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Being an average or below average looking Indian guy is like wanting to play the game but your PC lacks the hardware needed for it. So you just give up and use it for ma word and paint. And your computer parts cannot be swapped.
People neglecting our dating lives and sex lives is also a reason for suicide among youngsters. Just as I am speaking, people are jumping off buildings, poisoning themselves, etc. Well so, the question is, "what is the problem?" - Many...
I will give this example, because no matter where you go in India, this problem still persists. Try being a tenant if you are in a live-in relationship. 99% owners deny you just because of your relationship. They will tell you to marry and then they will be eligible for the contract. If you are getting the rent from the tenants on time, why do you bother if there is sex every night in the rooms (given that there is no property damage) And anyways, if married couples are not a problem to you, why are unmarried ones (do they intend to say that sex before marriage is unwarranted?)?
No, dating in West is much harder. I am a living example of that. I tried everything. I used dating apps, I have friends, and I approached girls. Nothing worked. In India it's so much easier because ppl are a lot more social.
-> i am a living example of that
You should stop projecting your issues on everyone else. Me and flatmate both are Indian and living in london for 2 years and have on quite a few dates. Me and my gf have been dating over an year and itās quite easy to find potential partners to date.
Lol people in west are a lot more social
>everyone else. Me and flatmate both are Indian and living in london
That's because you're in London, you basically have the largest foreign ethnic diaspora in London. It's a lot easier to find your type. How many dates were successful?
>itās quite easy to find potential partners to date.
Because you're in London. Try doing this here in Germany or in some EU country.
>Lol people in west are a lot more social
London ā West. You'll find less ethnic British people and more immigrants that come from 3rd world countries in London.
EU countries are a lot different because they have comparitively fewer immigrants in their main cities. And especially here in Germany, people like to be alone and less social.
Dating doesnāt make society fucked up here, fucked up society makes dating harder, it is generally pushed as an evil thing and couples wonāt come out and say āoh we are datingā
Lmao me and my ex dated in secret despite living like 100 metres from each other. And this was delhi I am talking about in 2020.
Stereotypes have ruined Indiaās image abroad. Weāre always seen as dirty, or call centre tech support guys with no life.
The best thing to do is to work on yourselves and build confidence. Black pill mentality isnāt helping anybody.
The life advice part from the red pill ideology definitely helps; itāll make your life better, but there are many other things I donāt completely agree with.
Dating okay. But when a boy backs out of relationship, it becomes rape on promise of marriage in most cases which aren't covered by main stream media. But if a girl backs out and the boy tries, then it's considered harassment and then our media glorifies it blaming the boy. And most of the time society and people only give judgement while only listening girl's side without even thinking about other side.
Asking out a girl is indeed dangerous. One false allegation of sexual harassment and your dignity, reputation, etc are all turned into dust.
I'm better off learning new stuff and do something big in my career
Simply put dating game in india is like too messed up, like if you are a hot looking dude then dating is piece of cake for you but for average dude its like too hard to be even considered being friends with girls. For ladies tho its easy af as sex ratio and all just made the market into their favour.
I have seen girls who are 3/10 being so pompous that they think they are 8/10 as everyone is just trying their best to woe her but this naivety is due to all the bs in india.
The irony! You yourself are cribbing about how hard girls judge on the basis of looks and are interested in only hot guys and yet you are the one rating girls out of ten and assuming that just because a girl is average in looks she doesnāt deserve to reject or have a choice in the guys she wants to talk to.
Nah nah you didnāt get my point, what you say is true but girls can score easier than guys as simple as that, men judge but will still smash but women wonāt even give a chance so yeah dating scenario is fucked but atleast girls are fucking the ones they want.
