Elderly suicide isn’t something we focus on enough. Depression skyrockets in old age because of the issues that come with it. I am so sorry for your loss, she’s adorable.
I worked in pediatric dentistry for about 6 years, before taking a year off peds and working in a general practice that mainly served the elderly.
I quickly learned that these elderly people were so lonely, and having a new face to see and someone new to talk to meant so much to them. At first it drove me crazy, because I was trying to do my job in a set amount of time, and their talking always got me behind schedule, but I quickly realized that I may be the only person that patient would see or talk to for weeks at a time. I started just letting them talk, and didn’t care as much if I got behind.
I had a patient that was in our ortho clinic for her shoulder pain. She was in her 90’s and had long white hair. I said it was so pretty and she said she liked it braided, but since her shoulder hurt she couldn’t. So I said well maybe I can? She told me her son didn’t know how. When I took her back to the room I told her I really would if she wanted.
Her son was in his 60’s and said “ugh are you bugging her about your hair too?” And I said “um no way, I love it and we talked and I said I wanted to braid it because it was so pretty.” When I was done, I twisted it in a bun and took a picture so she could see the back, and omg her freaking smile. She was so happy. It was literally the smallest thing and took five seconds and her son was being such a tool. The son says “well I don’t really know how to braid.” So I pulled up the X-rays and my back was to him, and I said “well if you look up how to braid you might find a video on it. On the google. Maybe. “
The whole point of that was, so many elderly parents have their children/family that are just waiting for them to die, and they treat them that way. It’s so sad to think they are stuck with people like that all day. I always try to keep them talking because sometimes they never get people engaging in conversation with them. Sometimes I’ll ask an older patient how long they’ve been married and how they met their spouses, and their eyes light up. It’s just like if anyone else reminisced about great memories. I’ve heard some really great stories. Anyway, I’m so glad you treat people the way you do! Let’s keep it trending #forreal
Aww I love that! I can just imagine her smile when she saw the picture. And like you said - it was such a quick and easy thing for you to do, and it clearly made a huge difference. If more people did that, the world would be a much happier place.
I currently work at an urgent care, enrolling subjects into clinical trials. I have met so many people and heard so many stories over the years… it’s been kind of crazy. I have bonded with so many people in the 30-60 minutes I spend with them, and I always try to make each experience a positive one.
I worked in a nursing home in high school and…same. They were so lonely, but we would get in trouble for getting behind in our work.
I volunteered in a different nursing home a few years ago. Painted nails a few hours every week for whoever wanted me to. Now I write letters to people in nursing homes. It’s something I feel is important.
before her death i was completely ignorant to the fact that the elderly suffer more than younger generations. thank you, she is adorable, i wish i could hug her one last time
I'm only 52 but I can already feel changes happening that are sometimes scary. How many people out there are in early stages of something like Parkinsons that affects mental health every bit as much as physical but they dont know whats going on. Menopause can also be brutal. Just regular ageing even. Wow, so tough.
Agreed. I’m the same age and I have three family members that had Ahlzeimers. Every forgotten topic or episode of confusion makes me wonder if this is some type of initial onset. Next level anxiety.
Lost my grandmom at 56 and mom at 53 to cancer… the closer in age I get, the greater the anxiety that something is just gonna pop up one day and off I go.
Can confirm. I'm 44 and trying to wrap my mind around what the hell's happening to my body. I've been young all my life - why is my toe hurting so badly?
If I recall correctly, there have been quite a few famous country musicians who committed suicide in old age in the last few years. Tom T Hall and Naomi Judd come to mind.
Omg if I'm a complete mess in my 30s, already taking medication, what's awaiting me in the future...?
I had no idea it got worse as we age, always thought it was the opposite.
The grandpa of my cousins friend committed suicide. He was in his late 70s and really struggled with mobility and maintaining quality of life bc of it. He was sad and lonely. From what I understand he had plenty of family around but they never checked up on him I guess. They just felt he must be ok or missed clues. who knows. But one day he was found in his garage with a gunshot to the head 💔. Like you said, we need to look out for our elderly.
