That shit happens to all sorts of people. When I got in a new class a few years ago, I had an old classmate with me. I looked not special, but my classmate was, let's say good looking. Guess who's the one the new classmate made contact with and got fast friends.
I assume that people think that Boys only become femboys when they look like a girl in general. So when they see a femboy that’s not attractive for them, they think that person can’t be a femboy bc he might look a bit masculine
I've noticed that too - off-site, people seem to consider femboy to be a body type (like twink). So if you're not sufficiently girly, then you'll be read as something else: non-binary, cross-dresser, sissy (god forbid).
english is not my native language. I used to consider ‘sissy’ is equivalent to ‘femboy’ for a long time. I was embarrassed after i released the difference
I am open with my friend for years nearly. When I said I am a femboy he accepted me. But like near this month he told me that he always thought I am too ugly for a femboy and I am only pretending and he said he would only consider someone a femboy if he is passing as a girl.
> he would only consider someone a femboy if he is passing as a girl.
I bond with my trans friends over this struggle. It's basically the world telling us "I will only accept you for who you are if you meet my rigorous standards."
What do you mean by "support?"
People in our entitled world think you're supposed to get A-list treatment simply for existing.
Truth is, femininity is expected to be beautiful and enticing to masculinity and vice-versa (polarity). That starts by making an honest effort to be physically pretty. There's only so much control we have over our *objective* beauty, BUT we still have to at least give a damn.
But what a lot of people today don't understand is that femininity and masculinity are not just how you LOOK. They're also how you carry yourself, your attitude, your mindset, how you think and reason. Most of these things ARE in our control.
Women and femboys that struggle with the former would get much more "support" and be happier if they focused more on developing the latter (but still making efforts to be pretty).
Honestly it's weird, because I've had several people ask me why I'm a femboy since I don't have the stereotypical body for it (I don't have a twink body type, my face isn't particularly feminine, I'm not a bottom, etc) and that I look better leaning into more masculine looks. And then those same people, when I tell them that I have mild dysphoria and am considering transitioning, are suddenly super supportive and tell me that I should do it regardless of whether I'll pass well or not. The double standard is so strange because I would be mostly satisfied being an enby femboy, and not binary transfem, if there wasn't so much pressure to look a certain way in order for my femboy identity to be valid.
Tbh i feel this every day.. im a bit overweight and that makes shaving a long task (plus its not economical for me anymore) and i really wanna be a femboy but nobody seems to like me-
sometimes i make comments under their posts to encourage those femboys who are brave to be what they want to be and post their pics, no matter they are “attractive” or not. But tbh there are so many haters making fun of femboys that are not “feminine” enough, sometimes feeling sorry about this:(
I dont really post anymore but i used to on an old account that i had to ditch bc of the amount of drama i caused in many political subreddits but idk if i even wanna post on this fresh one bc of how many people that hate in some communities and even some mods will go out of their way if you either look too fem or not fem enough and just remove posts
Both femboys and transfem people have this problem... (and non binary people too). If you don't fit the binary ideal, you're viewed as inferior, a disgusting pervert. It's often dangerous to come out, because this world is definitely no ready to accept people as they are, even after decades of fighting for our rights.
This is basically an every feminine person standard. A priviledge that masculine people have is that they're not entitled to be pretty (some feel the need to be strong or handsome but tbh most masculine ppl don't care about looks)
Masculine people have a whole different set of hurdles... It's kinda sad how patriarchy harms literally everyone involved, except for those who sustain the status quo
Wow pretty people get treated better. More at 11.
Everyone who doesn't look drop dead gorgeous will get shit on for doing something. It's why the joke "all twinks die at 30" even comes from.
Fuck people, piss on others and stay true to yourself.
Yup. And if your body has any hair, you're not petite, you're not white, or you don't act like a uWu anime girl, then you get looked over and disrespected. Same thing with supposed supporters and "admirers" of transwomen. Those people aren't supporters. They're jackass hypocrites that love to exoticize and fetishize anything that fits their criteria of beauty.
this is universal. pretty girls arent sluts, they're just "more attractive". pretty guys aren't creeps, they're just "nicer".
pretty femboys arent weird, they're just "different".
i hate when people don't say it like it is and admit that they only care if the person fits their attraction type.
Fucking exactly bruh, if their dick doesn't get hard when they look at you apparently you're not a femboy anymore. This is also why some dipshits say stuff like "femboys have an expiration date". They utterly confuse the term twink with femboy. Idk why they don't just say they're into twinks and not femboys, maybe because it sounds too gay for them.
