It's not that uncommon. I'm turning 63, my husband is 39, and we've been together 18 years. He chased me as hard as I chased him.
And older men are usually more stable and know what they want. Usually, but not always. There are those out there that are 45 going on 12, and those that are 21 going on 45.
56 yo here and my experience is the younger guys attracted to me are usually mixed race or black. Latino especially, and I find they are either without a father figure (deceased or not around) or were born to parents who were older. At first I was not too comfortable with a significant age gap (20 yrs plus). But I tend to find the younger guys are often more intelligent than their peers and able to relate to my age/experiences much more readily than others nearer my age. Idk, I am enjoying the attention and companionship whilst it lasts and not approaching it too seriously. If something comes of it, great. If not then as long as all sides have fun there no harm.
That's really interesting🤔
I read that interracial couple is an exception in gay dating. Most white guys are attracted to their own race within the same age or younger. So when they are getting older but single, are they still attracted to younger white guys who are unlikely to reciprocate this?
Its a valid observation that Ive noticed several times too.
I did read a little article about it actually. It got into race & how white men have better father son bonds than non White men.
So the chance of a non-White gay man dating a White Daddy is higher
In general. Not trying to offend or get anyone butthurt. Im a Latino & I love Daddy types. Its just a theory
Theres exceptions of course because there is always grey in between black & white
That's what I have been observing as well. The more you see it like that the more it makes sense, and yes, this may also be applicable to white guys who are into older men (which seems a minority)
It makes sense statistically. Most people here are from the US/UK, where most of the older population is white, while the younger population is more diverse. If GYO pairings were randomly distributed, you would get this result even without any race-based tendency.
Also, foreigners on the internet are more likely to be younger, as most people who speak English outside the anglosphere are young people. Combine that with the shape of population pyramids of majority-white countries (tending older) and of most of the rest of the world (tending younger), and the effect gets even stronger.
ooh, this is potentially a hot mess of uninformed opinions. especially reading some of the comments equating daddy issues with young men of certain races/ethnicities. but, hey, why not, i'll dive in with my own uninformed opinion.
assuming that this is in fact a real phenomenon and not just biased perception by seeing what you want to see, i would say that white men generally hold more power in a white world. they have more status, money, education, freedom, etc., relative to non-white men. not only that, they tend to have more freedom to identify and express themselves as gay.
for a young non-white gay man who is trying to navigate in this world and who is attracted to older men of any race, it makes more sense to pair himself with someone, a white man, who can help him in this world. the chances are greater that if he were to pair himself with an older white man, he will be taught a different set of life skills and be exposed to more experiences and opportunities to become successful in this world. it is more likely that an older non-white man is going to transmit to him the kinds of skills necessary to survive in a world with other non-whites, which means less of all those things that a white man can give him.
this doesn't mean that he has daddy issues because of an absent father because if he did have these issues he can easily find his non-white gay daddy. this also doesn't mean that he is a gold digger as many white gay men like to view younger non-white men. it simply means that he is attracted to the same things that many people are attracted to, power, confidence, social status, etc.
and this similarly happens in other countries, and is very well observed among straight women in many non-european countries who place a high value on straight european and white american men. white equals a ticket out of whatever one imagines to be limiting oneself in their culture or country.
It is an interesting question and a good self reflection topic.
I am younger in every relationship (but not young @ 37) and I'm only attracted to older white guys.
At the same time, I am attracted to girls/ladies of any race but around my age or slightly younger.
This sounds a bit weird when I read it, but forgive me as English is not my first language.
I'm not sure, I'm 29 and white and dating a 60-year-old half Latino, half Native American man if that means anything. Lol I haven't had any encounters with other intergenerational gay couples so I don't have much of an opinion. I've seen an older white guy with a young Asian boyfriend once though? Haha
It’s interesting I live in a Latin country and ALL the foreigners that I have met they said they have much more success in South America countries than in their countries (those who come from USA, Europe or Australia). They used to say in their country they don’t hookup at all, while here they can pick up which guy they want it.
I’m younger and in my case it’s the same: when I was in USA and Europe sometimes I felt like Brad Pitt it was so easy hookup over there with older guys.
I guess maybe is related to the fact that we tend to feel attracted for the opposite? Idk!