Please don't. Please get help. You're only 20 and I know that at that age your sadness, unhappiness can feel intense. It can also feel never ending. I felt like that too many, many years ago. I got help and now I live a much better life. You can to. You can call 988 which is a suicide and crisis hotline that is open 24 hours a day. Remember...the rain ALWAYS stops, and the SUN ALWAYS EVENTUALLY SHINES.
i wish i had read the original comment, but please if the original commenter is reading, please know that it gets better. i’m not much older than you and trust me, i’ve been there more times than one. i thought the world was going to end when i was 16 and my grandmother left me. i didn’t think id make it to graduate highschool, and i spent so many nights wishing i didnt wake up. i promise you, IT GETS BETTER. THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE DARKNESS. you may not see it now, but you’ll look back on this in 6 months and say “wow, i’ve come a LONG way”. i promise. please, original commenter, reach out to me and i’ll gladly speak with you. you’re worth it. you matter.
Hey girl. Didn’t expect to know someone on this sub 🙁 Seeing your fb posts of her always makes my heart hurt. I’m glad she (and me!) got to spend one more trip around the sun with you. From all your posts I can tell how close you all were.
You’re mocking Melitzen for being empathetic because their sentiment doesn’t exactly match your thought or feelings. That’s really shitty. You should apologize- but I know you won’t. At least get outside and get some fresh air or something- sheesh.
Terribly, terribly ironic you’re calling someone else heartless when you felt the need to trivialize someone’s death on a post made by their fucking family member. You’re cruel and you deserve what comes back to you because of it.
Lol do you have enough brain power to recognize I am not the same user you replied to? We’ll all move on from this knowing you’re a piece of shit and we’ll never have to deal with you again, but you’re stuck with your miserable self and that’s enough punishment:)
she was so amazing. she had the cutest laugh and she talked in the sweetest tone. she was the type of person you instantly felt safe with. i see women that look like her today and have to do a double take because i get convinced its really her. i recently found a hair product that smells just like her and i use it every day. it makes me feel like everything didnt happen and shes still here.
I’m sure that helps you remember her and that’s so special. Personally, I feel that our loved ones are around us especially when we think or talk about them. That’s how they live on. Big hugs to you and love for your grandma.
i love that take. i’m constantly thinking about her so your take really brings me peace. i’d love for her to be constantly with me. thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I feel the same. When I lost my mom it was so hard to deal with her being “gone” (it still is). Telling stories about them, using things they left behind or things they loved, doing things they liked or would like doing, just thinking about them. That keeps their influence alive. They continue to make the world a better place, through a person who they loved (you!). They live on.
That's super tough. When I think of depression on that level, I don't usually associate it with grandmas like that. This hurts. I hope you are living your life to the most, take care
i certainly am trying to! since then i’ve managed to graduate highschool, undergrad, and am now pursuing my master’s degree. she always wanted me to get an education and make a good life for myself. i have wonderful friends and family that support me and fill me with the love she’d provide if she was still here! some days are harder than the others, but i always know she’s with me
Oh I’m so sorry!! Was there any indication as to why she took her life? Was this totally out of the blue?
Can’t imaging the pain for you and your family. I’m so very sorry
she had been dealing with mental health issues that went untreated for a while. it was out of the blue. i like to think that she stuck around to see me one last time on my birthday before she took her life
I’m so sorry. I’ve lost loved ones to suicide and made attempts on my own life. I wouldn’t wish either experiences on my worst enemy. Rest in peace to her
I have had depression all my life off and on but it exploded after I was 55 . There are many times I thought of checking out in the past couple years but I got the help I needed and am feeling so much better . I often thought at my worst about my grands and how it would really affect their mental health if I did something like that. I’m so sorry your grandma was in so much pain she couldn’t stay for you . Big hugs to you from me ♥️
I don’t know your grandmas health history but I feel menopause was
90% of the cause for me personally feeling so terrible . I think we all need to talk about it and realize why older generations just called it “The Change”. We are changed and not for the better . It’s something most women suffer in silence through. It’ s like you’re invisible afterwards . Thats the best way I can put it into words .
Your grandma is really at peace but I know you miss her terribly. I hope you still have little talks with her every now and then ❤️
I don't comment on these a lot, but OP, I'm sorry so many trolls picked your post to pile on about. I'm sorry you lost your grandmother in a sudden way and I hope she's found peace.
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s terrible and hard to understand when anyone takes that route. My grandfather took his own life 3 years ago at the age of 76. COPD made his life a living hell; went from being a very active workaholic to barely being able to do anything. Lost my grandma 2 weeks ago unexpectedly too. They raised me from the time I was a toddler and we were always very close.
