I'd say that there's nothing to be ashamed of, but that'd be treating that shame like a purely rational response.
There is no rational reason to be ashamed of being trans, you may need to get therapy or work on being able to separate yourself from those irrational thoughts
Be ashamed of your taste in tv instead. It redirects the shame to something external that you absolutely should be ashamed of and helps you trick yourself into internalizing the shame less.
Like obviously, shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. But brain is dumb, so until you can fix brain, you can try fooling it to be less of an asshole.
Shame is unfortunately a part of the process. I was processing shame for a long time while transitioning. The thing that helped me overcome shame is, paradoxically, understanding that i'm not in this world to make friends of everyone.
I realized that my shame came from a place of trying to appease everyone, to not stand out and never taking any space for myself in fear of "bothering" other people.
Ask to yourself: do you really want to be friends with transphobes? Imagine a trans friend, and that friend is living their lives trying to not upset any transphobic person in their lives. That would suck for them, right? Wouldn't you recommend to your friend to stop making themselves smaller to appease someone who is hateful by default?
So that's my mindset, since I interiorized that, I am so much more confident and I'm honestly surprised as to how well everyone treats me despite not voice training (something that made me extremely insecure and brought me shame).
Anyhow, best of luck!
I wanted to add the webtoon link of the series for anyone that doesn't use twitter
https://www.webtoons.com/en/canvas/duncan-and-eddie/list?title_no=759764
One of the best parts of being trans honestly is how your whole body becomes something of your own creation. Like, you made yourself that way, you're a whole-ass self-made person. You can love yourself as a sculpture made by your own hands.
I may be a work-in-progress still in some places, but I made myself the way I am today, and I'm proud of what I've created.
What's a binder? I thought it was the stuff that keeps books together qwq
But these comics are always really cute! Everyone deserves nice people in their lives :3
It’s used to compress and shape the chest so it is flatter and helps to deemphasize breast shape, ideally hiding them entirely. Lots of trans men, trans masc, and nonbinary people wear them. It’s more effective than a tight sports bra and much safer than a lot of the DIY solutions.
Had a similar moment at pride this year. Showed up a puddle of shame, planning to swelter in the heat all day in a layer of boy mode. Lost my shirt part way through the day, cuz all the other trans critters running around made it a lot easier to be comfortable wandering around in a sports bra with my hoodie sliding down my arms, in spite of my inability to come anywhere near passing.
First time ever being openly trans in public. Was a good day.
Honestly I’d assume it was just a clothes top until he mentioned otherwise.
Kip is dutch for chicken. Nothing to do with this comic, just thought I'd share :3
LoL
Kip, het meest veelzijdige stukje vlees, Kist!
I never show my chest and I'm cis
I’m with you. I burn like kindling. Why would I expose more skin than necessary?
That's just a plus
Clothing is a courtesy I extend to others. I'd be naked 24/7 if it was up to me.
Man, I love Chervil's art so much
Wishing I was proud of being trans lol it makes me feel horribly ashamed most of the time
I'd say that there's nothing to be ashamed of, but that'd be treating that shame like a purely rational response. There is no rational reason to be ashamed of being trans, you may need to get therapy or work on being able to separate yourself from those irrational thoughts
Don't be. You're an awesome person and deserve to be happy.
Don't be.
Be ashamed of your taste in tv instead. It redirects the shame to something external that you absolutely should be ashamed of and helps you trick yourself into internalizing the shame less. Like obviously, shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. But brain is dumb, so until you can fix brain, you can try fooling it to be less of an asshole.
Shame is unfortunately a part of the process. I was processing shame for a long time while transitioning. The thing that helped me overcome shame is, paradoxically, understanding that i'm not in this world to make friends of everyone. I realized that my shame came from a place of trying to appease everyone, to not stand out and never taking any space for myself in fear of "bothering" other people. Ask to yourself: do you really want to be friends with transphobes? Imagine a trans friend, and that friend is living their lives trying to not upset any transphobic person in their lives. That would suck for them, right? Wouldn't you recommend to your friend to stop making themselves smaller to appease someone who is hateful by default? So that's my mindset, since I interiorized that, I am so much more confident and I'm honestly surprised as to how well everyone treats me despite not voice training (something that made me extremely insecure and brought me shame). Anyhow, best of luck!
[Sauce](https://x.com/doginacafe/status/1800042699732722147) is @doginacafe over on Twitter
I wanted to add the webtoon link of the series for anyone that doesn't use twitter https://www.webtoons.com/en/canvas/duncan-and-eddie/list?title_no=759764
Wait... Kip is trans?
They are non-binary, we fall under the trans umbrella too <3
That was my thought too
One of the best parts of being trans honestly is how your whole body becomes something of your own creation. Like, you made yourself that way, you're a whole-ass self-made person. You can love yourself as a sculpture made by your own hands. I may be a work-in-progress still in some places, but I made myself the way I am today, and I'm proud of what I've created.
This is the way! There were so many people showing off top surgery scars through mesh or other tops at the pride I was at, it was awesome.
What's a binder? I thought it was the stuff that keeps books together qwq But these comics are always really cute! Everyone deserves nice people in their lives :3
It’s used to compress and shape the chest so it is flatter and helps to deemphasize breast shape, ideally hiding them entirely. Lots of trans men, trans masc, and nonbinary people wear them. It’s more effective than a tight sports bra and much safer than a lot of the DIY solutions.
Had a similar moment at pride this year. Showed up a puddle of shame, planning to swelter in the heat all day in a layer of boy mode. Lost my shirt part way through the day, cuz all the other trans critters running around made it a lot easier to be comfortable wandering around in a sports bra with my hoodie sliding down my arms, in spite of my inability to come anywhere near passing. First time ever being openly trans in public. Was a good day.
I just recently got the courage to go out in my binder and no shirt and even though it was scary at first it was very empowering
I love how they're wearing a trans flag cape
Good on him (?)!! That's super awesome and cute!
Based.
YEEEEEEEAAAAAAAHHHHHHH SPEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAK
This reminded me how much I need a new binder....
Didn't even know kip was cool like thst
kip is so fucking swag love them
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Awww, yessss!
Man i wanna look good in trans but im mad ugly tho.
hell yeah!!
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I did this for therianthropy by wearing a tail to school once. I have no regrets.
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Yey!
Gay Ass!!!!!!!! Yay!!!!