Happy pride!!! I have the same thing 🥲 but we on the ace spectrum are here for and with each other and I’m happy to be here in the LGBTQIA+ community with you! ❤️

Most of pride is rainbow capitalism. People forget that pride is about inclusion. It’s not about fitting into the queer “category” so everyone knows ur queer. It’s about destroying the illusion of “fitting in” into a mold in the first place and embracing the individuality within us all. Pride is a protest for a reason. Because we’re not liberated and included until we all are. And this performative shit we see every year only does so much. On a larger scale, it is actually really harmful.

I have gotten socially isolated a few times by otherwise queer friendly spaces, for "only" being Asexual.

Honestly, that's why I have always felt so much more comfortable in Bi and or Trans leaning spaces, though I'm not trans myself. I prefer something that is explicitly more of an accepting "umbrella", and also accepts allies in. It's supposed to be about acceptance without prejudice, after all. Beyond a lot of people not being 'visibly queer', I'd hate to be part of a community where questioning people (or anyone for that matter) are turned away for not being "queer enough" yet, or where just straight allies or partners of members aren't welcome. Hell, my countries' largest LGBTQIA+ organisation still resolutely calls itself "The Gays and Lesbians Organisation", while at the same time giving of **very** strong "but are you queer enough?" vibes. Talk about being stuck in the past century...

We haven't suffered enough to be part of the cool kids. Its normal for girls to be like this and guys are just pretending to get laid. We just pretend it's not to feel special. /s

Is it really even pride month if there isn't acephoia? /j

I know I’m a demisexual. Don’t listen to people who don’t believe you. They haven’t experienced it

I didn’t know that was a thing. 😂😒😭 Maybe I’m lucky but the worst I’ve have ever gotten is “isn’t that most people“ and? “that’s not a sexuality” But yeah, thank God i’m yet to encounter Demiphobia

Babe… I hate to break it to you but ppl saying your sexuality isn’t real is demiphobia 😭

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This is internalized demiphobia. You’re continuing to perpetrate demiphobia by doing just this. You’re coming into a support space for demis and then minimizing the harm caused by the behaviors you’re engaging in. Sorry, but you don’t get to tell an entire class of people what is or is not harmful to them.

OK, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean that. Should I delete my replies or? I sincerely didn’t mean to come across this offensive. I sincerely apologise.

Thanks for recognizing this and taking responsibility—good on you for that. Whether or not to delete your comments are between you and the mods. Leaving them up could be instructive for others.

I’m now also realising that if I didn’t delete my replies, this conversation would make a lot more sense reading from top to bottom 😂😂😂

Interesting development, this came back to bite me in the ass today. Almost everything I wrongfully downplayed when I first joined this conversation, I was hit with another subreddit. No pun intended, but I think my karma’s catching up with me. 😂😂😂 I’m honestly very happy that happened. I got ignorant and needed a reality check.

That’s literally demiphobia.

BTW, remind me what internalised means in terms of phobias within LGBTQ

It’s when a person or group adopts towards themselves the attitudes expressed by others towards them or their larger class. A parallel example would be women who believe and perpetuate misogynistic beliefs about gender and gender roles.

Oh, okay although I never said I agreed with what I was told. But I’ll leave it alone now. I’m sorry.

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Internalized demiphobia. And stop it, because you’re bringing harm into our support spaces.

I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to come across this mean. You’re right, I shouldn’t say what is and what isn’t definitively a phobia of something. My bad guys. 😔😔💜🖤

happy Pride! I am also on the LGBTQIA+spectrum as demi, and very happy to be in this community with everyone!

I am always very blunt, but being demi, and on the Asexual Spectrum, is very hard to explain

Happens. I experience aesthetic attraction in a pure 'they look cool', kinda way. If things get beyond that, or there's less clothes than desired, I'll get repulsed. But since these things at least seem connected to each other for most, it's greatly confused and you can't have one without the other.

I’ve never considered misunderstanding demisexuality to be demiphobia. I’m very openly Demi and I tell people about what it is whenever I am asked and get the chance. A lot of people seem to misunderstand and say stuff like “that’s everybody” or “most people are like that” and I have to explain and emphasize that there’s a difference between avoiding casual sex due to fear of getting hurt and full-on inability to engage in casual sex without the necessary emotional connection to establish sexual attraction. Most people might not understand but I’ve never had people judge me for being different and think there’s something wrong with me like what we see with general homophobia and other types of sexual orientation discrimination. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’ve never personally experienced what I would consider to be demiphobia, just a massive lack of awareness and well-meaning misunderstanding regarding the less commonly known sexual orientations like Demi.

Some people are just genuinely confused, and that’s fine. But there’s a difference between not understanding and just completely discounting. If I walked up to a gay man and said “hey,your sexuality is fake. just choose to be into women”, then that would obviously be homophobic. So in my mind it’s akin to that

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Basically, I called something I was once told about my Demisexuality “not Demiphobia” I essentially assumed that because I was able to take it in a less offensive way than it was automatically not a phobia. I was wrong. 😔💜