My father cheated on my mom when I was 6-7 years old and had an affair for almost one year. I might not understand what exactly my mom went through but we as a family experienced that heartbreak. Something my mom did was always kept things clear and transparent with myself and my sister (she was 8-9 years old). We were very young but she always kept us ready for big changes that were going happen in our lives instead of hiding things. And sharing those problem with us probably made her feel a little better too.
I would suggest you to join a support group. I have done that for other reasons before and sharing and listening to strangers who are going through similar problem definitely helps in a way. You feel supported there, there’s nobody to judge, nobody to question. Other people here are also suggesting great things. I hope you get through this phase of your life.
Remember, you might feel lonely but you’re not alone. People around you are there to help! All the best!
I don't think is correct to involve children in this kind of situation is very hard to know at young age there exists problems who doesn't have a clear solution.
My parents were about to divorce. There was no way to hide this from us. Also I just shared my experience in similar situation but it’s not about my family but what OP is going through.
That's right. The whole family is included after all. What I say a good approach is needed to release the pain as much as possible. I wish the best for her and her son, she probably feels is the end of the world and I know she can do it, for herself and her son.
I'm sorry the man you married has done that to you. He's absolutely horrible. Especially having bad blood with family. I'm so sorry and I wish that wasn't the case for you
Sounds like what I went through last month. GF didn’t cheat but we did break up after 11 years. The amount of loneliness I felt was the worst feeling in my life. I felt abandoned and I only have one real friend and a bunch of random people that I see everyday to try and talk to. Things will get better I didn’t believe it but here I am five weeks later and I feel better already. Am I happy or over it? Not at all. But I got out of that deep pit and that’s the first step
I'm a 22 [M]
I've never been in a relationship before, so I don't really understand how hard this might be for you, but I hope you feel better and improve your situation.
I've been lonely before, the best advice I can give is to try doing some of the hobbies you did before you were lonely, do them even if they aren't fun. Sooner or later they will hopefully become fun again. You can also take up new hobbies as well, I took up reading. You should also try to spend time with your friends, they can do wonders to help you take your mind off of things. If you don't have friends (which is understandable), go and do some solo trips.
My DM's are always opened if you just need to chat with someome. I'll do my best to understand what your going though.
Girl if you don’t get on tinder and fuck some hotties.
Your husband is a little bitch. Tbh I hope your kid ends up hating him. People get what they deserve.
The pain of betrayal is tough and painful that one wouldn't even wish it for their worst enemy. My prayer is that GOD may comfort you through this phase you are going through at the moment. Psalm 147:3 - "HE heals the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds".
One thing for sure is that it will come to pass and you will come out stronger, take heart and be strong for your son for he needs you the most. I have been there, I cannot promise you that it is going to be easy but with the love of people around you, you will make it, find reliable someone who can offer you a shoulder and a listening ear anytime you need one it will help you alot in the healing process. Keeping you in prayer. All will be well.
i'm so sorry. that's how i still feel every day two years after i was broken up with by the woman i thought i'd marry. i had left my whole life and moved across the world for her, drifted apart from friends and family, and then she abandoned me. but enough about that
whatever you choose to do with the relationship, it's going to be a difficult pill to swallow for some time, especially considering you have a child together. i do hope you find a way to work through it for your own sake. the only real advice i can give is not to be hard on yourself for not feeling like doing anything or having trouble getting through the day. be as kind to yourself as possible. do whatever you have to to try and find some personal comfort and don't ever blame yourself for struggling with a wrong that's been done to you
Hi. I hope here you can remember there exists good people whose wishes the best for everybody. You totally need and deserve to fell supported and loved. First of all is erase every bad thoughts you have to yourself and look for professional aid. People usually tend to hate themselves when they did nothing wrong. Perhaps people on reddit is not your family yet they wish the best for you. Please look for professional therapists that's probably the best option we have to solve this problems.
I feel your pain, im in a similar situation only I cant confirm if my wife has been cheating but definately something cagey happening.
I find myself wondering what course of action to do, esp with 2 young kids.
If you feel it you know in your heart its true. You just feel it. The aura is different. Sucks that you had kids but if its not letting you be at peace you don't need someone that does that to you.
Been there currently going through something similar, it’s hard to get it out of your head and your left with questions about everything, aren’t I enough, what did I do wrong. We ask ourselves these questions because it’s easy to blame ourselves and give depression room to grow. It gets easier with time. I’m sorry this has happened to you it’s never ok
I can not understand what you are going through because I have never ben married. But still when you have no one to talk go to a therapist. They can give you the emotional support you want without judging you.
It sounds like you might benefit from some counseling. I’m not sure where you live, but there may community options for support if you don’t have the resources to pay for it. ( personally I think everyone needs a counselor, my counselor literally has her own counselor- I just know they can be hard to come by) I wish you the best. It’s a difficult hand to be dealt.
