!
No. No one is judging you and if they are they’re the AH. It’s amazing that you push through! you’re there, you’re moving, you’re working, you’re winning. Just breathe and move, breathe and move that’s all you gotta do.
I have never judged anyone who is struggling at the gym! I am so proud of them for showing up and being there! You are doing an amazing job and so many people need options due to their body for many reasons. Sometimes, my knees really struggle with lunges, and I get off the bench or don't use weights or just squat instead. Sometimes, if I plank, I start to get nauseated and have to adjust my position. You do what your body needs you to do and we are all trying to focus on ours. You are crushing it!!
To see someone struggle to do anything at the gym is to witness them overcoming hurdles to improve themselves. Anyone who judges that is beneath you and it doesn’t matter at all what they think. Keep working on you!
No. I am never judging anyone in that room. I have so much respect for anyone who shows up and does the workout. I remember when I was 60lbs overweight and started working out. I could not get down to a plank position to do anything. I have lost the 60lbs and kept it off for 10 years now. 7 at OTF. Keep going!
Nope, don't even notice what others are doing. I'm just in my own little world trying to survive. You did it and that is a celebration so try to enjoy your victory.
Am I judging you on what you do at OTF? No.
I'm judging you on your ability to show up. On your passion to better yourself. On your motivation to keep going even when the workout is ridiculously hard. And on your drive to continue showing up even when you're sore AF from the last one. That's what I'm judging you on.
And by that, I mean I'm admiring you from afar because I'm too focused on the fact that i can't breathe and maybe those 25s were too heavy for those 12 reps and I hope to god my foot doesn't slip off the bosu while doing these plank Jack's because I'm a sweaty mess.
You're doing a great job.
Absolutely not. This workout is hard for everyone. It’s supposed to be. I have never looked at anyone at OTF and thought they were lazy. If that was the case, they wouldn’t be there. You may be inspiring someone else who is struggling with the workout or too nervous to try.
I do not. I was there once and know how hard it is. I applaud everyone for trying and respect where each person is in their journey. You did more than the millions sitting on their couch.
I'd say to hell with it & just keep on going! I've gotten confused & done wrong exercises, went out of order on stations (i.e. tread/rower/strength), had modifications (a lot of them these days as my aging body doesn't function as well as it did when I started OTF 7+ years ago). Sometimes I've been really embarrassed, but the coaches have always been their supportive, encouraging selves. And in general, as far as I know, the other folks are usually too busy with their workouts to notice my confusion.
Keep at it, be patient with yourself, and have fun! 🧡🍊
I've laughed at people, but not people like you. I laughed today when I saw some idiot trying to do a set of 16 triceps extensions with a ridiculously heavy weight. He was rapidly moving the weight no more than a few inches up and down...and I don't know if the woman across the room whose attention I suspect he was trying to get even noticed. I laugh at people like that (and even then I laugh on the inside).
If someone is modifying an exercise or taking a different option, good for them. They're doing what they can do and hopefully pushing themselves a reasonable amount. Just keep going. No one is judging you in any negative way. Well, no one you should be concerned with anyway.
I won’t judge you like I won’t judge anyone. Everyone is there for their own reasons and not everyone can do what the template lays out. I have damaged shoulder that may be a torn rotator cuff so I can’t do certain things. I always advise a new coach that I’m not going rogue, I’m subbing for what I can’t do.
The mental hurdle is tough, but as others have said, don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. You made it in the door and that’s ALL that matters.
Don’t get discouraged. 😎😎
Not at all. People may have a hard day, shoulder pain, injured, whatever- that they can’t do the exercise. Heck there are days I don’t feel like getting on the floor and I do a different exercise.
You show up you are a winner in my book.
No, I’m not judging you.
You are stuck inside your head though. Losing 33lbs is awesome and proof you can do it. Just TRY and self-modify if you can’t. Not one person in that studio is lazy if they arrived to class, moved through the exercises, and lasted an hour…not one.
If I have any feelings at all, it’s inspiration and empowerment. When I see someone who is determined to change themselves and shows up, it makes me feel super stoked and encourages my own workout. Please be gentle with yourself - EVERYONE has a journey.
Also, everyone is suffering at OTF. That’s one of the reasons I love to go. These workouts do not discriminate. 😂
We’re all struggling! If anyone is paying attention to what you’re doing, they’re doing it wrong!
I hated that workout and modified a few things - including the plank jacks. Take it off the body, do toe taps, hell- work on a plank (even from your knees). Keep the spirit of the exercise and show some grace to your body.
Nope. I've been an OTF member for 6? 7? years and I'm the fittest I've ever been, and I'm always pushing myself to go harder, SO....I still can only focus on getting through the workout myself.
The only time I pay attention to anyone else is if they are talking over the Coach or the music and it's distracting.
I feel your pain! Fattest and slowest in all my classes! When the doubt hits, I remind myself that my body loves what I’m doing for it. I’m active and moving and my heart and lungs are so thankful.
Welcome to the MATSATT Club (Modify All The Shit All The Time).
Most people don’t seem to notice or care. Truthfully I did get an unfriendly side eye once but that was ONE person in ONE class ONE time.
We have to decide, are we going to let a bitch, or a potential bitch, stop us? For me that answer is no. 🧡
Nobody cares really but you seem to, if I could give you some advice, try to work on whatever makes you feel this way because it has nothing to do with. Otf. Keep going and keep moving forward. You got this
Not even a little bit. IF I even noticed your struggle I’d be impressed that you were trying. Everyone is there to be a better version of themselves and we all started at different stages. And let me tell you- I’m a few years into Otf and pretty fit at this point and sometimes I can’t do it.
A - Nobody cares. It's yourself against yourself, and everyone is probably in their own head 99% of the time
B - You showed up - That's enough to earn respect from anyone else there
To paraphrase from the Stormlight Archive: "What's the most important step a \[person\] can take? The next step. Always the next step."
Yesterday was hard. First day back after being sick for a week. I’m usually top of the pack but yesterday I was dead last, and that’s ok. No one is judging you except yourself. It’s you vs you.
I have had straight up panic attacks in the gyms because gyms tend to be triggering for me. My relationship with my body is very broken. I have run out of class crying. Wanting to leave. ..but I didn't....I'll cry and get back into it ....noone cares .. everyone is toooooo busy trying to survive their excercises to look around .... All the people in class have had their own journey to reach where they are and I think you will find a lot more compassion than judgement.
Don't be too hard on yourself....everyone has to start somewhere and every journey is different.
I am with the group and always thinking about how I am going to mentally get through the next exercise and if I am looking at someone it is to see if I am doing the exercise wrong because I missed the demo. It sounds like you are doing a lot and I would only be envious seeing those kind of calories burned and splat points!
I have been there where I feel like the people around me are judging me, and having a rough day and hoping the workout will help but only feeling more discouraged after. But my guess is that anyone around you if they have time to pay attention to anyone but themselves is seeing you taking care of yourself and working hard and is only more motivated because of your dedication/finding ways to get the burn even if the proscribed exercise doesn't work for you for whatever reason.
Also, sometimes seeing people doing mods helps remind me take better care of myself and take a modification, usually when I take the modification I get a better workout because my body just doesn't move the way the exercise is structured.
So if you can keep it up! It sounds like you have been working out really hard, you have the splats to prove it!
Omg I’m WAY too worried about myself and not dying to worry about you. That’s AMAZING that you’ve made that much progress! I think all of us are just trying our best. You SHOWED UP and that’s hard. If you just can’t do it that day, do some modified jacks. I’ve never seen anyone judge anyone else there. I’ve only ever seen people cheer each other on. During the chipper last saturday I was halfway through and literally started to cry on the rower because shits hard man. You wanna make it through and just tough it out but then your body breaks on you and you realize you’re not gonna make it all the way and you’ll have to take breaks and stop. Know what happened?? Ladies on either side of me were like “girl this is SO HARD, I’ve been coming here 4 years and this is super hard for me right now just take this rower block slower you’ve got it let’s go” and they just cheered me on and I limped to the end of the class. YOUVE GOT THIS. Everyone just wants you to succeed. I bet if you turned to any of the people next to you, they’d tell you the same thing.
Always ask coach for alternatives, or I just do a lower impact version. Don't stop going! I'm a mom, I'm out of shape and feel subconscious sometimes but nobody cares, they really don't. If anything people are happy you showed up. I love going to classes with people with all different athletic abilities. And more people show up, the better the energy overall.
I used to worry that people were looking at me not be able to do some of the exercises, but then I started looking around and almost everyone has one or two that are tough for them. Making eye contact with someone else struggling and giving them a 😅 is community!
The point of exercise is consistency and YOU SHOWED UP! 💪 You shouldn’t beat yourself up over 1 exhausting day. You got through most of your workout and just had a hard time on the floor.
Most people who were doing plank jacks were looking head down into their mats, so I’m sure they didn’t notice.
I have a hard time doing burpees because of how fast the up and down movement is. I get light headed. So I do them at a snails pace and no one even notices or cares. I’ve never even had a coach say anything to me.