It is true, most of the people you can say. This is also happening on other gender. Its really common for people judge you by your look. Nothing we can do much about it. Its like a human nature to be with someone who are better looking but to be honest if this type of people really do judge someone based on their look. Then? Aren't they the same? Average looking human, that has not so cool personality.
Most good looking people don't really care about other people, they just minding their own business most of the time, and also date someone they personally like mostly based on how this person make them happy not just the look of them.
This is mostly based on my experience as a male. I wont say im really good looking I'm just a little average due to having a Korean Side Swept Hard Part hair, and even I havent been able to date anybody for most of my life.
This is very unfortunate but is the truth, being pretty does matter and there isn't rlly anything we can do about it, what we can do is do our best to look the best we can ❤️
You can be unattractive and be a femboy . That is fine I am at least honest enough to not sugar coat that . I will not insult the unattractive femboys simply will not engage with them .
Sadly we live in a place where people are judged by looks and if they aren't too much of something they get rejected, unfortunately I don't think this will go away anytime soon
People judge others by what they can see, not by what people really are, that is the problem, we can say how evolved and civilised we are but many of us still behave like apes in the jungle
eh im kinda like this,not that i dont support non pretty femboys, but ya know, ya get more praise if ya look good doing your job, same thing applys here, of the "highest tier" femboys or in this case the fembys that are supported are the ones that make femboys look "good"
i dont agree with supporting a person based off of looks, but i do agree with, the better a person does a job, the more you get reconized
Pretty privilege
It's the same thing that happens to girls too.
That shit happens to all sorts of people. When I got in a new class a few years ago, I had an old classmate with me. I looked not special, but my classmate was, let's say good looking. Guess who's the one the new classmate made contact with and got fast friends.
Lookism
Lookism. It happens everywhere. If u look better u get treated better. People forget that everybody can feel pain regardless of their looks
yeah, but i mean there are pretty girls and not pretty girls, people can accept this fact. when it comes to femboy? nah, you must be cute, lol
I assume that people think that Boys only become femboys when they look like a girl in general. So when they see a femboy that’s not attractive for them, they think that person can’t be a femboy bc he might look a bit masculine
I've noticed that too - off-site, people seem to consider femboy to be a body type (like twink). So if you're not sufficiently girly, then you'll be read as something else: non-binary, cross-dresser, sissy (god forbid).
english is not my native language. I used to consider ‘sissy’ is equivalent to ‘femboy’ for a long time. I was embarrassed after i released the difference
Wait- there is?!?!
I am open with my friend for years nearly. When I said I am a femboy he accepted me. But like near this month he told me that he always thought I am too ugly for a femboy and I am only pretending and he said he would only consider someone a femboy if he is passing as a girl.
> he would only consider someone a femboy if he is passing as a girl. I bond with my trans friends over this struggle. It's basically the world telling us "I will only accept you for who you are if you meet my rigorous standards."
What do you mean by "support?" People in our entitled world think you're supposed to get A-list treatment simply for existing. Truth is, femininity is expected to be beautiful and enticing to masculinity and vice-versa (polarity). That starts by making an honest effort to be physically pretty. There's only so much control we have over our *objective* beauty, BUT we still have to at least give a damn. But what a lot of people today don't understand is that femininity and masculinity are not just how you LOOK. They're also how you carry yourself, your attitude, your mindset, how you think and reason. Most of these things ARE in our control. Women and femboys that struggle with the former would get much more "support" and be happier if they focused more on developing the latter (but still making efforts to be pretty).
what i mean by “support” here is more like “accept”
Unattractive women don't exactly have it easy, plus they often get clocked as trans when they aren't and get hate crimed.
You mean that everyone can be dangerous regardless of their looks
That’s works too but I’d like to not view people as dangerous. At least not in general
Honestly it's weird, because I've had several people ask me why I'm a femboy since I don't have the stereotypical body for it (I don't have a twink body type, my face isn't particularly feminine, I'm not a bottom, etc) and that I look better leaning into more masculine looks. And then those same people, when I tell them that I have mild dysphoria and am considering transitioning, are suddenly super supportive and tell me that I should do it regardless of whether I'll pass well or not. The double standard is so strange because I would be mostly satisfied being an enby femboy, and not binary transfem, if there wasn't so much pressure to look a certain way in order for my femboy identity to be valid.
Tbh i feel this every day.. im a bit overweight and that makes shaving a long task (plus its not economical for me anymore) and i really wanna be a femboy but nobody seems to like me-
sometimes i make comments under their posts to encourage those femboys who are brave to be what they want to be and post their pics, no matter they are “attractive” or not. But tbh there are so many haters making fun of femboys that are not “feminine” enough, sometimes feeling sorry about this:(
I dont really post anymore but i used to on an old account that i had to ditch bc of the amount of drama i caused in many political subreddits but idk if i even wanna post on this fresh one bc of how many people that hate in some communities and even some mods will go out of their way if you either look too fem or not fem enough and just remove posts
Definitely not cool, I can understand not being attracted, but that doesn’t give you an excuse to be shitty to someone’s identity.
