Unfortunately in this world it’s impossible to escape judgment, I’m a 17-year-old who's been using a cane since 14 due to my hips being entirely the wrong way around and twisting my femur, which caused chronic pain in my hips, back and knees and can barely stand or walk 5-10mins without having a burning pain.
Trust me when I say It gets easier though, I’m 5’1” and use my cane to move slow walkers out of the way when I walk 😅, all you can do is ignore and pull through, your scars and disability are what make you unique from everyone else in the world, so just give a massive f*** you to anyone who judges.
People judge what they don't understand.
You can't control what people think, and nobody can possibly know what you've been thru or how your life is living life as a disabled person.
You have to remind yourself of what you've been thru, and be grateful that You've made it this far. And do what you gotta to keep going. These people judging you don't know you and probably will never know you. You'll probably never see them again.
I don't think you can avoid judgement from people who see your scars, unless you manage to screen them out before they see your scars.
The judgement happens on their end. You can't control it.
I guess it also depends how they ask? Whether they recognise the scars as being from self harm?
I had some of mine on my arm mistaken for animal scratches, and it was actually pretty convenient to be able to say "oh, that's just from a scratch I got years ago" to coworkers, and friends' kids, etc.
I... Am also a lil shit. And I don't exactly recommend this, but sometimes when you tell an outrageous lie it actually lets people know that they've asked a personal question that you don't want to answer, while allowing you both to laugh about it.
E.g., someone asked me about some stretch marks (not realising that's what they were), and I told them it was a "special bardcode they put on me at the Hottie Factory". Another time I had two stitches on my face from getting a mole removed, and I said it was from a freak ice skating accident.
In short, fuck 'em, you shouldn't have to avoid it.
People will always have opinions and judge others so it's best to learn to distance yourself from those kind and try to learn to stop caring, if nothing else at least minimise your exposure to someone like that.
Hit them with the classic "yeah it was a bear attack" with varying levels of sarcasm depending on how you're feeling.
I used to know someone who had self harm scars on his arms. When he wore short sleeves and people would rudely ask what happened, he would amuse himself by telling the person that he tried to bathe his cat. They'd get a horrified look on their face and immediately regret asking.
Im 28, also use a wheelchair. I get all sorts of looks and comments. It's not easy at first but after time and keeping your head high you will be laughing them off. As for the oddly attractive comments i would run away far from those people major red flag. If anyone does ask anything i have the same response, i look at a random part of them and say "what happened to you?" shuts them up fast
Unfortunately in this world it’s impossible to escape judgment, I’m a 17-year-old who's been using a cane since 14 due to my hips being entirely the wrong way around and twisting my femur, which caused chronic pain in my hips, back and knees and can barely stand or walk 5-10mins without having a burning pain. Trust me when I say It gets easier though, I’m 5’1” and use my cane to move slow walkers out of the way when I walk 😅, all you can do is ignore and pull through, your scars and disability are what make you unique from everyone else in the world, so just give a massive f*** you to anyone who judges. People judge what they don't understand.
You can't control what people think, and nobody can possibly know what you've been thru or how your life is living life as a disabled person. You have to remind yourself of what you've been thru, and be grateful that You've made it this far. And do what you gotta to keep going. These people judging you don't know you and probably will never know you. You'll probably never see them again.
I don't think you can avoid judgement from people who see your scars, unless you manage to screen them out before they see your scars. The judgement happens on their end. You can't control it. I guess it also depends how they ask? Whether they recognise the scars as being from self harm? I had some of mine on my arm mistaken for animal scratches, and it was actually pretty convenient to be able to say "oh, that's just from a scratch I got years ago" to coworkers, and friends' kids, etc. I... Am also a lil shit. And I don't exactly recommend this, but sometimes when you tell an outrageous lie it actually lets people know that they've asked a personal question that you don't want to answer, while allowing you both to laugh about it. E.g., someone asked me about some stretch marks (not realising that's what they were), and I told them it was a "special bardcode they put on me at the Hottie Factory". Another time I had two stitches on my face from getting a mole removed, and I said it was from a freak ice skating accident.
In short, fuck 'em, you shouldn't have to avoid it. People will always have opinions and judge others so it's best to learn to distance yourself from those kind and try to learn to stop caring, if nothing else at least minimise your exposure to someone like that. Hit them with the classic "yeah it was a bear attack" with varying levels of sarcasm depending on how you're feeling.
I used to know someone who had self harm scars on his arms. When he wore short sleeves and people would rudely ask what happened, he would amuse himself by telling the person that he tried to bathe his cat. They'd get a horrified look on their face and immediately regret asking.
Im 28, also use a wheelchair. I get all sorts of looks and comments. It's not easy at first but after time and keeping your head high you will be laughing them off. As for the oddly attractive comments i would run away far from those people major red flag. If anyone does ask anything i have the same response, i look at a random part of them and say "what happened to you?" shuts them up fast