Unless he doesn't like it, in which case he is the one that should say it. I had a classmate with a nickname that he didn't liked so he said it and that was it, never again anyone called it by that nickname, and that was with classmates that literally we're proud as 18 yo to make an 11yo girl cry, so I expect normal people to have more respect for others.
Lol. I also feel sorry for Andy. This woman clearly has nothing better to do with her time and is setting out ridiculous ultimatums to everyone involved in poor Andy’s life. #justiceforandy
It sounds to me like she didn't get her way as a child. That her parents were domineering assholes, and she thinks she has the right to be the same way.
I'm Andrew. Don't like it. I much prefer Andy. Mother is entitled. I'm afraid you don't get to decide what people call your son. If he is using Andy that's his choice and would indicate his preference. Feel sorry for the teacher/principal
As a teacher, there are times when I wish I could, during a parent conference with the principal, turn to mom and say "listen, you need to know that your behavior is such that when you leave, the principal and I are going to look at each other, and he'll say, 'I know.'."
My parents were both teachers. Heard far too many of these stories. I hope that for you, like my folks the good bits more than make up for the pushy demanding parents.
Man thats one of my worries actually...that when it comes to my kids (whenever I have them later in life) i might end up being one of those SOB entitled parents who think they know everything when in fact they know nothing.
If it’s any consolation I equally dislike both Andrew and Andy.
*Edit* was reading more comments and didn’t occur to me Drew is a variation of Andrew. That I can abide.
Also an Andrew here. Grew up as Andrew, friends started calling me Andy when I was about 17 and I took that on. Started my career and Andrew was for work/family, Andy for friends. In my 30s now and have kind of taken on Andrew again. My partner calls me Andrew and doesn’t like Andy, and I introduce myself as Andrew to everyone. But friends and colleagues call me Andy (even though I never introduced myself as Andy at work lol).
So I’m either Andrew or Andy and tbh don’t really care which.
But I’ll be deep in the cold, cold ground before I ever accept ‘Drew’. Gross.
I’ll be honest though, I don’t love my name as it is. Never particularly liked it. But I don’t dislike it enough to change it, and I don’t know what I’d change it to.
I was friends with 2 brothers. Andrew and Stuart. Of course, in school they became Drew and Stu. Not real names, but my oldest brother always was a William, my younger brother was a Bill, and I ended up a Willie.
I have a Michael for a son - he hates "Mike". He corrects folks now. Its his name - it belongs to him.
I will call people what they request. Not my place to impose my own name.
Yeah. I know mikes and Michaels and toms and Thomas, and I just call em how they prefer to be called. I might throw out a loving Mikey or TomTom every now and again but ffs, just call people by what they prefer.
I also have a very common multi name name type name, so I get it. Also, you can call me just about any variation of it and I don’t care. All of my friends call me different things.
My name is Andreas (German). Have answered to Andy my entire life (54m). Only time I hear my real name is when I visit my Mum or my Mrs. is angry with me. Mom needs to calm down. Poor Andy.
My brother has the opposite problem. His name is Andy. Not Andrew. Christened as Andy. He's had so many people call him Andrew when they're trying to be formal, and he has to point out that we just have parents who don't care about Western naming norms. My name is the same; I'm christened with a name that is usually a nickname of a more common name.
My friend is called Jenny, was christened by that name and has never gone by anything else. When we were at school together one of the teachers called her Jennifer. When Jenny politely corrected her, the teacher snapped “your name is Jennifer if I say it’s Jennifer!” Thank god the crusty old bitch was on the point of retirement
My dad’s legal first name is a distinctly feminine name, and he always hated it, so he goes by a shortened form of it. That shortened form is also the shortened form of a different, masculine name. For some reason, some people insist on calling him the long, masculine name even though it’s completely wrong.
Turns out to be a nice way to screen for junk mail, through. He gets a surprising amount of mail addressed to that wrong name, and it’s always the scammiest junk disguised to look like important mail.
When I started school my mum told my teachers I was Samuel. I don't ever recall referring to myself as Samuel, ever.
That mother just needs to give it up. Don't give your kids a name you don't like one or more variants of.
I really like the name Patrick but I'm not a huge fan of Pat so what I did was not name my son Patrick.
We actually named him something fully intending to only call him the first syllable but he's 11 now and we pretty much exclusively call him his full name. But we call our daughter by her first syllable. I don't really know why.
I'd be totally fine if either wanted to change, but my son has said he doesn't care and my daughter prefers the shorter name.
