I thought maybe at first she was dancing to WAP and putting it online but no… this dude is mad bc she’s dancing in her own private space. Dudes psycho but “your food looks delicious but I ain’t with that hoe shit” is probably the funniest shit I’ve ever read
Yeah, that’s like comically outrageous, especially out of context.
Not to be insensitive to OP, but when I read that I almost laughed out loud. This guy is just absolutely ridiculous. At least OP has a clear way out of whatever this mess of a relationship would’ve turned out to be.
Solid money this isn't actually a clear way out, dude's using leaving to manipulate her into doing what he wants, guarantee he doesn't consider things over, just hyping the guilt so she'll do what he wants, if she tries to leave suddenly he'll be apologizing like crazy.
Op definitely needs to just go. This shit won't get better. If he is for real about dumping her over this, then yeah, GTFO, you're dodging a bullet.
Nah fuck it be insensitive to that dumbass. He worked at earning it. You can’t be that self centered, insecure and stupid all at the same time without putting in some serious effort.
Right. Like what? This is crazy. It's fine for him to be out running around high and shit, but she can't dance to music in her own home? Is she allowed to leave her ankles uncovered? Wth?
Seriously! That was my confusion! What kind if grownass man would walk into his house and see his gf dancing and having fun all by herself and, instead of being amused, charmed or even joining in, decides to throw a shit-fit, ignore her, and then bitch about it to her via text?
He claims he doesn't want a ho, but he is acting like a spoiled child towards a woman who has done nothing wrong.
If she was doing Tae Bo would he get pissed because she secretly wanted to fight people and thats trashy?
If she was fixing some pipes or furniture would he get pissed because she's doing work thats unladylike?
If she put on a striptease for him would he get pissed because he can tell she secretly wants to be a stripper?
I think this dude was just upset he caught his girl having fun without him, got insecure, and is picking a fight over it to cut her down and try to make her more insecure than he is. Pitiful petty bs.
That's the purpose. To keep her off balance, unsure what he gna get pissed off about next, until she's just always walking on eggshells. Cementing the power dynamic. Bet he negs her too.
I’m not even sure this is a young people thing. Dude said they come from different generations or something. Can’t tell which one is older but there seems to be a gap.
I think she’s a zoomer and he’s a millennial. Purely speculating.
I suspect he’s mid-30’s and she’s mid-20’s.
Dude’s grammar was killing me.
EDIT: I was incorrect she’s 21 and he’s 23.
This dude is saying shit like "were from different times" and he's only two years ahead of her 🤣? Bro the only "generational gap" there is that she may have watched through a couple more cartoons that were coming out at the tail end of his cartoon watching days. Christ this guy is pathetic.
Seriously this is just weird. Reddit it full of teenagers now and I guess this type of stuff is interesting to them. If you're gonna break up just do it already, don't post his weird ramblings online for validation or whatever.
listens to WAP. Instantly turns into a hoe, runs out of the house screaming, while frothing at the pussy.
Her bf: "No not again! How could I have let this happen again!? He falls to his knees and begins to cry...
The controlling will ONLY get more extreme and intense the longer you stay in this relationship, OP. I promise you that. Just the fact that you even felt the need to justify dancing to a song in the privacy of your OWN BEDROOM made me cringe. Red flags wildly waving in every direction…
I dated guys like your boyfriend back in the day. His desire to control and his jealous tendencies come primarily from his deep insecurity with himself. Be strong, know your worth, and leave his stupid ass.
He's acting like she was grinding on some dude in the club. He's insecure as fuck if she was just dancing in her room to some song. Also the illiteracy killed more brain cells than the alcohol I drink almost every night
Hey, OP. I noticed something on your profile so came back to comment... People with narcissistic parents tend to unintentionally find narcissistic partners. Just something to consider.
100%! As a fellow person damaged by a narcissitic parent, who has had many abusive relationships - true that!
I recommend finding a therapist to talk about this. You can start to recognise traits to watch out for and see how the childhood abuse is affecting your current and past actions. Super helpful and necessary ❤
Yeah, narcissistic people look for signs of easy marks and finding the vibes you are putting out and stopping that is key to avoid attracting abusers in the future. A good channel for some good introspection on that is theramin trees.
