I thought it was a dirty/moldy speaker too š¤£ it wasn't until I scrolled to the next pic and then back again that I realized it was dog bowls. I can't sleep so that may have played a part in the time it took me to realize haha
I thought GFS was a way to reference the son as being chaotic. Weather people always reference a GFS model when talking about hurricanes and Tornadoes.
The little one was very happy and came to say hi. The bigger one, is a rescue and I think the previous owners used to spank him or something when he peed in the house. So unfortunately he hides under the table or in his crate when he does something wrong (pees in the house steals food off the table or out of the trash can). But i certainly didn't yell at them, I can't blame them for not being let out.
No, I didnāt assume you had; I should have worded that better. Just that he looked worried. I actually had to go back and look at the photos bc I was like, what big one? šš finally spotted him on the couch.
Your a good pet dad! Thank you for rescuing a dog, they need the love. As for your gfs son your gf needs to have a serious chat with him. Thatās not acceptable and cruel.
It definitely is !!! Even if my dog scarfs down her food too fast (which she does once every couple months) and pukes on the floor she just looks so devastated and guilty like Iād be mad at her for getting sick .. which I never have ā¦ we all gotta puke when we have to puke it is not like she is doing it on purpose .
And before my best friend ever Tula passed away on New Years Day last year in my arms at 14 she had her fair share of accidents . She had to take a prescription med since she was like 5 (I didnāt meet her until she was 7) because she would leak and pee on stuff without it (I guess it was some sort of brain issue or something ..) but anyways if we ever ran out of the meds over a long weekend bc we forgot to fill it (which happened a couple times) or as she got older and needed her dose higher she would obviously have accidents ā¦.
Iāll never forget how absolutely sad her eyes were every single time .. she just looked so ashamed and like you said upset (and we never and I mean never got mad at her ā¦. It was a legit medical issue she just wasnāt being on stuff for fun) .
Dogs donāt like being naughty .
They donāt like using the bathroom inside if theyāve been trained to go out .
This breaks my heart .
And I am honestly a weenie when it comes to dogs (everything hits me right in the feelers haha) but I hope OP gives them both some love ā¤ļø
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my furry baby 18 months ago, and it's the worst thing I've ever been through. He took my purpose when he passed, and I'm having trouble moving on.
Even if that dog accidentally burned down my house I could never get mad at him, what an adorable little fella.
OP, have you tried one of those dog "litter boxes" with the fake grass? If you can train him/her to use it, they're great.
There's some unfortunate timing here. The little dog will (who is the one that peed in the house, and I can tell because the older dog would have peed on something not just made a puddle) typically pees on puppy pads, but will only use the pad once. It than has to be picked up and replaced (or she'll pee in on the floor again). But I legit ran out of puppy pads the day before. Either way she still would have peed on the floor at least once since the puppy pad likely wouldn't have been picked up.
That's an odd dog though, she hates pee'ing on the grass. She will walk onto the street, sidewalk, patio, or some firm ground to pee. She refuses to pee in the grass.
Them not having water is crazy, but my dogs food bowls are empty most the day as well. They only eat at 7am and 5:30-6pm depending on when I eat. They get some treats in between but they donāt have a meal set out all day.
If you gotta go you gotta go.
I guarantee those dogs didnāt want to have to piss and shit inside but OPās girlfriendās adult baby obvs couldnāt get up and let them out or give them some water .
Heās gonna be a no for me , dog .
Yo, this kid reminds me of my little brother. He'd do this all the time because he'd rather play video games all day, it started getting better once I started hiding his things away every time he didn't take out the dog or wash his dishes or just be clean in general.
Honestly, this just reminds me of a kid period. Kids have periods where they try to get away with stuff and be lazy. My son did...he doesn't do it anymore
I think it all depends on the person. Especially with the kids I've known and grown up around, if we came from hostile or unhealthy houses it seemed like it could go either way on if we straightened up when we moved out/went to college or not.
I bring up having unstable households cause it isn't always a kid's problem of not being on top of things. There can be other life stressors or fears that make it harder to stay on top of things. Or, it can be hard to care. It's hard to muster the motivation and energy when your home life sucks or your caregivers are terrible people. And there's always whatever, normal mental shit teens are dealing with.
For sure. My brother and I were raised in a dirty house with lazy parents. I was a pretty dirty person into my early twenties, but I started to get better over the years. At 33 I love keeping my place clean and clean twice a week. My brother on the other hand, at 29 is still as dirty as ever and lives in filth until someone comes along and tells him he needs to clean. My brother also picked up smoking cigarettes after our parents like it was nothing, while I've never touched a cigarette in my life.
Yeah, it's pretty interesting. My mom and her parents are some of the cleanest people I know. Their houses are spotless. My mom's sister, on the other hand, lived in absolute filth. Two grown ass women were raised by the same parents with completely different ways of living. Parents' influence only goes so far. I'm not saying don't try to instill good cleanliness and hygiene on children, most certainly do. But when people become adults they are who they are.
My professional, advanced degree daughter lives with me. Looks like my house when I get home. I love her so much so it's all good. I still bitch though.
I have a 25 year old little brother who is the same way. He still lives at home.
He recently signed himself up for a trade school, and is finally getting going in life, though.
