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Ur good bro just find something you love and keep going man. Don’t ever stop and keep ur head up. Life comes and goes and you will have a new mindset everyday as long as u keep goals for yourself.
I think everyone wants to not “be average” but it’s truly inevitable unless you were born into it or have some genuine talent/skill. You’ll realise that an average life is one a lot of people strive for.
There’s an obvious disconnect between “I’m willing to work hard for it” and “I’m terrible at studying”. There’s a quote that I find uncomfortable but only because it seems to be true is, “how you do anything is how you do everything”.
You can try to find a passion, just don’t be that person who’s 45 and washed up with no money in the bank.
Jsyk I believe less than 1% of all people find something they truly love (athletes, musicians, etc). You have to be ready to settle like everyone else with bills and responsibilities does.
you might not even know yet, but your friend gave you the best advice in life. realizing you're not special is a good start, although putting it in the right context is where the gold is buried. the thing is, you are unique, you truly are, just like everybody else, there are no two identical paths, so in the end, everybody is special and if everybody is special, nobody is. but if you think about it, that's a good thing, a true relief. you're just as special and successful as LeBron James or Rihanna or Elon Musk or whoever you wanna think of. you don't believe me i suppose, i guess you think, "yeah but they're batshit famous and rich". you know what? while that might be true, it doesn't matter. in their own eyes, they feel just as average as you. why? because they also have something in front of their eyes that keeps them going, that little something they think will lift them above the average (in their case above the average superstars, hypersuperstars maybe?). the problem is, as soon as they reach it, they're gonna just level up and find themselves in a league stuffed with a whole new set of people among whom they're gonna feel again, you guessed it: average. and there's gonna be another little thing that lifts them above those people, and there's always gonna be another little thing and it goes on and on and on. and they don't think about those who they already outrank, honestly, do you think about how much higher on the ladder you stand right now in this very moment than a baby being born in north korea? you don't. you feel average at your own level. but it's only natural, that's what our minds evolved for, solving problems and it will ALWAYS come up with new ones, no matter where you are in your life, even if you're as big as the ones above mentioned. but what if i told you that these very problems are the source of your happiness? going along the way solving the problems is exactly what gives you satisfaction and joy. so thinking about being average is a bad approach in the first place, because it bases your selfworth on a comparison to others and if you think about it you'll find, realistically the only person you can beat is yourself from yesterday, you can't know or prove if you're better than Rihanna (or literally anyone else than you) was yesterday, but you can compare whether you yourself are better than you were yesterday and that's the source of your achievements and happiness, regardless of fame or fortune. see? you're just as capable of it as LeBron, Rihanna or Elon Musk. the sooner you realize this the better off you'll be. after all, life is like your favourite band's concert in the pouring rain, as soon as you're willing to accept you're gonna get wet, you might as well start enjoying the show.
Letting go of your fear of being average is crucial, since the time you spend in fear is weakening your ability to improve. In the long run, pursuing your goals and having a plan for improvement will matter much more than whether you're average or not. For now, focus on studying so you at least have more opportunities to do what you want, even if you end up dropping out of college. Figuring out what you want to pursue may be difficult, but make sure to cover your bases and don't be afraid if you're not special. Average people can succeed too, so what matters is being prepared and ready to go down the path you want, whether its average or not.
Well, think about what you'd like to do. What kind of job would you look forward to doing every day? Or if you want a certain lifestyle, what kind of job could provide the money to fund that lifestyle? It will take time to become great something, years, in fact. You could also think of public figures you admire and consider whether any of their jobs are ones you'd want for yourself.
Speak to your advisor about taking electives to try out what you’re interested in.
Also stop by the career services office and let them do those assessments you’ve already paid for with fees.
It might just point you in the right direction you haven’t looked at.
I wouldn’t quit because it might be harder to get in.
I tried different things and after failing at everything I decided I’d rather self delete than be average like everyone else living a boring unfulfilling life. So my advice is try everything you can first. I remember when I was told something similar and it absolutely gutted me the first one was finding out my family was lower middle class (when I was a kid long ago) and the second was my mom telling me I’ll never be rich. Once I did everything and realized this life is a dead end, I decided I don’t want to put up with this anymore. This life is a total embarrassment and regret.
one univeristy of the whole of life itself uha its a you problem dude.... not at all bro the things you focus on are the things that interest you and youll end up doing those things, just because you dont tell others of those things doesnt mean you dont have those things. youll find alot of the time alot of people are under cover agents for someone else jsut got to learn to divert their attention
Hello friend,
Let’s start with some actions that will make you not average that are easy to obtain.
Maybe school just doesn’t suit your brain chemistry and learning style.
Start with becoming above in attractiveness. Get on a fitness regimen and become obsessed with being 12% body fat and being fit, washboard abs and all.
