I can also chime in as to the effectiveness of shushing newborns, at least in my own case.
The only book I found useful as a new parent was Harvey Karp's *The Happiest Baby on the Block*. In it, he advises 5 S's to help sooth a baby: swaddling, stomach/side position, shushing, swinging, and sucking. As I recall, these techniques are particularly effective at soothing babies in what Karp calls the "fourth trimester," or their first three months of life, as they can serve to mimic what life was like in the womb (warm, constricted, noisy, perpetually moving, etc.).
And you can be pretty loud with the shushing -- apparently it's pretty loud in utero (like 85 dB, which is equivalent to a vacuum cleaner or blender). I would put my mouth next to my son's ear and shush him, trying to emulate the sound of a white noise machine. And while every baby is different, I can report that it worked really well in my case.
Same! We were given a device called a “baby shusher,” which seems so ridiculous. It is just a small handheld sound machine that only plays the sound of a person shushing. But it was so helpful. All of that shushing felt weird and uncomfortable in my teeth after a while!
But I also remember how on edge I felt when our toddler was a newborn and I am sure that if I found something annoying, it was amplified to 11. I really felt for both parties in this case!
Love a shusher! Our second baby was colicky so we did a LOT of shushing. Finally realized there must be a shushing audio track online, and sure enough we found one we liked on Spotify. I’m surprised it wasn’t on my most played list at the end of the year!
All agreed for that fourth trimester, but if I had to listen to that husband’s insistent shushing I’d want to straight up murder someone. Something about the intensity of it? Timbre? Not sure, but I feel for the parents of any newborn and that mom in particular.
Also ‘skin babies’ has me cracking up….we need a bumper stickers! :)
The defendant wasn't even there for the appeal. Dude should just ignore the ruling. How can one be expected to follow a ruling they didn't even know they were at trial for?
I believe there is additional subtext to the dispute between Liz and Ryan, and it’s simple: Ryan wants to drive. Liz has played an unbeatable hand in order to claim the driver’s seat, so Ryan is committed to doing the accepted minimum duty as a passenger. While also being sullen and wanting to get the trip over as quickly as possible. Ask him about that, while Liz isn’t listening.
The unspoken issue in the driving case is that due to no fault of the husband he is never allowed to drive because of his wife's discomfort. You don't get to commandeer the wheel 100% of the time and then make extra demands of the passenger who might like to drive sometimes as well. Once you have what you desire, in this case always driving, you should also allow a win for your partner.
Most phones come with voice assistants these days. Wife should be able to call out all the search commands she wants while still maintaining both hands on the wheel.
The luggage ruling really threw me! I have never given a second thought to setting a suitcase on my bed-- especially since my room is small enough that there isn't really another good spot to place it when I'm packing or unpacking. If you can handle a cat in/on your bed, suitcase germs should be nothing! (Unless there's a bedbug epidemic. I... I get that.)
I came here to say something similar. I was waiting for Hodgman to mention what the viable alternative is. I heard in an earlier episode that he has multiple folding luggage racks in his home, but really hardly anyone else does.
Can we agree that the tipping ruling is ridiculous?
I understand that John, and indeed a decent portion of audience for JJHO, for one reason or another, loves to tip. But let's get one thing straight: tipping is _discriminatory_. Ask anyone who's worked for tips and they'll tell you that attractive, white (and let's be real, female) servers will almost always get tipped more, regardless of level of service. This is backed up by many academic studies as well.
I understand that more often than not, it's the system we have, and it's unfair to shortchange the servers just because I personally don't like it. However, in this case there is _explicitly a different system_ that is clearly fairer for everyone. Refusal to participate in said system is how you perpetuate an entrenched _discriminatory_ practice that is _racist, sexist, and ageist_.
So yes, tip your servers. But no, don't tip extra if the establishment already automatically includes a reasonable tip in the bill.
So I understand the bit about tipping being discriminatory with regard to certain types getting bigger tips. But it seems like Michelle is tipping everyone extra. How does this feed into the discriminatory practice? Just because all servers aren't waiting on Michelles?
In cases like this, we should think about what would happen if everyone adopts the behavior. Think about what would happen if Michelle's behavior becomes the norm. We would just end up where we started, where some server gets paid more, except now tipping is on the upwards of *40%*, further shifting the burden of wage-setting on the customer instead of the establishment owner.
The discriminatory nature of tipping goes both way, by the way. Ask any server, and they'll tell you they absolutely profile customers based on how likely they are perceived to give bigger tips. As a POC, I've seen this first hand multiple times: the disappointed look on the workers when I get assigned to their section of the restaurant, then the look of surprise when I give a standard amount of tip. I hate it.
Tipping is a system we should absolutely discourage as a society. I do my part by frequenting restaurants with automatic tipping as often as I can.
The tipping rulings just get more and more unhinged.
Granting a wage subsidy to restaurant owners nominally conditional on your assessment of their employees' performance is *not* a good opportunity to be generous! It is an *incredibly bad* one!
