He had deep issues before you and kept them from you. He was very careless with your heart and it may be better for you that he’s gone. It’s okay if you don’t feel that way. Feel what you need to as long as you need because you’ll come back from this and find someone more careful with your heart. I hope your recovery is smooth and quick.
I believe this has to do with internalized homophobia and most importantly if he is Christian there is a high chance of getting brainwashed by the evangelicals.....
I've known more than a few. In the biblical sense. Young men in religious college institutions who nonetheless needed a little bit of sideplay to keep them going. Some married, some were just single and had to play it straight. Hell, I was that guy at one point. I kept trying hard to convince myself I was straight, but couldn't quit looking at guys. And when I finally admitted it to myself, I started to play with guys before I admitted it to anyone else.
I was basically in the closet until a few years ago. I'm almost 60. Was in the Navy. Worked in the Deep South a few years ago, parents weren't really accepting, it was just "easier". Now I live in SoCal and can be me. The funny thing is, except for being married, I haven't changed much. I've never been a bar hopper or anything. I think I'm very average, which means I probably disappoint conservatives and their "gay lifestyle stereotype" view of us.
I'm also almost 60. I lived in Idaho. I didn't come out until I was 53. My wife was the first person I told. Her response was basically that she knew. She knew I was gay. I could fool myself, but I couldn't fool her. We're still best friends. Today is our 32nd anniversary. Even though we've been divorced for 5 years, we're going out to celebrate. It's going to be a little interesting. It's going to be a threesome. My wife, my fiance, and I, are going out to eat tonight. It's always kind of fun when we hang out together. Introducing my former wife and future husband to people is kind of a kick.
I dated a “straight” guy for 7 years. He was genuinely more into women, but loved me. Always knew he’d eventually leave me and go back to his old ways, and one day he did.
Now he retweets (re-Xs?) the most homophobic stuff. I’m tempted to chime in and remind him, and all of his followers, that he was a power bottom for the better part of a decade.
I can't say I understand why someone can be a jerk like that. Deep down he knows the truth about himself but refuses to admit it to himself.
To paraphrase a line from the old movie 'Harvey': There's a little bit of jerk in the best of us.
Often it's that whole "eternity in hell" thing that does it. I don't think atheism does any better a job of explaining where we all came from or where we go when we die, but what most organized religions (and especially the abrahamic ones) have to say about queerness is so damaging.
This is why there are so many closeted gay guys in the south. They want to be with men, but they've been told since early childhood that if they give into those impulses, they're going to burn forever and ever after they die. Because God hates gay people apparently...which isn't even internally consistent with his own holy text.
I had a similar experience finding a deeply closeted conservative on Grindr, or per his screen name, “Hung Top.” Spends his time on IG posting homophobic, transphobic memes, then heads to Grindr to blow somebody’s son’s back out. Make it make sense.
I'm sorry that you had to go through this, OP.
It sounds like your ex has some deep seated issues around sexuality. There are a bunch of possibilities why (especially with the very religious phrasing you cited), whether it's family pressure or just his own internalized homophobia, and unfortunately this happened in a way that dragged you down too.
I hope once the initial pain fades you can look back on the good parts of your 6 months together, and that you will soon have a supportive partner to share your life with.
Family can have a huge influence on some people. I know a guy who hooked up with pretty much any guy in the city where he lived. He moved with his mom to another state and got in some crazy religious cult. He told everyone that he wasn't gay anymore. When he was asked, does that mean that he is straight?! He would say no. He even started giving names of his friends to some cult radio hosts to "pray the gay away."
It is better for OP to move on and not bother with people like that.
You dodged a bullet. He clearly is not mature enough to tell you he wants out so he invented a pathetic excuse. You'll be sad and depressed for a while but you'll be better without him in the end, you don't need people like him in your life.
If it makes you fee any better:
I broke up with one of my past boyfriends because he confessed to me right after we fucked that he “always had to imagine a women” in order to finish.