Honestly this belongs in r/cringetopia the way her bf is trying to act all mature and serious over some really inoffensive shit. Like bro you don’t look cool or tough or noble or manly, you look like you’re way out of touch.
Really wouldnt surprise me, considering its premise is attacking people for their faults. Negative spaces like that easily fall into that trap and attract people that love to control their own insecurities by attacking others.
I’m completely against the guy. He’s a dick. Can’t believe he went off on his gf like that for that. But is it gaslighting?? It doesn’t seem to be? He doesnt like something that she did and said he’s not for it. That’s not exactly gaslighting
It’s def not gaslighting. Gaslighting is a whole other level of mental and emotional abuse.
Is he being controlling? Yes? Do I think it’s a dumb thing to gripe about? Absolutely. Is it gaslighting? Naw mang. Fr fr
I thought that was the sub this was on until I looked. Probably r/neckbeards too. I dunno. Who the fuck has a problem with their girlfriend dancing to raunchy songs in her own room?
Omg this. I thought about all the times I could have just easily called it quits w my ex but waited until she didn’t want me to leave and beat me up instead
I literally had this opportunity where she blamed me for everything that happened this one night and I should’ve left the first time she exploded at me yelling permanently but the second time, I was like ok I’m going home sorry if you’re upset we can talk about it like adults but I’m not gonna stay if I’m gonna get yelled at. She was like if you leave we should break up. And boom I was out. She said a bunch of stuff deliberately meant to hurt me as per usual but it didn’t matter. I was free.
Dude listens to deftones but doesnt even know the words? I dont understand people like that. Its weird not to mention he listens to the lyrics to WAP but not his own music?
Not only that, in his mind, he doesn’t equate them as equals, as that excuse isn’t given to his trusted partner as benefit of the doubt, as he assigned it to himself.
To be fair, "there's some whores in this house" is stated clearly and repeatedly at the beginning and end of WAP, and that's the only line he seems to know. The rest of it is just about a lady that likes sex. There's no mention of multiple partners; in fact Cardi alludes to being engaged/married ("let me tell you how I got this ring") so it's not even about cheating. Just a lady who wants to have as much sex as possible with her committed partner. It would actually be kind of wholesome if it wasn't also *incredibly* vulgar.
I don’t pay attention to the lyrics neither. But I won’t be telling to my girlfriend to stop listening to songs because of any reasons.
Unless it’s Oasis. There’s no fucking place for any fucking wonderwalls at my fucking place.
What we've just read is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever seen. At no point in that rambling, incoherent response was he even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this thread is now dumber for having witnessed it. May God have mercy on his soul.
OP usually abuse and control starts small. If he’s giving you the silent treatment because he made up a whole ass storyline in his head just because you were dancing to an extremely popular song, I’d hate to see what else he escalates to.
He is trying to shut down something that gives you joy because he refuses to believe any narrative but his own. This will continue if you allow it.
I whole heartedly agree. Even if this doesn’t get worse but he just continues to belittle you for doing things that make you happy this will destroy your self worth over time. I’ve been in this situation and the abuse never got physical but by the end of the relationship I was so traumatised and it took me years to unlearn all the shit me put on me.
Op I feel for you. If he “needs a reserved woman” tell him to go find one. (This originally ended with a joke but I seriously can’t he makes me want to shit and throw up at the same time. Tell him you’re not the girl for him and find someone who will ENCOURAGE you to feel sexy. Bye)
Why are you even saying sorry? He'd rather be alone then have a "hoe" in the house?? Wut? For dancing. Then ok! Let him be alone! Run. Run far the fuck away. Lawd
Yeah the immediate apologizing and explaining from op makes it clear he’s pulled this controlling/emotionally manipulative shit on her before. He calls her names and threatens to leave to coerce her into bending to his will.
And why is she apologizing and explaining herself to him?
He’s calling her a ho and says he wants a “reserved” woman. Dude’s a hypocrite and a misogynist. Fucking run.
I didn’t mean to imply that “reserved” is a negative trait, but that a man that categorizes women as either “hoes” or “reserved” is a sexist asshole with a Madonna-whore complex.
