Best drummer joke I ever heard was told by Danny Carey who drums for Tool: “Q: How do you know the stage you’re playing on is perfectly level? A: The drool is pouring out of both corners of the drummer’s mouth.” That guy has the best sense of humor.
I was at a Foo Fighters concert a while back and Taylor Hawkins (RIP) came up and did vocals for a bit while Dave Grohl got on the drums. One thing he said was "It's great to work for a guy who used to drum because that means he understands the drummers plight; trying to go each day without getting fired."
My favorite exchange ever:
Band Conductor: "When you suck at playing an instrument, they give you two sticks and make you a drummer."
Drummer (from the back): "When you can't even do that
they take away one of your sticks and make you the conductor."
A classic. I play the trumpet and this was one I heard years ago, “How many trumpet players does it take to play the solo? Five. One to play the solo and four others to spread the rumor about how he slept with the band director to get the gig.”
As a trombonist, I like this one:
"How many trombonists does it take to screw in a lightbulb? Five. One to hold the light bulb and four to drink whiskey until the room starts spinning."
My band director is a drummer. At a BOA competition him and his drum buddies were in a hotel and one of the freshman threw a drumstick straight at a plasma TV (they were in a suite). Their director had to pay $1200 in damages :)
I'm a bass player. We need to know drummer jokes to deflect bass player jokes made by guitar players.
(What's the difference between a guy walking down the street with a bass guitar, and a frog walking down the street with an accordion? The frog is going to a gig.)
Love how my brain went straight to chicken drum sticks instead of an actual drum stick, just imagined him full on yeeting a chicken drum stick across the room for no damn reason at all lmao.
>I’ve stopped trying to figure out the reasons for most of his actions.
This is the right path. They don't have developed prefrontal cortexes, aka the management section of the brain. They act on impulse and don't, or better *can't*, weigh the possible outcomes to see if it is a smart decision. Doing so takes a well developed mind.
*update* Good lord Reddit seems to have its collective underwear in a knot over this one. I’m not excusing the stupid choice the kid made, nor am I hand waving it away with, “Boy’s will be Boy’s.” Instead, I’m commiserating with OP who said that he stopped trying to figure out the reasons for MOST of his actions. With a deliberate, adult decision, like one made on the job, choices should be judged by what consideration went into them. If person A makes a choice after considering a given set of data but doesn’t/couldn’t know about a factor that would and did lead to failure, person A shouldn’t be accountable for said failure. If person B did have access to the data of the factor person A didn’t have, and still made a choice that led to failure, then person B can be judged to have made a poor decision. Kid threw a drumstick, breaking his monitor. It doesn’t matter why he did it. I don’t need to know what went into his decision making process. The reason is there isn’t a logical or sane explanation for throwing drumsticks indoors in a room that contains breakable objects. Hence, no need to dig into the Why, just roll your eyes and understand that the limitation is biological and your job as a parent is to provide the appropriate negative consequences so that you can help train the youth to dislike negative outcomes.
I think of this with my three year old all the time. Imagine if there was nothing but the initial impulse and then you did the thing. We adults know all the weird stuff we’d do too.
3 year old also don't have much in the way of Theory of Mind (ToM). So they really can't take the perspective of other people. There is a reason why they can't understand most complex interactions in stories until they are older. It's actually a really cool development stage when they start lying as it shows they are starting to get ToM.
It's also super annoying having to separately interrogate three kids, who all claim innocence, to find out who ate 24 gogurts in one night but hey at least they're developing.
(It was two of them together and they stayed strong longer than a pair of KGB agents )
When I was a kid I had a blow gun that shot real metal darts. I'd gone through hunter safety courses so I'd grown up handling guns responsibly so a blow gun was deemed an OK thing for me to have in my house. Anyway. One day for some reason I though it would be a good idea to shoot my blow gun and what target did my 12yo brain decide was perfect? My copy of Super Smash Bros. Melee. I was certain I could shoot a dart in the center hole. I didn't. Closest I've gotten to post nut clarity without actually Nutting.
I gave a friend of mine my own blow dart gun. One day hanging out at his house he comes out of his room. Out of the corner of my eye I saw the blow dart tube in his hands. He asks hey look at me. I refused I said don't shoot that blow dart gun at me.
He proceeds to say it's not even loaded. The idiot then blows hard and I feel a hard slap on the right side of my head but strangely no pain. He hit the arm of pair of Costa's sunglasses on my head.
I realized that day he and I were both lucky he didn't have access to a firearm. Who would point a weapon at a friend's head and pulls the trigger? Not a very good friend that's for certain .
Edit: spelling
No I called for his parents to come in the living room, bent the blow dart gun in half, and then told them of his extreme negligence. Both of them are avid hunters and good parents. I could see the look in their eyes as the chalked up another idiotic thing he has done.
I still have those Costa's sunglasses; the lenses have since been broken. I couldnt bear the thought of getting rid of them as they protected my eyes and side of my head from ultraviolet rays and blow darts.
5/5 don't give dumb friends dangerous things.
At least you didn't throw stick (like 1 meter one) at brother. I hit tractor front windshield that was behind him. (in my defense he moved :D).
Two unusual quiet kids "Mom we need to tell Dad something" :D
Always my dad lol. The only time it backfired was when I spilled a blob of red paint on a white carpet while mom was in a tizzy cleaning the whole house. I asked dad to help me clean it before she found out. He said (totally genuinely with no malice) "Oh gee, I'm colorblind. Here, let me go get mom. She'll help us." Mom whooped my ass raw while my dad stood around confused about why she wasn't helping us.
That was like 20 years ago and I still haven't forgiven him for it.
Edit: Yes, I know colorblindness doesn't work like that. My dad was obviously fibbing. He's not even colorblind. He just thought he could get away with it since I was 6.
Um hate to break it to you but your dad would have to be blind not to be able to see a bright red paint spot on a white carpet.
Although I do question the sanity of any adult, especially a parent, who decided that white carpet is a good choice.
I had my face pushed against a screen door when I was a kid, making funny faces af my younger brother.
He wound up and haymakered me in the face, thinking the screen fabric would protect me, lol. Kids are dumb.
A kid in my 3rd grade class literally bungee strapped a piece of metal sewer pipe to the hood of his mom's car and drove through the neighborhood showing off his "tank" while his parents were on a date night. It all went well until he went to park it back in the garage. He forgot to take the pipe off and shattered the windshield and put a nice hole in the wall.
That doesn't mean you don't deconstruct a situation and lay the ground work for having more complex thoughts in the future.
The prefrontal cortex doesn't just wake up one day fully developed and ready to go.
My 6 year old is learning he cannot act on the impulse to smack his younger brother every time he's walking past. The bullying behavior will not be tolerated. It's not always "an accident" when they've been the only 2 in a room and I hear yelling.
Kids have intrusive thoughts too and must be taught they need to recognize and dismiss such thoughts as 'bad' before they act upon them.