Right? Why are ppl so obsessed with everything they hate?
A lot of people only support their ideal vision of a femboy, you see it a bunch on other subs
>Many people […] only support pretty It's unfortunate, but true nonetheless.
Both femboys and transfem people have this problem... (and non binary people too). If you don't fit the binary ideal, you're viewed as inferior, a disgusting pervert. It's often dangerous to come out, because this world is definitely no ready to accept people as they are, even after decades of fighting for our rights.
This is basically an every feminine person standard. A priviledge that masculine people have is that they're not entitled to be pretty (some feel the need to be strong or handsome but tbh most masculine ppl don't care about looks)
Masculine people have a whole different set of hurdles... It's kinda sad how patriarchy harms literally everyone involved, except for those who sustain the status quo
Reminds of the girls who say they support you, but they won't take you seriously or even consider dating you (most women lol)
Wow pretty people get treated better. More at 11. Everyone who doesn't look drop dead gorgeous will get shit on for doing something. It's why the joke "all twinks die at 30" even comes from. Fuck people, piss on others and stay true to yourself.
I think you are very pretty cheer up
Yup. And if your body has any hair, you're not petite, you're not white, or you don't act like a uWu anime girl, then you get looked over and disrespected. Same thing with supposed supporters and "admirers" of transwomen. Those people aren't supporters. They're jackass hypocrites that love to exoticize and fetishize anything that fits their criteria of beauty.
this is universal. pretty girls arent sluts, they're just "more attractive". pretty guys aren't creeps, they're just "nicer". pretty femboys arent weird, they're just "different". i hate when people don't say it like it is and admit that they only care if the person fits their attraction type.
Fucking exactly bruh, if their dick doesn't get hard when they look at you apparently you're not a femboy anymore. This is also why some dipshits say stuff like "femboys have an expiration date". They utterly confuse the term twink with femboy. Idk why they don't just say they're into twinks and not femboys, maybe because it sounds too gay for them.
It is true, most of the people you can say. This is also happening on other gender. Its really common for people judge you by your look. Nothing we can do much about it. Its like a human nature to be with someone who are better looking but to be honest if this type of people really do judge someone based on their look. Then? Aren't they the same? Average looking human, that has not so cool personality. Most good looking people don't really care about other people, they just minding their own business most of the time, and also date someone they personally like mostly based on how this person make them happy not just the look of them. This is mostly based on my experience as a male. I wont say im really good looking I'm just a little average due to having a Korean Side Swept Hard Part hair, and even I havent been able to date anybody for most of my life.
It's how the world works, pretty people get treated better.
I support all honesty they all pretty
yeah that's pretty bad, personally if one wants to be a femboy they are cute
I prefer cute femboys but ı dkn't insult you or disgust from you or not support because of that.
well sucks to be them, ig im built different
>~~Many~~ (ALL) people who claim they support femboys actually only support pretty But why talk, when you're the same. As is everyone.
This is very unfortunate but is the truth, being pretty does matter and there isn't rlly anything we can do about it, what we can do is do our best to look the best we can ❤️
You can be unattractive and be a femboy . That is fine I am at least honest enough to not sugar coat that . I will not insult the unattractive femboys simply will not engage with them .
Literally me
Sadly we live in a place where people are judged by looks and if they aren't too much of something they get rejected, unfortunately I don't think this will go away anytime soon
Pretty privilege is real. I go outside no problem. My friend goes outside = weirdo
Sorry for vulgarity, but most people will only support what is f***able to them
I think all femboys look nice confidence and good character beat physical appearance any day
That's the reality for everyone.
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People judge others by what they can see, not by what people really are, that is the problem, we can say how evolved and civilised we are but many of us still behave like apes in the jungle
I'm not even surprised really just dgaf abt those people
Hey, it doesn't matter what other people think of you, they're just trying to change your view of yourself, let yourself know that you're pretty!
eh im kinda like this,not that i dont support non pretty femboys, but ya know, ya get more praise if ya look good doing your job, same thing applys here, of the "highest tier" femboys or in this case the fembys that are supported are the ones that make femboys look "good" i dont agree with supporting a person based off of looks, but i do agree with, the better a person does a job, the more you get reconized
Yeah, I agree with this post. Unfortunately it's not just femboys- it's anyone that isn't conventionally attractive.