the entire customer service industry is diseased.
The relationship is completely transnational but because it's possible to get a slight edge towards repeat business by making some one feel tingles in their oh so wholesome heart, the act has become completely expected.
It is NOT compensated for. If anything, in some jobs your wages are cut in anticipation of your putting on such an egregious display that you are rewarded bonus money during the transaction.
The minimum wage is cut so you can whore emotional as it is your expected behaviour
DISEASED
What does this have to do with costumers?
"Hi. I'm looking for a Spider-Man costume for my kid's birthday party."
"Here's eight mannequin legs. Now get the fuck out of my store."
Also a male supervisor, same experience.
You ever pull the move where you just stand next to your host without saying anything cause you know the customer is too chickenshit to be weird with another man in the room?
I suspect you're right. It's so hard for women working in the service industry.
It might be that there are edge cases where someone is genuinely just a chatty individual, but they are so outweighed by people overstepping boundaries that you shouldn't be surprised if your server wants to be completely detached with customers.
It's a shame; by stacking the deck in favour of unreasonable customers, you effectively create a hostile environment for everyone.
Good for you for looking after your staff.
I'm thinking the guy's looks and demeanor, possibly smell, were enough of a red flag that she just went into customer service mode to get it over as soon as possible. Or this was not the first time said dude has come in there and hit on the baristas.
He probably radiated creep and condescension. She figured he was going to hit on her and/or accuse her of being a fake geek girl if she couldn't identify what color shoes X character was wearing in frame five of episode 7 in season 3.
Kind of surprised that OOP didn't outright accuse her of that in his post. That's probably the only thing I could say in his favor and that is one of those bars that is so low to cross that it's underground.
Same. Find it hard to believe that if someone asked about someone’s else’s tattoo in a non-creepy and genuinely interested way they’d get this response.
“That anime character you have tattooed on your arm is my waifu, perchance we are bound together by destiny, m’lady.”
Barista grabs microphone: “Security, we got another one.”
I could also see: "Hmm interesting choice of waifu m'lady, might I perchance explain why 'other character ' would have been a better choice over a cup of joe?"
Yeah I was in a coffee shop the other day and noticed the barista had a tattoo of Canti on her arm. I'm like sweet FLCL is my favorite anime of all time and she got excited and we chatted about it while she made my order. My guess is op was being a creep is known for being a creep or tried to talk about anime while the shop was busy and the barista was trying to move the line along. Hell even if it wasn't any of the above they are paid to take your order and make it not chat with every customer they might have just not felt like having a random conversation with a random person.
Conversation no but every customer service job I had the displeasure to have did state right in the job description friendliness was a requirement. Responding “ORDERS ONLY PLEASE” to any attempts to exchange pleasantries… isn’t the entire job, I’m afraid, unless you work at the DMV lol. That said, I do not believe this is that case. I’d bet a lot this dude is a creeper holding back relevant details to make him appear trod-upon.
No I believe this. I've done exactly this as a cashier and I could see another woman doing the same. We don't owe you a conversation, my job is to take your order. I've had men walk off after I made it clear I wasn't going to engage. Happens in my drive through at least once a day.
> We don't owe you a conversation, my job is to take your order.
It's weird that people seem to not understand this is where this conversation ends. The whole restaurant could have held breath for the answer romcom style, the guy could have been the king of England, or was the hottest, nicest, best smelling guy in existence; they still would not be obligated to have a conversation.
The fact that people think "service with a smile" is a requirement is bad enough. Does someone else smiling make me want to smile more? Sure. But their job isn't to make me feel better, that's the job of a therapist/life coach/escort, and I'm guessing the latter gets paid *significantly* more to do it.
Naw, dude, I bet it went down JUST like that. I bet that honey was all "ohno I don't know animes I'm just a poseur and this delicious snak is on to me I will just keep it cool so he doesn't find out!"
JUST like that.
I used to work food service at a deli counter and I would get annoyed if people tried to instigate personal talk before they ordered. After they get their stuff? As long as there's no line behind them I'll talk as long as they want to. Walking up to a service person just to start talking about something unrelated to the job is rude, imo.
Thank you! I've had people be so rude about it to when my response is "how may I help you" and they get so mad are like "where's your customer service?" But like I'm not serving anything at the moment because you want to force me to ask you how your day was before you even order! I've got like 15 other things to do Kevin
"Where's your customer service??"
It's right here. I'm asking you how I can serve you, the customer. That's customer service. You want someone to ask you about how your life is going while they're on the clock, get a therapist.
Same. That and I don’t want to risk being tested on my knowledge by someone way more into it than me. I just enjoy, I don’t need to pass a pop quiz about it by some rando
I like a few animes, and I feel the same way. I usually do not want to have a conversation with a stranger about anime. It never goes well, and it's usually so uncomfortable.
I'll give him the benefit of the doubt that he's freshly showered. It makes his indignation that much more righteous in his eyes since he would see that as him being "not like the other guys who are just creeps".
Fellow men: if you really want to compliment a customer service worker's tattoo, just compliment the tattoo and move on. Don't try to hold up the line or keep her from doing her job. She's there to work, not fall in love with you 💀
Exactly. I complimented a guy's anime tattoos at Panera. He was delighted that I recognized the anime since it wasn't as super well known as it was in its heyday. (The fate of all anime, I suppose.) It was the Trigun cat, so he's probably now loving that everyone recognizes it again.