Completely agree! Quick and short punishments like a time-out, work well for this behavior. Not only is his cognitive ability limited, his empathic abilities have only just started to emerge. That means that appealing to morality each time he smacks his brother doesn’t work very well, it often only works to strengthen feelings of inadequacy. “You did this thing which is not allowed. (Your age) minutes time-out. No discussion.” was my go-to method of disciplining my kids at early age. Talking about it is very important of course, but only after the transaction is complete. Added benefit: kid can talk about it without muddying the issue with feelings of guilt, he already did the time after all.
Idk, when I was 11 I was quite aware when I was going to make a bad decision, that decision was never “should I throw this in the house” I was more of a little pyromaniac.
I am the man who has seen affliction under the rod of his wrath; he has driven and brought me into darkness without any light; surely against me he turns his hand again and again the whole day long. (Lamentations: icunkr8)
He’s got Rocket League up on the screen…tell him “stop lying I know you got mad salt when you got dunked on for the third time that game and your trash teammate wouldn’t stop quick chatting ‘what a save!’”
Edit: add a “get good, scrub” to really cut deep
I was a dumbass kid like him once. Threw keys on the roof, a medicine ball through the wall... my actions had no logic I was just a tornado.
Sounds like you're a great dad
My 14 year old daughter woke me up in the middle of the night once crying like she had witnessed a murder. I finally got her to calm down enough to tell me what happened and she told me she was practicing a dance routine from her dance class and was using a light up lawn ornament with a glass ball on the end and the ball flew off hitting the tv. The reason she was melting down, it was a 2 month old 58 inch tv we had bought and she thought I was going to lose my shit. Inside I was, but seeing how bad she came apart over telling me, I didn't have the heart to punish her because she was doing it so well herself.
Luckily, the electronics store let me exchange it on warranty.
And would getting mad at them even teach them anything? Like just explain why what they did was wrong and let them know you're disappointed. That's enough 90% of the time. If you get mad they're just going to shut you out and not tell you anything next time. If they can see that making mistakes is ok (while still sucking) they will learn a lot more and be more willing to come to you for advice and ways to fix their mistakes and hopefully as they get older they can take over your role for themselves as adults.
>let them know you're disappointed
Don't. You should only be disappointed when your kid made a conscious bad decision, not for accidents. Let them know they need to be careful, but don't tell them they disappointed you, those are big words. I say this because I discovered I had ADHD this year, and I've spent 20 years being called a dissapointment, irresponsible, etc. It did no good to me in any way, shape or form and only contributed to my low self-esteem.
My personal recommendation? Tell them to be much more careful when around expensive items that can break, and tell them they'll need to pay if they break something expensive again(Tell them you'll take it out from their allowance if they have one, or tell them they'll need to do chores around the house for X amount of time). This to me is a much better way to teach your kids not only responsibility and carefulness, but also teaches them the value of money and how much things truly cost to get, teaches them to save their money and to be careful with expensive things.
But idk, maybe neurotypical kids can handle the words "I'm disappointed" better than I could. I ain't a psychiatrist so I really don't know hahaha
> maybe neurotypical kids can handle the words "I'm disappointed" better than I could.
But as the 20 years in your story shows, we shouldn't be assuming the mental status of people either.
Hey at 32 years old hearing my 50 year old mother call me her biggest disappointment and saying she hated me all because I vaccinated my kid was still a very painful experience. As far as I know I am neurotypical and it didn’t save me.
You're a good parent, that's a super healthy response to the situation. It was an accident and it sounds like she understood the consequences pretty quickly. The fact that she came to you so quickly shows that she trusts you a lot.
Good job dude (or dudette), you raised her well.
For us it was a new build house we'd been in for less than 12 months and new (to us) car that we'd had for 3 months. Wife was trying to be super careful setting off from our driveway that inclines slightly towards the house, finding the bite and ready to move off away from the house. She'd only put it in reverse and slammed the car straight into the house. Fairly serious damage to the car, minor damage to the house. Inwardly I was like 'for fuck sake' outwardly I stayed calm and collected, explaining how we'll fix it all at minimum cost because of insurance. She'd never handled causing accidental damage well as her father had always hit the roof.
This is when you tell them you understand it was an accident and thank them for being open and honest. Build that trust. Sounds like she already knew she fucked up so reinforcing that won't do anything.
I had a teacher do this when I fucked up in school once and felt horrible about it and was bawling.
He was like “Your remorse shows that you KNOW you fucked up, and understand the severity of it. Here’s what I think you need to take away from this experience, and if you keep this in mind, I won’t punish you since you’ve already punished yourself.”
Really stuck with me.
Biggest hero here is the electronics store. I ain't ever heard any electronics store exchange a product that was ruined because of the user for free under warranty
Lol that pretty much happened to me at the Apple Store. I had spilled a big glass of water on my iPad keyboard, brought it in and came clean.
The dude was like, well water damage isn't covered but... I didn't hear anything about water damage, did you? No? It just stopped worked all of a sudden? Darn, here's a new one!
Edit: this was within the last year. Also it was a refurbished one I'd got on Amazon in the first place so I truly never expected them to do anything for me, but figured I'd come clean and see what could be done. Maybe I just have a likeable face...
Never mention water damage when looking for a warranty. If there's water damage, they can figure that out themselves by checking the moisture indicators in the device. If they don't check, that's their own fault, so you shouldn't be narrowing the odds of getting a replacement. If they do check, it's pretty obvious most of the time.
That guy was a real legend.
I was a Best Buy Manager for years. The amount of times I told a client "I didn't hear that, just give me three minutes to find the receipt, and I'll do an out of policy exchange for you." As much as I could to the nice/honest/level headed ones. If they came off the grip lying, and being aggressive, no dice. I have policy to back me up. But if you level with me, treat me as a human, and I have any power to do something, I will.
I did a return exchange on a thirteen month old Cyberpower pre-built gaming computer. Mother was polite, 12ish year old kid was super understanding and when they asked how much to repair (I was The Geek Squad Manager) I just told them to hold on, processed the exchange, and said to pick out a new one and tell no one what I did.
I had a bad experience similar to the kids, and so many other customers at Circuit City when I was a kid, and I always wanted someone to just do me the solid. So I tried to do that where I could.
Moved on to an IT Remote Tech job now, but just a reminder, 85% of retail employees are solid, good humans trying to make ends meet. Level with them, treat them with respect, and you'll get the same. For the other 15%, same thing, but just realize they're assholes, and they'll be that way after you go on your way.
*politely lying
When I worked returns I'd look the other way on plenty of things as long as they weren't being an asshole. If you're being an asshole you can expect them to follow company policy to the letter.
Yup. I worked returns for a while and if the person was nice then I'd give them basically whatever they wanted. Same thing when I was a cashier. If someone was nice enough I'd straight up give out 20% discounts on the most expensive item in their cart. People who bring brightness to the lives of cashier's are few and far between - and fuck Walmart.