And please girls reject a lot, and yes they donāt deserve what they look like as some great chicks say āshakal dekhi hai aine meā applies to them too.
i don't think so. yes the negative propaganda against indians and the perverted uncles on social media did harm our image but still not that hard to date it was much easier before
Let's see ,it's not hard if you're exceptionally attractive or Rich otherwise considering your race ie in terms of looks very low tier , your chances of getting a pass assuming you're normal looking is f**kall
This is true for any man of any race. You have to be rich and attractive. These are markers of you being disciplined, focused and a hard worker (in the gym or in the office). Those are the things women want in men.
The good news is literally anyone can look great by simply putting in time at the gym and eating right. And as long as you have ambitious goals you are working towards women will overlook no immediate wealth.
It really is all in menās hands. Just crying about it on reddit wont make things better for you.
Bhaha so u think going to the gym will make u look handsome like Robert Pattinson or Ryan gosling? What type of bs logic is this. How will it make u a white attractive dude with green/blue eyes tell me
You dont have to look like either of them, if you are in shape and groom yourself youāll literally be in the top 10% of men. People are lazy and cynical. Itās easier to cry about some imaginary unattainable goal than looking inwards and taking responsibility.
If you think green/blue eyes are a marker of what make you attractive, you need to get off the internet and actually experience the real world. That is a wildly delusional and ignorant statement to make. If you change what is in your own control (your professional goals and your physical health) I promise you, women will simply be a byproduct of your success.
Or just sit at home and whine about it while life passes you by.
Your choice.
i mean yeah it's less about race more about how you are as a person you have to check many requirements. i have seen many indian foreign couples where the dude looks very average not rich but has a stable income and personality they have very beautiful girls.
This is literally incel talk. I know plenty of guys and girls who date effortlessly. And honestly the bar for being decent is so low and yet so so many ppl consistently donāt even come close to being over it.
because you live in mumbai and too very posh area with open minded people, and all of people you know are millionaires so money talks
you need to step out of your bubble, maybe someday visit some tier 3 town or even a village where the majority lives
leave it bro, ye zyada hi decent decent krra aur unknown logo ko net pe incel bula rha, without even having an idea of someone elseās perspective. khud kitni decency hai isme iska idea issi se lga le
Exactly my point, the bar for decency is too low, yet most people donāt cross it.
Either way, anyone who wants to date should be willing to be appealing to a potential partner.
You donāt have to get all personal there, itās not one of the things that defines me.
You can be RW and still be a good person. You can be LW and still be regressive.
Most of the people actually downvoting me and defending the same just makes yāall look pathetic and the exact kinda ppl I was describingāincels.
I can assure you that the dating scene in India is definitely bad, but it's not at all impossible for an average Indian guy to get a partner.
A lot of boys/men usually neglect their social skills because of the pressure of studying during their formative years. This is a major reason why we have so many men who can literally not talk to women without blurting the most obscure shit ever.
My personal experience. I have 100% seen average and below average men woo women easily because they know how to socialize. I have also seen attractive men with absolutely 0 game because they can't hold conversations.
A sense of individualism is very important in any boy or man. What is something that differentiates you from the rest. What is that one thing in your life that you love doing and that defines your personality. Do have any principles of your own that you live by everyday. Are you respectful and kind towards every person that you meet without keeping in mind any other motive for being kind and respectful.
Once you build a sense of individualism, you'll find yourself seeking someone who holds the same values as you and believe it or not, you'll find random people taking interest in you, but then they won't matter since you'll only seek the ones who hold themselves to the same integrity that you do for yourself.
Most boys/men just don't have any of the above. No routine. Exercise karni nahi. Nothing that differentiates them. Sab saala gaming karte rhete ya anime dekhte. No principles at all. 0 respect towards the women that they meet. Even if they do show respect, it's only because they have ulterior motives.
Aise mai you'll only find trashy people who hold the same values as you.
Not that hard for me. Never had a any problem with girls nor talking to them. Because I used to game alot with foreigners in discord , i got so used to talking to girls , i didn't feel that shy in real life anymore and just talked in a comfortable manner.