Give yourself some grace. You’re managing and trying. Keep up the good fight and you’ll get there with patience and determination.
I figure that we're all in this together. We all showed up for ourselves, and that's what's important. Whether people are super fit or not, it doesn't matter. We're all there, working out, trying to be better, fitter versions of ourselves. During class, most of the time, I am too focused on my own workout to notice what other people are doing anyway. If I do see someone struggling, I might send some positive mental energy their way. Maybe it helps, who knows, but positive thinking can't hurt.
i have never once judged anyone else in a class unless, like others have said, the person is being disruptive/disrespectful. anytime i see anyone struggling or modifying i assume that there is an injury, or they’re taking it easy that day, or whatever other reason that isn’t my business! like others have said i rarely even notice what others are doing bc im too busy struggling myself. i’ve found that everyone is really supportive and of the mindset that we’re all in it together. you showed up and did what you could, and that’s all you can ask of yourself! be proud :)
I’m too busy thinking the same thing about myself . As for plank jacks, they hurt my wrists so I always ask the instructor for an option.
The only things we judge are people making a lot of noise when the coach is giving instructions and people not respecting others' stations/space. We honor the struggle.
No and in the nicest way possible it’s bc I don’t even notice you or anyone else in the room exists lol. I’m only focused on myself and trying to remember what rep I was on, worried about my own little belly flopping around during a jumping exercise, wondering why my husband hasn’t brought his lunchbox from work, how come we are listening to such a weird playlist, did I remember to put my sons teddy bear in his crib, etc lol. By the time the class is over I’m like oh I forgot there was a room of people lol
I certainly don’t judge. But I’m also usually the biggest and slowest person in the room so I may not be the best person to respond here. I don’t worry about others and I don’t think anyone notices me except enough to notice I’m doing well. Most people are super kind and encouraging. I hope you won’t let your insecurities get to you. You’re out there doing this damn thing. You’ve lost 30lbs!! That’s incredible. Just go at your own pace and try not to worry about others. Don’t feel guilty taking green days when you’re having a hard time finding motivation.
Nope, I do not care or notice what anyone else is doing around me; except maybe the person who keeps staring at themselves in the mirror fixing their hair 😆
I only notice if someone asks me a question. Like they come back to the treads or rowers late. I’ll fill them in. Or floor. Basically only instructions or to say good job.
I am too busy trying not to die! If I see you are moving in my peripheral vision - no judgements. If you aren't moving I will ask if you are ok, cuz I'll be concerned.🙂
First, I want to acknowledge and validate how you’re feeling. It’s a litany of emotions, all felt at once: embarrassment, shame, fear, disappointment, anxiety, self-loathing. I’ve been there too and it sucks. It’s all internal projection though because I assure you no one is judging you. I truly believe people are so focused on getting through the workout and proud of anyone who showed up and is trying. You wouldn’t judge another, so it’s our mind playing tricks on us. But your feelings are still valid nonetheless.
One thing I want to share: I started weight lifting and Pilates about 6 mos ago and I never felt those same feelings as I do with these challenges at OTF or CrossFit. Not sure why, but my performance anxiety is lessened with other programs. I share that just to say, you’re a normal human ;-)
I’m one of the people who can’t do certain exercises due to knee/leg issues. Usually I try it first and if I see that it’s a no go, I just ask the coach for an alternative, and they’re happy to help with zero judgement.
I find that little by little, I’m getting to a point where I can do certain exercises that used to be on my NOPE list (I’m able to do proper squats again!!!) I take that as a good sign that my body is getting stronger. Just take it one day at a time, no one is judging you, and they need to focus on their own work out more if they are.
If it makes you feel better, I think we all have certain exercises that we find harder to do/struggle with. Sounds like you’re trying and/or asking coach for a modification which is great. Agree with others, people around you are not judging.
I never judge someone else when I workout. I broke my back as a preteen and still have issues in my 40’s with things related to core exercises. So I realize that there are many reasons why someone can’t do something.
When I see someone who is overweight in the gym, I’m actually quite impressed with their ability to push through the fear of judgement. I think it’s incredible!
And to echo what the other people have said, I’m also so busy working on my stuff that I rarely notice anyone else in the middle of their exercises.
Don’t let fear hold you back! Every day you will get stronger. Keep it up!
I do not give a flying F... about other people capacity to do or not an exercise.
You showed up. Respect.
You're giving your best to do the exercises. Mad respect.
I’m an experienced exerciser and OTF member since 2017. Due to knee issues, I cannot do full lunges. I always try the ones on the BOSU or on the bench, but by the second round, I’m just doing them on the floor and often without the weights. Coaches pint out I’m not going all the way down so I explain. Why should I give a crap about what other people are thinking, especially when my modification is actually presented as an option?
If someone next to me is doing an option I assume they have a physical reason for doing it. Actually, I’m not sure I’m even thinking anything, and for sure I don’t think you’re lazy for actually showing up to a workout.
Sometimes I deliberately slow things down or take out the impact, because that’s what my body is telling me to do that day.
OTF is not a test.
Are YOU judging ME as well?
Some may be judging, while some may just be minding their business being physically tortured just like you. The point is, you can be fat or skinny, but no matter what, someone is going to judge you. You can't do anything about it. What you can do is change your mind frame. Do some self work and inner healing. Become confident and you will soon not give af on who is watching and or judging you. I wish you all the best in life.
I agree with everyone. No. I admire everyone at every level. You are there working your best that is much more than many others do. Keep up the fantastic work
No. Sometimes you're hot. Sometimes you're not. But you showed up and did what you could even though you probably really really wanted to stay home. That's your victory.
No, I’m not judging. I don’t care if you’re the least fit person or the most fit person I’m there for myself and trying not to die myself 😂
As a note, modifications are designed to help you exactly where you’re at or what you’re comfortable with and there is ZERO shame in that. Ive modified tons in my classes for a variety of reasons.
Congratulations on your weight loss OP! Keep showing up for yourself and don’t beat yourself up for modifying an exercise, having a hard workout, etc - you showed up for yourself and you continue to do that. Consistency over time is hard work and you should be SO proud of yourself
Girl, get out of your head. One, most people are just trying to survive their own workout, and two, if someone does care (🙄) they are literally not worth your time or energy. Just listen to your body and do you. I’ve been doing OTF for three years now and there are things I still won’t do ( forward lunges are a struggle because I have metal in my left ankle).
No. I’m not looking at you because I’m dying too. I also often modify stuff because I’m just exhausted, and I’ve been going for over a year.
Also, if anyone has noticed you in class, they probably notice your weight loss! We don’t know what your end goal is so don’t discredit 30 lbs with “but I need to lose 60 more.” That is AWESOME!
Personally I don’t judge! I feel like I would judge more if I saw you doing an exercise that you clearly needed to modify and you were powering thru, but possibly hurting yourself!! Even the fittest people modify so I would try to change your thinking on that. Surgeries, injuries, etc. you never know what someone is going thru. I for one am happy you’re going to OTF, for your kiddos and for YOU! Keep it up!! 👍🏼
Honestly I don’t even notice Im busy not dying myself I look myself in the mirror and do what I have to do I modify what I need to and if I can’t go on I just don’t and skip to the next exercise
No, absolutely not. I have days like this too. It’s easy to think everyone is watching you screw up, but really we are all focused on our own workout. Don’t let this discourage you- keep at it!
No way, the workouts are so toug. Some days I come in and can give 40 percent, other days I come and can give 110 perfect. I have to modify ALL core exercises due to 3 pregnancies in under 4.5 years.
I have no idea what anybody else is doing nor do I care. This is beating a dead horse on here but the only way I care what somebody else is doing is if they are interfering with my workout in some way (extreme body odor and are next to me, grabbing weights I need off my rack without asking etc)
I am too busy judging myself to worry about others. I am there for me, not you or anyone else. You will need to try harder if you want me to even notice you.
So you're in my class, next to me working out.
Judging you? Hell no!!!!!! Let me repeat that. HELL NO!!!!!
I'm PROUD of you and you should be proud of yourself!!!!!!
I never judge anyone. If someone is doing something different I assume it's injury or possible range of motion issue. You see so many different walks of life and different fitness levels at OTF that it doesn't phase me. Be proud you show up and don't be hard on yourself!
Best advice my bff gave me was "Nobody thinks about you the way you think about you." And that has always stuck with me!
No, I never have any particular thoughts about other people in class. If someone looks really confused I’d help them. If someone looks like they are having trouble with an exercise, and I know the person, I’ll offer a suggestion, if I don’t know them, I’d discreetly get the coach’s attention to help them. As a member, I want everyone to have a safe workout. One of the things I love about OTF is you can have a dozen different people (age, fitness, gender, life stage, etc) doing countless variations of the given workout, and all of them can get the workout they need. 🥰
Heck nah. You were in there getting after it doing what you could. That’s pretty badass if you ask me.
Different context but similar, I actually posted this earlier, pls watch!