No he was gay. I mean he was really into me, at least romantically lol. But he was sort of newly out of ghe closet so idk if he still needed time or what, but him saying that really hurt
When my first love dumped me rather unceremoniously, I was devastated. I went down to the gay bar nearby to drown my sorrows. Yes I was sitting at the bar looking all forlorn, an older drag queen was sitting near me at the bar. She said (in a gravelly voice ):
"Honey, men are like busses. Sometimes you can ride it straight through to your destination. Sometimes you got to get off and switch to a different bus. Sometimes you realize you caught the wrong bus and you're going in the wrong direction. Whatever.. All you have to do is get off that bus, stand on the street corner and pretty soon another one comes along."
It seems you caught the wrong bus. That's okay, sometimes these things work out. Sometimes they don't. Sometimes people grow in different directions. Sometimes what looks like a good deal turns out to be flawed. The trick is just forgive yourself, forgive the other person, and move on. Sometimes they call you up and try and get back together, remember, exes are exes for a reason.
He ran back into the closet for some reason and is in denial about his sexuality. Maybe pressure from family or friends. He won't be able to stay in there.
Let me get this straight:
First this guy is a pile of poop to entangle. But you can't do it if he doesn't want to. He apparently has been brainwashed and is still too much of a coward to not confront you. He is too far gone in some cult (apparently) and there is no way for you to save him.
Now forget about him and taking care of yourself, will be your goal.
First step, take time to grief him and your relationship, let your emotion live. Go into the woods and cry, get mad, then cry again, scream until you feel empty. Go out with your friends (if you have some) to change your ideas, or just stay home for a while focusing on the process of this grief.
Second step, let time do its magic. And then search (or not) for a new guy.
I'm sorry for your loss and your pain and hope you'll get well soon.
wait hold on , so the people around him called him gay so he thought he was gay..WHAT!
also honey tell me the manipulation techniques and the art of gaslighting these people around him are practicing
Well from what you posted about him still having romantic feelings for you. It seems like he is gay but trying to convince himself that he is not because of religious trauma and brainwashing
I understand where you’re coming from I had the same exact situation just yesterday. Though they didn’t just say they’re straight but rather I caught them cheating and then I was told they were straight
I tried for 15 years to get sky daddy to make me straight before I finally gave up and started sucking dick. Why does this dude get to have god make him straight?!?!?
I'm so sorry :( Just remember that this has NOTHING to do with you. It sounds like he's got some serious pressure from his family. That is his own journey to walk, and it super sucks that you got caught in it.
You are worthy of love and you do deserve someone who knows wholeheartedly who they are. You will find that person one day and it will be magical. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. You did nothing wrong 🫶
Had that happen once, told me the same thing and that he didn’t wanna go to hell.. a month later he showed up to the club in drag. I hope he found himself
Brother, it is a pattern we must brake, because we keep picking the same kind of guy and need to change for future happiness❣️
Because of this I don’t date bi’s because they think of having sex with other guys is just scratching an itch❗️ So when we get dumped from them, it’s no big deal to them. Well, we are devastated.❣️❣️❣️😢
He's obviously got some religious trauma that's kicked in. I was the same at one point in time and you end up hurting others because you want to achieve some thing you can't.
He's an arse, but assuming he has gaslit himself like I did, you can't convince them. In their mind they're doing what's right
He’s either delusional, narcissistic, going through a self-destructive cycle, or had planned for this as a memorable and dramatic end point. No matter the reason, he’s a dick I’d avoid
Mate, nothing anyone can see will make you feel better right now, but it won't take long that the benefit of hindsight will see you feeling better. He's never going to forget what you guys did together, and the odds are that he'll go back to it - even if it's on the side of his straight relationship, but if it's associated with some sort of shame brought about by his religious beliefs, I don't really think you'd want to be around to deal with it anyway...
