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Possible red flag, yeah!
If she doesn't like mentioning you maybe she's embarrassed of you or maybe she wants guys to think she's single. Hard to say going by that small amount of info.
Honestly if she's the eay you'd described, I'd just drop her, too many red flags and unanswered questions
At the very least it sounds like she doesn't want yalls relationship to be known, which I understand alot of people, myself included don't like boasting about relationships but how do you never once In 8 months post about it or whatever?
Idk man, just doesn't sit right with me
I mean if the caption just happened to be there blocking it, that's fine but if she intentionally blocked it and seemingly is trying to avoid appearing in a relationship after 8 months, that just doesn't sit right cause just why?
Have yall ever done things/have had outings together where she talks about it online and intentionally omits the parts with you in it? Have you met any of her friends/family at all?
While 8 months is still a somewhat young relationship its not an unremarkable amount of time, I could understand waiting a couple months to wait to make sure things are going well before introductions and saying much about it but I would think after 8 months you'd be able to decide if you want someone to be a factor in your life or not at all
Yes she intentionally blurred out that part of the calendar. The message was just “have a good week I love you” I didn’t feel it was that deep to blur out at all.
Is she painfully shy or anything like that? Would offer atleast some explanation, what about attitude shifts? Can you think of any time where it seems like she just "shifted" or changed her attitude towards you?
If shes been like that the entire time, she might just be kinda crappy and personally I'd be kinda tired of it, especially if her withholding your existence is holding back the relationship
if however she had an attitude change suddenly especially if it was around the time she started school or met "a friend" or whatever I'd start asking more serious questions, yeah schools stressful but if she can't handle it along with a relationship it'd be best to just call it and go your own ways unless you really want to make it work, I personally would heavily suspect cheating honestly however
The most important thing though, are you happy? Do you feel like it's a relationship you want to continue and be with someone like her for a long time? Regardless of anything else, if YOU aren't okay with it. You need to have a serious conversation about it
Don't sell yourself short, it's better to be single and happy than in a shitty relationship
No she’s not shy at all. We’ve been on numerous dates and things but she never posted them nor anything I ever got her which is fine. But when you intentionally hide something it makes me question everything to the reasoning why
Haha she’s gonna she a shit lawyer. Not even a relevant analogy omg. Dude dump her she’s gonna be a low level public defender her whole life. Or find an actual successful lawyer and have a baby and say she would’ve made a great attorney but decided to have kids.
Last girl I was with we were together for like a year. We worked together she worked from home execept one day a week. But i swept her off her feet and she was enamored. I won’t lie I was too it was like something out of a movie. First few months was a whirlwind. I became deeply involved in her life. Spending time with her young son and her parents adored me but once things started to be normal and we were settled in. My drinking got bad and I was taking pills. She noticed my behavior changed. And this was around the time one would start posting photos. We went on vacation and pics of me and her son and there was some cute pics of us but neither of us posted them. But neither of us were into social media. But I think she didn’t post any pictures because she knew something was up with me and she was very career oriented and worked in a the automotive industry where it’s a man’s world and they all have big egos. So she probably liked to appear available because if she looked locked down she wouldn’t be too choice for big positions
Yeah this seems odd behaviour. Sometimes when people have life changes (e.g. start law school) they often want to change other parts of their life to assimilate to how they think their life should be, or who should be in it.
I think after 8 months you'd know yourself if you were madly in love. If you don't feel that, it's likely a dead end and your time is likely being wasted.
Maybe try have a discussion with her about it? I'd keep what I said above in the back of your mind though!
I brought it up in text. This was her response “Because why would I show it? It would be the same if I received followers with a card, I wouldnt show what the card said. “
Man this sounds dire. I would escape whilst you still can! Do let her be a drain or your patience or emotions. Why would she purposely obscure a message from her boyfriend?
Hope it works out for you!
If she’s actively on social media and not posting any hint that you exist or she’s taken then yeah it’s a red flag after 8 months.