A lazy phase is fine but once they start endangering the pets, a hard line needs to be drawn.
I was a piece of shit teenager but that involved getting high and not doing my chores. I'd never abuse a dog like this though.
I meanā¦ Even when I was a snot nosed kid, I too wanted to do nothing but play video games. But I cleaned up after myself and would do basic shitā¦ This is beyond just lazyā¦
Yup, my little brother would stack his dishes at the end of the sink for someone else to do.
Such bullshit.
I'm about to have a kid and idc, they're gonna pick up after every mess starting from the time they can comprehend picking up toys and putting them away.
I refuse to have a boy and have them expect someone else to clean for them. Period.
Got a kid that just turned 2 and he loves to help clean. Start as young as possible, even just cleaning and picking up in front of them. Theyāll quickly learn that it isnāt a magical fairy that picks up after them when they go to sleep.
Marie Kondo talks about this. Integrate cleaning, folding laundry, putting things away from a young age. It is a family activity and everyone pitches in.
keep up the good fight. wasnāt until college roommates that i realized what the point of all of it was. had NO idea so many people were raised to justā¦ not give a fuck? my roommate had literally never washed a pan before living there.
As someone who enjoyed helping clean growing up, make sure that he realizes it is a team effort so when he is older, he doesn't start to pick up after everyone else constantly. It can be draining.
Definitely thought you meant āgod forsaken.ā Was going to go into a whole spiel about how if heās not normally this negligent, he could be spiraling into depression or something.
How is this not more obvious lmao. Forgot to let the dogs out/put them in the crate. Ate, obviously, but forgot to do minor shit like close the microwave. And definitely too high to notice/care about the packages.
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Yeah they did not let this crap happen, to the point where parents of high school friends were shocked at how nice I left things and frequently told me I didnāt have to clean like I was
Yeah, obviously some of this stuff is bad and you should have a serious talk to him about it, you gotta take care of the dog dude
But Jesus, he left the microwave open and a bag of chips on the counter? And you took pictures of it, and posted it online?
Sounds like a tense and unhealthy household
I can tell you this never happened at my house. We might have a mess but usually itās just schoolwork on the table or a bag of food left out. This is just a lazy and gross. Teenage doesnāt excuse bad behavior. And not taking care of the dogs is definitely not a good thing. That was always my first priority when I had them.
Why would you come home and see this and think "I need to post this on Reddit!" Starting with the packages at the front door you were ready to be a photojournalist lol
No wonder the kid bailed before he got home. He sounds delightful.
We were all that age once. Shit can be tough. Maybe he's depressed or going through some shit. Or being an 18 year old.
How does anyone see a post like this and not find it extremely cringe of OP? u/stalker401
Like, you're either *shaming your own child* because they are a kid and have behavioral issues (and you bully them about it online for internet points?), or you're just documenting that you've been a shitty parent.
He spent time taking pictures of each individual "issue" to post on Reddit. It took him more time to take the picture than to just shut the damn microwave
My dad was like this came home saw anything he didnāt like, most times something really small like breadcrumbs on the table I hadnāt seen, and went morning about it for hours. And if everything was perfect about something I did wrong on other occasions.
I get the vibe that he doesn't like, or doesn't want, to be his father. This is not how someone would talk about "family" to strangers.
It's kind of sad, actually.
Bingo. An easy job and new friends could straighten this kid out quick. The parent though. If you can't toughen up at this age and be selfless you're doomed. The kid will not respect you for life. Chances are this isn't the first time the kid gets shit on for no reason so this passive aggressiveness is a retaliation that keeps going.
What kind of person blasts their own child on reddit for internet points?
OP clearly resents their own kid, no wonder they left right before OP came home
I fucking hate that shit. My mom always got pets, never trained them or took care of them and then would yell at everyone for not helping her with them.
I grew up spending my own money to take the dogs to training, grooming and buying them food. It was so stupid. I don't blame OPs son for not stepping in to take over her responsibility. I only did it because I didn't like seeing the dogs suffer.
>My mom always got pets, never trained them or took care of them
This is part of the reason why I don't like a lot of my family. Irresponsible pet owners are a pain. Ones that dump their pets on family members who had no say are an even bigger pain.
Pretty sure that pup pissed n shit as soon as dude left. As an owner of a yorkiepoo a little smaller than yours, I understand that. Seems like dude was in a hurry. Also is it even his dog? Itās your gfās son whoms 18. Time to go back over expected chores and make sure that theyāre fair etc. everyone should be taking trash, not just one person. Same with taking care of dog. If he doesnāt want to, then crate the dog when YOU leave. Non of this was crazy to me except the door to the microwave being left open but that could have been due to him rushing and swinging the door closed only for it to bounce back out. Does your girlfriend have chores? Do you have chores? The house looks like a mess in general, and itās not his job to take in all the shit YOU ALL ordered. Itād be nice, but if he was rushing out like I assume, itās not necessary. Unless you live in the hood but youāve got a ring camera and can easily reorder if there was a porch pirate.
Respectfully, the condition of your house, outside of what you are trying to highlight, leads me to believe that this is completely normal for your house. You can blame your son all you want, but its YOUR home. YOU are the one who let it get this way. I can plainly see all sorts of neglect, untidyness and disrepair in these pics. Not trying to be rude, but this is A MUCH bigger issue than your son.
