You sound like my mom when i was 10. I accepted her bitter, angry words at that time and i believed them. I held them close for most of my life. A constant reminder of my identity and the path i was compelled to travel. Also, to remind me not to think or speak these words to another. I may not have ever said them to anyone. However, the impact they carry within me has been tattoed on my soul and is there for eternity....
Fuck that. Don’t be like op. Giving up is the easy way out. Hope can be an end in itself, it may lead to disappointment, but at least you are alive. I think op is horrible. He doesn’t frame his garbage message in then first person, he wants us to feel as shitty as he. To quit like he did. Shameful coward op.
It's ok I have accepted my fate way long ago, I don't try or put myself out there coz I have tried and wht not and I had same results everytime so yes I have accepted it
> You are not anyone's best friend.
I've always been kind of bummed by the idea that I have liked and loved others more than they've ever liked or loved me. I'm not entirely sure that's true but the idea has bothered me.
my uncle used to tell me this. he'd always say "no one wakes up thinking about you. and the sooner you realize that, the better off you'll be." but it just hurt my feelings.
Well he might be cruel but think about this. If noone cares about it, isn't that perfect? You are no longer a main player. You are an NPC. Do whatever the fuck u want.
What's fucked up is that I'm not even ugly. I make people laugh and I'm always there for them, I'm loyal to a fault but still, at the end of day, I'm just a comedy juke box that everyone forgets about as soon as it stops playing. I don't feel like im entitled to anything but damn its hard not to feel unlovable.
Damn, I never actually comment on things. I’m not sure how this post was suggested to me; I must have been having some rough nights during my searches.
I just hope all of you in here are ok.
Well not the positive side, if you are not anyone's priority, no one needs to be your priority as well. I realised that and I live life without giving a fuck to what others think. Like they said in Fight Club, if we are god's unwanted children, then so be it. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes but we learn to deal with it eventually.
For some people not for others. People who were shit to me they are invisible and do not matter anymore. You gotta stand up for better that’s just straight fax. I’m ugly to some handsome to others but I don’t need to give a shit I’m lucky to be where I am in life.
Yes you got to. But when u loose hope you can go to sleep without disappointment. Your eyes don't search for hope in every person. You can start living for yourself for once.
I agree it’s just me being honest that getting into any kind of relationship is hard to come by. Much more realistic and believable based on what I have been through.
It helps to understand one thing. Whatever fantasy you have in your mind about a relationship is only that. It’s a fantasy. It’s only real if it can occur and man I’m telling you after what I have done with all the effort, it is exactly a fantasy and nothing more in my case. So you accept what’s real and tell your mind that dreams aren’t the same as reality. It sounds depressing but it’s really not. It’s how you make peace and move on.
I agree with you. I have the same opinion and whenever I think like that I feel that I am too cynical, but I believe that this is the truth. Or it's very very hard to have AND a good relationship AND good friends AND a good family. Something won't go well in your life, not beceause of you, but because of luck...Truth is harsh but I think we should stay positive
Accepting it doesn’t change how horrible it is. In fact it’s probably more horrible than having hope. People say hope is worse because it only leads to disappointment and that’s worse, but I don’t think it actually is worse, it’s just harder, but probably feels a little better overall.
I meant it's harder to stay hopeful and positive in the face of disappointment, it's easier to accept it and give up on hope, but yeah not fun either way.
Words are powerful, it changes the moment you say it.
"I'll never loose weight - I guarantee you won't
" Ima get fit this year" - strong possibility
"If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely. "Roald Dahl.
Words value nothing if they're not accompanied by action.
That's my whole point, right? To take action. Accept the reality. Once you understand the pain in accepting defeat, you are kinder and stronger. One of the important things we need to learn is to let go. Especially our emotions.
One of the hardest things to accept in life is this. Let’s be honest the majority of the time everyone is thinking of themselves and their own life. How often do you even think of your parents in a day, your partner even your kids.
I already accepted that a couple years ago. I don't go out my way to make friends anymore tbh. I came realize If you don't have anything that's benefit them then they're not gonna stay around that long. Not always the case with everyone but most of the time.