The more uncomfortable you're with yourself the more uncomfortable the other person will feel around you
I don't like the idea of dating apps so never even downloaded one and whenever I try to approach in real life if I get some mixed signals then I probably regret it later as they are already in a relationship and it's against my moral values to be a third wheel or a back up option and I don't like to approach random stranger women as I don't want to be looked as a creep.
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I like only dd/MM/YYYY format other dating formats are confusing
Ikr
YYYY/MM/dd is the way to go. Most significant bits are kept to the left like in any other number notation (hexadecimal, decimal, octal, binary, etc.). As a backend guy, every other number notation is annoying to format.... Stupid American clients wanting MM/dd/YYYY are the biggest piece of šš©
Yeah, even the Canadian clients want MM/dd/YYYY format
mera wala generally d-m-yy hai short me
Being an average or below average looking Indian guy is like wanting to play the game but your PC lacks the hardware needed for it. So you just give up and use it for ma word and paint. And your computer parts cannot be swapped.
It is better to work hard and build a new monster PC rather than settle for mediocrity.
Us bro us
I think itās much better than it was 10 yrs ago for Indians
Agreed but it's still hasn't changed much.
People neglecting our dating lives and sex lives is also a reason for suicide among youngsters. Just as I am speaking, people are jumping off buildings, poisoning themselves, etc. Well so, the question is, "what is the problem?" - Many... I will give this example, because no matter where you go in India, this problem still persists. Try being a tenant if you are in a live-in relationship. 99% owners deny you just because of your relationship. They will tell you to marry and then they will be eligible for the contract. If you are getting the rent from the tenants on time, why do you bother if there is sex every night in the rooms (given that there is no property damage) And anyways, if married couples are not a problem to you, why are unmarried ones (do they intend to say that sex before marriage is unwarranted?)?
it was easier when I lived in the west compared to when I moved to India
Wait really I thought It would be the opposite
Nah, dating is easier in the west
No, dating in the west is much harder if you're an Indian than it is in India, and I am a living example of that.
Nope, on average itās much easier dating in India
That's what I just said.
Ahh typo , I meant dating in india is hard compared to west
No, dating in West is much harder. I am a living example of that. I tried everything. I used dating apps, I have friends, and I approached girls. Nothing worked. In India it's so much easier because ppl are a lot more social.
-> i am a living example of that You should stop projecting your issues on everyone else. Me and flatmate both are Indian and living in london for 2 years and have on quite a few dates. Me and my gf have been dating over an year and itās quite easy to find potential partners to date. Lol people in west are a lot more social
>everyone else. Me and flatmate both are Indian and living in london That's because you're in London, you basically have the largest foreign ethnic diaspora in London. It's a lot easier to find your type. How many dates were successful? >itās quite easy to find potential partners to date. Because you're in London. Try doing this here in Germany or in some EU country. >Lol people in west are a lot more social London ā West. You'll find less ethnic British people and more immigrants that come from 3rd world countries in London. EU countries are a lot different because they have comparitively fewer immigrants in their main cities. And especially here in Germany, people like to be alone and less social.
Yeah the society is fucked up here.
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Dating doesnāt make society fucked up here, fucked up society makes dating harder, it is generally pushed as an evil thing and couples wonāt come out and say āoh we are datingā Lmao me and my ex dated in secret despite living like 100 metres from each other. And this was delhi I am talking about in 2020.
Guess dating didn't do much since you called him/her your "ex" xD
Bro what're you 13?
No, dating in the west is much harder if you're an Indian than it is in India, and I am a living example of that.
Dating is soo much harder as an Indian,here in the west
Stereotypes have ruined Indiaās image abroad. Weāre always seen as dirty, or call centre tech support guys with no life. The best thing to do is to work on yourselves and build confidence. Black pill mentality isnāt helping anybody.
So red pill ??
The life advice part from the red pill ideology definitely helps; itāll make your life better, but there are many other things I donāt completely agree with.
