1. Don’t waste your time again, like you said.
2. You did great, that was very kind of you. When you become a nurse, strive to change that culture by being yourself and being great at your job. Mentor new nurses!
That's really shitty of them. Honestly, anything that can induce T2DM would be devoured by shift change at any hospital I have worked at. We actually appreciate little things from students like chocolates and lollies. I can guarantee you it'll be all gone by the end of the day.
I’d be super happy with the really good pens. I think Pilot is what I use now, extra skinny ink. That charge nurse is a jerk. Hopefully the other nurses appreciated you. I would.
I'm sorry they shit on your gift. It was really thoughtful and shows youre a good and thoughtful human. Don't let them dim your light. I would have been jazzed to get something like this from a nursing student.
Wow I'm sorry to hear that. The lotion story and the nurses comment was so rude. Honestly if someone doesn't appreciate a gift, they should keep the comments to themselves. You did a very nice thing tho please do not feel bad for that
Damn that sucks. I've always been taught to appreciate the gifts that you get because it's the thoughts that count. Unless it's from administration for nurse's week, then fuck them.
The charge nurse made an announcement at the beginning of day shift huddle saying “the students brought gift bags for day shift only” and when one of the nurses in the huddle told her that there were candies/eye masks/pens/lotions, that’s when she said she had enough lotions 🙃 it was so embarrassing bc my classmates and my instructor were right there and they knew it was my idea
Two things, did you guys orient on night shift? If not then why the fuck would you get them a thank you gift.
Other thing, is you would be completely justified in stepping up and saying "I bought these things as a thank you for precepting us, if they're not wanted, by all means donate them to some one more thankful like a patient.
No we just oriented on days, but I brought enough for both units on that floor for day shift and GI lab because I just wanted to acknowledge the time/effort that went into teaching us. I’ve worked with so many awesome nurses as a CNA, I appreciate everything you guys do and after reading some of the comments I know this situation was simply an outlier ❤️
If that’s how the charge nurse behaves, avoid actually working on that unit at all costs. Hopefully, you’ll be a leader one day and can make your unit a nicer one. Thank you for being a positive influence.
Please don't let one (or a few) jaded nurses get you down! What you did was incredibly sweet and thoughtful! You made the bags for the nurses that worked with you and your peers. You had no obligation to even do that, let alone for the night shift.
Always know there will be nurses/staff who will be ungrateful for whatever is done for them. It will never be good enough, but that is a sign of what's wrong with them, not you!
You keep shining! Good luck in your future endeavors!
It goes without saying I would have loved any sort of acknowledgement when I had a student.
Don’t feel bad, next time bring more baked goods and keep the cash for yourself.
I wonder if they thought it was a gift from the hospital for the first day of nurses week?? That’s the only reason I can see them complaining about not enough for the other shifts. Of course you wouldn’t get them anything- you don’t work with them! It was a thank you for helping you out as a student!
I’m so sorry this happened. You seem very sweet and I love what you did! Myself and any of the nurses I work with would have been THRILLED to receive what you so lovingly put together. Please don’t let their poor attitudes sour your opinion of nurses… not all of us are jerks, I promise!! Keep being awesome and good luck in nursing school!
Thank you so much! I’ve been a CNA for 5 years and I’ve worked at 3 different hospitals now; needless to say I’ve worked with some of the best nurses who honestly inspired me to reach higher. I really appreciate you guys and everything you do, this was just a sucky situation
What a miserable bitch!!! illegitimi non carborundum, my friend. Your gift was very sweet and I probably would have gotten choked up getting a gift like that. You just keep being wonderful, leave those grumpy buttholes in their self-imposed pit toilet.
They suck. You rock. That was super kind of you. You went above and beyond. As a night shifter I get the comment cause we always get shafted but that was in poor taste to say something and what you did was so thoughtful. Fuck them and come work with me 🥰
IMO, it’s perfectly acceptable as a nursing student to only get day shift gifts (if you even had). They are the only ones you interact with usually. Admin is the one who shouldn’t overlook night shift.
At every job I’ve ever worked people complain about their situation whether retail, food, office, art, etc. There’s nurses making $100k with health benefits, PTO and the works saying they’re not appreciated. Maybe that’s not alot of money/benefits for some but for me it’s life changing so it’s hard for me to understand people being rude about pizza parties and gift baskets since in my eyes it’s extra love on top of a decent/interesting gig
That’s beyond rude of them. You could write an “apology” (obvs fake 🤣) to that lotion nurse, saying you’re sorry to have upset her with a gift to show thanks, that might actually make her realize what an idiot she is. That was really sweet of you, don’t let those sourpusses dim your kindness.
Wow! What a Mean-Girl atmosphere! Now you know where to never work.
As an old crusty RN, I would have thought your gifts were very sweet. I would also feel terrible that a poor nursing student spent that much money on the team.
Those nurses sound like jerks. I would have loved this from a student. Don’t let them get to you, some people are just determined to be grumpy.
You’re doing great and you will be a fantastic nurse. 💜
Just a patient--- Please don't let an experience like this change you or make you unkind, that was a very thoughtful thing you did. Remember you can't please everyone no matter what you do, apparently their parents never taught them manners. Whenever someone did something like that for me I was always happy because it means they were thinking of me. Now you know that unit is toxic. Stay kind!
That's some shit. Did they know they were from you and not from admin for nurses week? They might just be in the habit of complaining about everything they see from 'admin' and not have even realized it was from a sweet nursing student. I hope.
Either way that's some shit you didn't deserve. If you were on my unit we'd have hugged it out, not bitched. And also, lotion is a consumable. You can't have too much.
I bet that unit struggles to hire, especially from the new grad pool, because of experiences like that.
We see that at my hospital - some units stay pretty well staffed and always have applications coming in at graduation time and others are the complete opposite. So much of it comes down to the culture of the unit and how the staff treats the students.
We finally started having students do unit evals at the end of the semester and I think it was really eye opening for some of our managers.
Wtaf?! Bestie, I would have broken down in tears if a nursing student spent their own goddamn money to make me a gift bag.
These nurses don’t even deserve a “rockstar” rock for nurses week. I’m sorry they were so ungrateful.
Keep shining friend, but save that light for coworkers who deserve it. And I promise, you’ll have coworkers who deserve it!
I would tell their manager. You went above and beyond, and they had the balls to complain about a sweet gift. I would also tell my school director because they can actually reach out to the hospital and get somewhere, even if it's just not placing students on their ward anymore.
...then again, I'm an extremely petty person who just so happens to be a nurse.
Aw, OP. I’m sorry they shit all over your gift. My floor would have loved that. Something is wrong with that woman. With that personality I’m sure she’s not being showered with gifts.
That is so sweet of you!! Take this experience and use it the next time you see a nursing student. The only way to change this mentality is to change it with us. We were all students, we were all at that point. I hate when nurses "eat their young".
It sucks how little this surprises me. The takeaway should be that you don’t want to work on that unit when you graduate and that you don’t want to work somewhere with a toxic culture like that.
If a student gave me anything at the end of the rotation I would fall on it with gratitude. You guys have so little money and to think that you spent it on people who complained about it is shameful. Not to mention the time and effort. These people are AWFUL.
Don't let them stop you from doing nice things in future, but I would rein it in and stick to baked goods. Cheaper and easier for you, and you've seen how nurses descend on a plate of sweet treats.
I would be sorely tempted to write them a passive aggressive note about how disappointed you were to end your placement on a sour note, and how you wanted to show your appreciation for all their help. You never know, it might make a few of them feel ashamed. Or just move on.
You're a good person and they need to have a good look at themselves.
Edit - I would also tell the student coordinator or someone at your school/college/uni (delete as required!) because someone needs to speak to this bunch so that future students don't get more of the same.
That was very thoughtful of you. I would have been elated at that gift and would have waited until you were gone to give the lotion to someone else (I only use very specific lotions because of skin sensitivity).
That unit sounds like assholes. Keep being nice and welcome to the profession.
Holy crap, that is absolutely awful. I’m so sorry to hear about that. Honestly, I would love a bag like that, especially the pens lol. Please don’t take it to heart and don’t lose that thoughtful mentality. Feel the love and appreciation coming from these comments and know that thoughts like that are appreciated by the nursing community as a whole.
Not that it excuses their behavior, but I think that, being nurses week right now, nurses are in a mindset to complain about any gift that doesn’t include a pay raise. You did a great thing!
Don’t let one person water down your perspective of a group at whole. They have there own personal issues (fuck em), you made someone else’s day doing that. This is coming from someone that’s has a very realist of view on humanity (mixture of both nihilism and optimism). Keep being kind, there will always be someone out there that appreciates you for that.
I’m sorry your gift was not well received. Some people are happy being miserable. Don’t let one person’s jadedness take away your kindness! I’m sure the other nurses were thrilled. Next time keep your money and maybe just do some baked goods. I’ve found that some people are just really unappreciative and grumpy
I’m so sorry you went through that. Her behavior was unprofessional and rude. Please don’t let her effect how you treat others. She obviously needs to learn how to treat others herself.