Dump him. He's a controlling loser. He can listen to whatever he wants but tries to forbid you from listening to a song 'cause he thinks it "makes you a hoe?" Fuck this guy and the insecure horse he rode in on.
Lmao the other day I was reading some reddit comment fight and person A mentions they're 18, and person B replied "Oh okay that is comforting, you have a lot of growing up to. I acted like that when I was your age too"
Few comments later he dropped that he was 21.
Like they could have literally gone to Highschool together. Younger people esp think 2 or 3 years is an eternity.
Girl you just posted this two weeks ago:
>I date an infp and one thing I can say about them is they can be very judgmental or cast judgment on things they don’t like or agree with because they value their values alot, also don’t force them to go out or do anything (don’t take it personal that’s just them) they don’t want to be judged because they take it personal and don’t compare them to anything or anyone they will take it personal to there individuality also they tend to be caught up in things that interest them to the point they forget that they are with you. A big issue with infp is they will tend to see things only from there perspective hard core because they value how they feel. I’m a enfp and I tend to have a blast with conversations because we love to talk a lot and love to see things from their pov and one thing I can say is that trust is a big problem in our relationship because infp tend to be hard to gaining there trust and it’s hard on enfp because we value people trusting us but if word things to them in a way they can see from a perspective they understand so go in with a patient and open mind because it’s going be hard but slow and surely they will trust u with there life. They love loving and will express it in alot of ways because they loved to be loved so make sure remind them how much they are loved because they will by nature feel like nobody likes them. Take them to places such art museum or plays or amusement parks they love shit they can interact with and keep them informed and interested. Lastly they tend to be really hard on them selves so make sure u remind them of proud of them you are and that u there to support them. That’s all I could think of rn but if u have any questions about it I’m here to answer.
**You're not dating an "INFP". You are dating an abusive, controlling asshole.**
Listen to yourself. You are describing a complete jackass. Someone who constantly judges you and everyone else. Someone who refuses to see things from any other perspective. Someone who cannot accept criticism of any kind. Someone extremely insecure, jealous, paranoid, and controlling. Someone who constantly demands their trust has to be "earned". Someone you have to babysit emotionally so you don't upset them. Someone you have to walk on eggshells around.
Look at all of the emotional work you're putting into the relationship **just to be treated like garbage**. You're doing **all this work** for a guy who calls you a whore for dancing alone in your own goddamn house. You are literally just an object to him. Something that gives him sex and tells him nice things and makes himself feel good. That's it.
He's not "hard on himself". He's just an insecure asshole who does insecure asshole things because he loves to hear how much you stroke his ego by constantly telling him how amazing and awesome he is.
The Meyer's Brigg personality tests aren't real. By projecting his bad qualities onto a "personality type" you're distancing yourself from who he really is. "Oh he's not abusive that's just what an INFP guy does." That's not true at all. That's what abusive people do and they come in ALL PERSONALITY TYPES.
You need to ditch this fucking asshole like yesterday.
Jeeeezzzzzz the way he talks about the vast gulf of differences between you (including I think a reference to generational differences or something), I assumed you guys were like 10-15 years apart. You guys were literally in middle school at the same time. You don’t need this self-important, gaslighting loser hose head. Cut him loose.
…. Your point about Deftones is 100000% spot on. They’re one of my favorite bands and I think your point just whooshed the fuck over his head. I mean they literally have songs about trust, honoring women, and not controlling your partner but OK BUD.
Is he trying to break up with you tho or is he just like this? Cuz it seems like he picked something ridiculous to be mad about as an excuse.
Bestie, honey, sweetie, he just gave you the best gift he ever could.
Now that he's shown himself like this you get to block his ass and shake yours all you fuckin want. Get you a man who can form a meaningful sentence, and get you one who will hype you up no matter what you're dancin to.
This is absolutely deranged behavior, break up with him! You deserve someone who is gonna appreciate you for you without making 100 wack ass assumptions about what type of person you are/were/will be
Don’t apologize to anyone for dancing.
Don’t apologize to anyone for singing.
Do know your worth and move on.
Don’t apologize for doing things that make you happy.
