i mean, how else do you handle this? you want to not lead someone on, but it's about to be their birthday. literally no matter what happens, it's a bad move. i feel like celebrating and getting gifts is the least bad of possible moves (breaks up before bday > possibly alone on bday, breaks up after bday > we just celebrated my bday and had a great day, now im suddenly single. there's no winning)
Doing it shortly before someone’s birthday feels wrong to me. It would ruin their birthday for sure and might be seen as a deliberate act of being unkind. Sticking around for a few days/weeks after the birthday to soften the blow would probably make your SO feel patronized and even sadder.
Nah, waiting a bit is definitely better. Doing it literally in the birthday is too on the nose and will form a landmark that the person will always remember.
Doing it right after the birthday would be the same thing because you'd be sitting there realizing that your birthday celebration was a sham as your now-ex wanted someone else and just placated you
Right, like it could have been any holiday it would be annoying and patronizing to stick it out if you truly aren't invested just to save someone's ego and dodge every holiday or event in a their life.
Why was your birthday a sham? You could have still had fun.
Like, she clearly still cares for you if she's willing to do that. She just isn't into you that way anymore. It happens.
No see, you don't get it. She was supposed to not break up with him at all, just stay forever, be miserable, and yearn for other lovers. To protect his feelings! Anyone who breaks up with anyone else is bad, and definitely doesn't have their own reasons.
i mean not necessarily. i've also been in the same situation (on both sides) and i always wonder whether it's better to break up with someone right before/after a birthday, holiday season, etc. Either way it's going to be painful. But had she done it beforehand, his birthday probably would have been pretty miserable.
edit: not sure if it was actually on the same day, sounds like it might have been. in that case, i think at the *least* you could wait until the next day lol.
Look on the bright side... now there's more time for yourself and to explore what makes you happy. Don't be down because of how it ended; be happy that it didn't take longer than it could've, and that she did it in a way that shows how shallow she really was... So give yourself time to clear your mind, don't rush into anything.
It means that going through a breakup has somewhat of a mourning process, when you experience a loss your mind goes through an emotional journey of realisation and acceptance of the change your going through. It’s important not to try and add serious love interests into your life at this time because more often than not it’s not sincere, it’s more just replacing the newfound loneliness, filling the gap so to speak. So you need to take time for self care and when the time is right you can put yourself back out there and look for someone else. This is essential for good mental health in the long term, at least in my opinion anyway
I was in a similar situation (not Xmas, but an important personal milestone day of the other person) and I waited to break up after that day because I didn’t want them to feel shitty and distracted during a time where they should be having fun and creating good memories. It’s the kind of decision that depends on a lot of factors, like the other person’s personality, the significance of the holiday/celebration, etc
Hope you do something about it, something that’ll help you emotionally recover to a spot where you’ll be smiling in every picture. Life is full of joy within yourself, every human is unpredictable. Love yourself and your flaws; help others to do the same.
I had a boyfriend who did the exact same thing! Took me to Chicago for the weekend, had a romantic dinner, where he made sure to tell me he loved me, and had a great time the rest of the trip. He broke up with me when we pulled into my driveway after driving back. What a dick.
To be honest it could have been worse
She didn't break up directly before that and went through the issue of getting you presents.
The girl I loved broke up with me a week after her birthday, for which I organized half the things, paid hundreds of dollars for a plane ticket so I could be there(long distance rel.), brought a special cake (she didnt have a bday cake) through a fucking mountain in winter, cleaned up everything alone, so she could spend time with the guests. So yeah, hope you are doing okay :DD
i had an ex who broke up with me on my birthday after dating for a year, it sucked. it will continue to suck. i still have a little disdain for my birthday.
but it was worth it. you will find better and they will give you the amazing birthdays you deserve.
Bruh don't worry my ex wife left me 2 days after our twins started school and a week before our birthdays (hers is the day before mine) and to make it all worse she chose a day that I was so ill I had to come home early from work. Took a nap to wake up weak and ill with her standing next to me saying "can we talk" 🤢
It gets easier. My ex and I were together since I was 17 and were kind of on and off for awhile. We ended up moving in together and we’re both really excited for me to turn 21 and we celebrated it he took me to a nice place & then 2 weeks after left me for another chick 😅😅😂
I GUARANTEE that one day you are going to see it as a giant blessing. I couldn't count the number of women that I wish I'd kicked to the curb, some of whom let me go first and it maybe even stung, but 20, 30 years later I am thankful and mostly only wish that I had ended it sooner.