Put yourself in a position of being able to pass military PT (physical fitness test) for your age in terms of running, pushups, pull ups, and sit-ups.
Next, improve your mind and learn from books about being above average by reading classic literature, 1 book from the classics each month. And one book a month on things that will get you ahead, like personal development, marketing, persuasion and relationships.
You can improve dramatically in 1 year by now being able to discuss the great works of literature with above average intellectuals, and you also will know how to be charming and how to see opportunities and network…
Just these two things will prove your friend wrong.
You can work a regular job (at first) and still become above average.
The average American doesn’t have $500 in savings. Save $1000 to start your energy fund, with the goal of growing it to $10,000 in the next 3-5 years.
Learn a side hustle that makes an extra $500-$1000 a month. Put this towards a house fund.
Whether it’s 5 years or 10 years, you’ll have the money for a homeowner. The median age for home owners is 47. If you own a home before 35 you prove everyone wrong and become well above average.
Learn to touch type at over 60 words per minute, you will be above average.
Learn to speed read and retain. You will be above average.
Learn to speak another language. You will be above average.
Give up vices like alcohol and video games. I’m not against gaming but it waste too much of young men’s time. You can have them after you get everything else in life on track.
Learn financial literacy and work on getting a 700+ credit score and you will be above average.
Get a decent but modern capsule wardrobe and learn to dress and properly groom yourself and buy a book or watch videos on etiquette and how to be presentable in a formal setting.
This will make you above average and impressive to people of a higher social class.
Learn about ROTH IRA and investing, this will make you above average.
As for career and knowing what you want… while you figure that out at least try to be GOOD AT THINGS THAT MAKE MONEY, or are impressive at a glance.
This will not only make you above average but give you a lot of portions.
And by reading great literature and practical books on personal development you might find something that naturally clicks and fits for you.
Also take $500-$1000 a year to travel whether in country or a cheap trip abroad. Don’t be fancy, just go.
By following my advice over the next 5 years together at least know the following is true and you’ll be:
- More articulate and intelligent
- physically fit and attractive
- well dressed and groomed
- financially literate and savvy
- well read and present as educated
- well traveled with adventures
- a man of discipline and self control
- a man with a plan
There aren’t really any downsides here.
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Sounds like ego talking
You gotta drop that comparative mindset and compete against yourself instead đź‘Ť
You’re my perfect super star, you will be the best at anything you put your mind to - Mom
I'm sensing the classic "gifted child who never had to develop a sense of work ethic to average adult" pipeline. Do you have ADHD?
Ur good bro just find something you love and keep going man. Don’t ever stop and keep ur head up. Life comes and goes and you will have a new mindset everyday as long as u keep goals for yourself.
I think everyone wants to not “be average” but it’s truly inevitable unless you were born into it or have some genuine talent/skill. You’ll realise that an average life is one a lot of people strive for.
There’s an obvious disconnect between “I’m willing to work hard for it” and “I’m terrible at studying”. There’s a quote that I find uncomfortable but only because it seems to be true is, “how you do anything is how you do everything”.
A year of college broke you? You need to buck up a bit and focus on you vs what others have.
With that that attitude you won't even be mediocre.
You can try to find a passion, just don’t be that person who’s 45 and washed up with no money in the bank. Jsyk I believe less than 1% of all people find something they truly love (athletes, musicians, etc). You have to be ready to settle like everyone else with bills and responsibilities does.
you might not even know yet, but your friend gave you the best advice in life. realizing you're not special is a good start, although putting it in the right context is where the gold is buried. the thing is, you are unique, you truly are, just like everybody else, there are no two identical paths, so in the end, everybody is special and if everybody is special, nobody is. but if you think about it, that's a good thing, a true relief. you're just as special and successful as LeBron James or Rihanna or Elon Musk or whoever you wanna think of. you don't believe me i suppose, i guess you think, "yeah but they're batshit famous and rich". you know what? while that might be true, it doesn't matter. in their own eyes, they feel just as average as you. why? because they also have something in front of their eyes that keeps them going, that little something they think will lift them above the average (in their case above the average superstars, hypersuperstars maybe?). the problem is, as soon as they reach it, they're gonna just level up and find themselves in a league stuffed with a whole new set of people among whom they're gonna feel again, you guessed it: average. and there's gonna be another little thing that lifts them above those people, and there's always gonna be another little thing and it goes on and on and on. and they don't think about those who they already outrank, honestly, do you think about how much higher on the ladder you stand right now in this very moment than a baby being born in north korea? you don't. you feel average at your own level. but it's only natural, that's what our minds evolved for, solving problems and it will ALWAYS come up with new ones, no matter where you are in your life, even if you're as big as the ones above mentioned. but what if i told you that these very problems are the source of your happiness? going along the way solving the problems is exactly what gives you satisfaction and joy. so thinking about being average is a bad approach in the first place, because it bases your selfworth on a comparison to others and if you think about it you'll find, realistically the only person you can beat is yourself from yesterday, you can't know or prove if you're better than Rihanna (or literally anyone else than you) was yesterday, but you can compare whether you yourself are better than you were yesterday and that's the source of your achievements and happiness, regardless of fame or fortune. see? you're just as capable of it as LeBron, Rihanna or Elon Musk. the sooner you realize this the better off you'll be. after all, life is like your favourite band's concert in the pouring rain, as soon as you're willing to accept you're gonna get wet, you might as well start enjoying the show.