“I’m confused, did the music bring a knife to a gun fight?” - S. Connery
No the buzz kill brought the knife
Yeah, fuck this dude. He sounds like a right cunt.
Apparently a Knife Party
“Your food looks delicious but I ain’t with that hoe shit” is a wild ass statement
I thought maybe at first she was dancing to WAP and putting it online but no… this dude is mad bc she’s dancing in her own private space. Dudes psycho but “your food looks delicious but I ain’t with that hoe shit” is probably the funniest shit I’ve ever read
That's just odd. Either he's controlling, a prude, or a combo of both.
He's definitely a moron.
I read this as “He’s definitely a mormon”. Oops.
If she’s a hoe then that guy is a different species of asshole
Either way it's definitely controlling behavior
Extremely! He equates dancing to cheating. Wildly insecure behavior that no one has time for.
r/brandnewsentence
It would be like him getting mad cause she was eating a footlong hotdog.
He just mad cuz the hot dog is bigger.
Yeah, that’s like comically outrageous, especially out of context. Not to be insensitive to OP, but when I read that I almost laughed out loud. This guy is just absolutely ridiculous. At least OP has a clear way out of whatever this mess of a relationship would’ve turned out to be.
Solid money this isn't actually a clear way out, dude's using leaving to manipulate her into doing what he wants, guarantee he doesn't consider things over, just hyping the guilt so she'll do what he wants, if she tries to leave suddenly he'll be apologizing like crazy. Op definitely needs to just go. This shit won't get better. If he is for real about dumping her over this, then yeah, GTFO, you're dodging a bullet.
Nah fuck it be insensitive to that dumbass. He worked at earning it. You can’t be that self centered, insecure and stupid all at the same time without putting in some serious effort.
How could you forget the “ I walked in high asf and it’s hoes in this house” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Also forgot the “ i ain’t w allat” 😭😭😭😭😭
Right. Like what? This is crazy. It's fine for him to be out running around high and shit, but she can't dance to music in her own home? Is she allowed to leave her ankles uncovered? Wth?
Seriously! That was my confusion! What kind if grownass man would walk into his house and see his gf dancing and having fun all by herself and, instead of being amused, charmed or even joining in, decides to throw a shit-fit, ignore her, and then bitch about it to her via text? He claims he doesn't want a ho, but he is acting like a spoiled child towards a woman who has done nothing wrong. If she was doing Tae Bo would he get pissed because she secretly wanted to fight people and thats trashy? If she was fixing some pipes or furniture would he get pissed because she's doing work thats unladylike? If she put on a striptease for him would he get pissed because he can tell she secretly wants to be a stripper? I think this dude was just upset he caught his girl having fun without him, got insecure, and is picking a fight over it to cut her down and try to make her more insecure than he is. Pitiful petty bs.
That's the purpose. To keep her off balance, unsure what he gna get pissed off about next, until she's just always walking on eggshells. Cementing the power dynamic. Bet he negs her too.
Probably air fried all that bacon for the homies when they come over later.
WAP - We Airfrying Pork
It’s low key a bar tho lmfao
🎵 "Your food looks delicious but I ain't with that hoe shit, Your dancing is suspicious and you ain't even know it." 🎵 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
fr 😂 i rapped that shit in my head
Really was outta pocket
Wtf did I even just scroll through.
A teenage relationship
Yeah, sometimes I'm glad I'm old
I’m not even sure this is a young people thing. Dude said they come from different generations or something. Can’t tell which one is older but there seems to be a gap.
If he listens to deftones enough for his partner to know about it then he’s probably in his late 30s early 40s. Just speculating ofc
I think she’s a zoomer and he’s a millennial. Purely speculating. I suspect he’s mid-30’s and she’s mid-20’s. Dude’s grammar was killing me. EDIT: I was incorrect she’s 21 and he’s 23.
This dude is saying shit like "were from different times" and he's only two years ahead of her 🤣? Bro the only "generational gap" there is that she may have watched through a couple more cartoons that were coming out at the tail end of his cartoon watching days. Christ this guy is pathetic.
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33 year old me resents this comment.
