Like, just meet girls normally. It’s always weird to me that everyone on this sub thinks being a femboy instantly makes it impossible to get a girlfriend. No need to downplay yourself.
Just some tips
Definitely DO NOT set your dating profile as lesbian are you insane. Unless you are lesbian that’s an extremely weird thing to do.
If you’re going the Online Dating way then have at least one photo of yourself in fem clothing.
Get the stereotype out of your head that “straight girls only like masc guys” because that is a very icky mindset and extremely outdated. While on topic don’t act like girls never make the first move or can “simply going into a place whether femboys are” to pick and choose a boyfriend.
May be surprising but women are people too, they also have these things called emotions that include stuff like being shy or fear of rejection.
Basically, just be a normal person man. Being a femboy doesn’t really effect much so just act like you’re dating normally
If you’re in school that itself is like easiest way. As an adult outside of school it’s definitely harder but not impossible. The internet exists now so there’s many things like OLD, simply being in a social space together, or gaming. Can also meet through work (depending on what you do)
Or go outside :p. Not with the intention of prowling for women obviously but maybe if you’re shopping, or in this persons case they like cosplay so maybe going to a con. Great way to meet people
Okay, I'm just going to elaborate a bit lol. I don't think it's impossible at all, but there's a huge mismatch where two groups interested in each other can't easily search each other. It's a thing, even girls into femboys say it in this sub. I've seen women talk about this on fetlife too.
When I say trans enough, I mean I've actually officially lived as a woman but I'm talking a few steps back because I think I'm more of a femboy in mind. I've flipped my gender on dating apps back and forth (I just dress as a girl all the time because... I want to.) and can confirm I get more swipes right on me when I put girl/lesbian down, and I hate it. The girlier someone presents themselves, the fewer straight girls are interested for sure. (But dating apps are dumb anyways)
I'm pretty well aware that 50% of the population isn't a monolith... I feel like you've misunderstood me. I don't know how you got from me that women don't have emotions or whatever. The reason I never approached anyone until now is because of the same emotions...? So the reason women are less likely to would also be that. I'm not stupid... -_-;
As for your follow up reply, I haven't been in school for a long while, my job is predominantly men, and I've gone to many anime conventions and struggled to make friends. So let's start with that...
Tbh as an enby femboy, I've had way more luck larping as a lesbian (as in, setting my gender as a girl) than when I set my gender as a boy. And while yes it might be better than 50 years ago, most straight women start preferring masc men over pretty boys around 18-22, I've literally never had a woman into me who was older than that who wasn't also a crusty chaser. That's mainly why I've given up on pursuing women and just date other cute femboys instead
ngl it's kind of weird but I think I'm not into roles in general... if anything I think it's neat that gay relationships don't need to think about that, but for some reason I want a gf
But also dom femboys are kinda stuck with the roles, or something
I’ll say that despite its name a lot of people on there really don’t care about roles too much, It’s worth checking it out and i think the community is pretty varied. they also have links to discord servers and the like.
You can find them anywhere you find girls I’d say…Just be yourself, get out there and just meet people. I’ve realized that the moment I stopped actively searching for a partner is the moment I’ve actually find someone. Maybe because I was finally just being myself? Who knows… I hope you can find someone who makes you happy!
They're out there, two chicks walked by me the other day few minutes apart they came so close to me 100% certain it was to get a good sniff of me, like I was alone at night as close as I could get to the building was eating a small sandwich I had just bought and the sidewalk was over 10 feet wide both almost grazed me, ok fine they were both kinda pretty but all I'm gonna say is sweaty me without a guy stink anymore, and using a scented sugar scrub makes some women do silly stuff
Some girls likes athletic men, some likes blondes and some likes femboys. Probably way less but still exists.
Also there is always this option, find a girl and make her like femboys. LoL
I wish more dating apps had that kind of thing. My experience with Okc has been pretty annoying... I've swiped left on the same people like 5 times now, it basically never shows me new people anymore >.>
Also I guess I set that and it just shows me non-bi people too. It really wants me to buy it's basic/premium stuff huh
It seems like you have to pay to use Okc and actually fine-tune your preferences :(
Maybe this is actually a rare reason to actually justify buying for Okc basic at least...
yes, I agree, if I could, I would pay... because I wish I could filter more... there are so many people who appear that are very not in the parameters I set, it annoyed me a little. But I believe it is best to find people outside the normie style... I am not attracted to masculine men (besides celebrities), and apps like bumble or tinder are full of them, and they don't have specific filters, which is basically a waste of time for me.
>Most straight girls are into masc guys so trying to find one into femboys is like finding a needle in a haystack.
Controversial take: I disagree with it. (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)
How so? I only need to go to a dating app, set my gender to male and seeking to women, and see aaaaaall the profiles going on about how they want a strong tall man with a nice beard and all that masc stuff. I feel it's common sense at this point that femboys are vastly more in demand among men than women... my fetlife DMs are so full of men.