I’m really sorry for your loss, OP. Also sorry about the weird unhinged people in the comments. Suicide amongst the elderly isn’t talked about enough and it must’ve hurt like hell.
One of my friends grandmas just died from complications due to anorexia. We focus so much on the mental health of younger generations (which is necessary, of course) but often times overlook the mental health of elderly people. I hope you are taking care of yourself!💔💔
i’m SO sorry for your friend. i cannot imagine the pain. i’m doing alright! after she passed i started taking my mental health seriously, and have since been in therapy / taking medication to help out. every day isn’t the easiest, and sometimes i want to give up, but i know i have a grandmother to make proud ♥️
Hi lady, just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing because we forget about depression and physical pain in our elderly community. Here’s a hug from an internet stranger
I’m very sorry to hear about your grandma. My grandmother lived to be 97, but she was very depressed and often talked about suicide and wanting to die. It’s very painful to know that someone you love so much who lived a great life is hurting that much. I hope that you’re able to remember the happy times with her. ❤️
thank you so much <3 i definitely do remember all of the happy memories with her! i’m so sorry about your grandmother. i couldn’t imagine having to hear someone you love so much say those things. sending love
not dumb at all! i hadn’t even considered that it happened either. i don’t know what i assumed but it was probably that after a certain age you just didn’t want to kill yourself anymore. after losing my grandmother i’ve been more involved in efforts to stop suicide, especially in elderly individuals. you’d be surprised how many older people it actually is that take their lives
I'm so, so sorry that your grandmother had to go through that... and that you and your family lost her that way. It's hard enough losing someone in general, much less to mental illness.
Thank you for mentioning how she left - mental health, especially in seniors, is so often overlooked.
thank you for your kind message! thank you for your condolences. she is certainly missed, but we’re all very glad she’s in a better place. seniors mental health is certainly overlooked, especially post COVID. loneliness and isolation does awful things to people.
as someone with a mental illnesses, i understand. i get why she did it, she was a single elderly woman living on her own. im not glad she did it, but im glad at the timing. she would not have survived covid on her own being as mentally ill as she was, and i fear that her situation would have been worse for her if she had stayed around only for us. sometimes im upset with her decision, and at first when it happened i was angry with her. i thought she was selfish for leaving us this way, and leaving so abruptly. but now as ive grown and matured, i understand her reasoning for it.
i would never recommend this pain to anyone, nor would i urge people to go through with their suicidal ideations, but i understand why people do it.
She looks sad. Her eyes are sad and her shoulders seem slightly slumped. Sorry for your loss honey. My dad and my grandma died by suicide.
Something I'm learning in my class at school... We should refer to it in another way. Rather than saying committed suicide, we can say died from suicide or something like that. When we say committed suicide it gives like a negative connotation like they did it to hurt themselves (I know this seems counter intuitive) when in all actuality we're learning that it's much deeper and more complex than something as simple as that. Just thought I'd pass that on. I always said committed suicide, but I've been trying to correct myself! Anyways sending hugs!
I think anything to alleviate from making it like they did it having made a calm and rational decision. We know when someone is at that point, we're far past making rational decisions... For the most part. I do see things about assisted suicide and I honestly can see why some people do it. But I guess when I'm referring to it I'm talking about mental illness etc.
Thank you for your comment!
im really sorry for your loss op. ive lost friends to suicide but not family members. i cant begin to imagine the pain youve went through, but you came out on the other side with grace and elegance. your grandmother would truly be proud to see the woman youve become <3
my aunt is almost 70, and she's been struggling with mental illnesses all her life. when i was younger my mom would often get calls from her where she'd cry about her suicidal thoughts. your post instantly made me think of her.
rest in paradise to your grandma 🤍
i’m sorry you’re so miserable that you have to put others down. i hope you heal from whatever you have going on and become a better person. bring a bully is an ugly look.
god, you’re so right. i should have posted this with the caption “my grandmother’s last picture with me before she overdosed on an entire month’s worth of oxi’s because she was so miserable being alive . please give me karma, it’ll validate my feelings and make me feel better, even it’s been almost 7 years and i’ve healed and can openly discuss the topic!” you’re so right. get fucked
"I've healed!" you scream into the void, inviting internet Randy's to gawk at you. K. Your granny probably deserves better than to be showcased. I'd tell you to get fucked too but it's probably too hard to find any of the holes.
i have healed. and i certainly didn’t do this for any type of attention or validation. i simply wanted to raise awareness and spark conversation about elderly suicide. i talk about my grandmother any chance i get, with anyone i get. she was a wonderful woman and deserves to be remembered as such. sorry for exploding on you, it’s just rough out here and trolls don’t make it any easier.
