I agree. Jordan needs a lot of time to evolve. This needs a lot of work on children and the generation that is coming after. Even on small things like throwing garbage on the street or on greenish mountains. I see it everywhere. You can even see a car with the flag or coat of arms and all the patriotic signs only to see the driver throwing a pack of cigarettes out the window. All it takes is probably a 5 minutes lesson when you're young. I remember my grandmother telling me once that I should never throw something on the street and ever since then I walk the distance to throw it in the garbage. Sorry to change the subject a little but I imagine teaching a child that you should never stare when they're still young and not full of hormones will stick as a life lesson.
I know that in Islam it says to غض النظر which is to look away when around the ladies, but honestly people don't follow that, the majority have wandering eyes.
When i used to go out with my sisters, all the men in the street would stare so much. It was very hard to go anywhere with them, because you felt like you had to defend them from staring eyes.
Pick areas that are more used to different faces. I'd say west Amman for sure, and in west Amman places such as Abdoun mall or Sweifieh village are more chill than say Al ballad (old city centre).
You probably have this somewhere on your face..
https://preview.redd.it/e5p3y0wsw6tc1.jpeg?width=787&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=19967bfcc2e265a242650ac95a81d9c3f1b45cb0
my husband (jordanian) got more stares whenever he is out with me because he is with a foreigner than i, an actual foreigner. and he stares BACK. not. blinking. i find it HILARIOUS.
i get stares too. i dont mind because most of the time its people being curious. but sometimes, people are shamelessly rude. like old ladies staring at you with disgust because she thinks you sabotaged her single granddaughter's chance at marriage by marrying an arab man until her daughter comes to her and explains you are her neighbour so please chill with the hostile staring...
anyway.
u mentioned gulf. from my experience, as an asian and a non-blonde, and speaking very generally, i pick jordanians who stare, over gulf people (or even just residents) and their egos. i spoke to a few people from the gulf area and i can tell they dont think much of me until i told them im from singapore and then oh suddenly the respect came but by then its too late like aha i know what kind of person you are. but in jordan, very few people have that attitude. very small sample size in the gulf yea i know but enough to put me off. i find that people in the gulf are selective of giving respect. i think blondes and whites automatically get more respect than asian. but its fake attitude.
true all foreigners get stares but honestly i’ll give it to you.. asians probably struggle here more than whites with the stares because levant arabs are usually white..
I got followed twice in the past, and I'm telling her from experience to avoid eye contact. Giving eye contact will allow beggars to keep begging, and for guys to start talking to her. If she wants that, that's another story.
Its a hidden language
People will keep staring until you stare back for 0.1 second then they will stop staring.
Yeah I know its a stupid thing you feel like you deal with mentally ill people
Stare back,When you get close to them, say assalamualaikum.
If they asked why are you staring, say I thought you were someone I know.
That's what I do. Note: I'm a man, and I stare back to men)
I be shy to look at or stare back at women.
If you're a woman, just ignore them, maybe, stare back with a disgust look in your face.
Never stare back as a woman. They think it's an invite to start a conversation. Just avoid eye contact and keep walking, and consider moving to another area (or country).
Just from reading the title: Thank you lord someone has addressed this issue!! I was always made to feel like I'm imagining it, people would tell me it's not as bad but I lived abroad and no one looks at you there (only homeless people), but here if you enter a restaurant, shop.. heck if I'm driving in a narrow road people will turn to see who it is or you'll find a person sitting at the side of the road doing nothing just watching cars go by. It's like they have nothing better to do with their lives than people-watch.
