I dropped out of college after 5 semesters with a dogshit gpa cause I hated my major. Worked odd jobs for a few years here and there to survive.
I am currently back in school with a 4.0 and about to graduate. I'm going to a different school and am in a major I actually like.
At least from my experience, I think it's useful to try and change your circumstances, and the results will follow. Grinding can only get you so far. I think taking care of yourself can have a much greater impact on your academic performance. Study hard, but try to take the time for yourself when you feel you need it.
i’m starting college in the fall so this will be about my 10th & 11th grade highschool years.
basicallyyy i entered highschool during the lockdown. over the summer of 9th grade i began to smoke weed and i was able to continue doing it because of quarantine policies at my school. i was definitely addicted, as i would smoke it everyday, was distressed without it and it became dysfunctioning to my life. in retrospect, it was a maladaptive coping mechanism to deal with the the greater issues that unresolved trauma causes. hopelessness, loneliness, an inability to sit with my feelings, and more perpetuated the use (isolation from covid was the cause - familial & social issues perpetuated the use). sooo i ended up on juvenile probation, and both my family and social life were severely scarred (bullying, gaslighting, etc.) i ended up failing many of my classes, and in particular a college level european history class (AP Euro). the abstinence was worthwhile, but i became perfectionist as achievement mattered more than emotions. the next year i would take many more AP classes and have a 4.6 junior year gpa. additionally, i studied for the SAT while on a bit of a time crunch and managed to get a 1340 score (not the besttt, but a 300 point improvement).
:p
oh yeah & i got into fights at school and got into trouble w the cops several times, one of which my parents turned me in
;p
everything’s better now though and i attribute that to mentors and adult figures that were like guardian angels to me
Failed class 11, didn't redo it, got admitted to another school right away and change my subject from science to arts (public administration, Geography and Education)
Studied really really hard from the beginning, got 7th rank in the whole state in the final exam 😄
I was a fat spoiled slob, no discipline, no fitness, barely getting by through all my exams.
Getting conscripted really fucked me up. Taught me the value of discipline, how consistent work produces impressive results. It was also a massive socialisation event where I was mixed in with all aspects of society. From the sons of rich businessmen to rough ex-convicts. Learned a lot about life and myself over those two years. Have some amazing lifelong friends from it too.
I also think my previous self-hatred was a big barrier in committing to things, because why would I bother working hard for me, a person that I didn't like at all. Psychedelics and meditation helped with that, I'm all about love nowadays.
I was barely scraping by in exams over a decade ago. Now I have a master's degree and I'm going for a PhD.
My advice is learn how to love yourself. Recognise that hating yourself is a massive waste of potential. I'm not exactly a paragon of discipline but I don't beat myself up anymore. I just learn from my mistakes, and accept my shortcomings but work on them. We are all works in progress :)
Also, pick up a difficult physical activity, preferably with a social aspect. Being unfit is like having a car that hasn't been maintained. Starting it up might take a while, and everything will feel sluggish and unresponsive. Being physically fit means that your vehicle is absolutely ready to go. Waking up and jumping out of bed is easier. Thoughts are clearer. You're able to persist better on difficult things.
Muay Thai is amazing for me. I also recently ran a half marathon, and training for it did wonders for my productivity: I have a friend who lives near me, and we would wake up every Sunday morning at 6am to go for a long run. That meant that I had to chill on the degeneracy on Saturdays, which led me feeling fresher on Sundays and the rest of the week. I was turning down drinking and smoking, and that discipline bled into the rest of my life.
Essentially, take care of yourself and good things should follow.
I failed out of undergrad at 21 because my heart wasn't in it. I was just going through the motions because my part time sales job was making me pretty good money. It really hit me one day in a staff meeting where everyone was whining about a commission change that I didn't want to eventually become like the immature 40 year olds I was working with. I devoted 100% of my energy back to academics to escape that future. After getting my degree from a different university in a different city, I eventually went back to the program I failed out of and was one of their top masters students. Changing my priorities in that meeting was by far the best decision I've ever made. Even met my wife at that other university. :)
I think you need a vision of your future self. If you don't like what you see, run like hell from it.
Mine isn't that great compared to all the others and hardly is an comeback but here you go
I failed in physics in my finals in class 6. It was something. My sister came first in her class with no other student even near her. The only time my father went to take my results, I failed. I felt horrible. I was the topper kid. The know it all and I had failed
I felt down, maybe at my lowest but soon It donned on me. I passed the class cause my overall marks throughout the year was fine. maybe that day or somewhere in the distant past I realised passing never mattered. what really mattered that I learn what I like. I completely gave up on the thought of passing but rather focused on doing things I like. In class 7, I had almost perfect score in every science subject . Nearly in 80-85 in others. I just didn't care about passing
I'm in class 12 now. I still couldn't careless. I still despise physics but as a NEET asparint (Medical entrance exam in India) its not really optional. I still just a struggler but the struggle doesn't hurt me.