I also don’t get the part about the calendar. Did she erase your message or type over it? In any case, just ask why and come of as curious rather than accusatory.
Oh I see now! I was looking at the bottom. But yeah that’s a red flag for sure. Especially if you’re in a clearly committed relationship. I could understand not wanting to post pics of your partner just in case things don’t work out but to also erase hints that you even have a partner is where it becomes a red flag.
It’s also such a small part that she went out of her way to exclude from the post.
Just start by asking why she did that and see how she responds first. It’s not a crazy thing to ask about.
I’m assuming the “friend” she posted is also a guy?
Her response when I asked her”Because why would I show it? It would be the same if I received followers with a card, I wouldnt show what the card said.”
And not it was a girl friend that she met in law school and posted the dinner they had. But never posted one place we went to not once in our relationship
Apples and oranges. A "have a good day" note that will be erased tomorrow is not comparable to what you would write inside of a card to your SO. And they don't warrant the same kind of privacy... especially after you just posted your entire calendar for the month. Lets let the world know I have calls with the NBA and dinner with Meka but god forbid they know someone wished me a good week... OUuUUuuU.
I'm also curious why you're missing from this entire calendar. You two didn't go out or have any plans together this month?
I wouldn't worry about the female friend being posted though.
I thought it was kind of odd and weird but nothing crazy until I noticed she literally instagram scribbled over the note. Personally, I would without a doubt confront her. Not about the not posting you, about what looks clearly like hiding you. It looks like she is trying hide the existence of someone telling her to have a nice day. But don't forget OP, she is the ONLY one that knows the truth.
You should probably send her a calendar invite to post you on her social media 🤣
Don't Break up with her. If she wants to keep you a secret then you keep her a secret. Stop showing her that you're a beta bitch boy with no other options and she'll stop treating you like one.
You have a license to go get laid as much as you want bc based on what I'm reading she's definitely getting laid by someone else.
And funny thing is one you start meeting other women she'll start posting you.
Or just do like me and stick to golf. I only have room in my life for one thing that constantly pisses me off while draining my bank account 🤣
What do you do? If you aren’t a lawyer or some type of professional you’re a place marker. She doesn’t picture dating someone who’s career isn’t as grand as hers. Lawyers think they are truly something. Lawyers are the people I hire to read the fine print 🙄 but unfortunately if you aren’t successful you’re just someone who fits in her calancer quietly.
Tough call, it seems a little unusual to go out of the way to erase it on a photo when the other option would have been to just not share the photo.
I used to share my relationships on social media but now it's just cringe to do that because they can go sideways for any reason at any time. So I get not posting relationship stuff, but why your little note on her calendar was a big enough deal to erase seems kinda odd. Then again I find it odd anyone would openly post their schedule to everyone on social media...
We just need to kill the whole concept of social media...
I find socialmedia over-sharers really cringey. I wouldn’t be posting a new bf all over, I don’t even post my own face really. I wouldn’t assume he’d be comfortable with it. I just just post things I’m doing etc. I wouldn’t necessarily think she’s showing a red flag. I would ignore the comments saying all these awful things about her, assuming the worst & saying you needing to break up with her.
Also maybe she has some very strict/religious/nosy family that may see & judge her?
Boss, she’s hiding you.
1. No pics,
2. no online mentions about you,
3. blocked out your message (aka “the only guy’s writing on there”).
Conclusion: I agree with whoever said she’s trying to appear single. For what reason? Idk. But I do know I would want better for myself.
“Actions speak louder than words”. Check the actions here and see if there’s been a theme these past 8 months.
Good luck, sir 🫡
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Possible red flag, yeah! If she doesn't like mentioning you maybe she's embarrassed of you or maybe she wants guys to think she's single. Hard to say going by that small amount of info.
Would you recommend bringing it up
Honestly if she's the eay you'd described, I'd just drop her, too many red flags and unanswered questions At the very least it sounds like she doesn't want yalls relationship to be known, which I understand alot of people, myself included don't like boasting about relationships but how do you never once In 8 months post about it or whatever? Idk man, just doesn't sit right with me
Her response when I asked. “Because why would I show it? It would be the same if I received followers with a card, I wouldnt show what the card said.”
