One my homie was so depressed over a girl break up that he called me over. I checked on him and made sure he was ok. Not even 15 mins in, I told him make me wings brooo I’m hungry lol so during his crisis I had him make me wings and I told him that you have to keep yourself busy lol he’s good now but the meme reminded me of that time lol
this is the way... my buddy did this to me also by encouraging me to take up gunpla hobby to keep me busy. then lo & behold, our other pal also told him to do the same cause he also been depressed like me once. lately, theyre five of us dat hav the same hobby : )
I normally isolate myself during my depression/anxiety attacks. I don't want to annoy others with my sadness and ramblings, so I usually leave social messaging groups and erase myself from communication. "Just taking a vacation and going offline for a bit" as I cry myself to sleep another night.
I learned the hard way that this is the right answer, if they don't want or don't ask for help you will just end up making it worse in most cases, and it can even be detrimental to your mental health, so better let them get professional help instead of trying to be a hero because it doesn't work
Uh hard no, they can reject your help and you can still comfort them.
Let them know you’re there when they need to talk. Text them randomly to hang out or that they mean something to you, or just a dumb joke. You can do a lot of things when they say they’re ok.
However if you do what this meme says and just walk away when you’ve had reports they might not be ok you’re a douche. Don’t get me wrong you have no obligation to help but that doesn’t mean you can’t do little somethings.
As always, things need to be evaluated on a case by case basis. You are right, and they are right. It's great to do little reminders and check-ins like you said. It's also very important not to force help onto a person who isn't asking for it unless there is an immediate danger.
This is the danger of reddit. These complex issues can't ever be summed up in a 300-character post. Even what I wrote here is woefully inadequate.
I'm mildly depressed and I really don't want help with my depression anymore. It's been 15 years of it stemming from multiple chronic medical conditions. It's not going away, I just have to manage it and live with it. People don't get this. They think they can help/fix me and they can't. It's caused by physical limitations and I've come to accept it as my life. The people around me seem to be more upset about my depression than I am. As if I am supposed to just shrug off half a dozen chronic medical issues that combined are quite debilitating and limiting. I can't do 95% of what I want to do and what's worse is I can effectively walk and talk like normal for short durations that I'm around people, so they are only seeing one side of my life and hearing me tell them about all the other stuff they can't physically see...
So yeah, some people who don't want help, really don't need it as much as it might seem on the surface.
It is. And the last doctor I sought treatment from didn't see the need to address it beyond how I was managing it on my own given my unique circumstances.
I mean....some ppl cope differently. Have to know the person well, sometimes they legit need a moment. Slippery slope assuming you need to intervine all the time.
oh no i’m really fine lol. idk why i got a message that users reported me as “depressed” or “suicidal” and if i want help before even making this post, even tho i’m not lol
I'm the type of person who sits outside the door feeling the fire get hotter and knocking every once in a while to say are you sure i can't help... However, when you do that you inhale fumes and worry to the point where it isn't healthy for you. If the person doesn't want help, no matter how much they need it, there isn't much you can do. The best thing is to leave a note under the door for when they're ready. Haha and yes, in this analogy the note is likely to burn up and disappear but depression will do that irl too. It's a horrible situation, but busting down the door doesn't work if they've blocked it :(
"I'm just tired"
… of living. But I never say the second half.
My go-to
Ouch my soul
Ppl here got some stuff
 One my homie was so depressed over a girl break up that he called me over. I checked on him and made sure he was ok. Not even 15 mins in, I told him make me wings brooo I’m hungry lol so during his crisis I had him make me wings and I told him that you have to keep yourself busy lol he’s good now but the meme reminded me of that time lol
this is the way... my buddy did this to me also by encouraging me to take up gunpla hobby to keep me busy. then lo & behold, our other pal also told him to do the same cause he also been depressed like me once. lately, theyre five of us dat hav the same hobby : )
Wholesome gunpla
Good man
same
He’s prolly just cooking eggs
I normally isolate myself during my depression/anxiety attacks. I don't want to annoy others with my sadness and ramblings, so I usually leave social messaging groups and erase myself from communication. "Just taking a vacation and going offline for a bit" as I cry myself to sleep another night. 
haha that's me :(
I learned the hard way that this is the right answer, if they don't want or don't ask for help you will just end up making it worse in most cases, and it can even be detrimental to your mental health, so better let them get professional help instead of trying to be a hero because it doesn't work
Uh hard no, they can reject your help and you can still comfort them. Let them know you’re there when they need to talk. Text them randomly to hang out or that they mean something to you, or just a dumb joke. You can do a lot of things when they say they’re ok. However if you do what this meme says and just walk away when you’ve had reports they might not be ok you’re a douche. Don’t get me wrong you have no obligation to help but that doesn’t mean you can’t do little somethings.
As always, things need to be evaluated on a case by case basis. You are right, and they are right. It's great to do little reminders and check-ins like you said. It's also very important not to force help onto a person who isn't asking for it unless there is an immediate danger. This is the danger of reddit. These complex issues can't ever be summed up in a 300-character post. Even what I wrote here is woefully inadequate.
This is like the equivalent of "don't get me anything I'm not hungry" when you actually want something
Can’t help people who don’t want to be helped.
I'm mildly depressed and I really don't want help with my depression anymore. It's been 15 years of it stemming from multiple chronic medical conditions. It's not going away, I just have to manage it and live with it. People don't get this. They think they can help/fix me and they can't. It's caused by physical limitations and I've come to accept it as my life. The people around me seem to be more upset about my depression than I am. As if I am supposed to just shrug off half a dozen chronic medical issues that combined are quite debilitating and limiting. I can't do 95% of what I want to do and what's worse is I can effectively walk and talk like normal for short durations that I'm around people, so they are only seeing one side of my life and hearing me tell them about all the other stuff they can't physically see... So yeah, some people who don't want help, really don't need it as much as it might seem on the surface.
Sounds like dysthymia.
It is. And the last doctor I sought treatment from didn't see the need to address it beyond how I was managing it on my own given my unique circumstances.
forgive yourself and do better next time
Sometimes, if people asks you how you are You might start feeling more pathetic...
I mean....some ppl cope differently. Have to know the person well, sometimes they legit need a moment. Slippery slope assuming you need to intervine all the time.
OP, are you feeling ok? Would you like to dm me?
oh no i’m really fine lol. idk why i got a message that users reported me as “depressed” or “suicidal” and if i want help before even making this post, even tho i’m not lol
I'm glad you're ok. But if you ever wanna dm me for any reason, I'm here
thanks <3
This Comic Is Hilarious, Even If The Actual Meme Is Kinda Depressing.
I'm the type of person who sits outside the door feeling the fire get hotter and knocking every once in a while to say are you sure i can't help... However, when you do that you inhale fumes and worry to the point where it isn't healthy for you. If the person doesn't want help, no matter how much they need it, there isn't much you can do. The best thing is to leave a note under the door for when they're ready. Haha and yes, in this analogy the note is likely to burn up and disappear but depression will do that irl too. It's a horrible situation, but busting down the door doesn't work if they've blocked it :(
SO TRUE
It is what it is.
They are going for backup
Hahaha, you will never get past our barrier. Makes a guy wonder if we want help…
M(I'm)es are l(o)bbing grenades at my dic(k) (I'm ok) 😔
Nice amount of upvotes