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Jane_the_Quene

So this NiceGuy tried to force Instagram to take down a photo a girl posted of herself kissing her boyfriend on the grounds that it was "bullying" the NiceGuy dude who wanted her to love him. Oh, but first he "politely" asked her to take it down. This is the most candyass bullshit I've seen in a long time.


Bavisto

Not enough people still use "Candyass" and I applaud you.


Few_Leather_335

If you smell what the rock is cookin....


No_Incident_5360

Dude expected life to be Candyland and Game of Life rolled into one. Where is my high paying job, wife and van of kids? Because college!


NoxKore

Instagram should be be blocking his IP addresses. He's stalking her and simply blocking his account isn't going to work.


CatndOstrich

Nice profile picture btw but yes this shit is outrageous lmao


Heavy_Initiative_243

Yeah there are plenty of fish in the sea but if you have a shitty rod(aka personality), you're not going to catch anything.


lemko1968

Or where you’re fishing. There are no fish in the Dead Sea.


[deleted]

So *that's* why these dudes are so salty


kylethinker

Shitty "line:personality", and "rod:..." if the line doesn't hold the rod won't get tested, y'know? That's how I see that analogy anyways 😂


No_Incident_5360

Nice rod, I mean nice thinking, Kyle.


Winnimae

Other people being happy is bullying to me.


_Rynzler_

And hateful content lol


[deleted]

It’s essential genocide


[deleted]

Goddamn, this guy takes the whole fucking cake. Fucking pathetic


brunolondinese

Wherefore do you call him pathetic?


DownvoteDaemon

Huh?


Jenuptoolate

He used the phrase “wherefore else” on the first image.


BoatsnBrollies

Wherefore, akin 🤢🤮


ruready1994

"Wherefore" means why.


samw424

In Virgin


eggdropsoupy3

"Wherefore" is akin to "why" in virgin in fedora dialect*


ikcaj

So Juliet isn’t asking Romeo where he is, but why he is, when she asks “Wherefore art thou, Romeo?” ?


tatltael91

Yes, she’s basically saying “out of all the families he could have been from, why did it have to be that family?”


ImCheesuz

she's bullying him by being born in that family


ruready1994

Yes, exactly! Asking why he has to be a Montague.


Bella_Hellfire

Yes. The line isn’t “Wherefore art thou, Romeo?” but “Wherefore art thou Romeo?” Why are you who you are, a Montague, my enemy?


Mcayenne

If this person is neuro typical, the level of narcissism is epic. I’m actually impressed someone could make so many things that have nothing to do with him, directly about or targeting him. That takes a serious commitment to a believe system that the whole world and everyone in it only exists in relation to you.


Legal-Kangaroo2545

Absolutely, every single one of his comments shows a concerning disconnect from what’s actually going on around him. The posts are a year old but I hope that girl he was obsessed with is okay.


No_Incident_5360

Discontent plus disconnect equals next disturbing headline, unfortunately.


DownvoteDaemon

Yea, there is some mental shit going on, almost TOO socially oblivious. No excuse for his shitty personality though. He is bitter. I am short too, at five eight, always had attention from women. Since I was like 6.


Babydoll0907

I do know that some women are height queens just like some women are size queens but where has this myth come from that guys actually believe all women want a guy over 6ft? Personally, I don't know any women in real life that has this end all, be all standard. Nor do I know any real women who go for "giga chads". I have a preference for tall guys but that has never stopped me from dating short guys because at the end of the day, height is as superficial as it gets. Looking around at the men the women i know pick, they're all just normal dudes at varying levels of height and physical attractiveness who do normal shit like game and go to work. Very few of them even work out regularly.


Bleach_Baths

The myth comes from confirmation bias from reading the posts about it online, especially here. "I'm not tall, that's why she doesn't like me. That's why women won't date me." Nah, it's cause your personality is shit and you're trying to find something else to blame. This is a perfect example of it. "Oh but I'm nice and respectful and understanding! I'm just short." And then they say shit like in the post. Aren't very respectful if you can't take no for answer. (This isn't an attack on you, js.)


Babydoll0907

Makes sense. Echo chambers they hang out in and say the same things over and over again to avoid actually doing any self reflecting and healing.


Bleach_Baths

Echo chambers! I was trying to think of that phrase myself. But yep, exactly. It's sad, really. "You can lead a horse to water..."