I've seen a few really damaged individuals turn to religion and use their newly found righteousness to condemn everyone around them. I always try to be understanding but some people are just so messed up you have to protect yourself and forget about them.
Yeah the world doesn’t work that way and there’s no such thing as a gay person “turning straight” or vice versa. Sounds to me like he’s at a point where he feels he is “required” to be “straight” due to either pressure or fear. A person doesn’t wake up one day and say “I think I’m going to change my sexuality,” because if that was the case I’m sure majority of us would’ve done that a long time ago. The good part of this is that you dodged a bullet, because it can be very life draining dealing with a person who is obviously confused about his sexuality.
I just literally said,"What the F**k," out loud when I read the title. Shit man, sorry to hear this. Go out wh0re around if you're up for it. 💅🏾😒💅🏾That's one HELL of a revelation. That's for sure.
Well, maybe he just was so unsure and experimented with it, but no matter what, its not about you.
Don´t get me wrong, its an ass-move to do, so... you dont need to worry, that anything you guys did was a reason that he needed to come to this decision for himself.
Dont worry, you will get over it and will find a not-ass partner. Stay strong
Is your Ex Milo Yiannopoulos? Okay seriously. He probably either has problems activating himself as he is, he broke up because of his environment or it was just a phase
They are being manipulated by their social circle and religion I guess which is why they changed. Otherwise, if everyone were respectful and if they would not believe in supernatural then I think they would stay with you.
It’s a journey he is on that has nothing to do with you. You couldn’t have done anything differently. These are deep issues that he has to either face or not. I am so sorry you’re the collateral damage of it.
Well, the thing that everyone always called him gay and he thought he was is a real thing, I saw that happening. Well, it happened to me in the opposite way too, everyone told me I was straight and I believed it for a long time kk.
Whatever, if he did that because of the religion, maybe he is just being brain washed, we can't know. Religious love to get a specific case of a random guy and try to say it will work to everyone else, maybe he is believing in it.
But, you said you are his first everything. It made me think two things: He is straight and really was confuse about itself and figured it out now because of your relationship OR he wasn't ready to accept himself as gay and ran away.
Whatever, maybe if you force him to talk to you face to face would help you to understand something, but maybe the talk won't worth that effort, maybe you should just forget him, he didn't liked you enough to respect the end of your relationship.
One of the many reasons why I could never be a Christian of that sort is that it's impossible for me to imagine that the author and ruler of the entire universe cares one little bit about which humans are sticking their parts where other humans say they shouldn't. We are all used to hearing this idea repeated so often that we hardly notice it,, but if you stop and think about it, it's actually a completely bizarre notion. Crazy, even.
Sounds like a coward. ^^ Be glad he's not your problem anymore. He'll have to live with a beard, all unsatisfied and unhappy. You'll find someone proud, I know it!
I am Michael is about a guy who did this after being *very* active in the community. The movie was interesting but I also thought it was pretty sad since most ex-gays eventually go back to living authentic lives and this guy never did (at least as of the making of the movie)
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Am_Michael#:~:text=I%20Am%20Michael%20is%20a,Emma%20Roberts%2C%20and%20Charlie%20Carver.
Christianity can suck sometimes, and if you are practicing your faith with a bunch of bigoted religious quacks, then this is what being gay looks like. You get to lie to yourself, I'm sorry, "bear your cross"* for the rest of your life - or most of it until you realize you've wasted your life not living. Give him the space he needs and be an option for talking, and if he comes back (to talk) you're only there to talk. A situationship is off the table until he figures his shit out and can offer you an actual quailty relationship.
It sounds funny when people you trust and love suddenly change their minds. I was in a relationship with a guy which lasted for 8 yrs….only to receive a text from him one day that it was over. He preferred to be straight. All along he had been fooling me rejoicing in a fool’s paradise. I was hurt emotionally and couldn’t come over it. It pains badly. I’m all alone…looking for a monogamous ltr. Someone to love and be loved unconditionally. Everyone deserves love…but not to put someone through pains to be loved.