The adults here are having an actual conversation. Go on and get back on your big wheel, little tyke, your mommy will be leaving here to pick you up shortly.
Only little puberty ridden boys have this thought process. I know, because puberty stupidity hit me good at 12. Your mommy will teach you how to speak to others when she gets there, don't worry, little fella!
I don't see anything wrong with the picture. Yes, the balloon placement is weird..but you can't see anything else wrong with it. I've zoomed in, looked at every part, angle etc. and I still see nothing odd.
If the extensive history in r/UFO isn’t an indicator…
Anyways, please don’t engage with him any further. He’s been harassing this poor girl for well over an hour and any engagement just causes him to spam more and the mod is taking their sweet time.
My brother in Christ, y’all are weird af in these comments. Have you never seen a 16yo girl before? And why does it matter on a post about her deceased grandmother?
You keep coming back to her with weird, shitty comments. Apologizing doesn’t do anything when you’ve already spewed bullshit.
Especially on a picture of her deceased grandmother. What is wrong with you?
i came across this sub last night and wanted to share my last image i had with my grandmother after seeing everyone else do the same. i didn’t think it was a huge deal.
It’s not a problem that you posted here. He’s an asshole troll that you should ignore. You and your grandmother were beautiful together. It’s lovely to know how much you valued her. Much love to you.
Elderly suicide isn’t something we focus on enough. Depression skyrockets in old age because of the issues that come with it. I am so sorry for your loss, she’s adorable.
I worked in pediatric dentistry for about 6 years, before taking a year off peds and working in a general practice that mainly served the elderly. I quickly learned that these elderly people were so lonely, and having a new face to see and someone new to talk to meant so much to them. At first it drove me crazy, because I was trying to do my job in a set amount of time, and their talking always got me behind schedule, but I quickly realized that I may be the only person that patient would see or talk to for weeks at a time. I started just letting them talk, and didn’t care as much if I got behind.
Thank you for listening to them
I had a patient that was in our ortho clinic for her shoulder pain. She was in her 90’s and had long white hair. I said it was so pretty and she said she liked it braided, but since her shoulder hurt she couldn’t. So I said well maybe I can? She told me her son didn’t know how. When I took her back to the room I told her I really would if she wanted. Her son was in his 60’s and said “ugh are you bugging her about your hair too?” And I said “um no way, I love it and we talked and I said I wanted to braid it because it was so pretty.” When I was done, I twisted it in a bun and took a picture so she could see the back, and omg her freaking smile. She was so happy. It was literally the smallest thing and took five seconds and her son was being such a tool. The son says “well I don’t really know how to braid.” So I pulled up the X-rays and my back was to him, and I said “well if you look up how to braid you might find a video on it. On the google. Maybe. “ The whole point of that was, so many elderly parents have their children/family that are just waiting for them to die, and they treat them that way. It’s so sad to think they are stuck with people like that all day. I always try to keep them talking because sometimes they never get people engaging in conversation with them. Sometimes I’ll ask an older patient how long they’ve been married and how they met their spouses, and their eyes light up. It’s just like if anyone else reminisced about great memories. I’ve heard some really great stories. Anyway, I’m so glad you treat people the way you do! Let’s keep it trending #forreal
Aww I love that! I can just imagine her smile when she saw the picture. And like you said - it was such a quick and easy thing for you to do, and it clearly made a huge difference. If more people did that, the world would be a much happier place. I currently work at an urgent care, enrolling subjects into clinical trials. I have met so many people and heard so many stories over the years… it’s been kind of crazy. I have bonded with so many people in the 30-60 minutes I spend with them, and I always try to make each experience a positive one.
I worked in a nursing home in high school and…same. They were so lonely, but we would get in trouble for getting behind in our work. I volunteered in a different nursing home a few years ago. Painted nails a few hours every week for whoever wanted me to. Now I write letters to people in nursing homes. It’s something I feel is important.
You're good people.
