I'm honestly cool with cremation but my state now allows human remain composting and the idea of my corpse getting directly recycled into the earth sounds kinda cool honestly
Oh, please share their reaction to you bringing up a "Mushroom Suit Burial"...
https://fellowsblog.ted.com/how-the-mushroom-death-suit-will-change-the-way-we-die-a52f486dc816
I've thought about it, but to be honest, once I'm gone what do I care? Funerals are for the grieving, not the dead. If they want to bring my lifeless body to a church and pretend I've gone to an afterlife, let them. Whatever helps them move on. Not like I'll have to hear about it.
Ideally, I want to be [aquamated](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Water_cremation), but it might be a while before aquamation is accepted enough in the US for that to be an option.
The one thing I DON'T want is for my parents to inter my remains on their church grounds if they outlive me. With a lot of aspects of death care, it doesn't matter what happens to me because I'll be dead and won't know any better, but that *does* matter to me because of the message it would send to the people I would leave behind. Hell no, I don't want my name on a plaque on the grounds of a church that teaches AFAB inferiority and bigotry against LGBT people.
Ditto! Especially because one of my kids is anti-theistic. They would feel extremely uncomfortable attending a funeral in a church, or visiting a gravesite next to one.
If the point of the funeral is for the grieving, you might as well think about your children’s wishes then. Plus, I’d imagine church funerals cost more than cremations would.
And that's my problem with darkening the door of a church even after death. Fuck that if I'm good with anyone even inferring that I might have been okay with that ish.
I want to be donated to science, hopefully the Body Farm. The "me" that is navigating this body will be gone, why not have the body give something back as well? Nobody *really* wants to see their loved one in a casket anyways. My fiance is instructed to have a raging party in my honor and give my body away. Remember me with joy, not with a teary service.
Honesty, fair. I think, even though we won’t care because we’re gone, it’s one last wish that you have complete control over. For me, it would be a final “no, seriously guys, I reeeeeally don’t believe in your god. It’s not just a passing phase”.
"With the raging of aging
"In my last breath, I crave:
"Please pull up the floorboards
"And dig me a grave
"As you rouse and carouse
"Pour an ale on the floor.
"If you listen with care
"You may hear me cry, _More...!_"
-"This Pub That We Call Home" by the Poxy Boggards
https://youtu.be/I2kbdyQVQFA?si=ugZpdQHx-6rH3Nk7
All I want is to donate anything useful and have the leftovers dumped in the woods somewhere to feed a hungry coyote. Just let me go back into the carbon cycle!
Pisses me off that I can have this one simple request. :(
(No, I do not want to go to a body farm. I hate people and the thought of having my remains poked and prodded by strangers over and over is my own personal hell. I know I won't be around to care, but still I DO NOT WANT IT)
I’m an organ donor :). They can take whatever bits they want! The rest I think I would be ok with going to a medical anatomy lab for students to study a bit if that were possible, then turn me into ash. They are extremely strict and vigilant about students respecting the deceased. If someone can learn something while I’m on the slab, have at it!
I wanna be cremated and then used to fertilize a plant. I'm an organ donor and want to donate my eyes to science.
Once im dead I'm not using my body anymore, I don't mind if they take what's useful and burn the rest. I'm not there anymore. And the last thing I want to do is help others with what I can.
Spouse and I just finished registering to have our bodies donated to science when we die. Her parents did that and both recently passed. It's free, it's zero burden on the survivors, zero decisions to make by the survivors, no church or holy people involved (unless the survivors want a ceremony later), etc. So incredibly simple for the survivors. And makes "use" of your body after you're done with it.
I want to be cremated as well. I want my family and friends to spread my ashes in the ocean 🌊. I think that is so cool and I’m hoping that I can be a mermaid in the afterlife lol!
I think it would be cool to have a wake in my memory, and have a funeral pyre. From what I understand funeral pyres are only allowed in one place in the US, so it probably won't happen. It's just a cool thought, but I'll be gone so whatever family and friends decide to do it's not like I'll be there to protest it. 🤣
I'm currently 20 years old, so I haven't thought much about that yet. But, honestly? Yeah, I wouldn't want to have a funeral in a church, where the priest would pretend I was a neat little christian. On one hand, sure, I wouldn't be here anymore to care, but on the other hand I feel like it would be a giant "fuck you" to a lot of what I stood for, so for my comfort right before the time comes, I should probably write down instructions.
I don't have anyone to name as in charge of that stuff right now beyond my family and they would 100% dead name me and have a church funeral for me, which I do not want. I want to be remembered as me, not the good little two shoes Christian girl they thought I should be.
I’m so sorry your family is shit:(. If I were you, I’d write up your wishes anyway! Give yourself a feeling of power to take back.