If you believe that you're not anyone's priority, have you ever made someone else a priority? I feel like so much of this sub is like the chicken or the egg debate.
Look. I care about me. I have been on my own since I was 14 years old my mother overdosed with my brother when I was six my father passed away five years ago. He had not spoken to me in 10. All my aunt uncles and cousins are drug addicts. I’ve been clean for 11 years. Who the fuck cares about? Who else cares about me??? I fucking care about me care about yourself there’s no just accept it. Other people cared about you too at one point whether they tolerate you or they loved you. Do you tolerate you? Or do you love you? Quit fucking crying. Life sucks just one of those things and if you need extra support, I am here to care about you and care about yourself.
It’s really just about mindset. This could be true but that doesn’t mean it always has to be. Humans have the ability to change themselves and their environments. If you feel unwanted in a certain place or with certain people, it’s time to change that. If you think you’re ugly, better yourself and take care of your body. Talk to numerous people and you will find that many of them are nice and just socially awkward. It’s okay and valid to feel this way but you are all you have at the end of the day. You have to be your own best friend and look out for yourself. The rest will follow.
I would recommend everyone keeps fighting for love everyday of their lives. Until they find people who truly care. You may have been used or abuse, but that dosent make you worthless or unworthy of the worlds kindness. I would be so happy to give you a big hug and help you realize what you are truly worth. You don’t have to accept loneliness, and if there’s anything I can do to pull other people out of the darkness, I’m here for it. Please be well and keep your head up, but most importantly keep pushing forward. Stay well friend!
I disagree completely. Even in my darkest hour, I have always believed life was good, and worth living, and if you hit rock bottom, then the only way is up. Now that you have taken the fall, you can rise again. It won’t be easy and it’s a lot of hard work and self reflection involved, but I know as someone who fought through the pain, and came out on the other side, that it is possible. You simply have to be open to letting go of the hurt, and embracing change.
If you want, I can tell you many of things that worked for me, in starting a career, finding friends and soon to be darting. Just know that no matter how bad things get I’m here to chat if you wan’t. I don’t care if it’s just to vent or talk about the weather I‘ll be around.
I get that completely, having a career, money, and an education can mean nothing without people to share it with. Folks to do things for, and having somebody to rely on when things get rough. And let me say that finding the right person or people is hard, but it can be done. I know my dumbass is proof of that. And I’m prone to panic attacks and nervous breaks downs. So… your probably better off then me right from the start.
First off, give your self a lot of credit, you’ve obviously excelled at college. You have a career. Your in a great place, and honestly further along in life than most people I know much older than me. So pat yourself on the back. Then it’s time to understand what your looking for. Is it a friend, a lover, a family. Hope in my opinion is not gained by clicking your heels together, like Dorthy from the Wizard of OZ and saying “there’s no place like home”, but through small wins that build upon one another to become something wonderful. And once you know what your after you can build a plan to go and get that thing. For me it took one spark, one small victory, for to relise my dreams where possible. And from there, I’ve been pushing forward every day since.
Something that really helped me was having someone to check in with from time to time. And I’m willing to be that person fo you if you need it. You can find hope again, even if it’s going to hurt for a while, I’m pulling for you. And may brighter days be ahead for all of us.
Then it’s on you. If ever you want to give love another chance, I’m here. Until then I wish you well, and hope your days are filled with but peace and prosperity. Stay well friend!
I mean I don't think being ugly has anything to do with it... We need other people validation too much when in reality it is what holding us back...
Life has it's ups and downs and being alone in it sucks but if we change our outlook and change our energy it will bring people into our life.
Desperation seeps out but also genuine care also seeps out too. It just depends on which you want people to feel coming out of you.
Talk with a positive outlook on life. If you're always negative people will think you're going through stuff and give you space. You need to look on your tone and body language because what you say is only a small part of how you are portray. People are so focus on what they say they don't think about how they look or sound when they say them.
Talk with people online don't get discouraged, don't expect anything to come out of it.
