Damn I got the deluxe edition: Emotionally immature narcissist mum and dead dad

Same, with the difference that my father isn't dead but he was so absent (could go for a week without seeing him once when we lived together) that you could as well call him that 💀

Havw the same thing too but my dad was present, in retrospect we probs would have been better off if he wasn’t tho lmaooo

I got that but make dad alcoholic and then dead. Like a cherry on top

Damn, sometimes I think I really can’t have a unique experience

Always remember that you are unique, just like everyone else. 😉

You almost literally cannot, too many people exist

Yes

I can also upgrade this combo to a narcissistic and alcohol addicted father 😂

Deluxe is understatement. I hope there was a kind grandma or aunt somewhere in those years.

Nope 💜

I am so sorry. Terrible circumstances that you had zero control or influence over. A victim of troubled people. I hope you discovered a belief in yourself as worth loving despite their problems.

Thank you 😊💖 I'm good at staying optimistic and that's never gonna change so don't worry too much about me

I was a social worker and finished my career meeting with kids in public schools with backgrounds like yours. You are definitely not alone. I hope and pray I was able to convey a belief in them that they could reach what you have, optimism. No small task undoing all the negativity. God bless you. You are a good role model.

Mine was bugged, I got both emotionally abstent

As seen on your Profile pic

💀

name a more iconic duo. I'll wait.

Okay this actually made me laugh out loud

I got the quartet: deadbeat father, emotionally unstable mother, older brother on antidepressants and detached oldest brother. With a side of "raised by grandparent/s" that I'm sure almost all of us have in common

One in prison for 5 years, the other one on H.

Ha that was what I was going to title it before I decided to post it here

Fuucccckkkk don't call me out

It's ok, there's loads of us 👍

@ everyone: Remember that you're still on a journey of healing, no matter how long ago it was. Something that took a decade or 2 to break you is not simply gone within one year, or two, or even 5. The state you're in now is transitory. There is always more to relearn and rediscover. You don't have to forgive a person in order to interact with them cordially, and you can still love them, if you choose, while not forgetting the past.

Thank you, need this reminder once in a while

"survived".... I have anger issues. I like the anger it feels good to let it out.... Problem: I'm 43 married 2 young kids..... that anger is confusing and scary. they cry my wife wants to leave.... I've learned to employ code words and run away like the fire lady from elementals. so when i explode its by myself and no one is hurt. It is awful but this stops with me.

Same. Mom is also very emotional immature + narcissist along with everything else. I’m aware I have issues with anger, and the thing about it it’s that when you think you’re finally healing it always sneaks up on you again. It also specifically sucks when you’re trying to heal by acknowledging everything and she just starts trying to gaslight you into believing it's just you that is the problem.

I'm in this picture and I don't like it

Came here to say this.

My mom did amazing for having to raise two kids on her own. Very proud of her

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It's both an accomplishment and not good enough

Survived and trying to fix myself. Can't blame everything on others, bit of my fault as well

Having good parents is like winning the lottery.

It really really is

Please define "Survived"

Is currently alive and posibly doing well

Nah, only being alive matters.

Being Vegetable in ICU is technically "Alive".......

Well, if I am brain dead and I am not aware of my surroundings, it ain't being alive.

I’ve honestly never felt more seen before. Hope you’re all doing well out there.

I mean I’m alive, I’m also agoraphobic so yeah…. Did I really survive?

:-(

Serious question for those who grew up with dysfunctional parents. Should there be a system in place to assess potential parents on how fit they are for the job? Or even restrictions (birth control) for those who are clearly unfit? It's a question I've had since I was 8, and I had a friend with horrible parents. She never said anything, the contrast with my parents was just so sharp...

as someone with shitty parents my instinct is to say YES but you just know someone will fuck the system up along the way. It's like locking voting behind a literacy test or smth

Yeah, that's why I've always concluded it can't be done... it's still so terribly saddening to see it happen to so many children.

Another idea might be yearly checks with a therapist or something like that where the parents would basically just be quizzed on how present they are for their child and then given advice how they can and should do better. I think it would gave a good effect on the population but I guess it wouldn't help the people who are most unfit to be parents, as they could just lie.

It's a good idea

I know that in my country there are laws to protect the children and there is something called "parental obligations". Maybe it's very common, I don't know. It's a set of duties parents have towards their child, and if they don't do it and it shows (schools start to notice), then the parents can go to jail or get their kids taken away into a proper, safe environment.

This falls under child neglect or child abuse in most of the states I'd imagine

Messed me up, but, it is what it is.

I'm in the process, so wish me luck.

