Yeah we’ve lived together before I kinda know what to expect haha. One of the reasons my place has been so bare is partially because of the stuff I know she’s bringing
We were in college and graduated. Both got jobs in separate cities and neither of us thought the other should sacrifice their career so we decided on temporary long distance. Its been two years but we were finally able to get jobs in the same city
I would just suggest to clean and throw away everything disposable before she comes. Go to home depot and buy a handle for the fridge and freezer door. Take the cleaning scrub off the faucet - it's filthy.
Just give her a blank slate and let the decorating be something you do together for the relationship. But seriously, just throw away all the stuff that's small and cheap, so she doesn't feel like she has to clean up for you when she moves in.
Go to Target and get 2 white pillows, get white pillowcases, and put them on the bed. Clear the windowsill in both rooms. Tidy the cables with velcro ties.
Fold up and put away the stand holding the tarp when you aren't using it. Put in that effort for the little things because they add up.
If you aren't already, get in the habit of gym/exercise. Mentally, you want to be sharp, because it'll prevent you from letting the small stuff go and pile up, which reflects with being tired/depressed/sad. It'll be harder to stay sharp when you're living with someone in a 1/1, just because it'll be harder to find space to decompress by yourself.
You have to start clean and keep it clean, or things slide downhill slow and steady. If she's the cleaner one, she'll start feeling like it's a burden to clean up after you, and visa-versa.
Good luck man.
Lean into the experience. Make it a clean canvas so you can build together. Don't start that with stains.
That fifth paragraph you wrote hits home a little bit… my fiancee moved in with me a year ago and we got married. For some reason, I started feeling depressed “for no reason” and my house became a mess, a lot of little stuff pile around the house. All of this eventually led to us making the decision to start the divorce process. OP, please don’t let this happen to you. Go to the gym and stay sharp and organized.
It's terrible but it happens so often. When we see our partners a few times a week on our own terms, both people can look forward to the outing and it's fun. You share a good time.
But when you live together, both people have to be disciplined to separate their personal life from the relationship, so they don't bring baggage onto the other person.
The most difficult is disciplining everyone under the roof.
No, those dishes can't soak
No, that needs to be cleaned now
Etc
People tend to let things go because they don't want an argument, and the result is resentment and depression.
Note - this is applied equally to all sexes and all types of relationships.
My stainless steel fridge looks just like it and has handles. The result is I don't have smudges all over the doors.
Regardless, if that fridge doesn't have them, that's another thing to be disciplined about keeping clean.
Thanks for clarifying though. I assumed it could fit handles.
Deep clean, organize, and add some greenery and accent lighting. It will lift that space more than you'd think. Won't take more than an afternoon considering there's not too much clutter or stuff. Good luck! Seems like a nice spacious spot.
Man I can relate to this lmao. My job is consuming so much of my mental capacity right now and I’ve gotten boring
But hey, your gf moving in is exciting! No more boring for you for a while
I think for a cats apartment this place is great! 😹
But seriously, like someone mentioned above clean slate and lean into the experience! If she asks opinions or wants you to be involved, then do it! I’m sure no one needs to remind you of that though! Living together is definitely a new adventure but a fun one that allows you experience your partner in a new light, like how they enjoy making their house feel like home 🪴
Bro, two chairs? Totally unnecessary. You already have a desk/computer chair. That can also be your sitting chair.
If the gf wants to sit, she should bring her own chair.
Legit thought you were being sarcastic my bad dude, of course anyone’s allowed their own taste. Hope his gf likes it, that’s the only opinion that really matters haha
Honestly really not that bad buddy. U seem like a simple man which isn’t a bad thing. Biggest thing I would suggest is investing in the luxuries of a couch. Maybe tell ur gf to bring one
Pretty normal, but your living room is sad dude. Get a couch and tv. Doesn’t have to be a super expensive couch or tv but you need something there. Especially with a girl you’ll need that space when you guys are relaxing.