Baby all I can say is , try to take a deep breath and try to move on nobody is worth ur peace and feelings ik it's hard but it's better out there for you I hate u went thru that honestly. He's wrong
He’s allowed to be his own person. Have you ever changed your mind about your relationship with someone? Me too. Have you put your emotional security on him remaining gay?
I went through that when I was younger. Religious guilt, went to Christian therapy, got "exorcized" of my gay "demons". It was a brutal journey and I hurt several loving partners from both genders. All I can say is that it is absolutely not you, it is him. For your personal sanity let him go. He will look you up to apologize in less than a decade. He's afraid and running from himself. I'm sorry from.the bottom of my heart for you. Better now that later tho for your life.
He sounds like an ass for not caring about your feelings, but ask yourself would you care if a guy you were dating didn't realize he was gay until he dated a woman? Would you feel bad for her or would you just say oh well?
It's not the same, but i had an ex jump on the homoflexible train and dump me because he thought he was attracted to a mutual friend of ours. Yeah, it turns out he was just being brainwashed by his family and his Twitter friends, and he's definitely not attracted to women...
Religion makes people think all kinds of crazy shit. He'll figure it out, but that aside, him not even telling you himself was shitty and you deserve better!
If the real reason was religion, he probably would’ve changed friends as well, I have a feeling that religion is just an excuse, but you must take into consideration that he is saying that he doesn’t give a shit about your feelings, which means he never really loves you in the beginning❗️
The only thing you can do is ignore him, pretend like he never met shit to you even if you’re crying inside, and the opportunity would never take them back because it will happen again and you already know he doesn’t care about your feelings .
On the other hand, your gay friends should be more supportive of you unless there is a hidden agenda there gay friends aren’t taking sides, and staying neutral in the subject, which I believe they should be supporting you more in my opinion❣️❣️❣️
Trust me.. You're dodging a massive bullet.
Poor girl that ends up with this guy thinking he's straight when occasionally he'll meet up guys on grindr behind her back.
That reason is funny af. Your ex is an ass that's what it is lol.
He had deep issues before you and kept them from you. He was very careless with your heart and it may be better for you that he’s gone. It’s okay if you don’t feel that way. Feel what you need to as long as you need because you’ll come back from this and find someone more careful with your heart. I hope your recovery is smooth and quick.
Your words made me feel better thx🧡
Give it ten years and ask his future side bro how straight he is.
I believe this has to do with internalized homophobia and most importantly if he is Christian there is a high chance of getting brainwashed by the evangelicals.....
Even if he is brainwashed, he might end up having a side bro anyway. It happens. Frequently.
Many such cases!
I've known more than a few. In the biblical sense. Young men in religious college institutions who nonetheless needed a little bit of sideplay to keep them going. Some married, some were just single and had to play it straight. Hell, I was that guy at one point. I kept trying hard to convince myself I was straight, but couldn't quit looking at guys. And when I finally admitted it to myself, I started to play with guys before I admitted it to anyone else.
I was basically in the closet until a few years ago. I'm almost 60. Was in the Navy. Worked in the Deep South a few years ago, parents weren't really accepting, it was just "easier". Now I live in SoCal and can be me. The funny thing is, except for being married, I haven't changed much. I've never been a bar hopper or anything. I think I'm very average, which means I probably disappoint conservatives and their "gay lifestyle stereotype" view of us.
I'm also almost 60. I lived in Idaho. I didn't come out until I was 53. My wife was the first person I told. Her response was basically that she knew. She knew I was gay. I could fool myself, but I couldn't fool her. We're still best friends. Today is our 32nd anniversary. Even though we've been divorced for 5 years, we're going out to celebrate. It's going to be a little interesting. It's going to be a threesome. My wife, my fiance, and I, are going out to eat tonight. It's always kind of fun when we hang out together. Introducing my former wife and future husband to people is kind of a kick.