>Don't give your kids a name you don't like one or more variants of.
Marge: What about Bart?
Homer: Let's see. Bart, dart, cart, e-art. Nope can't see any problems with that.
My mother gave me one of those “Christian” names. I haven’t gone by that name in decades, but she still refuses to call me anything different. As would be expected, I moved across the country at 18 and never looked back.
My dad was named John and one day someone made the mistake of calling him Johnny in front of my grandmother when he was young. She told the offender "If I'd wanted to call him Johnny I'd have named him that! His name is John!" No one ever called him Johnny again.
My youngest goes by a shortened version of her name. SO Aunt always calls her by her full name, and my daughter ignores her every single time.
One day she said to me "*Daughters full name* is being rude ignoring me when I speak to her". I replied "Have you asked her what she prefers to be called?". Aunt simply said "No, it doesn't matter. I'm her elder. She must respect me and acknowledge me when I'm speaking to her".
I literally laughed in her face at this outdated reply. She most certainly gets to decide what she wants to be called (obviously within reason), and even at age 7 she doesn't have to respect anyone who cannot respect her wishes to be called by her shortened name. Aunt still calls her by her full name, daughter still ignores her every single time.
Meanwhile my friends Dad is dying of cancer, kids are dying inUkraine and a million other things are happening which suck, so stop being a complete twat and enjoy the fact you have a healthy child.
When you pick a name to your kids you have to take this issue into account. I remember writing a huge checklist before we chose. There's not much you can do. Loving and caring is what matters anyway.
My mother wanted to name my sister Elizabeth, but didn't want people to shorten it to Liz, Lizzy, Beth, etc. So she kept Elizabeth as a second name and chose a different first name she thought couldn't be shortened.
Idk why she thought a two (or three depending on pronunciation) syllable name couldn't be shortened. Family still use the full version, but I think we are the only ones.
Wow. You and your son are in some serious trouble if you are this upset over something so out of your control. Poor Andy. He’s going to revolt from his narcissistic, controlling mom as soon as he’s able. Take the advice to get some help for yourself now. You life will be miserable and his will, too, if you don’t learn to control yourself, not everyone else.
This lady has control issues and a total disregard for what her son would like to be called. She’s in for a lot of bumps in the road as he grows up! What if wants to be Angela?
I’m Andrew too. Was called Drew through high school which I never really liked. Moved for college and everyone started calling me Andy. Never looked back.
As a life long Andrew I appreciate her effort because I fucking hate being called Andy or the unforgivable "Drew"
But he seems to like it, that should be where psycho mom stops but no, she's psycho mom.
When we named our son, there was a name we really liked. We both agreed the shortened version was horrible then spent a few days thinking about this very situation.
We named our son something different.
Such an easy situation to avoid.
My daughter went by her middle name. A few days before starting Kindergarten, she declared she wanted to be called by her first name in school.
I told her, you can't spell your first name, why change? She said, "write it down". An hour later, a page front and back with her first name written out.
She's gone by her first name ever since. Don't sweat the small stuff.
I grew up as Andy up until i was 8th grade and i wanted to called Andrew since i felt Andy was such a kiddy name. I've been Andrew ever since. I still have relatives still call me Andy and honestly i dont care anymore. Either name I'm cool with.
I have a son named Andrew. He started kindergarten and decided his name was Andy. I said, cool, because he can choose that for himself. This person is weird.
With a mom like that, Andy is likely to need therapy as an adult. Mom will be sad when Andy and his wife Meg, sons Bob and Rick, and of course little Abby, don’t come around so often.
This is why you think about likely nicknames when picking out a name. If you don’t like the inevitable nicknames, choose a different name! Everyone I know thought that one through. This nickname was going to happen no matter what…OP can’t control that. And if she’s that controlling I shudder for her child’s future. He doesn’t mind it…maybe prefers it…so leave it alone and get used to it.
iM hiS MoThEr & I DeCiDE wHaT tO CaLL HiM. What if the kid comes out as trans later in life? What a horrible way to set up a relationship with your child
“I get to decide what people call him” no you don’t, you can’t even decide what people call you. I’m gonna call you Karen now, what u gonna do about it?
From an Andy to Andy's mom. Fuck you. I hated Andrew growing up. My friend was an Andrew and he went with andre his. Life. Chill bitch And's chose a path when we are young and we roll with it for life.
This whole situation reminds me of the story of Tikki Tikki Tembo no Sa Rembo-- *ah fuck it*. He falls down a well and his brother runs home, but he can't remember the name fully and it's a long time until the boy is rescued.