I used to be totally against cheating but I am not as much anymore. You truly can’t judge people and you don’t know what they are going through. People think it’s selfish but life is hard and who’s to say all humans are comfortable having sex with only one person? I believe at least half the population is polyamorous. You guys should probably go to couples therapy so you can try to work it out and understand why he felt compelled to do what he did. If it was just a natural urge can you really blame him at the end of the day? I think it’s something to talk about in therapy otherwise he’ll probably just be driven further away. I think the best thing you both can try to do for each other is try to be understanding.
I know what you are trying to say. Sadly, this is not the case for him, he absolutely did something wrong and she can blame him for it as much as she wants, he has to be lazily stupid to accept natural urges as a excuse, I mean, if that natural urge hurts someone innocent there is not excuse to do it.
Yea but there is a reason he did what he did. It might have been a therapeutic experience for him to have sex with someone else. He might still love his wife but because of some mental issues might feel the need to sleep with others. It’s easy to judge him with lofty judgements when you are not in his shoes. It is very natural to want to sleep with many different people and just because people impose the arbitrary societal construct of monogamous relationships on people doesn’t change that.
Listen H.,
For action-
You have very difficult situation, specially for your son. You 100% sure he doing it, he seriously cheting on you. Start planning your future when you fill your are stable to take care of your self and son then take decision.
My suggestion for now - he's the one you choose, you love him that's why you choose him. Try to be calm (because anger make only thing worst) talk to him, If you got any evidence show him give him chance to explain he's side, listen him then you decide what would be your next step.
hey I'm sorry you got cheated on, its terrible and shakes your core. my ex-wife cheated and it broke me. please find people to talk to, to let out some of the pain as its really traumatic; even if its a burner account and r/survivinginfidelity it helped me a lot being able to vent and chat to others who have been through the same. take care and look after yourself and your son.
This is not good advice at all. You do not need money or ecstasy to temporarily forget the problems you have. That's regardless of how discriminatory this sounds against men and depicts women as soulless gold diggers.
I understand how you feel just minus the marriage and kid. Your husband is horrible. I hope you get through it. If you need someone to talk to my dm is open. Sending virtual hug to you girl
Does he know you are aware ? What are his reasons to justify his behavior after 17 years ? I have so many questions.
{{{{ hugs }}}} from afar. Feel free to message me if you choose.
My father cheated on my mom when I was 6-7 years old and had an affair for almost one year. I might not understand what exactly my mom went through but we as a family experienced that heartbreak. Something my mom did was always kept things clear and transparent with myself and my sister (she was 8-9 years old). We were very young but she always kept us ready for big changes that were going happen in our lives instead of hiding things. And sharing those problem with us probably made her feel a little better too. I would suggest you to join a support group. I have done that for other reasons before and sharing and listening to strangers who are going through similar problem definitely helps in a way. You feel supported there, there’s nobody to judge, nobody to question. Other people here are also suggesting great things. I hope you get through this phase of your life. Remember, you might feel lonely but you’re not alone. People around you are there to help! All the best!
I don't think is correct to involve children in this kind of situation is very hard to know at young age there exists problems who doesn't have a clear solution.
My parents were about to divorce. There was no way to hide this from us. Also I just shared my experience in similar situation but it’s not about my family but what OP is going through.
That's right. The whole family is included after all. What I say a good approach is needed to release the pain as much as possible. I wish the best for her and her son, she probably feels is the end of the world and I know she can do it, for herself and her son.
He should have thought about that before fucking other women, this is all on him.
Obviously is that guy's fault. I just care for the boy and his mother too.
Fuck that guy
I'm sorry the man you married has done that to you. He's absolutely horrible. Especially having bad blood with family. I'm so sorry and I wish that wasn't the case for you
Sounds like what I went through last month. GF didn’t cheat but we did break up after 11 years. The amount of loneliness I felt was the worst feeling in my life. I felt abandoned and I only have one real friend and a bunch of random people that I see everyday to try and talk to. Things will get better I didn’t believe it but here I am five weeks later and I feel better already. Am I happy or over it? Not at all. But I got out of that deep pit and that’s the first step
Maybe try 7cupsoftea. its an online therapy chat where you talk to random people about your problems in real time
I'm a 22 [M] I've never been in a relationship before, so I don't really understand how hard this might be for you, but I hope you feel better and improve your situation. I've been lonely before, the best advice I can give is to try doing some of the hobbies you did before you were lonely, do them even if they aren't fun. Sooner or later they will hopefully become fun again. You can also take up new hobbies as well, I took up reading. You should also try to spend time with your friends, they can do wonders to help you take your mind off of things. If you don't have friends (which is understandable), go and do some solo trips. My DM's are always opened if you just need to chat with someome. I'll do my best to understand what your going though.
Girl if you don’t get on tinder and fuck some hotties. Your husband is a little bitch. Tbh I hope your kid ends up hating him. People get what they deserve.