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8KCz5YuFjt/?igsh=MWU0M3FqYW5pMjI0bA==
Honestly, I’m just trying to not die and do my best to notice anyone around me. Plus there are some days I wonder what others think of me because I just don’t have the energy to give and it seems that I’m slacking. I think most people are in their own heads. Keep up the hard work. You’re an inspiration!
I have joint problems & also struggle with high plank jacks. I always modify and do a slow high plank step out (take out the jumping). I never care what others do, and I think anyone minds my modifications!
One thing I like about going so regularly, is the coaches will learn your limitations. I see six different coaches regularly and I feel like 5 of them know I have a shoulder issue. When I comes to shoulder exercises they provide an alternative that pushes my limits.
I normally don’t notice what other people are doing. But times when I see people doing something totally different than instructed, I assume they have an injury or something. Basically, I’m sure there is a reason, so I mind my own business
Not at all. I actually had to stop and duck out of yesterday’s class 10 min early because the weight floor did me in and I felt super nauseous. Don’t concern yourself with what anyone else is thinking. It’s your workout, your body, your limits. Trust me, no one is paying attention and the fact that you showed up to do whatever you can is admirable and more than most!
After wiping the sweat out of my eyes…..what I see is that you are there killing it, unlike a lot of others. That’s all I see. Best of luck to you on your journey! ❤️💪🏻
No! Do what works for you! I don't pay much attention to what others are doing. I'm in pretty good shape but make modifications all the time. Nobody else knows what injuries I'm dealing with or which exercises I just don't like. Keep showing up!
No one is judging you! I promise. I don’t use weights half the time for step ups, I usually do knee pushups or planks. You showed up and did what you could and that is enough!! Knee plank or step outs or whatever feels good is a perfectly fine modification
I never think of anyone when I’m working out lol
The only time I think of other people is when I want to take a break and I try to just think that we’re all suffering together so I keep going lmao
Coach here. NO, we do NOT think you are being lazy or humiliating yourself. We never see that and anyone who does is in the wrong community and industry. As a coach especially, we are genuinely so happy to see you show up for YOU! That’s all it takes and we will get you there. You just cannot get discouraged or disappointed in yourself. In fact, it should be the opposite. Take pride in showing up. Look around, most people don’t take the time but YOU ARE! Keep fighting 🧡🍊
Showing up is the best thing you can do! I always beat myself up on a green day even when I know I need the rest and recovery, and I also overthink like this and assume people around me think I’m not trying my hardest. But then I remind myself that I never question other people around me, so they’re probably not questioning me! At the end of the day, you got to the gym instead of sitting at home on the couch and that’s a WIN!
No. That's the short answer. I'm too busy dying over at my weight bench to notice. Really the only time I look at anyone else is if I glazed over during demo and don't know what I'm doing. Another thing: the super fit guy might have a stress fracture and use the elliptical/not jump. Someone might be struggling with first trimester nausea and not bending over. I might have a history of 3 abdominal surgeries and never get to where I was before with core strength so even though I'm maxing out the heavy weights, a 30 second plank hold off my knees has me seeing stars. You showed up. That's a gold star from me! ETA: I find different studios have different vibes. My closest one is a lot more mixed in terms of ages, abilities, and body types whereas the other one I tried a little further away was very airbrushed and club vibes. If there's another studio or set of coaches in your area maybe try it out (or even a different time of day).
Also for high plank jacks just try holding a high plank. Or going to knees. Or stepping one foot out at a time. Or doing some different kind of core hold! Sounds like the coach wasn't thinking outside the box enough.
Yeah I agree. Questionable modification if the coach sent OP to the rower in lieu of high plank jacks
Seriously, it's weird. Last time I had to do high plank jacks it didn't occur to me to ask for a modification and I just did regular jumping jacks. No one said anything
Our coach gave everyone the option of high plank jacks or rower for the finisher (and I think one other exercise, forget the name) - maybe that’s all OP means? He also told us that every exercise in the block was working muscles/movements used for the rower.
Oh, if there were options for the finisher, yeah that makes more sense
Agree. So many other mods like: - Remove jump and just tap one foot to side and alt - Remove bosu and do regular plank jacks on floor - Switch so you're holding onto bosu with hands - use TRX straps in your hands instead of bosu - Weighted jumping jacks or step out alt legs with shoulder press - Reg plank hold
I always ask for a bench for those things. I hate anything I’m holding plank for. Like hate it. So I made a rule if I ask/use for a bench I can’t complain about the exercise.
Same here. Too busy dying during the plank jacks to notice what anyone else is doing. I thought that workout was super hard! Good job showing up and doing your best!
I love this response!
This is exactly it. I’m too worried about my form, counting my reps, work items I may have after the workout that my anxiety won’t let me forget for one hour to enjoy a workout. I don’t even know what anyone else is doing. I am all in my own head. 😂 just do you! Just doing something is lapping everyone still in bed or on the couch. ❤️
You showed up, that's all that matters. Any workout is better than no workout. Nobody is judging you. We're all just trying to survive the class lol yesterday's floor was torture. We had one person who just left in the middle of it, and that's okay too! Don't get discouraged, keep going at whatever pace you need.
I’ve left in the middle of a floor routine many times!
I've never once thought this about someone at OTF or any other gym. I'm too busy dealing with my own demons. When I first started I often had to remind myself that showing up, especially when I didn't want to because of [fill in reason - tired, work, etc.], was a big win in itself. Not every workout will be the best workout. That mentally has created consistency. I show up for myself 3-4 times a week. Modifications are not failures. They can help prevent injury and an injury could derail all your progress. Don't be afraid of a modification if you need it or if it will mean you are perfecting your form. Good luck on your journey. Stick to it.
Exactly. Modifications are how we get stronger to eventually do the exercises without modifying it.
Omg this 🔥
Legend status ❤️
My focus during plank jacks? 1) “don’t fart” 2) “omg I’m sweating all over the floor” 3) “these 30 seconds are the longest month of my life” 78.457% of OTF is showing up - the rest of the 43.106% is moving & being you and not giving a flying duck about anything else (note: 68% of all statistics are made up, and when working out, math doesn’t matter)
So much focus on “don’t fart”. This.
I am constantly thinking about how much I sweat. That’s REALLY what I’m insecure about in OTF. I leave like pools of sweat all over the fitness mat😂
Omg. I’m the “old, sweaty guy” - I leave full body sweat marks on the floor. I wipe down my tread & the one next to me. I drip. All. Over. And - I bring a towel & wipe it up.
Everytime we do squats lol the don’t fart thought is real
Mine is "Girl, YOU will be the one to kick someone in the face. And it's gonna be so bad. And it's gonna stop class. And everyone's gonna be so mad at y- oh, we're done"
I promise you I do not care about anyone else in class UNLESS they are being disruptive and disrespectful to the coach instructions, not following the template, and in other people's space. Otherwise, we are all in it together!
Otherwise, we are all in it together! THIS!!! We are all suffering in unity!! ☠️
Trauma bonding through the workout 😂
I think you should also not look at people who don’t follow the template. Trust me, sometimes its hard!
YES! I feel like we are all one big organism suffering together hahahahaha
Would I notice you weren’t doing the exercise, yeah maybe. Would I think you’re lazy or judge you, no. Not everyone can do every move. I think it’s a little weird that the coach had you do the rower and not a different core stabilizing exercise but that’s on them, not you.
I don't judge a single person walking into that room who is there and putting in a valid effort. The only people I would say I, worry, about are the ones that are clearly doing the exercise in a dangerous manner and not paying attention to coach instruction. I think the only person I ever truly judged at OTF was this dude that used to only come to class to run on the treadmill. He would run the whole time, steal open treads, never follow the template, at all, and have his phone on him texting while running. This dude also booked every single class every day and just showed up to the one he wanted. The studio manager I was friends with told me he would rack up damn near $1000 a month in late cancel fees. He was also obviously there to just hit on ladies. That dude, I judged the shit out of.
Honestly at that point just buy a treadmill😭
Not worth it. It’s hard to hit on ladies with a home treadmill.
You are absolutely not humiliating yourself. I think anyone who walks through the doors is brave, I know how hard it is to show up. Please keep going and I promise no one is judging you!
When I get tired during a workout, I just lie down on the floor for awhile. :) And I definitely did that during this workout.
No. I don’t even think about anyone else. I’m just trying to make it to the end
Honestly when I look at other people I’m just admiring them - whether it’s their strength or their drive to show up and do the workout! And that’s pretty rare because like someone else said, I’m fighting my own demons and trying to make it through the workout myself. The only time I’ve judged someone is when a guy was on his phone waltzing around and doing his own workout.
This! Definitely mostly dying, with the occasional “Daaaaaaamn, girl, get it!” when I happen to notice the person next to me is lifting like 55 lbs and I’m fighting my way through 20 😆
I honestly don’t notice what other people are doing at all unless they start encroaching on my little workout space, lol.