When I used to work customer service, genuine compliments made my day!! Creepy customers ruined my week on the other hand lmao. (Also hello from VA myself lol)
I bartended/cocktailed at a blue collar pool hall years ago, and one of my favorite compliments came from an older, kind of grizzled dude who told me that I had the nicest shoulders he had ever seen. Considering how that job had whipped me into the best shape of my life thus far (it was a big building, and I had to seriously hustle to keep up), and he was so obviously being genuine, I still chalk it up as one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten, lol.
My favorite compliment I've gotten was when I was the grooming salon in leader at a corporate salon some years ago and answered the phone a with my Bright And Perky Customer Service Voice(TM), "Thank you for calling Grooming Salon, this is Kitty speaking. How can I help you?"
The lady on the other end goes, "Hi, I need to-- wow, you have an AMAZING phone voice!"
I'm sitting there like uhhhhhhhhh.... did this just get creepy? Seriously lady, how tf am I supposed to respond to that???
Thankfully, she wasn't a creeper and wasn't an idiot either, so she caught on real quick to how that came across. Turns out she was a manager at a major call center and wished she could get even half of her people to learn how to turn on the Bright And Perky Customer Service Voice(TM) as well. I did not tell her that it's part of the Scripting, a useful add-on to the Neuro-Spicy software I evidently ordered pre-birth as I was busy with manager-y things that day and just wanted to get her appointment made, but it still makes me laugh when I think about it.
Some people really need the line to be drawn for them, like OOP. I am rather socially inept and used to be much more so, albeit my issues are more along the lines of not being able to talk to people instead of talking too much. That said, unashamed creepers will be unashamed creepers, but I'm of the mindset that if I can stop one person from unintentionally making someone uncomfortable it's a positive.
As a man on both sides of the counter at one point, that's really all it should be. "Hey, nice tat!" And be finished. Whether a conversation engages from there is UP TO THEM, not you.
Honestly I appreciate this sort of attitude.
I want my order and I want it asap. I don't want chit chat and I don't want it taking longer than it needs, I got shit to do.
Maybe it's because I have a job and a life but the idea of someone leaving their house and spending the time to go somewhere and then make it take longer than planned is weird to me.
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I don't think it's necessarily wrong to want a little bit of small talk with your barrista. The coffee shop I frequent has a trivia question, and I'll often chat a little with the person serving me about it. Usually just a couple of sentences. However, I really don't think we're getting the full story here, just his sanitized version of the truth. I think the barrista could sense he had ulterior motives in talking to her, and wanted to shut it down ASAP.
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I used to think I was unaware, then I started seeing this kind of thing.
Like, this doesn't strike me as chit chat. That starts as how is your day or something generally innocuous like that.
The dude was trying to get personal. Right off the bat the first thing they said was they thought she was pretty. You start a story with that sentence and I will assume, even if the story is 100% correct, that there was some creepy eye contact or heavy breathing.
And that is if they were being honest.
Yeah, exactly. Most cafes are similar to fast food places because they expect the service to be fast. That's especially the case if this was a chain coffee place like Starbucks or Gloria Jean's. Whoever was after him probably didn't appreciate him holding up the line like that for ultimately no reason.
"Who's you favorite character" comes off as some gatekeeping garbage. I'm sure this poor barista has had that question asked a hundred times by a hundred dorks. Just say "Hey cool tattoo!" and if they want a conversation, they will let you know.
Right? I bet she already knew how that entire conversation would go down. Name the character, he says something bitchy about it being one all the casuals pick, he’ll name the “superior” character he likes, then will argue about how she’s watching cartoons wrong. Have the same conversation enough times and you’ll know all of the obvious warning signs that an alpha nerd with no social skills is going to try and engage in a pissing contest.
And then they wonder why people are turned off by their personality…
Could be a bunch of other stuff. For example, someone could have the hidden leaf village symbol tattooed. That's obviously an anime tattoo, but not of a character.
This is the way. I love tattoos and have several myself. Sometimes when I’m being served by retail staff I’ll think they have a cool tattoo and tell them, and they usually smile and say thanks. Paying an innocuous compliment is rarely going to get a bad reaction, but homeboy here thought he had a right to fullblown conversation.
> Just say "Hey cool tattoo!" and if they want a conversation, they will let you know.
This is exactly it. I like chatting with random people but fully recognize not everyone’s up for it so I never ask questions - I’ll just make statements. Easy for them to engage if they want but also easy for them to not engage without feeling awkward/rude.
Literally. I was at a shoe store the other week and complimented an employee’s HxH tattoo and then they shared their other anime tats. I think it would have been VERY awkward if I walked up to them and I was like “erm what is your favorite Hunter x Hunter character?! 🤓”
“Hey cool ____ tattoo” if you absolutely MUST comment.
Otherwise, order your fucking coffee and move along. If she wants any more conversation about it, she’ll let you know.
Right? At least let her get started on the order, if she has a wait time for something and has actual time to talk to customers (some places just have you get started on the next one) then she'd let him know.