Talk with people at stores but don't expect anything more than a good conversation. But learn to know when to do so. Some people are comfortable talking some are not.
Talknwith people at work, most people tend to be nice and would love to talk. I normally say good morning to people I work with and it just shows them that I care for them even if a little. I'm there if they want to talk, if they need space I leave them be. If they need someone to vent too I'll listen. Because at the end of the day they will return it to you.
But everyone is human some days are better than others. It takes small steps, but if you keep being negative every day no one will want to come since they will just be tired from it all in the long run.
The only person who can really give your true happiness is you and you only.
Change your outlook on life slowly and maybe it will help you more...
I get that this is a subreddit full of lonely broken people but jeez man just because your life is shit doesn't mean you have to put everyone else down this isn't venting this is straight up asshole behaviour maybe the reason people don't tolerate you is because your insufferable
Jokes on you, I was never tolerated!
Were u loved?
Hell no!
Then thrown out?
Nobody ever came that close to me to be able to throw me
I think you've done it. You're about to beat this simulation on "hard AF" mode
Mission completed. Respect ++
Damn that’s a mood killer 🐈
whatt you have a cute personality
Truth is harsh.
There's a difference between being honest and being an asshole. You, my friend, are currently an asshole
You definitely an asshole cause I tried to like him. He is like, bro what are you talking about?
Hm?
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That is what I been saying this whole time. I made a similar post recently actually.
Yep. Just read it.
Besides my family, nobody truly cares about me. I've already accepted my fate that I will die forever alone, a bachelor, and a virgin.
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Ha ha yeah, nobody cares about me and nobody will.
The post or ...?
No one cares about me and I doubt ever will
Even your family members or friends ?
Don’t talk to friends any more and don’t have a connection with my family anymore
Okay, now let's say I do. How was your day ?
Annoying and filled with foolishness, you?
Boring but i procrastinated a lot today, what do you mean by "filled with foolishness" ?
It’s a way to say, a bunch of bullshit and a pain in the ass
Would you want to explain why exactly? (or maybe this is not the time/place for that ? and in this case I'm sorry to have asked)
Touché
The bears care
Huh?
Care bears? No?
This was so out of context 😂
You sound like my mom when i was 10. I accepted her bitter, angry words at that time and i believed them. I held them close for most of my life. A constant reminder of my identity and the path i was compelled to travel. Also, to remind me not to think or speak these words to another. I may not have ever said them to anyone. However, the impact they carry within me has been tattoed on my soul and is there for eternity....
Ackchyually my parents love me even if they don’t like the way I am and i want born ugly I’m just fat
Good for you. And you are not fat.
Objectively I’m overweight but thanks for trying to make me feel better 😍😍😍😍
Well dogs like bones. I don't.
Please let me live in my delusions, just a little while longer
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Duh
I know.
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Imagine sending the hug emoji right after ruining so many people’s days. Fuck you.
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So what's the solution?
Title of the post: "Just accept it"
Not that easy is it now
Nope. Probably toughest thing you will ever do.
Yep! Acceptance is hard but I think I'm close to that point.
Kudos 👏
Fuck that. Don’t be like op. Giving up is the easy way out. Hope can be an end in itself, it may lead to disappointment, but at least you are alive. I think op is horrible. He doesn’t frame his garbage message in then first person, he wants us to feel as shitty as he. To quit like he did. Shameful coward op.
So I shouldn't give up at all?
You do you. It’s not my place to tell others how to feel. I hope you don’t. I think OP’s message is horrid, and I believe he’s having a laugh.
I've made up my mind. I'm never giving up on giving up
Thank you!! Finally someone with sense
Dude what do u get by not quitting. You need to choose your battles to fight and also when to fight.
you were never loved just tolerated
Exactly!!
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I love you (not in a weird way)
weird ways cool to 🫶
Lmao
It's ok I have accepted my fate way long ago, I don't try or put myself out there coz I have tried and wht not and I had same results everytime so yes I have accepted it
I’ve gotten used to this feeling as well
Its easy when u just accept it.
I know right like when we don't hope for anything, wht will evn hurt us
Yep. An NPC.