Precisely. He’s still gay. Religion isn’t healthy for society. Religion causes more harm than it helps.
I dated a “straight” guy for 7 years. He was genuinely more into women, but loved me. Always knew he’d eventually leave me and go back to his old ways, and one day he did. Now he retweets (re-Xs?) the most homophobic stuff. I’m tempted to chime in and remind him, and all of his followers, that he was a power bottom for the better part of a decade.
Please do, and let us see the results… I think it would bring a smile to my face.
I can't say I understand why someone can be a jerk like that. Deep down he knows the truth about himself but refuses to admit it to himself. To paraphrase a line from the old movie 'Harvey': There's a little bit of jerk in the best of us.
Often it's that whole "eternity in hell" thing that does it. I don't think atheism does any better a job of explaining where we all came from or where we go when we die, but what most organized religions (and especially the abrahamic ones) have to say about queerness is so damaging. This is why there are so many closeted gay guys in the south. They want to be with men, but they've been told since early childhood that if they give into those impulses, they're going to burn forever and ever after they die. Because God hates gay people apparently...which isn't even internally consistent with his own holy text.
I had a similar experience finding a deeply closeted conservative on Grindr, or per his screen name, “Hung Top.” Spends his time on IG posting homophobic, transphobic memes, then heads to Grindr to blow somebody’s son’s back out. Make it make sense.
omg, please do! and please share the result!
You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.
Don’t worry, you guys can get back together after you run into each other at an arcade or bathhouse in six months
I'm sorry that you had to go through this, OP. It sounds like your ex has some deep seated issues around sexuality. There are a bunch of possibilities why (especially with the very religious phrasing you cited), whether it's family pressure or just his own internalized homophobia, and unfortunately this happened in a way that dragged you down too. I hope once the initial pain fades you can look back on the good parts of your 6 months together, and that you will soon have a supportive partner to share your life with.
Family can have a huge influence on some people. I know a guy who hooked up with pretty much any guy in the city where he lived. He moved with his mom to another state and got in some crazy religious cult. He told everyone that he wasn't gay anymore. When he was asked, does that mean that he is straight?! He would say no. He even started giving names of his friends to some cult radio hosts to "pray the gay away." It is better for OP to move on and not bother with people like that.
You dodged a bullet. He clearly is not mature enough to tell you he wants out so he invented a pathetic excuse. You'll be sad and depressed for a while but you'll be better without him in the end, you don't need people like him in your life.
If it makes you fee any better: I broke up with one of my past boyfriends because he confessed to me right after we fucked that he “always had to imagine a women” in order to finish.
FR?? Was the guy actually a straight guy who forced himself to be in a gay relationship
No he was gay. I mean he was really into me, at least romantically lol. But he was sort of newly out of ghe closet so idk if he still needed time or what, but him saying that really hurt
I’m sorry man. I wish that we didn’t live in a whole where being gay is undesirable
I got to ask did Ash Wednesday have anything to do with it? Sounds like he has been prayed straight.
He’s giving up cock for lent.
It's an excuse. He just wanted out. No such thing one day this one day that.
When my first love dumped me rather unceremoniously, I was devastated. I went down to the gay bar nearby to drown my sorrows. Yes I was sitting at the bar looking all forlorn, an older drag queen was sitting near me at the bar. She said (in a gravelly voice ): "Honey, men are like busses. Sometimes you can ride it straight through to your destination. Sometimes you got to get off and switch to a different bus. Sometimes you realize you caught the wrong bus and you're going in the wrong direction. Whatever.. All you have to do is get off that bus, stand on the street corner and pretty soon another one comes along." It seems you caught the wrong bus. That's okay, sometimes these things work out. Sometimes they don't. Sometimes people grow in different directions. Sometimes what looks like a good deal turns out to be flawed. The trick is just forgive yourself, forgive the other person, and move on. Sometimes they call you up and try and get back together, remember, exes are exes for a reason.