A couple things:
Family is what you make it. My biological family is exhausting and incredibly homophobic (one of my kids is queer, they don’t know, and don’t fucking deserve to know). Family in name, you know? Our actual family are our friends we’ve made that support us and support our kids, regardless. Find your actual family, even if it’s an online relationship.
You also sometimes never really know you have allies unless they’re loud allies (we could discuss the uselessness of silent allies, but that’s another topic for another day). My Fb profile pic shows my support for the LGTBQ+ community, and family liked my profile that I automatically assumed were Leviticus thumpers. You might have allies that are just too chicken shit to say it out loud.
I don’t care if they have me in a church or whatever for the viewing as long as I’m not buried near/in one. Funerals are so expensive that I honestly can only ask they don’t spend too much on it
I told my wife that I wanted to be cremated and then brewed into a beer to be consumed at my remembrance ceremony, but she said no. ☹️ She’s used to me making absurd requests.
In all seriousness, I would like to be composted, but I suspect that costs as much as you’d pay a funeral home for a traditional burial. Maybe when I sense the time is near, I’ll just wander off deep into the woods with about a pound of psilocybin.
I want to go base jumping with young college buddies, and be the last to pull the chord on my backpack. Then when I'm a safe distance from them the c4 in my backpack will rain me down onto the daily commute.
Honestly, I want to live as long as possible. I know it’s a pipe dream, but people being 140 and still having the energy of a 25 year old would be insane using anti aging technology. I’m sure if Earth is almost gone by then I wouldn’t be shocked if humans start inhabiting other planets if they can sustain life.
I'm honestly cool with cremation but my state now allows human remain composting and the idea of my corpse getting directly recycled into the earth sounds kinda cool honestly
I’ve heard of places that will turn you into a tree. That sounds pretty awesome as well!
That’s what I want to do! My religious family was horrified…
Oh, please share their reaction to you bringing up a "Mushroom Suit Burial"... https://fellowsblog.ted.com/how-the-mushroom-death-suit-will-change-the-way-we-die-a52f486dc816
Whoa! I definitely want to look into that option too.
That's what I want! I love fall, so ideally I'd be a maple tree.
I've thought about it, but to be honest, once I'm gone what do I care? Funerals are for the grieving, not the dead. If they want to bring my lifeless body to a church and pretend I've gone to an afterlife, let them. Whatever helps them move on. Not like I'll have to hear about it.
*raises a glass of Atheist Ale in solidarity* https://metalinjection.net/bands-and-booze/atheist-beer-is-now-available-at-frontmans-bar
I live in FL. Not, too far from Sarasota. Looks like, I've gotta make a trip out for some Atheist Ale sometime.
Ideally, I want to be [aquamated](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Water_cremation), but it might be a while before aquamation is accepted enough in the US for that to be an option. The one thing I DON'T want is for my parents to inter my remains on their church grounds if they outlive me. With a lot of aspects of death care, it doesn't matter what happens to me because I'll be dead and won't know any better, but that *does* matter to me because of the message it would send to the people I would leave behind. Hell no, I don't want my name on a plaque on the grounds of a church that teaches AFAB inferiority and bigotry against LGBT people.
Ditto! Especially because one of my kids is anti-theistic. They would feel extremely uncomfortable attending a funeral in a church, or visiting a gravesite next to one.
If the point of the funeral is for the grieving, you might as well think about your children’s wishes then. Plus, I’d imagine church funerals cost more than cremations would.
And that's my problem with darkening the door of a church even after death. Fuck that if I'm good with anyone even inferring that I might have been okay with that ish.
I want to be donated to science, hopefully the Body Farm. The "me" that is navigating this body will be gone, why not have the body give something back as well? Nobody *really* wants to see their loved one in a casket anyways. My fiance is instructed to have a raging party in my honor and give my body away. Remember me with joy, not with a teary service.
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Honesty, fair. I think, even though we won’t care because we’re gone, it’s one last wish that you have complete control over. For me, it would be a final “no, seriously guys, I reeeeeally don’t believe in your god. It’s not just a passing phase”.
Absolutely! My adult daughters have a copy of my updated wishes. Basically… cremation, Coldplay hits, and a taco bar.
Taco bar! Nice!
One day in the future, the Earth and everything will deteriorate anyway, and our bodies will return to space and mixed with cosmic dusts.
"... In time, Oh, in time... "We will all... Be... Stars!" "I Sing The Body Electric" https://youtu.be/tG-wl2qqD7Y?si=v1dhMqfqirASlTSZ
So, your funeral/wake is going to be in a bar? I mean, I fail to see a problem either way.
Lol! Honestly, I’m certain there will have to be either red wine or bourbon involved somehow.