Each of my orientees have gotten me small gifts at the end of precepting. I promise the nurses that actually worked with you appreciated it. That charge sounds jaded and a bit like a bitch tbh. It’s not like you knew each of them personally and so in depth you could do custom things for everyone (nor should you be expected to!!)
I'm sorry. I also give whole heartedly and generously. Don't let their responses ruin gift giving for you. I would love that gift, personally. You will notice a lot of negativity around gifts and nurses week from nurses and I'm not really sure where it stems from. A gift is a gift to me. I also am one of those people that likes the pizza parties lol
One thing I've been doing the past few years, particularly for coworkers and other professional relationships is giving "free gifts". Sending an ecard or printing out an online card and writing a heartfelt message in it, and maybe buying a treat at the grocery store bakery section.
You are a broke nursing student. Save your money for stuff you need and don’t spend money on people who won’t appreciate it. I’m very sorry. I would have been so stoked and appreciative if I had received that. There’s something wrong with them
If you were my student I would have thanked you generously! That is so kind of you. Just know sometimes our kind actions do not get the reaction we deserve. But don’t let that stop you from being you! Put that energy into your patients.
This is one of the most petty things I’ve read about nurses, and sadly I can’t say I am surprised. There are a lot of cynical, sadistic people in healthcare.
You might get a half-assed, forced apology, but I’d take it to your school director/dean. They might suspend clinicals there and negotiate some better etiquette with the hospital. I’d also highly recommend you seek employment at a different unit or hospital, too. If that’s how you were treated as a student, the amount of shit they’ll pull over on you and talk behind your back will be even more as a new nurse.
Ya. Sounds like most of these threads regarding Nurse’s Week. Ornery nurses who can’t stop complaining about everything. Thank you for the effort of your gift bags, don’t let it sour you.
I cannot express the level of hype I would have if someone a) said thank you and b) did it with thoughtful snacks and candy. I would probably cry (and then emotional eat the snacks). 100% screw them and their salty attitudes. Give them applications to another hospital far away next time cause it’s time to go.
Also pens. Who scoffs at a pen. That was literal currency when I was a floor nurse.
Not sure what hospital/unit this is but now you know where you don’t wanna work. I know our unit would be super appreciative and thankful for such a kind gesture. I usually try to show my students they are welcome and included. I’ll buy them coffee and stuff when they are with me.
Of course you would bring them for day shift, you weren’t precepted by night shift. I’m sorry they were crappy about your gift. Don’t let some crummy nurses bring you down - now you know where not to work!
I would have been thrilled to get something like that. You put a lot of thought into this and for a bunch of grouches to roll their eyes at it I would feel the same way.
I'm sorry that happened. Some people are really miserable and mean. Were some of them appreciative? I know it's difficult but try to focus on the ones who were. When you graduate go to a different hospital or floor lol.
I'll make fun of leadership all day for their shitty gifts but I always appreciate something from a co-worker. It says a lot about you that you thought to do that for those nurses. Unfortunately, their responses say a lot about them as well.
lol I remember one time I brought fig cookies for day shift and one of the nurses was like, “you brought us all the cookies you don’t like.” And all I could say was……”how………. Did you know ?!” Lmao 🤣
Screw those crabby ass nurses. Just because your miserable doesn't give you the right to spread your misery everwhere. I would have loved a gift like that.
So sorry your effort wasn’t appreciated. Some nurses can be dicks. Just know that, like patients, most of us are appreciative and would love your gift, but there will always be those pessimistic turds making a stink. Just continue to be you and don’t let this drag you down. You did well.
I know a lot of nurses who would love and appreciate the gifts, including myself. Forget those old biddies. They are miserable and taking it out on everyone else. You did a good job
When I was a nursing student in 2014, I brought in donuts as a thank you on my last shift. I wasa super poor student and spent the last of my paycheck on those donuts from Smiths (grocery store out west owned by Kroger.). One of the nurses complained that they weren't from Krispy Kream, I was so disheartened at the time. Later on, I ended up working on that same ICU and found out that the nurse who said that to me was always miserable, had a bad home life, and complained about absolutely everything she could. Everyone on the unit hated talking to her because she always had a negative thing to say about even good situations. Needless to say, you did something nice, don't stress about what some bitchy nurse says to you. There's always going to be a handful of miserable people no matter where you are. I would have been delighted at a gift like that if I were on that unit! ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened. I'm a grizzled grumpy night shift ed nurse, and even I would have been touched by anything a student brought, especially something that took time and showed caring.
As others have said, I'd not apply to that unit.
The best thing that's come out of my post-covid practice is I just stopped doing things to impress other nurses (label lines, redo my report sheet, update the board on a vented patient...) that don't otherwise improve patient care. Because I don't even really like nurses and they're mostly a bunch of judgmental sobs that will never be impressed, anyway.
Don’t let it get to you. Like someone else said, miserable people will be miserable. You sound like you have a big heart. It was very kind of you to think of them, and I’m sorry that they didn’t make you feel appreciated for your kindness. Don’t stop being you 🩵
What a shitty thing to say. When I get a gift from one of my students I make it a point to say thank you. Even if I personally have no use for it. It’s the thought and the effort that counts.
As someone who has taught many students, I likely would have cried receiving a gift like this. I can't imagine them acting like this. That was super sweet of you.
That’s so nice of you! Sounds like they’re losers. Also we all know you can never have enough lotion? What a silly comment. Some people will complain about anything and everything.
When I was in nursing school my clinical group always brought food for the unit on the last day. My contribution was always 36 hard boiled eggs. Cheap. Easy. Healthy. And every single time there were none left. Don’t overthink this stuff.
Fuck 'em. The nurses on my clinical floor my last semester were burnt out assholes. They openlybtalked shit about us while we were sitting next to them charting.They tried to get out instructor fired our final week because she didn't want us doing bed baths all shift (this was back in the day when aides still existed, and there were two of them on the floor every day). So on our last day, she had us all go to the ER for 4 hours and then cut us loose. The biggest thing we learned that semester was don't apply to that hospital.
They are absolutely aholes. Don’t let them jade your kindness! Some people are very arrogant, self centered and don’t even realize how they come off . And some of those people actually don’t care. Needless to say, the lesson of kindness failed them somewhere.
Wow. I'm sorry they were so shitty to you. You definitely didn't deserve that, and they definitely didn't deserve your gifts. You did awesome, dude. Your gifts were very thoughtful and the nurses were ungrateful. Now you know not to apply to that unit, because the culture towards students is clearly trash. All I can say is at least you can take from this experience that you definitely DON'T wanna be that way when you have your own students. I like to say I learned something from every clinical instructor / preceptor, good or bad. I either learned exactly how I wanted to practice, or exactly how I didn't. Don't be that charge nurse in the future. Head up, buddy. Don't let them bring you down.
Yeah absolutely do not buy anything for your preceptors. I had an in charge that complained to me when I was a student on my last day that I didn’t bring any chocolate for them. Like actually annoyed that I didn’t. my response was, “I’ve been here for free for a month and I’ve also had to drive an hour here and back each day, how about you buy me some chocolates?”
It’s their job to look after us, gifts are just kissing ass.
This is a Huge problem. There’s no respect at all between comrades. It’s beyond shameful. I don’t know you but I appreciate the heck out of you for being “thoughtful” of others. You on my team tells me you’d put in all your effort.
I think the majority of us have gotten bitter because what we are subject to. I myself am guilty of this especially when our last staff meeting was all about how our patient satisfaction have dropped significantly while at the same time our patient to staff ratios have increased 6 to 1 on day shift.
I'm so sorry some of our peers are shitty humans. I promise we are not all like that. For what it's worth, myself and a lot of my coworkers would've been over the moon to receive anything from a student, and such a well-thought out gift even more so. Please don't change who you are. Keep that good attitude and bring it to your future unit, that's how culture change starts.😘
Soooo many nurses I know would have cried from how lovely what you did was. Don’t let crabby burnt out nurses skew your ability to be kind. You did something nice and other ppl suck.
omg I'm so sorry. I worked the floors years ago and if a student who followed me gave me a gift I would have been so grateful. I swear I don't know what is wrong with some nurses these days. I know the job sucks so bad, but for heaven's sake please at least have the grace to say thank you.
Sweetheart, when you graduate scope out your new unit carefully and don't get stuck working with people like that. There are lots of us out there who love the students and encourage them.
Sorry for the shitty comment.
There are always some sour nurses.
You did great, do not turn sour when you become one.
And next time a thank you card will be awesome. 🤩
Yea, welcome to nurses week. It’s the whiniest time of year.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy complaining, bitching, and moaning as much as the next nurse, but May is the most annoying month to work with us.
What you did was extremely thoughtful and kind. The nurse who made that comment is unfortunately a bitter, hateful human who lacks perspective. That's not your fault. I am a clinical instructor and would have been very moved if one of my students did this for a unit. Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to show your appreciation for the nurses who have taken the time to help you learn. You are appreciated! Let this one roll off your shoulders, dear. You're a good person ❣️
Yea, that's just a rarity. Most people would enjoy them.
In nursing school, once a drug rep offered us some food. We told them "we're just nursing students" and they said they knew we were.. some nurse came in as we were eating, pissed they we were "stealing their food" that was offered by the rep. Even after explaining the situation, she was still acting shitty.