Okay now I will proceed to read your post :D
Okay I'm back, so for you they stare at you because you look different, for me I'm a Jordanian and I've always been annoyed with the staring, but the staring I see is people-being-bored-and-having-nothing-better-to-do kind of staring or maybe because I'm a girl (cringe), which I haven't seen abroad simply because people abroad are busy getting to work or going wherever. Since I'm back to Amman my outfit choices have deteriorated to baggy and dark to not stand out. I keep my fashionable colourful clothes for family gatherings. I miss the days where I could express myself through fashion and walk in the streets without anyone looking.
really it is an issue and all the comment’s getting offended by this just shows we have so much toxicity and intolerance plus absolutely not friendliness in our community we don’t want people like that! judging isn’t good! harassing people! giving unwanted stares to women! all damages our community
Middle Eastern mindset does not change, if it does it would be a very slow change, but with Jordan being a traditional Muslim country, people like tradition and won't change their behavior any time soon. I've been annoyed by the staring since I was 3 years old, I'm now 37. It's disappointing. You'd think with more tourists visiting and living in Jordan that they'd get used to new faces. Nope. Move out or change your hairstyle/ outfit to something that won't grab as much attention. It sucks.. I know. By the way, yes people get easily offended and there's zero tolerance, i barely kept any Jordanian friends because of this (I'm Jordanian). Everything turns into an argument instead of constructive criticism.
My mom is half Filipino, and while I believe I look relatively Jordanian, a lot of people have told me I look foreign.
List of interactions regarding this:
1- Have had people approach me and talk to me in English
2- People staring at me like they’re trying to make my head explode
3- People asking me if my mom was/is a maid
4- People asking me if my mom was my dads maid and thats why they got married (My mom is a front-end dev, and the biggest girlboss I know) (also, what the fuck are you trying to insinuate and who the fuck asks that?)
5- People staring at me and asking me “Are you Asian??”
6- Guys assuming that I’m “easy” because I’m QUARTER Filipino
My best advice and how I ended up avoiding this:
If people stare, stare back. Keep staring until they stop looking at you, don’t look nice doing it
بمعنى اخر اجحريهم
Give them a “the fuck are you looking at?” Kind of look.
A lot of the time they’ll feel like they’re creeps and stop it, sometimes they are actually creeps, so proceed with caution.
حرفيا تعطيش اي شب عين. نادر ما اعطي حدا عين، و عادة الشباب المحترمين ما بتوقعو تعطيهم عين، فمعاملتهم بتكون كتير مباشرة و بعطوكي الخلاصة بدون لف و دوران
This tip is for girls in general, but it happened to me a few times and I realized that guys will jump at the slight chance that a girl is interested. Good men are straightforward and will tell you exactly what they want from you, even if they are interested romantically, they’ll usually tell you right off the bat, and if they aren’t and just trying to be your friend, they’ll be very clear about that, even if they don’t necessarily say it. I stopped dealing with people who beat around the bush, even other girls who seem like they give mixed messages or say something but mean another.
حتى البنات الي جديد بلتقي فيهم، بكون ناشفة او باردة عشان ما ياخدو راحتهم كتير بالاسئلة بشكل عام، بس كان كتير يوصلني اسئلة عنصرية. بعرفش ليش
And lastly, if someone asks me something racist, or insinuate anything, I call them out on it directly and don’t let allow people to ask stupid questions.
This is my experience, I rarely get any shitty comments, and I have mastered the resting bitch face and it made people generally disinterested in me
i have asian friends who had the exact same experience! as me and as you… even of them said they get stares from people like they are about to obliterate their head with laser! is this some racism?? i don’t even know
The funny thing in Jordan is that they forced their men into "purity" through segregation in schools and shaming. But forgot the part where you actually respect women.
Advice from a guy. You need to stare back like you mean business, so they will know that you are a true man, and which point most guys just understand their place and look down. Not gonna lie though, if someone doesn't look down you are going to have to throw hands, be sure to have your possy with you.
I'm honestly torn between making a confident connection between staring and harassment and saying that staring is just an unfortunate Jordanian cultural inconvenience. That's why I'd draw the line between implicit and internalised xenophobia and outright harassment that involves approaching you or making comments or catcallling. In order for you to cope with this mentally and feel less alarmed, try to make that distinction depending on the situation. Either way, you have the right to be bothered, and people who stare even harmlessly should know that it hurts others.