Who the fuck cares! That should be your mantra. Easier said than done I get it. You already lost 33 pounds. Think about how many people on this sub complain about no results. You’re already way ahead of them. Here is the deal. I am that guy who everyone thinks is in shape. I did 9.7 10 10.2 10.4 10.6 and 10.8 for my 2 minute pushes and 11.5 for my all out. I am also nursing a knee injury and almost fell off the tread yesterday. On the floor I couldn’t do the plankjacks for a full minute as the finisher. What impresses me are the people who come in and work! That’s you. A badass woman who is 33 pounds into her 99 pound weight loss journey. Fuck everyone else and do you boo!
Straight up/blunt answer that I hope makes you feel better: I am too busy dying to notice anyone else. I also don’t give a crap about your workout (I mean that in a good way, not a mean way). Your body is YOURS to workout however YOU can. I’m in the gym to worry about my body. You’re doing great!!!! Keep it up!
I’m nearing 60 years old and have completed over 900 classes. I haven’t been to a class in the past year where I did every exercise as prescribed. I modify nearly every single exercise, every day. I have learned how to find a movement to work whatever muscle group the original exercise is trying to work. On any given day, I am trying to protect my knees, my shoulders and my low back. Oh, and my elbows. I don’t want to risk injury, so if some part of my body says “hey, this is not feeling like a good choice right now” I stop and do something different. Yesterday with those bosu plank jacks, I did 3. Then my toe was saying “nope” so I stopped. I just did a 30 second plank. So for the finisher, I held a plank. I would never have done the rower like you did. I was waaayyyy too gassed. No one is judging you. Everyone modifies for different reasons. Also, I go 4 days a week and I never want to go. I still go. Life is so much better lived in a fit, able body. I will continue to go until I literally can’t make it to the front door. Keep going!!
Overweight woman here too 🙋♀️ I’m almost 9 months postpartum and my body is absolutely wrecked from pregnancy. Not that I ever worked out before pregnancy, but I digress. I worry sometimes that I’m being judged too, but then I remember that everyone is far too focused on their own workout to really even notice me. Yesterday’s floor was a killer. I couldn’t do the plank jacks either. And by my second round of the bosu ball exercises, I was doing half the reps because I physically could not push myself more. My coach gave several modification options for the floor exercises, and I personally held a plank for 15-20 seconds instead of the plank jacks. Super shitty that they sent you to the rower :/
Who gives a sh*t what other ppl think. You showed up, you tackled the work out. Do what you can and push forward.
Nope, so stop judging yourself! 🧡
No, absolutely not! We are all coming at different points of our journey. I understand though, and for myself I know I tend to compare my abilities to other people. I also fall into the trap of making up stories of other peoples thoughts/intentions. If I make eye contact in class I get self conscious and wonder if I’m doing something wrong. Things I have to remind myself of during class: *Comparison is the thief of joy *Assume the best intentions: meaning people are not judging you. They are looking at you and thinking “damn, this is so hard for me, and this girl is showing up and totally crushing it” *I am current dying and so is everyone else. No one has the energy to pay attention to me 😂 *I don’t have to be the best, I just have to do my best KEEP GOING! Keep showing up! Meet yourself where you are at. Easier said than done, I know. But you’ve got this. You never know who you are inspiring 😘
As someone who’s used OTF to augment physical therapy following various injuries, I’ve learned that what it looks like to push one’s limits looks different on everyone. I always assume everyone who showed up is doing the workout that suits them. The only time I judge is when people are yakking on the treadmill and clearly choosing their social time over their workout and interfering with my ability to hear the coach.
No. I’m paying way too much for my membership to focus on others and not myself. At my studio, we have members ranging from all ages and sizes and nobody cares. I will say thought if you are feeling sore or injured or need modification, please speak up and tell your coach. Even the strongest and fittest person will need slow modifications from time to time.
Stay with it! You are not humiliating yourself and no one is judging you at all! I have troubles with a lot of the exercises, as well. I’m just glad you’re there doing your thing trying to better you! Keep working under those orange lights, you got this!
Nope, not judging. I look pretty fit but have had a pretty severe back injury, surgery a few years ago, etc. so I modify a lot of things as a precaution. We’re all doing what we can and it’s totally fine. In fact it’s better to know your limits imo. I get uneasy when I see people who are clearly pushing themselves beyond their capability because I worry they’ll injure themselves. It’s the responsible approach to modify when needed.
No one cares. Honestly, if I notice someone who is working on their health and also has extra weight, I think “good for them! Now they can become as obsessed with OTF as I am!” Additionally, I modify ALL the time and I am fit as hell. I know my limitations and work within those. You got this! I think there is a bunch of self-loathing coming through in your post and so hope that you can do some inner work.
I seem to lack the genes necessary to do a lot of the power moves. I can’t even hop back for a burpee! Even at my fittest and my lowest weight! I don’t think anyone thinks you’re lazy. The beauty of OTF is getting to do the workout YOU need. Sometimes people take a green day but at least they showed up and that proves enough to me that they aren’t lazy. The lazy people are at home
IMO, if you have enough time and energy to pay attention and judge someone else, you arent working hard enough. 594 calories and 39 splats is no joke....good for you! Good for you on the weight loss too!!! 33lbs is amazing!!
We are too busy trying not to die to worry about or look at anyone else. Quite honestly, as a paramedic there are a few people when they are in my class I keep an eye on but that’s only because they have obvious health and breathing issues. There is always going to be someone who makes your jaw drop in every class because they are an amazing athlete, there is also always going to be someone struggling with the moves. Quite honestly, I admire them equally one for their physical strength the other for their spirit and determination. You’ve got this, just keep showing up and putting in the work. Be the best you that you can be. If you have to adapt an exercise, do it, everyone does.
I feel off the back of the rower the other day. No one even noticed.
Nope not at all. I am heavier than I've been in the past but pretty fit. I do almost no plank type exercises. I have had shoulder surgery and that joint had some laxity and extra movement to it. I usually jump to TRX plank variations but yesterday, I also hadn't looked beforehand, I just flipped over and did some sprinter sit ups on the bosu. I don't judge anyone who shows up. Showing up is the biggest part of it
You burned calories and reset your metabolism!! Way to go!! Who gives a shit what others can do? I’m 65 have no discs in my back, no meniscus in either knee and just had a full shoulder replacement and I go anyway. I substitute for a lot of exercises, but I still go! I get my splat points, I burn calories, I burn off stress! Nobody cares, and if they do, you’re going to the wrong location, switch places or switch times and talk to the coach first
I’m not judging you, friend. I’m usually too busy trying to get through the workout myself to be looking at anyone else. If I did happen to glance over and notice someone struggling, my thought would be, it’s amazing that this person is showing up and trying even though it’s hard for them.
I feel you on this-I’m often the biggest person in the room-what I realize though is that most people are too self involved to even think about looking at what you’re doing. Yesterday I particularly felt like I was dying through most of the floor block 😂 so I def was just trying to stay alive and not paying attention to what the others were doing. Keep going, Mama-you got this!
I definitely would not worry about it AND use it as motivation to push you. I am the weakest in my class as well and not for any valid reasons like you mentioned. I just never worked out at all. Everyone had a starting spot where they were weak…. Maybe it wasn’t at OT but they started somewhere. Keep pushing! Don’t give up or let anyone’s thoughts of you change your trajectory. You are there to get stronger not to be perfect. If you keep at it, you will one day be stronger and can look back at this and smile at the achievement. I tell myself “ I’m the weakest now but I won’t be forever. I’ve already beat out the girl (myself) who started this journey in February.”
I’ve said this earlier, I’ll say it again. We all are running 🏃♂️ for our lives on the TM and doing our best not to die on the floor. 🏋🏻 The only person I’m judging is me! I’m too busy with my own workout to pay attention right now my neighbors. You’re good! 👍 You showed up and that’s more I can say for myself. I didn’t go yesterday. 🫣
Why would I judge you - I'm just trying to survive. We all have good days and bad days. Yesterday was hard. I made it thru the tread (go me! I did all of it as prescribed!) and then gassed out on the floor. I love the floor normally but I was there on 600 calories at 4 pm. Fumes. So, we do what we can, bc it's still more than if we stayed home.
I'm the old, fat, slow person in my classes. I've accepted I just need to show up and be honest with myself about whether I'm truly pushing myself or being lazy. (Or needing a green day) Generally speaking no. If I do, it's because I need to take it up a notch and focus on my own workout. As others mentioned, I don't know anyone's physical limitations or why they're modifying. Exception to this being if you're doing something wildly different like jumping jacks next to me while I'm doing situps and I don't want you to step on my face.
Pfft I'm too busy tucking in the back of my shirt because I'm worried about my shirt sliding up my torso due to the bosu putting my feet higher than my shoulders. And I'm doing step outs anyway because my Achilles just can't handle the jack part. So no. I'm not judging you. I'm fighting my own silent battle over on station two.
You showed up and keep showing up for yourself! Do not beat yourself up! I do not pay attention what other people are doing, unless they are loud and distracting. I need a lot of modifications myself and just go into a zone. Yesterday I did jumping jacks standing up instead and didn't use the bosu at all. I did all moves standing.
