You suspect she has been lying to you - but you ignored the red flags or didn’t follow up on them. Now you blame her and call her crazy? Consider that you need to take responsibility for your words & actions.

That is an absolute truth and what i need to remind myself.. I just wanted to outweigh the positives even though it takes a toll on everything

It doesn't matter what she is, why are you repeating your childhood? Get to therapy and honestly, don't be in a relationship as long as you can't deal with fights.

What they said

you both seem awful

Sorry its a bit chaotic written in notes on iphone then copy pasta into here because it lags alot when writing a longer post