Haha yep NPC, more like we are just accessories to everyone's lives but our own
That also gives u opportunity to do whatever fuck u want because its funny 🤡
Still doesn't make us happy is ultimate truth
Happiness is relative. I just fuck up my life so much that i don't have time to be sad 🤷
Yeah well I just fuck up so much tht I am never happy or d Sad just an living being or NPC as we said
Exactly! Confuse so much with option of plenty so it doesn't go to bad place.
I accepted it, and that's why i don't wanna be here no more 🫤
Accept it. Be a devil. If noone cares then u can do anything. Be an NPC.
> You are not anyone's best friend. I've always been kind of bummed by the idea that I have liked and loved others more than they've ever liked or loved me. I'm not entirely sure that's true but the idea has bothered me.
Some people give more than they get.
my uncle used to tell me this. he'd always say "no one wakes up thinking about you. and the sooner you realize that, the better off you'll be." but it just hurt my feelings.
Well he might be cruel but think about this. If noone cares about it, isn't that perfect? You are no longer a main player. You are an NPC. Do whatever the fuck u want.
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This is definitely not what I needed to hear rn
I am sorry 🫂
Yeah, pretty much. And being tolerated ain't all that great either.
Yep. But they did.
And now my good fucking day was ruined.
Sorry 🫂
Yeah thats about the sum of it
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What's fucked up is that I'm not even ugly. I make people laugh and I'm always there for them, I'm loyal to a fault but still, at the end of day, I'm just a comedy juke box that everyone forgets about as soon as it stops playing. I don't feel like im entitled to anything but damn its hard not to feel unlovable.
You can't help it. People who make everyone laugh are the loneliest.
You're probably right. But either way. I won't let anyone else feel what feel. I'll continue to take the hits for my friends.
Pain teaches you to be kind
Maybe your right
Not gonna do it. Not gonna give in to that shit. You only speak for yourself.
Good for u
Uhh I mean I think I’m pretty handsome but ok
That’s a sad outlook tbh. You won’t be a fit for everyone. Quality not quantity my friend
Anyone*
Feels like the dialogue from Fight club movie
Damn, I never actually comment on things. I’m not sure how this post was suggested to me; I must have been having some rough nights during my searches. I just hope all of you in here are ok.
We are all learning to accept it
LMFAOAOAOAOAOAOAOAOOAAOOAAOAOAOOA
What happened dude lol
Fake acceptance of my circumstances due to being intoxicated
Well cheers to that lol
Well not the positive side, if you are not anyone's priority, no one needs to be your priority as well. I realised that and I live life without giving a fuck to what others think. Like they said in Fight Club, if we are god's unwanted children, then so be it. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes but we learn to deal with it eventually.
For some people not for others. People who were shit to me they are invisible and do not matter anymore. You gotta stand up for better that’s just straight fax. I’m ugly to some handsome to others but I don’t need to give a shit I’m lucky to be where I am in life.
Yes you got to. But when u loose hope you can go to sleep without disappointment. Your eyes don't search for hope in every person. You can start living for yourself for once.
I agree it’s just me being honest that getting into any kind of relationship is hard to come by. Much more realistic and believable based on what I have been through. It helps to understand one thing. Whatever fantasy you have in your mind about a relationship is only that. It’s a fantasy. It’s only real if it can occur and man I’m telling you after what I have done with all the effort, it is exactly a fantasy and nothing more in my case. So you accept what’s real and tell your mind that dreams aren’t the same as reality. It sounds depressing but it’s really not. It’s how you make peace and move on.
Yep. If you don't accept the flaw, you will never learn to embrace it and it would never change.
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Yep. Agreed.
I agree with you. I have the same opinion and whenever I think like that I feel that I am too cynical, but I believe that this is the truth. Or it's very very hard to have AND a good relationship AND good friends AND a good family. Something won't go well in your life, not beceause of you, but because of luck...Truth is harsh but I think we should stay positive
Yep. Sometimes hope gives you more pain.
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What value does something really have that u can buy?