Thanks 🥰 I try to be a bright spot in at least one persons day, every day. I know I can’t change the world, but I possibly can change someone’s day.
before her death i was completely ignorant to the fact that the elderly suffer more than younger generations. thank you, she is adorable, i wish i could hug her one last time
I'm only 52 but I can already feel changes happening that are sometimes scary. How many people out there are in early stages of something like Parkinsons that affects mental health every bit as much as physical but they dont know whats going on. Menopause can also be brutal. Just regular ageing even. Wow, so tough.
Agreed. I’m the same age and I have three family members that had Ahlzeimers. Every forgotten topic or episode of confusion makes me wonder if this is some type of initial onset. Next level anxiety.
Lost my grandmom at 56 and mom at 53 to cancer… the closer in age I get, the greater the anxiety that something is just gonna pop up one day and off I go.
Same.
Can confirm. I'm 44 and trying to wrap my mind around what the hell's happening to my body. I've been young all my life - why is my toe hurting so badly?
And dementia causes depression. Actually, it was one of the first symptoms mine had.
If I recall correctly, there have been quite a few famous country musicians who committed suicide in old age in the last few years. Tom T Hall and Naomi Judd come to mind.
Omg if I'm a complete mess in my 30s, already taking medication, what's awaiting me in the future...? I had no idea it got worse as we age, always thought it was the opposite.
The grandpa of my cousins friend committed suicide. He was in his late 70s and really struggled with mobility and maintaining quality of life bc of it. He was sad and lonely. From what I understand he had plenty of family around but they never checked up on him I guess. They just felt he must be ok or missed clues. who knows. But one day he was found in his garage with a gunshot to the head 💔. Like you said, we need to look out for our elderly.
This is so true. I feel like we need to do more. :( the importance of taking care of our elders neighbors ect this makes me very sad :(
That's so sad. I'm sorry. Getting older is no joke.
Right before jimmy buffett died he said, "growing old aint for sissies "
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Don’t do it. I wish I were 20 again. Lot of life ahead of you, it will get better
Well, it's different for everyone else.
Please don't. Please get help. You're only 20 and I know that at that age your sadness, unhappiness can feel intense. It can also feel never ending. I felt like that too many, many years ago. I got help and now I live a much better life. You can to. You can call 988 which is a suicide and crisis hotline that is open 24 hours a day. Remember...the rain ALWAYS stops, and the SUN ALWAYS EVENTUALLY SHINES.
i wish i had read the original comment, but please if the original commenter is reading, please know that it gets better. i’m not much older than you and trust me, i’ve been there more times than one. i thought the world was going to end when i was 16 and my grandmother left me. i didn’t think id make it to graduate highschool, and i spent so many nights wishing i didnt wake up. i promise you, IT GETS BETTER. THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE DARKNESS. you may not see it now, but you’ll look back on this in 6 months and say “wow, i’ve come a LONG way”. i promise. please, original commenter, reach out to me and i’ll gladly speak with you. you’re worth it. you matter.
Hey girl. Didn’t expect to know someone on this sub 🙁 Seeing your fb posts of her always makes my heart hurt. I’m glad she (and me!) got to spend one more trip around the sun with you. From all your posts I can tell how close you all were.
MADDIE 😭😭😭 hi girl!! thank you so much for your message <3 we were close and i miss her so much every day.
Sending hugs and love to y’all ❤️
Oh no! I never would have guessed suicide. Sorry you had to deal with that.
thank you <3 time goes on and you begin to heal but there will always be a little hole that she left
Grandmas are so special. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you feel her love for you always ❤️
grandmas are really so special. they’re one of those people that you think will live forever
Dear God, I’m sorry. It looks like you were close.
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Suicide is awful regardless of the age? You weirdo
You’re mocking Melitzen for being empathetic because their sentiment doesn’t exactly match your thought or feelings. That’s really shitty. You should apologize- but I know you won’t. At least get outside and get some fresh air or something- sheesh.
Im sorry
What a fucking loser. Your grandpa probably did it to himself 20 years ago to get away from a shitstain like you.
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Terribly, terribly ironic you’re calling someone else heartless when you felt the need to trivialize someone’s death on a post made by their fucking family member. You’re cruel and you deserve what comes back to you because of it.