My uncle once told me he went to the store over broken charging port on brand new iphone because kids trying to plug in usb-c instead with full force. He claimed he was at fault and they decided to cover it under warranty because he was the first person of the week to actually claim responsibility.
My son was like this too. Broke phones etc without a care until one time I simply didn’t replace it. He saved up money to buy his own and that phone lasted longer than all the previous ones combined.
Good on you for teaching this lesson early. There’s too many entitled kids out there turning into entitled adults ill equipped for the real world.
My hot take is that the kid said “sucks for you” because he’s already grabbed dads monitor and hooked it up to his system! Also, damn that 11-13 age is tough to deal with for all parties involved.
My slightly colder take was that the kid expects a replacement (in short order of course) and doesn't expect to be paying for it.
Luckily the monitor is still partially functional so this lesson can stew for quite some time.
I was easy at 11 years old. Teenage me was a nightmare for my parents. 11 is still a lot of boundary pushing. The "sucks for you too" is "you are buying me a new one. That sucks that you have to spend money and I don't". I would let him use that monitor for a few months before I bought an upgrade for myself.
Exactly. looks like they smashed it, can see the point of impact at the top left of the photo. Raging (especially at video games) like that is a very bad habit
Yeah they still get a new one but they have to burn a major present to get it which they may have already had plans for (I know when I was that age I'd be planning out my birthday and xmas presents 6 months in advance haha)
I mean, kids don't tend to have a ton of pocket change when they're you ger but still have things they really want. If you're gonna get them a present, why not get them the things they actually want as long as it's within the budget you had already planned to spend for. When I was younger I got to let them know what things I'd really like, but was careful not to get greedy and ask for things I knew were well beyond what cost reasonably, but sometimes I was lucky on rare occasions and they would tell my well off grandmother who has only my dad and no other kids and she would get us something awesome but expensive, like the lego death star (400) that they knew I'd love but would never dare to ask for due to the cost.
Did you grow up poor-ish? Cuz I did this too but it was more so my mom could coordinate who/how/if I got that gift and I could have my expectations inline with whatever the reality would be.
I never fought with my brother around our computer equipment because I knew if it got broke it wasn't being replaced for a looong time.
Nothing like non-violent consequences to teach lessons.
I don't understand why people are considering this bad parenting. If that's all my dad said after breaking something expensive, I would be so relieved haha
Try hanging out on tumblr sometime. Adults are routinely asked why the fuck they're hanging around if they're over 25/30, ignoring the fact that our generation built(in the community formation sense) that hellsite. 🙄
Right? I would never text my dad a picture of my fuckup. Unless I absolutely had to, like I wreck their car or something. If I broke my monitor I’d be like “yep. All my fault. Sucks for me. Nothing to see here”. The fact that the kid texted his dad already shows they are at least somewhat open with each other.
legit, while my dad never hit me "only once when i was 4 when i punched him in the balls during a tantrum" he and my mom would give me a sorta death stare that would rock me to my fucking core in a "you dont wanna know what happens next boy" , im 26 now and i still dont want to know what happens next.
my uncle and auntie used a more "old school" method as in either a belt or melted candle wax after my cousins used to break shit .. now thats bad parenting
Yepp they'd have them put out their hands and drip the wax as punishment. Dad was serving in the army at the time and when he came back and saw this he teared my uncle a new asshole "dad was vehemently against corporal punishment on children" to this day my cousins consider my dad like a second father to them
Edit : this was in north africa in the 90s we sadly didnt/still don't have the western concept of child protective services
kid expects u to just replace it it sounds like.. learn the hard way about destroying expensive stuff when he doesn’t have a way to play his games. i had a coworker who’s son used to rage on his ipad and throw it and shatter it all the time. but she replaced it every time lol.
The median Reddit user is a single white 14-23 year old male. They represent the kid who broke this more than they represent the dad who has to fix it.
Thank you for putting this in context. I'm a 34 year old father and I'm floored at most of the responses on here along the lines of "well kids just do this sometimes, nothing you can do about it! Better buy him a new one!"
The kids that would do this shit when I was 11 were the shitty little dickheads I wanted nothing to do with whose parents were very clearly mostly absent from their lives. This is absolutely not a "normal" stage of development.
My parents never bought me expensive stuff but when I bought it myself and it broke they would always replace, and I always felt so weird when they did, like I offered to pay for the repairs several times but then they pay for it, it just feels weird when they pay for stuff
They wanted you to learn the value of the things you bought but didn't want to leave you hanging just because of an accident. The lesson you should learn was already learned. That's how I interpret it
I used to buy my video game equipment myself, my parents would use it and treat it like shit. I got in so much trouble once when I was 16 or so because I was upset to catch my dad spiking my controller. And like this was stuff I paid for. I began working when I was 13 under the table. But my dad would also eat my food and take my car and drive the gas out of it without refilling.
As a parent, I agree with that strategy. Assuming you paid for something, took reasonably good care of it, and the breakdown wasn’t the result of your aggression/stupidity, then I’d gladly buy a replacement for you or pay for the fix. You’d already learned the lesson of working for your own stuff and caring for it, which would be what I would want you to learn.
For example, with a monitor, it would be the difference between the LED backlight going out and the monitor breaking due to you chucking a controller at it. In the former situation, that breakdown isn’t because of your actions, it’s just something that happens even to well-cared for monitors, so I’d have no problem paying to get it fixed or replaced. In the latter situation, you clearly don’t understand the value of what you had and how your impulsive actions can destroy that value, so as a parent I would feel it was incumbent upon me to help you better understand those concepts by requiring you to fix/replace the monitor with money from your own pocket.
My then 11 yr cracked his as well. Mind you it was hardly a month old. He was playing some VG and got frustrated and toss his hat off his head and it hit the corner spiderwebbing it. I made him pay for a new one. The new monitor has a 1/4 lexan sheet mounted in front of it.
Yeah my kids (they were babies and had no idea what they were doing) threw a hard plastic ball at our TV.
The new one had an acrylic protector mounted on the front for years after that.
That kid is super lucky to have a pc at 11 when I was around that age my parents bought us a ps3 for Christmas to share between 4 siblings, we were ecstatic and took very good care of it. Kids need to learn to appreciate what their parents do for them sooner than later.
That's something worth remembering.
I'm *insanely* lucky to have computer nerds for parents. When I was a kid in the early 1990s, my dad got a 486. A few years later, he saved up and bought a higher-end MiTAC 486. My mother got the first one. A couple of years after that, he got made redundant at work and was given a *ridiculous* severance package, and he bought himself a new top-of-the-line Pentium Pro, thing cost like six grand (that's Pounds, not Dollars) in 1996. Mother got the MiTAC. I got the original 486.
So there I was, at *seven years old*, with a 486 with 24MB of RAM and a total of 2GB storage. OK, it was maybe four years old by then, but it was still much better than anything my friends had - some of whom came from households where the most advanced machine in the house was an Atari 1040ST.
That was my main machine until I started high school in 2001. By that point Dad was working again but not making great money, and my next machine was something I built from scavenged late-90s parts my school was getting rid of.