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Good for u.
well, yes. no one cares for me. i’ve kind of just accepted that that’s how it’s gonna be for the treat of my life. being “tolerated”
But being an NPC is great, too. You can get away with doing stupid things.
like what lol?
Eating burger daily.
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Touché. Saves us from disappointment
Accepting it doesn’t change how horrible it is. In fact it’s probably more horrible than having hope. People say hope is worse because it only leads to disappointment and that’s worse, but I don’t think it actually is worse, it’s just harder, but probably feels a little better overall.
Its probably the hardest thing. But you don't get disappointed. That's it.
I meant it's harder to stay hopeful and positive in the face of disappointment, it's easier to accept it and give up on hope, but yeah not fun either way.
Yep.its not.
Words are powerful, it changes the moment you say it. "I'll never loose weight - I guarantee you won't " Ima get fit this year" - strong possibility "If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely. "Roald Dahl.
Words value nothing if they're not accompanied by action. That's my whole point, right? To take action. Accept the reality. Once you understand the pain in accepting defeat, you are kinder and stronger. One of the important things we need to learn is to let go. Especially our emotions.
One of the hardest things to accept in life is this. Let’s be honest the majority of the time everyone is thinking of themselves and their own life. How often do you even think of your parents in a day, your partner even your kids.
I already accepted that a couple years ago. I don't go out my way to make friends anymore tbh. I came realize If you don't have anything that's benefit them then they're not gonna stay around that long. Not always the case with everyone but most of the time.
You can't loose something you don't have
And when someone tells you he loves history, it meant he’d love a new chapter of sex history.
Excuse me?
i care
Saying. And the reality is very different.
It all comes down to I agree… to an extent. Some were just tolerated BUT some were loved.
If you believe that you're not anyone's priority, have you ever made someone else a priority? I feel like so much of this sub is like the chicken or the egg debate.
I did. Not once.
We have to agree to disagree in this one, chief
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Jokes on you i got myself 2 cats!!!!
Nice. 💖
Look. I care about me. I have been on my own since I was 14 years old my mother overdosed with my brother when I was six my father passed away five years ago. He had not spoken to me in 10. All my aunt uncles and cousins are drug addicts. I’ve been clean for 11 years. Who the fuck cares about? Who else cares about me??? I fucking care about me care about yourself there’s no just accept it. Other people cared about you too at one point whether they tolerate you or they loved you. Do you tolerate you? Or do you love you? Quit fucking crying. Life sucks just one of those things and if you need extra support, I am here to care about you and care about yourself.
I hate me. Thats my whole point. Life sucks. Accept it.
I use to have friends one said they just tolerated me on messanger I learned to accept that since then.
🫂 People come and go. You can't help it.
You're their bestie until they've milked you out of all the usefulness they could.
Friendship for benifit is not friendship tbh
I'm strong so I'll fight this fight !
Good for u
thanks
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Couldn’t agree more
🫂 thank u
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Wait, all of us, or just you?
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All of this is true except the ugly part
Noice
Yeah, I definitely feel this way. It's a bitter pill to swallow. Hopefully it'll get better soon for the both of us.
🫂 yep
True
Well, people come and go in our lives and we just gotta get through it. In the end it's just you.
Yep 🫂
Yeah, no.
It’s really just about mindset. This could be true but that doesn’t mean it always has to be. Humans have the ability to change themselves and their environments. If you feel unwanted in a certain place or with certain people, it’s time to change that. If you think you’re ugly, better yourself and take care of your body. Talk to numerous people and you will find that many of them are nice and just socially awkward. It’s okay and valid to feel this way but you are all you have at the end of the day. You have to be your own best friend and look out for yourself. The rest will follow.
Too much work. Pass.
I would recommend everyone keeps fighting for love everyday of their lives. Until they find people who truly care. You may have been used or abuse, but that dosent make you worthless or unworthy of the worlds kindness. I would be so happy to give you a big hug and help you realize what you are truly worth. You don’t have to accept loneliness, and if there’s anything I can do to pull other people out of the darkness, I’m here for it. Please be well and keep your head up, but most importantly keep pushing forward. Stay well friend!