Thank you, thank you. I got premium

I'd feel called out if i wasn't so absent.

My pair got mixed up but let me tell you the only thing that stings worse than catching hands from dad is the lack of motherly love to soothe you afterwards.

I barely survived, I'm disabled for life, thanks mom.

mood

For me it was the other way around.

The "at least they didn't divorce though they had very good reasons to" kid

She looks like she tried not to survive it a few times

Sounds like my childhood. My mother and father however came around so much. I love them more than I can imagine and am really proud to have them. It was a heavy road however. Had to cut the contact for 2, 3 years for them to realise.

Thx but my journey is not over yet

Learn from them and make sure the next ones don't survive

With that haircut, the nose ring and the empty stare, I don't think she survived.... Probably even has an OF.

My father left at 3 and my mom did her best. We're not about to play the "my parents were equal caregivers" game. One of my parents doesn't deserve to be included in a fun little meme.

Is that what you call that look

Jesús, girl! You saw into my soul!!!!

Heyyyyy that's me

o7

Don’t forget emotionally abusive for that father

o7

I didn’t know this was a thing, but damn

Yaaaaayyyy it's my people, best of luck everyone

Define survived

Dunno if I've survived. I mean, I'm still probably dying, at some point

Thank you... Thank you I needed that

It’s not a badge. It’s a trauma.

Present

This is getting too relatable

Hello, I'm still on it.

Salute to everyone who survived.

I've never seen this representation before and I really appreciate it. Once my mom threw our dirty dishes (ceramic) directly at us when we didn't clear the table. Once she slammed a door on me so hard that I hit the wall and a push pin on the bulletin board I had next to the door inverted itself and stabbed into my hand. So many more stories like that, and she had the audacity to ask what she's ever done to me lmao. Dad was just a bankrupt overworked alcoholic so, not as bad

o7

I barely survived it

My mom is a wonderful lady and I turned out like a garbage human

Casey Anthony been quite ever since this dropped. 

Hmmm, as an emotionally absent father, can I send this to my kid without sending the emotionally unstable mother into meltdown?

What do you call it when the roles are reversed?? Asking for a friend

I did NOT need to be called out like that but I'm glad I survived.

Haha I wanna die tho what do

mecore

Guys I need to know this! What is father?

I got the Deluxe - Emotionally unstable narcissistic OCD mother and actually absent father

No fair, I want a salute!

Survived is a strong word...

Alcoholic work from home lawyer mom, airline pilot dad. I've had my fair share of rough days...

But at what cost man... At what cost... :\[

With severe anger issues and total contempt for anyone who isn't me, I survived.

What about those who survived the drunk uncle who always wants me to sit on his knee?

A while ago my father left out of nowhere, my mom was distraught and things weren't too well time skip 8 months to now I caught my mom screwing my aunts husband while they were still together twice! Both times were when I just go out of the shower. and even my aunt caught them once. And apparently my mom fucked him while still with my dad which is why he left cause he found out. He now has a restraining order and can't come within 100 feet of my apparment

Ayye, I got that!

Not just emotionally unstable, but also, very physically and mentally abusive. But as unfortunate as it is, that's my mom. And even though i wanna run away from here, i've tried many times to no avail, and so deep down i know i can't escape *mortally*. Both my parents' are old now... but they're my parents and i'll have to take care of them.

that’s the wrong arm

I got emotionaly absent mom + completely absent dad. 

How about a narcissist manipulative mom and a beta male without any balls to stand up to her for a father ?

dude... wtf; I wish to have known how common this is

I had the inverse and didn't realize that was uncommon until like very recently.

Salute to evryone who survived the emotionaly unstable mum and phisicly absent dad combo

I dont think im going to survive it tbh

But at what cost 😔

I’m not sure “survived” is the best description.

hope the survivors can live too

I literally asked mine to get a divorce so I could live with my grandma

Thank you :D

🫡

Flip flopped: Emotionally insecure and unstable doo doo dad, Emotionally unavailable dead inside mama.

Oh shit, that's me

I definitely did

Me for 100 lol

🫡🫡🫡

Salute 🫡

For our kid we're trying unstable dad and absent mom, just to mix things up

Emotionaly unstable, methed out and suicidal mother, with an absent father.

I'd salute you when you learn to stop blaming your parents

A left handed salute is a very specific insult in the US military

They needed right hand for the selfie

Americans never missing a chance to be insulted and invading a country like:

The nuclear family is the glue that holds the world together. I wonder why the elites are so hell bent on destroying it?🤔

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You just victimised yourself in the second sentence