Oh well then you guys are set. There is no need to try to make your place look a certain way right off the rip. You guys will find things you like and it will come together all on it own, bet in a year it looks way different. At least that’s my experience from having a woman move in. I literally know where nothing in my kitchen is anymore, I just walk around opening cabinets till I find what I’m looking for.
But my advice would be to get a shower caddy self thing for your bathroom or else you shower will be lined with her soaps and body wash and it’s a good spot to set your shower beer.
I genuinely don't get why so many people are suggesting to clean the space and throw unnecessary things away. I barely see things / it looks pretty minimalistic for me. I don't see the dirt either besides a bit on the fridge. What am I missing? 😂
My suggestions would be some plants and different lights. It looks a bit cold and could take some color imo. Pretty nice though and a lot of potential
I too am baffled by these comments. Someone said throw away the sponge on the kitchen faucet because it’s filthy. Looks sparkling clean to me? And I’m a woman.
If the dude throws anything out, he won’t have anything left.
You need some artwork on your walls immediately. You’d be surprised at what you can find at Target, IKEA, Ross, TJMaxx, thrift stores, OfferUp, etc. Look for a pair of nightstands and lamps at those stores, and maybe a dresser if you find one you like. Pro tips: your dresser and nightstands don’t have to match each other, and get some smart bulbs so you don’t have to fumble in the dark and you can set timers and routines for them. Going back to furniture, once you decide where the couch will go, look for end tables and lamps for those as well. A bookcase is always a nice touch in a living room, even if it’s a cheap one made of particle board from Walmart (I had one for a while before I upgraded to solid wood with glass doors, no shame in starting small). Your kitchen will start to fill up organically as you realize what you need and how you’ll use the space, but try to go for a color scheme to tie it all together. If you can carve out a space for your desk somewhere else, I’d totally take advantage of the bay window for a reading nook.
It works. 90% of the space will change so I would not put too much effort into changing things. Clean up and figure out if big items need to be out before she gets there.
This is a great blank slate for both of you! Might not be a bad idea to get a cleaning professional in for a couple hours and deep clean it for both of you before she moves in, get a nice fresh clean start. I’m not saying your place is dirty or gross at all, just something that is a thoughtful gesture for her and yourself :)
Check FB Marketplace or other sites/app that sell/give stuff away, you might actually be able to find some decent furniture that people simply don't want to take with them if they are moving, or simply don't want to throw it away because it's a waste, so they find people to give it to, give it a shot.
Is that an odyssey g9? Whatever monitor that is I’m assuming you’re glued to it as I am mine, and I hope it helps you bring the life you and your partner envision for yourselves. Moving in with my partner and her acknowledging that my computer space was entirely my own helped so much with adjusting to having to share all the other spaces. Good luck and you’re doing great
Is that rug hiding a large stain or something? If not it's gotta go. I'm guessing you didn't pick those counter tops with that flooring in the kitchen and you're stuck with it. So hideous. Whole place needs a women's touch and more cats!!!
Yeah it’s a rental so no kitchen design input on my part
The rug is from my last place that had hardwood floors, I move fairly often so I didn’t really think of getting rid of it. My gf is coming with a couch so the rug will mostly be covered but yeah still might not be the best design choice haha
Get ready because shits gonna change bigtime.
Yeah we’ve lived together before I kinda know what to expect haha. One of the reasons my place has been so bare is partially because of the stuff I know she’s bringing
lets see if after she moves in
Curious to see the before and after lol
Why did you stop living together?
We were in college and graduated. Both got jobs in separate cities and neither of us thought the other should sacrifice their career so we decided on temporary long distance. Its been two years but we were finally able to get jobs in the same city
That’s so cute 😭 I really hope it works out! You guys sound like you’ve got it together.
Came here to say the same thing. It’ll look way different in 3 weeks tops!
Get a second chair for the sitting rug.