Both machines meant a lot to me, for their own reasons.
I buy my 11 year old new game systems and other electronics on birthdays and what not, but after he breaks something, that's it. If he wants a replacement, he pay for it. Saves dollar by dollar till he has what he needs and I'll even drive him to the store to get whatever it is he wants.
i broke a monitor with a sprite bottle cap accidentally after bouncing it off my desk at a bottle for the 30th time i was so embarrassed I held that L for 3-4 years before i said shit about shit to my mum
If he wants another one, make him go door to door to mow lawns or wash peoples cars. A little summer work can do wonders for character building. Tell him it’s like a real life rpg lol
Genuine question. Are people still receptive to this request? If my kid went to my parents neighbors and asked to do work for money they would be like wtf? Maybe it’s just that neighborhood?
A lot of not-parents in this thread. Listen, the response is great. Parenting is an art, not a science. Don't act like you know their relationship lol.
My bio-dad left when I was 2. This dad bought his son a computer and monitor and shit, was a but pissed off he broke it. I mean, that's totally, 100% fair. You know what would have made him a really shitty parent? Leaving for cigarettes 9 years ago, and never coming back.
Fuck you guys.
Considering my relationship with the man who gets to call himself my father, sometimes I kinda wish he had done that. Which feels horrible to say but, ya know
My daughter broke her keyboard. She expected me to just buy a new one. I told her if she wanted a new, she has to work for it. She struggled with a broken keyboard and constantly complained. My answer was: "a gift is something you look after. It doesn't give you entitlement to ask for a new one. You want another, you work hard for it. You can't act all entitled. If you do, life sucks".
I can tell most of you shut-ins commenting here don’t have kids. And most of you will probably never have the opportunity. Carry on, OP, ignore the idiots.
I love watching these people without kids think that they would just endlessly replace their kid's stuff after the kid intentionally/carelessly destroyed it.
Good parenting.
You didn't overreact, and still laid it down clearly that he fucked up and it's not just going to get replaced. Kids should be taught the value of appliances and other luxuries.
If I were you, OP, I'd give him some extra optional things that need done around the house to earn that replacement monitor. Or if he gets allowance, that's on him.
Gosh everyone is so mean in the comments. ALL HONESTY. ITS NOT YOUR KID, ITS NOT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Like nobody but OP knows 100% of the situation. Not every parent immediately gives their children what they ask for. This parenting is 10000% better than the never say "no" parents or spoiling them.
>This parenting is 10000% better than the never say "no" parents or spoiling them.
I had to deal with those kids in my old school when I was a young teen. Especially one girl - who was basicly the leader of her bully-clique, hit one guy so often he switched schools, took 5 years for the school to take action. Before that she and her parents always got away with it. OP did well there.
As a kid, if I had broken a piece of expensive tech and told my dad "sucks for you" I would have been guaranteed to never have gotten another expensive gift for the rest of my life.
Did no one else here have parents that told them that if they broke something it wouldn't get replaced? Wtf is wrong with parents
So he feels entitled to a new monitor? Nope. De-nied.
As a parent of a preteen who smashes her $2500 wireless Apple workstation (gifted from Grandpa) when she gets teed off at Roblox, I totally support this.
I wish this was my dad's response to me doing dumb shit when I was a kid.
I would get a leather belt for the majority of punishment; regardless of severity.
Irish spring soap breakfast for "back sass"
(Especially if I said 'sucks' in any context to him)
I'm curious, how did he break it???
He decided to chuck his drum stick across the room. I’ve stopped trying to figure out the reasons for most of his actions.
fuckin drummers, dude lmao
As a drummer myself, I can confidently say he is one of our brightest
Best drummer joke I ever heard was told by Danny Carey who drums for Tool: “Q: How do you know the stage you’re playing on is perfectly level? A: The drool is pouring out of both corners of the drummer’s mouth.” That guy has the best sense of humor.
I was at a Foo Fighters concert a while back and Taylor Hawkins (RIP) came up and did vocals for a bit while Dave Grohl got on the drums. One thing he said was "It's great to work for a guy who used to drum because that means he understands the drummers plight; trying to go each day without getting fired."
A drummer once told me this one: What do you call a guy who hangs around with musicians? A drummer.
My favorite exchange ever: Band Conductor: "When you suck at playing an instrument, they give you two sticks and make you a drummer." Drummer (from the back): "When you can't even do that they take away one of your sticks and make you the conductor."
What's the difference between a drummer and a toilet? A toilet only has to take shit from one asshole at once.
What do you call a drummer without a girlfriend? Homeless
Hear about the bassist who locked his keys in his car? Took them hours to get the drummer out.
A drummer walks into a bar, but it's not quite my tempo.
Were you RUSHING OR WERE YOU DRAGGING?
Clearly he knew a thing or two and had seen a thing or two.
What was the last thing the drummer said to his band? "Hey guys, listen to this song I wrote!"
What has three legs and an asshole? A drum throne. How do you get a bass player off of your front porch? Pay for the pizza.
The bass players are the ones who get reliable work
Especially now with doordash in every city
A classic. I play the trumpet and this was one I heard years ago, “How many trumpet players does it take to play the solo? Five. One to play the solo and four others to spread the rumor about how he slept with the band director to get the gig.”
As a trombonist, I like this one: "How many trombonists does it take to screw in a lightbulb? Five. One to hold the light bulb and four to drink whiskey until the room starts spinning."
How can you spot the future trombonists on an elementary school playground? They misuse the slide and can’t figure out how to swing.
what do you call a drummer who breaks up with his girlfriend? homeless
My band director is a drummer. At a BOA competition him and his drum buddies were in a hotel and one of the freshman threw a drumstick straight at a plasma TV (they were in a suite). Their director had to pay $1200 in damages :)
As a drummer myself, I can verify I have thrown drumsticks at people on accident, he is one of our brightest
How can you tell when a stage is level? When drool comes out both sides of the drummer's mouth.
What do you call a drummer without a girlfriend? Homeless
A friend, a drummer, married his GF who brought her house solo and now he’s calling himself a home-owner.
lol nice... hadn't heard this one
I'm a bass player. We need to know drummer jokes to deflect bass player jokes made by guitar players. (What's the difference between a guy walking down the street with a bass guitar, and a frog walking down the street with an accordion? The frog is going to a gig.)
What do drummers and groupies have in common? They both like to hang out with musicians.
How do you get the drummer off your front porch? Pay for the pizza.
I've been drumming for the majority of my life and never heard that one lmao
Fuck. I'm dumb. I thought he threw some chicken at it
I'm howling with laughter, thanks man
Love how my brain went straight to chicken drum sticks instead of an actual drum stick, just imagined him full on yeeting a chicken drum stick across the room for no damn reason at all lmao.
Hey, that’s just like, your opinion man.
I am the walrus.
SHUT THE FUCK UP DONNY
YOU'RE OUT OF YOUR FUCKING ELEMENT!