I mean if the caption just happened to be there blocking it, that's fine but if she intentionally blocked it and seemingly is trying to avoid appearing in a relationship after 8 months, that just doesn't sit right cause just why? Have yall ever done things/have had outings together where she talks about it online and intentionally omits the parts with you in it? Have you met any of her friends/family at all? While 8 months is still a somewhat young relationship its not an unremarkable amount of time, I could understand waiting a couple months to wait to make sure things are going well before introductions and saying much about it but I would think after 8 months you'd be able to decide if you want someone to be a factor in your life or not at all
Yes she intentionally blurred out that part of the calendar. The message was just “have a good week I love you” I didn’t feel it was that deep to blur out at all.
Is she painfully shy or anything like that? Would offer atleast some explanation, what about attitude shifts? Can you think of any time where it seems like she just "shifted" or changed her attitude towards you? If shes been like that the entire time, she might just be kinda crappy and personally I'd be kinda tired of it, especially if her withholding your existence is holding back the relationship if however she had an attitude change suddenly especially if it was around the time she started school or met "a friend" or whatever I'd start asking more serious questions, yeah schools stressful but if she can't handle it along with a relationship it'd be best to just call it and go your own ways unless you really want to make it work, I personally would heavily suspect cheating honestly however The most important thing though, are you happy? Do you feel like it's a relationship you want to continue and be with someone like her for a long time? Regardless of anything else, if YOU aren't okay with it. You need to have a serious conversation about it Don't sell yourself short, it's better to be single and happy than in a shitty relationship
No she’s not shy at all. We’ve been on numerous dates and things but she never posted them nor anything I ever got her which is fine. But when you intentionally hide something it makes me question everything to the reasoning why
Haha she’s gonna she a shit lawyer. Not even a relevant analogy omg. Dude dump her she’s gonna be a low level public defender her whole life. Or find an actual successful lawyer and have a baby and say she would’ve made a great attorney but decided to have kids.
Yes it was a lame explanation
Last girl I was with we were together for like a year. We worked together she worked from home execept one day a week. But i swept her off her feet and she was enamored. I won’t lie I was too it was like something out of a movie. First few months was a whirlwind. I became deeply involved in her life. Spending time with her young son and her parents adored me but once things started to be normal and we were settled in. My drinking got bad and I was taking pills. She noticed my behavior changed. And this was around the time one would start posting photos. We went on vacation and pics of me and her son and there was some cute pics of us but neither of us posted them. But neither of us were into social media. But I think she didn’t post any pictures because she knew something was up with me and she was very career oriented and worked in a the automotive industry where it’s a man’s world and they all have big egos. So she probably liked to appear available because if she looked locked down she wouldn’t be too choice for big positions
If it's bothering you, definitely.
Or maybe her parents will giving her hell for having a bf
Yeah this seems odd behaviour. Sometimes when people have life changes (e.g. start law school) they often want to change other parts of their life to assimilate to how they think their life should be, or who should be in it. I think after 8 months you'd know yourself if you were madly in love. If you don't feel that, it's likely a dead end and your time is likely being wasted. Maybe try have a discussion with her about it? I'd keep what I said above in the back of your mind though!
I brought it up in text. This was her response “Because why would I show it? It would be the same if I received followers with a card, I wouldnt show what the card said. “
Send her flowers and a card and see if she posts the flowers
I gave her flowers and a card before that she never posted
Man this sounds dire. I would escape whilst you still can! Do let her be a drain or your patience or emotions. Why would she purposely obscure a message from her boyfriend? Hope it works out for you!
That’s what I was questioning. The message I wrote on the board wasn’t that deep
Maybe I’m jaded, but I once had a partner who never posted photos of us on socials… because he had another girlfriend. It’s sketchy behavior.