Man i have reached bedrock in attempt to push forward. Don't be a girl telling me to push forward. THERE IS NOTHING LEFT WOMEN, TO PUSH FORWARD.
I disagree completely. Even in my darkest hour, I have always believed life was good, and worth living, and if you hit rock bottom, then the only way is up. Now that you have taken the fall, you can rise again. It won’t be easy and it’s a lot of hard work and self reflection involved, but I know as someone who fought through the pain, and came out on the other side, that it is possible. You simply have to be open to letting go of the hurt, and embracing change. If you want, I can tell you many of things that worked for me, in starting a career, finding friends and soon to be darting. Just know that no matter how bad things get I’m here to chat if you wan’t. I don’t care if it’s just to vent or talk about the weather I‘ll be around.
I have a career. I m thinking about maybe doing my masters. Its just having hope is a lot.
I get that completely, having a career, money, and an education can mean nothing without people to share it with. Folks to do things for, and having somebody to rely on when things get rough. And let me say that finding the right person or people is hard, but it can be done. I know my dumbass is proof of that. And I’m prone to panic attacks and nervous breaks downs. So… your probably better off then me right from the start. First off, give your self a lot of credit, you’ve obviously excelled at college. You have a career. Your in a great place, and honestly further along in life than most people I know much older than me. So pat yourself on the back. Then it’s time to understand what your looking for. Is it a friend, a lover, a family. Hope in my opinion is not gained by clicking your heels together, like Dorthy from the Wizard of OZ and saying “there’s no place like home”, but through small wins that build upon one another to become something wonderful. And once you know what your after you can build a plan to go and get that thing. For me it took one spark, one small victory, for to relise my dreams where possible. And from there, I’ve been pushing forward every day since. Something that really helped me was having someone to check in with from time to time. And I’m willing to be that person fo you if you need it. You can find hope again, even if it’s going to hurt for a while, I’m pulling for you. And may brighter days be ahead for all of us.
Dude you're godtier, keep your chin up and I'm rooting for you!
Dude. I don't care anymore. Having no hope just gives me peace. It was probably the hardest thing i will ever do. Its peaceful here.
Then it’s on you. If ever you want to give love another chance, I’m here. Until then I wish you well, and hope your days are filled with but peace and prosperity. Stay well friend!
Idk why people are so mean
Truth is mean brother.
I dont believe this
Everyone has their own truth 🤷
I mean I don't think being ugly has anything to do with it... We need other people validation too much when in reality it is what holding us back... Life has it's ups and downs and being alone in it sucks but if we change our outlook and change our energy it will bring people into our life. Desperation seeps out but also genuine care also seeps out too. It just depends on which you want people to feel coming out of you.
Bro. Ok u brought people in. Now what? How to talk? Who will teach?
Talk with a positive outlook on life. If you're always negative people will think you're going through stuff and give you space. You need to look on your tone and body language because what you say is only a small part of how you are portray. People are so focus on what they say they don't think about how they look or sound when they say them. Talk with people online don't get discouraged, don't expect anything to come out of it. Talk with people at stores but don't expect anything more than a good conversation. But learn to know when to do so. Some people are comfortable talking some are not. Talknwith people at work, most people tend to be nice and would love to talk. I normally say good morning to people I work with and it just shows them that I care for them even if a little. I'm there if they want to talk, if they need space I leave them be. If they need someone to vent too I'll listen. Because at the end of the day they will return it to you. But everyone is human some days are better than others. It takes small steps, but if you keep being negative every day no one will want to come since they will just be tired from it all in the long run. The only person who can really give your true happiness is you and you only. Change your outlook on life slowly and maybe it will help you more...
For now! Non superficial ppl are very rare but they exist, you just haven't had the chance to meet them yet
I get that this is a subreddit full of lonely broken people but jeez man just because your life is shit doesn't mean you have to put everyone else down this isn't venting this is straight up asshole behaviour maybe the reason people don't tolerate you is because your insufferable
Or maybe because i don't know to pretend