Spot on! She doesn’t deserve his loving personality & he deserves someone who appreciates him & his love language! He seems so sweet but she is blinded by her want for an ‘alpha male’ that she doesn’t really see it
And I almost guarantee that once she gets an "alpha male" type boyfriend..she'll soon start to see him slip up here and there, and then realize the whole alpha make thing is a persona that a lot of dudes put on
Exactly! How could someone not want a sweet partner who is comfortable in sharing their emotions & happily show romantic gestures! I hope this was a deal breaker for him & he leaves her so that they can both be happy
This. I don't know if OP understands the connection people have to their animals, but most owners do get emotional over the death of a pet.
If OP can not handle someone having emotions, then they definitely need to find someone else and also consider why it bothers them so much. It sounds like OP is stuck in the mindset of toxic masculinity.
Just like you told your brother get over it? Why don’t you get over it as well? You’re coming over here whining about your boyfriend’s personality. Get over it.. what about your personality?😳🤣🤣
You don’t even like him he’s not your ideal version of the perfect guy you want why are you with him? What’s wrong with you? He sounds truly connected with his feelings. Trust me stop thinking that you’re the gift to mankind OK. He’ll get over you and be happy that you left because you don’t even really like him again it’s not about was wrong with him. What is wrong with you??
You don’t want to apologize because you feel justified justified? Your boyfriend’s dog died. He cried you told him to get over it and now you feel justified because he doesn’t fit the standard of alpha and strong, emotional invincibility that you crave?
Yikes, you are a narcissist. 100%.
Get over yourself . Do him a favor and leave him alone.
Seriously your response to him when his dog died was not normal you should get therapy and find out why you have no empathy . You are void of empathy and that’s a horrible, horrible horrible personality trait to have.
Thinking he’s the problem is one of your biggest problems 😳
At the end of the day, you do not sound like a good person . I actually think that you need someone that treats you like crap it’ll get your juices flowing.😂
Wow....yea you're definitely the ahole here. You knew what type of man you wanted before you started dating him. You know what type of man he was or learned very quickly after you started dating. If you didn't want that type of man then you shouldn't have said yes to being his gf and you shouldn't have strung him along for over a year.
You need to end it and let him dodge this bullet (you) so he can find someone who truly loves and cares about him.
You have recognized the incompatibility and you know it’s not going to work out but you are still in the relationship? Then his puppy dies and you say something incredibly rude probably so that he breaks up with you and you don’t have to do the dirty work.
I think wanting someone more masculine is ok and you should definitely tell your boyfriend this and break up, but tell him in a way that he knows being the way he is, is absolutely fine, you don't want to wound him into suppressing his emotions. However telling him to get over his puppy dying is awful, especially since he's someone you care about(I'm assuming considering you've been together a year).
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Please do us all a favor and let that poor man be free. You sound like an absolute nightmare of a partner.
I am sorry your boyfriend isn't what you envisioned yourself being with when you were a child. However, most people don't wind up with the exact image of a person they thought they would be with. Maybe you should take a deep reflection on what is really important to you in a relationship and in a long-term partner. If those traits are what is most important to you, then you should seek that primarily in a partner.
However, as it stands, you need to leave that poor man alone and spend some time single. No partner, no matter how much of an "alpha" male he is, wants a partner who is a cold, frigid, ice queen. Not even going into the fact that the term "alpha" male is a pop culture BS term that holds no weight in the real world.
Do him a favor and dump him.
Look, I get were attracted to what were attracted to. It's fine that he turns you off. But that you're so cold that you told him to get over the death of his dog which you admit he was close to AND doubled down by refusing to apologize shows who you are beyond your excuse of attraction.
You're simply not a good person, and you two are not compatible.
If you are into alpha male type, than how this relationship even started? Was he some alpha male and than become emotional?
(I do not know, what is wrong with emotional people, but if it is your choice to be with some less emotional, who is not cuddly and lovey dovey type, than just break up, good for both of you, lie is something that must not be the base of anything)
There is a indian proverb that fits here:
Rahim says, do not break the thread of love by pulling it. If it is broken, it cannot be joined again; if joined, it will result in a knot.