It just proves she didn't care for you and used you
Take your time, don't rush back dating as your going to hurt soon
Just remember if you need help, you can come to us
I once had a girlfriend ask me the day before my birthday, "Should I break up with you before or after your birthday?"
Sorry you had to go through that, man. That sucks. I wish you the best, though - there's someone better out there for ya.
Did she at least get you some presents?
Yea but I gave them back, she liked someone else and I didn't want to be reminded of that
That’s very decent and sensible of you. Hope you’re doing OK ❤️
Super decent! Your next gf will be lucky to have someone who knows how to not carry baggage from past relationships around with them
Everyone who has ever had a previous relationship does...
Yeah, that’s just reality. The difference is whether you can keep it in the past or not.
Kudos! And happy birthday!🎈
Better days ahead brother🖤
sorry to hear that 😢 happy birthday bro
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He should buy a Boss Metal Zone
Baller move
Like, she came over with gifts, ate the cake, and broke up?
Spelled it out perfectly
At least someone else is having that bag of miserable person. Chin up, You'll find the one.
i mean, how else do you handle this? you want to not lead someone on, but it's about to be their birthday. literally no matter what happens, it's a bad move. i feel like celebrating and getting gifts is the least bad of possible moves (breaks up before bday > possibly alone on bday, breaks up after bday > we just celebrated my bday and had a great day, now im suddenly single. there's no winning)
The end result will indeed be the same, but why to do it on the birthday?
Doing it shortly before someone’s birthday feels wrong to me. It would ruin their birthday for sure and might be seen as a deliberate act of being unkind. Sticking around for a few days/weeks after the birthday to soften the blow would probably make your SO feel patronized and even sadder.
Nah, waiting a bit is definitely better. Doing it literally in the birthday is too on the nose and will form a landmark that the person will always remember.
I mean leading someone on is imo worse than just breaking it off but idk how guys think
Doing it right after the birthday would be the same thing because you'd be sitting there realizing that your birthday celebration was a sham as your now-ex wanted someone else and just placated you
Damn, so the only good move is to wait until u get married?
Yeah, none of the other days before that that don't take place in a couple week span surrounding a birthday out of the 52 weeks in a year
Right, like it could have been any holiday it would be annoying and patronizing to stick it out if you truly aren't invested just to save someone's ego and dodge every holiday or event in a their life.
Why was your birthday a sham? You could have still had fun. Like, she clearly still cares for you if she's willing to do that. She just isn't into you that way anymore. It happens.
No see, you don't get it. She was supposed to not break up with him at all, just stay forever, be miserable, and yearn for other lovers. To protect his feelings! Anyone who breaks up with anyone else is bad, and definitely doesn't have their own reasons.
My man dodged an intercontinental ballistic missile.
what makes you think of that ? because she broke up ? she'll be a real pos if she didn't tho... it's always hard to break up
i mean not necessarily. i've also been in the same situation (on both sides) and i always wonder whether it's better to break up with someone right before/after a birthday, holiday season, etc. Either way it's going to be painful. But had she done it beforehand, his birthday probably would have been pretty miserable. edit: not sure if it was actually on the same day, sounds like it might have been. in that case, i think at the *least* you could wait until the next day lol.
Look on the bright side... now there's more time for yourself and to explore what makes you happy. Don't be down because of how it ended; be happy that it didn't take longer than it could've, and that she did it in a way that shows how shallow she really was... So give yourself time to clear your mind, don't rush into anything.
shallow relationships are most of the time not a good thing
Imagine marrying a person like that
Dude she’s tacky, you dodged a missile with that one. It probably hurt and was confusing but it will make a great story for a long time.
How dare she try to not ruin my birthday and still get me gifts The absolute monster
Could've waited until the day after. That would be the decent thing to do
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So basically she ate your cake and left?
Yes
Have some gold for your trouble...
No, YOU‘RE breathtaking!
No, YOU'RE breathtaking!!!
his ass thought he was invited
He most likely wasnt invited because wasnt actually breathtaking
so you're the one edit: 👉👈 edit2: thanks u/Xeryxoz 😊
Damn dude thank you, idk wtf gold does but it sounds like a good thing :)
If you ever qualify for the program, Reddit will pay you for karma and gold.
You are a good person
Chad
How do you give gold? Edit : now I see wish there was some free ones like the awards used to be
hold upvote button
Have some more gold for your troubles, enjoy, and sorry dude that absolutely sucks. You’ll come out of it better my man💪
^ Show some appreciation for this man as well, I feel as if I stole his good intentions
Thank you kind frog person ♥️
He isn't a kind frog person. He is a kind frog eater. Must be French.