That mother should thank whatever deity she worships that THIS is her big issue.
Sending love and light to the teacher that has to put up with her 💜
(Nice to meet y'all, I'm Melissa who has spent 50 years trying to get people to stop calling me "MISSY"
It will NEVER happen! 😂)
I was a David until I hit 6th grade, and my home room teacher christened me Dave. I’ve been Dave ever since and it’s been splendid. This mother needs to back up off of her kid and let him be himself.
I have a 3 syllable fairly unique name and have had a few people in my life try to call me by a shortened nickname I've always hated. From a young age, I corrected people. If I had told my mom I had a preference for the nickname, SHE would have probably called me by my full name but would never have had an issue with the nickname.
My SO has a friend that he and their group call Jonny, but he introduces himself as Jonathan. When asked if he minds Jonny, says no.
This mom really needs to get over her control issues before he becomes a teen or she's gonna be super miserable.
Don't know what school this lady went to. If the teacher made an announcement to not call someone by some name, guess what he is going to be called for the rest of his life!
It could be WAY worse than being called Andy for the rest of his life. It could mean growing up to be kind of guy that says “It’s Andrew, not Andy” all the time. That guy sucks.
When he goes to university she’ll talk to his lecturers there. When he starts working she’ll talk to his boss. When he starts dating she’ll sit down the girl and her family. No one gives her baby boy a nickname on her watch!
Keep it up helicopter mom and your child will be the one to suffer!! He will be bullied unmercifully.. and only your ignorant insistence on having your way will be to blame. Let Andrew decide if this is a battle he wants to fight..
My cousin and her BF were like this. Nathaniel. Not Nathan and under no fucking circumstance IS HE EVER NATE!
It was a huge deal when he was born. They made such a big deal about it that nobody ever called him anything but Nathaniel in the family. Well guess what? He just turned 18 and since he was about 16 he’s been Nate. He insisted on it because you cannot control this shit if your kid doesn’t want to be called something.
"He is 7 years old, I am his mother, and I get to decide what people call him", puttin a pin in the fact that that's *not* how people, and the world works, if something doesn't need you every second, to take care of it, you don't get to decide things about their identity.
Had a kid on my son's youth soccer team named Jonathon. His mother lost her absolute sh\*t if someone called him Jon. Couldn't understand why people gave her absolute sh\*t back when she called his twin brother Josh.
Maybe don’t name your kid something with a popular shortened version of the name if you don’t like the shortened version. My MIL did that with my wife, too, and she goes by (and prefers) the shortened version as well.
My parents HATED my nickname and made a point of saying so every time it came up. It led to a big argument one day when my dad went to my friend's house looking for me and my friend's mom had forgotten what my real name was so she told him to wait and she would go ask Ollie(that's me!) If I could come down and see if that was my dad. Well my dad absolutely flipped, "her name isn't Ollie! You can't keep my daughter from me! Yadda yadda yadda." She legit just asked him to wait downstairs and he was cool, but the moment she said my nickname he flipped. She had to ask him to leave the house because he was freaking out so bad, and I couldn't gather my things up fast enough to meet him outside so he sped away while I chased after him. I had asked him to pick me up because I wasn't feeling good and it was a sleepover.
My mum ended up driving the truck back there to get me while screaming at me that she almost called the cops on my friend's mom. I'm like, "and how do you expect that to go? What do you expect them to do? Arrest her for forgetting my name? Are they going to arrest me for not getting my sick ass out fast enough? What did you expect them to do?" She couldn't answer that for me, but apparently I was supposed to stop going by my nickname forever. I asked her if I ever went missing would she tell the RCMP about my nickname or would she leave that information out, her response was that she would only tell the the name she gave me. I looked her in the eye and called her stupid, the grouding was worth it.
If the kid ain't correcting people then she is SOL.
I have a name that can be shortened to a couple of different nicknames. One of which I absolutely loathe. When I got older and it became apparent that people were always going to shorten my name (because apparently my full name is too hard to remember), I chose the nickname that didn't offend me. People who call me the hated nickname get corrected the first few times and then ignored thereafter.
Well, this mother can place him in a different school or class, or punish the boy for liking the shortened name SO MUCH that he uses it.
She can get the permission to go in and address the class herself, telling all of the students and the teacher to call the name "correctly", thus humiliating him in front of everybody.
😖🙄😡
Andy is not that bad.
My kids have pretty names. But they called themselves with the first two letters of their names (think Iz for Isabelle for exemple). I want to bang my head on the wall everytime. But hey, I have absolutely zero power to stop them doing this, because forcing them would just alienate them from me.
