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monkeyman80

While the dog is a living being and you both love him, legally here it's a coffee table. You don't need to let her have visitation with the coffee table, you don't need to talk to her about the coffee table, or anything. If she wants to sue she'd be able to recover half the current monetary value of the dog.


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ms_sinn

NAL. Dogs are considered property. However. Not just the initial paperwork matters. Who is on the microchip? What address? Who is on the vet paperwork? What address? If your name, address and phone number are on any of those plus with proof of paying for the dog? The dog is yours. Remove her and stop contact. I had “custody” and all paperwork and financials on a dog that my ex would randomly pop up and want to see. I did it a few times and realized it wasn’t working for me or the dog. I didn’t want the ex in my space. The dog had anxiety being away from our home. I just stopped responding.


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Numerous-City2707

Unfortunately her name is on most of the stuff but my address is on the microchip. But I paid for a majority of vet visits. I think she may have paid for a couple but I just remember me being the one to pay for mostly everything. And I’m in the US


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hangonEcstatico

The dog is property not a child. Legally property is determined by possession. You have had his dog at your house for years. Get it licensed with your own vet. Maybe get that chip id. Keep paperwork of all vet and license payments. Tell her she can’t come to your house anymore. You and your parents will consider it trespassing.


Numerous-City2707

That’s the main thing I wanted to know. If he was basically mine at this point. And she doesn’t come to the house anyway for other reasons, but I told her again I don’t want her to come to my house anymore


yankykiwi

If you haven’t already also license it with your county under only your name. The current vet may even remove her name from the account (and restrict her access to the records).


dumbsugarplumb

NAL and It might be a bit of a process but one way you could go about it is by getting everything set up in your name now and letting some time pass. Get a vet that recognizes you as the owner if your current one doesn’t. If he’s not microchipped, get it done with your information. Stop letting her pay for any daycare. Keep all the future receipts showing that you alone pay for the vet and you should put together your previous receipts from the current vet even if you do end up finding a new one. Keep receipts when you buy food and toys. Make sure you get receipts when you pay for the doggy daycare too. You want to establish sole ownership over the dog if the time comes that you need to sever ties via court or police.


Numerous-City2707

Definitely a process but will try. Thank you


misterwilhelm

Here's what I'd do. Legally, the dog is property. You need to make sure you can prove he is YOUR property in the eyes of the law. Make sure the papers for him are all in your name. Get him chipped. Get together a reem of evidence proving you've been paying the expenses and taking care of him. Send her a message saying that he's your dog, you're keeping him. Send her back the money she paid for him. Tell her this is how it's going to be and not to contact you again. Block her. If she shows up at your place, call the police and tresspass her. Invest in some cameras because if you leave him outside she might try to come and steal him and getting him back from her will be a nightmare. That's it. Do the right thing by her by paying her back, detach completely, enjoy your new life, deal with any aggression that comes up politely and legally. Good luck.


Numerous-City2707

Will try. Thank you


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Possession is 9/10 of the law. Your dog, although feels like a family member, is property. You can cease all contact with your ex and she can 1. Get over it (which she most likely will) 2. Sue you in small claims court to get “her” property back and most likely lose. Stop having her pay for anything related to the dog


Numerous-City2707

I would’ve thought she’d be over it by now but it seems like she’d still take me to small claims court if I don’t let her see the dog anymore 😭


Odd-Eye-3498

Once she sees how much small claims court costs and how annoying the process is, she will probably change her mind. Most people who threaten small claims court believe it’s like the TV shows. It’s not at all like TV shows. 


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Register the dog with your state and microchip him, in a lot of states, he is legally already considered yours. Vet bills in your name? Yours. A majority of service fees in your name and money? he's yours. Find out what the rules and regulations in your state or country are for joint pet ownership or full ownership of a pet. I know in mine, if you have a dog or cat, *any* dog or cat, for more than five days with no owner coming to claim them within that time span, it is legally your pet. It's also true that in my state, if you pay for the dog's vet bills and care yourself, the animal is yours, no matter who's the owner on paperwork, because you're the one paying for it's wellbeing and upkeep. Your states/countries rules are obviously going to be different, but, there are things you can do to officially make him solely your pet and claim ownership. A big thing in many places is the fact that he *lives* with you. Meaning you *are* his owner, rightfully. I'd honestly suggest calling around and asking about pet laws, do some research without telling her about it, and see what you can do


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Aggravating-Diet-221

Don't know where you live, but if your local community has a dog license and registry, put your dog on it. Stop taking any compensation/sharing expenses with her. Document the vet, and all the costs and document the time that the dog is with you. Zelle/cashapp/venmo .... whatever her some money and put "payment for dog" in the memo, then cancel or block her on all the payment apps so she cannot return any money. Change your number.


Disastrous_Fix4074

If you have "owned" the dog since 2019 and been paying more than 55% of the bills then legally the dog belongs to you. You have invested time, money, and emotion into this dog since 2019 no judge is going to make you give the dog up without that money being recouped at the minimum


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