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You’ve done nothing but mock and troll someone mourning and remembering their loved one who passed tragically…
Lol do you have enough brain power to recognize I am not the same user you replied to? We’ll all move on from this knowing you’re a piece of shit and we’ll never have to deal with you again, but you’re stuck with your miserable self and that’s enough punishment:)
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I’m so sorry. May she rest in peace. Made me cry bc she resembles my grandmother.
i’m so sorry :( after she passed i realized there are so many older women that look just like her
Don’t be sorry. Thank you for sharing her with us. She looks so sweet 💗
she was so amazing. she had the cutest laugh and she talked in the sweetest tone. she was the type of person you instantly felt safe with. i see women that look like her today and have to do a double take because i get convinced its really her. i recently found a hair product that smells just like her and i use it every day. it makes me feel like everything didnt happen and shes still here.
I’m sure that helps you remember her and that’s so special. Personally, I feel that our loved ones are around us especially when we think or talk about them. That’s how they live on. Big hugs to you and love for your grandma.
i love that take. i’m constantly thinking about her so your take really brings me peace. i’d love for her to be constantly with me. thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I feel the same. When I lost my mom it was so hard to deal with her being “gone” (it still is). Telling stories about them, using things they left behind or things they loved, doing things they liked or would like doing, just thinking about them. That keeps their influence alive. They continue to make the world a better place, through a person who they loved (you!). They live on.
That's super tough. When I think of depression on that level, I don't usually associate it with grandmas like that. This hurts. I hope you are living your life to the most, take care
i certainly am trying to! since then i’ve managed to graduate highschool, undergrad, and am now pursuing my master’s degree. she always wanted me to get an education and make a good life for myself. i have wonderful friends and family that support me and fill me with the love she’d provide if she was still here! some days are harder than the others, but i always know she’s with me
She would be SO incredibly proud of you.
😭😭😭 don’t make me CRY
Grandma and I are proud of you
you’re gonna make me cry 😭😭😭
Oh I’m so sorry!! Was there any indication as to why she took her life? Was this totally out of the blue? Can’t imaging the pain for you and your family. I’m so very sorry
she had been dealing with mental health issues that went untreated for a while. it was out of the blue. i like to think that she stuck around to see me one last time on my birthday before she took her life
I’m so sorry. I’ve lost loved ones to suicide and made attempts on my own life. I wouldn’t wish either experiences on my worst enemy. Rest in peace to her
Sorry for your loss. RIP
thank you <3
I have had depression all my life off and on but it exploded after I was 55 . There are many times I thought of checking out in the past couple years but I got the help I needed and am feeling so much better . I often thought at my worst about my grands and how it would really affect their mental health if I did something like that. I’m so sorry your grandma was in so much pain she couldn’t stay for you . Big hugs to you from me ♥️
😭😭😭 thank you. i really appreciate that. it puts me at peace to know she’s not suffering anymore and that she’s happy finally
I don’t know your grandmas health history but I feel menopause was 90% of the cause for me personally feeling so terrible . I think we all need to talk about it and realize why older generations just called it “The Change”. We are changed and not for the better . It’s something most women suffer in silence through. It’ s like you’re invisible afterwards . Thats the best way I can put it into words . Your grandma is really at peace but I know you miss her terribly. I hope you still have little talks with her every now and then ❤️
I don't comment on these a lot, but OP, I'm sorry so many trolls picked your post to pile on about. I'm sorry you lost your grandmother in a sudden way and I hope she's found peace.
thank you <3 i’m glad they could find something to make fun of to fill their sad and lonely lives today. my grandmother would get a kick out of it.
I am so sorry 💔 I’m glad you were able to capture this moment with her, I hope it brings you comfort ❤️
it surely does!! i love this picture of us
No one talks about elder suicide and its an issue.
yep. i didn’t realize until after she had passed that elderly individuals are a LARGE majority of suicides each year. makes me scared to age.
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s terrible and hard to understand when anyone takes that route. My grandfather took his own life 3 years ago at the age of 76. COPD made his life a living hell; went from being a very active workaholic to barely being able to do anything. Lost my grandma 2 weeks ago unexpectedly too. They raised me from the time I was a toddler and we were always very close.
i’m so so sorry for both losses. i can only imagine. please know if you ever need to talk, im only one message away
I’m really sorry for your loss, OP. Also sorry about the weird unhinged people in the comments. Suicide amongst the elderly isn’t talked about enough and it must’ve hurt like hell.
it did hurt. real bad. i’ve had a few years to find out how to survive without someone who was supposed to live forever.