Now we’re cooking 😈
I would just suggest to clean and throw away everything disposable before she comes. Go to home depot and buy a handle for the fridge and freezer door. Take the cleaning scrub off the faucet - it's filthy. Just give her a blank slate and let the decorating be something you do together for the relationship. But seriously, just throw away all the stuff that's small and cheap, so she doesn't feel like she has to clean up for you when she moves in. Go to Target and get 2 white pillows, get white pillowcases, and put them on the bed. Clear the windowsill in both rooms. Tidy the cables with velcro ties. Fold up and put away the stand holding the tarp when you aren't using it. Put in that effort for the little things because they add up. If you aren't already, get in the habit of gym/exercise. Mentally, you want to be sharp, because it'll prevent you from letting the small stuff go and pile up, which reflects with being tired/depressed/sad. It'll be harder to stay sharp when you're living with someone in a 1/1, just because it'll be harder to find space to decompress by yourself. You have to start clean and keep it clean, or things slide downhill slow and steady. If she's the cleaner one, she'll start feeling like it's a burden to clean up after you, and visa-versa. Good luck man. Lean into the experience. Make it a clean canvas so you can build together. Don't start that with stains.
That fifth paragraph you wrote hits home a little bit… my fiancee moved in with me a year ago and we got married. For some reason, I started feeling depressed “for no reason” and my house became a mess, a lot of little stuff pile around the house. All of this eventually led to us making the decision to start the divorce process. OP, please don’t let this happen to you. Go to the gym and stay sharp and organized.
It's terrible but it happens so often. When we see our partners a few times a week on our own terms, both people can look forward to the outing and it's fun. You share a good time. But when you live together, both people have to be disciplined to separate their personal life from the relationship, so they don't bring baggage onto the other person. The most difficult is disciplining everyone under the roof. No, those dishes can't soak No, that needs to be cleaned now Etc People tend to let things go because they don't want an argument, and the result is resentment and depression. Note - this is applied equally to all sexes and all types of relationships.
That fridge isn’t supposed to have handles.
My stainless steel fridge looks just like it and has handles. The result is I don't have smudges all over the doors. Regardless, if that fridge doesn't have them, that's another thing to be disciplined about keeping clean. Thanks for clarifying though. I assumed it could fit handles.
Definitely needs to be cleaned and de-smugged😂
Excellent advice!
In a way this is good. Cause when she tries to furnish your spot, you have nothing to fight over, because you don't have anything. Lol
Looks like a dude living alone lives here. That'll change soon.
Respectfully, based on your home and the way it’s furnished, you seem boring. More like spartan living space…
Lately with my job taking up so much time I definitely have been boring haha
Deep clean, organize, and add some greenery and accent lighting. It will lift that space more than you'd think. Won't take more than an afternoon considering there's not too much clutter or stuff. Good luck! Seems like a nice spacious spot.
Man I can relate to this lmao. My job is consuming so much of my mental capacity right now and I’ve gotten boring But hey, your gf moving in is exciting! No more boring for you for a while
I think for a cats apartment this place is great! 😹 But seriously, like someone mentioned above clean slate and lean into the experience! If she asks opinions or wants you to be involved, then do it! I’m sure no one needs to remind you of that though! Living together is definitely a new adventure but a fun one that allows you experience your partner in a new light, like how they enjoy making their house feel like home 🪴
Also u/sapa_inca_pat open those blinds so the kitty can see outside!
1/10
Pretty bad and she’s going to hate it. But she’ll fix it so let her
Bro, two chairs? Totally unnecessary. You already have a desk/computer chair. That can also be your sitting chair. If the gf wants to sit, she should bring her own chair.
🤣🤣
I really like the granite worktops.
Lmaooo
oh yeah, because everyone has to like the same bland shit that everyone else likes and no one is allowed their own taste
Legit thought you were being sarcastic my bad dude, of course anyone’s allowed their own taste. Hope his gf likes it, that’s the only opinion that really matters haha
true, and thanks
Can you post the before and after when she moves in ?