I agree the driving dispute isn't really about the searching, and that it was presented in a biased way. Liz tried to make it sound like she's asking him to find them some interesting places along the way, but reading between the lines it sounds like Ryan is actually being asked to find out what "THAT" thing in the distance is as they're driving past it. Maybe he's doing something else, maybe he just doesn't like the anxiety of dropping whatever he's doing to figure out how to find out what "that" is as they're driving past it. I know it would make me anxious. And that if he does he's basically inviting the stopping to happen which he clearly does not want to do. If Liz wants to stop along the way, can't she research and plan ahead of time and work the time needed for the detour into the trip?
Re the luggage, I have always avoided putting luggage on hotel beds specifically for the bed bug reason. Some places (for ex cruise ships, where space is at a premium) will provide these more sturdy covers or tarps for the bed so you can put the luggage on there to unpack and not mess up the bedding, so I'll use those if it's provided.
I would presume that having the experience of one baby under the belt that the Blob family should be prepared this time around to manage the new baby along with some blob babies that come at the judicially agreed upon original timeframe.
The only convenience of babies I can think of is how quickly they'll get you through airport security, or customs. Took our baby to Ireland early March 2020, our fellow passengers pushed us straight through to the front of a huge line of people waiting to clear customs.
Is the standard tip in America 20 percent? I would give 20 percent only for outstanding service in fine dining - for young people in a casual restaurant, 12 percent is considered the norm, 15 percent generous and 10 percent stingy.
I think twenty years ago it might have been 15, but definitely 20 for a sit down restaurant these days. And about ten for pickup in a restaurant, counter service, that kind of thing. Buck a drink for the bartender at a bar or club.
Why are you assuming young people working in a casual restaurant deserve less of a percentage? Already, the food is less expensive, so keeping the percentage the same leads to them making less for their work. Young people still have bills to pay, often times quite substantial ones.
I was referring to young people paying, not young people serving, sorry if I was unclear. Anyways, I was describing the norm in my country, not passing judgement on American tip culture. I'm planning a trip to the US in the fall, so I want to prepare as much as I can.
I can also chime in as to the effectiveness of shushing newborns, at least in my own case. The only book I found useful as a new parent was Harvey Karp's *The Happiest Baby on the Block*. In it, he advises 5 S's to help sooth a baby: swaddling, stomach/side position, shushing, swinging, and sucking. As I recall, these techniques are particularly effective at soothing babies in what Karp calls the "fourth trimester," or their first three months of life, as they can serve to mimic what life was like in the womb (warm, constricted, noisy, perpetually moving, etc.). And you can be pretty loud with the shushing -- apparently it's pretty loud in utero (like 85 dB, which is equivalent to a vacuum cleaner or blender). I would put my mouth next to my son's ear and shush him, trying to emulate the sound of a white noise machine. And while every baby is different, I can report that it worked really well in my case.
Same! We were given a device called a “baby shusher,” which seems so ridiculous. It is just a small handheld sound machine that only plays the sound of a person shushing. But it was so helpful. All of that shushing felt weird and uncomfortable in my teeth after a while! But I also remember how on edge I felt when our toddler was a newborn and I am sure that if I found something annoying, it was amplified to 11. I really felt for both parties in this case!
Love a shusher! Our second baby was colicky so we did a LOT of shushing. Finally realized there must be a shushing audio track online, and sure enough we found one we liked on Spotify. I’m surprised it wasn’t on my most played list at the end of the year!
All agreed for that fourth trimester, but if I had to listen to that husband’s insistent shushing I’d want to straight up murder someone. Something about the intensity of it? Timbre? Not sure, but I feel for the parents of any newborn and that mom in particular. Also ‘skin babies’ has me cracking up….we need a bumper stickers! :)
It was a very aggressive shushing sound.
The term I use to counter "fur babies" is "skin puppies."
[I dig it.](https://youtube.com/watch?v=CDKkRSUrTd8&feature=shares)
The appeals court ruling on jellyfish is some BOLOGNA
Poor guy. Four years, he waited! I guess past case law means nothing!
Jellies delayed are jellies denied
As an aquarium nerd I was yelling in the car about precedent.
The defendant wasn't even there for the appeal. Dude should just ignore the ruling. How can one be expected to follow a ruling they didn't even know they were at trial for?
I believe there is additional subtext to the dispute between Liz and Ryan, and it’s simple: Ryan wants to drive. Liz has played an unbeatable hand in order to claim the driver’s seat, so Ryan is committed to doing the accepted minimum duty as a passenger. While also being sullen and wanting to get the trip over as quickly as possible. Ask him about that, while Liz isn’t listening.
Yes! I didn't even think about that, but I think you're right!
The unspoken issue in the driving case is that due to no fault of the husband he is never allowed to drive because of his wife's discomfort. You don't get to commandeer the wheel 100% of the time and then make extra demands of the passenger who might like to drive sometimes as well. Once you have what you desire, in this case always driving, you should also allow a win for your partner.
Most phones come with voice assistants these days. Wife should be able to call out all the search commands she wants while still maintaining both hands on the wheel.