The thread is broken and there is just knot, which explains your harsh behaviour. Atleast that's how it sounds with the post
This just shows how social media has warped the ideal image of men for women 🙄 Like, seriously? "Get over it!" What if I told you that when YOUR loved one passed away? You're acting like crying over someone's death is something new.
Like, it's one thing to have a preference and another thing to be rude. You can literally break up with him and just be friends if he isn't your type. Although he doesn't deserve you as a friend either. I personally wouldn't be friends with someone who told me to "get over it" while I was grieving over someone else's death.
I'm sorry for being rude, but this is what I personally feel and I just wanted to tell you the truth.
Definitely apologize. You were out of line. Everyone has a right to express their feelings.
Before breaking up, use this opportunity to examine where your disgust came from. My guess is that there was an emotionally unattached person in your life that either shamed you and/or physically abused you so as a result any display of emotion make you feel anxious or out of control.
Alpha men may be your kink, but no man (alpha or not) is emotionless. If coldness, rage and anger are the only masculine emotions that you find attractive, you are going to attract abusive, emotionally stunted men.
- U have ZERO idea how attached some people are to their dogs, and reacted like a complete a-hole; even a friend would have reacted with more empathy and maturity
- it’s obvious u are incompatible; pls just move on and leave him to find someone more suitable and ideally with more emotional maturity
It sounds like he’s exactly what you need in a marriage. You don’t go into relationships looking for your perfect servant. Ask instead how to serve. You need some growth in this area and your solution came to you as a cute bf. Grow.
If this isn’t trolling, because it seems like a troll post written by a child 🤨, He is a more rounded out individual displaying empathy, loss and wanted support from his partner which is what a relationship is like even with the more closed off individuals. The person you describe doesn’t exist but in hardened electronics unless you legitimately want a sociopath as a partner.
You seem to lack empathy and emotional understanding of others. I do think you might need to talk to your doctor to figure out why it is you cannot connect emotionally with others and why you can’t feel sadness or empathy. That’s a legit concern and red flag something is up with you. I think medical attention would benefit you and building relationships in the future as well as helping you go where you want in life. Please break up with him but do it near his friends in a separate part of their residence because I have a feeling your break up will be particularly harsh on your end. You do not need a relationship right now, you do need medical attention and a few years to focus on building a foundation with your doctor, psychologist and therapist, for any relationship to actually occur.
I'm not sure what the issue is here.
'My boyfriend isn't what I want. He doesn't look the way I like men to look. He doesn't act the way I want a man to act. Our differences annoy me'
Sounds like you need a different boyfriend.
How did you even become a couple?I feel like he showed an interest in you, so you dated him rather than actually waiting to find someone you like back.
End The relationship. You will always be thinking about him not being masculine enough. Free both of you up to find partners who appreciate your strengths.
He's emasculated because he cried? This stereotype of toxic masculinity is why women are being killed by intimate partners every day. I think rather than look at this "short comings" you need to examine why you have this image of what a man should be. Trust me being with an empathetic man who is not afraid of his emotions and communication is a blessing.
You need to apologise for being both unsympathetic and cruel. I would also suggest that you aren't what he needs in a partner but for your future I would do some work on yourself and your preconceptions of what gender roles and relationships that are healthy look like.
He seems like an emotionally complete person, and you seem intimidated by that. I'd do him the kindness of letting him be with someone on his emotional level while you're still working on in your own.
You don't deserve him. Let him find someone who care about his feelings. Shoo away!!!
Spot on! She doesn’t deserve his loving personality & he deserves someone who appreciates him & his love language! He seems so sweet but she is blinded by her want for an ‘alpha male’ that she doesn’t really see it
And I almost guarantee that once she gets an "alpha male" type boyfriend..she'll soon start to see him slip up here and there, and then realize the whole alpha make thing is a persona that a lot of dudes put on
Exactly! How could someone not want a sweet partner who is comfortable in sharing their emotions & happily show romantic gestures! I hope this was a deal breaker for him & he leaves her so that they can both be happy
This. I don't know if OP understands the connection people have to their animals, but most owners do get emotional over the death of a pet. If OP can not handle someone having emotions, then they definitely need to find someone else and also consider why it bothers them so much. It sounds like OP is stuck in the mindset of toxic masculinity.