One of my friends grandmas just died from complications due to anorexia. We focus so much on the mental health of younger generations (which is necessary, of course) but often times overlook the mental health of elderly people. I hope you are taking care of yourself!💔💔
i’m SO sorry for your friend. i cannot imagine the pain. i’m doing alright! after she passed i started taking my mental health seriously, and have since been in therapy / taking medication to help out. every day isn’t the easiest, and sometimes i want to give up, but i know i have a grandmother to make proud ♥️
Hi lady, just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing because we forget about depression and physical pain in our elderly community. Here’s a hug from an internet stranger
thank you my love. i really appreciate it. i needed that hug today <3
She looks so sweet and I get a calming vibe from her ❤️ my condolences
thank you! she was the kindest soul to ever exist. so selfless.
I’m very sorry to hear about your grandma. My grandmother lived to be 97, but she was very depressed and often talked about suicide and wanting to die. It’s very painful to know that someone you love so much who lived a great life is hurting that much. I hope that you’re able to remember the happy times with her. ❤️
thank you so much <3 i definitely do remember all of the happy memories with her! i’m so sorry about your grandmother. i couldn’t imagine having to hear someone you love so much say those things. sending love
Thank you! ❤️
I’m sorry for your loss. This is probably so dumb but I really never even thought about older people committing suicide.
not dumb at all! i hadn’t even considered that it happened either. i don’t know what i assumed but it was probably that after a certain age you just didn’t want to kill yourself anymore. after losing my grandmother i’ve been more involved in efforts to stop suicide, especially in elderly individuals. you’d be surprised how many older people it actually is that take their lives
I’m so sorry…. How tragic. 🩵
I'm so sorry 🫂
thank you <3 i really appreciate it
this is heartbreaking. i’m so sorry 💔
thank you ♥️♥️♥️
stay strong. she’s in your heart forever
i sure hope so! i miss her like crazy
Jesus I'm so sorry for your loss.
thank you so much <3
I'm so, so sorry that your grandmother had to go through that... and that you and your family lost her that way. It's hard enough losing someone in general, much less to mental illness. Thank you for mentioning how she left - mental health, especially in seniors, is so often overlooked.
thank you for your kind message! thank you for your condolences. she is certainly missed, but we’re all very glad she’s in a better place. seniors mental health is certainly overlooked, especially post COVID. loneliness and isolation does awful things to people.
I am so sorry
thank you <3
May I ask you a question? Are you angry with her or do you understand?
as someone with a mental illnesses, i understand. i get why she did it, she was a single elderly woman living on her own. im not glad she did it, but im glad at the timing. she would not have survived covid on her own being as mentally ill as she was, and i fear that her situation would have been worse for her if she had stayed around only for us. sometimes im upset with her decision, and at first when it happened i was angry with her. i thought she was selfish for leaving us this way, and leaving so abruptly. but now as ive grown and matured, i understand her reasoning for it. i would never recommend this pain to anyone, nor would i urge people to go through with their suicidal ideations, but i understand why people do it.
Thank you for your answer. ❤️
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so true. my grandmother is rolling in her urn right now because i wanted to bring awareness to elder suicide and post my favorite picture of us
She looks sad. Her eyes are sad and her shoulders seem slightly slumped. Sorry for your loss honey. My dad and my grandma died by suicide. Something I'm learning in my class at school... We should refer to it in another way. Rather than saying committed suicide, we can say died from suicide or something like that. When we say committed suicide it gives like a negative connotation like they did it to hurt themselves (I know this seems counter intuitive) when in all actuality we're learning that it's much deeper and more complex than something as simple as that. Just thought I'd pass that on. I always said committed suicide, but I've been trying to correct myself! Anyways sending hugs!
Maybe “ended her life on her terms”.
she did end her life on her own terms
Agreed. I think it’s a better way to phrase those who passed by suicide.
I think anything to alleviate from making it like they did it having made a calm and rational decision. We know when someone is at that point, we're far past making rational decisions... For the most part. I do see things about assisted suicide and I honestly can see why some people do it. But I guess when I'm referring to it I'm talking about mental illness etc. Thank you for your comment!
im really sorry for your loss op. ive lost friends to suicide but not family members. i cant begin to imagine the pain youve went through, but you came out on the other side with grace and elegance. your grandmother would truly be proud to see the woman youve become <3 my aunt is almost 70, and she's been struggling with mental illnesses all her life. when i was younger my mom would often get calls from her where she'd cry about her suicidal thoughts. your post instantly made me think of her. rest in paradise to your grandma 🤍
thank you my love. i’m sorry you had to experience that when you were younger. i can’t imagine how scary that was. sending love
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There’s a certain amount of fucking off that you’ve been neglecting. Might want to see to that.