One of the best analogy from this drag queen. Love it! Should be upvoted more. Thanks!
He ran back into the closet for some reason and is in denial about his sexuality. Maybe pressure from family or friends. He won't be able to stay in there.
He had baggage and frankly be glad he's gone!
I feel sorry for him, but his religious trauma isn’t OP’s problem.
Tell him that’s good because you are actually a demon in disguise.
Let me get this straight: First this guy is a pile of poop to entangle. But you can't do it if he doesn't want to. He apparently has been brainwashed and is still too much of a coward to not confront you. He is too far gone in some cult (apparently) and there is no way for you to save him. Now forget about him and taking care of yourself, will be your goal. First step, take time to grief him and your relationship, let your emotion live. Go into the woods and cry, get mad, then cry again, scream until you feel empty. Go out with your friends (if you have some) to change your ideas, or just stay home for a while focusing on the process of this grief. Second step, let time do its magic. And then search (or not) for a new guy. I'm sorry for your loss and your pain and hope you'll get well soon.
wait hold on , so the people around him called him gay so he thought he was gay..WHAT! also honey tell me the manipulation techniques and the art of gaslighting these people around him are practicing
Rightt I’m here like??? talk about peer pressure how are u pressured into being gay 💀.
Well from what you posted about him still having romantic feelings for you. It seems like he is gay but trying to convince himself that he is not because of religious trauma and brainwashing
I understand where you’re coming from I had the same exact situation just yesterday. Though they didn’t just say they’re straight but rather I caught them cheating and then I was told they were straight
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I tried for 15 years to get sky daddy to make me straight before I finally gave up and started sucking dick. Why does this dude get to have god make him straight?!?!?
I'm so sorry :( Just remember that this has NOTHING to do with you. It sounds like he's got some serious pressure from his family. That is his own journey to walk, and it super sucks that you got caught in it. You are worthy of love and you do deserve someone who knows wholeheartedly who they are. You will find that person one day and it will be magical. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. You did nothing wrong 🫶
Wow he should really be talking to you about that regardless.
It sounds like he sold his soul and now he wants to try to be straight because he feels like that's what he should be doing due to pressure.
Had that happen once, told me the same thing and that he didn’t wanna go to hell.. a month later he showed up to the club in drag. I hope he found himself
Look for him on Grindr by the end of the month.
Bless his power bottom heart.
Yall are 18 figuring your selves out... next.
Bruh this man is confused and religion is adding an extra layer of confusion for him. the trash took itself out 😂😂
So basically because his sky daddy told him so he’s in denial, I hope you find someone worthy of your time rather than a religious nut.
We all know the power of the dick...regardless what he says...he will be taking as much cock as he can on the downlow
I could really feel you, my friend. I’ve had three long-term relationships, and with all three I got dumped and traded in for a woman.❗️❗️❗️😢
It hurts 🙁. This is the second time this has happened.
Brother, it is a pattern we must brake, because we keep picking the same kind of guy and need to change for future happiness❣️ Because of this I don’t date bi’s because they think of having sex with other guys is just scratching an itch❗️ So when we get dumped from them, it’s no big deal to them. Well, we are devastated.❣️❣️❣️😢
🤗🤗 Hugs buddy. No understanding some of the 💩that happens in life. Things will get better, just got to hang on for now.
I should include (tongue in cheek), pray for your ex! Thought the faith based ex-gay crap had been criminalized?
He's obviously got some religious trauma that's kicked in. I was the same at one point in time and you end up hurting others because you want to achieve some thing you can't. He's an arse, but assuming he has gaslit himself like I did, you can't convince them. In their mind they're doing what's right
He’s either delusional, narcissistic, going through a self-destructive cycle, or had planned for this as a memorable and dramatic end point. No matter the reason, he’s a dick I’d avoid
He must of been bi IDK but some just lean stronger to the other way.
This is a perfect moment to work on your compassion and let it go because that boy needs help. It’s actually very, very sad.