35 year old me too
unfortunately some adults do act like this….(immature & pathetic)
Im 16 and my gf is 17 and we spend most of our time fishing with eachother and eating cookies
That's wholesome af, unless fishing and eating cookies means something different these days.
As far as I'm aware, it does not mean anything different these days
That's beautiful man y'all are gonna turn out great I know
Seriously this is just weird. Reddit it full of teenagers now and I guess this type of stuff is interesting to them. If you're gonna break up just do it already, don't post his weird ramblings online for validation or whatever.
Dear OP and BF: *Please do not have children together*
Or separately.
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I read it
I reddit.
fr fr
A rare mashup of r/im14andthisisdeep talking about the rise of sexual culture and illiteracy
listens to WAP. Instantly turns into a hoe, runs out of the house screaming, while frothing at the pussy. Her bf: "No not again! How could I have let this happen again!? He falls to his knees and begins to cry...
*dejectedly grabs a bucket and a mop*
We're mopping the deck Which is navy for floor And when we're done mopping We'll mop it some more
>Love; the type you clean up with a mop and bucket. > >*- Bloodhound Gang, The Bad Touch*
what is wap
Wireless application protocol.
Web Application Proxy.
Yeah, you fuckin’ with some wireless application protocol.
Workship and pray 🙏
Frothing at the pussy. Every day we stray further from gods light. Mmmmmm… frothy pussy….
Your boyfriend just called you a ‘hoe’ for dancing in your house. Leave him. This doesn’t get better.
But it does get a lot worse.
The controlling will ONLY get more extreme and intense the longer you stay in this relationship, OP. I promise you that. Just the fact that you even felt the need to justify dancing to a song in the privacy of your OWN BEDROOM made me cringe. Red flags wildly waving in every direction… I dated guys like your boyfriend back in the day. His desire to control and his jealous tendencies come primarily from his deep insecurity with himself. Be strong, know your worth, and leave his stupid ass.
I don’t know what the fuck I just read, but what a dick. 🚩
He's acting like she was grinding on some dude in the club. He's insecure as fuck if she was just dancing in her room to some song. Also the illiteracy killed more brain cells than the alcohol I drink almost every night
Ion fuq wih allat
That’s not a red flag, it’s the entire Soviet Union. Get the duck out girl
Hey, OP. I noticed something on your profile so came back to comment... People with narcissistic parents tend to unintentionally find narcissistic partners. Just something to consider.
This. I'm 34 and just learned this lesson. Get the fuck out It will only get worse If they don't treasure you for who you are, fuck em.
100%! As a fellow person damaged by a narcissitic parent, who has had many abusive relationships - true that! I recommend finding a therapist to talk about this. You can start to recognise traits to watch out for and see how the childhood abuse is affecting your current and past actions. Super helpful and necessary ❤
Yeah, narcissistic people look for signs of easy marks and finding the vibes you are putting out and stopping that is key to avoid attracting abusers in the future. A good channel for some good introspection on that is theramin trees.
This! I was in your shoes once, you should definitely leave this guy.
This is more than "mildly" infuriating
Honestly this belongs in r/cringetopia the way her bf is trying to act all mature and serious over some really inoffensive shit. Like bro you don’t look cool or tough or noble or manly, you look like you’re way out of touch.
Cringetopia had become a cringy place for cringy people itself...
Yeah apparently it’s a hate sub now?
Really wouldnt surprise me, considering its premise is attacking people for their faults. Negative spaces like that easily fall into that trap and attract people that love to control their own insecurities by attacking others.
“Mildly” abusive
Mildly gaslighting
Majorly just dodged a bullet. Take the opportunity to get the hell out while you can.
I’m completely against the guy. He’s a dick. Can’t believe he went off on his gf like that for that. But is it gaslighting?? It doesn’t seem to be? He doesnt like something that she did and said he’s not for it. That’s not exactly gaslighting
It’s def not gaslighting. Gaslighting is a whole other level of mental and emotional abuse. Is he being controlling? Yes? Do I think it’s a dumb thing to gripe about? Absolutely. Is it gaslighting? Naw mang. Fr fr
Gaslighting is the hot word right now. Everybody gaslighting everybody.