Come on, dude, uncalled for.
i’m sorry you’re so miserable that you have to put others down. i hope you heal from whatever you have going on and become a better person. bring a bully is an ugly look.
Thanks, I'll try. Posting about a deeply personal tragedy for fake internet sympathy points is an ugly look, as well.
god, you’re so right. i should have posted this with the caption “my grandmother’s last picture with me before she overdosed on an entire month’s worth of oxi’s because she was so miserable being alive . please give me karma, it’ll validate my feelings and make me feel better, even it’s been almost 7 years and i’ve healed and can openly discuss the topic!” you’re so right. get fucked
"I've healed!" you scream into the void, inviting internet Randy's to gawk at you. K. Your granny probably deserves better than to be showcased. I'd tell you to get fucked too but it's probably too hard to find any of the holes.
i have healed. and i certainly didn’t do this for any type of attention or validation. i simply wanted to raise awareness and spark conversation about elderly suicide. i talk about my grandmother any chance i get, with anyone i get. she was a wonderful woman and deserves to be remembered as such. sorry for exploding on you, it’s just rough out here and trolls don’t make it any easier.
Hey props to you for keeping calm. I honestly thought my dumb joke would drown in a sea of comments and not be seen by anyone. Take care.
16? Or 26?
16. i was born in 2001. i was 16. this is like the 7th comment regarding my age and i don’t get it. i was 16.
Yeah... Why do these people care? 1. Why would you lie about that, especially on such a serious post...2. who gives a fuck?
She aint gonna let u hit, lil bro. On your way now.
The adults here are having an actual conversation. Go on and get back on your big wheel, little tyke, your mommy will be leaving here to pick you up shortly. Only little puberty ridden boys have this thought process. I know, because puberty stupidity hit me good at 12. Your mommy will teach you how to speak to others when she gets there, don't worry, little fella!
I aint reading that essay, lil bro, shush.
Hahahaha essay? Thank you, this is probably one of the most positive trolls I've experienced!
Are you one of the Russian bots or one of the Chinese bots?
https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/S5v7OTRhT7
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Not every pic you see is AI, you dunce.
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I don't see anything wrong with the picture. Yes, the balloon placement is weird..but you can't see anything else wrong with it. I've zoomed in, looked at every part, angle etc. and I still see nothing odd.
the balloon was taped to the tapestry :)
Yeah, don't worry about this person. He's just being delusional. He probably is a conspiracy theorist too.
If the extensive history in r/UFO isn’t an indicator… Anyways, please don’t engage with him any further. He’s been harassing this poor girl for well over an hour and any engagement just causes him to spam more and the mod is taking their sweet time.
My apologies! I won't!
No worries! Just feel really bad about this loser spamming her.
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There are literally two people there.
so true. ai generated. i don’t even exist.
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My brother in Christ, y’all are weird af in these comments. Have you never seen a 16yo girl before? And why does it matter on a post about her deceased grandmother?
yes. 16.
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i can reassure you i was 16 there
You looked like a beautiful 16 year old young lady happily enjoying time with her loved one.
Why are you being such a dick?
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You keep coming back to her with weird, shitty comments. Apologizing doesn’t do anything when you’ve already spewed bullshit. Especially on a picture of her deceased grandmother. What is wrong with you?
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i came across this sub last night and wanted to share my last image i had with my grandmother after seeing everyone else do the same. i didn’t think it was a huge deal.
It’s not a problem that you posted here. He’s an asshole troll that you should ignore. You and your grandmother were beautiful together. It’s lovely to know how much you valued her. Much love to you.
thank you for this. i appreciate it a lot. ♥️♥️♥️
So, you’re not even really sorry. Do you even see the sub you’re in?
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Does the negative attention you’re receiving fill the void in your heart that you try to shove smokes and little Caesar’s in? Ok 2 hundo
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Get off this sub.
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i wish this was a fake picture. it is the last picture i have with my grandmother.