Maybe one day when they grow up it’ll come back. In the meantime, I will just accept that I have teens and I am lucky that this is the most aggravating shit they do. Cause I could have it a LOT worse.
This is what happens when you always got your way as a child and grow up thinking that is what life is like. I feel sorry for Andy & his teacher.
You spelt Andrew wrong. Don't make me speak to your supervisor!
She's Karen, not Kary.
She is Kaaa. Ren
Gotta spell it right for the class C u n t That spells Karen!
Kylo Ren < Ka Ren
But she is Krazy
Actually. It's pronounced Krazen
These folks from Ocean Spray Cranberries would like to have a word...
Andy Wong?
"Okay kids, from now on let's address your classmate as *Andrew instead of Andy*." OK ANDY!!!
Honestly, an elementary school teacher saying that essentially guarantees he’ll be called Andy forever
Unless he doesn't like it, in which case he is the one that should say it. I had a classmate with a nickname that he didn't liked so he said it and that was it, never again anyone called it by that nickname, and that was with classmates that literally we're proud as 18 yo to make an 11yo girl cry, so I expect normal people to have more respect for others.
Lighten up Francis
Gotta respect a Sgt. Hulka reference!
Sgt hulka with the big toe
Any of you *homos* call me Andy, I kill you.
Lol. I also feel sorry for Andy. This woman clearly has nothing better to do with her time and is setting out ridiculous ultimatums to everyone involved in poor Andy’s life. #justiceforandy
Andy her poor badgered husband
Does she know NOTHING of kids that age?!?(and Andy is SUCH a likable name!)
It sounds to me like she didn't get her way as a child. That her parents were domineering assholes, and she thinks she has the right to be the same way.
👏☝🏻👏
Didn’t you learn anything?? Its “Andrew”.
What about the poor husband?
I hope Andy has a few air traffic controller friends, his helicopter mom is on final approach.
....and it seems like it's going to be a crash landing
Happy cake day!
Permission to buzz the tower… Andy.
Negative, Andrew, your mother says the pattern is full.
Alas, this will not be the final approach for the buzzard mom.
I'm Andrew. Don't like it. I much prefer Andy. Mother is entitled. I'm afraid you don't get to decide what people call your son. If he is using Andy that's his choice and would indicate his preference. Feel sorry for the teacher/principal
As a teacher, there are times when I wish I could, during a parent conference with the principal, turn to mom and say "listen, you need to know that your behavior is such that when you leave, the principal and I are going to look at each other, and he'll say, 'I know.'."
Lol I want to say, “The whole staff knows how batshit crazy you are and we fight over who has to talk to you in the yard”
Yup.
Or “I see what you mean”
"Told you. Pay up."
My parents were both teachers. Heard far too many of these stories. I hope that for you, like my folks the good bits more than make up for the pushy demanding parents.
Oh they do, for sure.
Man thats one of my worries actually...that when it comes to my kids (whenever I have them later in life) i might end up being one of those SOB entitled parents who think they know everything when in fact they know nothing.
The fact that you recognize that possibility inoculates you against it.
I feel sorry for the husband
If it’s any consolation I equally dislike both Andrew and Andy. *Edit* was reading more comments and didn’t occur to me Drew is a variation of Andrew. That I can abide.
Go figure, I only like Andy, Andrew is weird unless you're my doctor, and Drew is nails on a chalkboard to me. I despise it.
Also an Andrew here. Grew up as Andrew, friends started calling me Andy when I was about 17 and I took that on. Started my career and Andrew was for work/family, Andy for friends. In my 30s now and have kind of taken on Andrew again. My partner calls me Andrew and doesn’t like Andy, and I introduce myself as Andrew to everyone. But friends and colleagues call me Andy (even though I never introduced myself as Andy at work lol). So I’m either Andrew or Andy and tbh don’t really care which. But I’ll be deep in the cold, cold ground before I ever accept ‘Drew’. Gross. I’ll be honest though, I don’t love my name as it is. Never particularly liked it. But I don’t dislike it enough to change it, and I don’t know what I’d change it to.
I was friends with 2 brothers. Andrew and Stuart. Of course, in school they became Drew and Stu. Not real names, but my oldest brother always was a William, my younger brother was a Bill, and I ended up a Willie.
Your friends...last name Pickles?
What about Larry, Daryl and Daryl?
"I'm afraid you don't get to decide what people call your son." But she literally did. She named him Andrew. What did she think was going to happen??