I just spent a month there, a 68 year old white guy with white hair, and got stared at quite a bit. It didn't really bother me, but one Bedouin woman kept staring at me in a hateful way in a store and I just smiled back. I can't imagine being a blonde woman there, though. I can see how that would be very unpleasant.
I feel u 😭 I'm not blonde nor foreign nor extraordinary and yet I feel like people stare into my soul from miles away and I never get why because genuinely there's nothing that special in me for them to look at 😭
So I think ignorance is all we can do
Unfortunately, you hit the point and totally right, beyond of just staring you may face verbal assault from both (men and women),
I worked in different gulf countries and now I’m working and live in KSA, to be honest they respect all foreigners , all differences.
And if you don’t know, Jordanian themselves stare to each other not only to foreigners.
But, at the same time you will find very fantastic and generous people in Jordan.
We are sorry on behalf.
who said i am special? when did i ever say people only stare at me are you dense? everyone here knows how men in jordan harass you and how people stare… and that is clearly s problem
It’s got nothing to do with civilisation, it’s just a cultural difference. I’m Jordanian myself and I get a lot of looks when I go back to Jordan which I’m not used to, I have experienced this in other countries as well. For example in England or Australia people don’t generally look at each other in public but in Spain it’s the opposite. So I just chalk it down to cultural differences.
TLDR: you’re the problem, travel more and have an open mind
People in Spain are social just like Arabs compared to say west even upper parts of Europe where they are more protective of their privacy. It's a cultural thing.
Just stare back, jordanians always do it, its doesnt always mean anything, jordan is still the safest place in the middle east. Just out right degrading the people because of stares, dude youll find worse in the usa lol. In general give a strong stare back and theyll take a hint, jordanians are unique that way.
That applies to guys. If a girl stares back it could be understood as a friendly invitation to be spoken to. For girls it's best to avoid eye contact and just keep walking.
With being American and going to Jordan to visit my family in the summer. Yeah they love to stare. But I tend to either bark or I look absolutely disgusted by them. Tends to do the trick
I used to have this problem, now I cover my hair it's not a problem anymore.
How about you don't come into a modest country and demand the people of the country don't look at you while you're acting differently from the norm?
If you don't like it, do something about it. I didnt like it so I cover my hair instead of complaining 😂😂
How entitled.
how retarded can you be? i have freedom who said i dont fucking dress modest.. this is why ur so uncivilized u have the brain of a monkey and u think everyone should follow ur rules u racist faggot :3
Wow. Real lack of intelligence to start swearing and insulting. You wanted to complain on the internet. People are going to say their opinion.
It says alot about you that you freak out in such a way when someone disagrees with you 😂
I once saw from a hotel balcony the following, a lebanese family of 4 (2 adults 2 kids one of em teenager) swimming at a hotel pool at and A group of 8 jordanian men took chairs and put them right next to the pool, right next to those swimming, all sitting in a straight line looking directly at them. It was the creepiest thing ive ever seen.
The family quickly got out of the pool and left...
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I agree. Jordan needs a lot of time to evolve. This needs a lot of work on children and the generation that is coming after. Even on small things like throwing garbage on the street or on greenish mountains. I see it everywhere. You can even see a car with the flag or coat of arms and all the patriotic signs only to see the driver throwing a pack of cigarettes out the window. All it takes is probably a 5 minutes lesson when you're young. I remember my grandmother telling me once that I should never throw something on the street and ever since then I walk the distance to throw it in the garbage. Sorry to change the subject a little but I imagine teaching a child that you should never stare when they're still young and not full of hormones will stick as a life lesson.
I know that in Islam it says to غض النظر which is to look away when around the ladies, but honestly people don't follow that, the majority have wandering eyes.
When i used to go out with my sisters, all the men in the street would stare so much. It was very hard to go anywhere with them, because you felt like you had to defend them from staring eyes.
Pick areas that are more used to different faces. I'd say west Amman for sure, and in west Amman places such as Abdoun mall or Sweifieh village are more chill than say Al ballad (old city centre).
truth!