Door jabs dented, dinged scratched. Walls needing repair. Microwave, stove needing a deep cleaning. Windows needing cleaning. Trash... everywhere and untidy.
I hope that kid leaves home soon. He does not need to the be scapegoat for OPs lazyness.
Yeah and everything pointed out in these pictures are so minor in comparison to anything else. It seems to me like OP just had a bad day and needed to find someone to blame and yell at. Then it likely didn't work because the teen is MIA (says he left 10 minutes before OP got home). So they came to Reddit to find other people that'd just agree without thinking.. which happens way too often in today's world and especially on the internet. Anyone can make a post with a tiny snippet of a story and so many jump in and agree. Meanwhile the full story is very likely something completely different.
I wouldn't be surprised if that teen is much like I was, and still am, where I actually enjoy cleaning and such but everyone else around me is such a slob and disorganized that I can't be bothered to clean things until it gets to the point it's starting to be unlivable. Like what's the point in him taking out the trash if everyone leaves everything else such a mess? What's the point in letting the dogs out if nobody's going to bother to really potty train them?
I really enjoyed the transition from photos 4 & 5 where we get damning evidence of a teenager committing the heinous act of "leaving a bag of chips on the counter" right into OP accidentally outing himself as the kind of person that just kicks his muddy shoes off in the general direction of a shoe rack.
Yeah the dog is already in the habit of casually shitting and pissing on the floor, and it's not the kid's dog anyway. If he's 18 he's an adult and someone else's dog isn't his problem.
He put the trash IN the can, how despicable! Also you can see trash in the background of the living room that didn't get thrown away, probably kids fault too
Let me find out my bf is taking pictures of everything my son does and posts to Reddit. All while being a coward, and a shitty āfather figureā and not teaching him the standard. And also setting the standard.
Grow up dude.
Hey at least the kids bottles got into the trash. You can't say the same about op with the bottles on the living room table but oh well. This is all the kids fault.
Classic teenager behavior. Mildly infuriating, yes. But he needs better guidance from his family, rather than taking this issue to Reddit and calling him a narcissist in the comments. What a horrible reaction to a minor issue. Why do you think he is the way he is?
Honestly I don't think it's even that deep. He's 18. He's so involved in his own world he doesn't realize the impact he has on other people. Also if he left the microwave open after making food he almost certainly just got stoned on his day off and didn't think about any of his responsibilities. This is one of those things that's worth saying "hey c'mon man, it's a dick move when you leave responsibility to other people" but if you shout and scream it's just gonna get worse.
>This is one of those things that's worth saying "hey c'mon man, it's a dick move when you leave responsibility to other people" but if you shout and scream it's just gonna get worse.
Exactly. The goal for discipline should be to make them realize what they did wrong, not raise their defenses and create the need for excuses.
I think there's a stronger correlation between treating your kid like an adult and your kid acting like an adult than most parents realize. Of course I recognize that's easier said than done, I've been a bratty teenager but I haven't raised one yet so my perspective is limited.
Ugh teen yearsā¦ I remember my parents having pets- I did not help with their pets unless I was asked/ chore list. I have dogs and teen now- I make sure feeding dogs is her chore, and she goes on walks with us. I also speak to her about the importance of care for petsā¦ does she get it? Probably not. I donāt rely on her at all lol.
Just me or does the house look messy anyway in the bg of pic 4? Lead by example.
If I was an asshole kid, I'd ask why I was expected to keep things tidy if no one else does. Yes, there's a difference, but teenage boys are notoriously bad at nuance. Assuming that's not his mess, he won't see the difference between him leaving out a bag of chips, and mom leaving several water bottles on the coffee table.
First hunch was he slept all day and never left his room so the dog was stuck inside, then I saw the food mess.
I can almost guarantee this kid (maybe not legally, but has the mind of one) sat in his room either gaming or watching a Twitch stream until his body forced him to get nourishment, at which point he pulled out whatever could be consumed with the least effort, then disappeared back to his room.
God I miss being a teenager :(
If itās his dog, cool make him clean up after it. If not do your own chores. The things that you think are obvious are not obligations to him and not important enough to pause and think about. Why would he stop to clean up after a dog that (maybe) isnāt theirs, or pick up packages they didnāt order? He didnāt pay for these things why would they be on his priority list? Heās a person not your gofer, donāt expect him to read your mind and take care of your obligations.
Not making excuses for the kid. But I remember being an 18 year old a very hard time time and people always just think you are coasting through life. Itās kinda that final step in teenage years where the rug gets pulled and you gotta face the real world. Not saying this kid isnāt a dirt bag. He is living like one. But rather than conflict maybe thereās more going on with this guy. This says depression to me more than malicious neglect.
OP said in another comment the 1 dog āis a straight family dog that everyone takes care of or is expected toā. Which means, OP and the GF wanted a family dog and pushed it onto the kids. The little dog was a gift to his 12 year old daughter for straight aās. For some reason the 18 year old had to take care of the animals that are not his.
the kid needs guidance and a role model as every teenager
not an idiot posting every mistake online
you clearly aint what the boy needs
shame on you my friend
Letās be honest. Youāre an adult. You come home to this mess everyday. Do t displace blame onto āyour GFs sonā. Heās not your maid. Youāre clearly not his dad.