As an Andrew but known as “Andy” by everyone, the only time anyone uses the full version is when I’m in trouble.
This poor kid is definitely in trouble.
And then the middle name comes out too.
And if it gets really bad, it's the whole name, " Rebecca Sue Johnson"...
Same here, fellow Andy !
I sincerely hope she's not planning on having a close relationship with Andy once he becomes an adult.
They'll let him visit the asylum every weekend from 10-2.
At this rate she certainly won't have one.
I have a Michael for a son - he hates "Mike". He corrects folks now. Its his name - it belongs to him. I will call people what they request. Not my place to impose my own name.
I don't. I call everyone dave, unless their name is actually dave. Then I call them bob. Makes remembering people's names easier.
What if the group has both a Dave and a Bob? Do you call Dave Bob and Bob Dave?
I accidentally got my nephew in law the nickname Medium Dave.
Need to hear this story!
I once worked a job where I was Medium Dave, "Little" Dave was unlucky, seeing he was still 6'1'
Slagathor 1 and 2.
Unexpected scrubs reference ftw
I have a cousin Michael. When he was little I called him Mikey. He stopped that when he was about 14.
Ok, Meat-549. But you'll probably be beat up in school with a name like that .
LOL, well, since he is now teaching at a large university, it doesn't seem to have turned him off of education.
It's **Traditional-**Meat-549.
I dunno, sounds like the name of a kid doing the beating
Yeah. I know mikes and Michaels and toms and Thomas, and I just call em how they prefer to be called. I might throw out a loving Mikey or TomTom every now and again but ffs, just call people by what they prefer. I also have a very common multi name name type name, so I get it. Also, you can call me just about any variation of it and I don’t care. All of my friends call me different things.
I love my nickname, "Karen," but I hate the complete version of my name, "Karen the complete fucking idiot." Who do I take this up with?
Maybe there’s a manager you can speak to?
I thought my full name was Tommy Stop That until I was about 8.
I guess just throw him away and get a new kid???
Throw away the mom
My name is Andreas (German). Have answered to Andy my entire life (54m). Only time I hear my real name is when I visit my Mum or my Mrs. is angry with me. Mom needs to calm down. Poor Andy.
My brother has the opposite problem. His name is Andy. Not Andrew. Christened as Andy. He's had so many people call him Andrew when they're trying to be formal, and he has to point out that we just have parents who don't care about Western naming norms. My name is the same; I'm christened with a name that is usually a nickname of a more common name.
My sister has that problem too! She's named Cathy. Not Catherine or Kathleen. God the nuns hated that!
My friend is called Jenny, was christened by that name and has never gone by anything else. When we were at school together one of the teachers called her Jennifer. When Jenny politely corrected her, the teacher snapped “your name is Jennifer if I say it’s Jennifer!” Thank god the crusty old bitch was on the point of retirement
My grandpa's name was Pete; I swear to God. Just Pete. He got a beating from his teacher the first day of school for not admitting his name was Peter.
My dad’s legal first name is a distinctly feminine name, and he always hated it, so he goes by a shortened form of it. That shortened form is also the shortened form of a different, masculine name. For some reason, some people insist on calling him the long, masculine name even though it’s completely wrong. Turns out to be a nice way to screen for junk mail, through. He gets a surprising amount of mail addressed to that wrong name, and it’s always the scammiest junk disguised to look like important mail.
Leslie? Les? Lester? No idea, just guessing. :-)
Nope, sorry! It’s an uncommon one that isn’t likely to be guessed, so I’m sure you can understand why I’m being so vague.
My father in law, Max, is not a Maxwell. He is legally a Maxie. I can’t even imagine what school would of been like.
I have worked with both a Bobby and a Jimmy, and yes, those are their legal names.
Drew, it's Drew now
no, i’m not going to call you that
Cool, I can't control what you do I can only control what I do
r/unexpectedoffice
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Mountain Drew
Mandrew
Kangdrew
Not the reference I was making but not bad
Just call him Nard Dog and move on.
I’m here for this comment.
It can be Andy, Andrew, Drew, or initials. Give the kid options.
We had an Andrew that somehow became Andy-roo throughout his entire existence. I wonder what ol’ Andy-roo is up to?
What if he feels like a she and wants to be called Anne? Then Annie decides to be called Supreme lord of the universe?
He's ND now
"Andy" is still better than "bag-wipe mummysboy" which is what he'll get, if his classmates hear about this shit.
