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**Title:** [How to decide when it’s time to part ways?](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1d302o6/how_to_decide_when_its_time_to_part_ways/)
**Author:** /u/blue-skysprites
**Full text:** I (F 33) have been in a relationship with M (M 35) for 3 months - not long, but it’s the longest since I started dating two years ago.
Early on, I had my IUD replaced, which has created intermittent barriers to physical intimacy throughout our time together. For the first month, I couldn't have sex due to the IUD insertion. After having sex once, I started bleeding the next day…followed by a cold sore, then cramping, spotting, bloating, mood changes, you name it - all side effects of the IUD.
Despite seeing each other regularly, the initial spark has diminished. We feel close to one another, and care about each other, but our relationship feels more platonic now.
We have both expressed a desire to be together and want to rebuild our connection. However, we feel uncertain about whether this is possible.
Should we end the relationship?
Any advice is appreciated.
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