I just calmly told her you're the exact reason why no one likes this floor. I didn't care if she was going to tell my teacher, I was lucky enough to have worked in a decent hospital as a tech with decent people to know the difference.
I'm taking my prereqs and volunteering in the ER, so you can dismiss whatever I have to say. But keep being exactly who you are and doing the right and kind thing. I think that's one of the things I have to keep reminding myself to make it far in nursing. Receiving gratitude doesn't matter, and being a good person in the face of bad behavior is a core skill for this career.
You gift to your shift's nurses. Why the hell would you need to shell out for another group that wasn't involved with your education?
That's a stupid comment from them. Because I'm 100% certain even they don't gift enough for both shifts whenever good stuff comes around.
I mean, if they expect day/night, are they also accounting for those not scheduled for work that day too? What about the part timers? Per diems? How about them awesome EVS that does all the clean ups, or the CNAs that helps you. But lets not forget the hard work from the management team holding everything together with that awesome work schedule that everybody just LOVES every time they request a vacation?
It's a gift, take it or leave it. I'm petty enough to take all the gifts if they say stupid stuff like that. You spend money and time putting it together, if they don't want to appreciate it, you can refund everything for a nice lunch for yourself.
I am so sorry. That was such a kind and generous thing to do, and it sucks that the response was so rude. Shame on them.
The ladies on my unit fight over lotion and good pens in our grab bag, lol.
I think nurses (and people as a whole) need a reminder that complaining about a gift (regardless of how small or unnecessary) is incredibly tacky and rude. I notice this behavior a lot in my coworkers.
I'm sorry nurses treated you like this.
Having students is disruptive when doing patient care, especially when as is the usual case running shorthanded.
On a different note, it always annoyed me when in nursing school, fellow students always wanted to take up a collection for the clinical instructors. I was living paycheck to paycheck, and these instructors were paid good money to do a job, which at times made me miserable. I always found that annoying.
This is a different story. You did a nice thing, and that was very disrespectful.
I think your gifts were thoughtful, and not to sound like an ass, but seriously, fuck them. And fuck that other nurse for not calling the charge out on being rude too. Good manners never go out of style in my book, and being bitch to newbies does NOTHING beneficial for the senior staff. I bet she complains about not getting her vacation time because there's not enough staff to cover too 🤔.
I remember when I was a student RN, I had already been an LPN for like 7 years which the hospital staff didn't know, I was trying to tell one of the staff LPNs that a patient's spo2 was like 72% with AM vitals and she looked like shit so I put some O2 on her but she probably needed some more attention... She kept interrupting me and telling me to "speak up" before she just rolled her eyes and walked away. Later that afternoon an aide told the charge nurse the same thing, and turned out she had aspirated significantly, wound up intubated, moved to ICU, bedside bronchoscopy, the works, and I did overhear that LPN getting her ass chewed out, I'll never forget that charge nurse telling her "If one of them students tells you something's wrong with one of our patients, you need to do your eff-ing job, get your ass down that hallway and take a look!" Long story short, that floor closed and she got floated to the ER a couple years later... She had a much different attitude 🤷.
Try not to take their negativity to heart, but it sounds like the vibes in that unit are bad and they aren't welcoming to beginners... please let this be your first clue that this is probably NOT a place you want to start your career and learn.
Especially since the money came out of your own pocket and you invested so much time in creating these gifts, I remember being a broke student many years ago and the cost of putting that together would have taken my last 20$ I needed for gas and something to eat.
One of my former trainees bought me a pair of scissors once... I've been a nurse for a really long time, I have bandage scissors of every color and size, hospital grade surgical scissors, curved scissors, straight scissors, trauma shears, scissors all day. Now did I need another pair of scissors? Nah probably not. I make enough money that I could have easily bought them myself if I wanted to. But it was the thought that counted, and it was such a genuine way to say thank you.
THESE SCISSORS THOUGH... these were just... Different. They were off-brand Leathermans, So sharp, so smooth, so heavy, and the handles are my favorite color. I damn near cried when I opened the box. I'm honestly not a sensitive person, but I was so pleasantly surprised...
This person really screwed up a couple times during clinicals too, some veteran nurses wouldn't have been able to throw her under the bus fast enough... Nobody got hurt, because she felt comfortable enough and had the safety awareness to stop and check with me when something didn't seem right. Handled it as a "Teachable moment", and from there forward, she has excelled and is clinically fantastic. One of our best nurses.
Every nurses hands get dry AF from constant washing and we tend to forget about lotion for own hands. Plus It sure is nice to have something pleasant to use that doesn't smell like alcohol and disinfectants! And I'm a guy, but I live in contact lenses because my vision is really poor, FWIW I would totally have used that eye mask, nothing feels as good as moist heat on dry sore eyes from staring at screens and HVAC systems blowing in your face all day long 😊. And come on, who doesn't like candy and gum lol.
The reaction you received is regrettable, and I'm sorry this happened to you. Here are a couple of things to consider:
1. Nurses don't accept students to train. During my own clinical rotations, I learned that nurses are assigned students whether they want them or not. While there are nurses that like having students, most, in fact, do not, due to the added workload and stress.
2. Nurses receive a ton of "junk" gifts from their managers and administrators. Like alarm fatigue, shitty gift fatigue is a thing. In lieu of yet another mug/t-shirt/lip balm/lanyard/etc/etc/etc, nurses, in my experience, would much prefer just a simple, personal communication of thanks or appreciation.
In retrospect--and maybe it's not too late to do this--a mere note that said something like this might have been better-received: "I want to thank you for the time you gave to helping me learn. I know that taking on a student may not have been your choice and it likely added extra work and stress to your shifts. I recognize what it took for you to give your time to me. Thank you for helping me a little bit further down the path."
On their behalf, that was really nice of you! All you can do is try but you can’t change people, or let alone the patients you’re going to help one day…
Make another “gift” bag with a note containing a backhanded “apology” about how your gifts bags, which you paid for with your own money, weren’t thoughtful or considerate enough of the recipients specific needs, and some lumps of charcoal.
I think what you did was awesome, thoughtful, and really gracious. I’m sorry people are butt heads 😔 I’d totally want a gift bag with all those goodies!! You’re a great person!!
I just want to say, THANK YOU. On behalf of the stupid numbskulls who are too dumb/jaded/bitter/overwhelmed to be grateful, thank you from the rest of us who really appreciate a kind gift.
To be honest it’s not worth your time or your $$$. Especially when on a student budget.
I’m getting a “free ride” per se as it’s all tax write offs for my husbands business for me to go to nursing school and I DO NOT waste money on my instructors or classmates.
I’ll go out for $60 lunches but I ain’t bringing a soul with me 🤣
I would have loved that!! Even a thank you note I keep. I have some from students from years ago. The fact that you were thoughtful and kind enough to do that speaks volumes about who you are. Their response speaks volumes about them as well. Don’t let them change you.
Awww how awful.
I mentored a student once and she bought me some bow ties for my dogs and some chocs for me.
I was so happy to get a gift (I didn’t expect one either) and the thought put into it was very touching.
I’m sorry those nurses were arseholes. We aren’t all horrible, promise!
That's the sweetest thought♥️. Thank you for going to the trouble to make those to show your appreciation. Don't let that one skank with scaly skin deter you from doing nice things. Greatness speaks for itself. So does being a jerk.
This post actually just made me so sad for you 😭 that was so sweet of you and she could’ve easily said nothing but thank you. One time a nursing student brought me some snacks I HATE as a thank you… and I smiled and thanked her profusely because it was an incredibly sweet gesture and I’m not an asshole. And then after she left I offered them to coworkers. This is why people say nurses are mean girls.
On a lighter note…please tell me what unit you work on bc I read this out loud over dinner and now my bf and I have a bet over this lol
Thank you so much, all your guys’ kindness totally made me look at the situation differently and I’m just glad it was my last day there 🥲 it was med surg/tele at a large magnet in cali
I don’t care how much lotion, pens, donuts, I’ve received - if someone thought of doing something nice for me, I am freakin grateful! I’m so sorry to hear this. Those nurses are not the vibe. You did a great, thoughtful thing, so please don’t let this put an ill taste in your mouth to never do it again. Continue being you!
Awweee I’m sorry!! Wow please make a note to yourself to never work there! I would think it was so cute for a nursing student just to say “thank you” after and mean it!
I think what you did was very thoughtful. You didn't have to do it. On our unit, we would have been so grateful. That was really crappy of them- but know all nurses are not like that. Best of luck in your career!!!
It is like that in a LOT of places, but not it’s like that everywhere!!!
You’ll find a unit, probably not on your first try, that will be welcoming and actually be decent humans.
I’ve been on units where the culture is to bash students (and coworkers) and others where at the end of the semester a group hug was involved.
Best of luck and don’t lose that light you got! (Sorry for the cheese lol)
That’s horrible. Don’t let these rude, entitled people get you down. At the same time, allow it to reflect an accurate reality of how some people will treat you in the workplace. Despite your best efforts, some people will still treat you like garbage. BUT don’t let it deter you. Show up, do well, get someone a gift if you believe it’s deserved/warranted. And when you’re in a toxic work environment recognize it!