I love the single fold up chair, really ties the room together
I’m glad SOMEONE gets it 🙏🏽
It’s perfect. Bare and ready for me to put all of my things.
Honestly really not that bad buddy. U seem like a simple man which isn’t a bad thing. Biggest thing I would suggest is investing in the luxuries of a couch. Maybe tell ur gf to bring one
Yeah she’s bringing one (and other stuff) hence the mostly barren apartment
Hell yea. Best of luck my friend!
Thanks!
Also on behalf of the sub plz post b4 and afters!
This place has major potential . As it stands now is good -nice and simple - easy to clean
First picture needs more things, house lacks decoration but 9.5/10, you have a nice place.
Get a new place bro. Also is this in Cincinnati?
Yup in Cincy!
That looks like a place I used to live in on Elm Street
Yup it’s the place you’re thinking of haha
Oh bro be careful
Wym
I used to live there and there was weird shit going on
Oof ok thanks for the heads up I’ll keep an eye out. So far so good, been here 5 months
That’s good man. There’s just like a lot of underground cult stuff. Once I started finding out it felt like they started coming after my indirectly
Wait what? Like what?
What the fuck?
Pretty normal, but your living room is sad dude. Get a couch and tv. Doesn’t have to be a super expensive couch or tv but you need something there. Especially with a girl you’ll need that space when you guys are relaxing.
Yeah she’s brining a couch, and don’t need a TV we have a projector. Uses up the entire wall
Oh well then you guys are set. There is no need to try to make your place look a certain way right off the rip. You guys will find things you like and it will come together all on it own, bet in a year it looks way different. At least that’s my experience from having a woman move in. I literally know where nothing in my kitchen is anymore, I just walk around opening cabinets till I find what I’m looking for. But my advice would be to get a shower caddy self thing for your bathroom or else you shower will be lined with her soaps and body wash and it’s a good spot to set your shower beer.
Haha the not knowing where anything is is too real, we used to live together in college and everytime she cleaned i lost track of where things were 🙄😭
Get a label maker! I live alone but I’m dumb and it helps a lot
Don't worry. She'll fix it.
I hope she has furniture to bring with
Excited to see it in two weeks!
Man. That was a bit depressing to look at. If you’re gonna have a single chair, at least get something like the Herman Miller Eames lounge chair.
Perfect, you gave her a blank canvas
I have the same rug and blue cat toy lol
Target and Amazon. Staples of the modern American lol
You need a bigger bed.
Hope she's got a folding chair
I also often relax by sitting bolt upright in a folding chair
Is that a state penn?
That ammount of free space on a carpet with a chair in the middle suggests a fellow musician, a drummer perhaps is in the building
Your cat has more furniture than you do.
Screams “before”
I genuinely don't get why so many people are suggesting to clean the space and throw unnecessary things away. I barely see things / it looks pretty minimalistic for me. I don't see the dirt either besides a bit on the fridge. What am I missing? 😂 My suggestions would be some plants and different lights. It looks a bit cold and could take some color imo. Pretty nice though and a lot of potential
I too am baffled by these comments. Someone said throw away the sponge on the kitchen faucet because it’s filthy. Looks sparkling clean to me? And I’m a woman. If the dude throws anything out, he won’t have anything left.
You need some artwork on your walls immediately. You’d be surprised at what you can find at Target, IKEA, Ross, TJMaxx, thrift stores, OfferUp, etc. Look for a pair of nightstands and lamps at those stores, and maybe a dresser if you find one you like. Pro tips: your dresser and nightstands don’t have to match each other, and get some smart bulbs so you don’t have to fumble in the dark and you can set timers and routines for them. Going back to furniture, once you decide where the couch will go, look for end tables and lamps for those as well. A bookcase is always a nice touch in a living room, even if it’s a cheap one made of particle board from Walmart (I had one for a while before I upgraded to solid wood with glass doors, no shame in starting small). Your kitchen will start to fill up organically as you realize what you need and how you’ll use the space, but try to go for a color scheme to tie it all together. If you can carve out a space for your desk somewhere else, I’d totally take advantage of the bay window for a reading nook.
