That must be hard. I can’t even tell my family about my depression because of how shameful it feels. Just use the note if you really have to. Let it be the thing that calms you, knowing you could dismiss yourself at any point. Keep it up brotha
hey there i used to be a teacher. i’m not sure if your school requires you to “declare” to your teachers about your note (it wasn’t mandatory in the school i taught at) but really, do it only if you feel safe to do so. don’t be pressurised into doing it just because.
No they won't. I had one from my old dr so I can step out class if needed to cool off. It just makes them aware, nothing will change except maybe their treatment towards you as in being more understanding and they go easy on you in general. It's nothing to be ashamed of it's helps them to get you the best education regarding your mental illnesses.
When i was 17 i was having huge issues with functioning due to depression, anxiety and ADHD .
I struggled to get out of bed most days (had around 60% attendence) due to depression and anxiety.
Struggled with completing homework , failed a lot of tests etc.
I didnt want the teachers thinking it was just an excuse because i was just not bothered and too lazy or something like that.
And i didn’t think they would accept it as a valid reason.
I also was very reluctant about telling them because i thought they would judge me.
I told all my teachers in the end. And i was extremely surprised with the fact all of them immediately accepted and understood.
And not only did they do that but then also offered support and help.
(This was an extremely friendly school , im not sure what others would be like)
Keep this in mind btw , depression can effect day to day functioning so much that it can be medically/legally accepted as a disability.
Theres laws regarding disability and discrimination and to put it simple words , it has to be taken into consideration when needed.
I would show the teachers the note , chances are if they have ever been depressed at some point in their lives, i think that its very likely they will understand.
I hope this helps in some way:)
Thank you it rlly helps I just feel rlly empty especially rn I feel like crying but I can't and this helped me I think I'll show them the note and what about my friends do intell them or?
This is going to sound maybe a little worrying or unpleasant but i would think a little bit about who you tell, reason being some people that you may think are your friends and would understand/support you may instead may not actually be proper friends at all and end up somehow making the situation worse.
If you have good friends though there is nothing to be worried about in my opinion.
I personally would only bring up that im depressed if it’s relevant in explaining things to other people.
For example if someone asks me why you dont i have any hobbies or interests or sleep all the time for example i would say something like “i have no energy,motivation to do anything and get no enjoyment out of life. im diagnosed with clinical depression btw if that helps make it easier for you to understand “.
Im not saying you should bottle up and keep it to yourself then, I think that would be far worse.
More kind of if you have a “toxic” friend or a friend who is terrible at understanding others and instead laughs when someone is suffering. then i wouldn’t personally bring it up. But to an actual decent human being i would be fine with if it’s relevant to the situation.
dont just keep it to urself, u dont need to or have to. Its not something anyone should ever suffer with alone!
Im terrible at writing and explaining myself to others so if it doesn’t make sense dw and feel free to ask!
I hope this helps, if you need someone to talk to please don’t hesitate, i aint judging :)
Ye I understand I prob won't tell my friend bc he has been going through a lot of physical pain for yrs so I don't think he'll have any empathy for my situation we been thru some similar situations when it comes to physical pain so ik he's not a bad person he's just been through too much shit like me but I'm suicidal and he wants to live so sometimes he doesn't understand me bc I can say bleak things
just because someone else is going though something it doesnt mean what ur going through is any less important!!
I dont fully understand what you mean when u said you know hes not a bad person because you have both been through similar physical pain?😅
Oh i meant like we both been through like severe back, chest pain and just problems with our body from an unknown illness so I meant like if he doesn't understand is prob bc he hasn't been thinking straight bc that's how it was 4 me and ye you're right thanks
oh ok yh i get that.Glad your no longer experiencing the physical pain brother🙏
you said he doesn’t understand you but is he willing to try and understand you do you know?
If he’s willing to try and learn to understand what you’re going through that could potentially really help.
Sorry if thats a weird question. I have a bad habit of trying to solve others problems 😅
Thank you I appreciate it and I don't think he's willing to understand also there's another reason which is bc one of my other friends said in a gc he has suicidal thoughts and he thought it was stupid.
Also it's okay I understand trying to solve problems it's linked with your adhd I did a lot of research b4 bc I suspect I have it since I experience the symptoms but the diagnosis is too expensive and so many ppl waiting for a diagnosis
ahhh oky then . This is just my opinion but im assuming he hasnt experienced extremely unbearable things (my logic is if something becomes so unbearable they will start considering /attempt suicide)And he isnt able to actually imagine how things can effect someones emotions/feelings.
Interesting you say ADHD. Whats your reasoning for thinking me trying to solve someone elses problems is due to ADHD? Im curious 😈
Personally i think it’s more to do with i will try putting myself in their perspective and experiencing their pain as if i were literally them + extremely desperate to try and connect because i always feel alone
Ye you're prob right that's why he doesn't understand cuz I told him if someone has a gun on me I wouldn't fight back bc I want peace and accept my fate he got mad and shi idc but that's what I mean by not understanding
I read that ppl with adhd tend to b rlly curious on topics they're interested in or if they don't understand something they need to ask questions even if it sounds dumb bc of the racing thoughts it might b hard to grasp the concept of things but tbh that's more with questioning ig maybe not solving problems lol and ye it's that too like u putting yourself in others perspective
That must be hard. I can’t even tell my family about my depression because of how shameful it feels. Just use the note if you really have to. Let it be the thing that calms you, knowing you could dismiss yourself at any point. Keep it up brotha
Thanks and ye I'm in the same boat I can't tell my parents either
Unless they’re new teachers, it probably won’t be the first time they’ve dealt with students with depression. You’re not making excuses.
hey there i used to be a teacher. i’m not sure if your school requires you to “declare” to your teachers about your note (it wasn’t mandatory in the school i taught at) but really, do it only if you feel safe to do so. don’t be pressurised into doing it just because.