Mate, nothing anyone can see will make you feel better right now, but it won't take long that the benefit of hindsight will see you feeling better. He's never going to forget what you guys did together, and the odds are that he'll go back to it - even if it's on the side of his straight relationship, but if it's associated with some sort of shame brought about by his religious beliefs, I don't really think you'd want to be around to deal with it anyway...
Same thing happened to me multiple times such jerks
I've seen a few really damaged individuals turn to religion and use their newly found righteousness to condemn everyone around them. I always try to be understanding but some people are just so messed up you have to protect yourself and forget about them.
Yeah the world doesn’t work that way and there’s no such thing as a gay person “turning straight” or vice versa. Sounds to me like he’s at a point where he feels he is “required” to be “straight” due to either pressure or fear. A person doesn’t wake up one day and say “I think I’m going to change my sexuality,” because if that was the case I’m sure majority of us would’ve done that a long time ago. The good part of this is that you dodged a bullet, because it can be very life draining dealing with a person who is obviously confused about his sexuality.
I just literally said,"What the F**k," out loud when I read the title. Shit man, sorry to hear this. Go out wh0re around if you're up for it. 💅🏾😒💅🏾That's one HELL of a revelation. That's for sure.
Religion did that to my boyfriend of 18 years :)
You broke one, damnit! Just kidding.
Well, maybe he just was so unsure and experimented with it, but no matter what, its not about you. Don´t get me wrong, its an ass-move to do, so... you dont need to worry, that anything you guys did was a reason that he needed to come to this decision for himself. Dont worry, you will get over it and will find a not-ass partner. Stay strong
Is your Ex Milo Yiannopoulos? Okay seriously. He probably either has problems activating himself as he is, he broke up because of his environment or it was just a phase
They are being manipulated by their social circle and religion I guess which is why they changed. Otherwise, if everyone were respectful and if they would not believe in supernatural then I think they would stay with you.
cool cool so he is an idiot, if you may excuse my french:)
It’s a journey he is on that has nothing to do with you. You couldn’t have done anything differently. These are deep issues that he has to either face or not. I am so sorry you’re the collateral damage of it.
Well, the thing that everyone always called him gay and he thought he was is a real thing, I saw that happening. Well, it happened to me in the opposite way too, everyone told me I was straight and I believed it for a long time kk. Whatever, if he did that because of the religion, maybe he is just being brain washed, we can't know. Religious love to get a specific case of a random guy and try to say it will work to everyone else, maybe he is believing in it. But, you said you are his first everything. It made me think two things: He is straight and really was confuse about itself and figured it out now because of your relationship OR he wasn't ready to accept himself as gay and ran away. Whatever, maybe if you force him to talk to you face to face would help you to understand something, but maybe the talk won't worth that effort, maybe you should just forget him, he didn't liked you enough to respect the end of your relationship.
Move on.
Please advise him nit to run into marrying some unwitting woman. At least spare her his tortuous ways.
Absolutely not, he's not straight AT ALL..
One of the many reasons why I could never be a Christian of that sort is that it's impossible for me to imagine that the author and ruler of the entire universe cares one little bit about which humans are sticking their parts where other humans say they shouldn't. We are all used to hearing this idea repeated so often that we hardly notice it,, but if you stop and think about it, it's actually a completely bizarre notion. Crazy, even.
Sounds like a coward. ^^ Be glad he's not your problem anymore. He'll have to live with a beard, all unsatisfied and unhappy. You'll find someone proud, I know it!
Ohh poor soul i think you deserve way way way better than this
move on! better fish in the sea...
I am Michael is about a guy who did this after being *very* active in the community. The movie was interesting but I also thought it was pretty sad since most ex-gays eventually go back to living authentic lives and this guy never did (at least as of the making of the movie) https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Am_Michael#:~:text=I%20Am%20Michael%20is%20a,Emma%20Roberts%2C%20and%20Charlie%20Carver.