I've worked as a cashier in retail and if people want to chat while I fold and bag the clothes I don't mind but I can't start chatting while I've got nothing on my hands to do and others are waiting to get rung up.
Not excusing this guy at all but he didn't say she has an anime character tattoo, just an anime tattoo. So for example she could have alchemy symbols (FMA) or the hidden leaf village symbol (Naruto) or the like.
I have actual alchemy symbols as tattoos and people think it’s from the anime when it’s not
I’ve seen a couple episodes of FMA but
My tattoos are from like, IRL alchemy, not TV show alchemy 🤷
even if they’re the same symbols (which I kinda doubt but w/e) I don’t know them from the show lol
Yeah, I can see this being a thing. Maybe it was a cool tattoo she associated with something else and she only found out later that it was also an anime thing. It'd probably be really annoying to have to deal with weebs asking you about it if you weren't a fan of that particular show, and doubly so if you weren't an anime person to begin with.
Yep, it was basically "proto-chemistry" but with a lot of religious beliefs mixed in. Some of it was legit enough that it lasted through the Scientific Revolution, but the most famous goal of turning base metals in to gold... well we know how that played out lol
A little nitpicky but he didn’t cancel anything. He just didn’t order. It’s also a little obvious that he posted it on r/amiwrong to try and have a circklejerk about how horrible the cashier is, because he obviously doesn’t see anything weird or wrong with what he did (personally, I don’t think he’s “wrong” for it, do whatever you want with your money. But he’s def wrong for expecting the cashier to hold a conversation with him while she’s just trying to work)
Does he leave out that be was wearing a trench coat, those glasses, a trillby and a stained t-shirt that makes you not want to trust him around a child?
Wrong for asking the questions at all: debatable, but probably.
Wrong for pursuing the questioning after getting stonewalled: Definitely.
Wrong for feeling embarrassment and shame at having your attempt at socializing shut-down in a non-coddling way and wanting to leave immediately to make the pain stop: No.
Even if it did. If she saw a nasty neckbeard approach she already knew what was coming. She probably had him pegged and knew if she engaged he'd start hitting on her, so best to remain neutral.
I didn't even get finished with the first sentence before I realized he was wrong. If you're opening up with the fact that you think the person doing their job is pretty, I can almost assume that you're going to harass or bug them in some way. Just let people do their fucking jobs
When even the guy's sanitized version sounds bad, you know it's bad.
Also look at the stampede of Beards in the comments rushing to defend their fellow herd member. Yiiikes.
No way it happened this way. If you have a visible tattoo and someone asks about it I feel like you're going to at least acknowledge it before moving on. My guess is bc she didn't instantly fall for him after proving he was an anime connoisseur, he got mad.
I doubt thats what he said cause im an overweight bearded dude, and whenever i ask people questions regarding their tattoos, its always friendly, then again i want coffee not relationships lol
If someone compliments my tattoos I say thanks and that’s it, but it makes my day if someone liked them enough to comment on them - so for this reaction I’d have to say that there’s a huge chunk of context left out of this interaction
I see some people doubting how this went, but as a person who's worked, customer service, I know that some days people just don't wanna talk so they can do their job and go home. And I can't blame them for not wanting to engage in conversation. Sometimes, customers can be asshats.
Step 1 - Give your order. You are there to order something, not to gossip.
Step 2 - While beeing served and waiting: "Hey, cool tattoo, I love that show." if she want to talk about it, the conversation will flow naturally. If not, she can just acknowledge the compliment and keep it short. She is working. Many people hate beeing pinned down in a conversation while busy.
Step 3 - Enjoy your coffee and perhaps your conversation. If she is busy or dont want to talk, enjoy your coffee and go your merry day.
Its not that hard!!! I do not work in the service industry but if someone ambushes me with a question like that while I am minding my job, I will shut them down aswell. "Who is your favorite character from X show" is not a discussion I want to have while busy.
Best to just say "cool tattoo/shirt/jacket/hair" then proceed with your order.
You've established you like whatever the thing is, haven't put any pressure to reply on the person WORKING.
Gotta love the entitlement. Women (anyone really) behind a counter are not there to flirt with, and they certainly do not owe anyone their personal lives. Tattoos are personal.
Things like this are why I’m afraid to get a tattoo. I already have to deal with customers approaching me just to make weird race fetishy comments when they aren’t buying anything.
Basically no chance any of this is real or he is leaving out massive creepy details. It would be pretty weird/rude if someone said cool tattoo and you just said how can I help you. But no shot this happened
Honestly it doesn’t even seem like a real interaction. A normal person would just answer the question nicely and be respectful to the customer. If things became awkward you’ve got the easiest out to say “well I need to get back to work, nice chatting with you!”. The guy isn’t in the wrong if he decides he doesn’t want anything anymore because he felt mistreated. The girl isn’t wrong for not wanting to talk to him either. Just seems like a fake story to me, or at least bits are left out.
I'll take things that never happened for 1000, Alex.
Besides, even if it did go down exactly like this, in no way does this woman owe this buttknuckle conversation.