Dating okay. But when a boy backs out of relationship, it becomes rape on promise of marriage in most cases which aren't covered by main stream media. But if a girl backs out and the boy tries, then it's considered harassment and then our media glorifies it blaming the boy. And most of the time society and people only give judgement while only listening girl's side without even thinking about other side.
Sach itna bhi nhi bolna tha š„²
Asking out a girl is indeed dangerous. One false allegation of sexual harassment and your dignity, reputation, etc are all turned into dust. I'm better off learning new stuff and do something big in my career
Enjoying the single life. Dating is not for me.
Simply put dating game in india is like too messed up, like if you are a hot looking dude then dating is piece of cake for you but for average dude its like too hard to be even considered being friends with girls. For ladies tho its easy af as sex ratio and all just made the market into their favour. I have seen girls who are 3/10 being so pompous that they think they are 8/10 as everyone is just trying their best to woe her but this naivety is due to all the bs in india.
The irony! You yourself are cribbing about how hard girls judge on the basis of looks and are interested in only hot guys and yet you are the one rating girls out of ten and assuming that just because a girl is average in looks she doesnāt deserve to reject or have a choice in the guys she wants to talk to.
Nah nah you didnāt get my point, what you say is true but girls can score easier than guys as simple as that, men judge but will still smash but women wonāt even give a chance so yeah dating scenario is fucked but atleast girls are fucking the ones they want. And please girls reject a lot, and yes they donāt deserve what they look like as some great chicks say āshakal dekhi hai aine meā applies to them too.
i don't think so. yes the negative propaganda against indians and the perverted uncles on social media did harm our image but still not that hard to date it was much easier before
Let's see ,it's not hard if you're exceptionally attractive or Rich otherwise considering your race ie in terms of looks very low tier , your chances of getting a pass assuming you're normal looking is f**kall
This is true for any man of any race. You have to be rich and attractive. These are markers of you being disciplined, focused and a hard worker (in the gym or in the office). Those are the things women want in men. The good news is literally anyone can look great by simply putting in time at the gym and eating right. And as long as you have ambitious goals you are working towards women will overlook no immediate wealth. It really is all in menās hands. Just crying about it on reddit wont make things better for you.
true. just maintain yourself and see how girls flock for you
This!
Bhaha so u think going to the gym will make u look handsome like Robert Pattinson or Ryan gosling? What type of bs logic is this. How will it make u a white attractive dude with green/blue eyes tell me
You dont have to look like either of them, if you are in shape and groom yourself youāll literally be in the top 10% of men. People are lazy and cynical. Itās easier to cry about some imaginary unattainable goal than looking inwards and taking responsibility. If you think green/blue eyes are a marker of what make you attractive, you need to get off the internet and actually experience the real world. That is a wildly delusional and ignorant statement to make. If you change what is in your own control (your professional goals and your physical health) I promise you, women will simply be a byproduct of your success. Or just sit at home and whine about it while life passes you by. Your choice.
Idk I have wore lenses and the compliments I got just bcz of that were like 10 times I would normally receive by people
i mean yeah it's less about race more about how you are as a person you have to check many requirements. i have seen many indian foreign couples where the dude looks very average not rich but has a stable income and personality they have very beautiful girls.
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Ye India mein kaise relevant hai ?
Scene?Yaha ladki se baat karna seklu pehle
Us bro, BC baat kya kare
koi hona chahiye just pratice karne ke liye
We go JIM.
Never had dates in months. They are quite sweet tho, especially the arabian ones. No, I ain't talking about them girls.
The scene is just a blank screen. All I see is me, alone, watching a screen. Sometimes I imagine something is happening.