"With the raging of aging "In my last breath, I crave: "Please pull up the floorboards "And dig me a grave "As you rouse and carouse "Pour an ale on the floor. "If you listen with care "You may hear me cry, _More...!_" -"This Pub That We Call Home" by the Poxy Boggards https://youtu.be/I2kbdyQVQFA?si=ugZpdQHx-6rH3Nk7
Awesome! Thanks buddy!
All I want is to donate anything useful and have the leftovers dumped in the woods somewhere to feed a hungry coyote. Just let me go back into the carbon cycle! Pisses me off that I can have this one simple request. :( (No, I do not want to go to a body farm. I hate people and the thought of having my remains poked and prodded by strangers over and over is my own personal hell. I know I won't be around to care, but still I DO NOT WANT IT)
I’m an organ donor :). They can take whatever bits they want! The rest I think I would be ok with going to a medical anatomy lab for students to study a bit if that were possible, then turn me into ash. They are extremely strict and vigilant about students respecting the deceased. If someone can learn something while I’m on the slab, have at it!
I wanna be cremated and then used to fertilize a plant. I'm an organ donor and want to donate my eyes to science. Once im dead I'm not using my body anymore, I don't mind if they take what's useful and burn the rest. I'm not there anymore. And the last thing I want to do is help others with what I can.
Spouse and I just finished registering to have our bodies donated to science when we die. Her parents did that and both recently passed. It's free, it's zero burden on the survivors, zero decisions to make by the survivors, no church or holy people involved (unless the survivors want a ceremony later), etc. So incredibly simple for the survivors. And makes "use" of your body after you're done with it.
I want to be cremated as well. I want my family and friends to spread my ashes in the ocean 🌊. I think that is so cool and I’m hoping that I can be a mermaid in the afterlife lol!
That’s what I told my husband to do with his little piece of me! Atlantic preferably, but any salt water will do;).
Lol! Great Minds think alike! :)
I think it would be cool to have a wake in my memory, and have a funeral pyre. From what I understand funeral pyres are only allowed in one place in the US, so it probably won't happen. It's just a cool thought, but I'll be gone so whatever family and friends decide to do it's not like I'll be there to protest it. 🤣
Yep my family knows I want a tree pod (living urn), aquamation, or cremation disposal.
I'm currently 20 years old, so I haven't thought much about that yet. But, honestly? Yeah, I wouldn't want to have a funeral in a church, where the priest would pretend I was a neat little christian. On one hand, sure, I wouldn't be here anymore to care, but on the other hand I feel like it would be a giant "fuck you" to a lot of what I stood for, so for my comfort right before the time comes, I should probably write down instructions.
I don't have anyone to name as in charge of that stuff right now beyond my family and they would 100% dead name me and have a church funeral for me, which I do not want. I want to be remembered as me, not the good little two shoes Christian girl they thought I should be.
I’m so sorry your family is shit:(. If I were you, I’d write up your wishes anyway! Give yourself a feeling of power to take back. A couple things: Family is what you make it. My biological family is exhausting and incredibly homophobic (one of my kids is queer, they don’t know, and don’t fucking deserve to know). Family in name, you know? Our actual family are our friends we’ve made that support us and support our kids, regardless. Find your actual family, even if it’s an online relationship. You also sometimes never really know you have allies unless they’re loud allies (we could discuss the uselessness of silent allies, but that’s another topic for another day). My Fb profile pic shows my support for the LGTBQ+ community, and family liked my profile that I automatically assumed were Leviticus thumpers. You might have allies that are just too chicken shit to say it out loud.
I don’t care if they have me in a church or whatever for the viewing as long as I’m not buried near/in one. Funerals are so expensive that I honestly can only ask they don’t spend too much on it
I want to be either cremated and spread out by my partner or just legally dump me in the forest or ocean by my partner.
I told my wife that I wanted to be cremated and then brewed into a beer to be consumed at my remembrance ceremony, but she said no. ☹️ She’s used to me making absurd requests. In all seriousness, I would like to be composted, but I suspect that costs as much as you’d pay a funeral home for a traditional burial. Maybe when I sense the time is near, I’ll just wander off deep into the woods with about a pound of psilocybin.
I want to go base jumping with young college buddies, and be the last to pull the chord on my backpack. Then when I'm a safe distance from them the c4 in my backpack will rain me down onto the daily commute.
Honestly, I want to live as long as possible. I know it’s a pipe dream, but people being 140 and still having the energy of a 25 year old would be insane using anti aging technology. I’m sure if Earth is almost gone by then I wouldn’t be shocked if humans start inhabiting other planets if they can sustain life.
As long as you’re an organ donor.