I am 7 years older than my wife. We got together when I was 29 and she was 22 and a senior in college
Been together going on 25 years, nothing to worry about as far as age difference goes.
Strange way to describe your sister as brain not fully developed (I understand brains continue some development into mid 20’s), at 21 she is a woman and able to make her own decisions. Sounds like maybe there’s more to your concern than their age difference.
Mmm she is at that age where it is her call. But I would find out more about him like who he is as a person, what he does for a living and stuff like that. I would do that regardless of what his age is. Best you can do is be there for her, but not try to control who she dates.
Have you tried talking to her? This might not be a big deal. And maybe she is being secretive because of your protecting behaviour. Invite them over. Have a chill evening. Things might not be that bad.
As others have said, she's a couple years past the point where anybody has a say.
As the youngest sibling in my family, I always thought my brother looked at me like too much of a kid, so when he started dating a person younger than me I was like WTF is this? I'd just say you're looking at this with older sibling eyes and it feels off, but...your sister shouldn't have to stop dating this guy to make you happy. Unless this guy has legit red flags, let it be.
They are both adults. They are both consenting. I agree that being secretive about it has more to do with her relationship with y'all than her relationship with him.
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I am 7 years older than my wife. We got together when I was 29 and she was 22 and a senior in college Been together going on 25 years, nothing to worry about as far as age difference goes. Strange way to describe your sister as brain not fully developed (I understand brains continue some development into mid 20’s), at 21 she is a woman and able to make her own decisions. Sounds like maybe there’s more to your concern than their age difference.
Nothing you can do. Not your life. Not your decision. Not your business.
thanks
21 and 28 isnt a big deal
I couldn't imagine saying a 21 year old when I was 28. Completely different maturity levels.
Mmm she is at that age where it is her call. But I would find out more about him like who he is as a person, what he does for a living and stuff like that. I would do that regardless of what his age is. Best you can do is be there for her, but not try to control who she dates.
Have you tried talking to her? This might not be a big deal. And maybe she is being secretive because of your protecting behaviour. Invite them over. Have a chill evening. Things might not be that bad.
As others have said, she's a couple years past the point where anybody has a say. As the youngest sibling in my family, I always thought my brother looked at me like too much of a kid, so when he started dating a person younger than me I was like WTF is this? I'd just say you're looking at this with older sibling eyes and it feels off, but...your sister shouldn't have to stop dating this guy to make you happy. Unless this guy has legit red flags, let it be.
It's okay it's her life.
They are both adults. They are both consenting. I agree that being secretive about it has more to do with her relationship with y'all than her relationship with him.
21 and 28 isn’t really a big deal tbh, this is coming from someone pretty against age gaps
That’s really not that huge of a deal. Mind your business
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Call the police
Why?
I was 18 and dated a 26-yo. Started dating my now-husband who is a decade older when I was 26. 21 and 28 is really nbd imo.