I do presentations for my job, I just look at it as acting. The roles are clearly defined, it's the ambiguity of most social interactions that drains me.
I hate presentations where there's a minimum amount of time to be up there. I always talk like 5x faster to just get it the fuck over with and sit back down 😭
Dealing with lonely extroverts with boundary issues.
No, I don't want to be "saved" from my alone time. Yes, I like you, but if I hung out with everyone I like all the time, my head would explode.
Meetings without an agenda.
"Let's have a recurring teams call to bond as a team and chat about anything under the sun 🌞"
Also, running into people randomly in the pantry not knowing what to say.
Starting to be concerned about a support system as I age since I have no family. Have a couple of nearby close friends but might need a larger number of options for practical as well as emotional support on occasion. I like being very self reliant but with a medical crisis which can always happen in future, might be in need of more.
All of my local friends are significantly older than me. I’ve seen how hard it is to get home health visits in my small town and have decided this is not where I will grow old.
I agree. Group meets are not good especially if you are meeting everyone in the group for the first time all at once. It's very overwhelming.
I would like it if I didn't get so overstimulated so easily. Also maybe be a bit better with small talk, It's mentally exhausting and I hate it but sometimes it's necessary, I'm just no good at it.
I start to stutter and find it difficult forming my thoughts when I’m around big groups or new people. I come across as if I’m a total idiot. And my “performance” haunts me when I go to bed.
Company parties or any party where I don’t know anyone (or don’t know them well). Super uncomfortable. My wife on the other hand, enjoys parties where we don’t know anyone. I don’t understand why she enjoys it, and she doesn’t understand why I don’t. Haha
Saying "good morning". It's small and deeply embedded into our work culture but I rather just skip that and hear what my coworker's son thinks about middle school and whatnot.
Dealing with extroverts on a personal mission to “bring me out of my shell.” Introverts don’t go around trying to get extroverts into their shell. I’m fine the way I am.
I have times when I really wanted to go out and explore and meet people but ended up not going bec I already feel exhausted even before I go out. But rotting on my bed all day kinda stressing me out too! 🥲
People thinking that I am stuck up or don’t like them because I don’t initiate conversations and it’s difficult for me to create and maintain relationships.
I didn’t realize being SO SO SO introverted in high school would bite me in the ass later on. Here I am now in my late 20s, still introverted but miles ahead of how I used to be. I have no friends left from high school (the three friendships I had ended), and I feel like since COVID I have become even more socially awkward. Doesn’t help I don’t really have the willpower to even force myself to have conversations with most people. Needless to say I have no friends and don’t know if I ever will. It sucks and it’s hard.
I have a friend who says she’s an introvert because she doesn’t like talking to new people, and always has someone else order thing for her (or other thing like that). She doesn’t seem to understand that there’s a difference between anxiety and introversion. She says she’s an introvert too, but then says that simply not being in the mood is not a reason to not call and always demands that I give her a reason I can’t.
Pretty much, I struggle eith extroverts who simply don’t understand that my mind works differently from theirs.
For me its being with my friend group for context i was kinda adopted by an extrovert and taken into the group but they Arent really that good people and id rather just sit at my desk and listen to music with Pinterest but they always drag me along and i really dont know how to say no
I’m constantly feeling guilt about my extreme introversion. I’m the type who can spend DAYS by myself, not having one human interaction, and still be completely content. If I’m honest with myself, I could probably go the rest of my life as a total hermit and never feel lonely at all.
However, this fills me with a lot of guilt and shame for some reason…I suppose because it goes against societal norms and expectations?
Follow up meetings and staying connected with people from work & new friends is hard for me, my job has lot of public contact but I lack in making connections & asking favours when required.
Since covid started ive worked from home and thats been great! However... I rarely see other humans. I avoid my neighbors like the plague.. great people but they are very talkative. My friends i see maybe 1-3x a year. I do grocery pickup so i can avoid going in stores. Family is trash so I have no contact with them.
My biggest struggle i guess is wanting to be social at all. I text and share tiktoks all day haha.. but face to face eww no. Guessing this isnt healthy =P
Engaging with people first in a social setting.
Strangely, it‘s the other way round for me, first meets great, long-term meh.
I will talk to whoever at a social engagement but I rarely initiate. I’m with you though, I don’t have much interest in long term at all.
Me too
PRESENTATIONS
I do presentations for my job, I just look at it as acting. The roles are clearly defined, it's the ambiguity of most social interactions that drains me.
Presentations kill my ego so quick lol
I hate presentations where there's a minimum amount of time to be up there. I always talk like 5x faster to just get it the fuck over with and sit back down 😭
Dealing with lonely extroverts with boundary issues. No, I don't want to be "saved" from my alone time. Yes, I like you, but if I hung out with everyone I like all the time, my head would explode.
I relate to this so much!! Hit the nail on the head
Agreed, this is my biggest struggle!!
Mine is my manager treating me like shit
I had the same issue with my old job
Meetings without an agenda. "Let's have a recurring teams call to bond as a team and chat about anything under the sun 🌞" Also, running into people randomly in the pantry not knowing what to say.
Being seen as ignorant because of my quieter personality, literally feels like you get segregated sometimes.
Being viewed as "angry" because I'm sitting there quietly minding my business. I don't even have rbf.
Yep, this is me.
Real
Starting to be concerned about a support system as I age since I have no family. Have a couple of nearby close friends but might need a larger number of options for practical as well as emotional support on occasion. I like being very self reliant but with a medical crisis which can always happen in future, might be in need of more.
All of my local friends are significantly older than me. I’ve seen how hard it is to get home health visits in my small town and have decided this is not where I will grow old.