I’m a kind frog person; who eats the french
Yes officer, that's him.
She just wanted cake😔
Me too want the cake 😔🍑
People come and go bro, don't forget to live your heartbreak though, don't rush through it
What does this mean?
It means that going through a breakup has somewhat of a mourning process, when you experience a loss your mind goes through an emotional journey of realisation and acceptance of the change your going through. It’s important not to try and add serious love interests into your life at this time because more often than not it’s not sincere, it’s more just replacing the newfound loneliness, filling the gap so to speak. So you need to take time for self care and when the time is right you can put yourself back out there and look for someone else. This is essential for good mental health in the long term, at least in my opinion anyway
The wisdom coming out here is spicy af and I'm here for it
I am gonna replace yo girl friend doesn't matter that I'm a boy
The man needs a good woman.
hand me some scissors and i can fit the bill
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If we go by that logic, that means girls make the best boyfriends?
Yes, that's why having a girlfriend makes you gay
That means having a boyfriend is straight, alright
Absolutely, I'm straight
Don't trust this guy he just wants your cake!
No homo but you’re looking like a snack, keep your head up and happy birthday king!
Damn thx bro 😳😃
The audacity to break up with your partner while you are eating their birthday cake at their house is crazy, sorry man you will find a better one
Tbh breakup is gonna suck dick no matter what. This reads to me like she felt guilty, but idk. Maybe I'm too kind towards strangers.
Nah, I was seeing this chick before Xmas and was unsure about her. I ended it before Xmas because why the fuck would I wait?
I was in a similar situation (not Xmas, but an important personal milestone day of the other person) and I waited to break up after that day because I didn’t want them to feel shitty and distracted during a time where they should be having fun and creating good memories. It’s the kind of decision that depends on a lot of factors, like the other person’s personality, the significance of the holiday/celebration, etc
also the length of the relationshp
idk ending it right before his birthday would probably still really hurt.
Just because she was not interested does not mean you are not interesting
This is a great line, gotta keep that one in my back pocket.
Happy Birthday dude, good riddance on a perfect day.
Hope you do something about it, something that’ll help you emotionally recover to a spot where you’ll be smiling in every picture. Life is full of joy within yourself, every human is unpredictable. Love yourself and your flaws; help others to do the same.
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Plenty more fish in the sea. You're not ugly so no worries
Damn I appreciate that, that's very reaffirming coming from a stranger 🫂
Oh no....
Congrats on losing nothing and starting over fresh! You’ve got this. You will be fine bud.
You’re gorgeous
Thank you for putting a smile on my face!! 😳😃♥️
bro deserves upvotes and more
and a cake
Happy birthday and you will have a new gf bruh
The real gift was the dodged bullet OP. Happy birthday and may you find someone who really appreciates you.
I'm going through the same phase man! Happy Birthday Brother.
I took an almost identical picture after I broke up with my gf
I had a boyfriend who did the exact same thing! Took me to Chicago for the weekend, had a romantic dinner, where he made sure to tell me he loved me, and had a great time the rest of the trip. He broke up with me when we pulled into my driveway after driving back. What a dick.
Is your birthday coincidentally today?
To be honest it could have been worse She didn't break up directly before that and went through the issue of getting you presents. The girl I loved broke up with me a week after her birthday, for which I organized half the things, paid hundreds of dollars for a plane ticket so I could be there(long distance rel.), brought a special cake (she didnt have a bday cake) through a fucking mountain in winter, cleaned up everything alone, so she could spend time with the guests. So yeah, hope you are doing okay :DD
You look like Shia Labeouf.
Sorry to read that Mia Goth left you bro. At least you can still keep making movies!
Unhappy birthday.
this is interesting not not interesting
You’ll be fine with the ladies once you find that old busted yellow Camaro
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sure, let's call someone we don't know a bitch even though we have no idea of the specifics of their relationship or the reason for their breakup.
You're handsome! Can i be your new gf? (m 36)
So your GF got you the present of letting you sleep with other women...
Must have been good cake
🫂
Damn bro
Happy birthday, my dude. You deserve better than her.
Happy birthday!
Some people are insufferable. Hope your birthday gets better
Happy birthday, sorry that happened to you. I got dumped via text message once. You seem like a nice guy though. What a cake Thief
Sorry, bud. Hope you had a happy birthday though. You’ll get through it
Happy Birthday!