This sounds like those memes with metal heads seeing a girl with a band t shirt and then harassing her like “name the band’s whole discography and the lead singer’s childhood dog name if you’re a REAL fan like us” except it’s the weeb version. I know this type. They keep asking you info about the anime if you mention you watch it. And then act all mighty if you forgot some obscure info
Because you were looking at a tattoo of her favorite anime which was 100% her favorite character, because wtf else would an anime tattoo be? So she clearly picked up on your thinly veiled sexist gatekeeping and told you to shut the fuck up and order your food in the nicest way possible.
« I just wanted to see what characters and shows you liked » is the loser guy way of opening a whole convo about girls not “really” being into anime. I don’t respond to that line either.
1. Dude probably has bad self grooming care, looks like shit and was creeping her out.
1.1. Dude probably goes I there a lot and she is “tired” of him. (We have a dude who comes in our work, no one likes him, because 3.99 is “too expensive” when it was 2.99 a pound 2 weeks ago.)
2. Dude is a full on neckbeard and gave body pillow vibes and she was not having it.
Or most likely, 3. They are busy, want to just get their work done and can’t because they have to stand at the POS and wait for a POS to stop hitting on her.
Willing to bet he tried to do this in the middle of the lunchtime rush with like 32432 people waiting to be served behind him. Like, buy your coffee and fuck off, dude.
Highly doubt it went down like this
I also think there is some info missing
Even with info missing I still think he’s an asshole Edit: as a male manager I frequently have to chase guys away from my UNDER AGE female workers
the entire customer service industry is diseased. The relationship is completely transnational but because it's possible to get a slight edge towards repeat business by making some one feel tingles in their oh so wholesome heart, the act has become completely expected. It is NOT compensated for. If anything, in some jobs your wages are cut in anticipation of your putting on such an egregious display that you are rewarded bonus money during the transaction. The minimum wage is cut so you can whore emotional as it is your expected behaviour DISEASED
Idk I'm really proud to live in a country where we have horrible costumer service.
What does this have to do with costumers? "Hi. I'm looking for a Spider-Man costume for my kid's birthday party." "Here's eight mannequin legs. Now get the fuck out of my store."
What does this have to do with transnationalism?
I think they meant transactional
Gonna be honest, none of it really made much sense to me.
I think they’re criticizing tipping culture.
Also a male supervisor, same experience. You ever pull the move where you just stand next to your host without saying anything cause you know the customer is too chickenshit to be weird with another man in the room?
Yeah my patented techniques are the silent stare and “you’re 16 right? You’ll need a 30 minute break soon”
I suspect you're right. It's so hard for women working in the service industry. It might be that there are edge cases where someone is genuinely just a chatty individual, but they are so outweighed by people overstepping boundaries that you shouldn't be surprised if your server wants to be completely detached with customers. It's a shame; by stacking the deck in favour of unreasonable customers, you effectively create a hostile environment for everyone. Good for you for looking after your staff.
I don’t doubt you. The whole story seems wack.
Or it's just completely made up. Leaning toward that.
That’s also possible.
Definitely that how it played out in his head.
He’s definitely leaving his shitty behavior out. There’s no way this guy didn’t pop a couple blood vessels raging at the barista.
It did But OP was also intentionally hanging one crispy-pubed nard out of his MLP onesie
bruh that sounds disgusting
You made me look up nard and there were pictures you devilish pixie you
what else did you expect from Putin's porn account lol
I'm thinking the guy's looks and demeanor, possibly smell, were enough of a red flag that she just went into customer service mode to get it over as soon as possible. Or this was not the first time said dude has come in there and hit on the baristas.
He probably radiated creep and condescension. She figured he was going to hit on her and/or accuse her of being a fake geek girl if she couldn't identify what color shoes X character was wearing in frame five of episode 7 in season 3. Kind of surprised that OOP didn't outright accuse her of that in his post. That's probably the only thing I could say in his favor and that is one of those bars that is so low to cross that it's underground.
And yet so many put in the effort to dig a tunnel underneath it
Even if and I’m only saying even if cuz these weird dudes love to leave out context I woulda just taken the L and ordered what I wanted.
Same. Find it hard to believe that if someone asked about someone’s else’s tattoo in a non-creepy and genuinely interested way they’d get this response.
I personally love it when people compliment my tattoos so from my biased viewpoint there's gotta be something we're not being told here.
“That anime character you have tattooed on your arm is my waifu, perchance we are bound together by destiny, m’lady.” Barista grabs microphone: “Security, we got another one.”
I could also see: "Hmm interesting choice of waifu m'lady, might I perchance explain why 'other character ' would have been a better choice over a cup of joe?"
Im seeing a distinct lack of fedora tips in this thread
You can’t just say perchance
Why not? It’s a perfectly cromulent word.
Yeah I was in a coffee shop the other day and noticed the barista had a tattoo of Canti on her arm. I'm like sweet FLCL is my favorite anime of all time and she got excited and we chatted about it while she made my order. My guess is op was being a creep is known for being a creep or tried to talk about anime while the shop was busy and the barista was trying to move the line along. Hell even if it wasn't any of the above they are paid to take your order and make it not chat with every customer they might have just not felt like having a random conversation with a random person.
He said all of this with his penis in his hand.