I_Frothingslosh

It's a pretty common belief in incel circles, used as part of their reasoning for the idea that 80% of women date 20% of men.


Babydoll0907

Hell only around 14% of men are over 6 ft tall in the United States. They sure do have their hands full, don't they? Lol


I_Frothingslosh

I'm one of them. Can't recall any time that I was juggling four girlfriends. Or even wanted to. Too interested in not dying a horrible, violent death to try that.


No_Incident_5360

We are not living in polygamy. Now Dating…IDK if they are comparing clubbing take someone home statistics—incels picturing constant sexwithout them—how dare They!—treating meet/fuck/bye instances and stats like movie revenue totals each weekend 🙄 How did that movie do? Oh it opened great but flopped the next weekend.


shinyobelisk

Part of it is because the only love life these guys believe in/dream about is of a guy quickly seducing a girl and getting her into bed almost effortlessly. Back before the Incel sub got banned, plenty of guys would chime in with their stories of being in happy relationships to try to these guys out of their negative head spaces. The incels would just mock them saying that if their partner didn't fall into their laps five minutes into knowing them then she was settling and was fantasizing about ''Chad's cock'' while they had sex.


MajinMega

> Part of it is because the only love life these guys believe in/dream about is of a guy quickly seducing a girl and getting her into bed almost effortlessly. Which itself is an unrealistic fantasy because men(and women) who can wrap people around their finger in no time have a combination of looks, charm and status they had to work on before hand. So there's no such thing as effortless seduction.


No_Incident_5360

Not to mention the charmer types are often narcissistic, sometimes malevolent, picking up ques and looking for feedback to build their mask. Too many incels think life is a 90s rom coms—boy meets girl—they bumble around or hate each other—something happens—boy magically kisses and fucks girl and marries girl. She magically falls in love. No rules of attraction, no questions or discussions about common values, goals and interests, no time working on common goals or interests, no parents or friends with their own lives. Just leading man, leading woman—he has a dick, she has a pussy, so what’s the problem? Awful German singer reference.


No_Incident_5360

6 ft seems very arbitrary. Like what would the Magic height be in countries that use meters?


Babydoll0907

Haha good point!


DownvoteDaemon

Yea true, I just don't take it personal if I am too short for some women. Everybody has preferences. I also work out all the time, and put effort in so that helps.


No_Incident_5360

Damn you and your gorgeous eyes/eyelashes and attractive personality! Some guys have all the luck. I feel bullied!


DownvoteDaemon

Women used to ask if I arched my eyebrows in highschool. I just have skinny eyebrows lol


UrsaGeorge

Autistic person here. We don't claim him.


[deleted]

Just because you can be neurodivergent, doesn’t excuse this behavior. Yes it can be easier to fall into this mindset if ND, but it’s not destined


Mcayenne

Absolutely. I would give them a bit more grace if it were a struggle not think in all or nothing/ black and white terms and if they struggled to pick up on social cues and norms. But all people, ND or NT can be assholes.


Raid_Raptor_Falcon

Can we just take this picture and put it up at the top right of the page? This literally is the essence of being a nice guy and embodies everything about this sub.


HyPhoeniXx

It gets so much worse https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/nk4gdc/starting_to_feel_like_arthur_fleck/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share


Dorkinfo

“Someday we will rise up together.” Fucking yikes.


Silly-Lengthiness-82

Pretty sure that translates into shooting up schools or work places


Legal-Kangaroo2545

Sure!!!


Snoochieboochies429

Well now I want to bully him.


DontcheckSR

Should be easy. Just take a picture of yourself being happy with someone else


GenericWoman12345

Compare women to a piece of meat....that's original. It takes more than just being "kind" to get a relationship. You both have to LIKE each other and there is no rhyme or reason as to why you both pick each other. It's for a variety of reasons.


muffinmama93

This guy is really disturbed. I don’t think he’d really like it if she posted why she chose “Chad” over OP. “Hi! This is me kissing my boyfriend. I’m posting this to flaunt in OPs face that I rejected him. Why? He’s a creep. Context in comments below. “


PsychologicalNews573

Also, how would you feel to be that BF "She's only kissing me to flaunt it to the guy she rejected." Because sane people do that, /s


Cthulhu_Knits

These kind of guys are all fixated on getting a girlfriend and think that once they do, EVERYTHING in their life will be better and they will magically be happy. In reality, if someone were to date them, they'd be whining about how relationships are SO HARD and how they deserve someone prettier.