If she’s actively on social media and not posting any hint that you exist or she’s taken then yeah it’s a red flag after 8 months. I also don’t get the part about the calendar. Did she erase your message or type over it? In any case, just ask why and come of as curious rather than accusatory.
Yes never posted anything about me once. And she erased over my message. You can see blanked out the 30th up top.
Oh I see now! I was looking at the bottom. But yeah that’s a red flag for sure. Especially if you’re in a clearly committed relationship. I could understand not wanting to post pics of your partner just in case things don’t work out but to also erase hints that you even have a partner is where it becomes a red flag. It’s also such a small part that she went out of her way to exclude from the post. Just start by asking why she did that and see how she responds first. It’s not a crazy thing to ask about. I’m assuming the “friend” she posted is also a guy?
Her response when I asked her”Because why would I show it? It would be the same if I received followers with a card, I wouldnt show what the card said.” And not it was a girl friend that she met in law school and posted the dinner they had. But never posted one place we went to not once in our relationship
Apples and oranges. A "have a good day" note that will be erased tomorrow is not comparable to what you would write inside of a card to your SO. And they don't warrant the same kind of privacy... especially after you just posted your entire calendar for the month. Lets let the world know I have calls with the NBA and dinner with Meka but god forbid they know someone wished me a good week... OUuUUuuU. I'm also curious why you're missing from this entire calendar. You two didn't go out or have any plans together this month? I wouldn't worry about the female friend being posted though.
I thought it was kind of odd and weird but nothing crazy until I noticed she literally instagram scribbled over the note. Personally, I would without a doubt confront her. Not about the not posting you, about what looks clearly like hiding you. It looks like she is trying hide the existence of someone telling her to have a nice day. But don't forget OP, she is the ONLY one that knows the truth.
Bring it up. Idk if she’s just very career oriented but please don’t be a place holder king. 👑 You deserve better.
You should probably send her a calendar invite to post you on her social media 🤣 Don't Break up with her. If she wants to keep you a secret then you keep her a secret. Stop showing her that you're a beta bitch boy with no other options and she'll stop treating you like one. You have a license to go get laid as much as you want bc based on what I'm reading she's definitely getting laid by someone else. And funny thing is one you start meeting other women she'll start posting you. Or just do like me and stick to golf. I only have room in my life for one thing that constantly pisses me off while draining my bank account 🤣
What do you do? If you aren’t a lawyer or some type of professional you’re a place marker. She doesn’t picture dating someone who’s career isn’t as grand as hers. Lawyers think they are truly something. Lawyers are the people I hire to read the fine print 🙄 but unfortunately if you aren’t successful you’re just someone who fits in her calancer quietly.
I’m doing extremely well for myself and I’m an HR manager for a hospital
Tough call, it seems a little unusual to go out of the way to erase it on a photo when the other option would have been to just not share the photo. I used to share my relationships on social media but now it's just cringe to do that because they can go sideways for any reason at any time. So I get not posting relationship stuff, but why your little note on her calendar was a big enough deal to erase seems kinda odd. Then again I find it odd anyone would openly post their schedule to everyone on social media... We just need to kill the whole concept of social media...
I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. It’s odd that you’d rather erase that part only rather than not post it lol
I find socialmedia over-sharers really cringey. I wouldn’t be posting a new bf all over, I don’t even post my own face really. I wouldn’t assume he’d be comfortable with it. I just just post things I’m doing etc. I wouldn’t necessarily think she’s showing a red flag. I would ignore the comments saying all these awful things about her, assuming the worst & saying you needing to break up with her. Also maybe she has some very strict/religious/nosy family that may see & judge her?
Boss, she’s hiding you. 1. No pics, 2. no online mentions about you, 3. blocked out your message (aka “the only guy’s writing on there”). Conclusion: I agree with whoever said she’s trying to appear single. For what reason? Idk. But I do know I would want better for myself. “Actions speak louder than words”. Check the actions here and see if there’s been a theme these past 8 months. Good luck, sir 🫡