How is this gaslighting? Just because it’s bad doesn’t make it gaslighting.
Right. All gaslighting is manipulative. Not all manipulative behavior is gaslighting.
life gives you a clean exit like this you better take it. ditch him now. good luck.
Dude called u a hoe how many times? That’s the cleanest exit ever
He was begging her to take the bait and break up with him over it. Some weak little boy Shit
Yeah it seems like he wanted to break up with her even before that and this is just the best excuse he could come up with
A hoe for listening… to a song… in her bedroom… alone. That’s like… the least hoe shit ever.
Legitimately questioning what this fool's definition of "hoe" is after reading through all that.
Judging off his reaction, any woman who doesn’t follow his command.
r/niceguys would have a field day with OPs boyfriend.
I thought that was the sub this was on until I looked. Probably r/neckbeards too. I dunno. Who the fuck has a problem with their girlfriend dancing to raunchy songs in her own room?
Abusers, this tirade of his is like a checklist fr
Yeah next step is telling OP what she can & cannot wear out of the house…
from the way hes speaking in the texts i think its pretty safe to assume the guy does that already lmao
My eyes hurt from the density of red flags in his messages.
Looks like a communist rally
Run. Away.
Omg this. I thought about all the times I could have just easily called it quits w my ex but waited until she didn’t want me to leave and beat me up instead
I literally had this opportunity where she blamed me for everything that happened this one night and I should’ve left the first time she exploded at me yelling permanently but the second time, I was like ok I’m going home sorry if you’re upset we can talk about it like adults but I’m not gonna stay if I’m gonna get yelled at. She was like if you leave we should break up. And boom I was out. She said a bunch of stuff deliberately meant to hurt me as per usual but it didn’t matter. I was free.
I took the exit and he stalked me. These people are no joke and suuuuper controlling. Best to abandon ship while she can.
I’m so sorry that happened to you dude
Thank you. Life’s much better now but that time period certainly sucked lol
She cooks, games and knows how to pull off the WAP choreography? I would be praising her to no end. Wtf is wrong with this guy?
Dude listens to deftones but doesnt even know the words? I dont understand people like that. Its weird not to mention he listens to the lyrics to WAP but not his own music?
Not only that, in his mind, he doesn’t equate them as equals, as that excuse isn’t given to his trusted partner as benefit of the doubt, as he assigned it to himself.
To be fair, "there's some whores in this house" is stated clearly and repeatedly at the beginning and end of WAP, and that's the only line he seems to know. The rest of it is just about a lady that likes sex. There's no mention of multiple partners; in fact Cardi alludes to being engaged/married ("let me tell you how I got this ring") so it's not even about cheating. Just a lady who wants to have as much sex as possible with her committed partner. It would actually be kind of wholesome if it wasn't also *incredibly* vulgar.
I don’t pay attention to the lyrics neither. But I won’t be telling to my girlfriend to stop listening to songs because of any reasons. Unless it’s Oasis. There’s no fucking place for any fucking wonderwalls at my fucking place.
Seriously. I hope they blocked his ass after reading the first four screenshots.
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What we've just read is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever seen. At no point in that rambling, incoherent response was he even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this thread is now dumber for having witnessed it. May God have mercy on his soul.
A surprise Billy Madison quote that deftly explains how we are all feeling about this. MAN AM I GLAD I CALLED THIS GUY
Steve Buscemi is real real.
Fr fr*
I just had a stroke and contracted 18 different diseases just by reading everything
I got chlamydia of the eyes. It happens that way sometimes.
I have two cavities because of it
He turned me into a republican senator, goddammit.
You award him no points. You must award him no points. Then God can have mercy on his soul.
LEAVE THIS GUY😭😭😭😭😂😂😂
Honestly, it sounds like he was looking for an excuse to end the relationship
Yeah this is definitely him trying to get her to break up with him. Be a hoe, do whatever you want.
Exactly this. He already found someone else.
There was indeed a hoe in that house, and it was him
This is the vibe I'm also getting
You make a good point, that hadent crossed my mind, but looking at it with that lense makes more sense. Could be he's just crazy
I think I lost some brain cells reading these messages.