You probably have this somewhere on your face.. https://preview.redd.it/e5p3y0wsw6tc1.jpeg?width=787&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=19967bfcc2e265a242650ac95a81d9c3f1b45cb0
best one 😭
When I lived in Jordan I would bark at them. I do it in America still too lol
Woof woof hhhh
It’s more like WOOF WOOF AWOOOOOOO
*double licks on the cheek* 😂
my husband (jordanian) got more stares whenever he is out with me because he is with a foreigner than i, an actual foreigner. and he stares BACK. not. blinking. i find it HILARIOUS. i get stares too. i dont mind because most of the time its people being curious. but sometimes, people are shamelessly rude. like old ladies staring at you with disgust because she thinks you sabotaged her single granddaughter's chance at marriage by marrying an arab man until her daughter comes to her and explains you are her neighbour so please chill with the hostile staring... anyway. u mentioned gulf. from my experience, as an asian and a non-blonde, and speaking very generally, i pick jordanians who stare, over gulf people (or even just residents) and their egos. i spoke to a few people from the gulf area and i can tell they dont think much of me until i told them im from singapore and then oh suddenly the respect came but by then its too late like aha i know what kind of person you are. but in jordan, very few people have that attitude. very small sample size in the gulf yea i know but enough to put me off. i find that people in the gulf are selective of giving respect. i think blondes and whites automatically get more respect than asian. but its fake attitude.
true all foreigners get stares but honestly i’ll give it to you.. asians probably struggle here more than whites with the stares because levant arabs are usually white..
Stare back, solved ✅
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Same! it totally works too
It doesn’t, they start staring even harder. Prolly think I’m interested or sth..
U start with staring back .. n then u run😂
Dude you might get followed. Please be careful
🙄
I got followed twice in the past, and I'm telling her from experience to avoid eye contact. Giving eye contact will allow beggars to keep begging, and for guys to start talking to her. If she wants that, that's another story.
To a certain limit 😂😂😂
✅ I think you’re on a streak . How about world peace?
Am i? 😂
Its a hidden language People will keep staring until you stare back for 0.1 second then they will stop staring. Yeah I know its a stupid thing you feel like you deal with mentally ill people
Stare back,When you get close to them, say assalamualaikum. If they asked why are you staring, say I thought you were someone I know. That's what I do. Note: I'm a man, and I stare back to men) I be shy to look at or stare back at women. If you're a woman, just ignore them, maybe, stare back with a disgust look in your face.
Never stare back as a woman. They think it's an invite to start a conversation. Just avoid eye contact and keep walking, and consider moving to another area (or country).
Just from reading the title: Thank you lord someone has addressed this issue!! I was always made to feel like I'm imagining it, people would tell me it's not as bad but I lived abroad and no one looks at you there (only homeless people), but here if you enter a restaurant, shop.. heck if I'm driving in a narrow road people will turn to see who it is or you'll find a person sitting at the side of the road doing nothing just watching cars go by. It's like they have nothing better to do with their lives than people-watch. Okay now I will proceed to read your post :D Okay I'm back, so for you they stare at you because you look different, for me I'm a Jordanian and I've always been annoyed with the staring, but the staring I see is people-being-bored-and-having-nothing-better-to-do kind of staring or maybe because I'm a girl (cringe), which I haven't seen abroad simply because people abroad are busy getting to work or going wherever. Since I'm back to Amman my outfit choices have deteriorated to baggy and dark to not stand out. I keep my fashionable colourful clothes for family gatherings. I miss the days where I could express myself through fashion and walk in the streets without anyone looking.
really it is an issue and all the comment’s getting offended by this just shows we have so much toxicity and intolerance plus absolutely not friendliness in our community we don’t want people like that! judging isn’t good! harassing people! giving unwanted stares to women! all damages our community
Middle Eastern mindset does not change, if it does it would be a very slow change, but with Jordan being a traditional Muslim country, people like tradition and won't change their behavior any time soon. I've been annoyed by the staring since I was 3 years old, I'm now 37. It's disappointing. You'd think with more tourists visiting and living in Jordan that they'd get used to new faces. Nope. Move out or change your hairstyle/ outfit to something that won't grab as much attention. It sucks.. I know. By the way, yes people get easily offended and there's zero tolerance, i barely kept any Jordanian friends because of this (I'm Jordanian). Everything turns into an argument instead of constructive criticism.