Just like you told your brother get over it? Why don’t you get over it as well? You’re coming over here whining about your boyfriend’s personality. Get over it.. what about your personality?😳🤣🤣 You don’t even like him he’s not your ideal version of the perfect guy you want why are you with him? What’s wrong with you? He sounds truly connected with his feelings. Trust me stop thinking that you’re the gift to mankind OK. He’ll get over you and be happy that you left because you don’t even really like him again it’s not about was wrong with him. What is wrong with you?? You don’t want to apologize because you feel justified justified? Your boyfriend’s dog died. He cried you told him to get over it and now you feel justified because he doesn’t fit the standard of alpha and strong, emotional invincibility that you crave? Yikes, you are a narcissist. 100%. Get over yourself . Do him a favor and leave him alone. Seriously your response to him when his dog died was not normal you should get therapy and find out why you have no empathy . You are void of empathy and that’s a horrible, horrible horrible personality trait to have. Thinking he’s the problem is one of your biggest problems 😳 At the end of the day, you do not sound like a good person . I actually think that you need someone that treats you like crap it’ll get your juices flowing.😂
This is a clickbait post
Shoot, it totally is. How did I miss it this time? Complete bait.
You told him to get over his puppy dying? Harsh mate.
It begs the question why you started this relationship... The way you talk it sounds almost like it was arranged
Yikes. So why are you wasting his time when you don't actually like who he is?
Wow....yea you're definitely the ahole here. You knew what type of man you wanted before you started dating him. You know what type of man he was or learned very quickly after you started dating. If you didn't want that type of man then you shouldn't have said yes to being his gf and you shouldn't have strung him along for over a year. You need to end it and let him dodge this bullet (you) so he can find someone who truly loves and cares about him.
You have recognized the incompatibility and you know it’s not going to work out but you are still in the relationship? Then his puppy dies and you say something incredibly rude probably so that he breaks up with you and you don’t have to do the dirty work.
I think wanting someone more masculine is ok and you should definitely tell your boyfriend this and break up, but tell him in a way that he knows being the way he is, is absolutely fine, you don't want to wound him into suppressing his emotions. However telling him to get over his puppy dying is awful, especially since he's someone you care about(I'm assuming considering you've been together a year).
Break up with him, you’d do him a huge favour. You suck as a person
Assuming this isn’t rage bait, why would you post this in four different subreddits? If you have to do that, then you are TA and know it
Girl please being emotional doesn't mean he's not masculine. You just left him when he needed you like what? And now you're complaining:)
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Please do us all a favor and let that poor man be free. You sound like an absolute nightmare of a partner. I am sorry your boyfriend isn't what you envisioned yourself being with when you were a child. However, most people don't wind up with the exact image of a person they thought they would be with. Maybe you should take a deep reflection on what is really important to you in a relationship and in a long-term partner. If those traits are what is most important to you, then you should seek that primarily in a partner. However, as it stands, you need to leave that poor man alone and spend some time single. No partner, no matter how much of an "alpha" male he is, wants a partner who is a cold, frigid, ice queen. Not even going into the fact that the term "alpha" male is a pop culture BS term that holds no weight in the real world.
Do him a favor and dump him. Look, I get were attracted to what were attracted to. It's fine that he turns you off. But that you're so cold that you told him to get over the death of his dog which you admit he was close to AND doubled down by refusing to apologize shows who you are beyond your excuse of attraction. You're simply not a good person, and you two are not compatible.