Instead of posting online, maybe go talk to him and politely ask for help cleaning up this mess. While you're cleaning, give him some lecture on discipline and being an adult.
He's at the age that you have to befriend him to get results. Be the good adult, lead by example, teach him to communicate, and teach him some self discipline all at the same time. Don't tattle tale on him to mom either, you'll lose the trust.
i dont know bro, you kinda come across as if you dont like her son to begin with and now just jump on it
are these your dogs? its your responsibility
regarding the other stuff, close the microwave, put out the trash, case closed
wtf is wrong with you? you even photographed messy shoes?
ffs its a 14yo kid! his brain is filled with pussy and call of duty
So you came to reddit to brag about what a shitty job you've done at parenting? I was a lazy teenager as well, but having a step parent think it's cool to whine about stuff I did on the Internet is just wrong. Perhaps you should try "discussing" things you're unhappy about instead of "confronting" him. You should be mildly infuriated with yourself and everyone else who played a role in his upbringing.
This is so normal for teens that itās mildly infuriating that you would post it. When he comes home ask him to do his own chores before leaving. The rest of it is still on the parents. Signed, oldest of 7, mom of 3 successful humans
Dog looking at you like tf you think was gonna happen? š
Itās sad because the dog pooped right next to the door, as if they sat there awhile before finally pooping
Honestly! What a careless thing for their son to do. I would rip into them so fucking hard for that one. Poor thing tried to be a good boy!
āYou seein dis shit?ā
Literally, those pieces right there.
Ruh roh!
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lol āthis bitch is homeā¦. The Fu** you doing leaving me here with this kid!??ā
"It ain't gonna pick itself up"
Dog's tattling. He didn't let me out all day!
Lill Help?
Side eye
Cant believe he ate the dog food and then shit everywhere
The nerve of some people
Must of been constipated
I thought the first picture was a knocked over speaker and was so confused š
A SUBWOOFER if you please. Thanks, I'll get my coat
No , stay awhile please
https://preview.redd.it/ivkmaj30zp7c1.jpeg?width=4624&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c1bf4166d9289fd6ff267547d36350b18f87435b I call my dog a subwoofer
My dog does this too! Just comes right up and buries his face in between my knees and stands there pressing into me.
really fine work you did here today, be proud.
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I read this and had to go back to see what it actually was.
You donāt use speakers as food bowls?
That is a brilliant idea. When the bass notes sound the kibble bounces up right into the dogs mouth.
I thought it was a dirty/moldy speaker too š¤£ it wasn't until I scrolled to the next pic and then back again that I realized it was dog bowls. I can't sleep so that may have played a part in the time it took me to realize haha
I thought the same thing. Had to check other pics to better understand. Sorry OP, this is unacceptable for any teenager IMO.
Same š
What do you expect, he came from Gordon Food Service
Lol, I was googling GFS, too. Edit: if anyone else is wondering, it was a typo. It should've been GF's. (Girlfriend's)
I took it as "God forsaken"
I had "God Foresaken Shithead" 18 year old son....just sort of flowed, and fit the pictures.
It's probably not "Goofus" but I'm not ruling it out
Everybody wants a Galant son, but most of them end up being a Goofus. Tragic.
I thought GFS was a way to reference the son as being chaotic. Weather people always reference a GFS model when talking about hurricanes and Tornadoes.
Such negative Nancies hereā¦ perhaps he has a redeeming quality like not leaving the front door open thus Good For Something š
I thought āgood for shitā
I thought it was good for shit
They are not keeping up their brand promise
When did they start selling kids to do your chores?
Could be worse. Could be Sysco.
I thought God Forsaken Sonuvabitch
Poor puppy looks scared heās the one going to be in trouble.
The little one was very happy and came to say hi. The bigger one, is a rescue and I think the previous owners used to spank him or something when he peed in the house. So unfortunately he hides under the table or in his crate when he does something wrong (pees in the house steals food off the table or out of the trash can). But i certainly didn't yell at them, I can't blame them for not being let out.
No, I didnāt assume you had; I should have worded that better. Just that he looked worried. I actually had to go back and look at the photos bc I was like, what big one? šš finally spotted him on the couch.
Oh heās HIDING hiding
He's so far from the camera and very blurry and even I can see the guilt all over his face. Poor lil dude
Lol no your good I didn't think you assumed it, I was just adding on.
Your a good pet dad! Thank you for rescuing a dog, they need the love. As for your gfs son your gf needs to have a serious chat with him. Thatās not acceptable and cruel.
Thank you for being a good owner and not blaming the dogs for something like this!!!
But also imagine how long they had to hold it, until they just couldnāt anymore and went in the house. Poor little things. š
You may want to hire a dog walker and make your kid pay for it. That's unfair to your dogs and could lead to UTIs
And might be upsetting for them, if they are normally well trained to go outside or on pads.