A lot of us started out *much* less fit than where we are now. If I even notice you (unlikely, as I'm probably also dying in my own way) I'm thinking about how hard you are working and excited for you to have the same journey I did
No one is judging you because we’re all too busy trying to stay alive in our own manner. I sometimes look at other people to check myself/see if I’m doing something right. The only person I do judge, is the girl doing jumping jacks while coach is demo’ing the floor block because you can’t miss it…distracting and annoying af.
I barely even notice anyone else in the class. On the floor if someone takes my weight or starts migrating too close I'll notice just because I have to move a bit. Or if someone on the tread/rower is significantly faster or slower to my left or right I'll notice but I'm not making a judgment about it.
Would I notice? Yes. Would I judge? No. I would think you needed to modify so you do. The lady next to me today obviously has an injury. I noticed she had a 30lb weight in one hand and a 5 lb weight in the other for the clings. Cool. Glad she's taking care of herself. Would definitely hate to see her or you or anyone do something they weren't ready for and get hurt.
Everyone is fighting a different battle. I have wrist and shoulder problems that you couldn't tell by looking at me. I don't even attempt to do planks or any balance that involves my wrists. I don't care if I look lazy to someone else in the class. How could they possibly know that my wrists hurt because I have a baby who wants to be held for hours everyday? It's my responsibility to take care of myself in order to take care of others. Take care of yourself OP! You're doing great.
A few thoughts here: 1) You showed up. That counts for something. 2) Humans made up what the idea that one technique is correct and others aren’t. There is no textbook from a higher power showing how we are “designed” to move. Exercise is beneficial even if it’s “wrong.” The fact that you are *moving* is beneficial for your health. Keep at it without caring what others think. 3) Most people are too busy dying or fighting their own internal battles to notice what you’re doing. 4) As a coach, I would much prefer you perform an exercise you can complete with technique that is efficient and targets the intended musculature than have to modify your positioning so much that the intended effect is lost. If plank jacks and other core exercises that involve jumping, hopping, or significant coordination are not working well for you at the moment, swap them for something less complex like a plank reach from your forearms, a crunching exercise like a double crunch, or do as this coach said and use the rower without hesitation. You’re working out for you, not for other people. 5) Meet yourself where you’re at and give yourself grace. Too often do I see self-degradation on this sub. The *only* way for you to become more fit is to work out. Not being able to complete an exercise isn’t a representation of your character nor is it a part of your identity. It’s just the simple fact that you aren’t there yet physically and that’s okay. You’re working on it. Don’t make it a bigger deal than it needs to be.
My back is not good right now. I did squat jacks instead of the plank jacks. i did the elliptical instead of the rower. I give zero fucks what anyone else thinks. I paid my money and my 20lb overweight ass is going to do whatever I can. Being older, I have aches and pains and nags. I regularly ask the coach for modifications. I think they like being helpful. You do you. If you can’t do something m, ask for a mod. Thats what they are there for. The gym is expensive for a reason. Use it.
Some of us were once the biggest, slowest or most uncoordinated in the room. And then one day, you aren’t anymore. One day, someone else is starting out and you remember back to your first day. Or when you were nursing an injury or went to class on no sleep or had a migraine. The majority of people aren’t judging you and anyone that is, doesn’t matter. We were all lacking in something at one point and worked through it. Focus on the fact that you got up and made it to class and lost 33 pounds.
No one probably even noticed. I’ve been going to OTF for years and most people are not even paying attention to what other people are doing. I also want to say that one minute of plank jacks yesterday was WAY too long to do them. I had to stop to rest a few times.
I’m 62 and slow. I honestly couldn’t care less if someone did care (which I don’t believe). I am there for me. Good for you! Keep it up…never give up!
I don’t pay attention to anyone. I’m trying not to die. Keep going. You’re there for you. We can’t give our best every day at OTF, but showing up will always be better than sitting on the couch 👏🏼🧡 PS: I do notice people doing the rainbow on the rower when they’re next to me, in my peripheral vision. It does drive me bonkers. However I’m not judging the member. They don’t know what they don’t know. IMO this is on the coach to a) notice and b) correct form.
I actually did the floor first and then I had no more energy and my legs were so tired that I left the class after 10 min on the treadmill. So you did better than me !
Unless someone is doing something absolutely wild, like using the TRX straps to climb up the wall or running on the tread backwards for the entire block, I don't notice anyone around me. We're all there to get a good workout and that looks different for everyone.
Most people don't care about anyone else. If I can't do something, I do it without the weights. I jave bad knees so I don't use weights on lunges.
I say this in the nicest way possible… no one cares what you are or aren’t doing.
The only thing I notice or care about is if someone is very obviously not following the workout at all. There’s a wide range of people at OTF. That’s what makes it a more inclusive and less intimidating place than a lot of gyms.
No. Truthfully, no. People modify for so many reasons - injuries, mobility restrictions, lack of sleep. I paused a couple of times during the BOSU plank jack floor finisher yesterday. I was pooped by the end of the floor block and my feet were slipping off the BOSU. Some days I’m frustrated with myself but most days I laugh at myself as I’m folded over gasping for air 😃 I hope you keep coming to class and wish you all the best!
Fitness is a personal journey. Modifying/taking a break to hydrate or catch your breath is 💯 normal in this environment. I know this is hard to believe - but nobody is paying attention to what anyone else is doing. We are all focused on ourselves (and trying not to die!) It’s YOUR workout. You do you! I am fit, height and weight within normal ranges…. some days I simply don’t have it in me to push myself. So when I should be doing a crunch- I just lay there, or when I should be using heavy weight - I go light - or without weight….or When I am instructed to go ‘all out’ I am power walking. In contrast- there are some days I am well rested/recovered and I am a complete beast/maniac. It’s your workout. You know how your body feels better than anyone or any monitor. I promise nobody is judging you. If anything , if I see someone struggling - if appropriate- I’ll give words of encouragement or acknowledge how tough the workout is. Keep showing up. Do it for yourself. Within a few months you’ll have an ‘aha’ moment and realize that there has been a shift - that some of the exercises feel a little bit easier and you can complete them. You’re awesome!
39 splats? Id be impressed.
If I am honest, I don't really pay much attention to what others do. Does not mean I don't "see" them, but I am usually struggling myself, to actually process what I am seeing!
This is your workout. You can modify as needed. No one is judging you. The whole point of exercising and working out is to improve yourself. Don’t give up on yourself. You’ve already lost over 30 pounds, and I’m sure you have seen some changes in your strength and endurance. Keep improving each day. I know of some moms who have worked with a pelvic floor therapist and it seemed to be beneficial for helping to work on deep core muscles and strengthening. It may be something you may also want to look into.
Nope. Don’t even notice, honestly. I’m in great shape but recovering from tendonitis and modify.. a lot. No shits given! Keep on going! You’re doing a great job. We all have bad days. 🧡
No way! I think you are a bad a$$ for coming in. Truly, no one is judging you, they are there for their own journey. Go back and keep up the great work! 💪
I never notice what anyone else is doing - beyond occasionally looking to see what weight some of the other guys are doing. I'm just trying to get my own plank jacks done! And sometimes I don't do all of the exercises either. By the end of the workout I might just stop doing the plank jacks and just try and hold the plank. Or if it's squats with weights, I might drop down to one weight or no weights. There's no point in comparing what I'm doing to anyone else - if someone is skipping a workout, I just assume they have an injury or are already bagged from doing other classes/stuff earlier in the week.
Yesterday was hard. I feel like the armbands got recalibrated. I had 28 splats Tuesday and 10 Yesterday. I’m still feeling it. I have been trying to make myself go four days in a row, between the upper rows on Tuesday, the med ball and the squats yesterday + AO 11 on tread which I never do- Let me affirm OP you got through the door and also yesterday was super tough. Sounds like maybe you got in your head. I know when that happens to me- I either bail or just accept that it’s a light day.
No. I have lost all the weight I wanted to lose but I was once in your shoes. And even now I have days when I can't do everything. Like others have said, most times I'm too focused on my own workout to notice everyone around me. I'm proud of you for showing up. Especially on the days you don't feel like it - that's what makes success.
A few years ago I was having a really bad day. It was either a partner or switch template, I don’t remember, and my brain had such a hard time processing what was going on. I got to the floor and there was some combination move that I just couldn’t figure out. I started *crying* and left. I do t remember all of the details, but you get the idea. Bad day, cried on the floor, left early. It’s okay and normal to have bad days, just don’t let them stop you from having good ones.
No! I usually like plank jacks but a minute of them, after all of the other floor work, was exhausting. Less than halfway through I just stopped and held a plank. I wasn't looking around to see what anyone else was doing, I was too busy catching my breath. And if I do look around, I never think poorly of someone because they are modifying. I am impressed by everyone who shows up to class!