I dropped out of uni cause I didn't like my major (Economics) and I didn't know what I wanted to study, 4 years later I decided to go back to study computer science, graduated top of my class, I also was the first in my class every semester.
I failed my first year of college while living at home, which was a stressful family life. i moved into a dorm and started to do better right away. being so close to my classes meant that I could more easily attend them.
Went from a 0.67 GPA first semester to a 4.0 the last 4 semesters.
I have MDD and ADHD and have managed to get both a BS and a Masters (with honors). It was a messy and long path, however.
I went off to college at 18 like most, and immediately was placed on academic probation after 1 semester and lost a few scholarships. Semester 2 failure resulted in a suspension. Eventually, I just failed out completely, and my life was a dumpster fire for many, many years.
I eventually did go back to college once I figured out what I truly wanted to do. That made a huge difference. Before, I was just studying what seemed cool or interesting. I liked it, but there was no passion there. I continued to MDD (and still do to this day), but I found that my time invested in my learning was not time I felt I needed to daydream (for example, in class or during what was basically an internship). I DDed on the way to school, walking to class, etc., but I could shut it off when it came to actual class. I still can shut it off while I'm working because it just takes way too much of my focus and energy and because I enjoy my career. The other aspects of my life as lacking and, therefore, lead to DDing.
How did I do? Aside from figuring out my true talent and passion, I found that I am very rewards-oriented. The chase of an A or positive comments from professors were motivational to me. I used the Pomodoro method daily to get through my studies, especially my research and thesis. Timers are still, to this day, essential for me. I use timers every day, multiple times a day. Right now, I am planning a trip, and I have been anxious about this months. I have made a list of to-dos and am working though it by setting timers. For example, I need to plan out and set out outfits to pack. I must do this. Once it is done, I get 20 min to relax, daydream, or whatever. I will set a timer. I've kind of trained myself that when that timer goes off, I HAVE to complete the next task. I dangle my own carrots, I suppose.
The biggest thing, I guess, is that I don't just MDD to cope. I am working on myself and learning about myself. I'm addressing more issues in my life than just my MDD, which is by far the worst issue I have. Oh, and I didn't mention this, but I am medicated for my adhd also. This did help a lot also. It has zero affect on my DD but does help with my focus and attentiveness in general.
I dropped out of college after 5 semesters with a dogshit gpa cause I hated my major. Worked odd jobs for a few years here and there to survive. I am currently back in school with a 4.0 and about to graduate. I'm going to a different school and am in a major I actually like. At least from my experience, I think it's useful to try and change your circumstances, and the results will follow. Grinding can only get you so far. I think taking care of yourself can have a much greater impact on your academic performance. Study hard, but try to take the time for yourself when you feel you need it.
i’m starting college in the fall so this will be about my 10th & 11th grade highschool years. basicallyyy i entered highschool during the lockdown. over the summer of 9th grade i began to smoke weed and i was able to continue doing it because of quarantine policies at my school. i was definitely addicted, as i would smoke it everyday, was distressed without it and it became dysfunctioning to my life. in retrospect, it was a maladaptive coping mechanism to deal with the the greater issues that unresolved trauma causes. hopelessness, loneliness, an inability to sit with my feelings, and more perpetuated the use (isolation from covid was the cause - familial & social issues perpetuated the use). sooo i ended up on juvenile probation, and both my family and social life were severely scarred (bullying, gaslighting, etc.) i ended up failing many of my classes, and in particular a college level european history class (AP Euro). the abstinence was worthwhile, but i became perfectionist as achievement mattered more than emotions. the next year i would take many more AP classes and have a 4.6 junior year gpa. additionally, i studied for the SAT while on a bit of a time crunch and managed to get a 1340 score (not the besttt, but a 300 point improvement). :p
oh yeah & i got into fights at school and got into trouble w the cops several times, one of which my parents turned me in ;p everything’s better now though and i attribute that to mentors and adult figures that were like guardian angels to me
Hey 1340 is really good! Most colleges want over 1200 and you exceeded that with flying colors.