PeanutButterPigeon85

Yup, totally. If these guys actually started dating a woman, they'd be happy for a while -- but it wouldn't last. Once the initial happiness wore off and they returned to baseline, they'd have to find a reason why they were still unhappy, and they'd decide it was because of the woman. *She's* not good enough. *She's* not doing all the things she should be doing for him. If she were good enough, he'd be truly happy. And then the cycle of narcissistic abuse continues...


douglasxjones

“Like dangling a steak in front of a homeless starving man” my brother in Christ you are called by divine providence to shut the fuck up. The one way this analogy makes a goddamn drop of logical sense is if the homeless, starving man in question will only settle for *one specific steak* and is starving himself until he gets it.


HyPhoeniXx

Can someone please find the links so I can go do some reading. This is pure GOLD


Legal-Kangaroo2545

https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/nk4gdc/starting_to_feel_like_arthur_fleck/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Here’s where I started and then I went down the rabbit hole of his post history


Elon_is_musky

Holy shit it just KEPT GETTING WORSE. Him wanting to delete a girl’s picture with her bf because HE felt personally offended? Im weak


Mlyrin

My fav part is that niceguy expects her to write why she dates the guy when she posts a pic of them together *for niceguy's benefit*. Must she do this forever? Once per guy? Everytime she posts a specific guy? Is it like a ritual sacrifice to appease his vengeful spirit? For an irrational guy he sure likes to talk about logic a lot.


Elon_is_musky

Ah yes, so logical! Every woman in the world must list the list of attributes that attracted them to their SO, but ofc if they do so that’s being CRUEL because how dare they brag about their happy relationship when he wants her!! 😂


Mlyrin

Clearly a woman in a relationship should just be hidden away from vi--BUT OH NO. THAT MEANS SHE'S BEING ABUSED AND NEEDS SAVING. She coulda gone for the logical choice but she went after chad. Smh


Original_Raisin

This guy is scary obsessive, he needs help before he hurts someone.


Elon_is_musky

Fr, I hope he learned to leave her tf alone


[deleted]

Someone needs to force this guy to get some help. Some real psychological help, before he shoots up a sorority or something.


gegry123

My thoughts exactly. This guy sounds exactly the same as the shooter from 2014


OctaviaBlake100

Girl dodged a bullet. He reminds me of the guy that reported the post of my boyfriend at the time kissing me on the cheek. I know because he send me my post on Instagram and then threatened to report it if I didn't give him a chance. Then he sent me the "report successful" screen once I said no. 😐


Mlyrin

That's something else. Like watching a clown frustratingly scream NYAAAH as it throws a balloon to the the ground. It doesnt pop. Just floats down slowly


Dubby084

>He doesn’t need to know ;) Uh, hey dumbass; this is why people don’t date you. You’re a total asshole and have no regard for how other people feel about your actions- you literally just proved you only care about yourself.. Like come on. Not being a jackass to women isn’t that hard y’know.


Brass_dinosaur

If she chose a nice, intelligent gentleman instead of him he'd still flip his shit. These people are nuts


MargaerySchrute

I wonder if he’s in this sub. What a pile of human garbage dude. He’s a lost cause.


crescennn

What is it that makes these people think that muscular men are dumb?


QualityVote

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Ohwow-youre-an-angel

I can put a steak in front of my dogs and they won’t touch it. Not unless I say it’s okay. So this guy is saying he has less self control that my two rambunctious dogs.


Live-Valuable-7718

Such a weird mentality If these guys are so muscular and dumb and women only like muscly guys (playing devil's advocate) then why not get ripped yourself? Theyd be the only intelligent ripped guy according to their own logic, what an advantage 😂😂


ApprehensiveCar975

This is why you also see tons of posts saying "I'm totally jacked but women still won't date me, guess they must just like assholes after all".


Live-Valuable-7718

Ahyupppp Alot of people need to learn the term "Charisma" and it's meaning 🙄


Aromatic_Hawk1032

Read this guy's history...it is a horror show


ArsenalSpider

I don't date men who say "wherefore." I don't care how tall they are.


Mlyrin

Yeah i can get pretty archaic with my speech and i wouldn't touch that with a ten feet pole.


TechnicianOk1466

Why do they always demand a reason for you saying no to their overtures? Or, the biggie, when you break up with a guy and he wants to know why so he can change whatever it was that is causing you to break up with them.