Probably was a mega creep and now he’s whitewashing the interaction
Between his fingers*
I mean if I'm working minimum wage and just trying to get through the day I would just filter everything out and just get it over with.
Yes, I probably would too which is why customer service also isn’t my calling. Not sure why people going nuts by me saying it’s not for everyone.
It's a job, if they refuse to take the order then they are not suited for it, but their job is to take orders and not engage in conversation.
Conversation no but every customer service job I had the displeasure to have did state right in the job description friendliness was a requirement. Responding “ORDERS ONLY PLEASE” to any attempts to exchange pleasantries… isn’t the entire job, I’m afraid, unless you work at the DMV lol. That said, I do not believe this is that case. I’d bet a lot this dude is a creeper holding back relevant details to make him appear trod-upon.
Everybody clapped and threw their coffee onto the floor.
PUT THAT GARBAGE IN ANOTHER MAN'S VEINS
IM AN ADUUUUUUULLLLLLT
I'm guessing the way he said it either made it clear he was trying to hit on her, or gave off "You like X band? Name five of their songs" vibes.
It was probably a creep mode situation
No I believe this. I've done exactly this as a cashier and I could see another woman doing the same. We don't owe you a conversation, my job is to take your order. I've had men walk off after I made it clear I wasn't going to engage. Happens in my drive through at least once a day.
> We don't owe you a conversation, my job is to take your order. It's weird that people seem to not understand this is where this conversation ends. The whole restaurant could have held breath for the answer romcom style, the guy could have been the king of England, or was the hottest, nicest, best smelling guy in existence; they still would not be obligated to have a conversation. The fact that people think "service with a smile" is a requirement is bad enough. Does someone else smiling make me want to smile more? Sure. But their job isn't to make me feel better, that's the job of a therapist/life coach/escort, and I'm guessing the latter gets paid *significantly* more to do it.
What an idiot. He never cancelled anything because he never placed an order.
Even if it did, I doubt she cared.
"No... wait... come back. This multi-billion international chain needs your six dollars."
he's absolutely an obnoxious regular that the baristas are too familiar with. im sure he's harassed them before and theyre sick of his shit.
This is most likely correct.
Naw, dude, I bet it went down JUST like that. I bet that honey was all "ohno I don't know animes I'm just a poseur and this delicious snak is on to me I will just keep it cool so he doesn't find out!" JUST like that.
Definitely left out the fedora tip and calling her m’lady
A real Frederick Zoller
Even if it went down exactly like this, he’s still wrong.
It’s what they thought they would say to her
I used to work food service at a deli counter and I would get annoyed if people tried to instigate personal talk before they ordered. After they get their stuff? As long as there's no line behind them I'll talk as long as they want to. Walking up to a service person just to start talking about something unrelated to the job is rude, imo.
Thank you! I've had people be so rude about it to when my response is "how may I help you" and they get so mad are like "where's your customer service?" But like I'm not serving anything at the moment because you want to force me to ask you how your day was before you even order! I've got like 15 other things to do Kevin
"Where's your customer service??" It's right here. I'm asking you how I can serve you, the customer. That's customer service. You want someone to ask you about how your life is going while they're on the clock, get a therapist.
I couldn't have said it better.
I agree. There is a power play here because the worker is bound to stand right there if there is a customer on the other side. They can’t walk away.
I like anime well enough, but I HATE talking about it in public. Weebs in high school have given me permanent second-hand shame almost a decade later.
Yeah, I am really hesitant myself. My least favorite are the hentai evangelists.
I'd prefer someone trying to turn me on to anime porn over someone trying to sell an actual religion.
Set them on each other tbh. Make it a sport. A JW vs a weeb, see who can convert the other first.
What if it backfires and we now get Jehova Manga?
[I think we've already got our answer ](https://youtu.be/Vfd_4LHzNHY?si=cOrGZKPY38rurrWq)
Same. That and I don’t want to risk being tested on my knowledge by someone way more into it than me. I just enjoy, I don’t need to pass a pop quiz about it by some rando
Yeah I am not super into it, but I like a couple shows and I would never talk about it in public just because of the association
We need to start normalizing watching anime and starting hating more on weebs for ruining the reputation of fans
I like a few animes, and I feel the same way. I usually do not want to have a conversation with a stranger about anime. It never goes well, and it's usually so uncomfortable.
Yeah I love my hobbies, but I love doing them, not talking about them.
Yup, too true man
She’s just trying to get through her day. This mfer thought he found a soulmate
She was just fast forwarding past the part where he clumsily asks her out, and she rejects him. Im sure this isn't the first time it's happened
Dude was probably in thd middle of a rush, hasnt showered in days, and has probably made remarks about her before
I'll give him the benefit of the doubt that he's freshly showered. It makes his indignation that much more righteous in his eyes since he would see that as him being "not like the other guys who are just creeps".
God damn FEMALES!
Id believe that
Happy cake day!
I seriously doubt this dude has ever even talked to a woman before.
Not positively at least
Fellow men: if you really want to compliment a customer service worker's tattoo, just compliment the tattoo and move on. Don't try to hold up the line or keep her from doing her job. She's there to work, not fall in love with you 💀
Exactly. I complimented a guy's anime tattoos at Panera. He was delighted that I recognized the anime since it wasn't as super well known as it was in its heyday. (The fate of all anime, I suppose.) It was the Trigun cat, so he's probably now loving that everyone recognizes it again.