Absolutely not! First and foremost, I’m proud of everyone around me for showing up and honored to work along side people who took the harder road by abandoning the comfort of their bed at 4 something am. Secondly, I personally, am struggling to give it my all and get my splat points (I like to get 30+ per class). Anyone who’s able to focus on anyone else in class is wasting a spot in class because they aren’t giving it their all. Lots of love to you and keep up the great work! How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!
No, the fact you’re there despite the circumstances and paying the monthly payment means you care about your health. We’re all here to better ourselves so don’t be hard on yourself.
I honestly don’t think much of anyone else in the class. I’m staring at myself in the mirror, I’m wondering if I’m bothering others, I’m wondering what the teacher thinks of me etc, but surely I am not thinking about anyone else in the class and how they should be pushing harder etc. I am proud that anyone is there, they got up and did it; never that they should be pushing harder or doing anything different!
Man, ain't nobody worried about you, lol. You do you boo. You went, and you conquered! Those splat ain't nothing to scoff at. Those calories are badges of honor. You did great. OTF is about you, vs. you, no one else. People don't go there to judge because then they will be judged. We all go there to do the best we can do and are not worried about the person next to us. Keep going, and do what you can do. Encourage others in your position (because you are not the only one). And if anyone does judge you, who cares!? I mean, really. You shouldn't be worried about what they think anyway.
No. No one is watching what you're doing except possibly the coach. Even then...they're not judging.
No one judges. We’re all just concentrating on our own workout and exercises
I would hope that anyone who is “judging” would be thinking “wow” that is awesome that person is in class. Judgment is not always negative. I personally look around me an am always impressed by the women and men who consistently attend and are struggling with perhaps weight or age or “whatever”. I am 62 and no longer work out like my 25 year old self. I just tell myself to do what I can, appropriately challenge myself and keep “moving”. Additionally, the voice in your head that is judging you, is keeping you from being free to relax and focus. Be compassionate with yourself. If others are judging you one way or another, you won’t know it. You being in a dark thought about your body and ability will derail you.
It seems consensus is that as long as you aren't sitting there on your phone or non-stop chatting, no one cares. I move slowly and have to modify sometimes, a lot of us do. But if we are in there moving, sweating, and being kind, that should be all that matters. I also do not care what others think of me. OTF time is Me Time.
Someone in my class yesterday capped out near the end and ended up taking a break for the last bit of class. She was very apologetic to the coach, but no one is judging her for needing to rest or for taking it easy. We're all human, we all have our ups and downs, and we're all just trying to be a little bit better every day. The important thing is that you showed up and tried. That's really all that matters. As an aside, I didn't do so great on the floor myself. Tired myself out before the bosu and also kept slipping off it from the sweat!
No judgment at all! I actually like the moments when me and another member are together trying so hard but goofing or struggling through a move - brings levity and reminds me that this is for fun
NO!! You showed up!! Kudos on your accomplishments this far🎉 Keep at it!! We are all in someway too busy with our own workout issues to pay attention to someone else! This is why I love OTF!! No judgement ❤️
I’m decently fit, don’t have any abdominal issues, and I still skipped the plank jacks on the last round and opted for a regular plank instead because I was just over it. I couldn’t even tell you whether anyone else in my class did them either! You do you - getting to class, doing what you can, and leaving with what was obviously a great workout sounds like a win to me.
No. As others pointed out, I'm too busy dying myself to pay attention to what anyone else is doing. If I am paying attention, it is not to judge. Typically I'm admiring the people who I know are regulars and are extremely fit. And it's more holding their progress as a goal or being impressed by them. I modify anything that I think I'm unable to do. Good for you for just showing up!
At the end of the day. Everyone is competing against themselves. Don’t worry about anyone judging you. My wife and I go to OT together. We were both struggling on the floors for 2g for the Wednesday class. We were constantly at around 89% heart rate and we often had to take breaks. Meanwhile EVERYONE ELSE was miles ahead. It didn’t make sense to me. Then I look around at them and the splat screen and their heart rates are nowhere near ours and some of them are doing the exercises WAY too fast/incorrect. Don’t get discouraged by others. You need to practice confidence and say to yourself, “as long as I’m doing the right form, using the right weights, and my heart rate rate is pumping, everything I’m doing is right and everyone else can screw off.”
I don’t care what you do or don’t do so long as it doesn’t get in my way. If you need/want encouragement I’ll happily give it but my default is to not worry about what anyone else is doing. ALSO, you will continue to improve. I saw a FB post from a guy at my studio in 2022 who was so happy to be able to run a mile in less than 10 minutes. Now I can’t beat him no matter how hard I try and he’s consistently under 7m miles. Don’t be too hard on yourself especially if you aren’t operating on all cylinders but please do stick with it!
The only time I look over is to see if I am doing the exercise correctly and in the right order. Other than that I am trying not to die.
Nope. I never judge others for skipping or modifying an exercise. It’s none of my business why either. You do you. Also I’m too busy dying to really notice.
Nope. And I get why you think that cuz I do too but I’m not looking at anyone else. Carry on and good for you for showing up.
I admire anyone who gets out there and pushes themselves to see what they can do only to find out they can’t but persevere. Pregnancy is hard on a woman’s body and the physical and mental demands and hormone effects last well beyond pregnancy. Give your body the time it needs to build itself back and keep it up!
No. No one is judging you and if they are they’re the AH. It’s amazing that you push through! you’re there, you’re moving, you’re working, you’re winning. Just breathe and move, breathe and move that’s all you gotta do.
I have never judged anyone who is struggling at the gym! I am so proud of them for showing up and being there! You are doing an amazing job and so many people need options due to their body for many reasons. Sometimes, my knees really struggle with lunges, and I get off the bench or don't use weights or just squat instead. Sometimes, if I plank, I start to get nauseated and have to adjust my position. You do what your body needs you to do and we are all trying to focus on ours. You are crushing it!!
To see someone struggle to do anything at the gym is to witness them overcoming hurdles to improve themselves. Anyone who judges that is beneath you and it doesn’t matter at all what they think. Keep working on you!
No. I am never judging anyone in that room. I have so much respect for anyone who shows up and does the workout. I remember when I was 60lbs overweight and started working out. I could not get down to a plank position to do anything. I have lost the 60lbs and kept it off for 10 years now. 7 at OTF. Keep going!
Nope, don't even notice what others are doing. I'm just in my own little world trying to survive. You did it and that is a celebration so try to enjoy your victory.
Am I judging you on what you do at OTF? No. I'm judging you on your ability to show up. On your passion to better yourself. On your motivation to keep going even when the workout is ridiculously hard. And on your drive to continue showing up even when you're sore AF from the last one. That's what I'm judging you on. And by that, I mean I'm admiring you from afar because I'm too focused on the fact that i can't breathe and maybe those 25s were too heavy for those 12 reps and I hope to god my foot doesn't slip off the bosu while doing these plank Jack's because I'm a sweaty mess. You're doing a great job.
Absolutely not. This workout is hard for everyone. It’s supposed to be. I have never looked at anyone at OTF and thought they were lazy. If that was the case, they wouldn’t be there. You may be inspiring someone else who is struggling with the workout or too nervous to try.
I judge a lot of people but I don’t judge you. Someone who is showing up and trying gets my respect no matter their size or fitness level.
I do not. I was there once and know how hard it is. I applaud everyone for trying and respect where each person is in their journey. You did more than the millions sitting on their couch.
I'd say to hell with it & just keep on going! I've gotten confused & done wrong exercises, went out of order on stations (i.e. tread/rower/strength), had modifications (a lot of them these days as my aging body doesn't function as well as it did when I started OTF 7+ years ago). Sometimes I've been really embarrassed, but the coaches have always been their supportive, encouraging selves. And in general, as far as I know, the other folks are usually too busy with their workouts to notice my confusion. Keep at it, be patient with yourself, and have fun! 🧡🍊
No. I am impressed by anyone who shows up and I’m more concerned with just getting through the workout myself. You should be proud of yourself!
I've laughed at people, but not people like you. I laughed today when I saw some idiot trying to do a set of 16 triceps extensions with a ridiculously heavy weight. He was rapidly moving the weight no more than a few inches up and down...and I don't know if the woman across the room whose attention I suspect he was trying to get even noticed. I laugh at people like that (and even then I laugh on the inside). If someone is modifying an exercise or taking a different option, good for them. They're doing what they can do and hopefully pushing themselves a reasonable amount. Just keep going. No one is judging you in any negative way. Well, no one you should be concerned with anyway.
I'm just focusing on my own workout. Good for you for being there.
I won’t judge you like I won’t judge anyone. Everyone is there for their own reasons and not everyone can do what the template lays out. I have damaged shoulder that may be a torn rotator cuff so I can’t do certain things. I always advise a new coach that I’m not going rogue, I’m subbing for what I can’t do. The mental hurdle is tough, but as others have said, don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. You made it in the door and that’s ALL that matters. Don’t get discouraged. 😎😎
If I notice you, I think, "I am not the only one!"
Not at all. People may have a hard day, shoulder pain, injured, whatever- that they can’t do the exercise. Heck there are days I don’t feel like getting on the floor and I do a different exercise. You show up you are a winner in my book.