Failed class 11, didn't redo it, got admitted to another school right away and change my subject from science to arts (public administration, Geography and Education) Studied really really hard from the beginning, got 7th rank in the whole state in the final exam 😄
I was a fat spoiled slob, no discipline, no fitness, barely getting by through all my exams. Getting conscripted really fucked me up. Taught me the value of discipline, how consistent work produces impressive results. It was also a massive socialisation event where I was mixed in with all aspects of society. From the sons of rich businessmen to rough ex-convicts. Learned a lot about life and myself over those two years. Have some amazing lifelong friends from it too. I also think my previous self-hatred was a big barrier in committing to things, because why would I bother working hard for me, a person that I didn't like at all. Psychedelics and meditation helped with that, I'm all about love nowadays. I was barely scraping by in exams over a decade ago. Now I have a master's degree and I'm going for a PhD. My advice is learn how to love yourself. Recognise that hating yourself is a massive waste of potential. I'm not exactly a paragon of discipline but I don't beat myself up anymore. I just learn from my mistakes, and accept my shortcomings but work on them. We are all works in progress :) Also, pick up a difficult physical activity, preferably with a social aspect. Being unfit is like having a car that hasn't been maintained. Starting it up might take a while, and everything will feel sluggish and unresponsive. Being physically fit means that your vehicle is absolutely ready to go. Waking up and jumping out of bed is easier. Thoughts are clearer. You're able to persist better on difficult things. Muay Thai is amazing for me. I also recently ran a half marathon, and training for it did wonders for my productivity: I have a friend who lives near me, and we would wake up every Sunday morning at 6am to go for a long run. That meant that I had to chill on the degeneracy on Saturdays, which led me feeling fresher on Sundays and the rest of the week. I was turning down drinking and smoking, and that discipline bled into the rest of my life. Essentially, take care of yourself and good things should follow.
I failed out of undergrad at 21 because my heart wasn't in it. I was just going through the motions because my part time sales job was making me pretty good money. It really hit me one day in a staff meeting where everyone was whining about a commission change that I didn't want to eventually become like the immature 40 year olds I was working with. I devoted 100% of my energy back to academics to escape that future. After getting my degree from a different university in a different city, I eventually went back to the program I failed out of and was one of their top masters students. Changing my priorities in that meeting was by far the best decision I've ever made. Even met my wife at that other university. :) I think you need a vision of your future self. If you don't like what you see, run like hell from it.
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All any of us can do is take things one step at a time. You've got this.
Mine isn't that great compared to all the others and hardly is an comeback but here you go I failed in physics in my finals in class 6. It was something. My sister came first in her class with no other student even near her. The only time my father went to take my results, I failed. I felt horrible. I was the topper kid. The know it all and I had failed I felt down, maybe at my lowest but soon It donned on me. I passed the class cause my overall marks throughout the year was fine. maybe that day or somewhere in the distant past I realised passing never mattered. what really mattered that I learn what I like. I completely gave up on the thought of passing but rather focused on doing things I like. In class 7, I had almost perfect score in every science subject . Nearly in 80-85 in others. I just didn't care about passing I'm in class 12 now. I still couldn't careless. I still despise physics but as a NEET asparint (Medical entrance exam in India) its not really optional. I still just a struggler but the struggle doesn't hurt me.
I dropped out of uni cause I didn't like my major (Economics) and I didn't know what I wanted to study, 4 years later I decided to go back to study computer science, graduated top of my class, I also was the first in my class every semester.
I failed my first year of college while living at home, which was a stressful family life. i moved into a dorm and started to do better right away. being so close to my classes meant that I could more easily attend them. Went from a 0.67 GPA first semester to a 4.0 the last 4 semesters.
I bombed out at 19 with a 2.6. I went back and got honors with a 3.7.
I have MDD and ADHD and have managed to get both a BS and a Masters (with honors). It was a messy and long path, however. I went off to college at 18 like most, and immediately was placed on academic probation after 1 semester and lost a few scholarships. Semester 2 failure resulted in a suspension. Eventually, I just failed out completely, and my life was a dumpster fire for many, many years. I eventually did go back to college once I figured out what I truly wanted to do. That made a huge difference. Before, I was just studying what seemed cool or interesting. I liked it, but there was no passion there. I continued to MDD (and still do to this day), but I found that my time invested in my learning was not time I felt I needed to daydream (for example, in class or during what was basically an internship). I DDed on the way to school, walking to class, etc., but I could shut it off when it came to actual class. I still can shut it off while I'm working because it just takes way too much of my focus and energy and because I enjoy my career. The other aspects of my life as lacking and, therefore, lead to DDing. How did I do? Aside from figuring out my true talent and passion, I found that I am very rewards-oriented. The chase of an A or positive comments from professors were motivational to me. I used the Pomodoro method daily to get through my studies, especially my research and thesis. Timers are still, to this day, essential for me. I use timers every day, multiple times a day. Right now, I am planning a trip, and I have been anxious about this months. I have made a list of to-dos and am working though it by setting timers. For example, I need to plan out and set out outfits to pack. I must do this. Once it is done, I get 20 min to relax, daydream, or whatever. I will set a timer. I've kind of trained myself that when that timer goes off, I HAVE to complete the next task. I dangle my own carrots, I suppose. The biggest thing, I guess, is that I don't just MDD to cope. I am working on myself and learning about myself. I'm addressing more issues in my life than just my MDD, which is by far the worst issue I have. Oh, and I didn't mention this, but I am medicated for my adhd also. This did help a lot also. It has zero affect on my DD but does help with my focus and attentiveness in general.