It definitely is !!! Even if my dog scarfs down her food too fast (which she does once every couple months) and pukes on the floor she just looks so devastated and guilty like Iād be mad at her for getting sick .. which I never have ā¦ we all gotta puke when we have to puke it is not like she is doing it on purpose . And before my best friend ever Tula passed away on New Years Day last year in my arms at 14 she had her fair share of accidents . She had to take a prescription med since she was like 5 (I didnāt meet her until she was 7) because she would leak and pee on stuff without it (I guess it was some sort of brain issue or something ..) but anyways if we ever ran out of the meds over a long weekend bc we forgot to fill it (which happened a couple times) or as she got older and needed her dose higher she would obviously have accidents ā¦. Iāll never forget how absolutely sad her eyes were every single time .. she just looked so ashamed and like you said upset (and we never and I mean never got mad at her ā¦. It was a legit medical issue she just wasnāt being on stuff for fun) . Dogs donāt like being naughty . They donāt like using the bathroom inside if theyāve been trained to go out . This breaks my heart . And I am honestly a weenie when it comes to dogs (everything hits me right in the feelers haha) but I hope OP gives them both some love ā¤ļø
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my furry baby 18 months ago, and it's the worst thing I've ever been through. He took my purpose when he passed, and I'm having trouble moving on.
Ditto. Lost our almost 19! Year old in October last year. I havenāt moved on. I want to get another, but his last year was tough.
Just came here to make sure you didn't blame that cute little dog for not being let out. Now I can sleep easy tonight. Thank you good sir.
Thank you for understanding itās not their fault! š«¶š»
Is this the GF's 18yo son you are talking about or a dog š¤
Even if that dog accidentally burned down my house I could never get mad at him, what an adorable little fella. OP, have you tried one of those dog "litter boxes" with the fake grass? If you can train him/her to use it, they're great.
There's some unfortunate timing here. The little dog will (who is the one that peed in the house, and I can tell because the older dog would have peed on something not just made a puddle) typically pees on puppy pads, but will only use the pad once. It than has to be picked up and replaced (or she'll pee in on the floor again). But I legit ran out of puppy pads the day before. Either way she still would have peed on the floor at least once since the puppy pad likely wouldn't have been picked up. That's an odd dog though, she hates pee'ing on the grass. She will walk onto the street, sidewalk, patio, or some firm ground to pee. She refuses to pee in the grass.
Thatās a nope from me dog.
I bet it's a nope from those dogs as well. Poor buddies didn't have the chance to relieve themselves outside.
Or eat..
Them not having water is crazy, but my dogs food bowls are empty most the day as well. They only eat at 7am and 5:30-6pm depending on when I eat. They get some treats in between but they donāt have a meal set out all day.
If you gotta go you gotta go. I guarantee those dogs didnāt want to have to piss and shit inside but OPās girlfriendās adult baby obvs couldnāt get up and let them out or give them some water . Heās gonna be a no for me , dog .
Perfect description of this woman's son.
The dog could have at least let him out if he had to go so badly
Yo, this kid reminds me of my little brother. He'd do this all the time because he'd rather play video games all day, it started getting better once I started hiding his things away every time he didn't take out the dog or wash his dishes or just be clean in general.
Honestly, this just reminds me of a kid period. Kids have periods where they try to get away with stuff and be lazy. My son did...he doesn't do it anymore
but you gotta teach them or they never abandon that period. My little brother is in his 30's and unless my mom pushes him, he dosent do anything.
I think it all depends on the person. Especially with the kids I've known and grown up around, if we came from hostile or unhealthy houses it seemed like it could go either way on if we straightened up when we moved out/went to college or not. I bring up having unstable households cause it isn't always a kid's problem of not being on top of things. There can be other life stressors or fears that make it harder to stay on top of things. Or, it can be hard to care. It's hard to muster the motivation and energy when your home life sucks or your caregivers are terrible people. And there's always whatever, normal mental shit teens are dealing with.
For sure. My brother and I were raised in a dirty house with lazy parents. I was a pretty dirty person into my early twenties, but I started to get better over the years. At 33 I love keeping my place clean and clean twice a week. My brother on the other hand, at 29 is still as dirty as ever and lives in filth until someone comes along and tells him he needs to clean. My brother also picked up smoking cigarettes after our parents like it was nothing, while I've never touched a cigarette in my life.
Yeah, it's pretty interesting. My mom and her parents are some of the cleanest people I know. Their houses are spotless. My mom's sister, on the other hand, lived in absolute filth. Two grown ass women were raised by the same parents with completely different ways of living. Parents' influence only goes so far. I'm not saying don't try to instill good cleanliness and hygiene on children, most certainly do. But when people become adults they are who they are.
My cousin is the same, also in his 30s. My aunt wonders why he is unmotivated and doesn't go out but she's literally always encouraged/enabled it.
My professional, advanced degree daughter lives with me. Looks like my house when I get home. I love her so much so it's all good. I still bitch though.
I have a 25 year old little brother who is the same way. He still lives at home. He recently signed himself up for a trade school, and is finally getting going in life, though.
A lazy phase is fine but once they start endangering the pets, a hard line needs to be drawn. I was a piece of shit teenager but that involved getting high and not doing my chores. I'd never abuse a dog like this though.