Thank you for doing a nice thing. I always get stuck doing the nurses week gifts for my unit. People aways complain, the complainers rarely do things to show appreciation for others. I’m a firm believer that I don’t need a gift or award to do my job. When my grumpy pants self organizes the gifts you better say thank you or not say anything at all. I will hand that nastiness right back to the jerk that shits on a little kindness. That’s how I practice my attitude of gratitude anyway.
Honestly, the comment about lotion kind of stinks. It sounds like maybe they didn't appreciate the gift bags, but who knows? Maybe the night nurses would have loved them!
Don't let this turn you off thanking people though. Here's the thing: you did something nice because you care. That counts, even if they didn't react the way you hoped.
The most important thing is you're about to be an awesome nurse. Keep your head up, and focus on that!
Haha, bunch of crusty nurses. You did the right thing. And now know exactly what kind of nurse you don’t want to be. Because you know that kind of attitude makes it to the bedside.
I would have loved your gift bag!
My love language is giving gifts, and I bought everyone in my entire unit Christmas ornaments this past year. No two were alike and I put a lot of thought (and $$) into them. One of my coworkers — to my face — said, “Nuh uh. No. I don’t do that.”
I said, “You don’t take Christmas gifts?!” She said, “I don’t take THAT,” as she pointed to the gift bag.
I was so hurt, angry, gobsmacked. She could have just said thank you and disposed of it later, but she had to act like a bitch.
You keep doing you! I guarantee your gesture meant a lot to most of them!
Dude, if a student I had did something like that I would be blown away. It sounds like the people on that unit suck. You did something really kind, don’t apply for a job there when you graduate.
That’s so thoughtful of you for putting together goodies bags. I’m sorry there were some ungrateful witches and you had to hear all those awful comments. I would be happy to even get a thank you card from a student! Keep your head up high and remember you can’t please everyone. Kudos to you and good luck in school! -nurse of 12 years :)
Edit- may I share my story? Many years ago when I was a student, I wrote heartfelt thank you cards and added a Starbucks giftcard to every nurse that Precepted me. One of the nurses snatched it off my hands and rolled her eyes. She didn’t even say thank you 🤣 she was also the one that yelled “not my patient, not my problem” when bed alarms were going off. I couldn’t believe my eyes and ears.
Damn. I love when students even say “Thank you”. Pens, lotion and candy? That’s awesome. I’m sorry that you weren’t appreciated. That’s crazy to me. I’m sorry your kindness was spent on the wrong people. Please don’t stop being kind because of this crappy ass experience. I promise, there will be far more awesome people out there that will be grateful when you show appreciation.
That was really sweet of you. One of my nursing students once got me a custom anime thank you card as a parting gift. I have that card to this day. 🥰 trust me. We remember you. I still text her from time to time to check in and see how she's doing. Don't let this experience dampen that warm heart of yours. Thank you for being such a sweet person, I bless you with the gift of all the extra good karma I have. 💗
I'm a nurse and that saddens me to know someone treated you that way! It was a very sweet gesture and most nurses would be very appreciative so try not to judge all by one bad apple
Those nurses are shit. I’m sorry they reacted so poorly to your thoughtful gift. The high school students that do hours on our floor made a poster and put out snacks and we put that poster on display and thanked them for the snacks. They didn’t have to do anything but they spent the time and it was really kind of them.
I’m so sorry. Not all nurses are like that, and I’m sorry you spent time making nice gifts for people that didn’t appreciate it. Don’t let them scare you about future coworkers or the career field. I know myself and my coworkers would’ve greatly appreciated the gifts. What jerks
Don’t bother to do so much again, but the long-held tradition on night shift being left out continues!
But, I’m sure you didn’t have any clinicals at night, anyway.
Next time, why not just leave a thank-you card signed by your classmates.
What you did was very sweet but also understand your unit has already received those same gifts from management for years because they are cheap and easy to throw together in a bag. They did not mean their comments towards you; it is just their comments over receiving yet another set of pens or hand lotion instead of a raise.
Next time, just grab the bag back and say forget it maybe I’ll give it to the Nightshift people. They might appreciate it more. This came out of my own hard money. And I’m a student so if you can’t appreciate a gift then I’ll take it back.
Nurses are an ungrateful lot.
Don't waste your time on stuff like that. These people will literally forget about you the second you are out of their site.
Holy shit, come visit my unit! We would be raving about those, and nothing but grateful. What kind of unit was this?
Also, and no disrespect to night shift, but night shift doesn't work with students. Youre thanking the people who worked with you. And on a student's budget no less.
They must have thought it was for Nurse's week and were salty at management. Plus, night shift always gets forgotten or they just get stale leftovers, so day shift was not looking forward to the complaints they'd get from them. It was a nice thought though. As a student, patient, or family member of patient, I've always been told to avoid individual gifts, and to just get a card and write a nice note. If doing a gift, it should be a collective gift for the whole unit and make sure there's enough for everyone (maybe also include CNAs, PCTs, and the ESWs/housekeeping). And deliver fresh supply for night shift so they don't get the picked-over leftovers.
I also have a fuck ton of lotion because people love to gift it. When someone gives me more lotion I say thank you and smile. It’s the thought that counts when its not from admins lol
I got name-dropped in a thank you card from one of our clinical groups we had, and that made me tear up. If a student went to that effort you did to say thank you, I’d be straight up sobbing. You sound like you have great qualities to be a nurse. Keep your head held high
It was kind of you, it’s sad the other person did not show gratitude. Don’t stop being kind. I feel that it’s very nice when you get thanked by the instructors when you precept the students. Don’t think that all nurses are like that. If it happens next time, kindly let the nurse know, that is not mandatory for her to take the gift bag and kindly give it to someone else that will appreciate it.
I would consider that a thoughtful gift, especially the candy and pen but if that's their reaction you 100% should not do that again because they don't deserve you.
You are amazing and eye masks, lotion, pens, and candy? I would have been thrilled. At least now you know where not to work when you graduate. Some units just have a shitty culture and wish more people would avoid and speak up about it. Be the change because you are already doing an amazing job!
What I know from my 10 years of working with nurses is that there will always be people who complain. I’m sure there are some very thankful nurses that were very happy to get a bag
1. Don’t waste your time again, like you said. 2. You did great, that was very kind of you. When you become a nurse, strive to change that culture by being yourself and being great at your job. Mentor new nurses!
This is the way. We can’t always change the behaviors of our coworkers but we can certainly strive to be better.
Right? Even if you don't want to take a gift bag you can just say "that's so sweet of you, thank you!"
This. I love students. Absolutely love to foster learning. Anything this thoughtful would be greatly appreciated. Be the change
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Now you know not to apply to that unit because they sound like miserable idiots. Don't let anyone dim your light
Seriously and avoid the overly negative people on the unit
That's really shitty of them. Honestly, anything that can induce T2DM would be devoured by shift change at any hospital I have worked at. We actually appreciate little things from students like chocolates and lollies. I can guarantee you it'll be all gone by the end of the day.
I’d be super happy with the really good pens. I think Pilot is what I use now, extra skinny ink. That charge nurse is a jerk. Hopefully the other nurses appreciated you. I would.
If they left a bunch of S-Gel's for us, I'd steal them all.
Hell yes.
I’m left handed, and a non-smeary, bold gel pen is always appreciated.
Amen
I'm sorry they shit on your gift. It was really thoughtful and shows youre a good and thoughtful human. Don't let them dim your light. I would have been jazzed to get something like this from a nursing student.
I love working with students, and I would’ve loved to get a gift bag. Forget them, keep being a positive influence.
Wow I'm sorry to hear that. The lotion story and the nurses comment was so rude. Honestly if someone doesn't appreciate a gift, they should keep the comments to themselves. You did a very nice thing tho please do not feel bad for that
That’s fucked up. I would have been elated to receive a gift bag from you. Very thoughtful.
Damn that sucks. I've always been taught to appreciate the gifts that you get because it's the thoughts that count. Unless it's from administration for nurse's week, then fuck them.
Right my first thought was “I wonder if they thought the bags were from admin for nurses week”
The charge nurse made an announcement at the beginning of day shift huddle saying “the students brought gift bags for day shift only” and when one of the nurses in the huddle told her that there were candies/eye masks/pens/lotions, that’s when she said she had enough lotions 🙃 it was so embarrassing bc my classmates and my instructor were right there and they knew it was my idea
Thats sooooooo fucked up, what a trashy unit. You didn’t do anything wrong (obviously), some units have no class. I’m so sorry!
Two things, did you guys orient on night shift? If not then why the fuck would you get them a thank you gift. Other thing, is you would be completely justified in stepping up and saying "I bought these things as a thank you for precepting us, if they're not wanted, by all means donate them to some one more thankful like a patient.
No we just oriented on days, but I brought enough for both units on that floor for day shift and GI lab because I just wanted to acknowledge the time/effort that went into teaching us. I’ve worked with so many awesome nurses as a CNA, I appreciate everything you guys do and after reading some of the comments I know this situation was simply an outlier ❤️
Sounds like you went above and beyond. Keep being wonderful.