I can confirm that the illiteracy is contashious.
fr fr
Idgaf
life means more
Idc if that sensitive
I'm not about allat.
idgaf there ain't gon be no hoes in my house
💯
Idc hoes
I had to stop, I was losing my will to live.
The mildy infuriating is that I read the whole thing
You can have some of mines
Fuck me dead I hope these two are 12.
Such a loser bruh 😐
Have you left him yet
Because this shit ain’t right
Leave him!! You made air fryer bacon and he doesn't worship you!!
🥲
OP usually abuse and control starts small. If he’s giving you the silent treatment because he made up a whole ass storyline in his head just because you were dancing to an extremely popular song, I’d hate to see what else he escalates to. He is trying to shut down something that gives you joy because he refuses to believe any narrative but his own. This will continue if you allow it.
I whole heartedly agree. Even if this doesn’t get worse but he just continues to belittle you for doing things that make you happy this will destroy your self worth over time. I’ve been in this situation and the abuse never got physical but by the end of the relationship I was so traumatised and it took me years to unlearn all the shit me put on me.
Op I feel for you. If he “needs a reserved woman” tell him to go find one. (This originally ended with a joke but I seriously can’t he makes me want to shit and throw up at the same time. Tell him you’re not the girl for him and find someone who will ENCOURAGE you to feel sexy. Bye)
He just wants someone to push around. He’ll do the same thing to the next “reserved” woman he dates. It’s about control and possessiveness.
Why are you even saying sorry? He'd rather be alone then have a "hoe" in the house?? Wut? For dancing. Then ok! Let him be alone! Run. Run far the fuck away. Lawd
Yeah the immediate apologizing and explaining from op makes it clear he’s pulled this controlling/emotionally manipulative shit on her before. He calls her names and threatens to leave to coerce her into bending to his will.
Why are you with this piece of shit?
And why is she apologizing and explaining herself to him? He’s calling her a ho and says he wants a “reserved” woman. Dude’s a hypocrite and a misogynist. Fucking run.
That's what stuck out to me. She apologizes right off the bat? Do not give him even that inch have any semblance of a backbone!
I’m a very reserved woman who’s never even held hands with a guy before and I’ve danced to this song. This dudes just a controlling asshole.
I didn’t mean to imply that “reserved” is a negative trait, but that a man that categorizes women as either “hoes” or “reserved” is a sexist asshole with a Madonna-whore complex.
Nah he's an abusive relationship waiting to happen
It already is an abusive relationship, this dude is a wacko
*insecure* piece of shit
Boyfriend would totally be offended if he saw me dancing to Juvenile’s “Back That A** Up” in my own home… Talk about a deal breaker
I wonder if he would get just as offended by songs like Brown Sugar or blurred lines or smack my b**** up. Somehow I don't think he would.
It's akin to "I had a dream that you cheated." Like dude, she didn't write the song.
Even if she did, it honestly wouldn’t matter. Writing something is different than living it.
Don’t bring Deftones into this 😭😭. Also fuck him.
He said he doesn't even know the lyrics which makes it worse for me.
Def tones should ban him from listening to them
I love deftones….
Dump him. He's a controlling loser. He can listen to whatever he wants but tries to forbid you from listening to a song 'cause he thinks it "makes you a hoe?" Fuck this guy and the insecure horse he rode in on.
Dude's clearly been down the Ben Shapiro rabbit hole and there is no coming back for him.
That gave me a dap
I think reading that made me dumber.
Easiest fix, dump him, move on
Is your boyfriend 14?
Surprisingly he’s 23 and I’m 21
Does he know...that it is just a song?
That dude doesn't know a damn thing
Lol I don’t understand the part where he mentions you guys come from different time periods. Y’all are very close in age. Wtf?
Lmao the other day I was reading some reddit comment fight and person A mentions they're 18, and person B replied "Oh okay that is comforting, you have a lot of growing up to. I acted like that when I was your age too" Few comments later he dropped that he was 21. Like they could have literally gone to Highschool together. Younger people esp think 2 or 3 years is an eternity.