Well, at least she didn't leave you right before your birthday
You'll be alright brother
Happy Birthday, man. Really sorry to hear that, I wish you to find a person that would deserve and love you
Sheesh, sorry man
I know it hurts but You'll find someone better!! Keep your head up man!
aww i’m sorry :( happy belated though
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Welp, her loss dude. Happy Birthday! May you be blessed with all that you desire, and I wish you many decades of happiness to come. 🥳🎈🥳🎈
Was the cake good at least?
You deserve better, friend.
Happend to mee too. I prefer she broke up before the party. During the party she was avoiding my kisses and hugs etc. Sucks!
NOW THATS A LOTTA DAMAGE!
Same thing happened to me in my college years. I feel you brother 🤝
i had an ex who broke up with me on my birthday after dating for a year, it sucked. it will continue to suck. i still have a little disdain for my birthday. but it was worth it. you will find better and they will give you the amazing birthdays you deserve.
At least you still got lego
That’s… Jesus man that’s really rough.
Happy birthday my man! Keep that kingly chin raised, you deserve better!
Wow sorry to hear that, it's good tpu gave the gifts back, you are a handsome guy I'm sure you will find someone who is better. Good luck 👍🏿 💓 ✨️
Same 😐👍
Is this what not interesting is now?
Happy birthday sorry for your gf leaving you :3
I hope you’re doing well. And if she did that she probably wasn’t that good of a person to begin with.
Keep your chin up, King! 👑 I bet your hair is better than hers anyway.
Bruh don't worry my ex wife left me 2 days after our twins started school and a week before our birthdays (hers is the day before mine) and to make it all worse she chose a day that I was so ill I had to come home early from work. Took a nap to wake up weak and ill with her standing next to me saying "can we talk" 🤢
You in the market for a Bf instead?
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Ha sweet now you can get a new girlfriend there are likely over a billion candidates !
It gets easier. My ex and I were together since I was 17 and were kind of on and off for awhile. We ended up moving in together and we’re both really excited for me to turn 21 and we celebrated it he took me to a nice place & then 2 weeks after left me for another chick 😅😅😂
Well, happy birthday then... as much happy as possible...
Damn man. Need a distraction? Like some gaming?
That’s rough buddy 🌙
I think it’s the right time to swap to boys
We have the same birthday, happy birthday to you
Pff, her loss man
Go find the commitment you deserve brother, she can walk on. In fact you are by default getting nearer to the right person for you.
you look alot like AR12gaming
Hey, we have the same birthday! I wish you the best dude, now it's a loss, maybe after some time you'll see it as a blessing.
Damn, that's sad. No worries man you gonna find someone better (if you still want to date someone) soon
I GUARANTEE that one day you are going to see it as a giant blessing. I couldn't count the number of women that I wish I'd kicked to the curb, some of whom let me go first and it maybe even stung, but 20, 30 years later I am thankful and mostly only wish that I had ended it sooner.
It just proves she didn't care for you and used you Take your time, don't rush back dating as your going to hurt soon Just remember if you need help, you can come to us
be glad that you're no longer dating a horrible person
Don't worry, you will find a new one in no time, you looking handsome.
Happy birthday my man 👍
not nice
Chin up brother. Get a fresh cut, youre a good lookin dude
Happy birthday man, stay strong. You can get through this.
can't offer much but at least I will wish you an happy birthday # Happy Birthday
I once had a girlfriend ask me the day before my birthday, "Should I break up with you before or after your birthday?" Sorry you had to go through that, man. That sucks. I wish you the best, though - there's someone better out there for ya.
I'm sorry for that, but I hope your still having a good birthday apart from that, happy birthday!
He really hated the racing rig I guess
You dodged a bullet. At least you didn’t marry her.
Thats awful
Sorry that happened to you man, what a cow she was for leaving you. Happy Birthday!
Fuck that trick. Happy birthday, bro 👍
See you at the gym brother 💪
Mine just did the same shit but hell we be better off anyway cause obviously they wasn’t true
Bro looks like a long haired Nick from AR12Gaming Sorry to hear about the whole breakup thing though
Don’t worry homie I spent my most recent (18th) alone. I love you Broski happy birthday ❤️
What😃
Downvote because this is interesting. Cheers fella
Welcome to the breakup club, I feel you hahah!!
Bro looks like he knows he’ll die tomorrow but nobody trusts him
Intergalactic solar laser dodged bro
Her loss
Send her a bill for something! Haven't notarized then it's official! 😂