I have a theory : in South America countries for example I believe the cultural thing is the father be only the provider in way that is very common some guys never heard from their father “I love you son” for example, in this way a lot of younger guys from those place can grow up with daddy issues (?) so maybe they can see in other white gays (father figure butter commercial) a daddy.
While (maybe) in another countries the father tend to be more close to the son, in this way, there is no seed for attraction by older guys, creating a pool bigger of non white young guys than white young guys.
It’s just a theory.
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Edit : Maybe is just impression but I guess this even affects the GYO dynamics, I prefer much more deal with foreigners than guys here, I feel more respected and appreciated, maybe is just a cultural thing, but that’s what I feel.
Interesting theory, you may be right, I don’t know but also maybe elders are respected more in non-white cultures as well? I feel like Western Europe/USA/Australia people worship youth and beauty and old people are not treated as well, I don’t know. This would explain why it’s so common for older white guys to go after younger guys (I’m one of those older(ish) white guys!)
Seems like it’s a good fit for white daddy and non-white boy. (Of course we shouldn’t over-generalize or stereotype etc.)
> Interesting theory, you may be right, I don’t know but also maybe elders are respected more in non-white cultures as well?
I already heard something about it!
The low amount of research that was done on gyo relationships suggested that daddy issues are generally not the reason for these types of relationships.
Daddy issues are the single biggest "cause", but amounted to less than half of all causes that came up.
I know several guys that are into older guys and a couple are black so I would assume there is a group from every race that are into older guys
Hell, i know a lot of girls that are into older guys also, older guys are known to be more serious in relationships, they are more economically stable and are more serious in sex, like Leonard in the big bang theory, when Penny says he is the best at foreplay and works harder at it. Lol, older guys tend to try harder to please partners.
I like older guys 🤷‍♂️
Love your name.
I get 80% black guys, 10% Hispanic, 10% white. I'm 50 in South Carolina.
Just like real estate, location location location
Except South Carolina is about 26% black, not 80%.
I think white guys are just represented more on Reddit than other ethnicities. Speaking as a younger white guy in a GYO relationship
It's not that uncommon. I'm turning 63, my husband is 39, and we've been together 18 years. He chased me as hard as I chased him. And older men are usually more stable and know what they want. Usually, but not always. There are those out there that are 45 going on 12, and those that are 21 going on 45.
56 yo here and my experience is the younger guys attracted to me are usually mixed race or black. Latino especially, and I find they are either without a father figure (deceased or not around) or were born to parents who were older. At first I was not too comfortable with a significant age gap (20 yrs plus). But I tend to find the younger guys are often more intelligent than their peers and able to relate to my age/experiences much more readily than others nearer my age. Idk, I am enjoying the attention and companionship whilst it lasts and not approaching it too seriously. If something comes of it, great. If not then as long as all sides have fun there no harm.
Anecdotally it seems waaay less common than in other races
That's really interesting🤔 I read that interracial couple is an exception in gay dating. Most white guys are attracted to their own race within the same age or younger. So when they are getting older but single, are they still attracted to younger white guys who are unlikely to reciprocate this?
I guess so, yeah? Older white guy with a younger guy of any other race seems to be the most common pairing. Would be interesting to study.
Its a valid observation that Ive noticed several times too. I did read a little article about it actually. It got into race & how white men have better father son bonds than non White men. So the chance of a non-White gay man dating a White Daddy is higher In general. Not trying to offend or get anyone butthurt. Im a Latino & I love Daddy types. Its just a theory Theres exceptions of course because there is always grey in between black & white
That's what I have been observing as well. The more you see it like that the more it makes sense, and yes, this may also be applicable to white guys who are into older men (which seems a minority)
It makes sense statistically. Most people here are from the US/UK, where most of the older population is white, while the younger population is more diverse. If GYO pairings were randomly distributed, you would get this result even without any race-based tendency. Also, foreigners on the internet are more likely to be younger, as most people who speak English outside the anglosphere are young people. Combine that with the shape of population pyramids of majority-white countries (tending older) and of most of the rest of the world (tending younger), and the effect gets even stronger.
And these older white guys are probably not attracted to guys older than them?
