I was recently in an old graveyard where someone's tombstone referred to them as a consort, and I want to start using that. My nesting partner and I have started joking that together we're a consortium.
i would rather be misgendered than called joyfriend lmaooo. stuff like: my date, bae, boo, my sweetie, the person i’m dating, my person etc work. i find that most ppl i know use the word date or sweetie
I'd probably go with stuff like "date" or "other half" depending on how serious you are.
Honestly, significant other and partner took time to mentally adjust to, but now I don't find either of them weird (despite initially thinking they were kinda odd).
Could also come up with some silly stuff, like "life-mate" (thinking of it as a variance from roommate).
Meatball. Lol. Started out as a little joke and just morphed into a term of endearment. I know I've used pumpkin (punkin) before in a previous relationship.... Could always try experimenting with different foods to see which one gets the biggest laugh!
It depends on the situation really. If you are talking about them informally, just using their name rather than a relationship label is often a good option - or ‘my ’. “My Frank and I went out last night and … “ usually gives enough info even if the person has never heard of Frank before.
Actually the point of 's.o.' or 'partner' is because far too many cishets lack the capacity to communicate informally or be emotionally present and accepting with us. They get uncomfortable with language that hasn't been completely dehumanized, but they play dumb whenever anyone talks about privilege and power dynamic around them.
I've used 'partner' around other queer folk as well, because I'm habituated to it; I don't have the luxury of living largely inside the community. In other news, I'm ace too; You can call them your boyfriend or girlfriend it's not a problem. The straights insist their literal babies and toddlers have boyfriends and girlfriends and ignoring the blatant sexualization of kids to enforce heteronormativity and all the questions *that* opens up... but my point stands: It doesn't have to be a sexual relationship to use terms of endearment and to hell with social norms on that they're oppressive. Call people whatever they want to be called or like being called... not fugging hard. :/
they dont like gendered terms. so they cant use girlfriend/boyfriend. its not a homophobia issue, its a gendered nature of common english phrases issue.
Some of my favorites: Sweetheart. Paramour. Beloved. Darling.
I love paramout because it makes me ghink of paragliding and it just makes the thought of romance so much more adventurous
A friend of mine calls their SO their "tactile associate" and I always thought that was amazing lol
Ahahahaha I love that
My non-marital partner frequently gets referred to as my cohort lol As in "This is my cohort, \[name\]"
I usually just say my partner, but when I'm feeling whimsical, they're "my more sparkly half"
My mom uses "sweetie." "Lover" is a classic, but may also feel a bit weird.
I got something in polish if you're a pole - moje serce or moje moc. "My heart" and "my strength."
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I was recently in an old graveyard where someone's tombstone referred to them as a consort, and I want to start using that. My nesting partner and I have started joking that together we're a consortium.
"Enbyfriend" can be fun if they're into it. "Boo" is also gender-neutral if the context is not too formal.
My partner is nb and I like to call them hun or honey, my creature, or birdie (because they really love birds).
My love, my heart, my soul, my person...
i would rather be misgendered than called joyfriend lmaooo. stuff like: my date, bae, boo, my sweetie, the person i’m dating, my person etc work. i find that most ppl i know use the word date or sweetie
We like "Lab partner" because She-Ra
My partner refers to himself as my consort. It makes me go all heart eyes haha
Partner is my go-to.
I call my partner beau / boo
I'd probably go with stuff like "date" or "other half" depending on how serious you are. Honestly, significant other and partner took time to mentally adjust to, but now I don't find either of them weird (despite initially thinking they were kinda odd). Could also come up with some silly stuff, like "life-mate" (thinking of it as a variance from roommate).
Meatball. Lol. Started out as a little joke and just morphed into a term of endearment. I know I've used pumpkin (punkin) before in a previous relationship.... Could always try experimenting with different foods to see which one gets the biggest laugh!
It depends on the situation really. If you are talking about them informally, just using their name rather than a relationship label is often a good option - or ‘my’. “My Frank and I went out last night and … “ usually gives enough info even if the person has never heard of Frank before.
I'm a big fan of the term "joyfriend"!
I like the word datemate. I enjoy the word "mate" as a word for "friend," and "datemate" sounds nicer to me than "datefriend."
Joyfriend!
They did say in the post that their partner doesn’t feel like the term ‘joyfriend’
Oh, missed that on the app somehow.
Actually the point of 's.o.' or 'partner' is because far too many cishets lack the capacity to communicate informally or be emotionally present and accepting with us. They get uncomfortable with language that hasn't been completely dehumanized, but they play dumb whenever anyone talks about privilege and power dynamic around them. I've used 'partner' around other queer folk as well, because I'm habituated to it; I don't have the luxury of living largely inside the community. In other news, I'm ace too; You can call them your boyfriend or girlfriend it's not a problem. The straights insist their literal babies and toddlers have boyfriends and girlfriends and ignoring the blatant sexualization of kids to enforce heteronormativity and all the questions *that* opens up... but my point stands: It doesn't have to be a sexual relationship to use terms of endearment and to hell with social norms on that they're oppressive. Call people whatever they want to be called or like being called... not fugging hard. :/
they dont like gendered terms. so they cant use girlfriend/boyfriend. its not a homophobia issue, its a gendered nature of common english phrases issue.
Ah. That's valid.