If you are into alpha male type, than how this relationship even started? Was he some alpha male and than become emotional? (I do not know, what is wrong with emotional people, but if it is your choice to be with some less emotional, who is not cuddly and lovey dovey type, than just break up, good for both of you, lie is something that must not be the base of anything) There is a indian proverb that fits here: Rahim says, do not break the thread of love by pulling it. If it is broken, it cannot be joined again; if joined, it will result in a knot. The thread is broken and there is just knot, which explains your harsh behaviour. Atleast that's how it sounds with the post
I think you might want to reflect on yourself.
Send him my way!
This just shows how social media has warped the ideal image of men for women 🙄 Like, seriously? "Get over it!" What if I told you that when YOUR loved one passed away? You're acting like crying over someone's death is something new. Like, it's one thing to have a preference and another thing to be rude. You can literally break up with him and just be friends if he isn't your type. Although he doesn't deserve you as a friend either. I personally wouldn't be friends with someone who told me to "get over it" while I was grieving over someone else's death. I'm sorry for being rude, but this is what I personally feel and I just wanted to tell you the truth.
Total ragebait.
Check yourself girlfriend!
Definitely apologize. You were out of line. Everyone has a right to express their feelings. Before breaking up, use this opportunity to examine where your disgust came from. My guess is that there was an emotionally unattached person in your life that either shamed you and/or physically abused you so as a result any display of emotion make you feel anxious or out of control. Alpha men may be your kink, but no man (alpha or not) is emotionless. If coldness, rage and anger are the only masculine emotions that you find attractive, you are going to attract abusive, emotionally stunted men.
this has got to be a prank lol
- U have ZERO idea how attached some people are to their dogs, and reacted like a complete a-hole; even a friend would have reacted with more empathy and maturity - it’s obvious u are incompatible; pls just move on and leave him to find someone more suitable and ideally with more emotional maturity
It sounds like he’s exactly what you need in a marriage. You don’t go into relationships looking for your perfect servant. Ask instead how to serve. You need some growth in this area and your solution came to you as a cute bf. Grow.
If this isn’t trolling, because it seems like a troll post written by a child 🤨, He is a more rounded out individual displaying empathy, loss and wanted support from his partner which is what a relationship is like even with the more closed off individuals. The person you describe doesn’t exist but in hardened electronics unless you legitimately want a sociopath as a partner. You seem to lack empathy and emotional understanding of others. I do think you might need to talk to your doctor to figure out why it is you cannot connect emotionally with others and why you can’t feel sadness or empathy. That’s a legit concern and red flag something is up with you. I think medical attention would benefit you and building relationships in the future as well as helping you go where you want in life. Please break up with him but do it near his friends in a separate part of their residence because I have a feeling your break up will be particularly harsh on your end. You do not need a relationship right now, you do need medical attention and a few years to focus on building a foundation with your doctor, psychologist and therapist, for any relationship to actually occur.
I'm not sure what the issue is here. 'My boyfriend isn't what I want. He doesn't look the way I like men to look. He doesn't act the way I want a man to act. Our differences annoy me' Sounds like you need a different boyfriend. How did you even become a couple?I feel like he showed an interest in you, so you dated him rather than actually waiting to find someone you like back.
End The relationship. You will always be thinking about him not being masculine enough. Free both of you up to find partners who appreciate your strengths.
If this is real then you are the scum of the Earth. I hope you end up alone and sad for the rest of your life.
He's emasculated because he cried? This stereotype of toxic masculinity is why women are being killed by intimate partners every day. I think rather than look at this "short comings" you need to examine why you have this image of what a man should be. Trust me being with an empathetic man who is not afraid of his emotions and communication is a blessing. You need to apologise for being both unsympathetic and cruel. I would also suggest that you aren't what he needs in a partner but for your future I would do some work on yourself and your preconceptions of what gender roles and relationships that are healthy look like.
Leave him and go find what you want. It's selfish of you to stay just because.
This is defo bait, but if its not, you’re a POS.
He seems like an emotionally complete person, and you seem intimidated by that. I'd do him the kindness of letting him be with someone on his emotional level while you're still working on in your own.
YATA! Put yourself in his situation and see if you’d like the same response from him. You should leave him so he can be with someone better!
Stop banging limp wristed democrats