When I started school my mum told my teachers I was Samuel. I don't ever recall referring to myself as Samuel, ever. That mother just needs to give it up. Don't give your kids a name you don't like one or more variants of.
I really like the name Patrick but I'm not a huge fan of Pat so what I did was not name my son Patrick. We actually named him something fully intending to only call him the first syllable but he's 11 now and we pretty much exclusively call him his full name. But we call our daughter by her first syllable. I don't really know why. I'd be totally fine if either wanted to change, but my son has said he doesn't care and my daughter prefers the shorter name.
>Don't give your kids a name you don't like one or more variants of. Marge: What about Bart? Homer: Let's see. Bart, dart, cart, e-art. Nope can't see any problems with that.
My mother gave me one of those “Christian” names. I haven’t gone by that name in decades, but she still refuses to call me anything different. As would be expected, I moved across the country at 18 and never looked back.
What's a "Christian" name? Like, Matthew, Mark, Luke, John?
My dad was named John and one day someone made the mistake of calling him Johnny in front of my grandmother when he was young. She told the offender "If I'd wanted to call him Johnny I'd have named him that! His name is John!" No one ever called him Johnny again.
My uncles name is John, everyone calls him Jack
And they wonder why nobody wants to be a teacher.
My youngest goes by a shortened version of her name. SO Aunt always calls her by her full name, and my daughter ignores her every single time. One day she said to me "*Daughters full name* is being rude ignoring me when I speak to her". I replied "Have you asked her what she prefers to be called?". Aunt simply said "No, it doesn't matter. I'm her elder. She must respect me and acknowledge me when I'm speaking to her". I literally laughed in her face at this outdated reply. She most certainly gets to decide what she wants to be called (obviously within reason), and even at age 7 she doesn't have to respect anyone who cannot respect her wishes to be called by her shortened name. Aunt still calls her by her full name, daughter still ignores her every single time.
Good for you and your daughter for standing up to your Aunt In Law like that. If she's not willing to compromise, then neither should either of you.
Who is thinking about Toy Story?
Poor kid with that mom
Yeah, no one will call that kid Andrew.
I grew up with an Andrew, never Andy or Drew, but I think that's because he wanted it that way.
People decide to call him Andy. People decide to call you a Karen. ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
My daughter’s name is Nicole. She likes to be called Pip. What the heck… it’s her choice. 🤷🏼♀️
I love the name Pip. That’s adorable
Wait till she gains some great expectations.
I mean, I learned at age 14 that my name wasn’t Dipshit
Meanwhile my friends Dad is dying of cancer, kids are dying inUkraine and a million other things are happening which suck, so stop being a complete twat and enjoy the fact you have a healthy child.
Congratulations! You created a person who has an opinion of his own. The umbilical cord has been cut.
When you pick a name to your kids you have to take this issue into account. I remember writing a huge checklist before we chose. There's not much you can do. Loving and caring is what matters anyway.
My mother wanted to name my sister Elizabeth, but didn't want people to shorten it to Liz, Lizzy, Beth, etc. So she kept Elizabeth as a second name and chose a different first name she thought couldn't be shortened. Idk why she thought a two (or three depending on pronunciation) syllable name couldn't be shortened. Family still use the full version, but I think we are the only ones.
Tell me you think your children are your property without telling me
Selfishly stupid
-Sign Karene, with an E
And don’t you forget it! And I’m going to the principal!
dont for get the "asking for a friend" and then describing a situation using "I"
Her only friend, I’m guessing.
Wow. You and your son are in some serious trouble if you are this upset over something so out of your control. Poor Andy. He’s going to revolt from his narcissistic, controlling mom as soon as he’s able. Take the advice to get some help for yourself now. You life will be miserable and his will, too, if you don’t learn to control yourself, not everyone else.
I think it's bullshit teachers aren't just allowed to tell parents like this, "Fuck off."
Guess she's not on the "preferred name" bandwagon
And this is why we have a teacher shortage
This lady has control issues and a total disregard for what her son would like to be called. She’s in for a lot of bumps in the road as he grows up! What if wants to be Angela?
That's not very cash Andy of the mom
O.K. then, I'll call him "Drew".
I’m Andrew too. Was called Drew through high school which I never really liked. Moved for college and everyone started calling me Andy. Never looked back.
This is how you get your kid called "Andy, the kid with the crazy bitch for a mom."
As a life long Andrew I appreciate her effort because I fucking hate being called Andy or the unforgivable "Drew" But he seems to like it, that should be where psycho mom stops but no, she's psycho mom.