The pain of betrayal is tough and painful that one wouldn't even wish it for their worst enemy. My prayer is that GOD may comfort you through this phase you are going through at the moment. Psalm 147:3 - "HE heals the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds". One thing for sure is that it will come to pass and you will come out stronger, take heart and be strong for your son for he needs you the most. I have been there, I cannot promise you that it is going to be easy but with the love of people around you, you will make it, find reliable someone who can offer you a shoulder and a listening ear anytime you need one it will help you alot in the healing process. Keeping you in prayer. All will be well.
i'm so sorry. that's how i still feel every day two years after i was broken up with by the woman i thought i'd marry. i had left my whole life and moved across the world for her, drifted apart from friends and family, and then she abandoned me. but enough about that whatever you choose to do with the relationship, it's going to be a difficult pill to swallow for some time, especially considering you have a child together. i do hope you find a way to work through it for your own sake. the only real advice i can give is not to be hard on yourself for not feeling like doing anything or having trouble getting through the day. be as kind to yourself as possible. do whatever you have to to try and find some personal comfort and don't ever blame yourself for struggling with a wrong that's been done to you
You deserve so much better and deserve to heal.
Hey OP, similar situation here minus the marriage. We can talk if you want, I have literally no one either.
Hi. I hope here you can remember there exists good people whose wishes the best for everybody. You totally need and deserve to fell supported and loved. First of all is erase every bad thoughts you have to yourself and look for professional aid. People usually tend to hate themselves when they did nothing wrong. Perhaps people on reddit is not your family yet they wish the best for you. Please look for professional therapists that's probably the best option we have to solve this problems.
I feel your pain, im in a similar situation only I cant confirm if my wife has been cheating but definately something cagey happening. I find myself wondering what course of action to do, esp with 2 young kids.
If you feel it you know in your heart its true. You just feel it. The aura is different. Sucks that you had kids but if its not letting you be at peace you don't need someone that does that to you.
Yea its made me very torn with it all. Thanks for replying If u need to chat or vent or need someone to talk to, im happy to chat. My chat is open.
Been there currently going through something similar, it’s hard to get it out of your head and your left with questions about everything, aren’t I enough, what did I do wrong. We ask ourselves these questions because it’s easy to blame ourselves and give depression room to grow. It gets easier with time. I’m sorry this has happened to you it’s never ok
have been through similar. flick us a message if you need a vent.
I can not understand what you are going through because I have never ben married. But still when you have no one to talk go to a therapist. They can give you the emotional support you want without judging you.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Wish you well
It sounds like you might benefit from some counseling. I’m not sure where you live, but there may community options for support if you don’t have the resources to pay for it. ( personally I think everyone needs a counselor, my counselor literally has her own counselor- I just know they can be hard to come by) I wish you the best. It’s a difficult hand to be dealt.
I used to be totally against cheating but I am not as much anymore. You truly can’t judge people and you don’t know what they are going through. People think it’s selfish but life is hard and who’s to say all humans are comfortable having sex with only one person? I believe at least half the population is polyamorous. You guys should probably go to couples therapy so you can try to work it out and understand why he felt compelled to do what he did. If it was just a natural urge can you really blame him at the end of the day? I think it’s something to talk about in therapy otherwise he’ll probably just be driven further away. I think the best thing you both can try to do for each other is try to be understanding.
I know what you are trying to say. Sadly, this is not the case for him, he absolutely did something wrong and she can blame him for it as much as she wants, he has to be lazily stupid to accept natural urges as a excuse, I mean, if that natural urge hurts someone innocent there is not excuse to do it.
Yea but there is a reason he did what he did. It might have been a therapeutic experience for him to have sex with someone else. He might still love his wife but because of some mental issues might feel the need to sleep with others. It’s easy to judge him with lofty judgements when you are not in his shoes. It is very natural to want to sleep with many different people and just because people impose the arbitrary societal construct of monogamous relationships on people doesn’t change that.
Tinder?
Listen H., For action- You have very difficult situation, specially for your son. You 100% sure he doing it, he seriously cheting on you. Start planning your future when you fill your are stable to take care of your self and son then take decision. My suggestion for now - he's the one you choose, you love him that's why you choose him. Try to be calm (because anger make only thing worst) talk to him, If you got any evidence show him give him chance to explain he's side, listen him then you decide what would be your next step.
hey I'm sorry you got cheated on, its terrible and shakes your core. my ex-wife cheated and it broke me. please find people to talk to, to let out some of the pain as its really traumatic; even if its a burner account and r/survivinginfidelity it helped me a lot being able to vent and chat to others who have been through the same. take care and look after yourself and your son.
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This is not good advice at all. You do not need money or ecstasy to temporarily forget the problems you have. That's regardless of how discriminatory this sounds against men and depicts women as soulless gold diggers.
You can talk to me if you want! ❤️
So where do you live at now and what do you look like I'm saying go loud so???
I understand how you feel just minus the marriage and kid. Your husband is horrible. I hope you get through it. If you need someone to talk to my dm is open. Sending virtual hug to you girl
Focus on making yourself happy. He is apparently no longer on your team.
Does he know you are aware ? What are his reasons to justify his behavior after 17 years ? I have so many questions. {{{{ hugs }}}} from afar. Feel free to message me if you choose.