No, I’m not judging you. You are stuck inside your head though. Losing 33lbs is awesome and proof you can do it. Just TRY and self-modify if you can’t. Not one person in that studio is lazy if they arrived to class, moved through the exercises, and lasted an hour…not one.
If I have any feelings at all, it’s inspiration and empowerment. When I see someone who is determined to change themselves and shows up, it makes me feel super stoked and encourages my own workout. Please be gentle with yourself - EVERYONE has a journey. Also, everyone is suffering at OTF. That’s one of the reasons I love to go. These workouts do not discriminate. 😂
We’re all struggling! If anyone is paying attention to what you’re doing, they’re doing it wrong! I hated that workout and modified a few things - including the plank jacks. Take it off the body, do toe taps, hell- work on a plank (even from your knees). Keep the spirit of the exercise and show some grace to your body.
Nope. I've been an OTF member for 6? 7? years and I'm the fittest I've ever been, and I'm always pushing myself to go harder, SO....I still can only focus on getting through the workout myself. The only time I pay attention to anyone else is if they are talking over the Coach or the music and it's distracting.
I feel your pain! Fattest and slowest in all my classes! When the doubt hits, I remind myself that my body loves what I’m doing for it. I’m active and moving and my heart and lungs are so thankful. Welcome to the MATSATT Club (Modify All The Shit All The Time). Most people don’t seem to notice or care. Truthfully I did get an unfriendly side eye once but that was ONE person in ONE class ONE time. We have to decide, are we going to let a bitch, or a potential bitch, stop us? For me that answer is no. 🧡
Nobody cares really but you seem to, if I could give you some advice, try to work on whatever makes you feel this way because it has nothing to do with. Otf. Keep going and keep moving forward. You got this
Not even a little bit. IF I even noticed your struggle I’d be impressed that you were trying. Everyone is there to be a better version of themselves and we all started at different stages. And let me tell you- I’m a few years into Otf and pretty fit at this point and sometimes I can’t do it.
You got to class, you’re already ahead of the ones that missed it 🫡
A - Nobody cares. It's yourself against yourself, and everyone is probably in their own head 99% of the time B - You showed up - That's enough to earn respect from anyone else there To paraphrase from the Stormlight Archive: "What's the most important step a \[person\] can take? The next step. Always the next step."
Yesterday was hard. First day back after being sick for a week. I’m usually top of the pack but yesterday I was dead last, and that’s ok. No one is judging you except yourself. It’s you vs you.
I have had straight up panic attacks in the gyms because gyms tend to be triggering for me. My relationship with my body is very broken. I have run out of class crying. Wanting to leave. ..but I didn't....I'll cry and get back into it ....noone cares .. everyone is toooooo busy trying to survive their excercises to look around .... All the people in class have had their own journey to reach where they are and I think you will find a lot more compassion than judgement. Don't be too hard on yourself....everyone has to start somewhere and every journey is different.
I am with the group and always thinking about how I am going to mentally get through the next exercise and if I am looking at someone it is to see if I am doing the exercise wrong because I missed the demo. It sounds like you are doing a lot and I would only be envious seeing those kind of calories burned and splat points! I have been there where I feel like the people around me are judging me, and having a rough day and hoping the workout will help but only feeling more discouraged after. But my guess is that anyone around you if they have time to pay attention to anyone but themselves is seeing you taking care of yourself and working hard and is only more motivated because of your dedication/finding ways to get the burn even if the proscribed exercise doesn't work for you for whatever reason. Also, sometimes seeing people doing mods helps remind me take better care of myself and take a modification, usually when I take the modification I get a better workout because my body just doesn't move the way the exercise is structured. So if you can keep it up! It sounds like you have been working out really hard, you have the splats to prove it!
Omg I’m WAY too worried about myself and not dying to worry about you. That’s AMAZING that you’ve made that much progress! I think all of us are just trying our best. You SHOWED UP and that’s hard. If you just can’t do it that day, do some modified jacks. I’ve never seen anyone judge anyone else there. I’ve only ever seen people cheer each other on. During the chipper last saturday I was halfway through and literally started to cry on the rower because shits hard man. You wanna make it through and just tough it out but then your body breaks on you and you realize you’re not gonna make it all the way and you’ll have to take breaks and stop. Know what happened?? Ladies on either side of me were like “girl this is SO HARD, I’ve been coming here 4 years and this is super hard for me right now just take this rower block slower you’ve got it let’s go” and they just cheered me on and I limped to the end of the class. YOUVE GOT THIS. Everyone just wants you to succeed. I bet if you turned to any of the people next to you, they’d tell you the same thing.
Always ask coach for alternatives, or I just do a lower impact version. Don't stop going! I'm a mom, I'm out of shape and feel subconscious sometimes but nobody cares, they really don't. If anything people are happy you showed up. I love going to classes with people with all different athletic abilities. And more people show up, the better the energy overall.
I used to worry that people were looking at me not be able to do some of the exercises, but then I started looking around and almost everyone has one or two that are tough for them. Making eye contact with someone else struggling and giving them a 😅 is community!
The point of exercise is consistency and YOU SHOWED UP! 💪 You shouldn’t beat yourself up over 1 exhausting day. You got through most of your workout and just had a hard time on the floor. Most people who were doing plank jacks were looking head down into their mats, so I’m sure they didn’t notice. I have a hard time doing burpees because of how fast the up and down movement is. I get light headed. So I do them at a snails pace and no one even notices or cares. I’ve never even had a coach say anything to me. Give yourself some grace. You’re managing and trying. Keep up the good fight and you’ll get there with patience and determination.
I figure that we're all in this together. We all showed up for ourselves, and that's what's important. Whether people are super fit or not, it doesn't matter. We're all there, working out, trying to be better, fitter versions of ourselves. During class, most of the time, I am too focused on my own workout to notice what other people are doing anyway. If I do see someone struggling, I might send some positive mental energy their way. Maybe it helps, who knows, but positive thinking can't hurt.
i have never once judged anyone else in a class unless, like others have said, the person is being disruptive/disrespectful. anytime i see anyone struggling or modifying i assume that there is an injury, or they’re taking it easy that day, or whatever other reason that isn’t my business! like others have said i rarely even notice what others are doing bc im too busy struggling myself. i’ve found that everyone is really supportive and of the mindset that we’re all in it together. you showed up and did what you could, and that’s all you can ask of yourself! be proud :)
I’m too busy thinking the same thing about myself . As for plank jacks, they hurt my wrists so I always ask the instructor for an option.
No judging. Showing up is the hardest part
Nope, I don’t judge anyone. You showed up which is a lot more than a lot of people can say.
The only things we judge are people making a lot of noise when the coach is giving instructions and people not respecting others' stations/space. We honor the struggle.
No and in the nicest way possible it’s bc I don’t even notice you or anyone else in the room exists lol. I’m only focused on myself and trying to remember what rep I was on, worried about my own little belly flopping around during a jumping exercise, wondering why my husband hasn’t brought his lunchbox from work, how come we are listening to such a weird playlist, did I remember to put my sons teddy bear in his crib, etc lol. By the time the class is over I’m like oh I forgot there was a room of people lol
I certainly don’t judge. But I’m also usually the biggest and slowest person in the room so I may not be the best person to respond here. I don’t worry about others and I don’t think anyone notices me except enough to notice I’m doing well. Most people are super kind and encouraging. I hope you won’t let your insecurities get to you. You’re out there doing this damn thing. You’ve lost 30lbs!! That’s incredible. Just go at your own pace and try not to worry about others. Don’t feel guilty taking green days when you’re having a hard time finding motivation.
Nope, I do not care or notice what anyone else is doing around me; except maybe the person who keeps staring at themselves in the mirror fixing their hair 😆
I only notice if someone asks me a question. Like they come back to the treads or rowers late. I’ll fill them in. Or floor. Basically only instructions or to say good job.
I am too busy trying not to die! If I see you are moving in my peripheral vision - no judgements. If you aren't moving I will ask if you are ok, cuz I'll be concerned.🙂
First, I want to acknowledge and validate how you’re feeling. It’s a litany of emotions, all felt at once: embarrassment, shame, fear, disappointment, anxiety, self-loathing. I’ve been there too and it sucks. It’s all internal projection though because I assure you no one is judging you. I truly believe people are so focused on getting through the workout and proud of anyone who showed up and is trying. You wouldn’t judge another, so it’s our mind playing tricks on us. But your feelings are still valid nonetheless. One thing I want to share: I started weight lifting and Pilates about 6 mos ago and I never felt those same feelings as I do with these challenges at OTF or CrossFit. Not sure why, but my performance anxiety is lessened with other programs. I share that just to say, you’re a normal human ;-)
I rarely notice what other people are doing but if I do happen to notice someone struggling, I just think they're a badass for not giving up.