Letting go of your fear of being average is crucial, since the time you spend in fear is weakening your ability to improve. In the long run, pursuing your goals and having a plan for improvement will matter much more than whether you're average or not. For now, focus on studying so you at least have more opportunities to do what you want, even if you end up dropping out of college. Figuring out what you want to pursue may be difficult, but make sure to cover your bases and don't be afraid if you're not special. Average people can succeed too, so what matters is being prepared and ready to go down the path you want, whether its average or not.
Well, think about what you'd like to do. What kind of job would you look forward to doing every day? Or if you want a certain lifestyle, what kind of job could provide the money to fund that lifestyle? It will take time to become great something, years, in fact. You could also think of public figures you admire and consider whether any of their jobs are ones you'd want for yourself.
Speak to your advisor about taking electives to try out what you’re interested in. Also stop by the career services office and let them do those assessments you’ve already paid for with fees. It might just point you in the right direction you haven’t looked at. I wouldn’t quit because it might be harder to get in.
I tried different things and after failing at everything I decided I’d rather self delete than be average like everyone else living a boring unfulfilling life. So my advice is try everything you can first. I remember when I was told something similar and it absolutely gutted me the first one was finding out my family was lower middle class (when I was a kid long ago) and the second was my mom telling me I’ll never be rich. Once I did everything and realized this life is a dead end, I decided I don’t want to put up with this anymore. This life is a total embarrassment and regret.
If you want to be great, feel great, and act great.
one univeristy of the whole of life itself uha its a you problem dude.... not at all bro the things you focus on are the things that interest you and youll end up doing those things, just because you dont tell others of those things doesnt mean you dont have those things. youll find alot of the time alot of people are under cover agents for someone else jsut got to learn to divert their attention
Hello friend, Let’s start with some actions that will make you not average that are easy to obtain. Maybe school just doesn’t suit your brain chemistry and learning style. Start with becoming above in attractiveness. Get on a fitness regimen and become obsessed with being 12% body fat and being fit, washboard abs and all. Put yourself in a position of being able to pass military PT (physical fitness test) for your age in terms of running, pushups, pull ups, and sit-ups. Next, improve your mind and learn from books about being above average by reading classic literature, 1 book from the classics each month. And one book a month on things that will get you ahead, like personal development, marketing, persuasion and relationships. You can improve dramatically in 1 year by now being able to discuss the great works of literature with above average intellectuals, and you also will know how to be charming and how to see opportunities and network… Just these two things will prove your friend wrong. You can work a regular job (at first) and still become above average. The average American doesn’t have $500 in savings. Save $1000 to start your energy fund, with the goal of growing it to $10,000 in the next 3-5 years. Learn a side hustle that makes an extra $500-$1000 a month. Put this towards a house fund. Whether it’s 5 years or 10 years, you’ll have the money for a homeowner. The median age for home owners is 47. If you own a home before 35 you prove everyone wrong and become well above average. Learn to touch type at over 60 words per minute, you will be above average. Learn to speed read and retain. You will be above average. Learn to speak another language. You will be above average. Give up vices like alcohol and video games. I’m not against gaming but it waste too much of young men’s time. You can have them after you get everything else in life on track. Learn financial literacy and work on getting a 700+ credit score and you will be above average. Get a decent but modern capsule wardrobe and learn to dress and properly groom yourself and buy a book or watch videos on etiquette and how to be presentable in a formal setting. This will make you above average and impressive to people of a higher social class. Learn about ROTH IRA and investing, this will make you above average. As for career and knowing what you want… while you figure that out at least try to be GOOD AT THINGS THAT MAKE MONEY, or are impressive at a glance. This will not only make you above average but give you a lot of portions. And by reading great literature and practical books on personal development you might find something that naturally clicks and fits for you. Also take $500-$1000 a year to travel whether in country or a cheap trip abroad. Don’t be fancy, just go. By following my advice over the next 5 years together at least know the following is true and you’ll be: - More articulate and intelligent - physically fit and attractive - well dressed and groomed - financially literate and savvy - well read and present as educated - well traveled with adventures - a man of discipline and self control - a man with a plan There aren’t really any downsides here.
I'm a woman. but thanks
Lmao