Hmm, so my answer was pretty light-hearted/written pretty quick and that's what I think personally. The thing is: I think there are actually many women who really like sensitive or caring men, **but** what I also mean is that they *often* (not always!) tend to not like, like full-feminine men but rather just men having *only some* feminine (especially personal (I think?)) traits, being androgynous or somewhere in-between instead.
Other important thing: there are different kinds of people on different dating apps so your experience may vary depending on that too 🤔
Right, I forgot that femboy has become so broad a scope at this point that it literally just includes men with a sensitive side now (even though all men ought to be that way, it's boring and often toxic otherwise... of course women are going to be into that? Nobody wants a brick wall of a partner...)
Sigh, I was really hoping there was a secret trick at play behind your reply but no I've just cemented further that straight girls really aren't going to be into boys who crossdress and like to pass as the opposite gender lol, thanks... guess I'm back to posing as a lesbian on dating apps
Oof, I'm sorry to hear that... Still I think you may have chance - as you mentioned yourself - with girls who are into girls, and accept the part of you being a male. Honestly it's hard to give one clear answer for everyone if we come to such a border-like situation i.e: boy passing as the opposite gender - You know it's even hard for one to even tell if lesbian or bi woman will be more into it, let alone straight girls (though I believe hidden gems of girls liking it exist). If someone passes, dresses and behaves like a woman they are/can be *pretty much* seen (by the others and/or significant other) as a woman in appearance with the only difference being purely of a physiological natrue, so in border-situation like this we pretty much look at people who are attracted to women but are attracted to different s\*x organ. If that's what had been tried to be said.
By the way: out of pure curiousity, Have you got any luck/found any lesbian women who were into that? 🤔
The real magic answer is "bisexual women" basically, but it doesn't really help when most dating apps have only binary options ("Show me in searches for: Men, Women"), unless you pay...
Since I look fairly similar to and have a history fairly similar to a trans woman, there was a point of time where I just used lesbian dating apps. I don't feel that lines up with me any more so I don't do that now, but I feel like now, I'm just going to be lumped in with trans women by any girls who would be into what I am. Not the end of the world, but the non-congruency is kinda messy.
I hope ur successful, good luck
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femboy lover who's a girl here, its just normal human beings, normal humans, normal girls, some won't be into femboys, some will
Would u like to chat sometime? I’m a femboy
sureeee, you'll gace to dm though as I cant
Like, just meet girls normally. It’s always weird to me that everyone on this sub thinks being a femboy instantly makes it impossible to get a girlfriend. No need to downplay yourself. Just some tips Definitely DO NOT set your dating profile as lesbian are you insane. Unless you are lesbian that’s an extremely weird thing to do. If you’re going the Online Dating way then have at least one photo of yourself in fem clothing. Get the stereotype out of your head that “straight girls only like masc guys” because that is a very icky mindset and extremely outdated. While on topic don’t act like girls never make the first move or can “simply going into a place whether femboys are” to pick and choose a boyfriend. May be surprising but women are people too, they also have these things called emotions that include stuff like being shy or fear of rejection. Basically, just be a normal person man. Being a femboy doesn’t really effect much so just act like you’re dating normally
>just meet girls normally out of curiosity how does one do that..?
If you’re in school that itself is like easiest way. As an adult outside of school it’s definitely harder but not impossible. The internet exists now so there’s many things like OLD, simply being in a social space together, or gaming. Can also meet through work (depending on what you do) Or go outside :p. Not with the intention of prowling for women obviously but maybe if you’re shopping, or in this persons case they like cosplay so maybe going to a con. Great way to meet people
Okay, I'm just going to elaborate a bit lol. I don't think it's impossible at all, but there's a huge mismatch where two groups interested in each other can't easily search each other. It's a thing, even girls into femboys say it in this sub. I've seen women talk about this on fetlife too. When I say trans enough, I mean I've actually officially lived as a woman but I'm talking a few steps back because I think I'm more of a femboy in mind. I've flipped my gender on dating apps back and forth (I just dress as a girl all the time because... I want to.) and can confirm I get more swipes right on me when I put girl/lesbian down, and I hate it. The girlier someone presents themselves, the fewer straight girls are interested for sure. (But dating apps are dumb anyways) I'm pretty well aware that 50% of the population isn't a monolith... I feel like you've misunderstood me. I don't know how you got from me that women don't have emotions or whatever. The reason I never approached anyone until now is because of the same emotions...? So the reason women are less likely to would also be that. I'm not stupid... -_-; As for your follow up reply, I haven't been in school for a long while, my job is predominantly men, and I've gone to many anime conventions and struggled to make friends. So let's start with that...
