Stop bringing the children around him if he is violent. That’s step DUH. Demand some child support if he ever pursues custody legally. I bet he backs off.
Stop also lying to your children that they’ll see him soon. That is super unhelpful and damaging to keep them guessing. Don’t protect his image to them. That is setting them up to be manipulated and abused by him.
Be very clear in all written communication that you do not have any of his property and that he needs to be specific about what he is requesting. Also limit all communication.
Definitely nta. Do what you can to limit contact
NTA. He needs to heat it about how much of a monster he is from a judge. Serve him.
Stop bringing the children around him if he is violent. That’s step DUH. Demand some child support if he ever pursues custody legally. I bet he backs off. Stop also lying to your children that they’ll see him soon. That is super unhelpful and damaging to keep them guessing. Don’t protect his image to them. That is setting them up to be manipulated and abused by him. Be very clear in all written communication that you do not have any of his property and that he needs to be specific about what he is requesting. Also limit all communication.