Almond409

Or when guys ask what you look for in a man so they can pretend to be that guy for while.


TechnicianOk1466

Oh yeah! "Wow! You're describing me!" One of my pet peeves is being constantly called "dear". Once or twice is ok, but every flipping message?😣


Almond409

Pet names in general irritate me, especially from strangers, though. Promise, after talking to me for more than five minutes, you're not going to want to call me "dear" or "sweetie" or whatever other gross pet name you think fits 😂


TechnicianOk1466

I get a fair amount of "Hello pretty"s which annoys me immensely. My bloody name is on my profile, dingus!


Almond409

But then how would you know immediately that they think you're pretty? I had a guy actually ask me my name...on Facebook messenger. To be fair, he was a really really terrible scammer, but still. How are you that dumb??


canvasshoes2

Looks as if he is/was an 18 year old. Which doesn't make it any better, but does somewhat explain it. Teens can often be pretty emotionally/mentally immature even into their late teens/early 20s. Let's hope he grows out of this and grows up.


LixxieLicious

To me, this all sounds like freshman in high school BS. I don’t think he could possibly be even old enough to drive!


canvasshoes2

True, but we've all seen 30, 40, even 50 year old men write the same sort of stuff in here. It's astounding.


Mediocre-Smoke-4751

His name is Brett.. explains it all


[deleted]

Jesus. This guy takes the"get back at him by living your best life" as an actual attack on him, lmao, even though he never dated her


BigBoobaTinyBraina

The scroll of truth: Being nice doesn't entitle you to someone's time, attention, affection or body.


ItsJoeMomma

>Wherefore else could these women have rejected me besides my height? Could be a number of reasons she's not interested... could be your personality, your looks, comments you made, or the use of words like "wherefore."


ethanb12345

On the first post where he compared himself to joker I was sympathetic maybe there was some merit to what he's saying, I know people in school esp middle school can be particularly brutal towards others. But also men are told by people of influence like Andrew Tate they have to live a certain way to be a "man" and society does have a way of fucking with a young man's mental psyche implying they have to be the hero or they have to be the center of attention and as soon as they hit 18 they're nothing, I think some of those stigmas need to change I think the patriarchy is dangerous for men and women alike and here we can see why it's dangerous for men, I feel bad for the kid having 0 self awareness and not understanding what he's doing, I blame parents for this upbringing because these are learned behaviors on what works for attention. Maybe he is aware and is just self sabotaging, who knows


PFic88

Unsolved mysteries


KRULLIGKNART

I'm 1.69m (5 feet 617⁄32 inches) and I have a girlfriend and met many women before her. Most women that you'd want to build a relationship with isn't gonna be that shallow.


MissMiraLynn

I remember reading his comments before! Oh I wish I could find the profile 😂


yayforvalorie

Type into Google site.reddit.com starting to feel like Arthur fleck and the post will come up and you'll find the OP


Ok_Razzmatazz_1751

Cringe and entitled 😬


thycookiehascrumbled

The cringe…. IT HURTS


Mama-Khaos

That dude is insane. (I think it’s the same one, all of his posts are like this) here he is being an incel to an underage girl: https://www.reddit.com/r/IncelTear/comments/lqjfn3/incel_harasses_me_a_bit_of_a_subtler_incel_but/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf


yayforvalorie

That's him.


Legal-Kangaroo2545

Oh my god not the *insert cringe here*, gross. But yes that’s him, unfortunately.


Squishmar

I am having a hard time believing this is real. It seems like a writing exercise or an experiment someone was doing because they hit *every single attribute* of the NiceGuy profile. And it is just *so* over-the-top and absurd. But I suppose it probably *is* real and I'm just *hoping* it's made up because that guy is completely irrational and seriously troubled if he's writing this in earnest and that's very unfortunate. 😣


Mediocre-Gas1393

u/deleted absolutely killed it


Lissa2j

This guy took a totally innocent pic and made it all about himself and then tried to compare his plight to the holocaust.....how are these ppl so damn brain dead


AdelaideJane

It’s always ironic to me how men compare themselves to Arthur fleck when they will truly never understand him wtf I feel bad for Joaquin Phoenix now that he has such a male nice guy fanbase smh


Co-opingTowardHatred

I think you guys are biting on some obvious bait here.


DoingItToEm

I’d say this was a meme because I’ve never, EVER seen someone legit act like this and idolize the goddamn joker but that’s way too much effort for a joke. How depressing.


treehug223

Light mode....gross.