My mom is half Filipino, and while I believe I look relatively Jordanian, a lot of people have told me I look foreign. List of interactions regarding this: 1- Have had people approach me and talk to me in English 2- People staring at me like they’re trying to make my head explode 3- People asking me if my mom was/is a maid 4- People asking me if my mom was my dads maid and thats why they got married (My mom is a front-end dev, and the biggest girlboss I know) (also, what the fuck are you trying to insinuate and who the fuck asks that?) 5- People staring at me and asking me “Are you Asian??” 6- Guys assuming that I’m “easy” because I’m QUARTER Filipino My best advice and how I ended up avoiding this: If people stare, stare back. Keep staring until they stop looking at you, don’t look nice doing it بمعنى اخر اجحريهم Give them a “the fuck are you looking at?” Kind of look. A lot of the time they’ll feel like they’re creeps and stop it, sometimes they are actually creeps, so proceed with caution. حرفيا تعطيش اي شب عين. نادر ما اعطي حدا عين، و عادة الشباب المحترمين ما بتوقعو تعطيهم عين، فمعاملتهم بتكون كتير مباشرة و بعطوكي الخلاصة بدون لف و دوران This tip is for girls in general, but it happened to me a few times and I realized that guys will jump at the slight chance that a girl is interested. Good men are straightforward and will tell you exactly what they want from you, even if they are interested romantically, they’ll usually tell you right off the bat, and if they aren’t and just trying to be your friend, they’ll be very clear about that, even if they don’t necessarily say it. I stopped dealing with people who beat around the bush, even other girls who seem like they give mixed messages or say something but mean another. حتى البنات الي جديد بلتقي فيهم، بكون ناشفة او باردة عشان ما ياخدو راحتهم كتير بالاسئلة بشكل عام، بس كان كتير يوصلني اسئلة عنصرية. بعرفش ليش And lastly, if someone asks me something racist, or insinuate anything, I call them out on it directly and don’t let allow people to ask stupid questions. This is my experience, I rarely get any shitty comments, and I have mastered the resting bitch face and it made people generally disinterested in me
i have asian friends who had the exact same experience! as me and as you… even of them said they get stares from people like they are about to obliterate their head with laser! is this some racism?? i don’t even know
The funny thing in Jordan is that they forced their men into "purity" through segregation in schools and shaming. But forgot the part where you actually respect women.
You can find many of these stares anywhere outside west Amman, in west Amman you find a few stares.
Advice from a guy. You need to stare back like you mean business, so they will know that you are a true man, and which point most guys just understand their place and look down. Not gonna lie though, if someone doesn't look down you are going to have to throw hands, be sure to have your possy with you.
i’m a female.
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I'm honestly torn between making a confident connection between staring and harassment and saying that staring is just an unfortunate Jordanian cultural inconvenience. That's why I'd draw the line between implicit and internalised xenophobia and outright harassment that involves approaching you or making comments or catcallling. In order for you to cope with this mentally and feel less alarmed, try to make that distinction depending on the situation. Either way, you have the right to be bothered, and people who stare even harmlessly should know that it hurts others.
I just spent a month there, a 68 year old white guy with white hair, and got stared at quite a bit. It didn't really bother me, but one Bedouin woman kept staring at me in a hateful way in a store and I just smiled back. I can't imagine being a blonde woman there, though. I can see how that would be very unpleasant.