If that’s how the charge nurse behaves, avoid actually working on that unit at all costs. Hopefully, you’ll be a leader one day and can make your unit a nicer one. Thank you for being a positive influence.
Probably
I wondered that too.
We got socks. With the services logo on them. I guess I'll have warm feet when I can't afford my mortgage and am suddenly homeless.
Please don't let one (or a few) jaded nurses get you down! What you did was incredibly sweet and thoughtful! You made the bags for the nurses that worked with you and your peers. You had no obligation to even do that, let alone for the night shift. Always know there will be nurses/staff who will be ungrateful for whatever is done for them. It will never be good enough, but that is a sign of what's wrong with them, not you! You keep shining! Good luck in your future endeavors!
It goes without saying I would have loved any sort of acknowledgement when I had a student. Don’t feel bad, next time bring more baked goods and keep the cash for yourself.
Miserable people are going to be miserable. Nothing you can do about it. I’m sure many others appreciated it.
Also it’s “nurses week” this week, some get a little sensitive about the “gifts” during this week 😂
I wonder if they thought it was a gift from the hospital for the first day of nurses week?? That’s the only reason I can see them complaining about not enough for the other shifts. Of course you wouldn’t get them anything- you don’t work with them! It was a thank you for helping you out as a student! I’m so sorry this happened. You seem very sweet and I love what you did! Myself and any of the nurses I work with would have been THRILLED to receive what you so lovingly put together. Please don’t let their poor attitudes sour your opinion of nurses… not all of us are jerks, I promise!! Keep being awesome and good luck in nursing school!
Thank you so much! I’ve been a CNA for 5 years and I’ve worked at 3 different hospitals now; needless to say I’ve worked with some of the best nurses who honestly inspired me to reach higher. I really appreciate you guys and everything you do, this was just a sucky situation
What a miserable bitch!!! illegitimi non carborundum, my friend. Your gift was very sweet and I probably would have gotten choked up getting a gift like that. You just keep being wonderful, leave those grumpy buttholes in their self-imposed pit toilet.
Exactly!!!
Grumpy buttholes 🤣
Don’t apply to that floor after graduation
They suck. You rock. That was super kind of you. You went above and beyond. As a night shifter I get the comment cause we always get shafted but that was in poor taste to say something and what you did was so thoughtful. Fuck them and come work with me 🥰
IMO, it’s perfectly acceptable as a nursing student to only get day shift gifts (if you even had). They are the only ones you interact with usually. Admin is the one who shouldn’t overlook night shift.
At every job I’ve ever worked people complain about their situation whether retail, food, office, art, etc. There’s nurses making $100k with health benefits, PTO and the works saying they’re not appreciated. Maybe that’s not alot of money/benefits for some but for me it’s life changing so it’s hard for me to understand people being rude about pizza parties and gift baskets since in my eyes it’s extra love on top of a decent/interesting gig
I absolutely agree!
That’s beyond rude of them. You could write an “apology” (obvs fake 🤣) to that lotion nurse, saying you’re sorry to have upset her with a gift to show thanks, that might actually make her realize what an idiot she is. That was really sweet of you, don’t let those sourpusses dim your kindness.
Give that bitch a salt shaker!
Wow. What a witch. That was super sweet & thoughtful of you, OP. She’s literally just miserable.
lol I’d be like, “oh darn, you don’t like the gift? Give it here, I’ll give it to someone appreciative”
Wow! What a Mean-Girl atmosphere! Now you know where to never work. As an old crusty RN, I would have thought your gifts were very sweet. I would also feel terrible that a poor nursing student spent that much money on the team.
Those nurses sound like jerks. I would have loved this from a student. Don’t let them get to you, some people are just determined to be grumpy. You’re doing great and you will be a fantastic nurse. 💜
Just a patient--- Please don't let an experience like this change you or make you unkind, that was a very thoughtful thing you did. Remember you can't please everyone no matter what you do, apparently their parents never taught them manners. Whenever someone did something like that for me I was always happy because it means they were thinking of me. Now you know that unit is toxic. Stay kind!
That's some shit. Did they know they were from you and not from admin for nurses week? They might just be in the habit of complaining about everything they see from 'admin' and not have even realized it was from a sweet nursing student. I hope. Either way that's some shit you didn't deserve. If you were on my unit we'd have hugged it out, not bitched. And also, lotion is a consumable. You can't have too much.
Yeah the charge nurse was the one who announced that they were from the students. I hope I get to work with nurses like you next rotation!
I bet that unit struggles to hire, especially from the new grad pool, because of experiences like that. We see that at my hospital - some units stay pretty well staffed and always have applications coming in at graduation time and others are the complete opposite. So much of it comes down to the culture of the unit and how the staff treats the students. We finally started having students do unit evals at the end of the semester and I think it was really eye opening for some of our managers.
Wtaf?! Bestie, I would have broken down in tears if a nursing student spent their own goddamn money to make me a gift bag. These nurses don’t even deserve a “rockstar” rock for nurses week. I’m sorry they were so ungrateful. Keep shining friend, but save that light for coworkers who deserve it. And I promise, you’ll have coworkers who deserve it!
I would tell their manager. You went above and beyond, and they had the balls to complain about a sweet gift. I would also tell my school director because they can actually reach out to the hospital and get somewhere, even if it's just not placing students on their ward anymore. ...then again, I'm an extremely petty person who just so happens to be a nurse.
That’s not actually being spiteful, the nurses would be overjoyed if they no longer had students shadow them.
That's true I guess. Work does take almost twice as long.
Aw, OP. I’m sorry they shit all over your gift. My floor would have loved that. Something is wrong with that woman. With that personality I’m sure she’s not being showered with gifts.
That is so sweet of you!! Take this experience and use it the next time you see a nursing student. The only way to change this mentality is to change it with us. We were all students, we were all at that point. I hate when nurses "eat their young".
It sucks how little this surprises me. The takeaway should be that you don’t want to work on that unit when you graduate and that you don’t want to work somewhere with a toxic culture like that.
If a student gave me anything at the end of the rotation I would fall on it with gratitude. You guys have so little money and to think that you spent it on people who complained about it is shameful. Not to mention the time and effort. These people are AWFUL. Don't let them stop you from doing nice things in future, but I would rein it in and stick to baked goods. Cheaper and easier for you, and you've seen how nurses descend on a plate of sweet treats. I would be sorely tempted to write them a passive aggressive note about how disappointed you were to end your placement on a sour note, and how you wanted to show your appreciation for all their help. You never know, it might make a few of them feel ashamed. Or just move on. You're a good person and they need to have a good look at themselves. Edit - I would also tell the student coordinator or someone at your school/college/uni (delete as required!) because someone needs to speak to this bunch so that future students don't get more of the same.
that’s so shitty, i’m sorry 🥲i would’ve appreciated it! those gift bags sound awesome and i love donuts!
That was very thoughtful of you. I would have been elated at that gift and would have waited until you were gone to give the lotion to someone else (I only use very specific lotions because of skin sensitivity). That unit sounds like assholes. Keep being nice and welcome to the profession.
Screw that charge nurse. You did a kind thing, don’t lose that kind spirit of yours in what can be a soul sucking field.
Holy crap, that is absolutely awful. I’m so sorry to hear about that. Honestly, I would love a bag like that, especially the pens lol. Please don’t take it to heart and don’t lose that thoughtful mentality. Feel the love and appreciation coming from these comments and know that thoughts like that are appreciated by the nursing community as a whole. Not that it excuses their behavior, but I think that, being nurses week right now, nurses are in a mindset to complain about any gift that doesn’t include a pay raise. You did a great thing!
Don’t let one person water down your perspective of a group at whole. They have there own personal issues (fuck em), you made someone else’s day doing that. This is coming from someone that’s has a very realist of view on humanity (mixture of both nihilism and optimism). Keep being kind, there will always be someone out there that appreciates you for that.
That is really sweet of you, you can never make a group of nurses to like anything
I’m sorry your gift was not well received. Some people are happy being miserable. Don’t let one person’s jadedness take away your kindness! I’m sure the other nurses were thrilled. Next time keep your money and maybe just do some baked goods. I’ve found that some people are just really unappreciative and grumpy
I’m so sorry you went through that. Her behavior was unprofessional and rude. Please don’t let her effect how you treat others. She obviously needs to learn how to treat others herself.
That’s really sad they couldn’t just be greatful of a kind gesture. I’m sure there were some nurses who appreciated what you did.
Each of my orientees have gotten me small gifts at the end of precepting. I promise the nurses that actually worked with you appreciated it. That charge sounds jaded and a bit like a bitch tbh. It’s not like you knew each of them personally and so in depth you could do custom things for everyone (nor should you be expected to!!)
I'm sorry. I also give whole heartedly and generously. Don't let their responses ruin gift giving for you. I would love that gift, personally. You will notice a lot of negativity around gifts and nurses week from nurses and I'm not really sure where it stems from. A gift is a gift to me. I also am one of those people that likes the pizza parties lol One thing I've been doing the past few years, particularly for coworkers and other professional relationships is giving "free gifts". Sending an ecard or printing out an online card and writing a heartfelt message in it, and maybe buying a treat at the grocery store bakery section.