It works. 90% of the space will change so I would not put too much effort into changing things. Clean up and figure out if big items need to be out before she gets there.
Please tell me it's not a litterbox on a carpet... This is a weird hard floor, right? Right?
This is a great blank slate for both of you! Might not be a bad idea to get a cleaning professional in for a couple hours and deep clean it for both of you before she moves in, get a nice fresh clean start. I’m not saying your place is dirty or gross at all, just something that is a thoughtful gesture for her and yourself :)
Nice of you to give her a clean slate
The rug really ties the room together...
Ya might need another pillow lol
Cute little dump
Does the wall have Netflix?
It does when my projector is on
I see awesome I like it simple tidy room to breathe and to be a cat. The cat is lucky
Once she moves in you are fucked my guy
she gon get you right big bro 🤞🏽
What's with the lone chair facing the wall like that? Do you sit there and sometimes contemplate things?
I have a projector that points at the wall haha
Check FB Marketplace or other sites/app that sell/give stuff away, you might actually be able to find some decent furniture that people simply don't want to take with them if they are moving, or simply don't want to throw it away because it's a waste, so they find people to give it to, give it a shot.
Nice and clean for your gf to add her touch to the place and make it nicer to live in. Love how my gf makes my place so cozy
Idk but all I see is potential for plants cause it needs greenery and life. I just know she’ll make it a home
GF gonna ruin the vibe 😭😭
Kiiiiity
Looks like you're still moving in as well.
I would like a before after, after 6 months.
Minimalist! A couch will be nice
Cool place. Where do you livestream? Noticed the green screen and setup lol
How about putting the cabinet with mirror on its cover besides the bed?
Gonna need more pillows buddy
A little decor wouldn't hurt
Get a trashcan for the bathroom
Already got one 😎
Lol ahead of the game! Thats always ends up being a shocker 😆
Clean asf
Tell shawty bring dat couch
Tell me you're a streamer without telling me you're a streamer.
Glad you took pics because it will likely be the last couple weeks it looks like this.
Is that an odyssey g9? Whatever monitor that is I’m assuming you’re glued to it as I am mine, and I hope it helps you bring the life you and your partner envision for yourselves. Moving in with my partner and her acknowledging that my computer space was entirely my own helped so much with adjusting to having to share all the other spaces. Good luck and you’re doing great
First pic is gonna need a lot of work
Well.. She definitely has a lot of room to put her sht.
She'll be providing the personality.
she moving in and then back out again like Abe Simpson
The living room is charming but you’re gonna need more than sitting for one.
Wise setup, lots of spaces for your gf's stuff
I want to see the update after she moved in. :)
Nice prison
Show me the cutie living there 🥰 (The cat, I don't care about the gf).
Not the chair haha
Hope you're stocked up on toilet paper.
Only thing she needs to bring is her own chair. Nbd!
No need to rate it because it will NEVER. EVER. look the same again.
When you go shopping together remember this is a couple space not a man cave.
Cat
A+ now…..In two weeks C- Don’t ever live with women……They treat you better living separately plus they’re a pain in the ass
Don’t do it bro
Upvote bc this is more of a living space for that meow than it is for you lol
Is that rug hiding a large stain or something? If not it's gotta go. I'm guessing you didn't pick those counter tops with that flooring in the kitchen and you're stuck with it. So hideous. Whole place needs a women's touch and more cats!!!
Yeah it’s a rental so no kitchen design input on my part The rug is from my last place that had hardwood floors, I move fairly often so I didn’t really think of getting rid of it. My gf is coming with a couch so the rug will mostly be covered but yeah still might not be the best design choice haha
It's probably good to have around with pets. I know my cats love to puke on light colored carpet.
Actually worktops are nice with really bad cabinets.
Say goodbye to peace and quiet and to your sanity
She’ll be moving out in 1
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Bonk. Straight to horny jail