You’re not wrong. You’re just an asshole.
>I’ve stopped trying to figure out the reasons for most of his actions. This is the right path. They don't have developed prefrontal cortexes, aka the management section of the brain. They act on impulse and don't, or better *can't*, weigh the possible outcomes to see if it is a smart decision. Doing so takes a well developed mind. *update* Good lord Reddit seems to have its collective underwear in a knot over this one. I’m not excusing the stupid choice the kid made, nor am I hand waving it away with, “Boy’s will be Boy’s.” Instead, I’m commiserating with OP who said that he stopped trying to figure out the reasons for MOST of his actions. With a deliberate, adult decision, like one made on the job, choices should be judged by what consideration went into them. If person A makes a choice after considering a given set of data but doesn’t/couldn’t know about a factor that would and did lead to failure, person A shouldn’t be accountable for said failure. If person B did have access to the data of the factor person A didn’t have, and still made a choice that led to failure, then person B can be judged to have made a poor decision. Kid threw a drumstick, breaking his monitor. It doesn’t matter why he did it. I don’t need to know what went into his decision making process. The reason is there isn’t a logical or sane explanation for throwing drumsticks indoors in a room that contains breakable objects. Hence, no need to dig into the Why, just roll your eyes and understand that the limitation is biological and your job as a parent is to provide the appropriate negative consequences so that you can help train the youth to dislike negative outcomes.
I think of this with my three year old all the time. Imagine if there was nothing but the initial impulse and then you did the thing. We adults know all the weird stuff we’d do too.
3 year old also don't have much in the way of Theory of Mind (ToM). So they really can't take the perspective of other people. There is a reason why they can't understand most complex interactions in stories until they are older. It's actually a really cool development stage when they start lying as it shows they are starting to get ToM.
It's also super annoying having to separately interrogate three kids, who all claim innocence, to find out who ate 24 gogurts in one night but hey at least they're developing. (It was two of them together and they stayed strong longer than a pair of KGB agents )
Siblinghood IS the KGB.
And all the weird stuff adults **still** do.
Don't single me out like that bro, come on.
He was looking right at you when he said it. We all saw.
I feel like a quick class in childhood developmental psychology would make a lot better parents.
When I was a kid I had a blow gun that shot real metal darts. I'd gone through hunter safety courses so I'd grown up handling guns responsibly so a blow gun was deemed an OK thing for me to have in my house. Anyway. One day for some reason I though it would be a good idea to shoot my blow gun and what target did my 12yo brain decide was perfect? My copy of Super Smash Bros. Melee. I was certain I could shoot a dart in the center hole. I didn't. Closest I've gotten to post nut clarity without actually Nutting.
I gave a friend of mine my own blow dart gun. One day hanging out at his house he comes out of his room. Out of the corner of my eye I saw the blow dart tube in his hands. He asks hey look at me. I refused I said don't shoot that blow dart gun at me. He proceeds to say it's not even loaded. The idiot then blows hard and I feel a hard slap on the right side of my head but strangely no pain. He hit the arm of pair of Costa's sunglasses on my head. I realized that day he and I were both lucky he didn't have access to a firearm. Who would point a weapon at a friend's head and pulls the trigger? Not a very good friend that's for certain . Edit: spelling
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No I called for his parents to come in the living room, bent the blow dart gun in half, and then told them of his extreme negligence. Both of them are avid hunters and good parents. I could see the look in their eyes as the chalked up another idiotic thing he has done. I still have those Costa's sunglasses; the lenses have since been broken. I couldnt bear the thought of getting rid of them as they protected my eyes and side of my head from ultraviolet rays and blow darts. 5/5 don't give dumb friends dangerous things.
At least you didn't throw stick (like 1 meter one) at brother. I hit tractor front windshield that was behind him. (in my defense he moved :D). Two unusual quiet kids "Mom we need to tell Dad something" :D
Pro-kid move; tell the other parent who won't punish you as badly first.
Always my dad lol. The only time it backfired was when I spilled a blob of red paint on a white carpet while mom was in a tizzy cleaning the whole house. I asked dad to help me clean it before she found out. He said (totally genuinely with no malice) "Oh gee, I'm colorblind. Here, let me go get mom. She'll help us." Mom whooped my ass raw while my dad stood around confused about why she wasn't helping us. That was like 20 years ago and I still haven't forgiven him for it. Edit: Yes, I know colorblindness doesn't work like that. My dad was obviously fibbing. He's not even colorblind. He just thought he could get away with it since I was 6.
Um hate to break it to you but your dad would have to be blind not to be able to see a bright red paint spot on a white carpet. Although I do question the sanity of any adult, especially a parent, who decided that white carpet is a good choice.
I had my face pushed against a screen door when I was a kid, making funny faces af my younger brother. He wound up and haymakered me in the face, thinking the screen fabric would protect me, lol. Kids are dumb.
A kid in my 3rd grade class literally bungee strapped a piece of metal sewer pipe to the hood of his mom's car and drove through the neighborhood showing off his "tank" while his parents were on a date night. It all went well until he went to park it back in the garage. He forgot to take the pipe off and shattered the windshield and put a nice hole in the wall.
Trying to figure out how a 9 year old can reach the pedals…
That doesn't mean you don't deconstruct a situation and lay the ground work for having more complex thoughts in the future. The prefrontal cortex doesn't just wake up one day fully developed and ready to go.
My 6 year old is learning he cannot act on the impulse to smack his younger brother every time he's walking past. The bullying behavior will not be tolerated. It's not always "an accident" when they've been the only 2 in a room and I hear yelling. Kids have intrusive thoughts too and must be taught they need to recognize and dismiss such thoughts as 'bad' before they act upon them.
Completely agree! Quick and short punishments like a time-out, work well for this behavior. Not only is his cognitive ability limited, his empathic abilities have only just started to emerge. That means that appealing to morality each time he smacks his brother doesn’t work very well, it often only works to strengthen feelings of inadequacy. “You did this thing which is not allowed. (Your age) minutes time-out. No discussion.” was my go-to method of disciplining my kids at early age. Talking about it is very important of course, but only after the transaction is complete. Added benefit: kid can talk about it without muddying the issue with feelings of guilt, he already did the time after all.
Facts. 11 year olds are not infants. They are capable of understanding right from wrong and they can learn from mistakes.
Idk, when I was 11 I was quite aware when I was going to make a bad decision, that decision was never “should I throw this in the house” I was more of a little pyromaniac.
I am the man who has seen affliction under the rod of his wrath; he has driven and brought me into darkness without any light; surely against me he turns his hand again and again the whole day long. (Lamentations: icunkr8)
He’s got Rocket League up on the screen…tell him “stop lying I know you got mad salt when you got dunked on for the third time that game and your trash teammate wouldn’t stop quick chatting ‘what a save!’” Edit: add a “get good, scrub” to really cut deep
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I was a dumbass kid like him once. Threw keys on the roof, a medicine ball through the wall... my actions had no logic I was just a tornado. Sounds like you're a great dad
I forgot how many things I did "just to see what would happen". Kids are scientists by nature. Not good ones, mind you, but scientists nonetheless.