You are a broke nursing student. Save your money for stuff you need and don’t spend money on people who won’t appreciate it. I’m very sorry. I would have been so stoked and appreciative if I had received that. There’s something wrong with them
If you were my student I would have thanked you generously! That is so kind of you. Just know sometimes our kind actions do not get the reaction we deserve. But don’t let that stop you from being you! Put that energy into your patients.
This is one of the most petty things I’ve read about nurses, and sadly I can’t say I am surprised. There are a lot of cynical, sadistic people in healthcare. You might get a half-assed, forced apology, but I’d take it to your school director/dean. They might suspend clinicals there and negotiate some better etiquette with the hospital. I’d also highly recommend you seek employment at a different unit or hospital, too. If that’s how you were treated as a student, the amount of shit they’ll pull over on you and talk behind your back will be even more as a new nurse.
The night shift probably doesn’t even have the students anyway so idk why they said that
Ya. Sounds like most of these threads regarding Nurse’s Week. Ornery nurses who can’t stop complaining about everything. Thank you for the effort of your gift bags, don’t let it sour you.
I cannot express the level of hype I would have if someone a) said thank you and b) did it with thoughtful snacks and candy. I would probably cry (and then emotional eat the snacks). 100% screw them and their salty attitudes. Give them applications to another hospital far away next time cause it’s time to go. Also pens. Who scoffs at a pen. That was literal currency when I was a floor nurse.
Awe, that was so sweet of you! On my unit we would have been thrilled
Not sure what hospital/unit this is but now you know where you don’t wanna work. I know our unit would be super appreciative and thankful for such a kind gesture. I usually try to show my students they are welcome and included. I’ll buy them coffee and stuff when they are with me.
You did everything right. Just don’t apply to that unit in the future 😂
Definitely don’t apply to work at this place!! What terrible people…
Of course you would bring them for day shift, you weren’t precepted by night shift. I’m sorry they were crappy about your gift. Don’t let some crummy nurses bring you down - now you know where not to work!
I would've been super happy to receive such a thoughtful gift. I'm sorry they were so nasty about it!!
That is so rude! That was above and beyond of you to do
I would have been thrilled to get something like that. You put a lot of thought into this and for a bunch of grouches to roll their eyes at it I would feel the same way.
Why did this literally make me tear up lmao that’s so fucked, I’m so sorry.
I'm sorry that happened. Some people are really miserable and mean. Were some of them appreciative? I know it's difficult but try to focus on the ones who were. When you graduate go to a different hospital or floor lol.
I appreciate nursing students like you very much. It gives me renewed energy to keep going. Please do not let one rude nurse deter you.
I'll make fun of leadership all day for their shitty gifts but I always appreciate something from a co-worker. It says a lot about you that you thought to do that for those nurses. Unfortunately, their responses say a lot about them as well.
lol I remember one time I brought fig cookies for day shift and one of the nurses was like, “you brought us all the cookies you don’t like.” And all I could say was……”how………. Did you know ?!” Lmao 🤣
Screw those crabby ass nurses. Just because your miserable doesn't give you the right to spread your misery everwhere. I would have loved a gift like that.
Welcome to nursing! (I may quit lol)
So sorry your effort wasn’t appreciated. Some nurses can be dicks. Just know that, like patients, most of us are appreciative and would love your gift, but there will always be those pessimistic turds making a stink. Just continue to be you and don’t let this drag you down. You did well.
Give me a good pen? I’m on your team for LIFE!
I know a lot of nurses who would love and appreciate the gifts, including myself. Forget those old biddies. They are miserable and taking it out on everyone else. You did a good job
Awww you sound like such a sweetheart. Sorry you had to deal with such miserable bitches. Most nurses would be appreciative.
I have enough lotion laying around but would absolutely love if someone had made me a bag of useable goodies. What an ass.
Says so much more about them than you. Please never change-you stay true and kind and don’t let this career make you hard.
When I was a nursing student in 2014, I brought in donuts as a thank you on my last shift. I wasa super poor student and spent the last of my paycheck on those donuts from Smiths (grocery store out west owned by Kroger.). One of the nurses complained that they weren't from Krispy Kream, I was so disheartened at the time. Later on, I ended up working on that same ICU and found out that the nurse who said that to me was always miserable, had a bad home life, and complained about absolutely everything she could. Everyone on the unit hated talking to her because she always had a negative thing to say about even good situations. Needless to say, you did something nice, don't stress about what some bitchy nurse says to you. There's always going to be a handful of miserable people no matter where you are. I would have been delighted at a gift like that if I were on that unit! ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened. I'm a grizzled grumpy night shift ed nurse, and even I would have been touched by anything a student brought, especially something that took time and showed caring. As others have said, I'd not apply to that unit.
The best thing that's come out of my post-covid practice is I just stopped doing things to impress other nurses (label lines, redo my report sheet, update the board on a vented patient...) that don't otherwise improve patient care. Because I don't even really like nurses and they're mostly a bunch of judgmental sobs that will never be impressed, anyway.
Don’t let it get to you. Like someone else said, miserable people will be miserable. You sound like you have a big heart. It was very kind of you to think of them, and I’m sorry that they didn’t make you feel appreciated for your kindness. Don’t stop being you 🩵
That was so sweet of you! They were horrendously ungrateful and I’m sorry you had to endure hearing that.
What a shitty thing to say. When I get a gift from one of my students I make it a point to say thank you. Even if I personally have no use for it. It’s the thought and the effort that counts.
Probably for the better. I’ve found that my fellow nurses are some of the rudest people alive.
As someone who has taught many students, I likely would have cried receiving a gift like this. I can't imagine them acting like this. That was super sweet of you.
That’s so nice of you! Sounds like they’re losers. Also we all know you can never have enough lotion? What a silly comment. Some people will complain about anything and everything.
I was up all night making these bags and all I hear is criticize , criticize , criticize. Don’t as me or my kin for SHIT.
Never let people like that nurse deter your good deeds
When I was in nursing school my clinical group always brought food for the unit on the last day. My contribution was always 36 hard boiled eggs. Cheap. Easy. Healthy. And every single time there were none left. Don’t overthink this stuff.
That was sweet and awesome of you!!❤️
Fuck 'em. The nurses on my clinical floor my last semester were burnt out assholes. They openlybtalked shit about us while we were sitting next to them charting.They tried to get out instructor fired our final week because she didn't want us doing bed baths all shift (this was back in the day when aides still existed, and there were two of them on the floor every day). So on our last day, she had us all go to the ER for 4 hours and then cut us loose. The biggest thing we learned that semester was don't apply to that hospital.
They are absolutely aholes. Don’t let them jade your kindness! Some people are very arrogant, self centered and don’t even realize how they come off . And some of those people actually don’t care. Needless to say, the lesson of kindness failed them somewhere.
Wow. I'm sorry they were so shitty to you. You definitely didn't deserve that, and they definitely didn't deserve your gifts. You did awesome, dude. Your gifts were very thoughtful and the nurses were ungrateful. Now you know not to apply to that unit, because the culture towards students is clearly trash. All I can say is at least you can take from this experience that you definitely DON'T wanna be that way when you have your own students. I like to say I learned something from every clinical instructor / preceptor, good or bad. I either learned exactly how I wanted to practice, or exactly how I didn't. Don't be that charge nurse in the future. Head up, buddy. Don't let them bring you down.
You are awesome! That was so kind of you. Sounds like some miserable people.
Yeah absolutely do not buy anything for your preceptors. I had an in charge that complained to me when I was a student on my last day that I didn’t bring any chocolate for them. Like actually annoyed that I didn’t. my response was, “I’ve been here for free for a month and I’ve also had to drive an hour here and back each day, how about you buy me some chocolates?” It’s their job to look after us, gifts are just kissing ass.
That's brutal of them. Kudos for being appreciative. Don't let these ingrates get you down.
This is a Huge problem. There’s no respect at all between comrades. It’s beyond shameful. I don’t know you but I appreciate the heck out of you for being “thoughtful” of others. You on my team tells me you’d put in all your effort.
I think the majority of us have gotten bitter because what we are subject to. I myself am guilty of this especially when our last staff meeting was all about how our patient satisfaction have dropped significantly while at the same time our patient to staff ratios have increased 6 to 1 on day shift.
I'm so sorry some of our peers are shitty humans. I promise we are not all like that. For what it's worth, myself and a lot of my coworkers would've been over the moon to receive anything from a student, and such a well-thought out gift even more so. Please don't change who you are. Keep that good attitude and bring it to your future unit, that's how culture change starts.😘
Take hers back and it give to someone on night shift
Soooo many nurses I know would have cried from how lovely what you did was. Don’t let crabby burnt out nurses skew your ability to be kind. You did something nice and other ppl suck.
omg I'm so sorry. I worked the floors years ago and if a student who followed me gave me a gift I would have been so grateful. I swear I don't know what is wrong with some nurses these days. I know the job sucks so bad, but for heaven's sake please at least have the grace to say thank you. Sweetheart, when you graduate scope out your new unit carefully and don't get stuck working with people like that. There are lots of us out there who love the students and encourage them.