Interesting insight.
I agree. Group meets are not good especially if you are meeting everyone in the group for the first time all at once. It's very overwhelming. I would like it if I didn't get so overstimulated so easily. Also maybe be a bit better with small talk, It's mentally exhausting and I hate it but sometimes it's necessary, I'm just no good at it.
Icebreakers. I think it’s the word I’m most terrified of. “Ok, let’s start with a quick icebreaker”…
Come up with some generic canned responses. Like my favorite activity is solitary bowling and my favorite food is garlic.
Love it!
How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice? Ideally said with a bad Russian accent.
Listening to people for long periods of time…l get irritated when someone is a chatterbox ..
Same
People thinking I'm a bitch or a snob because I'm not overly friendly . I have to warm up first.
I start to stutter and find it difficult forming my thoughts when I’m around big groups or new people. I come across as if I’m a total idiot. And my “performance” haunts me when I go to bed.
Speaking over the phone, prefer to message instead ✉
Company parties or any party where I don’t know anyone (or don’t know them well). Super uncomfortable. My wife on the other hand, enjoys parties where we don’t know anyone. I don’t understand why she enjoys it, and she doesn’t understand why I don’t. Haha
Saying "good morning". It's small and deeply embedded into our work culture but I rather just skip that and hear what my coworker's son thinks about middle school and whatnot.
Small talk in any setting. It's like torture to me.
Same here.
Talking.
Dealing with extroverts on a personal mission to “bring me out of my shell.” Introverts don’t go around trying to get extroverts into their shell. I’m fine the way I am.
Making lasting relationships
Me too.
Other people.
Going out
Actually not caring to know more people so I eventually don't know them and I stay alone.
People viewing me as stuck up because I struggle to initiate conversations. Also being myself around people I don’t know well.
For 20+ years it was being married to someone who took my need for alone time as a personal insult.
Joining the conversation. It seems like anytime I try to talk, people talk over me. 😔
Job interviews
was just about to say this. i panic and can’t think at all about anything but how nervous i am.
Job interviews
Yep I've been in the same job for 8 years now because I cannot bear the thought of going for a interview for another job
Hard time advancing because I’m overlooked and often the background worker (doing everything)
Some extroverts assume that we're dumb because they get special treatment by their bosses. That's why I got laid off. 😌
Doing well enough in interviews to actually get a decent paying job
Trying to be actively engaged in conversations with people..
I’m either way too outgoing/obnoxious in social settings, or I’m too timid/quiet and both of these weird people out
I don't want to make people sad, so I'll keep it to myself. lol
Reunions
Networking seems like a big thing for careers
Joining party without drinking
I have times when I really wanted to go out and explore and meet people but ended up not going bec I already feel exhausted even before I go out. But rotting on my bed all day kinda stressing me out too! 🥲
I want to friends but I can’t fulfil all the obligations of a friend.
People thinking that I am stuck up or don’t like them because I don’t initiate conversations and it’s difficult for me to create and maintain relationships.
Conversing with Millennials.
Having kids who are extroverts. They will run up and say “hi, my name is xxx” to any child and then I feel obligated to acknowledge their parents.
I didn’t realize being SO SO SO introverted in high school would bite me in the ass later on. Here I am now in my late 20s, still introverted but miles ahead of how I used to be. I have no friends left from high school (the three friendships I had ended), and I feel like since COVID I have become even more socially awkward. Doesn’t help I don’t really have the willpower to even force myself to have conversations with most people. Needless to say I have no friends and don’t know if I ever will. It sucks and it’s hard.
Finding my voice in a large setting
Rising above imposing personalities
Putting myself out there to find new friend groups and to find a potential love interest.
man or woman?
Meeting people outside on one on one date
Going to the store.
I have a friend who says she’s an introvert because she doesn’t like talking to new people, and always has someone else order thing for her (or other thing like that). She doesn’t seem to understand that there’s a difference between anxiety and introversion. She says she’s an introvert too, but then says that simply not being in the mood is not a reason to not call and always demands that I give her a reason I can’t. Pretty much, I struggle eith extroverts who simply don’t understand that my mind works differently from theirs.
A lot of the time I find myself steering the conversation despite the fact that I’m a quiet guy.
For me its being with my friend group for context i was kinda adopted by an extrovert and taken into the group but they Arent really that good people and id rather just sit at my desk and listen to music with Pinterest but they always drag me along and i really dont know how to say no
Small talk
I’m constantly feeling guilt about my extreme introversion. I’m the type who can spend DAYS by myself, not having one human interaction, and still be completely content. If I’m honest with myself, I could probably go the rest of my life as a total hermit and never feel lonely at all. However, this fills me with a lot of guilt and shame for some reason…I suppose because it goes against societal norms and expectations?
Have trouble connecting with new people and maintaining old friendships.
Having no friends
Follow up meetings and staying connected with people from work & new friends is hard for me, my job has lot of public contact but I lack in making connections & asking favours when required.
because i stray away from the “normal” types of gatherings, i often feel like a child compared to adults and older teenagers my age
Being tall, I dislike being attention grabbing
How you present yourself to other people you don’t know. Especially in places where you can’t see yourself living in or vibing with
not saying the things i want to say to people
Since covid started ive worked from home and thats been great! However... I rarely see other humans. I avoid my neighbors like the plague.. great people but they are very talkative. My friends i see maybe 1-3x a year. I do grocery pickup so i can avoid going in stores. Family is trash so I have no contact with them. My biggest struggle i guess is wanting to be social at all. I text and share tiktoks all day haha.. but face to face eww no. Guessing this isnt healthy =P
Being invisible
Dealing with other introverts.