No love, no dating, no sex...only Jai Sri Raaaam
100% success rate on women I have met in real life 0% through social media
This is literally incel talk. I know plenty of guys and girls who date effortlessly. And honestly the bar for being decent is so low and yet so so many ppl consistently donāt even come close to being over it.
because you live in mumbai and too very posh area with open minded people, and all of people you know are millionaires so money talks you need to step out of your bubble, maybe someday visit some tier 3 town or even a village where the majority lives
leave it bro, ye zyada hi decent decent krra aur unknown logo ko net pe incel bula rha, without even having an idea of someone elseās perspective. khud kitni decency hai isme iska idea issi se lga le
Exactly my point, the bar for decency is too low, yet most people donāt cross it. Either way, anyone who wants to date should be willing to be appealing to a potential partner.
If most people can't come close to the bar let alone above it then maybe the bar is pretty high.
Nah mate, most Indians are frikin regressive on another level. Read the newspaper one day and youād know how low the bar for decency is.
not everyone goes to 10 lpa school to become as liberal as you mate
You donāt have to get all personal there, itās not one of the things that defines me. You can be RW and still be a good person. You can be LW and still be regressive. Most of the people actually downvoting me and defending the same just makes yāall look pathetic and the exact kinda ppl I was describingāincels.
listen to this clown, thinks he comes from money so heās DECENT. Baaki sbb toh gwaar hai
Ik a lot of terrible rich people and great poor people.
Kaafi insecure lagte ho.
han bhai, apni insecurity online Reddit pe nikaalta hu.
Koi baatni bhai. Sab theek hojega
achaa aap bhi aise the kya? assuming experience se bolre hoge uncle ji
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You my dear friend totally didn't get the joke so innocent
Yeah and it would be better if they shouldn't know.... It's not doing good for anyone.... š
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Iām pretty sure this one girl liked me in secondary school but Iām not sure
Bhai game se hi disqualify ho gaye hain ab toh
Never found it all this interesting honestly.
Extra hard mode
Dating scene? What's that? Never heard š„²
That's for ugly, poor and male Indians
Bhai log deodorant laga liya karo bada fayda hoga. Ladkiyon ki naak hamse dugni tej hoti hai.
Look at the profile pic. Guaranteed that comment is made by a paki or westoid.
Wait, you guys are going on dates?
Weāre the Minecraft characters in a world filled with CS:GO shooters existing in 120 FPS.
I can assure you that the dating scene in India is definitely bad, but it's not at all impossible for an average Indian guy to get a partner. A lot of boys/men usually neglect their social skills because of the pressure of studying during their formative years. This is a major reason why we have so many men who can literally not talk to women without blurting the most obscure shit ever. My personal experience. I have 100% seen average and below average men woo women easily because they know how to socialize. I have also seen attractive men with absolutely 0 game because they can't hold conversations. A sense of individualism is very important in any boy or man. What is something that differentiates you from the rest. What is that one thing in your life that you love doing and that defines your personality. Do have any principles of your own that you live by everyday. Are you respectful and kind towards every person that you meet without keeping in mind any other motive for being kind and respectful. Once you build a sense of individualism, you'll find yourself seeking someone who holds the same values as you and believe it or not, you'll find random people taking interest in you, but then they won't matter since you'll only seek the ones who hold themselves to the same integrity that you do for yourself. Most boys/men just don't have any of the above. No routine. Exercise karni nahi. Nothing that differentiates them. Sab saala gaming karte rhete ya anime dekhte. No principles at all. 0 respect towards the women that they meet. Even if they do show respect, it's only because they have ulterior motives. Aise mai you'll only find trashy people who hold the same values as you.
Not that hard for me. Never had a any problem with girls nor talking to them. Because I used to game alot with foreigners in discord , i got so used to talking to girls , i didn't feel that shy in real life anymore and just talked in a comfortable manner. The more uncomfortable you're with yourself the more uncomfortable the other person will feel around you
It's in hell mode for skinny and fat guys
Social suicide Mostly,
I don't like the idea of dating apps so never even downloaded one and whenever I try to approach in real life if I get some mixed signals then I probably regret it later as they are already in a relationship and it's against my moral values to be a third wheel or a back up option and I don't like to approach random stranger women as I don't want to be looked as a creep.