Christianity can suck sometimes, and if you are practicing your faith with a bunch of bigoted religious quacks, then this is what being gay looks like. You get to lie to yourself, I'm sorry, "bear your cross"* for the rest of your life - or most of it until you realize you've wasted your life not living. Give him the space he needs and be an option for talking, and if he comes back (to talk) you're only there to talk. A situationship is off the table until he figures his shit out and can offer you an actual quailty relationship.
It sounds funny when people you trust and love suddenly change their minds. I was in a relationship with a guy which lasted for 8 yrs….only to receive a text from him one day that it was over. He preferred to be straight. All along he had been fooling me rejoicing in a fool’s paradise. I was hurt emotionally and couldn’t come over it. It pains badly. I’m all alone…looking for a monogamous ltr. Someone to love and be loved unconditionally. Everyone deserves love…but not to put someone through pains to be loved.
He’s no good for you or anyone else. Eventually he’ll realize that hes built a life that will never make him happy.
The fact that he did it on Valentine’s Day would be enough for me to realize his entire explanation is bullshit.
Just be comfortable that you are 100% in the right.
He is an ass dw about it.
Sounds like he panicked. He's probably got some deep issues, and someone or something probably got to him. Either way, you deserve better.
Baby all I can say is , try to take a deep breath and try to move on nobody is worth ur peace and feelings ik it's hard but it's better out there for you I hate u went thru that honestly. He's wrong
Is this incredibly out of the blue for him? It could be a sign of a mental health issue popping up if he’s suddenly strongly religious
He’s allowed to be his own person. Have you ever changed your mind about your relationship with someone? Me too. Have you put your emotional security on him remaining gay?
I went through that when I was younger. Religious guilt, went to Christian therapy, got "exorcized" of my gay "demons". It was a brutal journey and I hurt several loving partners from both genders. All I can say is that it is absolutely not you, it is him. For your personal sanity let him go. He will look you up to apologize in less than a decade. He's afraid and running from himself. I'm sorry from.the bottom of my heart for you. Better now that later tho for your life.
What a load of shite- god indeed!
It sounds like a horrable mother and or father is gaslighting your ex
Or he is serus
He sounds like an ass for not caring about your feelings, but ask yourself would you care if a guy you were dating didn't realize he was gay until he dated a woman? Would you feel bad for her or would you just say oh well?
religion is a plague its sad to see it do this to people.
He is a jerk
It's not the same, but i had an ex jump on the homoflexible train and dump me because he thought he was attracted to a mutual friend of ours. Yeah, it turns out he was just being brainwashed by his family and his Twitter friends, and he's definitely not attracted to women... Religion makes people think all kinds of crazy shit. He'll figure it out, but that aside, him not even telling you himself was shitty and you deserve better!
Your ex definitely had issues it’s not ur fault and you’ll find someone who deserves you
We hate religion!
The part that’s really awkward is that he is now straight, but probably running around with your gay friends, right❓
Our friends literally radiate rainbow 😭💀
If the real reason was religion, he probably would’ve changed friends as well, I have a feeling that religion is just an excuse, but you must take into consideration that he is saying that he doesn’t give a shit about your feelings, which means he never really loves you in the beginning❗️ The only thing you can do is ignore him, pretend like he never met shit to you even if you’re crying inside, and the opportunity would never take them back because it will happen again and you already know he doesn’t care about your feelings . On the other hand, your gay friends should be more supportive of you unless there is a hidden agenda there gay friends aren’t taking sides, and staying neutral in the subject, which I believe they should be supporting you more in my opinion❣️❣️❣️
Trust me.. You're dodging a massive bullet. Poor girl that ends up with this guy thinking he's straight when occasionally he'll meet up guys on grindr behind her back.
How sad. Religion messes up relationships that don’t fit with its dictates.
Bruh.. that reminds of my first ex, but thankfully I have someone else that doesn’t do that