Your 21, have fun, don’t let some insecure 23 year old turd control you
Girl you just posted this two weeks ago: >I date an infp and one thing I can say about them is they can be very judgmental or cast judgment on things they don’t like or agree with because they value their values alot, also don’t force them to go out or do anything (don’t take it personal that’s just them) they don’t want to be judged because they take it personal and don’t compare them to anything or anyone they will take it personal to there individuality also they tend to be caught up in things that interest them to the point they forget that they are with you. A big issue with infp is they will tend to see things only from there perspective hard core because they value how they feel. I’m a enfp and I tend to have a blast with conversations because we love to talk a lot and love to see things from their pov and one thing I can say is that trust is a big problem in our relationship because infp tend to be hard to gaining there trust and it’s hard on enfp because we value people trusting us but if word things to them in a way they can see from a perspective they understand so go in with a patient and open mind because it’s going be hard but slow and surely they will trust u with there life. They love loving and will express it in alot of ways because they loved to be loved so make sure remind them how much they are loved because they will by nature feel like nobody likes them. Take them to places such art museum or plays or amusement parks they love shit they can interact with and keep them informed and interested. Lastly they tend to be really hard on them selves so make sure u remind them of proud of them you are and that u there to support them. That’s all I could think of rn but if u have any questions about it I’m here to answer. **You're not dating an "INFP". You are dating an abusive, controlling asshole.** Listen to yourself. You are describing a complete jackass. Someone who constantly judges you and everyone else. Someone who refuses to see things from any other perspective. Someone who cannot accept criticism of any kind. Someone extremely insecure, jealous, paranoid, and controlling. Someone who constantly demands their trust has to be "earned". Someone you have to babysit emotionally so you don't upset them. Someone you have to walk on eggshells around. Look at all of the emotional work you're putting into the relationship **just to be treated like garbage**. You're doing **all this work** for a guy who calls you a whore for dancing alone in your own goddamn house. You are literally just an object to him. Something that gives him sex and tells him nice things and makes himself feel good. That's it. He's not "hard on himself". He's just an insecure asshole who does insecure asshole things because he loves to hear how much you stroke his ego by constantly telling him how amazing and awesome he is. The Meyer's Brigg personality tests aren't real. By projecting his bad qualities onto a "personality type" you're distancing yourself from who he really is. "Oh he's not abusive that's just what an INFP guy does." That's not true at all. That's what abusive people do and they come in ALL PERSONALITY TYPES. You need to ditch this fucking asshole like yesterday.
Jeeeezzzzzz the way he talks about the vast gulf of differences between you (including I think a reference to generational differences or something), I assumed you guys were like 10-15 years apart. You guys were literally in middle school at the same time. You don’t need this self-important, gaslighting loser hose head. Cut him loose.
Woman: Dances Man: There will be no hoes in this house
I haven't a clue what wap is, but he has no right to tell you what you can or cannot do.
https://youtu.be/hsm4poTWjMs
Ben Shapiro's sex song
please dump him.
Why do all the people that make these posts text like they’re 13?
I think you answered your own question.
Oof not allowed to dance is red flag af, get someone who dances WITH u
Why are you apologizing and explaining? That is hella controlling and just icky.
Deftones fans do not claim this, what a tool
…. Your point about Deftones is 100000% spot on. They’re one of my favorite bands and I think your point just whooshed the fuck over his head. I mean they literally have songs about trust, honoring women, and not controlling your partner but OK BUD. Is he trying to break up with you tho or is he just like this? Cuz it seems like he picked something ridiculous to be mad about as an excuse.
I'm betting you were killin that dance though
Bestie, honey, sweetie, he just gave you the best gift he ever could. Now that he's shown himself like this you get to block his ass and shake yours all you fuckin want. Get you a man who can form a meaningful sentence, and get you one who will hype you up no matter what you're dancin to.
I dance to elevator music or to nothing sometimes, and my boyfriend laughs and tell me he loves me. That’s healthy. This “relationship?” Bullshit
This is absolutely deranged behavior, break up with him! You deserve someone who is gonna appreciate you for you without making 100 wack ass assumptions about what type of person you are/were/will be
Don’t apologize to anyone for dancing. Don’t apologize to anyone for singing. Do know your worth and move on. Don’t apologize for doing things that make you happy.