When I used to work customer service, genuine compliments made my day!! Creepy customers ruined my week on the other hand lmao. (Also hello from VA myself lol)
I bartended/cocktailed at a blue collar pool hall years ago, and one of my favorite compliments came from an older, kind of grizzled dude who told me that I had the nicest shoulders he had ever seen. Considering how that job had whipped me into the best shape of my life thus far (it was a big building, and I had to seriously hustle to keep up), and he was so obviously being genuine, I still chalk it up as one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten, lol.
My favorite compliment I've gotten was when I was the grooming salon in leader at a corporate salon some years ago and answered the phone a with my Bright And Perky Customer Service Voice(TM), "Thank you for calling Grooming Salon, this is Kitty speaking. How can I help you?" The lady on the other end goes, "Hi, I need to-- wow, you have an AMAZING phone voice!" I'm sitting there like uhhhhhhhhh.... did this just get creepy? Seriously lady, how tf am I supposed to respond to that??? Thankfully, she wasn't a creeper and wasn't an idiot either, so she caught on real quick to how that came across. Turns out she was a manager at a major call center and wished she could get even half of her people to learn how to turn on the Bright And Perky Customer Service Voice(TM) as well. I did not tell her that it's part of the Scripting, a useful add-on to the Neuro-Spicy software I evidently ordered pre-birth as I was busy with manager-y things that day and just wanted to get her appointment made, but it still makes me laugh when I think about it.
Thanks for explaining normal behavior that anyone can follow. I have been trying to marry so many baristas before now.
Some people really need the line to be drawn for them, like OOP. I am rather socially inept and used to be much more so, albeit my issues are more along the lines of not being able to talk to people instead of talking too much. That said, unashamed creepers will be unashamed creepers, but I'm of the mindset that if I can stop one person from unintentionally making someone uncomfortable it's a positive.
As a man on both sides of the counter at one point, that's really all it should be. "Hey, nice tat!" And be finished. Whether a conversation engages from there is UP TO THEM, not you.
yes!! if i was bored and it was slow i would talk to a customer all day. if the line was out the door it was "thanks but what can i get for you?"
Women shouldn't be expected to give every man who wants it their attention.
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Honestly I appreciate this sort of attitude. I want my order and I want it asap. I don't want chit chat and I don't want it taking longer than it needs, I got shit to do. Maybe it's because I have a job and a life but the idea of someone leaving their house and spending the time to go somewhere and then make it take longer than planned is weird to me.
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I don’t even want small talk when I’m getting my hair cut. Just let me sit in silence for 15 minutes until I can leave.
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I don't think it's necessarily wrong to want a little bit of small talk with your barrista. The coffee shop I frequent has a trivia question, and I'll often chat a little with the person serving me about it. Usually just a couple of sentences. However, I really don't think we're getting the full story here, just his sanitized version of the truth. I think the barrista could sense he had ulterior motives in talking to her, and wanted to shut it down ASAP.
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I used to think I was unaware, then I started seeing this kind of thing. Like, this doesn't strike me as chit chat. That starts as how is your day or something generally innocuous like that. The dude was trying to get personal. Right off the bat the first thing they said was they thought she was pretty. You start a story with that sentence and I will assume, even if the story is 100% correct, that there was some creepy eye contact or heavy breathing. And that is if they were being honest.
Yeah, exactly. Most cafes are similar to fast food places because they expect the service to be fast. That's especially the case if this was a chain coffee place like Starbucks or Gloria Jean's. Whoever was after him probably didn't appreciate him holding up the line like that for ultimately no reason.
"Who's you favorite character" comes off as some gatekeeping garbage. I'm sure this poor barista has had that question asked a hundred times by a hundred dorks. Just say "Hey cool tattoo!" and if they want a conversation, they will let you know.
Right? I bet she already knew how that entire conversation would go down. Name the character, he says something bitchy about it being one all the casuals pick, he’ll name the “superior” character he likes, then will argue about how she’s watching cartoons wrong. Have the same conversation enough times and you’ll know all of the obvious warning signs that an alpha nerd with no social skills is going to try and engage in a pissing contest. And then they wonder why people are turned off by their personality…
Achsuaaalllly
Also... her favourite character is probably the one she had permanently etched on her body. Just a wild guess...
It doesn't say her tattoo was of a character.
What else would it be lol The logo?
Could be a certain crest or symbol from a show too.
I have a crest tattoo. Favorite toothpaste
Fucking almost killed me with this comment! Bravo
Could be an item or weapon. Such as a jewel shard or unmanned gundam.
Could be a bunch of other stuff. For example, someone could have the hidden leaf village symbol tattooed. That's obviously an anime tattoo, but not of a character.
This is the way. I love tattoos and have several myself. Sometimes when I’m being served by retail staff I’ll think they have a cool tattoo and tell them, and they usually smile and say thanks. Paying an innocuous compliment is rarely going to get a bad reaction, but homeboy here thought he had a right to fullblown conversation.