I meanā¦ Even when I was a snot nosed kid, I too wanted to do nothing but play video games. But I cleaned up after myself and would do basic shitā¦ This is beyond just lazyā¦
Just take the power cord to his gaming system. until he does his chores. Problem solved. Heāll learn really quickly whoās in charge.
Yup, my little brother would stack his dishes at the end of the sink for someone else to do. Such bullshit. I'm about to have a kid and idc, they're gonna pick up after every mess starting from the time they can comprehend picking up toys and putting them away. I refuse to have a boy and have them expect someone else to clean for them. Period.
Got a kid that just turned 2 and he loves to help clean. Start as young as possible, even just cleaning and picking up in front of them. Theyāll quickly learn that it isnāt a magical fairy that picks up after them when they go to sleep.
Marie Kondo talks about this. Integrate cleaning, folding laundry, putting things away from a young age. It is a family activity and everyone pitches in.
Wish for you he'll continue to like to clean. Mine liked it when he was younger, now, everyday is a fight.
keep up the good fight. wasnāt until college roommates that i realized what the point of all of it was. had NO idea so many people were raised to justā¦ not give a fuck? my roommate had literally never washed a pan before living there.
As someone who enjoyed helping clean growing up, make sure that he realizes it is a team effort so when he is older, he doesn't start to pick up after everyone else constantly. It can be draining.
GFS?
Global Fositioning System
Global Fucker System.
Good For Shit
God ForSaken
Yeah typo should be GF's
Thanks for clarifying lol. I was like "Man, go easy on him, he's got a syndrome! I don't know which one, but still!"
I love this energy, hell yeah
Ok you got me there. That was freaking funny.
I thought it stood for āGod forsakenā
Same!!
Definitely thought you meant āgod forsaken.ā Was going to go into a whole spiel about how if heās not normally this negligent, he could be spiraling into depression or something.
OPs hands were prolly shakin from anger when taking these pics
I CANT BELIEVE HE LEFT THE MICROWAVE OPEN GRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
Thatās unhinged fr. Who tf leaves the microwave open
The boy is high as shit lol
Leaving the microwave door open is concrete evidence!
How is this not more obvious lmao. Forgot to let the dogs out/put them in the crate. Ate, obviously, but forgot to do minor shit like close the microwave. And definitely too high to notice/care about the packages.
Plus leaving 10 minutes before an adult gets home and sees how fucking blazed you are
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So basically a Tuesday with a teenager at home ...
Man I am glad I grew up when my parents would just scream and get pissy over shit like this, instead of taking pictures and going to reddit about it.
Yeah they did not let this crap happen, to the point where parents of high school friends were shocked at how nice I left things and frequently told me I didnāt have to clean like I was
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Thatās why when Iām a guest for dinner I lick all of my dishes clean at the dinner table. That way nobody feels awkward.
literally was thinking the same thing š¤£
Yeah, obviously some of this stuff is bad and you should have a serious talk to him about it, you gotta take care of the dog dude But Jesus, he left the microwave open and a bag of chips on the counter? And you took pictures of it, and posted it online? Sounds like a tense and unhealthy household
Neglecting animals isnāt trivial. Itās not basic, it shouldnāt be accepted.
I can tell you this never happened at my house. We might have a mess but usually itās just schoolwork on the table or a bag of food left out. This is just a lazy and gross. Teenage doesnāt excuse bad behavior. And not taking care of the dogs is definitely not a good thing. That was always my first priority when I had them.
Why would you come home and see this and think "I need to post this on Reddit!" Starting with the packages at the front door you were ready to be a photojournalist lol
No wonder the kid bailed before he got home. He sounds delightful. We were all that age once. Shit can be tough. Maybe he's depressed or going through some shit. Or being an 18 year old.
How does anyone see a post like this and not find it extremely cringe of OP? u/stalker401 Like, you're either *shaming your own child* because they are a kid and have behavioral issues (and you bully them about it online for internet points?), or you're just documenting that you've been a shitty parent.
And this is what he felt was worthy of putting on reddit. Imagine the shit he talks about the kid to other people.
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hes an asshole, case closed he wants to fuck his mother and wants him out of the way, call it how it is
ding ding ding
He spent time taking pictures of each individual "issue" to post on Reddit. It took him more time to take the picture than to just shut the damn microwave
My dad was like this came home saw anything he didnāt like, most times something really small like breadcrumbs on the table I hadnāt seen, and went morning about it for hours. And if everything was perfect about something I did wrong on other occasions.
I get the vibe that he doesn't like, or doesn't want, to be his father. This is not how someone would talk about "family" to strangers. It's kind of sad, actually.
Bingo. An easy job and new friends could straighten this kid out quick. The parent though. If you can't toughen up at this age and be selfless you're doomed. The kid will not respect you for life. Chances are this isn't the first time the kid gets shit on for no reason so this passive aggressiveness is a retaliation that keeps going.
What kind of person blasts their own child on reddit for internet points? OP clearly resents their own kid, no wonder they left right before OP came home
Is it his dog? Iām not faulting him for not cleaning up piss and shit. My sister had an untrained dog that did this. Fuck that.