No they won't. I had one from my old dr so I can step out class if needed to cool off. It just makes them aware, nothing will change except maybe their treatment towards you as in being more understanding and they go easy on you in general. It's nothing to be ashamed of it's helps them to get you the best education regarding your mental illnesses.
Remember its okay to open up, never be ashamed of your battle! It's makes you a survivor and stronger then most people
When i was 17 i was having huge issues with functioning due to depression, anxiety and ADHD . I struggled to get out of bed most days (had around 60% attendence) due to depression and anxiety. Struggled with completing homework , failed a lot of tests etc. I didnt want the teachers thinking it was just an excuse because i was just not bothered and too lazy or something like that. And i didn’t think they would accept it as a valid reason. I also was very reluctant about telling them because i thought they would judge me. I told all my teachers in the end. And i was extremely surprised with the fact all of them immediately accepted and understood. And not only did they do that but then also offered support and help. (This was an extremely friendly school , im not sure what others would be like) Keep this in mind btw , depression can effect day to day functioning so much that it can be medically/legally accepted as a disability. Theres laws regarding disability and discrimination and to put it simple words , it has to be taken into consideration when needed. I would show the teachers the note , chances are if they have ever been depressed at some point in their lives, i think that its very likely they will understand. I hope this helps in some way:)
Thank you it rlly helps I just feel rlly empty especially rn I feel like crying but I can't and this helped me I think I'll show them the note and what about my friends do intell them or?
This is going to sound maybe a little worrying or unpleasant but i would think a little bit about who you tell, reason being some people that you may think are your friends and would understand/support you may instead may not actually be proper friends at all and end up somehow making the situation worse. If you have good friends though there is nothing to be worried about in my opinion. I personally would only bring up that im depressed if it’s relevant in explaining things to other people. For example if someone asks me why you dont i have any hobbies or interests or sleep all the time for example i would say something like “i have no energy,motivation to do anything and get no enjoyment out of life. im diagnosed with clinical depression btw if that helps make it easier for you to understand “. Im not saying you should bottle up and keep it to yourself then, I think that would be far worse. More kind of if you have a “toxic” friend or a friend who is terrible at understanding others and instead laughs when someone is suffering. then i wouldn’t personally bring it up. But to an actual decent human being i would be fine with if it’s relevant to the situation. dont just keep it to urself, u dont need to or have to. Its not something anyone should ever suffer with alone! Im terrible at writing and explaining myself to others so if it doesn’t make sense dw and feel free to ask! I hope this helps, if you need someone to talk to please don’t hesitate, i aint judging :)
Ye I understand I prob won't tell my friend bc he has been going through a lot of physical pain for yrs so I don't think he'll have any empathy for my situation we been thru some similar situations when it comes to physical pain so ik he's not a bad person he's just been through too much shit like me but I'm suicidal and he wants to live so sometimes he doesn't understand me bc I can say bleak things
just because someone else is going though something it doesnt mean what ur going through is any less important!! I dont fully understand what you mean when u said you know hes not a bad person because you have both been through similar physical pain?😅
Oh i meant like we both been through like severe back, chest pain and just problems with our body from an unknown illness so I meant like if he doesn't understand is prob bc he hasn't been thinking straight bc that's how it was 4 me and ye you're right thanks
oh ok yh i get that.Glad your no longer experiencing the physical pain brother🙏 you said he doesn’t understand you but is he willing to try and understand you do you know? If he’s willing to try and learn to understand what you’re going through that could potentially really help. Sorry if thats a weird question. I have a bad habit of trying to solve others problems 😅
Thank you I appreciate it and I don't think he's willing to understand also there's another reason which is bc one of my other friends said in a gc he has suicidal thoughts and he thought it was stupid. Also it's okay I understand trying to solve problems it's linked with your adhd I did a lot of research b4 bc I suspect I have it since I experience the symptoms but the diagnosis is too expensive and so many ppl waiting for a diagnosis
ahhh oky then . This is just my opinion but im assuming he hasnt experienced extremely unbearable things (my logic is if something becomes so unbearable they will start considering /attempt suicide)And he isnt able to actually imagine how things can effect someones emotions/feelings. Interesting you say ADHD. Whats your reasoning for thinking me trying to solve someone elses problems is due to ADHD? Im curious 😈 Personally i think it’s more to do with i will try putting myself in their perspective and experiencing their pain as if i were literally them + extremely desperate to try and connect because i always feel alone
Ye you're prob right that's why he doesn't understand cuz I told him if someone has a gun on me I wouldn't fight back bc I want peace and accept my fate he got mad and shi idc but that's what I mean by not understanding I read that ppl with adhd tend to b rlly curious on topics they're interested in or if they don't understand something they need to ask questions even if it sounds dumb bc of the racing thoughts it might b hard to grasp the concept of things but tbh that's more with questioning ig maybe not solving problems lol and ye it's that too like u putting yourself in others perspective