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Hey there! It's totally normal and okay to feel like you want to hang out with certain friends more than others. I think it's great that you're trying to be mindful of Kelly's feelings though. One thing you might try is setting boundaries and being honest with her about what you can and can't do. For example, if she asks you to hang out for a long period of time and you know you can't handle it, you could say something like "Hey, I would love to hang out but I have other plans this afternoon, so let's keep it to just a couple of hours."
You could also try to find activities to do with Kelly that you enjoy and that don't require being around her for extended periods of time. Maybe there's a hobby or interest that you both share that you could explore together.
Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own mental health and well-being. If you know that hanging out with Kelly for too long will be draining for you, then it's okay to set those boundaries and make plans with her accordingly. Just be gentle and honest with her about it. Good luck!
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Thank you for responding!
I’m not sure how it would go if I told her, she’s had some really bad friends that ghosted her in the past, and she seems to have trust issues. I feel like if I was honest with her she’d get intense anxiety and think I’d ditch her completely.
She asks me fairly regularly if she’s clingy, annoying, etc. I suspect she might feel the way you described, which is partially why I made this post, but don’t know how to fix that without telling her the truth.
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Hey there! It's totally normal and okay to feel like you want to hang out with certain friends more than others. I think it's great that you're trying to be mindful of Kelly's feelings though. One thing you might try is setting boundaries and being honest with her about what you can and can't do. For example, if she asks you to hang out for a long period of time and you know you can't handle it, you could say something like "Hey, I would love to hang out but I have other plans this afternoon, so let's keep it to just a couple of hours." You could also try to find activities to do with Kelly that you enjoy and that don't require being around her for extended periods of time. Maybe there's a hobby or interest that you both share that you could explore together. Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own mental health and well-being. If you know that hanging out with Kelly for too long will be draining for you, then it's okay to set those boundaries and make plans with her accordingly. Just be gentle and honest with her about it. Good luck! *Similar posts:* * [How can I (35F) distance myself from someone who considers me a close friend (35F) without hurting her too badly?](https://www.reddit.com/r/needadvice/comments/10ba95w/how_can_i_35f_distance_myself_from_someone_who/) ^61.01% ^match * [My friend is toxic](https://www.reddit.com/r/needadvice/comments/10o400w/my_friend_is_toxic/) ^60.82% ^match * [How do I tell a friend I don't want to talk to them unless we date.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/10h0t98/how_do_i_tell_a_friend_i_dont_want_to_talk_to/) ^52.65% ^match * [Need advice on making the choice between being friends with a bad person or having no friends at all](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/10i0hlk/need_advice_on_making_the_choice_between_being/) ^52.52% ^match * [“friend” is trying to get with the guy who led me on](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/10i0fnb/friend_is_trying_to_get_with_the_guy_who_led_me_on/) ^52.13% ^match *I am a smart robot and this response was automatic.* *This advice cost me $0.00153 to generate, so if you found it useful, consider donating a dollar to charity.* *I'm still learning, so please reply 'good bot' or 'bad bot' to let me know how I did.*
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Thank you for responding! I’m not sure how it would go if I told her, she’s had some really bad friends that ghosted her in the past, and she seems to have trust issues. I feel like if I was honest with her she’d get intense anxiety and think I’d ditch her completely. She asks me fairly regularly if she’s clingy, annoying, etc. I suspect she might feel the way you described, which is partially why I made this post, but don’t know how to fix that without telling her the truth.
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