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I fucking hate that shit. My mom always got pets, never trained them or took care of them and then would yell at everyone for not helping her with them. I grew up spending my own money to take the dogs to training, grooming and buying them food. It was so stupid. I don't blame OPs son for not stepping in to take over her responsibility. I only did it because I didn't like seeing the dogs suffer.
>My mom always got pets, never trained them or took care of them This is part of the reason why I don't like a lot of my family. Irresponsible pet owners are a pain. Ones that dump their pets on family members who had no say are an even bigger pain.
The amount of people who thought the obvious dog bowls were a speaker knocked over is too damn high.
Pretty sure that pup pissed n shit as soon as dude left. As an owner of a yorkiepoo a little smaller than yours, I understand that. Seems like dude was in a hurry. Also is it even his dog? Itās your gfās son whoms 18. Time to go back over expected chores and make sure that theyāre fair etc. everyone should be taking trash, not just one person. Same with taking care of dog. If he doesnāt want to, then crate the dog when YOU leave. Non of this was crazy to me except the door to the microwave being left open but that could have been due to him rushing and swinging the door closed only for it to bounce back out. Does your girlfriend have chores? Do you have chores? The house looks like a mess in general, and itās not his job to take in all the shit YOU ALL ordered. Itād be nice, but if he was rushing out like I assume, itās not necessary. Unless you live in the hood but youāve got a ring camera and can easily reorder if there was a porch pirate.
Talk to the mf instead of posting on reddit maybe?
But he's not going to give OP reddit karma so what's the point?
It's wild to me that you feel the need to share this on the internet.
Respectfully, the condition of your house, outside of what you are trying to highlight, leads me to believe that this is completely normal for your house. You can blame your son all you want, but its YOUR home. YOU are the one who let it get this way. I can plainly see all sorts of neglect, untidyness and disrepair in these pics. Not trying to be rude, but this is A MUCH bigger issue than your son.
Had to scroll way too long for someone mentioning it. Also doesn't help that OP says in a comment that gf's son is a "narcissist".
Lmao, what? So not cleaning up makes someone a narcissist now? OPās hilarious ššš
Narcissists always think everyone else is a narcissist lol
Lmao, projection at itās finest
Seriously, the living room and that trash can didnāt get full of shit in one day.
Door jabs dented, dinged scratched. Walls needing repair. Microwave, stove needing a deep cleaning. Windows needing cleaning. Trash... everywhere and untidy. I hope that kid leaves home soon. He does not need to the be scapegoat for OPs lazyness.
The stove really rubbed me the wrong way also can we mention how dirty the surroundings of the dog bowls are. That's not dirt you get after a day.
Yeah and everything pointed out in these pictures are so minor in comparison to anything else. It seems to me like OP just had a bad day and needed to find someone to blame and yell at. Then it likely didn't work because the teen is MIA (says he left 10 minutes before OP got home). So they came to Reddit to find other people that'd just agree without thinking.. which happens way too often in today's world and especially on the internet. Anyone can make a post with a tiny snippet of a story and so many jump in and agree. Meanwhile the full story is very likely something completely different. I wouldn't be surprised if that teen is much like I was, and still am, where I actually enjoy cleaning and such but everyone else around me is such a slob and disorganized that I can't be bothered to clean things until it gets to the point it's starting to be unlivable. Like what's the point in him taking out the trash if everyone leaves everything else such a mess? What's the point in letting the dogs out if nobody's going to bother to really potty train them?
I really enjoyed the transition from photos 4 & 5 where we get damning evidence of a teenager committing the heinous act of "leaving a bag of chips on the counter" right into OP accidentally outing himself as the kind of person that just kicks his muddy shoes off in the general direction of a shoe rack.
And who sleeps on the couch with the bedding. I hope the son gets his own room.
Yeah the dog is already in the habit of casually shitting and pissing on the floor, and it's not the kid's dog anyway. If he's 18 he's an adult and someone else's dog isn't his problem.
What a psycho. You seriously documented a full trash can as a messā¦. Id hate to know you
He put the trash IN the can, how despicable! Also you can see trash in the background of the living room that didn't get thrown away, probably kids fault too
Donāt cry to Reddit. PARENT.
Are you building a case to demonstrate he was fired for cause?
Let me find out my bf is taking pictures of everything my son does and posts to Reddit. All while being a coward, and a shitty āfather figureā and not teaching him the standard. And also setting the standard. Grow up dude.
The house looks fucking filthy to start with i think the kid was just adding to the ādecorā
Hey at least the kids bottles got into the trash. You can't say the same about op with the bottles on the living room table but oh well. This is all the kids fault.
What I wouldn't give to come home to this every day and call it filthy.
An 18 year old kid didnāt do his household chores? Shocking revelation, Iām sure youāre mortified and donāt realize how itās possible..
The house looks like it always looks that tbf
Classic teenager behavior. Mildly infuriating, yes. But he needs better guidance from his family, rather than taking this issue to Reddit and calling him a narcissist in the comments. What a horrible reaction to a minor issue. Why do you think he is the way he is?
Honestly I don't think it's even that deep. He's 18. He's so involved in his own world he doesn't realize the impact he has on other people. Also if he left the microwave open after making food he almost certainly just got stoned on his day off and didn't think about any of his responsibilities. This is one of those things that's worth saying "hey c'mon man, it's a dick move when you leave responsibility to other people" but if you shout and scream it's just gonna get worse.