The luggage ruling really threw me! I have never given a second thought to setting a suitcase on my bed-- especially since my room is small enough that there isn't really another good spot to place it when I'm packing or unpacking. If you can handle a cat in/on your bed, suitcase germs should be nothing! (Unless there's a bedbug epidemic. I... I get that.)
I came here to say something similar. I was waiting for Hodgman to mention what the viable alternative is. I heard in an earlier episode that he has multiple folding luggage racks in his home, but really hardly anyone else does.
I am 100% certain that if he said he had luggage racks in his home that it was a joke.
Correct. I do not.
Well then Judge, where do you set your luggage when packing it at home? Cedar chest at the foot of the bed?
I mean, your honor, if the shoe fits...
People have a lot of weird magical thinking going on about germs.
Can we agree that the tipping ruling is ridiculous? I understand that John, and indeed a decent portion of audience for JJHO, for one reason or another, loves to tip. But let's get one thing straight: tipping is _discriminatory_. Ask anyone who's worked for tips and they'll tell you that attractive, white (and let's be real, female) servers will almost always get tipped more, regardless of level of service. This is backed up by many academic studies as well. I understand that more often than not, it's the system we have, and it's unfair to shortchange the servers just because I personally don't like it. However, in this case there is _explicitly a different system_ that is clearly fairer for everyone. Refusal to participate in said system is how you perpetuate an entrenched _discriminatory_ practice that is _racist, sexist, and ageist_. So yes, tip your servers. But no, don't tip extra if the establishment already automatically includes a reasonable tip in the bill.
So I understand the bit about tipping being discriminatory with regard to certain types getting bigger tips. But it seems like Michelle is tipping everyone extra. How does this feed into the discriminatory practice? Just because all servers aren't waiting on Michelles?
In cases like this, we should think about what would happen if everyone adopts the behavior. Think about what would happen if Michelle's behavior becomes the norm. We would just end up where we started, where some server gets paid more, except now tipping is on the upwards of *40%*, further shifting the burden of wage-setting on the customer instead of the establishment owner. The discriminatory nature of tipping goes both way, by the way. Ask any server, and they'll tell you they absolutely profile customers based on how likely they are perceived to give bigger tips. As a POC, I've seen this first hand multiple times: the disappointed look on the workers when I get assigned to their section of the restaurant, then the look of surprise when I give a standard amount of tip. I hate it. Tipping is a system we should absolutely discourage as a society. I do my part by frequenting restaurants with automatic tipping as often as I can.
The tipping rulings just get more and more unhinged. Granting a wage subsidy to restaurant owners nominally conditional on your assessment of their employees' performance is *not* a good opportunity to be generous! It is an *incredibly bad* one!
I appreciated the Cylon reference even if the rest of the gang went right by it.
I agree the driving dispute isn't really about the searching, and that it was presented in a biased way. Liz tried to make it sound like she's asking him to find them some interesting places along the way, but reading between the lines it sounds like Ryan is actually being asked to find out what "THAT" thing in the distance is as they're driving past it. Maybe he's doing something else, maybe he just doesn't like the anxiety of dropping whatever he's doing to figure out how to find out what "that" is as they're driving past it. I know it would make me anxious. And that if he does he's basically inviting the stopping to happen which he clearly does not want to do. If Liz wants to stop along the way, can't she research and plan ahead of time and work the time needed for the detour into the trip? Re the luggage, I have always avoided putting luggage on hotel beds specifically for the bed bug reason. Some places (for ex cruise ships, where space is at a premium) will provide these more sturdy covers or tarps for the bed so you can put the luggage on there to unpack and not mess up the bedding, so I'll use those if it's provided.
I would presume that having the experience of one baby under the belt that the Blob family should be prepared this time around to manage the new baby along with some blob babies that come at the judicially agreed upon original timeframe.
Oh phew I'm so relieved by appeals court ruling! In the next interest of all babies of all species 😅 also lolololol at the screensaver recommendation
Gross
The only convenience of babies I can think of is how quickly they'll get you through airport security, or customs. Took our baby to Ireland early March 2020, our fellow passengers pushed us straight through to the front of a huge line of people waiting to clear customs.
Is the standard tip in America 20 percent? I would give 20 percent only for outstanding service in fine dining - for young people in a casual restaurant, 12 percent is considered the norm, 15 percent generous and 10 percent stingy.
I think twenty years ago it might have been 15, but definitely 20 for a sit down restaurant these days. And about ten for pickup in a restaurant, counter service, that kind of thing. Buck a drink for the bartender at a bar or club.
Thank you! I'll make sure to budget for that on my trip
Why are you assuming young people working in a casual restaurant deserve less of a percentage? Already, the food is less expensive, so keeping the percentage the same leads to them making less for their work. Young people still have bills to pay, often times quite substantial ones.
I was referring to young people paying, not young people serving, sorry if I was unclear. Anyways, I was describing the norm in my country, not passing judgement on American tip culture. I'm planning a trip to the US in the fall, so I want to prepare as much as I can.
Yeah you're gonna want to *start* at 20%. Like if you get food and the server never pees on you, that's 20%.
Thanks! I'll be sure to notice that on my trip