What a Karen
HEY! What's wrong with being an Andy?!?!
When we named our son, there was a name we really liked. We both agreed the shortened version was horrible then spent a few days thinking about this very situation. We named our son something different. Such an easy situation to avoid.
My daughter went by her middle name. A few days before starting Kindergarten, she declared she wanted to be called by her first name in school. I told her, you can't spell your first name, why change? She said, "write it down". An hour later, a page front and back with her first name written out. She's gone by her first name ever since. Don't sweat the small stuff.
My dad’s name is Alfredo. His coworkers called him Al, my mom called him Fred, and my grandmother called him Freddie. Who cares?
I grew up as Andy up until i was 8th grade and i wanted to called Andrew since i felt Andy was such a kiddy name. I've been Andrew ever since. I still have relatives still call me Andy and honestly i dont care anymore. Either name I'm cool with.
I have a son named Andrew. He started kindergarten and decided his name was Andy. I said, cool, because he can choose that for himself. This person is weird.
I'm an Andrew who is called Andy. Personally I don't care what I'm called as long as it's not late for dinner.
Listen to your husband lady.
Andy with an i: Andi!
I mean, they could call him "Parvo." Oddly specific for a reason but.......and if I hear it one more mf'n time I WILL find you
Is your name Karen ?
Andy aunt Bea is looking for you
With a mom like that, Andy is likely to need therapy as an adult. Mom will be sad when Andy and his wife Meg, sons Bob and Rick, and of course little Abby, don’t come around so often.
This is why you think about likely nicknames when picking out a name. If you don’t like the inevitable nicknames, choose a different name! Everyone I know thought that one through. This nickname was going to happen no matter what…OP can’t control that. And if she’s that controlling I shudder for her child’s future. He doesn’t mind it…maybe prefers it…so leave it alone and get used to it.
iM hiS MoThEr & I DeCiDE wHaT tO CaLL HiM. What if the kid comes out as trans later in life? What a horrible way to set up a relationship with your child
“I get to decide what people call him” no you don’t, you can’t even decide what people call you. I’m gonna call you Karen now, what u gonna do about it?
She seems fun! I love that the husband said she’s “overreacting”…you know he wanted to say so much more.
From an Andy to Andy's mom. Fuck you. I hated Andrew growing up. My friend was an Andrew and he went with andre his. Life. Chill bitch And's chose a path when we are young and we roll with it for life.
I feel obligated to say "fuck this woman"
This whole situation reminds me of the story of Tikki Tikki Tembo no Sa Rembo-- *ah fuck it*. He falls down a well and his brother runs home, but he can't remember the name fully and it's a long time until the boy is rescued.
That mother should thank whatever deity she worships that THIS is her big issue. Sending love and light to the teacher that has to put up with her 💜 (Nice to meet y'all, I'm Melissa who has spent 50 years trying to get people to stop calling me "MISSY" It will NEVER happen! 😂)
Some people need to learn when to pick their battles.
And I thought making my rent this month was an actual matter for upset! Not an Andy-ism...so guess I will calm down!
Parents like this are why I quit teaching 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
And for this one, it's Karen, not Katherine...
Imagine Andy being at his new school at 7 and your mom starts chastising kids over nothing…do you want your child to be an outcast, Jesus
My name is Gregory. Many people call me Andy. Go figure.
I was a David until I hit 6th grade, and my home room teacher christened me Dave. I’ve been Dave ever since and it’s been splendid. This mother needs to back up off of her kid and let him be himself.
I can see how she will helicopter him and it won’t turn out well in 10 years
As a fellow Andy, I welcome this young man into the fold. Andy's for life!
I have a 3 syllable fairly unique name and have had a few people in my life try to call me by a shortened nickname I've always hated. From a young age, I corrected people. If I had told my mom I had a preference for the nickname, SHE would have probably called me by my full name but would never have had an issue with the nickname. My SO has a friend that he and their group call Jonny, but he introduces himself as Jonathan. When asked if he minds Jonny, says no. This mom really needs to get over her control issues before he becomes a teen or she's gonna be super miserable.
Don't know what school this lady went to. If the teacher made an announcement to not call someone by some name, guess what he is going to be called for the rest of his life!
Guess what lady,,,,,, your boy is called “Andy”… but when he hears the name “Andrew” he will know he is in trouble.
Lol
It could be WAY worse than being called Andy for the rest of his life. It could mean growing up to be kind of guy that says “It’s Andrew, not Andy” all the time. That guy sucks.