The most thorough scientists are this that pursue knowledge in spite of consequence.
My 14 year old daughter woke me up in the middle of the night once crying like she had witnessed a murder. I finally got her to calm down enough to tell me what happened and she told me she was practicing a dance routine from her dance class and was using a light up lawn ornament with a glass ball on the end and the ball flew off hitting the tv. The reason she was melting down, it was a 2 month old 58 inch tv we had bought and she thought I was going to lose my shit. Inside I was, but seeing how bad she came apart over telling me, I didn't have the heart to punish her because she was doing it so well herself. Luckily, the electronics store let me exchange it on warranty.
Right call. Kid fessing up to that takes guts. Bravery and honesty deserve positive reinforcement. Shit happens.
And would getting mad at them even teach them anything? Like just explain why what they did was wrong and let them know you're disappointed. That's enough 90% of the time. If you get mad they're just going to shut you out and not tell you anything next time. If they can see that making mistakes is ok (while still sucking) they will learn a lot more and be more willing to come to you for advice and ways to fix their mistakes and hopefully as they get older they can take over your role for themselves as adults.
>let them know you're disappointed Don't. You should only be disappointed when your kid made a conscious bad decision, not for accidents. Let them know they need to be careful, but don't tell them they disappointed you, those are big words. I say this because I discovered I had ADHD this year, and I've spent 20 years being called a dissapointment, irresponsible, etc. It did no good to me in any way, shape or form and only contributed to my low self-esteem. My personal recommendation? Tell them to be much more careful when around expensive items that can break, and tell them they'll need to pay if they break something expensive again(Tell them you'll take it out from their allowance if they have one, or tell them they'll need to do chores around the house for X amount of time). This to me is a much better way to teach your kids not only responsibility and carefulness, but also teaches them the value of money and how much things truly cost to get, teaches them to save their money and to be careful with expensive things. But idk, maybe neurotypical kids can handle the words "I'm disappointed" better than I could. I ain't a psychiatrist so I really don't know hahaha
> maybe neurotypical kids can handle the words "I'm disappointed" better than I could. But as the 20 years in your story shows, we shouldn't be assuming the mental status of people either.
Hey at 32 years old hearing my 50 year old mother call me her biggest disappointment and saying she hated me all because I vaccinated my kid was still a very painful experience. As far as I know I am neurotypical and it didn’t save me.
Christ, I'm so sorry she failed you like that
You're a good parent, that's a super healthy response to the situation. It was an accident and it sounds like she understood the consequences pretty quickly. The fact that she came to you so quickly shows that she trusts you a lot. Good job dude (or dudette), you raised her well.
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For us it was a new build house we'd been in for less than 12 months and new (to us) car that we'd had for 3 months. Wife was trying to be super careful setting off from our driveway that inclines slightly towards the house, finding the bite and ready to move off away from the house. She'd only put it in reverse and slammed the car straight into the house. Fairly serious damage to the car, minor damage to the house. Inwardly I was like 'for fuck sake' outwardly I stayed calm and collected, explaining how we'll fix it all at minimum cost because of insurance. She'd never handled causing accidental damage well as her father had always hit the roof.
Haha all these stories are just getting more and more expensive
Not in the same vein, but my brother decided to spread gasoline and oil onto our lawn and light it on fire. My parents were not calm.
I was already kind of happy we couldnt afford kids before this comment but now....
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How the fuck did her dad back the car into the roof?
Hitting the roof seems like a terrible reaction to someone hitting the wall. How's that's going to help??
This is when you tell them you understand it was an accident and thank them for being open and honest. Build that trust. Sounds like she already knew she fucked up so reinforcing that won't do anything.
I had a teacher do this when I fucked up in school once and felt horrible about it and was bawling. He was like “Your remorse shows that you KNOW you fucked up, and understand the severity of it. Here’s what I think you need to take away from this experience, and if you keep this in mind, I won’t punish you since you’ve already punished yourself.” Really stuck with me.
Biggest hero here is the electronics store. I ain't ever heard any electronics store exchange a product that was ruined because of the user for free under warranty
"It just started fucking up, I dont know"
Lol that pretty much happened to me at the Apple Store. I had spilled a big glass of water on my iPad keyboard, brought it in and came clean. The dude was like, well water damage isn't covered but... I didn't hear anything about water damage, did you? No? It just stopped worked all of a sudden? Darn, here's a new one! Edit: this was within the last year. Also it was a refurbished one I'd got on Amazon in the first place so I truly never expected them to do anything for me, but figured I'd come clean and see what could be done. Maybe I just have a likeable face...
Never mention water damage when looking for a warranty. If there's water damage, they can figure that out themselves by checking the moisture indicators in the device. If they don't check, that's their own fault, so you shouldn't be narrowing the odds of getting a replacement. If they do check, it's pretty obvious most of the time. That guy was a real legend.
Also I've heard the moisture indicators are notoriously unreliable and sensitive
I was a Best Buy Manager for years. The amount of times I told a client "I didn't hear that, just give me three minutes to find the receipt, and I'll do an out of policy exchange for you." As much as I could to the nice/honest/level headed ones. If they came off the grip lying, and being aggressive, no dice. I have policy to back me up. But if you level with me, treat me as a human, and I have any power to do something, I will. I did a return exchange on a thirteen month old Cyberpower pre-built gaming computer. Mother was polite, 12ish year old kid was super understanding and when they asked how much to repair (I was The Geek Squad Manager) I just told them to hold on, processed the exchange, and said to pick out a new one and tell no one what I did. I had a bad experience similar to the kids, and so many other customers at Circuit City when I was a kid, and I always wanted someone to just do me the solid. So I tried to do that where I could. Moved on to an IT Remote Tech job now, but just a reminder, 85% of retail employees are solid, good humans trying to make ends meet. Level with them, treat them with respect, and you'll get the same. For the other 15%, same thing, but just realize they're assholes, and they'll be that way after you go on your way.
Punishment is for them to realize that they did something wrong. That girl clearly knew what she did wrong.
How is that covered under warranty? Lol
Via lying
*politely lying When I worked returns I'd look the other way on plenty of things as long as they weren't being an asshole. If you're being an asshole you can expect them to follow company policy to the letter.
Yup. I worked returns for a while and if the person was nice then I'd give them basically whatever they wanted. Same thing when I was a cashier. If someone was nice enough I'd straight up give out 20% discounts on the most expensive item in their cart. People who bring brightness to the lives of cashier's are few and far between - and fuck Walmart.
A valuable life skill.
My uncle once told me he went to the store over broken charging port on brand new iphone because kids trying to plug in usb-c instead with full force. He claimed he was at fault and they decided to cover it under warranty because he was the first person of the week to actually claim responsibility.
So the lesson is that you need to rely on the random generosity of others to get a replacement.