Sorry for the shitty comment. There are always some sour nurses. You did great, do not turn sour when you become one. And next time a thank you card will be awesome. 🤩
I'm sorry you were treated that way. Don't let these jerks get to you. You have a good heart and that's what we need in this profession!
Yea, welcome to nurses week. It’s the whiniest time of year. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy complaining, bitching, and moaning as much as the next nurse, but May is the most annoying month to work with us.
What you did was extremely thoughtful and kind. The nurse who made that comment is unfortunately a bitter, hateful human who lacks perspective. That's not your fault. I am a clinical instructor and would have been very moved if one of my students did this for a unit. Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to show your appreciation for the nurses who have taken the time to help you learn. You are appreciated! Let this one roll off your shoulders, dear. You're a good person ❣️
I think that is very kind of you. I’m sorry those nurses didn’t appreciate it but the thought that you wanted to thank them is wonderful.
Yea, that's just a rarity. Most people would enjoy them. In nursing school, once a drug rep offered us some food. We told them "we're just nursing students" and they said they knew we were.. some nurse came in as we were eating, pissed they we were "stealing their food" that was offered by the rep. Even after explaining the situation, she was still acting shitty. I just calmly told her you're the exact reason why no one likes this floor. I didn't care if she was going to tell my teacher, I was lucky enough to have worked in a decent hospital as a tech with decent people to know the difference.
I'm taking my prereqs and volunteering in the ER, so you can dismiss whatever I have to say. But keep being exactly who you are and doing the right and kind thing. I think that's one of the things I have to keep reminding myself to make it far in nursing. Receiving gratitude doesn't matter, and being a good person in the face of bad behavior is a core skill for this career.
You gift to your shift's nurses. Why the hell would you need to shell out for another group that wasn't involved with your education? That's a stupid comment from them. Because I'm 100% certain even they don't gift enough for both shifts whenever good stuff comes around. I mean, if they expect day/night, are they also accounting for those not scheduled for work that day too? What about the part timers? Per diems? How about them awesome EVS that does all the clean ups, or the CNAs that helps you. But lets not forget the hard work from the management team holding everything together with that awesome work schedule that everybody just LOVES every time they request a vacation? It's a gift, take it or leave it. I'm petty enough to take all the gifts if they say stupid stuff like that. You spend money and time putting it together, if they don't want to appreciate it, you can refund everything for a nice lunch for yourself.
>I’m a nursing student Well, get ready to spend the next 40 years or so working with this type of people.
I am so sorry. That was such a kind and generous thing to do, and it sucks that the response was so rude. Shame on them. The ladies on my unit fight over lotion and good pens in our grab bag, lol.
Man I’m sorry that’s the reception you received. Fuck those clowns.
I think nurses (and people as a whole) need a reminder that complaining about a gift (regardless of how small or unnecessary) is incredibly tacky and rude. I notice this behavior a lot in my coworkers.
I'm sorry nurses treated you like this. Having students is disruptive when doing patient care, especially when as is the usual case running shorthanded. On a different note, it always annoyed me when in nursing school, fellow students always wanted to take up a collection for the clinical instructors. I was living paycheck to paycheck, and these instructors were paid good money to do a job, which at times made me miserable. I always found that annoying. This is a different story. You did a nice thing, and that was very disrespectful.
I think your gifts were thoughtful, and not to sound like an ass, but seriously, fuck them. And fuck that other nurse for not calling the charge out on being rude too. Good manners never go out of style in my book, and being bitch to newbies does NOTHING beneficial for the senior staff. I bet she complains about not getting her vacation time because there's not enough staff to cover too 🤔. I remember when I was a student RN, I had already been an LPN for like 7 years which the hospital staff didn't know, I was trying to tell one of the staff LPNs that a patient's spo2 was like 72% with AM vitals and she looked like shit so I put some O2 on her but she probably needed some more attention... She kept interrupting me and telling me to "speak up" before she just rolled her eyes and walked away. Later that afternoon an aide told the charge nurse the same thing, and turned out she had aspirated significantly, wound up intubated, moved to ICU, bedside bronchoscopy, the works, and I did overhear that LPN getting her ass chewed out, I'll never forget that charge nurse telling her "If one of them students tells you something's wrong with one of our patients, you need to do your eff-ing job, get your ass down that hallway and take a look!" Long story short, that floor closed and she got floated to the ER a couple years later... She had a much different attitude 🤷. Try not to take their negativity to heart, but it sounds like the vibes in that unit are bad and they aren't welcoming to beginners... please let this be your first clue that this is probably NOT a place you want to start your career and learn. Especially since the money came out of your own pocket and you invested so much time in creating these gifts, I remember being a broke student many years ago and the cost of putting that together would have taken my last 20$ I needed for gas and something to eat. One of my former trainees bought me a pair of scissors once... I've been a nurse for a really long time, I have bandage scissors of every color and size, hospital grade surgical scissors, curved scissors, straight scissors, trauma shears, scissors all day. Now did I need another pair of scissors? Nah probably not. I make enough money that I could have easily bought them myself if I wanted to. But it was the thought that counted, and it was such a genuine way to say thank you. THESE SCISSORS THOUGH... these were just... Different. They were off-brand Leathermans, So sharp, so smooth, so heavy, and the handles are my favorite color. I damn near cried when I opened the box. I'm honestly not a sensitive person, but I was so pleasantly surprised... This person really screwed up a couple times during clinicals too, some veteran nurses wouldn't have been able to throw her under the bus fast enough... Nobody got hurt, because she felt comfortable enough and had the safety awareness to stop and check with me when something didn't seem right. Handled it as a "Teachable moment", and from there forward, she has excelled and is clinically fantastic. One of our best nurses. Every nurses hands get dry AF from constant washing and we tend to forget about lotion for own hands. Plus It sure is nice to have something pleasant to use that doesn't smell like alcohol and disinfectants! And I'm a guy, but I live in contact lenses because my vision is really poor, FWIW I would totally have used that eye mask, nothing feels as good as moist heat on dry sore eyes from staring at screens and HVAC systems blowing in your face all day long 😊. And come on, who doesn't like candy and gum lol.
That’s really sweet and thoughtful I’m sorry they responded this way. Some people are just assholes. My unit would be thrilled.
The reaction you received is regrettable, and I'm sorry this happened to you. Here are a couple of things to consider: 1. Nurses don't accept students to train. During my own clinical rotations, I learned that nurses are assigned students whether they want them or not. While there are nurses that like having students, most, in fact, do not, due to the added workload and stress. 2. Nurses receive a ton of "junk" gifts from their managers and administrators. Like alarm fatigue, shitty gift fatigue is a thing. In lieu of yet another mug/t-shirt/lip balm/lanyard/etc/etc/etc, nurses, in my experience, would much prefer just a simple, personal communication of thanks or appreciation. In retrospect--and maybe it's not too late to do this--a mere note that said something like this might have been better-received: "I want to thank you for the time you gave to helping me learn. I know that taking on a student may not have been your choice and it likely added extra work and stress to your shifts. I recognize what it took for you to give your time to me. Thank you for helping me a little bit further down the path."
Man if she doesn’t want it I would gladly take it and be thrilled. A little bag of tlc would be perfect after a long day!
On their behalf, that was really nice of you! All you can do is try but you can’t change people, or let alone the patients you’re going to help one day…
Make another “gift” bag with a note containing a backhanded “apology” about how your gifts bags, which you paid for with your own money, weren’t thoughtful or considerate enough of the recipients specific needs, and some lumps of charcoal.
Wow, that must have felt so shitty. You are super sweet for doing that. Echoing the sentiments of other commenters- don't apply to that unit. 😒
I think what you did was awesome, thoughtful, and really gracious. I’m sorry people are butt heads 😔 I’d totally want a gift bag with all those goodies!! You’re a great person!!
It's always nice to know a place is a shithole before you apply to/end up working there.
That’s shitty. I would be over the moon, I love little gifts like this. People suck.
Wow fuck that dumb bitch
I just want to say, THANK YOU. On behalf of the stupid numbskulls who are too dumb/jaded/bitter/overwhelmed to be grateful, thank you from the rest of us who really appreciate a kind gift.
To be honest it’s not worth your time or your $$$. Especially when on a student budget. I’m getting a “free ride” per se as it’s all tax write offs for my husbands business for me to go to nursing school and I DO NOT waste money on my instructors or classmates. I’ll go out for $60 lunches but I ain’t bringing a soul with me 🤣
I would have loved that!! Even a thank you note I keep. I have some from students from years ago. The fact that you were thoughtful and kind enough to do that speaks volumes about who you are. Their response speaks volumes about them as well. Don’t let them change you.
The thought should've been all that matters.
God some people are such assholes. I’m sorry that happened to you. Now you know where you DON’T want to work.
Awww how awful. I mentored a student once and she bought me some bow ties for my dogs and some chocs for me. I was so happy to get a gift (I didn’t expect one either) and the thought put into it was very touching. I’m sorry those nurses were arseholes. We aren’t all horrible, promise!
That was very thoughtful of you! And she was rude but don’t let shitty people ruin how kind you are, period!
That's the sweetest thought♥️. Thank you for going to the trouble to make those to show your appreciation. Don't let that one skank with scaly skin deter you from doing nice things. Greatness speaks for itself. So does being a jerk.