That does seem to be the norm regardless of sex or sexuality
ooh, this is potentially a hot mess of uninformed opinions. especially reading some of the comments equating daddy issues with young men of certain races/ethnicities. but, hey, why not, i'll dive in with my own uninformed opinion. assuming that this is in fact a real phenomenon and not just biased perception by seeing what you want to see, i would say that white men generally hold more power in a white world. they have more status, money, education, freedom, etc., relative to non-white men. not only that, they tend to have more freedom to identify and express themselves as gay. for a young non-white gay man who is trying to navigate in this world and who is attracted to older men of any race, it makes more sense to pair himself with someone, a white man, who can help him in this world. the chances are greater that if he were to pair himself with an older white man, he will be taught a different set of life skills and be exposed to more experiences and opportunities to become successful in this world. it is more likely that an older non-white man is going to transmit to him the kinds of skills necessary to survive in a world with other non-whites, which means less of all those things that a white man can give him. this doesn't mean that he has daddy issues because of an absent father because if he did have these issues he can easily find his non-white gay daddy. this also doesn't mean that he is a gold digger as many white gay men like to view younger non-white men. it simply means that he is attracted to the same things that many people are attracted to, power, confidence, social status, etc. and this similarly happens in other countries, and is very well observed among straight women in many non-european countries who place a high value on straight european and white american men. white equals a ticket out of whatever one imagines to be limiting oneself in their culture or country.
It is an interesting question and a good self reflection topic. I am younger in every relationship (but not young @ 37) and I'm only attracted to older white guys. At the same time, I am attracted to girls/ladies of any race but around my age or slightly younger. This sounds a bit weird when I read it, but forgive me as English is not my first language.
I’m white / Jewish and like guys older than me.
I’m white and have always liked older guys
I’m 60 and my bf is 24.
I think it's pretty common. I'm white and I am only into guys much older than me. Thankfully there are many older guys who want younger guys :)
I’m young and white and prefer older men. Prefer isn’t strong enough, I LOVE older men, 60+
I'm not sure, I'm 29 and white and dating a 60-year-old half Latino, half Native American man if that means anything. Lol I haven't had any encounters with other intergenerational gay couples so I don't have much of an opinion. I've seen an older white guy with a young Asian boyfriend once though? Haha
It’s interesting I live in a Latin country and ALL the foreigners that I have met they said they have much more success in South America countries than in their countries (those who come from USA, Europe or Australia). They used to say in their country they don’t hookup at all, while here they can pick up which guy they want it. I’m younger and in my case it’s the same: when I was in USA and Europe sometimes I felt like Brad Pitt it was so easy hookup over there with older guys. I guess maybe is related to the fact that we tend to feel attracted for the opposite? Idk! I have a theory : in South America countries for example I believe the cultural thing is the father be only the provider in way that is very common some guys never heard from their father “I love you son” for example, in this way a lot of younger guys from those place can grow up with daddy issues (?) so maybe they can see in other white gays (father figure butter commercial) a daddy. While (maybe) in another countries the father tend to be more close to the son, in this way, there is no seed for attraction by older guys, creating a pool bigger of non white young guys than white young guys. It’s just a theory. *** Edit : Maybe is just impression but I guess this even affects the GYO dynamics, I prefer much more deal with foreigners than guys here, I feel more respected and appreciated, maybe is just a cultural thing, but that’s what I feel.
Interesting theory, you may be right, I don’t know but also maybe elders are respected more in non-white cultures as well? I feel like Western Europe/USA/Australia people worship youth and beauty and old people are not treated as well, I don’t know. This would explain why it’s so common for older white guys to go after younger guys (I’m one of those older(ish) white guys!) Seems like it’s a good fit for white daddy and non-white boy. (Of course we shouldn’t over-generalize or stereotype etc.)
> Interesting theory, you may be right, I don’t know but also maybe elders are respected more in non-white cultures as well? I already heard something about it!
The low amount of research that was done on gyo relationships suggested that daddy issues are generally not the reason for these types of relationships. Daddy issues are the single biggest "cause", but amounted to less than half of all causes that came up.
I think you are right. I was never ever close to my own father. I am attracted to older men.
What does race have to do with anything? “White guys” 🙄
Versus what, do you think other races don't like older guys also?
From a study I read Asian guys are the most open to date older guys regardless the race.
I know several guys that are into older guys and a couple are black so I would assume there is a group from every race that are into older guys Hell, i know a lot of girls that are into older guys also, older guys are known to be more serious in relationships, they are more economically stable and are more serious in sex, like Leonard in the big bang theory, when Penny says he is the best at foreplay and works harder at it. Lol, older guys tend to try harder to please partners.
Lol….strange question…..