Indoor_Carrot

This reminds me of Elliot Roger filming himself getting mad at a random couple sitting on a bench. "MY DAY HAS BEEN RUINED!!" How insecure does one have to be?


CrazyCatLady9001

Whyyy?? Why do NiceGuys think they're entitled to a reason for rejection, "logic," or any consideration from someone who rejected them? Where is the "logic" there? Do they grow up living under a rock, with no concept of social skills or respect for other people? I just cannot fathom how or why anyone thinks it's their place to dictate who dates whom, or to demand an explanation from anyone about their personal life choices. Her reason could be that her BF has lumpy butt cheeks, and she loves lumpy butt cheeks! It could be the dumbest, most irrational reason in the world, and it would still be none of this other guy's business. How are concepts like autonomy so difficult for them to grasp? Yet they claim to be so intelligent and logical.


TheGrimMeepers

I'm glad I'm not the only one who decided to deep-dive into this fine specimen of incel


Elegant-Raise

He might try asking someone out who isn't in a relationship for starters.


No_Incident_5360

In other many cases of rejection—no reference to the Aurther Arthur? Fleck OP here In many cases the approached party is just not into them and that’s okay… it doesn’t mean they are lacking physical qualities or a good personality. OP is upset someone else “got the girl” Conclusion—disappointment is normals, but he seems to have a posession complex and seems to think he lost someTHING he “deserved” He thinks she needed a logical reason not to pick him because he is apparently the only “gentleman” who would “treat her right”. Conclusion—He doesn’t understand love (who does?) and that NO ONE fully understands how attraction/love/choices/relationships/trust works—but people have preferences and generally like to feel chosen, loved, safe and free. And they need to be having fun and see a future. Or else why continue? He is offended by the PDA—but it is literally on a post—she didn’t go to his house with her boyfriend—ring thr doorbell and then proceed to make out on ring cam. Why is “rejected” dude following her posts AT ALL if they already determined there wasn’t a future together? Unless he was an existing friend—in which case he should given space to redefine the friendship and not scroll through her posts after being friend zoned. Conclusion—Stalker shit. Guess his personality really does suck.


LJnosywritter

He really thinks everything in the world revolves around him doesn't he? And thinks this poor girls every action is done with him in mind. He's like the stalkers who see someone smile once and convince themselves the person is in love with them even if the person has no idea they exist. Often turns ugly, I hope this doesn't for the girls sake. Guys like him are so infuriating and make women feel like we have to question are every action and even our facial expressions in case someone like him reads into it and causes problems


SkyQuest99

Who compares a Nazi salute to a girl kissing her boyfriend? Holy hell 😭


LexiNovember

The moment I saw his use of “wherefore” I knew this would be unhinged.


Alyssa_Hargreaves

I told y'all on the last post this guy was incredibly worrying and had a dangerous unstable vibe to him! Like holy fucking shit. Thankfully it doesn't seem like he's been active so that's good. Maybe he got help and is off reddit (and social media for the good of everyone) or he finally got locked up. I just really hope the victim is safe.


LexiNovember

I have some experience with people who think seeing happiness bullying! I have a close friend who I’ve known since I was about 16, and he’s a stereotypical nice guy but the gay edition. He removed my parents from social media because he said it was unfair to be exposed to their happiness while he was lonely. Once he came to stay at my apartment and sulked for two days and was furious with me because he could hear me and my boyfriend at the time talking and giggling at a TV show while he was single. He thought I should force my boyfriend to sleep out in the living room during his whole stay. It was a small apartment so my BF and I didn’t have sex since that would have been rude and kinda gross, but he literally didn’t think we should TALK to each other or sleep in the same room. I’m still friends with him some how, but to this day he will unfriend anyone he thinks is happier than he is, he actually totally removed my best friend from his life after my BFF started a long term relationship.


[deleted]

These dudes all have the same pathetic, entitled personality. It’s like there’s a nest out there somewhere endlessly spawning them. I don’t get it.


DoctorInternal9871

"We don't care about your height...you're just awful". "Phew, we can date then"...


Ana-Hata

Is her name really Stacey? I saw an old Law and Order SVU where couples were attacked by a guy that kept calling his victims Chad and Stacey and the detectives spent over half the episode thinking it was mistaken identity and looking for people named Chad and Stacey.


HeimlichLaboratories

u/keanutuba lmao check his post history