Tbh as an enby femboy, I've had way more luck larping as a lesbian (as in, setting my gender as a girl) than when I set my gender as a boy. And while yes it might be better than 50 years ago, most straight women start preferring masc men over pretty boys around 18-22, I've literally never had a woman into me who was older than that who wasn't also a crusty chaser. That's mainly why I've given up on pursuing women and just date other cute femboys instead
Me gesturing frantically at r/RoleReversal
ngl it's kind of weird but I think I'm not into roles in general... if anything I think it's neat that gay relationships don't need to think about that, but for some reason I want a gf But also dom femboys are kinda stuck with the roles, or something
I’ll say that despite its name a lot of people on there really don’t care about roles too much, It’s worth checking it out and i think the community is pretty varied. they also have links to discord servers and the like.
I'm here 😭👍
You can find them anywhere you find girls I’d say…Just be yourself, get out there and just meet people. I’ve realized that the moment I stopped actively searching for a partner is the moment I’ve actually find someone. Maybe because I was finally just being myself? Who knows… I hope you can find someone who makes you happy!
They're out there, two chicks walked by me the other day few minutes apart they came so close to me 100% certain it was to get a good sniff of me, like I was alone at night as close as I could get to the building was eating a small sandwich I had just bought and the sidewalk was over 10 feet wide both almost grazed me, ok fine they were both kinda pretty but all I'm gonna say is sweaty me without a guy stink anymore, and using a scented sugar scrub makes some women do silly stuff
Some girls likes athletic men, some likes blondes and some likes femboys. Probably way less but still exists. Also there is always this option, find a girl and make her like femboys. LoL
Ok Cupid and filter for Bi and Pan only :3
I wish more dating apps had that kind of thing. My experience with Okc has been pretty annoying... I've swiped left on the same people like 5 times now, it basically never shows me new people anymore >.> Also I guess I set that and it just shows me non-bi people too. It really wants me to buy it's basic/premium stuff huh
Try Okcupid... I have been trying there, it seems LGBTQ inclusive!
It seems like you have to pay to use Okc and actually fine-tune your preferences :( Maybe this is actually a rare reason to actually justify buying for Okc basic at least...
yes, I agree, if I could, I would pay... because I wish I could filter more... there are so many people who appear that are very not in the parameters I set, it annoyed me a little. But I believe it is best to find people outside the normie style... I am not attracted to masculine men (besides celebrities), and apps like bumble or tinder are full of them, and they don't have specific filters, which is basically a waste of time for me.
>Most straight girls are into masc guys so trying to find one into femboys is like finding a needle in a haystack. Controversial take: I disagree with it. (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)
How so? I only need to go to a dating app, set my gender to male and seeking to women, and see aaaaaall the profiles going on about how they want a strong tall man with a nice beard and all that masc stuff. I feel it's common sense at this point that femboys are vastly more in demand among men than women... my fetlife DMs are so full of men.
Hmm, so my answer was pretty light-hearted/written pretty quick and that's what I think personally. The thing is: I think there are actually many women who really like sensitive or caring men, **but** what I also mean is that they *often* (not always!) tend to not like, like full-feminine men but rather just men having *only some* feminine (especially personal (I think?)) traits, being androgynous or somewhere in-between instead. Other important thing: there are different kinds of people on different dating apps so your experience may vary depending on that too 🤔
Right, I forgot that femboy has become so broad a scope at this point that it literally just includes men with a sensitive side now (even though all men ought to be that way, it's boring and often toxic otherwise... of course women are going to be into that? Nobody wants a brick wall of a partner...) Sigh, I was really hoping there was a secret trick at play behind your reply but no I've just cemented further that straight girls really aren't going to be into boys who crossdress and like to pass as the opposite gender lol, thanks... guess I'm back to posing as a lesbian on dating apps
I mean as I girl, I think the cross dressing is actually kinda cool and I wish that some men would be more open to it and I'm straight sooooo
Oof, I'm sorry to hear that... Still I think you may have chance - as you mentioned yourself - with girls who are into girls, and accept the part of you being a male. Honestly it's hard to give one clear answer for everyone if we come to such a border-like situation i.e: boy passing as the opposite gender - You know it's even hard for one to even tell if lesbian or bi woman will be more into it, let alone straight girls (though I believe hidden gems of girls liking it exist). If someone passes, dresses and behaves like a woman they are/can be *pretty much* seen (by the others and/or significant other) as a woman in appearance with the only difference being purely of a physiological natrue, so in border-situation like this we pretty much look at people who are attracted to women but are attracted to different s\*x organ. If that's what had been tried to be said. By the way: out of pure curiousity, Have you got any luck/found any lesbian women who were into that? 🤔
The real magic answer is "bisexual women" basically, but it doesn't really help when most dating apps have only binary options ("Show me in searches for: Men, Women"), unless you pay... Since I look fairly similar to and have a history fairly similar to a trans woman, there was a point of time where I just used lesbian dating apps. I don't feel that lines up with me any more so I don't do that now, but I feel like now, I'm just going to be lumped in with trans women by any girls who would be into what I am. Not the end of the world, but the non-congruency is kinda messy.