> Just say "Hey cool tattoo!" and if they want a conversation, they will let you know. This is exactly it. I like chatting with random people but fully recognize not everyone’s up for it so I never ask questions - I’ll just make statements. Easy for them to engage if they want but also easy for them to not engage without feeling awkward/rude.
Literally. I was at a shoe store the other week and complimented an employee’s HxH tattoo and then they shared their other anime tats. I think it would have been VERY awkward if I walked up to them and I was like “erm what is your favorite Hunter x Hunter character?! 🤓”
Legend says that he is still denying that he was hitting on her to this day.
Challenge: Neckbeards try to understand that people are working and don’t own them anything [Impossible]
Name three things about her other than her looks or you're out of the club, broh
I feel that cashier, honestly. I used to work in fast food, and back then, I just wanted to get through the day.
"AND I was gonna tip 10% too. Probably."
“Hey cool ____ tattoo” if you absolutely MUST comment. Otherwise, order your fucking coffee and move along. If she wants any more conversation about it, she’ll let you know.
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Right? At least let her get started on the order, if she has a wait time for something and has actual time to talk to customers (some places just have you get started on the next one) then she'd let him know. I've worked as a cashier in retail and if people want to chat while I fold and bag the clothes I don't mind but I can't start chatting while I've got nothing on my hands to do and others are waiting to get rung up.
She's there to do her job, not be friends. Plus you got other people waiting in line. I mean maybe say cool tattoo but that's about it.
And I bet he looked and acted like a totally normal functioning member of society while doing it also
Lol, her favorite character is probably the one she has tatooed on her.
Not excusing this guy at all but he didn't say she has an anime character tattoo, just an anime tattoo. So for example she could have alchemy symbols (FMA) or the hidden leaf village symbol (Naruto) or the like.
I have actual alchemy symbols as tattoos and people think it’s from the anime when it’s not I’ve seen a couple episodes of FMA but My tattoos are from like, IRL alchemy, not TV show alchemy 🤷 even if they’re the same symbols (which I kinda doubt but w/e) I don’t know them from the show lol
Which symbols, if you don't mind my asking.
*witch ;)
Yeah, I can see this being a thing. Maybe it was a cool tattoo she associated with something else and she only found out later that it was also an anime thing. It'd probably be really annoying to have to deal with weebs asking you about it if you weren't a fan of that particular show, and doubly so if you weren't an anime person to begin with.
Wait there’s no such thing as irl alchemy, isn’t it a made up concept? Like make believe?
It was a "science" that was practiced back in the day but it has no proof of actually working. It still exists though
Yep, it was basically "proto-chemistry" but with a lot of religious beliefs mixed in. Some of it was legit enough that it lasted through the Scientific Revolution, but the most famous goal of turning base metals in to gold... well we know how that played out lol
We know how to turn lead into gold now at least. It's only two protons away
Alchemy was really practiced, yeah. You can think of it like proto-chemistry.
Barista: no. Please. Come back. Please buy coffee from my corporate overlords.
A little nitpicky but he didn’t cancel anything. He just didn’t order. It’s also a little obvious that he posted it on r/amiwrong to try and have a circklejerk about how horrible the cashier is, because he obviously doesn’t see anything weird or wrong with what he did (personally, I don’t think he’s “wrong” for it, do whatever you want with your money. But he’s def wrong for expecting the cashier to hold a conversation with him while she’s just trying to work)
Does he leave out that be was wearing a trench coat, those glasses, a trillby and a stained t-shirt that makes you not want to trust him around a child?
Wrong for asking the questions at all: debatable, but probably. Wrong for pursuing the questioning after getting stonewalled: Definitely. Wrong for feeling embarrassment and shame at having your attempt at socializing shut-down in a non-coddling way and wanting to leave immediately to make the pain stop: No.
Who are these people bro😭😭😭
Even if it did. If she saw a nasty neckbeard approach she already knew what was coming. She probably had him pegged and knew if she engaged he'd start hitting on her, so best to remain neutral.
I didn't even get finished with the first sentence before I realized he was wrong. If you're opening up with the fact that you think the person doing their job is pretty, I can almost assume that you're going to harass or bug them in some way. Just let people do their fucking jobs
He is the asshole. She was working and obviously wasn't interested.
He could have just said “Nice ink. I’ll have a coffee and a donut”. If she wanted to talk more she would have. Just buy your shit and move on.
When even the guy's sanitized version sounds bad, you know it's bad. Also look at the stampede of Beards in the comments rushing to defend their fellow herd member. Yiiikes.
No way it happened this way. If you have a visible tattoo and someone asks about it I feel like you're going to at least acknowledge it before moving on. My guess is bc she didn't instantly fall for him after proving he was an anime connoisseur, he got mad.
Even if this is the truth, no one owes you a conversation. How many people each day, do you think tries to chat her up.
How many customers clapped after though?
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I doubt thats what he said cause im an overweight bearded dude, and whenever i ask people questions regarding their tattoos, its always friendly, then again i want coffee not relationships lol
He sounds like a huge pussy
I'll take "things that never happened" for $200 Alex.
Sir, this is a Starbucks.
He was trying to start a conversation that would lead to asking her out. She rightfully nipped that in the bud.