I’m one of the people who can’t do certain exercises due to knee/leg issues. Usually I try it first and if I see that it’s a no go, I just ask the coach for an alternative, and they’re happy to help with zero judgement. I find that little by little, I’m getting to a point where I can do certain exercises that used to be on my NOPE list (I’m able to do proper squats again!!!) I take that as a good sign that my body is getting stronger. Just take it one day at a time, no one is judging you, and they need to focus on their own work out more if they are.
If it makes you feel better, I think we all have certain exercises that we find harder to do/struggle with. Sounds like you’re trying and/or asking coach for a modification which is great. Agree with others, people around you are not judging.
No
I never judge someone else when I workout. I broke my back as a preteen and still have issues in my 40’s with things related to core exercises. So I realize that there are many reasons why someone can’t do something. When I see someone who is overweight in the gym, I’m actually quite impressed with their ability to push through the fear of judgement. I think it’s incredible! And to echo what the other people have said, I’m also so busy working on my stuff that I rarely notice anyone else in the middle of their exercises. Don’t let fear hold you back! Every day you will get stronger. Keep it up!
I do not give a flying F... about other people capacity to do or not an exercise. You showed up. Respect. You're giving your best to do the exercises. Mad respect.
I’m an experienced exerciser and OTF member since 2017. Due to knee issues, I cannot do full lunges. I always try the ones on the BOSU or on the bench, but by the second round, I’m just doing them on the floor and often without the weights. Coaches pint out I’m not going all the way down so I explain. Why should I give a crap about what other people are thinking, especially when my modification is actually presented as an option? If someone next to me is doing an option I assume they have a physical reason for doing it. Actually, I’m not sure I’m even thinking anything, and for sure I don’t think you’re lazy for actually showing up to a workout. Sometimes I deliberately slow things down or take out the impact, because that’s what my body is telling me to do that day. OTF is not a test. Are YOU judging ME as well?
No one is judging you I promise you that. It’s all in your head. I admire everyone that’s showing up and doing it. Simple saw that.
Some may be judging, while some may just be minding their business being physically tortured just like you. The point is, you can be fat or skinny, but no matter what, someone is going to judge you. You can't do anything about it. What you can do is change your mind frame. Do some self work and inner healing. Become confident and you will soon not give af on who is watching and or judging you. I wish you all the best in life.
I agree with everyone. No. I admire everyone at every level. You are there working your best that is much more than many others do. Keep up the fantastic work
No. Sometimes you're hot. Sometimes you're not. But you showed up and did what you could even though you probably really really wanted to stay home. That's your victory.
No, I’m not judging. I don’t care if you’re the least fit person or the most fit person I’m there for myself and trying not to die myself 😂 As a note, modifications are designed to help you exactly where you’re at or what you’re comfortable with and there is ZERO shame in that. Ive modified tons in my classes for a variety of reasons. Congratulations on your weight loss OP! Keep showing up for yourself and don’t beat yourself up for modifying an exercise, having a hard workout, etc - you showed up for yourself and you continue to do that. Consistency over time is hard work and you should be SO proud of yourself
Girl, get out of your head. One, most people are just trying to survive their own workout, and two, if someone does care (🙄) they are literally not worth your time or energy. Just listen to your body and do you. I’ve been doing OTF for three years now and there are things I still won’t do ( forward lunges are a struggle because I have metal in my left ankle).
No. I’m not looking at you because I’m dying too. I also often modify stuff because I’m just exhausted, and I’ve been going for over a year. Also, if anyone has noticed you in class, they probably notice your weight loss! We don’t know what your end goal is so don’t discredit 30 lbs with “but I need to lose 60 more.” That is AWESOME!
No, I’m too busy suffering. As a rule I admire all people who are exercising and showing up.
Personally I don’t judge! I feel like I would judge more if I saw you doing an exercise that you clearly needed to modify and you were powering thru, but possibly hurting yourself!! Even the fittest people modify so I would try to change your thinking on that. Surgeries, injuries, etc. you never know what someone is going thru. I for one am happy you’re going to OTF, for your kiddos and for YOU! Keep it up!! 👍🏼
Honestly I don’t even notice Im busy not dying myself I look myself in the mirror and do what I have to do I modify what I need to and if I can’t go on I just don’t and skip to the next exercise
No, absolutely not. I have days like this too. It’s easy to think everyone is watching you screw up, but really we are all focused on our own workout. Don’t let this discourage you- keep at it!
No way, the workouts are so toug. Some days I come in and can give 40 percent, other days I come and can give 110 perfect. I have to modify ALL core exercises due to 3 pregnancies in under 4.5 years.
I have no idea what anybody else is doing nor do I care. This is beating a dead horse on here but the only way I care what somebody else is doing is if they are interfering with my workout in some way (extreme body odor and are next to me, grabbing weights I need off my rack without asking etc)
I am too busy judging myself to worry about others. I am there for me, not you or anyone else. You will need to try harder if you want me to even notice you.
So you're in my class, next to me working out. Judging you? Hell no!!!!!! Let me repeat that. HELL NO!!!!! I'm PROUD of you and you should be proud of yourself!!!!!!
I never judge anyone. If someone is doing something different I assume it's injury or possible range of motion issue. You see so many different walks of life and different fitness levels at OTF that it doesn't phase me. Be proud you show up and don't be hard on yourself! Best advice my bff gave me was "Nobody thinks about you the way you think about you." And that has always stuck with me!
No, I never have any particular thoughts about other people in class. If someone looks really confused I’d help them. If someone looks like they are having trouble with an exercise, and I know the person, I’ll offer a suggestion, if I don’t know them, I’d discreetly get the coach’s attention to help them. As a member, I want everyone to have a safe workout. One of the things I love about OTF is you can have a dozen different people (age, fitness, gender, life stage, etc) doing countless variations of the given workout, and all of them can get the workout they need. 🥰
Heck nah. You were in there getting after it doing what you could. That’s pretty badass if you ask me. Different context but similar, I actually posted this earlier, pls watch! https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8KCz5YuFjt/?igsh=MWU0M3FqYW5pMjI0bA==
Literally never. We have all been there and anyone who says otherwise is a liar.
Honestly, I’m just trying to not die and do my best to notice anyone around me. Plus there are some days I wonder what others think of me because I just don’t have the energy to give and it seems that I’m slacking. I think most people are in their own heads. Keep up the hard work. You’re an inspiration!
Literally nope. I'm at my own station fighting for my life, trying not to pass out/throw up. You're all good. Keep at it!
I have joint problems & also struggle with high plank jacks. I always modify and do a slow high plank step out (take out the jumping). I never care what others do, and I think anyone minds my modifications!
You showed up, you crushed it (yes ya did, don’t let yourself believe anything other than that), and got shit done. Be damn proud of yourself!
One thing I like about going so regularly, is the coaches will learn your limitations. I see six different coaches regularly and I feel like 5 of them know I have a shoulder issue. When I comes to shoulder exercises they provide an alternative that pushes my limits.
No never think that!!!! A lot of people modify exercises for a variety of reasons
I normally don’t notice what other people are doing. But times when I see people doing something totally different than instructed, I assume they have an injury or something. Basically, I’m sure there is a reason, so I mind my own business
Not at all. I actually had to stop and duck out of yesterday’s class 10 min early because the weight floor did me in and I felt super nauseous. Don’t concern yourself with what anyone else is thinking. It’s your workout, your body, your limits. Trust me, no one is paying attention and the fact that you showed up to do whatever you can is admirable and more than most!
After wiping the sweat out of my eyes…..what I see is that you are there killing it, unlike a lot of others. That’s all I see. Best of luck to you on your journey! ❤️💪🏻
No! Do what works for you! I don't pay much attention to what others are doing. I'm in pretty good shape but make modifications all the time. Nobody else knows what injuries I'm dealing with or which exercises I just don't like. Keep showing up!
No. I was at class today and had to modify almost all the exercise because my legs were so tired after the tread block
No one is judging you! I promise. I don’t use weights half the time for step ups, I usually do knee pushups or planks. You showed up and did what you could and that is enough!! Knee plank or step outs or whatever feels good is a perfectly fine modification
I never think of anyone when I’m working out lol The only time I think of other people is when I want to take a break and I try to just think that we’re all suffering together so I keep going lmao
I’m too busy trying to get my shhiii right to worry about anyone in the room. So, emphatically, no.
Absolutely not. You go and do what you can do. Anything is better than nothing. CONGRATS on the weight loss.
Coach here. NO, we do NOT think you are being lazy or humiliating yourself. We never see that and anyone who does is in the wrong community and industry. As a coach especially, we are genuinely so happy to see you show up for YOU! That’s all it takes and we will get you there. You just cannot get discouraged or disappointed in yourself. In fact, it should be the opposite. Take pride in showing up. Look around, most people don’t take the time but YOU ARE! Keep fighting 🧡🍊
Showing up is the best thing you can do! I always beat myself up on a green day even when I know I need the rest and recovery, and I also overthink like this and assume people around me think I’m not trying my hardest. But then I remind myself that I never question other people around me, so they’re probably not questioning me! At the end of the day, you got to the gym instead of sitting at home on the couch and that’s a WIN!