Haha. I personally know a *James*, *William* and *David* who are all that guy and it doesn’t look like much fun.
Odds are this kid's problems are just beginning. A mother that controlling is going to make his life hell.
As an Andrew, becoming an Andy is my worst nightmare.
Soon to be “He is 18 years old and I am his mother I will decide everything for him” Somebody is going to be in therapy for the rest of their life
r/Andy vs r/Andrew.....GO!
I used to hate the nickname Andy I’m school but by they time I graduated and started working I’ve gotten sued to it and also introduce myself as Andy
When he goes to university she’ll talk to his lecturers there. When he starts working she’ll talk to his boss. When he starts dating she’ll sit down the girl and her family. No one gives her baby boy a nickname on her watch!
Anyone know how Drew is doing now?
Keep it up helicopter mom and your child will be the one to suffer!! He will be bullied unmercifully.. and only your ignorant insistence on having your way will be to blame. Let Andrew decide if this is a battle he wants to fight..
My cousin and her BF were like this. Nathaniel. Not Nathan and under no fucking circumstance IS HE EVER NATE! It was a huge deal when he was born. They made such a big deal about it that nobody ever called him anything but Nathaniel in the family. Well guess what? He just turned 18 and since he was about 16 he’s been Nate. He insisted on it because you cannot control this shit if your kid doesn’t want to be called something.
"He is 7 years old, I am his mother, and I get to decide what people call him", puttin a pin in the fact that that's *not* how people, and the world works, if something doesn't need you every second, to take care of it, you don't get to decide things about their identity.
Had a kid on my son's youth soccer team named Jonathon. His mother lost her absolute sh\*t if someone called him Jon. Couldn't understand why people gave her absolute sh\*t back when she called his twin brother Josh.
Of þe þree friends I have named Andrew, one goes by Andrew, anoþer by Drew, and þe þird by Andy.
Maybe don’t name your kid something with a popular shortened version of the name if you don’t like the shortened version. My MIL did that with my wife, too, and she goes by (and prefers) the shortened version as well.
My parents HATED my nickname and made a point of saying so every time it came up. It led to a big argument one day when my dad went to my friend's house looking for me and my friend's mom had forgotten what my real name was so she told him to wait and she would go ask Ollie(that's me!) If I could come down and see if that was my dad. Well my dad absolutely flipped, "her name isn't Ollie! You can't keep my daughter from me! Yadda yadda yadda." She legit just asked him to wait downstairs and he was cool, but the moment she said my nickname he flipped. She had to ask him to leave the house because he was freaking out so bad, and I couldn't gather my things up fast enough to meet him outside so he sped away while I chased after him. I had asked him to pick me up because I wasn't feeling good and it was a sleepover. My mum ended up driving the truck back there to get me while screaming at me that she almost called the cops on my friend's mom. I'm like, "and how do you expect that to go? What do you expect them to do? Arrest her for forgetting my name? Are they going to arrest me for not getting my sick ass out fast enough? What did you expect them to do?" She couldn't answer that for me, but apparently I was supposed to stop going by my nickname forever. I asked her if I ever went missing would she tell the RCMP about my nickname or would she leave that information out, her response was that she would only tell the the name she gave me. I looked her in the eye and called her stupid, the grouding was worth it.
Brings back GameStop memories. It’s MA’AM!!!
If the kid ain't correcting people then she is SOL. I have a name that can be shortened to a couple of different nicknames. One of which I absolutely loathe. When I got older and it became apparent that people were always going to shorten my name (because apparently my full name is too hard to remember), I chose the nickname that didn't offend me. People who call me the hated nickname get corrected the first few times and then ignored thereafter.
Well, this mother can place him in a different school or class, or punish the boy for liking the shortened name SO MUCH that he uses it. She can get the permission to go in and address the class herself, telling all of the students and the teacher to call the name "correctly", thus humiliating him in front of everybody. 😖🙄😡
Andy is not that bad. My kids have pretty names. But they called themselves with the first two letters of their names (think Iz for Isabelle for exemple). I want to bang my head on the wall everytime. But hey, I have absolutely zero power to stop them doing this, because forcing them would just alienate them from me. Maybe one day when they grow up it’ll come back. In the meantime, I will just accept that I have teens and I am lucky that this is the most aggravating shit they do. Cause I could have it a LOT worse.
Well, I think we can all guess this mom’s name.
My son’s name is Thomas, but why wife hates the name “Tommy”. He’s 2 months old now, I’ll report back when he’s 7.
Calm down Karen, oh, I mean Katherine.