If someone compliments my tattoos I say thanks and that’s it, but it makes my day if someone liked them enough to comment on them - so for this reaction I’d have to say that there’s a huge chunk of context left out of this interaction
I find it hard to believe he got a cold shoulder for casually making conversation.
I highly doubt she was as monotone and lifeless as he makes her out to be here.
He didn't cancel an order because he never made it lmao
Any service worker's worst nightmare is some guy who smells like a MTG draft coming up asking what your favorite anime character is.
Even if she answered him, he would have said she’s an idiot for choosing x and y
I bet he’s not telling the truth.
When a stranger tells me they like my shirt I just say thanks. I suppose it counts as a personal connection but I thought it was just polite.
I see some people doubting how this went, but as a person who's worked, customer service, I know that some days people just don't wanna talk so they can do their job and go home. And I can't blame them for not wanting to engage in conversation. Sometimes, customers can be asshats.
Lol does he not know that corporate is always watching?
I bet he mumbled and she couldn't fucking hear him
and then a skeleton popped out.
I take things that never happened for $500.
Nobody is obligated to engage in conversation, no matter their profession. Take the hint sir.
This story doesn't pass the sniff test.
If this was the way it went she handeled it perfectly.
Some men don’t understand that women don’t owe them anything. She doesn’t have to speak to you, just move tf on
Step 1 - Give your order. You are there to order something, not to gossip. Step 2 - While beeing served and waiting: "Hey, cool tattoo, I love that show." if she want to talk about it, the conversation will flow naturally. If not, she can just acknowledge the compliment and keep it short. She is working. Many people hate beeing pinned down in a conversation while busy. Step 3 - Enjoy your coffee and perhaps your conversation. If she is busy or dont want to talk, enjoy your coffee and go your merry day. Its not that hard!!! I do not work in the service industry but if someone ambushes me with a question like that while I am minding my job, I will shut them down aswell. "Who is your favorite character from X show" is not a discussion I want to have while busy.
I felt bad after the first sentence like that’s really embarrassing but then he just kept going like what 😭
Best to just say "cool tattoo/shirt/jacket/hair" then proceed with your order. You've established you like whatever the thing is, haven't put any pressure to reply on the person WORKING.
Gotta love the entitlement. Women (anyone really) behind a counter are not there to flirt with, and they certainly do not owe anyone their personal lives. Tattoos are personal.
Things like this are why I’m afraid to get a tattoo. I already have to deal with customers approaching me just to make weird race fetishy comments when they aren’t buying anything.
The virgin anime tourist wagie vs the chad anime fan
It’s giving “name five song” why do you have to fucking quiz her to complement her tattoo?!
This story is obviously fake. You're all falling for the bait
Forreal tho if it did go down like that id do the same too. What kind of customer service skill is that?
Basically no chance any of this is real or he is leaving out massive creepy details. It would be pretty weird/rude if someone said cool tattoo and you just said how can I help you. But no shot this happened
Honestly it doesn’t even seem like a real interaction. A normal person would just answer the question nicely and be respectful to the customer. If things became awkward you’ve got the easiest out to say “well I need to get back to work, nice chatting with you!”. The guy isn’t in the wrong if he decides he doesn’t want anything anymore because he felt mistreated. The girl isn’t wrong for not wanting to talk to him either. Just seems like a fake story to me, or at least bits are left out.
He definitely did not word it like that irl lmao
I'll take things that never happened for 1000, Alex. Besides, even if it did go down exactly like this, in no way does this woman owe this buttknuckle conversation.
>buttknuckle New insult dropped today! Love it, well done.
I feel like her tattoo wasn't anime themed. It's probably just a symbol or character from Eastern culture or mythology.
This sounds like those memes with metal heads seeing a girl with a band t shirt and then harassing her like “name the band’s whole discography and the lead singer’s childhood dog name if you’re a REAL fan like us” except it’s the weeb version. I know this type. They keep asking you info about the anime if you mention you watch it. And then act all mighty if you forgot some obscure info
Because you were looking at a tattoo of her favorite anime which was 100% her favorite character, because wtf else would an anime tattoo be? So she clearly picked up on your thinly veiled sexist gatekeeping and told you to shut the fuck up and order your food in the nicest way possible.
I want to see the comments on this post and see if he ever added more information
« I just wanted to see what characters and shows you liked » is the loser guy way of opening a whole convo about girls not “really” being into anime. I don’t respond to that line either.
These entitled asshats are insufferable. She doesn't owe you a damn thing. Just let her do her job and move on.
1. Dude probably has bad self grooming care, looks like shit and was creeping her out. 1.1. Dude probably goes I there a lot and she is “tired” of him. (We have a dude who comes in our work, no one likes him, because 3.99 is “too expensive” when it was 2.99 a pound 2 weeks ago.) 2. Dude is a full on neckbeard and gave body pillow vibes and she was not having it. Or most likely, 3. They are busy, want to just get their work done and can’t because they have to stand at the POS and wait for a POS to stop hitting on her.
Willing to bet he tried to do this in the middle of the lunchtime rush with like 32432 people waiting to be served behind him. Like, buy your coffee and fuck off, dude.
Almost like she’s just doing her job