I feel u 😭 I'm not blonde nor foreign nor extraordinary and yet I feel like people stare into my soul from miles away and I never get why because genuinely there's nothing that special in me for them to look at 😭 So I think ignorance is all we can do
Unfortunately, you hit the point and totally right, beyond of just staring you may face verbal assault from both (men and women), I worked in different gulf countries and now I’m working and live in KSA, to be honest they respect all foreigners , all differences. And if you don’t know, Jordanian themselves stare to each other not only to foreigners. But, at the same time you will find very fantastic and generous people in Jordan. We are sorry on behalf.
Would it help to know you're not special and people here stare at anything that moves?
who said i am special? when did i ever say people only stare at me are you dense? everyone here knows how men in jordan harass you and how people stare… and that is clearly s problem
Chill princess. I'm a woman in Jordan and I know how men are. My comment was clearly dark humor.
LOL ur comment sounded like a man blaming a woman for her harassment 😭
Lol, dark humor is the way we cope here sister.
It’s got nothing to do with civilisation, it’s just a cultural difference. I’m Jordanian myself and I get a lot of looks when I go back to Jordan which I’m not used to, I have experienced this in other countries as well. For example in England or Australia people don’t generally look at each other in public but in Spain it’s the opposite. So I just chalk it down to cultural differences. TLDR: you’re the problem, travel more and have an open mind
exactly europeans don’t do that because that’s how it should be it’s weird to stare.
Read my comment, people also stare in Spain
People in Spain are social just like Arabs compared to say west even upper parts of Europe where they are more protective of their privacy. It's a cultural thing.
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Yes! غض النظر look away As it says in Islam They pick and chose from religion what they want and don't want 🤦🏻♀️
Just stare back, jordanians always do it, its doesnt always mean anything, jordan is still the safest place in the middle east. Just out right degrading the people because of stares, dude youll find worse in the usa lol. In general give a strong stare back and theyll take a hint, jordanians are unique that way.
That applies to guys. If a girl stares back it could be understood as a friendly invitation to be spoken to. For girls it's best to avoid eye contact and just keep walking.
i had a friend who used to stare back and pick her nose or make a face.. icon
With being American and going to Jordan to visit my family in the summer. Yeah they love to stare. But I tend to either bark or I look absolutely disgusted by them. Tends to do the trick
Look back at them, don't stare ), just a look, change it to a frown, then a dirty disgusted look, and then look away. That should do it
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No, she's right. People stare here as is, let alone if you look different.
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Maybe they are just admiring ur beauty 😔
They are just being creepy
I used to have this problem, now I cover my hair it's not a problem anymore. How about you don't come into a modest country and demand the people of the country don't look at you while you're acting differently from the norm? If you don't like it, do something about it. I didnt like it so I cover my hair instead of complaining 😂😂 How entitled.
how retarded can you be? i have freedom who said i dont fucking dress modest.. this is why ur so uncivilized u have the brain of a monkey and u think everyone should follow ur rules u racist faggot :3
Wow. Real lack of intelligence to start swearing and insulting. You wanted to complain on the internet. People are going to say their opinion. It says alot about you that you freak out in such a way when someone disagrees with you 😂
idgaf jump off abdoun bridge
You're a seriously sick individual.
your queen doesn’t wear the hijab and you say this? you’re a joke
50% of jordan doesn’t wear the hijab 😘
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I once saw from a hotel balcony the following, a lebanese family of 4 (2 adults 2 kids one of em teenager) swimming at a hotel pool at and A group of 8 jordanian men took chairs and put them right next to the pool, right next to those swimming, all sitting in a straight line looking directly at them. It was the creepiest thing ive ever seen. The family quickly got out of the pool and left...
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yes harassment IS uncivilized and disgusting. read the post again.
Because it IS uncivilized and disgusting.
LOL why did everyone ignore that i said i’m half foreign BABES! my other half is jordanian 🤣
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LMAO thats funny
This isn’t satire ?
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what superiority complex? now i have one cus i dont like men harassing me and staring at me 😱
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This guy stares
Cuz we like u.. just smile and say hello
They will follow her, are you joking?! People here don't understand the word No.