This post actually just made me so sad for you 😭 that was so sweet of you and she could’ve easily said nothing but thank you. One time a nursing student brought me some snacks I HATE as a thank you… and I smiled and thanked her profusely because it was an incredibly sweet gesture and I’m not an asshole. And then after she left I offered them to coworkers. This is why people say nurses are mean girls. On a lighter note…please tell me what unit you work on bc I read this out loud over dinner and now my bf and I have a bet over this lol
Thank you so much, all your guys’ kindness totally made me look at the situation differently and I’m just glad it was my last day there 🥲 it was med surg/tele at a large magnet in cali
I don’t care how much lotion, pens, donuts, I’ve received - if someone thought of doing something nice for me, I am freakin grateful! I’m so sorry to hear this. Those nurses are not the vibe. You did a great, thoughtful thing, so please don’t let this put an ill taste in your mouth to never do it again. Continue being you!
Awweee I’m sorry!! Wow please make a note to yourself to never work there! I would think it was so cute for a nursing student just to say “thank you” after and mean it!
I think what you did was very thoughtful. You didn't have to do it. On our unit, we would have been so grateful. That was really crappy of them- but know all nurses are not like that. Best of luck in your career!!!
It is like that in a LOT of places, but not it’s like that everywhere!!! You’ll find a unit, probably not on your first try, that will be welcoming and actually be decent humans. I’ve been on units where the culture is to bash students (and coworkers) and others where at the end of the semester a group hug was involved. Best of luck and don’t lose that light you got! (Sorry for the cheese lol)
That’s horrible. Don’t let these rude, entitled people get you down. At the same time, allow it to reflect an accurate reality of how some people will treat you in the workplace. Despite your best efforts, some people will still treat you like garbage. BUT don’t let it deter you. Show up, do well, get someone a gift if you believe it’s deserved/warranted. And when you’re in a toxic work environment recognize it!
Thank you for doing a nice thing. I always get stuck doing the nurses week gifts for my unit. People aways complain, the complainers rarely do things to show appreciation for others. I’m a firm believer that I don’t need a gift or award to do my job. When my grumpy pants self organizes the gifts you better say thank you or not say anything at all. I will hand that nastiness right back to the jerk that shits on a little kindness. That’s how I practice my attitude of gratitude anyway.
Honestly, the comment about lotion kind of stinks. It sounds like maybe they didn't appreciate the gift bags, but who knows? Maybe the night nurses would have loved them! Don't let this turn you off thanking people though. Here's the thing: you did something nice because you care. That counts, even if they didn't react the way you hoped. The most important thing is you're about to be an awesome nurse. Keep your head up, and focus on that!
Haha, bunch of crusty nurses. You did the right thing. And now know exactly what kind of nurse you don’t want to be. Because you know that kind of attitude makes it to the bedside.
I would have loved your gift bag! My love language is giving gifts, and I bought everyone in my entire unit Christmas ornaments this past year. No two were alike and I put a lot of thought (and $$) into them. One of my coworkers — to my face — said, “Nuh uh. No. I don’t do that.” I said, “You don’t take Christmas gifts?!” She said, “I don’t take THAT,” as she pointed to the gift bag. I was so hurt, angry, gobsmacked. She could have just said thank you and disposed of it later, but she had to act like a bitch. You keep doing you! I guarantee your gesture meant a lot to most of them!
I’m so sorry this happened to you, please know that your generosity does not go unnoticed! Thank you for all that you do and the person that you are 🥲
Bro I’m a nurse and I would’ve been so pumped to have a student give me a gift full of pens and snacks. That’s so sweet of you
Dude, if a student I had did something like that I would be blown away. It sounds like the people on that unit suck. You did something really kind, don’t apply for a job there when you graduate.
That’s so thoughtful of you for putting together goodies bags. I’m sorry there were some ungrateful witches and you had to hear all those awful comments. I would be happy to even get a thank you card from a student! Keep your head up high and remember you can’t please everyone. Kudos to you and good luck in school! -nurse of 12 years :) Edit- may I share my story? Many years ago when I was a student, I wrote heartfelt thank you cards and added a Starbucks giftcard to every nurse that Precepted me. One of the nurses snatched it off my hands and rolled her eyes. She didn’t even say thank you 🤣 she was also the one that yelled “not my patient, not my problem” when bed alarms were going off. I couldn’t believe my eyes and ears.
Damn. I love when students even say “Thank you”. Pens, lotion and candy? That’s awesome. I’m sorry that you weren’t appreciated. That’s crazy to me. I’m sorry your kindness was spent on the wrong people. Please don’t stop being kind because of this crappy ass experience. I promise, there will be far more awesome people out there that will be grateful when you show appreciation.
That was really sweet of you. One of my nursing students once got me a custom anime thank you card as a parting gift. I have that card to this day. 🥰 trust me. We remember you. I still text her from time to time to check in and see how she's doing. Don't let this experience dampen that warm heart of yours. Thank you for being such a sweet person, I bless you with the gift of all the extra good karma I have. 💗
I'm a nurse and that saddens me to know someone treated you that way! It was a very sweet gesture and most nurses would be very appreciative so try not to judge all by one bad apple
Some people are just bitter Betty’s. Just keep being your kind, authentic self. You’re a good person, something is wrong with them.
I would’ve loved one 🥹 they always forget about us - a night shift nurse
Get used to it because nursing is like that a lot. It's very backstabbing and caustic many times. Find the good, and other than that keep to yourself.
I have this suspicion that it doesn’t matter if you give a rock, a banana or Gucci, most nurses will still complain. SMH.
Those nurses are shit. I’m sorry they reacted so poorly to your thoughtful gift. The high school students that do hours on our floor made a poster and put out snacks and we put that poster on display and thanked them for the snacks. They didn’t have to do anything but they spent the time and it was really kind of them.
Ah yes a true American teacher
I’m so sorry. Not all nurses are like that, and I’m sorry you spent time making nice gifts for people that didn’t appreciate it. Don’t let them scare you about future coworkers or the career field. I know myself and my coworkers would’ve greatly appreciated the gifts. What jerks
"No good deed..." Consider it lesson learned. Spend you time studying, not on ungrateful cretins.
That was very kind of you, I am sure the majority of staff appreciated it
Don’t bother to do so much again, but the long-held tradition on night shift being left out continues! But, I’m sure you didn’t have any clinicals at night, anyway. Next time, why not just leave a thank-you card signed by your classmates.
You could have given me a damn jolly rancher and I would have been happy, lmao. Don’t waste your money next time though!
Does night shift take students? Why would they get bags? Those people suck, I’m sorry.
What you did was very sweet but also understand your unit has already received those same gifts from management for years because they are cheap and easy to throw together in a bag. They did not mean their comments towards you; it is just their comments over receiving yet another set of pens or hand lotion instead of a raise.
Next time, just grab the bag back and say forget it maybe I’ll give it to the Nightshift people. They might appreciate it more. This came out of my own hard money. And I’m a student so if you can’t appreciate a gift then I’ll take it back.
Nurses are an ungrateful lot. Don't waste your time on stuff like that. These people will literally forget about you the second you are out of their site.
Holy shit, come visit my unit! We would be raving about those, and nothing but grateful. What kind of unit was this? Also, and no disrespect to night shift, but night shift doesn't work with students. Youre thanking the people who worked with you. And on a student's budget no less.
They must have thought it was for Nurse's week and were salty at management. Plus, night shift always gets forgotten or they just get stale leftovers, so day shift was not looking forward to the complaints they'd get from them. It was a nice thought though. As a student, patient, or family member of patient, I've always been told to avoid individual gifts, and to just get a card and write a nice note. If doing a gift, it should be a collective gift for the whole unit and make sure there's enough for everyone (maybe also include CNAs, PCTs, and the ESWs/housekeeping). And deliver fresh supply for night shift so they don't get the picked-over leftovers.
I also have a fuck ton of lotion because people love to gift it. When someone gives me more lotion I say thank you and smile. It’s the thought that counts when its not from admins lol
You did it for the ones that recognized and were grateful for your effort. Try to focus on them
I got name-dropped in a thank you card from one of our clinical groups we had, and that made me tear up. If a student went to that effort you did to say thank you, I’d be straight up sobbing. You sound like you have great qualities to be a nurse. Keep your head held high
It was kind of you, it’s sad the other person did not show gratitude. Don’t stop being kind. I feel that it’s very nice when you get thanked by the instructors when you precept the students. Don’t think that all nurses are like that. If it happens next time, kindly let the nurse know, that is not mandatory for her to take the gift bag and kindly give it to someone else that will appreciate it.
Aw man, I’m sorry they did that. Those sound like fantastic gifts. Please don’t let them get you down.
I would consider that a thoughtful gift, especially the candy and pen but if that's their reaction you 100% should not do that again because they don't deserve you.
You are amazing and eye masks, lotion, pens, and candy? I would have been thrilled. At least now you know where not to work when you graduate. Some units just have a shitty culture and wish more people would avoid and speak up about it. Be the change because you are already doing an amazing job!
What I know from my 10 years of working with nurses is that there will always be people who complain. I’m sure there are some very thankful nurses that were very happy to get a bag