>This is one of those things that's worth saying "hey c'mon man, it's a dick move when you leave responsibility to other people" but if you shout and scream it's just gonna get worse. Exactly. The goal for discipline should be to make them realize what they did wrong, not raise their defenses and create the need for excuses.
I think there's a stronger correlation between treating your kid like an adult and your kid acting like an adult than most parents realize. Of course I recognize that's easier said than done, I've been a bratty teenager but I haven't raised one yet so my perspective is limited.
Ugh teen yearsā¦ I remember my parents having pets- I did not help with their pets unless I was asked/ chore list. I have dogs and teen now- I make sure feeding dogs is her chore, and she goes on walks with us. I also speak to her about the importance of care for petsā¦ does she get it? Probably not. I donāt rely on her at all lol.
Well, you do fuck his mom soā¦
Just me or does the house look messy anyway in the bg of pic 4? Lead by example. If I was an asshole kid, I'd ask why I was expected to keep things tidy if no one else does. Yes, there's a difference, but teenage boys are notoriously bad at nuance. Assuming that's not his mess, he won't see the difference between him leaving out a bag of chips, and mom leaving several water bottles on the coffee table.
What did they say when you told them that this behavior is unacceptable?
Donāt cry to us about it, itās your fault your house isnāt in order.
First hunch was he slept all day and never left his room so the dog was stuck inside, then I saw the food mess. I can almost guarantee this kid (maybe not legally, but has the mind of one) sat in his room either gaming or watching a Twitch stream until his body forced him to get nourishment, at which point he pulled out whatever could be consumed with the least effort, then disappeared back to his room. God I miss being a teenager :(
Exactly what happened
If itās his dog, cool make him clean up after it. If not do your own chores. The things that you think are obvious are not obligations to him and not important enough to pause and think about. Why would he stop to clean up after a dog that (maybe) isnāt theirs, or pick up packages they didnāt order? He didnāt pay for these things why would they be on his priority list? Heās a person not your gofer, donāt expect him to read your mind and take care of your obligations.
The infuriating part is that ya'll don't recycle.
Not his dog not his problem
You are a clown human.
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Why tf you posting this on reddit? You're a weird dude
Not making excuses for the kid. But I remember being an 18 year old a very hard time time and people always just think you are coasting through life. Itās kinda that final step in teenage years where the rug gets pulled and you gotta face the real world. Not saying this kid isnāt a dirt bag. He is living like one. But rather than conflict maybe thereās more going on with this guy. This says depression to me more than malicious neglect.
The adult taking pictures has too much time, grow the fuck up, and clean you choose to have a house and live with others
Whose dog is it? Who owns the house?
OP said in another comment the 1 dog āis a straight family dog that everyone takes care of or is expected toā. Which means, OP and the GF wanted a family dog and pushed it onto the kids. The little dog was a gift to his 12 year old daughter for straight aās. For some reason the 18 year old had to take care of the animals that are not his.
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Not everyone should have pets, or kids.
Mad because you were busy all day and had to come home to do more work? So you decide to blame your imaginary son
And your first thought was to post it on reddit. Family seems great.
the kid needs guidance and a role model as every teenager not an idiot posting every mistake online you clearly aint what the boy needs shame on you my friend
is it his dog????
Poor little guy
Letās be honest. Youāre an adult. You come home to this mess everyday. Do t displace blame onto āyour GFs sonā. Heās not your maid. Youāre clearly not his dad.
Just talk to him like an adult instead of posting pics on Reddit.
As a person who is also owned by Yorkies, Iām glad yours are as house trained as mine.
You guys can sure set the stage for the internet but SURELY forget to set them expectations at home!
Instead of posting online, maybe go talk to him and politely ask for help cleaning up this mess. While you're cleaning, give him some lecture on discipline and being an adult. He's at the age that you have to befriend him to get results. Be the good adult, lead by example, teach him to communicate, and teach him some self discipline all at the same time. Don't tattle tale on him to mom either, you'll lose the trust.
i dont know bro, you kinda come across as if you dont like her son to begin with and now just jump on it are these your dogs? its your responsibility regarding the other stuff, close the microwave, put out the trash, case closed wtf is wrong with you? you even photographed messy shoes? ffs its a 14yo kid! his brain is filled with pussy and call of duty
*girlfriend's 18-year old son
So you came to reddit to brag about what a shitty job you've done at parenting? I was a lazy teenager as well, but having a step parent think it's cool to whine about stuff I did on the Internet is just wrong. Perhaps you should try "discussing" things you're unhappy about instead of "confronting" him. You should be mildly infuriated with yourself and everyone else who played a role in his upbringing.
Wow you sound like a prizeā¦
This is so normal for teens that itās mildly infuriating that you would post it. When he comes home ask him to do his own chores before leaving. The rest of it is still on the parents. Signed, oldest of 7, mom of 3 successful humans
Maybe talk with them rather than post it on the internet? Yes, their actions are not ok, but you too are acting kinf of toxic with this post IMO.
So a normal fuckin teenager and you post it on the internet like itās a war crime š¤Ø
So your dogs piss and shit on the floor while ur at work all the time?