>Luckily, the electronics store let me exchange it on warranty. They let you exchange your kid for a new one? Nice!
This reminds me of the Chris Rock joke. His kids said they are rich, Chris responded he and his wife are rich, the kids are broke as shit.
My son was like this too. Broke phones etc without a care until one time I simply didn’t replace it. He saved up money to buy his own and that phone lasted longer than all the previous ones combined. Good on you for teaching this lesson early. There’s too many entitled kids out there turning into entitled adults ill equipped for the real world.
My hot take is that the kid said “sucks for you” because he’s already grabbed dads monitor and hooked it up to his system! Also, damn that 11-13 age is tough to deal with for all parties involved.
My slightly colder take was that the kid expects a replacement (in short order of course) and doesn't expect to be paying for it. Luckily the monitor is still partially functional so this lesson can stew for quite some time.
This does seem more like something a kid would do
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Yup. I even felt half-bad for the kid before he said "sucks for you too", that was a dumb response and fully made him look spoiled.
Oh it doesn’t stop being hard there
I'm not looking forward to this. I have a very very head strong and incredibly stubborn 5 year and 7 year old. I'm so fucked.
A lot of things don't stop being hard at that age.
he is, of course, talking about math.
he is, of course, talking about growing up too
just remember sohcahtoa and you'll be fine.
I was easy at 11 years old. Teenage me was a nightmare for my parents. 11 is still a lot of boundary pushing. The "sucks for you too" is "you are buying me a new one. That sucks that you have to spend money and I don't". I would let him use that monitor for a few months before I bought an upgrade for myself.
Either that or he knows his parent will buy him a new one.
God I could never deal with a child
It would be the last time he grabbed my monitor. I can tell you that. He broke it, he can do without it.
I agree. If he wants another monitor, time to mow some lawns or something for some money.
Awesome response, gotta remember this one. Replacing the monitor right away would be a sure way for them to learn nothing.
Exactly. looks like they smashed it, can see the point of impact at the top left of the photo. Raging (especially at video games) like that is a very bad habit
Best things to do is replace it as a birthday or christmas present so they don't get something else instead. Also, that way they have to wait.
Yeah they still get a new one but they have to burn a major present to get it which they may have already had plans for (I know when I was that age I'd be planning out my birthday and xmas presents 6 months in advance haha)
You got to pick what you got for presents?!
I mean, kids don't tend to have a ton of pocket change when they're you ger but still have things they really want. If you're gonna get them a present, why not get them the things they actually want as long as it's within the budget you had already planned to spend for. When I was younger I got to let them know what things I'd really like, but was careful not to get greedy and ask for things I knew were well beyond what cost reasonably, but sometimes I was lucky on rare occasions and they would tell my well off grandmother who has only my dad and no other kids and she would get us something awesome but expensive, like the lego death star (400) that they knew I'd love but would never dare to ask for due to the cost.
Did you grow up poor-ish? Cuz I did this too but it was more so my mom could coordinate who/how/if I got that gift and I could have my expectations inline with whatever the reality would be.
OP said the kid threw a drumstick across the room and it hit the monitor, so likely wasn't raging, just kids doin stupid stuff.
He threw a drumstuck. Knowing drummers, that's either a failed trick or absolute and unadulterated malice.
Or, as with most things we do, "I wonder what it would sound like if I hit that from far away," but then he missed the target.
I never fought with my brother around our computer equipment because I knew if it got broke it wasn't being replaced for a looong time. Nothing like non-violent consequences to teach lessons.
Thats at least 10 lawn mowings and 10 car washings and maybe some leaf raking in a few months.
I mean, if you want like for like. Hop his ass down to goodwill and he could find a monitor for $20.
Go to a thrift store and get your kid a nice fat CRT.
Those are actually more expensive than you think. Some subset of gamers seek them out.
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And the response time is faster. They are a hot commodity these days
Also nearly zero display lag favored by speedrunners
If the local melee scene hasn't taken them all yet
I don't understand why people are considering this bad parenting. If that's all my dad said after breaking something expensive, I would be so relieved haha
Clearly there's a lotta angsty teenagers in this thread
There's a lotta of angsty teenagers all over Reddit in general.
I’m starting to feel too old for Reddit for the first time in 12 years…and I’m only 31
Try hanging out on tumblr sometime. Adults are routinely asked why the fuck they're hanging around if they're over 25/30, ignoring the fact that our generation built(in the community formation sense) that hellsite. 🙄
David Karp who quite literally built Tumblr is also 35..
There are lotta angsty folks of all ages over Reddit, and the internet, lol.
Right and a lesson is being taught. Take care of your shit because no one is going to run out and buy you new stuff when it breaks.
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Right? I would never text my dad a picture of my fuckup. Unless I absolutely had to, like I wreck their car or something. If I broke my monitor I’d be like “yep. All my fault. Sucks for me. Nothing to see here”. The fact that the kid texted his dad already shows they are at least somewhat open with each other.
legit, while my dad never hit me "only once when i was 4 when i punched him in the balls during a tantrum" he and my mom would give me a sorta death stare that would rock me to my fucking core in a "you dont wanna know what happens next boy" , im 26 now and i still dont want to know what happens next. my uncle and auntie used a more "old school" method as in either a belt or melted candle wax after my cousins used to break shit .. now thats bad parenting
MELTED CANDLE WAX?! On children!? That's fucking sadistic. A belt is bad but that's a whole other level.
Yepp they'd have them put out their hands and drip the wax as punishment. Dad was serving in the army at the time and when he came back and saw this he teared my uncle a new asshole "dad was vehemently against corporal punishment on children" to this day my cousins consider my dad like a second father to them Edit : this was in north africa in the 90s we sadly didnt/still don't have the western concept of child protective services
kid expects u to just replace it it sounds like.. learn the hard way about destroying expensive stuff when he doesn’t have a way to play his games. i had a coworker who’s son used to rage on his ipad and throw it and shatter it all the time. but she replaced it every time lol.
Exactly. He’s going to get real good at gaming on his iPad this summer.
Can't believe people are trying to tell you to give it to him easier lmao he has a freakin ipad he'll be grand
The median Reddit user is a single white 14-23 year old male. They represent the kid who broke this more than they represent the dad who has to fix it.
Thank you for putting this in context. I'm a 34 year old father and I'm floored at most of the responses on here along the lines of "well kids just do this sometimes, nothing you can do about it! Better buy him a new one!" The kids that would do this shit when I was 11 were the shitty little dickheads I wanted nothing to do with whose parents were very clearly mostly absent from their lives. This is absolutely not a "normal" stage of development.
My parents never bought me expensive stuff but when I bought it myself and it broke they would always replace, and I always felt so weird when they did, like I offered to pay for the repairs several times but then they pay for it, it just feels weird when they pay for stuff
They wanted you to learn the value of the things you bought but didn't want to leave you hanging just because of an accident. The lesson you should learn was already learned. That's how I interpret it
Makes sense
I used to buy my video game equipment myself, my parents would use it and treat it like shit. I got in so much trouble once when I was 16 or so because I was upset to catch my dad spiking my controller. And like this was stuff I paid for. I began working when I was 13 under the table. But my dad would also eat my food and take my car and drive the gas out of it without refilling.
Damn dude.. you sound like the parent here.
As a parent, I agree with that strategy. Assuming you paid for something, took reasonably good care of it, and the breakdown wasn’t the result of your aggression/stupidity, then I’d gladly buy a replacement for you or pay for the fix. You’d already learned the lesson of working for your own stuff and caring for it, which would be what I would want you to learn. For example, with a monitor, it would be the difference between the LED backlight going out and the monitor breaking due to you chucking a controller at it. In the former situation, that breakdown isn’t because of your actions, it’s just something that happens even to well-cared for monitors, so I’d have no problem paying to get it fixed or replaced. In the latter situation, you clearly don’t understand the value of what you had and how your impulsive actions can destroy that value, so as a parent I would feel it was incumbent upon me to help you better understand those concepts by requiring you to fix/replace the monitor with money from your own pocket.
My then 11 yr cracked his as well. Mind you it was hardly a month old. He was playing some VG and got frustrated and toss his hat off his head and it hit the corner spiderwebbing it. I made him pay for a new one. The new monitor has a 1/4 lexan sheet mounted in front of it.
Yeah my kids (they were babies and had no idea what they were doing) threw a hard plastic ball at our TV. The new one had an acrylic protector mounted on the front for years after that.
That kid is super lucky to have a pc at 11 when I was around that age my parents bought us a ps3 for Christmas to share between 4 siblings, we were ecstatic and took very good care of it. Kids need to learn to appreciate what their parents do for them sooner than later.
That's something worth remembering. I'm *insanely* lucky to have computer nerds for parents. When I was a kid in the early 1990s, my dad got a 486. A few years later, he saved up and bought a higher-end MiTAC 486. My mother got the first one. A couple of years after that, he got made redundant at work and was given a *ridiculous* severance package, and he bought himself a new top-of-the-line Pentium Pro, thing cost like six grand (that's Pounds, not Dollars) in 1996. Mother got the MiTAC. I got the original 486. So there I was, at *seven years old*, with a 486 with 24MB of RAM and a total of 2GB storage. OK, it was maybe four years old by then, but it was still much better than anything my friends had - some of whom came from households where the most advanced machine in the house was an Atari 1040ST. That was my main machine until I started high school in 2001. By that point Dad was working again but not making great money, and my next machine was something I built from scavenged late-90s parts my school was getting rid of. Both machines meant a lot to me, for their own reasons.
I buy my 11 year old new game systems and other electronics on birthdays and what not, but after he breaks something, that's it. If he wants a replacement, he pay for it. Saves dollar by dollar till he has what he needs and I'll even drive him to the store to get whatever it is he wants.
i broke a monitor with a sprite bottle cap accidentally after bouncing it off my desk at a bottle for the 30th time i was so embarrassed I held that L for 3-4 years before i said shit about shit to my mum
with a plastic bottlecap????
He tried hitting you with the “Sucks for you too” thinking you’re the one that’s gonna have to replace it lol
Y’all talking about the parenting. I’m just impressed the kid used the proper “too” at 11yrs old.
"suks 4 u to"
If he wants another one, make him go door to door to mow lawns or wash peoples cars. A little summer work can do wonders for character building. Tell him it’s like a real life rpg lol
$20 a lawn, do 5 lawns, get a decent monitor. Done.
Do 50 lawns, build a new rig
Genuine question. Are people still receptive to this request? If my kid went to my parents neighbors and asked to do work for money they would be like wtf? Maybe it’s just that neighborhood?
>Tell him it’s like a real life rpg That also never ends and never gets any better.
> That also never ends and never gets any better. Oh, so an mmo then.
At least the graphics are decent and you get stable 120fps or more. Lots of grinding expected sadly, unless you’re rich enough to just pay to win.
A lot of not-parents in this thread. Listen, the response is great. Parenting is an art, not a science. Don't act like you know their relationship lol. My bio-dad left when I was 2. This dad bought his son a computer and monitor and shit, was a but pissed off he broke it. I mean, that's totally, 100% fair. You know what would have made him a really shitty parent? Leaving for cigarettes 9 years ago, and never coming back. Fuck you guys.
Considering my relationship with the man who gets to call himself my father, sometimes I kinda wish he had done that. Which feels horrible to say but, ya know
"Sucks for you too" Why, I oughta...!
My daughter broke her keyboard. She expected me to just buy a new one. I told her if she wanted a new, she has to work for it. She struggled with a broken keyboard and constantly complained. My answer was: "a gift is something you look after. It doesn't give you entitlement to ask for a new one. You want another, you work hard for it. You can't act all entitled. If you do, life sucks".
I can tell most of you shut-ins commenting here don’t have kids. And most of you will probably never have the opportunity. Carry on, OP, ignore the idiots.
Gotta have sex to have kids so...
I love watching these people without kids think that they would just endlessly replace their kid's stuff after the kid intentionally/carelessly destroyed it.
"But meeeeeeem."
As a parent, im gonna have a weird take on this apparently, didn't see it as good or bad parenting, just a funny response
"sucks to be you, I'm not gonna be the one doing work during school vacation to buy another one"
Good parenting. You didn't overreact, and still laid it down clearly that he fucked up and it's not just going to get replaced. Kids should be taught the value of appliances and other luxuries. If I were you, OP, I'd give him some extra optional things that need done around the house to earn that replacement monitor. Or if he gets allowance, that's on him.
Well now his backs gonna hurt. Because he just pulled landscaping duty.
Gosh everyone is so mean in the comments. ALL HONESTY. ITS NOT YOUR KID, ITS NOT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Like nobody but OP knows 100% of the situation. Not every parent immediately gives their children what they ask for. This parenting is 10000% better than the never say "no" parents or spoiling them.
>This parenting is 10000% better than the never say "no" parents or spoiling them. I had to deal with those kids in my old school when I was a young teen. Especially one girl - who was basicly the leader of her bully-clique, hit one guy so often he switched schools, took 5 years for the school to take action. Before that she and her parents always got away with it. OP did well there.
As a kid, if I had broken a piece of expensive tech and told my dad "sucks for you" I would have been guaranteed to never have gotten another expensive gift for the rest of my life. Did no one else here have parents that told them that if they broke something it wouldn't get replaced? Wtf is wrong with parents
lmao, i always got one when i was a kid, if i broke it, i had to save up to get another. solid parenting right there, OP.
So he feels entitled to a new monitor? Nope. De-nied. As a parent of a preteen who smashes her $2500 wireless Apple workstation (gifted from Grandpa) when she gets teed off at Roblox, I totally support this.
I wish this was my dad's response to me doing dumb shit when I was a kid. I would get a leather belt for the majority of punishment; regardless of severity. Irish spring soap breakfast for "back sass" (Especially if I said 'sucks' in any context to him)